Married To Person With Kid From Previous Marriage: Guy Says His Wife is Putting Her Son Before Their Marriage – On Not Wanting to Date Single Parents
This following letter to an advice columnist (which is linked to and excerpted much farther down this blog post) is interesting, because I guarantee you had the guy written to “Ask Amy” of the “Ask Amy” column with the same concern, Amy would not have been sympathetic to the guy.
Amy would’ve raked him over the coals for not oozing with love and compassion for the misbehaving stepchild.
Amy, as I’ve seen, always sides with the kids or the biological parent.
If you are a person married to someone who has a bratty kid who is driving you crazy (and even to the point of wanting to divorce!), Amy will shame you terribly over it.
Amy will scream and yell about you being selfish, and she will ask you to empathize with the misbehaving, rotten kid.
(That I can recall in all my years of reading her advice column, Amy has never shown empathy to the adult who is stressed and whose marriage is strained over a hard- to- handle step-child.)
This advice columnist, though, takes the opposite approach and blames the biological mother; he holds her accountable for the poor marital dynamics.