Why Is It So Difficult To Believe Single Men Can Have Paternal Instincts Too? by A. Mahdawi

Why Is It So Difficult To Believe Single Men Can Have Paternal Instincts Too? by A. Mahdawi

Single women get slammed with the reverse stereotype as what this author  describes about unmarried men in this editorial: we’re (single women) all expected to be really maternal, even if we find babies and children annoying and weird and prefer the company of adults only. 

I have other posts on my blog with articles about the negative stereotypes that culture and married people have about singles – and ones that pertain to single women.

For example, some restaurants with bars (Link): forbid single women from sitting at the bar, because the management insultingly assumes any woman sitting alone at the bar is a prostitute (I am not joking). See the links under “Related Posts” at the bottom of this page for more such unfortunate examples.

(Link): Why Is It So Difficult To Believe Single Men Can Have Paternal Instincts Too? by A. Mahdawi

Excerpts:

The widespread mockery and suspicion of Gaetz’s relationship with Nestor isn’t just due to the congressman’s personality, however; it reflects sexist assumptions about parenthood.

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Church Sues Zoom Over Being Zoom-Bombed By Porn During Church Zoom Services

Church Sues Zoom Over Being Zoom-Bombed By Porn During Church Zoom Services

Before I get to the links about the Zoom Church service being Zoom-bombed by porn, I’d like to say that not all Christians are pearl-clutchers about porn. (Some actually (Link): use porn themselves.)

Back when I was a very devout Christian, I did not look at porn myself, but neither was I terribly upset by it (nor do I use porn now).

I mean, yes, I think porn is degrading against people (especially women), so I do not approve of porn, but if I came across it then, I did not go into “pearl clutching mode” over it and get a case of the vapors and have to be revived by smelling salts.

And so, I really roll my eyes and despise the Non-Christians who think all Christians are easily upset by porn.

Those sorts of Non-Christians or snarky, progressive Christians (see Stephanie Drury or “Stuff Christian Culture Likes” -see link (Link): here or link (Link): here) think it’s really edgy, cool, funny, or witty to use dirty language, crack sex jokes, double entendres, or flash porn pictures at Christians, because they erroneously assume all Christians are naive little snowflakes who cannot cope outside of a G-rated, squeaky clean, goody two shoes bubble. They’d be wrong about that.

(Link): Zoom Sued by Church for Bible Class Hijacked by ‘Sick’ Porn

(Link): Bible class Zoombombed with ‘traumatizing’ porn, pedophilia, defecation videos: church

May 2020
by Nelson Oliveira

A California church has filed a class-action lawsuit against video-conferencing platform Zoom after a recent bible class was bombarded with a series of graphic videos depicting pornography, child abuse and even defecation.

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Prophet Who Raped Male and Female Members of His Own Church Jailed

Prophet Who Raped Male and Female Members of His Own Church Jailed

(Link): Self-styled prophet, 60, who raped female and male members of his church at least 88 times in ‘spiritual baths’ he said had been ordained by God is jailed for 34 years

Excerpts:

A ‘feared’ evangelical pastor who used his trusted position to abuse children and adults over 20 years has been jailed for 34 years after his conviction for multiple rapes of members of his congregation.

Self-styled prophet Michael Oluronbi, originally from Nigeria and living inBirmingham, was found guilty of the offences against six women and a man in January, actions described by a judge as ‘one of the worst cases of sexual abuse of multiple children to come before the courts’.

Some of his offences were carried out after he convinced victims, five of whom attended his church, to take part in ‘spiritual bathing’, which he claimed would ‘cleanse’ them of evil spirits.

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Married Couple Raped Their Own Kids During “Swinger” Sessions Where They Allowed Pedophiles To Rape Their Kids Too

Married Couple Raped Their Own Kids During “Swinger” Sessions Where They Allowed Pedophiles To Rape Their Kids Too

A lot of secular conservatives who run pro-marriage, pro-nuclear family groups, and a lot of conservative Christians, such as Al Mohler, often like to release editorials, blog posts, or podcasts arguing that people need to be married with children, because, they maintain, only marriage and parenting can save society, and both are supposedly necessary to make a person more godly, mature, responsible and ethical.

Such conservative groups disparage singleness and the state of being childless.

Now, I happen to be a conservative myself, but I realize that the Bible doesn’t teach that the Nuclear Family will save society, or that God frowns upon singleness (the Bible states quite the opposite in 1 Corinthians 7).

I’m not even opposed to marriage, the nuclear family, or to parenthood, but I am in total opposition of conservatives who have turned any of those things into idols (which most of them have done), and who also disparage singleness or adult singles (or the childless or childfree) in the process (which they do frequently).

Here is yet another example on my blog (I have (Link): many more elsewhere on this blog) demonstrating that being a married parent does not ensure character or morality in a person:

(Link): Evil paedo couple raped their own kids, 3 and 5, during horrific ‘swinger’ sex abuse sessions with predators

March 3, 2020
by April Roach

AN EVIL couple who drugged their own children and forced them to take part in ‘swinger’ sex abuse sessions with paedos have been handed a record jail sentence.

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Killer Dad Yanked Son’s Teeth Out With Pliers, Gave Him Coal For Christmas and Raped Him To Death With Stick

Killer Dad Yanked Son’s Teeth Out With Pliers, Gave Him Coal For Christmas and Raped Him To Death With Stick

Why I am posting a news article about a man who raped his own eight year old son to death with a stick (link is way below):

Conservative Christians today, including but not limited to Al Mohler, and secular conservative secular groups that promote marriage and the family – such as Bradford Wilcox’s “National Marriage Project” and “Institute for Family Studies” keep promoting a false view of marriage, parenthood, and the nuclear family: they all keep insisting that marriage, parenthood, and the Nuclear Family are all necessary to somehow improve culture, or to make people mature, godly, or responsible.

But I have many examples on this blog going back years of married people who are parents, who are in a nuclear family, who have been arrested for child porn, raping their own children, beating their wives, etc.

One can turn to the pages of the Bible and read about the families who sinned. King David was married with children, but he raped and indirectly had a man murdered. That’s but one example.

There is nothing, nothing, nothing about the Nuclear Family, marriage, or parenthood that makes people “better.”

The Bible may say marriage is permissible and children are a blessing, but it nowhere argues that everyone should get married and be in a nuclear family, or that God prescribes marriage and parenthood as a means of “fixing” or improving people or culture.

Here’s yet another example of how being married and a parent did not make a person more godly, loving, mature, or responsible:

(Link): Killer Dad Yanked Son’s Teeth Out With Pliers, Gave Him Coal For Christmas and Raped Him To Death With Stick

March 2020

by D. Cinone

A DAD accused of killing his son allegedly yanked the boy’s teeth out with pliers, gave him coal for Christmas and raped him to death with stick.

The boy’s parents – Mauricio Alejandro Torres, 50, and Cathy Torres, 48 – allegedly beat their son Maurice ‘Isaiah’ Torres with cables and shoes, a jury heard Monday.

Six-year-old Isaiah reportedly died of septic shock after being horrifically violated during a camping trip in March 2015 [the boy was raped by his father with a stick over eating a piece of cake].

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Pastor Cornelius Tilton Charged with Sexually Assaulting Student on Flight (Dec. 2019)

Pastor Cornelius Tilton Charged with Sexually Assaulting Student on Flight (Dec. 2019)

(Link): Pastor Cornelius Tilton Charged with Sexually Assaulting Student on Flight (Dec. 2019)

Excerpts:

The head of a Louisiana Bible college sexually assaulted a teen theological seminary student on a flight from Israel to New Jersey over the weekend, according to federal prosecutors.

Cornelius Tilton, 65 — who has been at the helm of the Irish Channel Christian Fellowship church since 1988 and serves as the general president of Christian Bible College of Louisiana — was seated next to a 19-year-old man on a flight from Tel Aviv to Newark Liberty International Airport, prosecutors said in a statement.

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British woman posed as teenage boy to sexually assault young girls in “truly shocking” case of deception

British woman posed as teenage boy to sexually assault young girls in “truly shocking” case of deception

(Link): British woman posed as teenage boy to sexually assault young girls in “truly shocking” case of deception

by Ewan Palmer
January 2020

A British woman who posed as a teenage boy online so she could groom and assault girls has been jailed.

Gemma Watts, 21, was described by police as a “deceitful woman” after she was sentenced to eight years in jail at Winchester Crown Court, South England, for admitting a string of sex offenses against girls as young as 13.

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Okla. Dad Molested and Killed Ex-Cheerleader Daughter, Then Claimed She Shot Herself by Accident

Okla. Dad Molested and Killed Ex-Cheerleader Daughter, Then Claimed She Shot Herself by Accident

Did being a father and being married make this man in this news story “more of a human,” as Southern Baptist (Link): Al Mohler would argue?

Did being a parent make this man more godly, mature, ethical or sexually moral, as so many conservative pro-family think tanks would want you to believe?

After seeing news stories like this one, do you really think God withholds spouses from people until they become more righteous, loving, or less sinful, as a lot of conservative Protestants and Baptists teach? I’d say “no.”

(Link): Okla. Dad Molested and Killed Ex-Cheerleader Daughter, Then Claimed She Shot Herself by Accident

On Wednesday, jurors in Oklahoma convicted a 45-year-old father in the 2017 death of his ex-cheerleader daughter, whom he’d initially claimed accidentally shot herself in the face.

A Cleveland County Court official tells PEOPLE the jury deliberated for nearly four hours before returning the guilty verdict against Ronald Lee McMullen Jr., of Norman, of the first-degree murder of 22-year-old Kailee McMullen.

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Convicted Child Sex Creep Joined Church to Befriend Young Girls by S. Jackson

Convicted Child Sex Creep Joined Church to Befriend Young Girls by S. Jackson

News stories such as this one are one reason why I’m not entirely enthusiastic to advise Christian single women to look at churches as a venue to meet men to date and marry – there are too many weirdos, perverts, and abusers who attend churches, and you might end up with one, if you use churches are a place to meet other singles.

(Link): Convicted Child Sex Creep Joined Church to Befriend Young Girls

by S. Jackson
Sept 17, 2019

The pervert was caught dancing with a seven-year-old girl

A convicted child sex offender who joined a local church group and befriended young girls has been jailed.

Gordon Sanderson was caught dancing with a child after he became involved with the Baptist Church in Musselburgh, East Lothian, Scotland, last year.

Sanderson picked the child up and swung her around while also encouraging the girl to wrap her legs around his waist and place her arms around his shoulders, the Daily Record reports.

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Christian Rock Star Arrested In Connection With Child Sex Assault Probe Before Going on Stage

Christian Rock Star Arrested In Connection With Child Sex Assault Probe Before Going on Stage

The article says that this Christian rock star has a son. So, this guy is a father. I would assume that the rock star was married at one point (unless he had his son out of wedlock).

I point this out to say that a lot of conservative Christians and conservative secular think tanks keep arguing that “family values” and being “pro marriage” and people having children will somehow “fix” the United States. No, it won’t.

First of all, no passage in the Bible argues that the way to “fix” culture is to have more marriage and more natalism – chapter seven in 1 Corinthians actually says it is better to remain single than it is to marry. The Bible says a person must be changed by accepting Jesus as her savior, not by getting married and having kids. The Bible doesn’t talk about cleaning up culture.

Secondly, personal observation. There are way too many married people with children we all know, or have read about who are selfish, rapists, child molesters, or into selling drugs and what all (see some examples of that on this blog (Link): here and (Link): here).

Marriage and parenthood are not guarantees of making a person more mature, ethical, godly, principled, and responsible – but conservatives keep arguing otherwise, and it’s a highly deceitful and unbiblical argument for them to continue to advance.

Please see the bottom of this post for more remarks by me.

(Link): Christian Rock Star Arrested In Connection With Child Sex Assault Probe Before Going on Stage

Excerpts:

By BRIAN NIEMIETZ
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS |
AUG 14, 2019 | 2:48 PM

A Christian rocker had to cancel his performance at eastern Minnesota’s Wood City Music Festival after Cloquet, Minn., cops arrested him on two charges of felony sex assault against a child, according to an ABC News affiliate in Duluth.

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Married Texas Southern Baptist Pastor Who Wanted Abortion Seekers Jailed for Getting Abortions Arrested for Sexually Abusing His Underaged Family Member

Married Texas Southern Baptist Pastor Who Wanted Abortion Seekers Jailed for Getting Abortions Arrested for Sexually Abusing His Underaged Family Member

Does marriage or parenthood make people more godly, mature, ethical, caring or responsible, as so many Christians and conservative think tanks espouse? Nope. It sure does not.

Marriage and being a parent didn’t do anything to make this pastor less of a slime ball.

(Link): Southern Baptist pastor in Harris County arrested for abuse of child

Excerpts:

by Nicole Hensley
June 15, 2019

A former pastor of a Southern Baptist church in north Harris County faces charges of molesting a teenage relative, sometimes multiple times a day, over the course of two years, court records show.

Stephen Bratton, who resigned from Grace Family Baptist Church in Cypress Station last month, was charged Friday with continuous sexual abuse of a child, Senior Deputy Thomas Gilliland said Saturday.

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Lawmakers Approve Bill Requiring Chemical Castration of Child Sex Offenders

Lawmakers Approve Bill Requiring Chemical Castration of Child Sex Offenders

(Link): Bill to castrate child molesters passes in Alabama

(Link): Alabama passes bill requiring chemical castration for certain child molesters 

An Alabama measure that would require certain child sex offenders to undergo chemical castration before being released from prison is awaiting the governor’s signature.

The bill, known as HB 379, was introduced by Republican state Rep. Steve Hurst and targets child sex offenders whose offenses involve anyone under 13, according to the legislation.

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Female Pedo Live-streamed Rape of Four Year Old Boy, Took Photos of Kids in Church Bathrooms

Female Pedo Live-streamed Rape of Four Year Old Boy, Took Photos of Kids in Church Bathrooms

(Link): Monster female paedo live-streamed herself raping terrified boy, 4, for her boyfriend and forced him into sick bondage sessions

A FEMALE paedophile live-streamed herself raping a four-year-old boy and forced him into sick bondage sessions.

Heather McDorman, 31, claimed she filmed herself carrying out the sick acts so her boyfriend Zachary Hamby, 28, could watch on his iPhone.

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Arizona Republican Busted for Paying $10 To Underaged Boys ‘At Least 10 Times’ For Sex

Arizona Republican Busted for Paying $10 To Underaged Boys ‘At Least 10 Times’ For Sex

(Link): Arizona Republican Busted for Paying $10 To Underaged Boys ‘At Least 10 Times’ For Sex

The Arizona House Ethics Committee on Friday released shocking documents from an investigation into former Republican Rep. David Stringer, who abruptly resigned on Wednesday.

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Abused Baby Boy Is Fitted With Artificial Anus ‘After His Parents Inflicted Horrific Injuries on the Six-Week-Old Child For Sexual Gratification’, German Prosecutors Claim

Abused Baby Boy Is Fitted With Artificial Anus ‘After His Parents Inflicted Horrific Injuries on the Six-Week-Old Child For Sexual Gratification’, German Prosecutors Claim

As you can see, there is nothing about Parenthood that makes a person more godly, loving or ethical, as so many conservative Christians I’ve seen have claimed in their blog posts, sermons, books and so on:

(Link): Abused Baby Boy Is Fitted With Artificial Anus ‘After His Parents Inflicted Horrific Injuries on the Six-Week-Old Child For Sexual Gratification’, German Prosecutors Claim

March 2019

A couple in Germany have been charged with child sex abuse after their baby son suffered injuries so severe surgeons had to fit him with an artificial anus.

The parents, named as Ismail S., 23, and Nina R., 26, allegedly abused the tot at their home in the city of Ludwigshafen in the western German state of Rhineland-Palatinate.

Nina R., a saleswoman, is accused of causing the severe injuries to the child when he was just six weeks old.

Chief prosecutor Hubert Stroeber said: ‘She wanted to get sexual satisfaction.’

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Children’s Pastor, Decorated Detective, Commits Suicide After Child Porn Found on Church Computer by L. Blair

Children’s Pastor, Decorated Detective, Commits Suicide After Child Porn Found on Church Computer, by L. Blair

Another example of why single Christian women should give up on the “equally yoked” rule concerning dating and marriage, and why, perhaps, churches are not a good place to find dates.

One of the articles below says that this guy was married – a lot of Christians teach that marriage is necessary to make people mature, godly, and ethical, but did being married make this guy who was caught with child porn any more godly and ethical? Nope.

Also, some “how to get married” type literature I used to read while growing up – stuff that was written by Christians – usually suggested that if you remain single past the age of 25 or 30, it’s because you are “lacking” in some way.

Such Christian authors would suggest that you’re too sinful or too messed up in some way, and God was trying to “clean you up” before “allowing” you to marry.

When you see news articles below, do you really think that rationale is true? If it’s true that God demands about 100% perfection and godliness before he will send someone a spouse, how is it that Christian pedophiles like the man in this article managed to marry, he had children, grandchildren, and he worked in a church?

Obviously, taking such news stories as the one below into account, God does not hold anyone to a certain standards before he “permits” them to marry or “sends” them a spouse.

(Link): Children’s Pastor, Decorated Detective, Commits Suicide After Child Porn Found on Church Computer

Excerpts:

A Florida police detective and children’s minister committed suicide after being investigated for having child pornography.

 

Detective Vernon Allan Richardson, a beloved (List): children’s minister and award-winning veteran officer with the Jacksonville Sheriff’s Office, known for his work in helping to locate missing children, killed himself Tuesday as authorities investigated him for possession of child pornography, some of which was found on his church computer.

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Faith-Healing Idaho Woman Claims Religion Forbid Her From Reporting Husband’s Sex Abuse of Kids by T. Gettys

Faith-Healing Idaho Woman Claims Religion Forbid Her From Reporting Husband’s Sex Abuse of Kids by T. Gettys

Many conservative Christians and conservative, secular think tanks keep arguing that the “nuclear family” and marriage are best for our culture, and that marriage (and parenthood) are supposedly necessary to make people godly, mature, and responsible, though the Bible itself teaches no such thing.

How do these Nuclear Family Idolizing and Marriage Idolizing Christians and secular conservatives reconcile their marriage and family propaganda with news stories such as this one, which clearly demonstrate that marriage does not build character in people:

(Link): Faith-Healing Idaho Woman Claims Religion Forbid Her From Reporting Husband’s Sex Abuse of Kids 

by Travis Gettys

An Idaho woman faces a possible prison term for failing to report her husband’s sex abuse and instead praying and trying to keep him too busy to molest children.

 Sarah Kester was charged with felony injury to a child, and her husband Lester Kester pleaded guilty in November to molesting five children over two decades, (Link): reported the Idaho Statesman.

The 48-year-old husband faces a possible life term when he is sentenced next week on five counts of lewd conduct with a child younger than 16 years old.

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Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

(Link): Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

March 2017

ABINGDON, Va. –A Galax man accused of killing a woman and her daughter will serve 60 years in federal prison on child pornography charges.

Richard Nofsinger, 37, previously pleaded guilty to three counts of producing child pornography. On Tuesday, in a United States District Court, Judge James P. Jones sentenced Nofsinger to 60 years in federal prison.

Nofsinger is also charged with first-degree murder in the deaths of Galax resident 28-year-old Alyssa Kenny and her 21-month-old daughter. He has not yet gone to trial on those charges, according to WDBJ.

The mother and daughter were found dead inside their home on Laurel Street in Galax on March 10. The town of Galax is located off Interstate 77, near the Virginia-North Carolina line.

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Porn is Causing Shocking Trend of Children Sexually Assaulting Other Kids, Medical Experts Warn

Porn is Causing Shocking Trend of Children Sexually Assaulting Other Kids, Medical Experts Warn

I wonder if that kooky pastor Bolz-Weber would still support so-called “ethically made porn” (see (Link): this blog post for more) in light of news stories such as this one…

(Link): Porn is Causing Shocking Trend of Children Sexually Assaulting Other Kids, Medical Experts Warn

By Stoyan Zaimov, Christian Post Reporter

Children’s exposure to pornography is leading to an alarming number of violent sexual assaults being perpetrated by kids against others their own age and younger, medical experts are warning.

“I think that was kind of shocking to us all as we were collecting this data, is that almost half of our perpetrators are minors,” said Heidi Olson, a sexual assault nurse examiner coordinator at Children’s Mercy Hospital in Kansas City, Missouri.

Dr. Jennifer Hansen, a pediatrician who works with victims of child abuse at Children’s Mercy, told news station KHSB last week: “Another thing we’re noticing is a lot of those sexual assaults are violent sexual assaults, so they include physical violence in addition to sexual violence.”

Alarmingly, SANE program’s data revealed that a number of perpetrators are between the ages of 11 and 15 years old.

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Singles Discrimination, Complementarianism, Equally Yoked Teaching, and Spotting Predators in Church Video

Singles Discrimination, Complementarianism, Equally Yoked Teaching, and Spotting Predators in Church Video

Someone in a Christian discussion group posted this video (and I don’t want to link to the group or mention it by name, though you may be able to figure out which one it is, especially if you are already familiar with it), and the Christians on the discussion board talked about it:

(Link): When A Predator Shows Up At Your Church — Here’s What You Do!

That same video has also been making the rounds on other Christian blogs, sites, forums, and on Twitter.

The video is around 18 minutes long. I watched it a few days ago.

The video features a Christian woman who says a 50-something guy showed up at her church, a man who set off red flags for her, due to his weird behavior around the kids who were there at the church, including her own.

The man behaved overly-familiar with her kid, other people’s kids who were there, and he ignored the parents of the kids.

(1) First, I’m going to discuss what I believe this video has to do with complementarianism.

(2) Then I am going to discuss some of the disturbing comments about adult singles that were made in the Christian discussion group where I saw this video posted to, and next,

(3) I’ll move on to discussing, as mentioned by a woman or two in the group, about the creepy behavior single adult women have to put up with, even at church, and what this has to do with the Christian “Equally Yoked” teaching.

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