Woman Book Author – Andrea Tantaros – Suggests That Single Women Are Miserable And Can’t Get Husbands Because Feminism. My Critique of Her Article / Book

Woman Book Author – Andrea Tantaros –  Suggests That Single Women Are Miserable And Can’t Get Husbands Because Feminism. My Critique of Her Article / Book

(This post has been edited to add several new comments and a link or two)

Aug 2017 – (Link): Author Claims Andrea Tantaros’ Book About How Feminism ‘Made Women Miserable’ Was Ghostwritten by a Man

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If you are new to my blog: I am right wing, I don’t agree with most secular feminism, but I do think secular feminism is correct on a point here or there.

This article I link you to farther below is about a book a woman wrote (I believe she is right wing), and it reads like one of those “blame feminism” type works. The book is by Andrea Tantaros, and its title is “Tied Up in Knots: How Getting What We Wanted Made Women Miserable.”

I have not read the book; I have only read the author’s article about the book, which you see linked to farther down the page. I take it that her article is a sort of preview about what one can expect to see in the book.

This article argues that most women got what they wanted (via feminism), and they are miserable as a result: they are not getting men. Women want marriage and are not getting married. The women want to have great careers, but they also want a manly- man who will marry them and sometimes take care of them; they want a partner to share life with.

Christian Males Blaming their Unwanted Protracted Singleness on Feminism – They have the wrong target

Christian Males Blaming their Unwanted Protracted Singleness on Feminism – They have the wrong target
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EDIT. From another author, who is a Christian man:
(Link): Feminism, Singleness, And The Idol Of The Nuclear Family

I just now discovered the Spiritual Sounding Board blog made a post about a similar topic back in May of this year that you may want to read (as well as comments by the readers at the bottom of the page):
(Link): What is the Big Deal About Feminism and Christianity?

(Link): Trends in male employment may not bode well for marriage (article)
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Blaming feminism for protracted, unwanted singleness among males is an attitude that I’ve seen among “average Joe” Christians around the internet the last few years, on their blogs and in forums.

Certainly, conservative Christian groups and think tanks, such as “Focus on the Family,” are probably the most responsible for fostering these views among the unmarried, rank and file Christian males.

These conservative Christian groups blame feminism only, or first and foremost, for everything, for all change in society, or what they perceive as being negative change – for delayed age of first marriage; lower birth rates; women outperforming males in classrooms and on jobs, the rise of divorce, and on and on it goes.

I suppose a feminist was behind the grassy knoll, too. Oswald did not act alone.

If you need a reminder about me (most of this can be found on this blog’s “About” page), and I feel this is pertinent to state up front, because often, male, Christian, gender complementarians (traditional gender role advocates) wrongly assume from the get-go that a (quasi former) Christian woman such as myself, who does not agree with their traditional gender role perspective any longer, must be a bra-burning, Bible-hating, liberal feminist, when the truth is:

• -I am a social conservative
• -I am a Republican
• -I was a Christian since childhood
  (but have been slowly walking away from the faith the last year to two years)
• -I grew up with a Christian mother who defined herself as being a “traditional wife”
  (in today’s Christian lingo, my Mom was a “biblical gender complementarian”)
• – I was a “biblical literalist”
  (and still am, to what degree I still identify as Christian)
• -I tried my hardest to be a “biblical gender complementarian” myself
  … but the older I got, by my mid to late 30s, I saw that the Scripture does not support the view

What I am not, and what I do not believe:

• -I am not a secular feminist, nor do I agree with all their views
• -I do not hate men
• -I am not “anti” family or “anti” marriage

I have on occasion defended unmarried Christian males on this blog.

I think that often, many Christians adhere to offensive stereotypes of Christian men who are over 30 years of age but who have not married.

One common stereotype is that such men are homosexual. Another is that older single Christian males are pedophiles. That they are not as mature as their married counterparts.
Another is that they are not fully in God’s image, that they need to be married (and preferably with kids) to be considered wholly in God’s image. I have written a few blog posts criticizing some of those views.

I do not blame all men every where for the widespread problem of unwanted, protracted singleness among Christians these days.

I also don’t blame feminism. (So it makes me wonder why some of the Christian single men are so vehemently insistent that male singleness is the full responsibility of Christian women. Or of feminism.)

Notice to American Pastors Who Like to Criticize American Pop Culture

Notice to American Pastors Who Like to Criticize American Pop Culture

A quick note to American preachers:

You guys are always 10 to 20 years behind the popular culture times. (I’m amazed some of you even have web sites, really, or have even heard of Twitter, Facebook, and You Tube.)

Since you are hell-bent on ignoring Christians in your viewing audience or congregation who do not fit the “married with kids” demographic and actually addressing the needs of never-married adults over the age of 30, (or the divorced, widowers, or Christians with other problems that do not pertain to marriage or parenting), all so you can either sermonize repeatedly about

• marriage;
• parenting;
• wifely / female submission to men; (*barf!*)
• Bible prophecy and Israel;
• the supposed need to tithe;
• the evils of liberalism, homosexuality, Democrats, and abortion;

… and one of your other frequent, other favorite topics to rant about, the downfall and coarsening of American popular culture…

At least. At least. At least KEEP CURRENT WITH POP CULTURE. Please at least keep current with what it is you criticize.

Pastor John Hagee of San Antonio Cornerstone Church in Texas is particularly bad about this. I’ll use him as an example.