Thoughts on the NRO Essay “Advice For Incels” by Kevin D. Williamson

Thoughts on the NRO Essay “Advice For Incels” by Kevin D. Williamson

About me and this blog:

If you are new to my blog: I have been a conservative my entire life. I’ve never voted Democrat. I was a Republican until a few years ago. I am no longer in any political party.

I sometimes critique secular, left wing feminists on my blog (such as but not limited to (Link): this post and (Link): this one), but there are times when I believe other conservatives get feminists wrong, and feminists are actually correct on some issues.

I was brought up in a traditional values, conservative, Christian family where my parents brought me to Southern Baptist churches as I was growing up, where I was taught to believe in gender complementarianism, which I did for many years, until I finally realized how (Link): wrong and sexist complementarianism is.

Because I grew up as a complementarian, I am quite familiar with what they think and why they think as they do.

My current religious beliefs are somewhat “up in the air,” as I am waffling between being agnostic, (or a deist), and the Christian faith. (Note: I am not an atheist.)

I am by no means anti- Nuclear Family, anti- motherhood, or anti- marriage, though I do posit that many to most conservatives – especially the religious ones – have gone to un-biblical lengths and have turned the Nuclear Family, marriage, natalism, and motherhood and fatherhood into idols which is wrong of them.

— end introduction to me and this blog —

I saw a link to this essay go through my Twitter feed today:

(Link): Advice for Incels by Kevin D. Williamson

On one level, this essay – “Advice for Incels” was okay.

However, I think that while the guy who wrote it has his heart in the right place, I think he gets a lot of things wrong and is naive about how Baptist and conservative Protestant and evangelical churches are for adult singles.

I’ve spent the last several years on this blog covering these topics – I’d encourage Williamson and anyone who read his NRO piece to read the books  (Link): “Singled Out” by Field and Colon and  “Quitting Church” by Christian author Julia Duin for even more information.

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Chris Harper Mercer (Oregon Gunman) Angry Over Being Single and A Virgin

Chris Harper Mercer (Oregon Gunman) Angry Over Being Single and A Virgin

This is the third male on my blog I’ve discussed who was so angry over being single and a virgin that he killed other people. (I will put links about the other two guys under the “Related Posts” section at the end of this post.)

Talk about entitlement with those guys.

I’m over 40, still single, would like to be married and having sex, but I don’t deal with bouts of disappointment or loneliness by taking out shotguns, AK-47s, and glocks and shooting people, geeze-a-ma-loo.

Get a grip, frustrated male virgins – women and the world don’t owe you dates, sex, women, marriage, or girlfriends.

And, by the way, if this is an issue, stop buying into society’s condemnation of virginity and celibacy. That most people in culture ((Link): atheists and Christians, left wingers and right wingers) have hang-ups about virginity and celibacy is THEIR problem, not yours.

Being single and/or celibate / a virgin does not make you a loser – which is what many cultures round the world teach singles, but you have to tune them out.

At this point, I’m not completely sure what motivated Harper-Mercer to kill people at the college. I suspect it may be a combination of factors: mental illness, hatred of religious people, anger over being single. I don’t think it’s any one, single thing that drove the guy.

But according to some of these reports, being single was perhaps one factor. I didn’t want to blog about this until I saw more confirmation about it today. I did see articles that appeared about two, three, however many days ago, saying he was quite angry over being single.

There is really something wrong with any culture that is producing men who get so upset or angry over being single or a virgin that they deal with their anger, entitlement, and frustration by killing people.

One of the things I find strange about these types of guys is that they seem to think losing their virginity will make their lives better or easier. I know some single adults probably think the same thing: ‘if only I can get married, THEN I will be happy, all my problems will be solved.’

Oh no. Look around you at all the people who ARE married, who ARE having sex, and they are not any more happy than virgins or singles. I have a blog post on my blog where I keep track of married couples (many of whom I assume are sexually active with each other) who are unhappy, miserable, and who abuse or cheat on their spouses. Having sex, dating, or getting married are not guarantees for happiness in life.

Look at all the rock stars and movie stars who are sexy, live in mansions, have huge bank accounts: some of them get married ten times to ten different people over a period of years (move star Liz Taylor also comes to mind).

In spite of the fact that actresses such as Sandra Bullock and Halle Berry are filthy rich, thin, pretty, and have successful careers, their spouses STILL had affairs on them. There is no guarantee that if you marry and have sex that it will be a recipe for success and happiness in life.

(Link): Oregon college gunman Christopher Harper-Mercer ‘left manifesto’ complaining about not having girlfriend

(Link):  Gunman who killed 9 at Oregon community college ranted about having no girlfriend, officials say

(Link):  Once Again, Mass Shooter Tries to Pin the Blame on Women Not Wanting to Date Him

  • In what is quickly becoming tradition for mass-murdering maniacs, Roseburg shooter Chris Harper-Mercer evidently ranted about not having a girlfriend in writings left at the scene, the Associated Press reports.

(Link):  Official: Ore. gunman ranted about lack of girlfriend

(Link):  Christopher Harper-Mercer, Oregon gunman, ranted in writings about having no girlfriend

(Link):  REVEALED: Oregon gunman ranted about being a ‘friendless virgin in hate-filled manifesto’

(Link): Oregon killer ranted about being ‘friendless virgin in twisted manifesto’

  • by Tom Parfitt
  • THE sicko who gunned down last week allegedly ranted in a hate-filled manifesto he left behind about not having a girlfriend.
  • Chris Harper-Mercer reportedly complained about being “friendless and a virgin” and scrawled 666 – the number of the Devil – across the papers.

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