US Couple Face Death Penalty in Uganda as They Are Hit with New Child Trafficking Charge

US Couple Face Death Penalty in Uganda as They Are Hit with New Child Trafficking Charge

If these accusations are true… always remember and never forget: contrary to what American conservatives go on about, marriage and parenthood do NOT make people more godly, mature, and ethical, nor do Nuclear Families rescue societies.

Based on what I’m seeing here, though, I don’t think this couple did anything to support receiving the death penalty. Maybe some fines or a bit of jail time, but the death penalty is extreme for these accusations.

(Link): Married U.S. aid workers face execution in Uganda for allegedly torturing their 10-year-old foster son

(Link): US couple face the death penalty in Uganda as they are hit with new child trafficking charge: Aid workers ‘tortured their HIV+ foster son, 10, by keeping him naked and feeding him only cold food’

Dec 21, 2022
by Neirin Gray

A US couple is facing the death penalty in Uganda after they were hit with an aggravated child trafficking charge – on top of a child torture charge they are already battling.

Nicholas Spencer and his wife Mackenzie Leigh Mathias Spencer, both 32, have been in custody in Uganda since December 9 after they were charged with the aggravated torture of a 10-year-old child.

The boy, who is HIV positive, was living under their care in a suburb of Kampala.

Police said that the couple would force the boy to spend the day barefoot and naked, would often make him squat in awkward positions – with his head facing the floor or his hands spread widely – and that he was only served cold meals from a fridge.

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Homosexual Couple Charged with Using Their Adopted Children to Make Child Porn

Homosexual Couple Charged with Using Their Adopted Children to Make Child Porn

I’ve noticed that in coverage of child rape, child porn, or other sorts of crimes and sins that the media are loathe to admit if the perps are homosexuals, transgender, or if they are married.

Liberals and progressives – many of whom comprise most of the field of journalism – will mention is a perp is a single (unmarried) or a hetero, however.

There was a similar news story from around 15 years ago, where a homosexual couple sexually molested their adopted son. People who knew about that abuse were reluctant to go to authorities for fear of being branded “homophobic.”

I acknowledge that not all homosexual persons are child molesters and rapists, so if you’re a homosexual person, you don’t need to leave me nasty comments screaming at me about this. But this is a problem – and many won’t call it out, because it would be politically incorrect.

(Link): Atlanta Couple Used Adoptive Children to Film Child Porn, Cops Allege

(Link):  Georgia couple arrested for allegedly producing child sexual abuse material (using their children, one of whom was adopted)

The two men each face charges of aggravated child molestation, sexual exploitation of children and enticing a child for indecent purposes

August 7, 2022

A couple in Oxford, Georgia, has been arrested after authorities allegedly discovered they produced homemade child sexual abuse material with at least one adopted child who lived with them.

… After interviewing the unidentified suspect, who admitted to collecting child porn, police allegedly learned of another individual in the county who was “producing homemade child sexual abuse material with at least one child who lived in the home,” the sheriff’s office wrote on Facebook.

Detectives collected evidence confirming that the second suspect engaged in sexually abusive acts against the children and documented the acts on video.

Police executed a search and arrest warrant that same night at a home in Oxford, and arrested Zachary Zulock and William Zulock, adoptive fathers of a pair of brothers.

(Link): Georgia couple charged with using their adopted children to make child porn

August 7, 2022
By Patrick Reilly

A Georgia couple [who are homosexual males] has been charged with using their two adopted children to record child pornography, police said.

Walton County Sheriff’s Office raided a home in Loganville July 27 on reports that a man there was downloading child porn.

After interviewing the suspect, who was not identified, police said they learned there was another suspect in the county who was “producing homemade child sexual abuse material with at least one child who lived in the home,” the sheriff’s office said Thursday.

Around 11:30 p.m. that same night, executed a search warrant in Oxford at the home of William Dale Zulock, 32, and Zachary Jacoby Zulock, 35.

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Evangelical Adoptions: Churches Are AWOL in Helping Parents of Special Needs Kids by Julia Duin – Churches Are Useless (and Not Just Re: Adoptive Families)

Evangelical Adoptions: Churches Are AWOL in Helping Parents of Special Needs Kids by Julia Duin – Churches Are Useless (and Not Just Re: Adoptive Families)

By Julia Duin, who has also written and has been interviewed about how churches have let down single adults over the age of 30, and who wrote a wonderful book called “Quitting Church.”

This article discusses how so many evangelical churches encouraged Christian couples to adopt babies (usually from foreign nations), but once those adopted babies grew up to have all sort of developmental or personality disorders, churches would not help these parents.

This is like so much of American, evangelical, Baptist and Protestant Christianity:
Sell a certain deed, or a type of life style (or whatever it may be – let’s call it “X,” whether it’s adopting a baby, or whatever it is) as being so “godly” and “pure,” but once you live X out, and X either does not work out, or it creates a whole new batch of problems, those same Christians, or ones like them who promote X, refuse to help you.

I went through something similar in regards to adult singlehood. I wrote about that (Link): here.

I followed all the Christian dating advice I was taught as a teen and 20- something, Christian advice that taught me if I wanted to get married I would, if I just followed “biblical” wisdom, and the Christian persons, books, and magazine articles spelled it out for me.

However, when I remained single into my mid-30s, in spite of having followed the Christian teaching I had been given by other Christians when younger, and when I began asking Christians online (on various blogs and discussion forums) who dish out this swill to singles, why I didn’t have the husband I had been promised according to their teaching, interpretations, and worldview, I was yelled at, judged, and criticized by these Christians.

I was told God didn’t owe me anything, etc, and how dare I expect God to “reward” me with a spouse just because I did Z, Q, and R (i.e., just because I had followed Christian teaching and advice on the topic).

Christians will do this to you – they will sell you and market you on doing X, and so you carry out X, but five, ten years later, X did not work out and maybe even left you with a set of problems you need help with, the same Christians that sold you X in the first place are now not willing to help you, and may even insult you when you go to them telling them that X did not work, and you could use their help.

You end up getting punished for taking the very life-style advice, for buying the marketing, these Christians sold you, guilt tripped you, or conned you into taking in the first place. 😤🤬😡😣😫

It’s demonic and perverse, I swear.

It is crazy-making and despicable how Christians set people up in these no-win or stressful or miserable situations, then fault those people when they try the Christian advice, and admit to defeat, stress, and they ask for help.

Christians set people up for failure with their stupid advice, then have the audacity to victim-blame those people (who earnestly took and followed the advice) for failing. 😡😤🤬

After having read through the testimonies of the parents on this page (see below, link with excerpts), it sounds like exhausting, hellish work to raise these adoptive children who turn out to have medical and behavioral problems.

I cannot, in good conscience, condemn any adult who realizes after so many months or years, they don’t have the mental or physical strength to keep parenting such children and so decide to return these children back to the adoption agency.

I appreciate the work Dee of Wartburg Watch has done against abuse, but I recall years ago, she ripped into famous Christian speaker Beth Moore, because Moore returned one of her adoptive children back to his mother.

I wrote about that situation (Link): here, towards the end of the post, under the sub-heading “Beth Moore / Judgementalism.” (You can scroll down that page to find the Beth Moore section, which is buried under a long discussion about YEC.)

It’s very easy to sit in judgment of someone else when or if your life is more or less going okay at the time and the person you’re criticizing has a life that is falling apart, or they’re in the middle of a calamity, or you may have a different temperament or inner strength the person you’re criticizing lacks.

I personally do not think I’d have the fortitude, endurance, or patience to put up with an adoptive kid who acts out constantly, even into their late teens. I’d want a break from that, too.

I have way, way more comments below this long excerpt, so please keep scrolling to read everything; thank you:

(Link): Evangelical adoptions: Churches are AWOL in helping parents of special needs kids

Excerpts:

by Julia Duin
June 2022

For years, evangelical Christians were enthusiastic supporters of adoption by sponsoring conferences, targeting adoption-friendly Sundays and staging adoption fairs in parish halls.

… Parents now say that the churches that encouraged them to adopt in the first place aren’t there for them now.

…Few statistics exist on the number of adoptions gone wrong, other than a 10-year-old study by the US Department of Health and Human Services reporting “adoption disruptions” ranging from 10-25 percent. This little-known statistic points to a meltdown in the industry and a sign that adoption and foster care have become a landmine for many families who believed God had called them to help these children.

No one told them there could be an aftermath. Here are some of their stories.

[I will not be pasting in ALL stories. These are just a few from the page]

Evangelicals adopted at a higher rate than others
“Joy” was a social worker in Tacoma, Washington, who adopted a 9-year-old boy in 2000, hoping for the best. She had 32 years of experience working for the state and a Christian agency where she’d helped more than 600 people adopt foster children.

The divorced mother of two was prepared for challenging behavior, including attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and developmental delays and PTSD from the child’s six years with mentally ill biological parents.
What stunned her was that by age 15, her son was a registered sex offender. Bad relationships, drug abuse and a child out of wedlock followed. Now 30, he cannot hold down a job.

Continue reading “Evangelical Adoptions: Churches Are AWOL in Helping Parents of Special Needs Kids by Julia Duin – Churches Are Useless (and Not Just Re: Adoptive Families)”

Married Father of Six, Preacher Matthew Tague, Arrested for Forcibly Molesting a Minor – Christians, Dump the Equally Yoked Teaching

Married Father of Six, Preacher Matthew Tague, Arrested for Forcibly Molesting a Minor – Christians, Dump the Equally Yoked Teaching

So. Christians keep arguing that single adult Christians should only marry other Christians (equally yoked rule).

Next, we have falsehoods in Christianity that single, childless adults are not as godly or mature as married parents. Marriage and parenthood are necessary ingredients to make a person godly, mature, or loving, most Christians teach.

But I have a non-stop parade of married parents who are FREAKS and DEVIANTS listed on this site, who’ve been charged with, or found guilty of things ranging from soliciting prostitutes, to raping kids, to having sex with dogs.

Also, God does not require that a person clean herself up, become perfect, get more ethical or mature, or more pretty, or more ‘whatever’ before God will send that person a spouse.

If God is allowing deviants like alleged child rapist Tague get a wife, there is no reason in holy hell God would not be permitting some Average Smoe, who is living an Average Life (one that does not involve raping kids), to have a spouse, too.

Please, Christians, explain to me how a CHILD RAPIST somehow ‘merits’ a spouse more than someone like me, who doesn’t rape kids! I’d love to hear that explanation. (I may have my flaws, some shortcomings, but raping kids is not one of them!!, holy smokes.)

Don’t tell me that marriage or parenthood makes a person more loving and godly, when I am forever seeing these type of sick, disgusting news stories:

(Link):  Married Pastor Arrested for Child Molestation; Church Asks for Prayers for ‘Justice and Restorative Healing’

(Link):  Carlsbad Pastor Suspected of Molesting Child for a Year

(Link): California pastor accused of forcibly molesting a minor

A California pastor was arrested Wednesday after being accused of forcibly molesting a minor.

San Diego Sheriff’s Department Child Abuse Unit detectives arrested Matthew Tague, 43,  for multiple counts of lewd and lascivious acts with one victim under the age of 14. Two of the counts are forcible, according to Gospel Herald.

San Diego County Sheriff’s Office Lt. Karen Stubkjaer did not disclose the child’s age or gender.

…Tague has been married for 20 years and has six children, three by birth and three adopted.

(Link):  Carlsbad Pastor Accused of Child Molestation Pleads Not Guilty – NBC News

Matthew Tague, a pastor at the North Coast Calvary Chapel, was arrested for 16 counts of lewd and lascivious acts with one minor victim

A pastor at a Carlsbad church accused of repeatedly molesting a child over the course of about a year pleaded not guilty in court Friday.

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Single, 54, and a New Dad: Why Some Start Families Late by A. Ellin

Single, 54, and a New Dad: Why Some Start Families Late

(Link):  Single, 54, and a New Dad: Why Some Start Families Late by A. Ellin

Excerpts:

August 5, 2016

SPARKY CAMPANELLA never heard the thrumming of a biological clock. But his “sociological clock” — his sense that he was missing out on something important in life — boomed mightily. At the age of 54, he decided to do something about it. He became a father.

He was single, but so what? “I decided I could either do it myself, or wait for the right partner to come along,” said Mr. Campanella, a Los Angeles fine arts photographer whose son, Rhys, is a little over 1 year old. Over the years he had dated women who had children of their own, but he realized that he didn’t want to be a stepdad.

….It’s a question many childless people over 50 are asking themselves. Of course, dealing with night feedings and rambunctious 2-year-olds are not for the faint of heart. But with their finances in order and their careers in place, with their life spans extended, some older people are concluding: Why not start — or continue — raising children in later life?

Continue reading “Single, 54, and a New Dad: Why Some Start Families Late by A. Ellin”

Creepy Editorial from Christian Gender Complementarian CBMW Site Asks “How Many Children Should You Have”

Creepy Editorial from Christian Gender Complementarian CBMW Site Asks “How Many Children Should You Have”

Before I get to the editorial from CBMW, I have a preface.

If you are a man, especially one who considers himself a Christian, you need to understand that the sexist drivel that comes from complementarian Christians -such as CBMW (Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood)- impacts you too, and not always in your favor, because some complementarians equate “true manhood” to being “man who is married with children.”

Christian gender complementarians will tell you that you, a man, are a disgrace to God and to humanity and you are not carrying out your cultural duties, unless you marry and have children.

Not even that, but if you are not living out married life the WAY in which these people teach, they will deem you a “man fail.” (Yes, that really happened, a prominent gender complementarian referred to certain types of married men as being “man fails.” Several blogs and news sites discussed it, like this one.)

Yes, you read correctly. Married men who stay at home to raise the baby while mom holds the 9 to 5 job are deemed “man fails” by some Christian gender complementarians.

You cannot just be married with a child in gender comp land, but you have to also fulfill certain other criteria to be counted, to be deemed acceptable.

Not only do groups such as CBMW promote sexist ideas about women, but they harm men in the process.

I was looking through Twitter today, and came across this, hosted on Christian gender complementarian site CBMW:

(Link): Go Forth and Multiply: How Many Children Should I Have? (CBMW)

Why is the woman who wrote this assuming that she should have children at all?

I want to know why is “having Zero children” not an option in her worldview, or that of CBMW and other complementarians?

Here are some excerpts from the page:

(Link): Go Forth and Multiply: How Many Children Should I Have? (CBMW)

By Amanda Peacock
Tuesday, April 28, 2015

In the beginning God said, “Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth…” (Gen. 1: 28). The blessing of children was given in the context of Eden where God walked with Adam and Eve in uncorrupted communion.

… These words have recently given me pause for thought as my husband and I consider adopting. You see, the research and red tape that has delayed the process, and the departure of our two children to university, seems only to have increased my desire to adopt.I look around our church; I love what I see—large families, children being raised in the fear and instruction of the Lord.

…So just how many children should a woman have?

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States start to crack down on parents ‘re-homing’ their adopted kids

States start to crack down on parents ‘re-homing’ their adopted kids

But conservative Christians say that the mere act or state of being a parent makes a person more loving, giving, mature, and godly!

We child-free / childless adults are supposedly, as the conservative thinking goes (I am a conservative myself but realize that some conservatives are horribly wrong on some issues), such reckless, irresponsible, self centered jerks. I guess not.

Here’s another example which goes to show that being a parent does not make a person more godly, giving, or mature:

(Link):  States start to crack down on parents ‘re-homing’ their adopted kids

  • Among pet owners, “re-homing” an unwanted dog or cat is a relatively straightforward process. The owner who seeks an alternative home often places an ad on the Internet, and a private transaction occurs that moves the pet to a new family.
  • But with the rise of foreign adoptions of children and the inability of some parents to handle troubled youths, more and more desperate families are taking that approach with adopted youngsters and re-homing the children with strangers. Often those re-homed children report gruesome tales of physical, sexual or emotional abuse by their new guardians.
  • The process of re-homing has been largely unregulated—no federal laws prohibit the exchange of unwanted adopted kids. Most states allow private adoptions, but the processes vary widely and oversight is limited. In most cases, re-homing may be executed by a simple power-of-attorney letter or a notarized statement without government authorities or even any lawyers vetting the new parents.Family lawyers are taking note. Re-homing “has only fairly recently come to public attention,” says Tucson, Arizona, child welfare and custody lawyer Ann Haralambie. “Re-homing is not regulated; there’s no legal framework to address it. It’s mostly an underground affair.”

    By contrast, if adoption through a legal agency fails before it’s legally final, the child can be returned to the agency in what’s referred to as “disrupted adoption,” according to McGeorge School of Law professor John Myers, author of Experiencing Family Law. The national rate of disruption is 10 to 20 percent. Since re-homing is done privately, there are no statistics monitoring the number of failed adoptions.

  • “Kids shouldn’t be in want ads like: ‘Our dog just had puppies. Want one for free?’ ” adds Haralambie, a former chair of the ABA Family Law Section’s Juvenile Law and Needs of Children Committee. “That’s precisely where people like the mentally ill and pedophiles go to get children. At best, it’s abandonment, and at worst, it’s human trafficking.”
  • Many parents of adopted children are desperate. Serious problems erupt when agencies don’t screen potential adoptive parents or the child’s special needs aren’t disclosed. Often, those needs result from neglect or mistreatment by birth parents or at overloaded orphanages.

    Both domestically and internationally there’s woefully slim pre-adoption training and post-adoption support. As a result, some kids may end up destroying property, becoming violent and resisting nurturing by their new parents.

Church to Members: We Honor Only Mothers With Biological, Not Adopted, Children (via Ask Amy)

Church to Members: We Honor Only Mothers With Biological, Not Adopted, Children (via advice column)

I don’t know what’s more frightening and sad, that Christians marginalize singles and the childless and childfree or exclude mothers of adopted children, or the Non-Christians (and some Christians too) who DENY these things even happen, or they express shock that it might.

I saw some people leaving comments at an Ask Amy page expressing doubt that a church would or could be so callous towards certain types of mothers.

I have no reason to doubt it. I would actually be surprised if this sort of thing did not happen. Evangelical, Baptist, and other churches/denominations, regularly ignore singles and childfree people, or mothers who don’t fit their particular criteria of what it means to them to be a good or “godly” mother.

If they’re not ignoring these groups, they outright insult them or imply they are selfish or weird, or lacking in some other way.

Here’s the letter to “Ask Amy” (link):

Dear Amy:

    • In the course of the worship service at our church on Mother’s Day, particular recognition was given to some distinct mothers — the oldest present, a single with the most youngsters, a single with most kids present, and so on.

But this recognition was specified biological mothers only, so this excluded a number of in the congregation who had mothered adopted children.

I’d like your comment on this restriction.
— A Bio and Adoptive Mother

Dear Mother: I’m appalled.

I do not doubt the veracity of this story for a moment. Some churches or denominations can and often are that insensitive.

At least Amy was appalled by this.

In regards to other letters, Amy was catty about women who are over the age of 40 (link to that). Amy also thinks guys over 50 who befriend 22 year old college students are closet pedophiles (link to that).

Churches should stop holding Mother’s Day celebrations.

There is no place in Scripture that instructs churches to hold church-wide services in dedication to mothers or fathers. None.

It’s a secular holiday carried over into churches, and churches should be spending more time preaching about Jesus, and less about the so-called nobility of motherhood.


Related posts:

(Link): Mother Entitlement – Selfish, Self-Centered Mothers Complain that They Are Not Getting ENOUGH Mother Worship from Culture, Church, or Family on Mother’s Day and Some Moms Complain About Churches Showing Compassion to Childless Women

(Link): Evangelical Adoptions: Churches Are AWOL in Helping Parents of Special Needs Kids by Julia Duin – Churches Are Useless (and Not Just Re: Adoptive Families)

(Link): Mother’s Day Ain’t A Happy Holiday For Some

(Link): Being Childfree, Childless, Infertile, or Dealing With the Death of a Mother on Mother’s Day, Or Dealing With An Abusive or Insensitive Mother, Mothers Who Lost Adult or Young Children to Murder, Abortion, Miscarriages, or Sickness (links)

(Link): Otherhood – An overlooked demographic – the Childless and Childfree Women and Singles Especially Women Who Had Hoped to Marry and Have Kids But Never Met Mr. Right (links)

(Link): Motherhood is Not a Woman’s Highest or Only Calling

(Link): Mother’s Day Ain’t A Happy Holiday For Some

(Link): Astonishing: Evangelical Baptist Marriage Idolater David E. Prince Wants to Know Why Evangelical Baptists Are Not Worshipping Marriage More

(Link): Mom Charged With Prostituting Her Three Teen Daughters – Motherhood does not make women more godly or mature

(Link): Preacher John Hagee’s Insensitive “GET OVER IT” Sermon – Christians remain ignorant and insensitive to those who suffer tragedy, pain, or mental health problems

(Link): Greedy, Entitled Mother Expects Her Childless Friend to Buy Daughter Computer, DVD Player, or Digital Tablet

(Link): Parenthood Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

(Link): Lies The Church Tells Single Women (by Sue Bohlin) (Re: About Marriage, Being Single, Being Childless / Childfree Vs Being a Mother)

(Link): Do You Rate Your Family Too High? (Christians Who Idolize the Family / Marriage) (article)

(Link): Happy Mother’s Day From the Moms on Whisper Who Hate Their Kids

(Link): Un Happy Mother’s Day – universal church continues to worship parenthood, family

(Link): Sorry, but being a mother is not the most important job in the world by Catherine Deveny

(Link): Hypocrisy in Christian Culture – Those who idolize parenting chide infertiles for trying to have kids

(Link): Do Married Couples Slight Their Family Members as Well as Their Friends? / “Greedy Marriages” (Studies show that Married Couples (and ones with kids) are more selfish and self absorbed than Childless or Un-Married People)

(Link): The Netherworld of Singleness for Some Singles – You Want Marriage But Don’t Want to Be Disrespected or Ignored for Being Single While You’re Single

(Link): Singles Shaming at The Vintage church in Raleigh – Singlehood Shaming / Celibate Shaming (this is also by extension Child Free / Childless Shaming)

(Link): Is The Church Failing Childless Women? by Diane Paddison

(Link): Why all the articles about being Child Free? On Being Childfree or Childless – as a Conservative / Right Wing / Christian

(Link): Never Married Christians Over Age 35 who are childless Are More Ignored Than Divorced or Infertile People or Single Parents

(Link): Cultural Discrimination Against Childless and Childfree Women – and link to an editorial by a Childless Woman

(Link): Don’t Judge Me, I’m Childless (from Today’s Christian Woman)

(Link): Christian Patriarchy Group: God Demands You Marry and Have Babies to Defeat Paganism and Satan. Singles and the Childless Worthless (in this worldview).

(Link): 26, Unmarried, and Childless – by A. Mast

(Link): Are Older Men’s Sperm Really Any Worse? (study) Also: article author assumes men single and/or childless until their late 30s and older are probably autistic, retarded, or drooling simpletons

(Link): Southern Baptist’s New Sexist “Biblical Woman” Site – Attitudes in Total Face Palm of a Site One Reason Among Many This Unmarried and Childless Woman Is Saying Toodle-Oo to Christianity

(Link): Condescending Remarks About Single and Childless Women on Christian Gender Complementarian Site: ‘Motherhood or Singleness: Which Is More Sanctifying?’

(Link): The Isolating Power of Family-Centered Language (How churches exclude singles and the childless) by E A Dause

(Link): Cultural Discrimination Against Childless and Childfree Women – and link to an editorial by a Childless Woman

(Link): Why all the articles about being Child Free? On Being Childfree or Childless – as a Conservative / Right Wing / Christian

(Link): Widows and Childless and Childfree Have Better Well Being Than Married Couples and Parents says new study

(Link): The Irrelevancy To Single or Childless or Childfree Christian Women of Biblical Gender Complementarian Roles / Biblical Womanhood Teachings

(Link): Totally Obnoxious Parent: Childless Couple Who Donates to Childrens Charities Lambasted by Snotty Adult Sister for Not Showering Her Kids with Christmas Presents – Parents Who Discriminate Against the Childless or Childfree

(Link): Prejudiced Writer Stupidly Blames Slutty Halloween Costumes and Societal Ills on Childless the Childfree, and Unmarried Adults – but Married people and parents are not perfect either

(Link): The Fruitful Callings of the Childless By Choice (editorial)

(Link): Bearden: Staying childless right decision for many women

(Link): In terms of childlessness, US ranks near the top worldwide

Married Couple Pays Surrogate to Have Baby, They Keep The Healthy Daughter But Refuse the Down Syndrome One – Also: Cops: the Dad is a Convicted Pedo

Married Couple Pays Surrogate to Have Baby, They Keep The Healthy Daughter But Refuse the Down Syndrome One – Also: Cops: the Dad is a Convicted Pedo

And many conservative Christians routinely say or assume that marriage makes a person godly, mature, more loving, and immune from sexual sin, and that you have to be perfect and godly to even merit a spouse to start with (God doesn’t send imperfect people spouses, they say).

Hmm. Then how would Christians explain this selfish married couple who
1. won’t accept the Down’s Syndrome twin from the surrogate
and
2. the father is a convicted kid-diddler (pedophile)?

How is it that God rewards child molesters with spouses, but not law abiding, non-perverted singles?

(Link): Australian father accused of abandoning baby boy born to Thai surrogate mother because he had Down Syndrome ‘was jailed for sexual assault on a child under 13’

(Link): Australia investigates ‘paedophile’ father in Thai baby scandal

Texas Stepmother and Biological Father Starves Son to Death

Texas Stepmother and Biological Father Starves Son to Death

I know that evangelicals and other sorts of Christians often hold on to this perception that parenthood (and marriage) instantly makes a person more giving, mature, loving, ethical, and so on, but I’m not exactly clear if that stereotype carries over to STEP-parenting.

I’m not sure if their fallacious, idiotic, untrue stereotype applies only to biological parenting, or if they also feel that a woman who adopts a baby or who is step-parent to one also is bestowed the “she must be more godly and mature than a childless or childfree woman” perspective.

In the off chance there are any evangelicals out there who think any and all forms of motherhood automatically makes a woman more giving, loving, and moral, here’s an example that says “Nope” to that (Edit. After having read over more about this news story, it turns out the the boy’s biological father also played a role in starving him to death):

(By the way, even though I find babies and kids pretty irritating and don’t like being around them most of the time, and most Christians – and some Non Christians – would slam me for not having kids (never mind I was waiting for a husband to have kids with, I don’t believe in single parenting intentionally, like the Hollywood starlets who choose to get knocked up outside of matrimony), but – I would never intentionally harm a kid. If I do get married, and my spouse has a kid from a previous marriage, I would NOT abuse or neglect the kid.

It’s odd to me how society thinks motherhood instantly makes a woman more of an admirable, or a more trustworthy, figure, when we see from news stories like this one that children might actually be SAFER with childless or childfree women!

I would probably be a hyper-responsible parent if I ever did have a kid of my own, or was step parent to one (I said responsible, NOT helicopter. Helicopter parenting creates all sorts of problems for a kid). I sure as heck would NOT starve a kid to death, whether he was my own biological kid, a step kid, a neighbor’s kid, or whomever’s kid.

Some of these news sites have published a photo of the little boy who died from starvation – he looked like a very nice little boy.

(Link): Stepmother found guilty of starving 10-year-old son who weighed just 60 lbs and dumping his emaciated body in the woods

(Link): Dallas stepmom found guilty in starvation death of boy, 10

    A Dallas woman was found guilty Tuesday of locking her 10-year-old stepson in a bedroom for months and starving him in 2011.

    Elizabeth Ramsey, 33, faces up to life in prison for the death of Johnathan Ramsey, whose bones were found stuffed into a sleeping bag in an Ellis County creek bed in April 2012. He died the previous August.

    …Johnathan’s father, Aaron Ramsey, was sentenced last year to life in prison for causing serious bodily injury to a child by starving his son.

    Prosecutors said the Ramseys were both responsible for keeping Johnathan locked away and feeding him only military rations for several months.

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Pope Francis Is Wrong About My Child-Free Life by Amanda Marcotte

Pope Francis Is Wrong About My Child-Free Life by Amanda Marcotte

(Link): Pope Francis Is Wrong About My Child-Free Life by Amanda Marcotte


    The pope may pooh-pooh the decision to remain childless, but the world needs more people who choose pets over kids.

    Pope Francis came into office on a wave of hope that finally the world would have a progressive pope instead of the string of throwbacks with retrograde ideas who had come before.

    He’s since then been busy dashing those hopes, one speech at a time, demonstrating that he has zero intention of actually bothering to learn about people’s real lives and needs before telling them how to live their lives. Now he’s moved on to picking on childless couples, with a little extra shade thrown at pet ownership. Oh goody, just in time for Adopt-A-Cat Month.

    Speaking from his home in the Vatican on Monday, (Link): Pope Francis warmed up by shaming people for enjoying their lives. “This culture of well-being from 10 years ago convinced us: It’s better not to have children! It’s better! You can go explore the world, go on holiday, you can have a villa in the countryside, you can be care-free.”

    Then he dragged Fido into, griping, “Maybe it is better, more convenient, to have a little dog, two cats; and the love goes to the two cats and the little dog.”

    Then came the warning of the miseries that await you foolish vacation-having cat owners if you don’t get with the “fruitful” marriage: “Then, in the end this marriage comes to old age in solitude, with the bitterness of loneliness.”

    Ah yes, the threat wielded against the deliberately childless since time immemorial: Conform or you will regret it!

    My first instinct, as a deliberately childless person myself, upon reading Pope Francis’s remarks was to think, “If you think having children is so important, then why don’t you go first?”

    But while sarcasm is a satisfying hobby, it’s perhaps better to look to empirical science to answer the question of whether or not it’s actually true that childless people will be punished with loveless marriages and age into loneliness.

    Luckily, there’s been a lot of research into both those questions. In fact, the question of whether or not having kids makes marriages happier or not is one that has been (Link): looked at again and again, to the point where you start to wonder if they’re trying to get a different result this time. The answer keeps coming back the same: Childless couples have happier marriages, on average.

    Or, to be more specific, studies that measure the day-to-day satisfaction of parents shows that satisfaction with your marriage starts to decline rapidly when you have your first baby, goes up and down with the stresses of child-rearing (with a particular low point around adolescence), but it stays relatively low, only rising again after the kids move out of the house.

    The daily grind of child-rearing and the stress of sharing responsibility seem to be a big part of it. That may (Link): explain why mothers are less happy than fathers. After all, (Link): they spend more of their time with the children.

    Society would benefit strongly if more people felt that childlessness was a legitimate life option.

    Nor is it true that childless people are doomed, as the pope warned, to be lonely and sad in their old age.

    A (Link): 2003 study that looked specifically at this question found that having children was no guarantee against loneliness in old age. After surveying nearly 4,000 people ages 50 to 84, researchers found no difference in the loneliness rates of people with children and people without children. Common sense should suggest the same.

    Relying on a phone call a week from your kids is hardly a panacea for loneliness. Non-lonely seniors are usually the ones with plenty of friends, and being able to make friends isn’t dependent on your status as a parent or not.

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New York Lawmaker Wants Mandatory Parenting Workshops – This Poses Problems for Christian Propaganda About Parenthood

New York Lawmaker Wants Mandatory Parenting Workshops – This Poses Problems for Christian Propaganda About Parenthood

That there is some lawmaker demanding that parents take parenting classes speaks to the Christian propaganda that popping out a child automatically confers maturity, wisdom, and godliness on to a person.

(See also this thread for examples of parents who beat, neglect, or rape their own children: (Link): Parenthood Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread))

Some people are terrible parents. Other adults notice this.

Here you have a lawmaker insisting that people should be forced to take parenting classes because he knows some people do not automatically become great people and responsible for engaging in the biological procedure of reproducing.

Obviously, having the biological equipment to make a baby and popping a baby out does not automatically ensure that a person will be godly, ethical, or responsible.

(I should also do a Part 2, news stories of judges who seek to have women sterilized – the drug addicted women who keep popping babies out like rabbits and then neglecting them.)

(Link): CONFER: NY bill would mandate parenting classes

(Link): NY lawmaker: Parents should take parenting classes NEW YORK (MYFOXNY) –

    New York state Sen. Ruben Diaz Jr. introduced a bill that would require parents of elementary school children to attend a minimum of four parent support classes. If parents don’t go, 6th graders won’t move onto 7th grade.

    Leslie Venokur, the co-founder of Big City Moms, called the idea “crazy” and “insane.” She said that what is most concerning that the education commissioner and Board of Regents would develop the parenting guidelines. She said the Regents should “stick to what they’re good at which is teaching kids and staying away from the parents.”

    The bill states one of the courses would be related to physical, emotional, and sexual abuse of children.

    Employers would be required to provide one day a year of paid leave so working parents can attend classes.

(Link): N.Y. LAWMAKER WANTS MANDATORY PARENTING WORKSHOPS

    By WALTER OLSON SHARE
    Feb 2014

    Need an outrage to carry you through the weekend? If you’re the parent of a school-aged child, some lawmakers in New York state think your parenting skills could use “enhancement”—and want to force you to attend a series of “parenting workshops” as a condition of your kid’s progress to seventh grade.

    “Requires parents to attend support programs designed to enhance parenting skills,” reads the official description of Bill S142-2013.

    The bill would direct New York’s education bureaucracy to develop guidelines for the content and distribution of a series of four or more workshops, of which one would be devoted to issues of abuse.

    (Why a state bureaucracy would know more about “parenting skills” than parents themselves is not explained.)

    Not only would parents have to attend, but for good measure the bill would require employers to bestow a paid day off each year for employees who are parents to do so.

    The bill has provoked a bit of a public outcry in recent weeks. Among the comments at the official state site: “How about letting us raise our own children?” “An insult and serves no purpose”; “Please keep your noses out of my home”; “The only people that will benefit from this are the ones who will charge for the classes.”

    Who’d sponsor such a mind-bending assault on individual rights and the integrity of the family? The bill’s main sponsor is Sen. Ruben Diaz Sr. (D-South Bronx), with co-sponsorship from Sens. Adraino Espaillat (D-Washington Heights) and John Sampson (D-Brooklyn).

    Senator Diaz—not to be confused with his son, Ruben Diaz Jr., who serves as Bronx borough president—is a well-known figure in New York City politics who has served in the State Senate for more than a decade.

    Like most of his New York City Democratic colleagues, he readily votes to approve big government programs; unlike most of them, he also ardently pursues social-conservative causes such as opposition to same-sex marriage (he’s an evangelical minister as well as a politician).

    In the latter capacity, he regularly wins praise from national groups claiming to speak for “pro-family” positions. One must wonder, are they aware of his scheme for mandatory parenting workshops, and is that something they consider “pro-family”?

It looks as though my fellow conservatives are angry about this, but I don’t see why. Some people have no clue how to be a decent parent. Perhaps they would benefit from enforced parenting classes.

(Link): PART 2: Judges Who Force Insane, Negligent Women, or Addicts to Get Abortions or Undergo Sterilization – Also: Court Ordered Male Sterilization – Being A Parent Does Not Make A Person More Godly, Mature, or Responsible