Family Values, Conservative Christian Bill Gothard Accused Of Rape

Family Values, Conservative Christian Bill Gothard Accused Of Rape

I have written about Gothard once before, and I’m reminding you of that post now:

In the days or weeks to come, you can probably expect more of the same. Gothard is currently in his 80s, I believe, and he’s never married, and has indicated before that he is celibate.

Ergo, a lot of people, even some Christians sadly enough, tend to blame Gothard’s alleged sexual assaults of women on him being celibate. They seem to think if you live without sex for so many years, it comes gushing out beyond your control later – you get so horny, they seem to think, they you sexually attack another person.

A lot of people do this sort of odd ball reasoning in the case of  Roman Catholic priests who take a vow of celibacy but who get caught molesting children: people assume that being celibate causes pedophilia and rape.

Celibacy, however, does not cause pedophilia and rape.  Married men who have sex with their wives on a regular basis also rape people or molest kids (I’ve done a post or two about that topic before in the past).

Or, these types of Christians and Non-Christians somehow suspect that any adult who claims to be celibate is secretly a horn dog and must be getting lots of nooky anywhere, but especially salacious nooky, by raping people or fondling kids.

Celibates are not perverts, folks: we celibates are NOT having any sex at all, salacious or consensual. That’s the whole point about celibacy, you ding bats who accuse celibacy of causing rape and pedophilia.

While I myself don’t agree with some views of secular, left wing feminists, I note that they are not the monsters that many “family values” Christians make them out to be.

Right wing, American Christians will often fault the American feminists of the 1960s sexual revolution of causing all manner of problems in society (such as the rise of divorce rates, promiscuity, etc),
and maybe to a degree, secular feminism played some role in those sorts of things,
but how then do these Christians and conservatives explain the other “family values” Christians who are opposed to secular, left wing feminism, such as Gothard, who allegedly rape or molest girls, or who have affairs on their wives (for the men who are married)?

Again, I am not saying I am in total agreement with all opinions of secular, liberal feminists, but am merely saying that you cannot fairly and justly blame secular, liberal feminism for the moral failings and crimes of right wing, Christian men such as Gothard.

Anyway, Gothard is in the news again, this time for supposedly raping people.

Here is a selection of links about that news story, along with a link to a site that specializes in Gothard news coverage, and articles that highlight or refute his damaging teachings:

(Link): Recovering Grace: A Gothard Generation Shines Light on the Teachings of IBLP and ATI 

(This site, Recovering Grace, tends to keep up with the latest Gothard news and information, so you may want to bookmark them and visit them regularly if you are really interested in the latest Gothard- related developments.
I don’t plan on doing regular Gothard updates on my own blog, or not over every little thing concerning him.)

(Link): Bill Gothard, Christian counseling ministry leader with ties to TLC’s Duggar family, target of sexual assault lawsuit by 10 women

  • by Laura Bult
  • January 7, 2016
  • Ten women filed a bombshell lawsuit Wednesday alleging decades of sexual assault and rape by the longtime leader of Christian homeschooling ministry, Bill Gothard, who preaches modesty among women and has ties to Republican politicians and the reality TV Duggar family.
  • The lawsuit is the latest development after numerous women who sought counseling at Gothard’s Institute of Basic Life Principles, a prominent religious homeschooling ministry, came forward accusing the magnetic leader of sexual abuse, some of whom were minors at the time
  • The 81-year-old unmarried former president of the IBLP resigned from the ministry in 2014 after more than 30 women said they had been molested by him, according to the (Link): Washington Post, which first reported the story.
  • The lawsuit filed in an Illinois circuit court includes allegations that range from sexual harassment,  inappropriate touching and hand-holding, molestation and rape, according to the complaint provided to the Daily News by the lawyers representing the women at the Texas Gibbs Law Firm.

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Bad News for Male Christians Over 30 Who Have Never Married – The Bill Gothard Scandal is Being Used to Stigmatize Never Married Adult Christian Men

Bad News for Male Christians Over 30 Who Have Never Married – The Bill Gothard Scandal is Being Used to Stigmatize Never Married Adult Christian Men

Please go back and see my last post ((Link): “Never Married Christians Giving Marital Advice – The Double Standard”) if you want to know who Bill Gothard is.

All I will say about Gothard here is that he’s over 70 years of age, a very famous Christian in certain circles, and he has never married.

A bunch of women who are now in their 40s or there abouts have been coming out of the woodwork to say the dude was inappropriate with them when they worked at his place when they were in their teens or 20s.

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Never Married Christians Giving Marital Advice – The Double Standard

Never Married Christians Giving Marital Advice – The Double Standard

I am about to make a post about Christian speaker Bill Gothard in a moment.

Gothard is a famous Christian dude. He’s the founder or head of something called Institute in Basic Life Principles. Here is (Link): his Wiki page.

I guess Gothard must be over 80 years old now, if his bio on Wiki is correct (or not, if my math sucks or their page’s birth year for him is wrong). He has never married.

One of the things Gothard is famous for is being a Christian speaker and writing lots of books and manuals about how to live the Christian life, including commentary on marriage.

Now, there is some never-married Christian woman who is a mouth piece for gender complementarian group CBWM. She is a speaker at CBMW conferences, she writes books about relationships and marriage. This woman has never married. I cannot remember her name.

Here’s what bugs me. Any time Gothard or this CBMW woman are mentioned on blogs or sites, Christians snort in derision: “How can he/she give family, sex, and marriage advice when he/she has never married and probably never had sex? That’s pretty rich.”

I sometimes find myself annoyed by that objection because many times, married Christians – ones who have been married since they were 20 years of age, who are now 50 or 60 – teach and lead adults singles classes.

Many churches will not permit an adult single who is 30 lead a class of adult singles who are 30, or will not permit an adult single who is 40 to lead and teach a group of 40 year old singles, etc.

Churches insist on married people filling those duties, which is not biblical. The Bible nowhere forbids single adults from leading and teaching.

Yet other than a few older singles such as myself, nobody questions or disputes the stupidity of having a 50 year old man who has been married for 20 – 30 years leading a class of 35 or 45 year old never married singles.

Why do so many Christians think it fine or normal for a 47 year old married man to lead a Sunday School class or seminar for never-married 37 year olds, but these same Christians laugh, ridicule, or balk at the idea of a 45 year old virgin teaching about sex or marriage?

If you have read my blog here, you can see that although I’ve never had sex, I’m not ignorant about sex or sexual acts. I was in a long term, serious, committed relationship, so I do know what that entails.

The double standard and hypocrisy from Christians can be infuriating at times: they are peachy keen with married adults teaching single adults about relationships, but not the other way around.

Considering that divorce rates are 40% – 50% (even for Christian couples), married people are not more qualified to lecture about marriage than a never married adult.

If people think that never married adults over 30 should not teach, discuss, or opine about sex or marriage, than neither should married people over 30 be permitted to opine or teach about singleness and celibacy.