The Church Wants Your Sex Part 2 – ‘Your Lame Sex Life’

The Church Wants Your Sex Part 2 – ‘Your Lame Sex Life’ church sponsored site

Church sponsored site:

(Link: My Lame Sex [Life] site)

(Link: Lame Sex Lame Excuses (video on You Tube))

(Link: Lame Sex (entire video SERIES on You Tube))

The sex site and sex series is from CCF AZ (Cornerstone Christian Fellowship in Arizona).

So, to the guys and pastor at Cornerstone Christian Fellowship in AZ… what sermons or advice do you have for over -40- years- of- age, never married, or over age 30 singles, who haven’t had sex yet? Or do we not matter? (click the “read more” link to read the rest of the post)
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The Church Wants Your Sex – Video For Ed Young’s ‘Sexperiment’

1980s British pop singer George Michael isn’t the only one who wants your sex. Churches do, too.

(By the way, I find the whole ‘George Michael was a sex symbol for lots of women back in the 80s and singing a song telling hetero-sexual people to want sex thing’ oh so funny considering he later came out as a flaming homosexual who has sex with men he’s never met before in parks.)

You remember Ed Young’s “Sexperiment.” Sure you do! (Link: Ed Young’s Controversial ‘Sexperiment’ Book Debuts on NY Times Best Sellers List)

Now, there’s a…

(Link): Sexperiment Launch Kit (video)

In the cheese ball video, we’re told that “strengthening marriages will strengthen the church”

I see. So who cares about all the never-married, divorced, and widowed Christians in your church and strengthening them? Nobody, it would seem.
—Links to Previous Related Posts on This Blog—

I see you’ve never heard of Mark Driscoll

Pastor on TV: ‘Churches don’t talk about sex enough’ -is he kidding?

Never Married Christians Over Age 35 who are childless Are More Ignored Than Divorced or Infertile People or Single Parents

Part 2, The Parable of the Neglected Unmarried – Single – Christian

Topics: Friendship is Possible / Sexualization By Culture Of All Relationships

Bizarro Video By Bizarro Bearded Guy Giving Mostly Bad Advice to Christian Singles

Let’s hear it for insomnia! Here’s another 2:00 AM post.

Bizarro Video By Bizarro Bearded Guy Giving Mostly Bad Advice to Christian Singles

WTH is this?-

Video: (Link): Christian singles, beware of divorce and remarriage adultery

On the plus side, he did offer the standard advice that Christian singles need to look for more in a mate than lots of money or good looks, but that was one of the few sensible things he said in the video.

Granted, I’m not totally awake as I’m watching this video, but the guy in the video spends the first 2 minutes apparently saying if you’re a Christian but you marry a Non-Christian, you will go to Hell- from sheer fact of marrying an unbeliever.

This host guy in the video must be reading a different Bible from me, but then, I think this is the same kook that has the ‘evangelicaloutreach’ site that teaches the heresy known as “Conditional Security.”

He’s been on the web for years, sending out lots of e-mails and letters to preachers who teach OSAS (Once Saved Always Saved) telling them they are going to Hell, and anyone who believe in OSAS is going to Hell. It’s his hobby horse.

He says that having sex outside of marriage can “lead you on the road to Hell” or it will put you in Hell. I don’t see that teaching in the Bible. There is some line in the Bible about “adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God” etc, but I take it that it does not apply to those who accepted Christ.

If anything, and as I have written before on this blog, God seems to ignore or even bless Christians who have sex outside of marriage, not condemn them for it, which makes me wonder why God bothers to say he’s against fornication in the Bible.

Video Host Guy (aka Weird Beard Dude) says not to marry Christians who don’t believe correct doctrine – this includes Christians who believe in Eternal Security. Hmm. I have always believed in Eternal Security (or, more accurately OSAS, Once Saved Always Saved). (Video Host Guy believes in the false teaching of “Conditional Security.”)

This guy is a wacko, and has too many rules about whom to marry.
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The Annoying, Weird, Sexist Preoccupation by Christian Males with Female Looks and Sexuality

The Annoying, Weird, Sexist Preoccupation by Many Christian Males with Female Looks and Sexuality

(Abbreviation: “Chr” = Christian or Christianity – you can figure out which by the context)

I touched on this topic in (LINK): my last post.


I was watching Christian author Laurie Cole interviewed on a Chr. television show, and she mentioned how the Bible character Boaz, an unmarried man, must have noticed Ruth’s “godly character,” and that is what attracted him to her.

I rolled my eyes when I heard that remark by Cole’s. Cole may be right about that view, but it’s not the norm in most of contemporary American Christianity.

Sad to say, most Christian males are just as shallow, fixated upon, and judgmental about a female’s physical appearance as most secular males are.

This is why I laughed when Cole seemed to intimate during the interview, after she talked about Boaz being attracted to Ruth for Ruth’s “godly character,” that a young, unmarried Christian woman should rest assured that she can attract a Christian man to marriage who also has godly character.

From what I have seen on blogs, books, and forums, most Christian males, even the (I’m going to be blunt) physically ugly and fat ones over the age of 35 (the ones who post their photos, or who I have seen personally in singles classes at churches), all feel entitled to a stick-thin, 25- year- old- movie star Megan Fox clone.

Further, many Christian pastors and male bloggers coddle such men in this erroneous thinking and reassure such Chr. men that this entitlement mentality and fixation on female youth and beauty is biblical, acceptable, okay, and normal.

(See, for instance (Link): this post (discusses Pat Robertson and Driscoll), (Link): this post (Christians marketing beauty products to women) and (Link): this post (Christians send conflicting messages about physical appearance to women).)

I have seen a smattering of blog posts over the years by married Christian males who chastise Chr. men over this undue emphasis and desire for young and hot female wives, and stress that men need to be considering the woman’s character and commitment to God, not just looks. Good for them, I say, but this sort of admonishment is pretty rare.

My own personal view on looks: physical appearance does matter.

But looks matter to both genders (most women would prefer to date/marry a good looking man), looks don’t just matter to men only (more on that point in a future post), but physical appearance should not be one’s primary or only criteria in selecting dates or a marriage partner.


For a lot of Christian men, female looks remain top, or sole, criteria – and they are not corrected on this thinking from the pulpits or in Christian material.

If anything, most Christians encourage Christian males to keep thinking this way.

As a matter of fact, much Christian preaching and dating advice (usually by males, but on occasion, by Christian females who sell out their own gender) push Chr. women as young as 15 years of age, to diet and look pretty; they stress to Christian females that their value remains in what they look like – not in their brains, talents, or that God loves them.

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Author Laurie Cole: another ‘early marriage’ supporter

Author Laurie Cole: another ‘early marriage’ supporter

Sometimes this blog writes itself. There are times when I don’t go looking for content, it finds me.

After writing two blog posts today, I had no intention of writing another, but I caught the last few moments of an interview with Chr. (Christian) author Laurie Cole, who was a guest on the Chr. television show “Life Today.”

Cole has written a book telling young Chr ladies how they can be women of virtue, or some such.

Cole was saying how females as young as age 12 or 13 today are having sex, and unlike even 20 to 30 years ago, where a horn-dog teen-ager guy had to at least pretend to love the girl and lie to the girl and say, “Of course I love you, baby” to get into her pants, that today, a girl will fall into bed even if the guy doesn’t claim to love her, because these girls feel it’s what everyone is doing, so they might as well too.

Cole at one point got into a discussion about Ruth and Boaz, two characters mentioned in the book of Ruth in the Old Testament of the Bible.

Cole said Boaz was a godly man who saw something godly about Ruth’s character. She seems to think that teaching young girls this view will help them to steer clear of sex outside of marriage, or of being used sexually by males.


Cole’s comments about Boaz’s character and Ruth’s character reminds me – there’s content for another post right there…

Most male Chr.s who comment on Ruth and Boaz never mention Ruth’s “godly” character or her inner qualities. Male Chr bloggers or pastors always make observations such as, “Boaz must have noticed what a looker Ruth was!”

Some of the more skeezy male pastors all seem to get off on how Ruth later approaches Boaz at night and puts the edge of his cloak over her feet, or whatever… male pastors have this disgusting tendency to sexualize EVERY male-female interaction, and make it all sound tawdry. It’s very unsavory, and it makes me wonder about these male pastors.

(Side note within a side rant: not that I’m a prude or “anti-sex.” What annoys me is where male pastors see sex where there is none, or where they harp on a woman’s looks, and a woman’s appearance is not central to the biblical narrative being discussed.)

I don’t even think the Bible mentions Ruth’s physical appearance (or does it)? I’ve been meaning to write another post about this – the sexist, obnoxious tendency of male Chrs. to always obsess over or comment upon female Bible character physical looks.

You never hear male Christians comment on what the Bible men looked like, such as, “That King David must have been a handsome, muscular man.”

Nope, male pastors, authors, and bloggers reserve all the observations about Bible characters looks to females only.

These Christian males may want to examine their weird pre-occupation with female beauty and sexuality – such pre-occupation is not biblical, it’s sexist, crude, and it’s uncomfortable for women to have to listen to or read.

More on this topic in a future post.


At one stage of the interview, Cole said often that Chr. mothers and grandmas encourage their daughters to finish college first, get a career, then get married.

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Creepy: ‘Barna: [Christian] Women Value Family Over Faith’

Creepy: ‘Barna: [Christian] Women Value Family Over Faith’

Jesus Christ said:

    “Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me” (Matthew 10:37)

It looks like this teaching of Christ’s keeps falling on deaf ears, at least among Americans who profess to be Christians.

What happens when American Christian conservative culture and denominations place an unbiblical fixation on marriage and procreation? Something like this (among other fall out):

(LINK): Barna: Women Value Family Over Faith [study was released in August 2012]

    In the second of a four-part series studying Christian women, the Barna Group released survey results at the end of last week showing that, of women who have attended a regular church service in the last six months, more than half said their family was their highest priority in life. Sixteen percent said faith was most important, followed by health, career, and living a comfortable lifestyle.

    Sixty-two percent of women polled said their most important role in life was being a parent, followed by 13 percent who said their most important role was being a follower of Christ.

    …The study also found that 75 percent of Christian women were “heavily influenced” by the Bible, followed closely by the influence of their husbands (63 percent). Only 30 percent said they were influenced by the media.

    Read the full report (LINK): here [from the Christian Post]; author: Jeff Schapiro.

Excerpts from Christian Post:

    The study, titled “What Women Want,” is the second in a four-part series by the Barna Group on “Christian Women Today.” The study was conducted by surveying 603 adult Christian women throughout the U.S. who have attended a regular church service in the last six months.

    Over half (53 percent) of those surveyed said their family was their top priority in life, while only 16 percent said faith was most important. Another nine percent of Christian women said their top priority was their health, five percent said it was their career performance and another five percent said it was living a comfortable lifestyle.

    When Christian women were asked about what they felt was their most important role in life, the results were similar to their priorities. The majority (62 percent) said their most important role was being a parent, and only 13 percent said their most important role was being a follower of Christ.

    David Kinnaman, president of Barna Group, said in a statement that some might assume that the research means woman have made their families into “idols” and set them above their relationships with Jesus. Others might view it as a “false choice” women have to make between their families and their faith.

Those Times When You’re Glad to be a Celibate, Single Christian – 2 [Herpes Dating Site]

Those Times When You’re Glad to be a Celibate, Single Christian – Part 2


I did a google to see if one of my recent posts here had already been indexed by google (it has), and the link below turned up on the front page (and no, none of my posts have had anything to do about herpes – well, aside from the one where I pasted a quote by someone who had herpes asking an advice columnist for help, which I mentioned (Link): here).

Here’s the site that turned up on the first page of the results:

Herpes Dating Sites – Happy with Herpes
Here’s a list and review of some Herpes dating sites so you can find a partner … You have something in common (though it might be awkward telling people … In 2007, on a boring Thursday night, I received a wink on PositiveSingles, … I have decided after years of having herpes to stop hiding, and learn how to be honest.

Seriously, there’s a whole dating site for people with herpes? (Edit: and they’re “Happy” about it. All righty. Odd.)


(Link): ‘STD-Verified’ Dating App Is Startup Culture Via Nutshell: Frank, Unchecked, Inevitable  by J. Burns

Creepy, Creepy and Sexist Pat Robertson

In the future, I plan on doing a post where I will reference this one. For now, here is a collection of links about creepy and sexist things Robertson has said.

I made a post about Pat Roberton’s creepy behavior the other day (here: “Is Pat Robertson of The 700 Club Show some kind of secret perv? He’s Creepy”).

Links (click the “read more” link below to see the rest of the links, and some excerpts):

Awful-Looking Women to Blame For Marital Problems, Pat Robertson Feels

Pat Robertson ‘Shocked’ That Women Watch Porn, Enjoy Erotic Novels Like ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey’ (VIDEO)

Slatternly-looking wives ruining marriages, says Pat Robertson

Pat Robertson Talks Porn, Makes Everyone Uncomfortable [VIDEO]

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Is Pat Robertson of The 700 Club Show some kind of secret perv? He’s Creepy

So I was watching Pat Robertson hosting the TV show “The 700 Club” show interview a woman (last name Flores) who was caught in a sex traffic ring years ago.  (You can watch/ read her interview online (Link:) here.)

I was not not paying close attention to this interview until one point, where Robertson happened to begin grilling the woman (who wrote a book about her experience called “A Slave Across The Street”), about specific details about her ordeals as a teen-aged sex slave.

Robertson actually asked her questions such as, ‘did the men use objects to penetrate you?’, and he felt the need to mention specifics, such as, “so the men had you bound hand and foot on a bed, spread eagle, where they raped you and then slapped you…”-  etc.

Really, I don’t think it’s necessary to go into extreme details on a so-called Christian show that airs at 9 AM, 2 PM, 10 PM during the day, to give us an idea of the hellish nature of her situation.

One reason I found Robertson’s prurient interest creepy is that he did find it so interesting.

He seemed to be titillated or entertained by her sexual attacks. (Please click the “read more” link below to read the rest of this post)

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