Guidepost Solutions’ LGBT Pride Tweet Sparks Uproar in SBC

Guidepost Solutions’ LGBT Pride Tweet Sparks Uproar in SBC 

Well, LOL! So much for “experts,” I guess.

An abuse survivor who is quick to go on witch hunts against supposed abusers (calling himself or herself “BAaccountablity” on Twitter) screamed at me a few weeks ago that I have to believe anything and everything that “GRACE” (an organization which studies how Christian groups handle abuse) says, does, or believes, nor can I question any view or practice of “GRACE” because they are “experts” at abuse
(and apparently they’re also experts at Codependency, according to “BAaccountability,” though when I visited the GRACE site a few weeks ago, I saw nothing about the topic of Codependency at their site using their search feature.prideFlagOriginal - Copy
Time, energy, and interest permitting, I will be making more blog posts about that topic and more in the future.)

I’m sure that the people at GRACE are not complete morons nor totally inept concerning the topic of abuse (I am assuming).

However…
Just because a group or person are considered “experts” in their field does not mean they are infallible or lacking a bad or misplaced agenda.

They may be somewhat competent at commenting on abuse, but those who are employed there (at GRACE – or at Guidepost Solutions, for that matter) are still capable of making mistakes, like any other group or person.

That a group or person may be considered an “expert” on a topic (and given that even experts can and do make mistakes) does not mean that I must un-questioningly or un-critically agree with any and all opinions of all their contributors, or that they necessarily know everything about abuse, abusive dynamics, Codependency, or understand Codependency correctly. (More on that in a possible future post or two.)

Here lately, these “experts” at Guidepost Solutions tweeted a “pride month” type comment with a rainbow flag.

I’ve nothing against homosexual people (at least not the ones who are not far left authoritarians), but if a group or organization is virtue signaling during pride month by slapping rainbows in their tweets, it tells me, it hints, that they just may be leftist, progressive, and “woke,” which makes them a little suspect in my eyes.

If you’re someone who is serious about fighting abuse in churches and getting churches to be more transparent in how they handle abuse, my advice to you is to drop any and all “woke” commentary, symbols, and language from your site or social media, because most of the churches you’re at odds with are conservative, and conservatives are not “pro-woke.”

I am a conservative, and I can tell you right now most conservatives will tune you out the moment they see “intersectional,” woke type language, view points, or imagery from you in person, in e-mails, texts, or on your social media.

You either need to make your “save and help victims!” a priority, or you make your leftist politics a priority here – you cannot have both if your goal is to honestly get conservative churches to fix how they usually mishandle abuse cases in their midst.

The far left is trying to erode boundaries around sexuality – they are trying to normalize pedophilia (links to more content about this issue below).

That is part and parcel of the LGBTQ movement (that is what the rainbow flag has now come to symbolize); the LGBTQ movement is not about getting Christians or mainstream Americans to merely “tolerate” the idea that two men want to kiss or marry each other.

It’s moved way beyond that, if you have been paying attention the last few years.

I agree that most churches don’t properly or sensitively deal with abuse (whether rape of women, molestation of children, or wife abuse), but the way to tackle it is not via “woke” organizations that are inadvertently platforming pedophilia.

There are more comments by me below the following two links with excerpts:

(Link): Guidepost Solutions’ LGBT pride tweet sparks uproar in SBC

June 10, 2022
by Leonardo Blair

Guidepost Solutions, the investigative firm that recently produced a report on how the Southern Baptist Convention’s leadership mishandled sexual abuse allegations, is coming under fire from high-profile leaders in the denomination over a tweet supporting LGBT pride.

“Guidepost is committed to strengthening diversity, equity and inclusion and strives to be an organization where our team can bring their authentic selves to work,” the firm declared in a tweet Monday. “We celebrate our collective progress toward equality for all and are proud to be an ally to our LGBTQ+ community.”

As the secular firm’s tweet made the rounds on social media, Randy C. Davis, president and executive director of the Tennessee Baptist Mission Board, denounced the company’s statement and urged SBC entities receiving funding from the denomination’s Cooperative Program to “immediately break ties with Guidepost Solutions.”

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Report on Southern Baptist Churches: the SBC Covered Up Cases of Abuse and Mistreated Abuse Victims for Years

Report on Southern Baptist Churches: the SBC Covered Up Cases of Abuse and Mistreated Abuse Victims for Years

This report about sex abuse cover up by the Southern Baptists was actually released around May of 2022, but I’m not blogging about it until now.

I was brought up in the Southern Baptist Church. My parents took me to different SB churches when I was a kid – we moved often.

I think I kind of stopped considering myself as being a Southern Baptist a few years ago, long before the abuse blow-ups and other scandals started to be revealed more and more a few years ago.

Southern Baptists used a secular group called Guidepost Solutions to investigate how the SBC has dealt with abuse, and lately, (Link):  some Baptists are very unhappy with Guidepost Solutions.

I’m sorry for all the people who were abused in the church or by church staff and that the SBC covered it up.

On another level, as I grow older and periodically reflect back on my life, this is another one of those regrets.

I wasted so many years on things, like belief in the Christian faith, being a Southern Baptist, and believing in Southern Baptist, evangelical precepts.

I was told when I was a kid and older – by my Baptist parents, in Sunday morning sermons, or in Sunday school classes, and in books by Christian authors my Mom brought home back then – that if I just trusted in God, lived a clean life, had faith in God, that God would protect and provide – but that turned out not to be true.

I was told by Southern Baptists (and other types of Christians) that if I stayed sexually abstinent, went to church, lived a clean life (as defined by Baptists), etc, not to worry about finding a spouse by my own efforts, that God would provide .

I was also told by Christians on TV, Christians at church, in Christian books, etc not to date outside the faith (the “equally yoked” rule). I was assured if I was a good Christian girl that God would bless me with a Christian “Mr. Right,” which turned out to also be a bunch of garbage.

What a waste of time it was for me to be a Christian for all those years!

My parents taught me, that as I was a single woman, that Southern Baptist Churches would be a preferable place to meet single men as opposed to night clubs or bars.

As I’ve been saying for years now, considering all the Christian perverts found in churches, I don’t see how churches are any safer to use as a place to meet potential dates than your average bar or dating site.

Looks like a bunch of sexist, abusive men love to attend Southern Baptist churches. If not all the Southern Baptist men are abusing women, the other ones are busy denying it’s taking place or making excuses for the men who are abusive.

This means that Southern Baptist churches are not a good or safe place for single women to meet men (then there’s the gender imbalance problem, with more women than men in attendance).

I don’t necessarily regret in its entirety living a clean life, though, because that kept me from dabbling in drugs, alcohol, sleeping around and getting diseases and so on.

But the rest of the Christian faith, as it was taught to me, and as I lived it, was not effective in many areas. And quite a bit of what was taught to me was in a Southern Baptist context.

(Link): Report: Top Southern Baptists Stonewalled Sex Abuse Victims

May 23, 2022

Leaders of the Southern Baptist Convention, America’s largest Protestant denomination, stonewalled and denigrated survivors of clergy sex abuse over almost two decades while seeking to protect their own reputations, according to a scathing 288-page investigative report issued Sunday.

(Link): Southern Baptist leaders mistreated abuse survivors for decades, report says

Excerpts:

A blockbuster report found that SBC lawyers worked for years to protect the institution and demonized abuse survivors and accused a prominent pastor of abusing a colleague’s wife.

May 22, 2022

(RNS) — For decades, a handful of leaders in the nation’s largest Protestant denomination treated sexual abuse survivors as enemies of the church, denied responsibility for the actions of local churches and downplayed the number of sexual abuse cases in those churches, all in the name of protecting the institution, according to a report released Sunday (May 22).

The report, conducted by a third-party investigations firm, Guidepost Solutions, and made public by the Southern Baptist Convention’s sex abuse task force, reveals a callous disregard for abuse survivors and a relentless commitment to protecting the denomination from liability.

Guidepost Solutions found that SBC leaders were well aware of abuse cases in the church and even compiled a list of offenders but took no steps to find out if alleged abusers remained in ministry, instead focusing on protecting the SBC from liability.

(Link): SBC Leaders to Release Secret List of Pastors, Church Leaders Accused of Sex Abuse

(Link): SBC leaders ‘grieved’ over report finding sexual abuse claims ignored for years to avoid liability

Excerpts:

by Leonardo Blair
May 23, 2022

Leaders of the Southern Baptist Convention have said they are “grieved” after an independent investigation found the denomination’s leadership mishandled sexual abuse allegations, mistreated victims and advocates, engaged in an abusive pattern of intimidation and repeatedly resisted reforms aimed at making their churches safer largely to avoid liability.

The report from Guidepost Solutions was promised to be delivered ahead of the denomination’s annual meeting set for Anaheim, California, in June. Released on Sunday, the report alleges that for the last 20 years, the SBC sought to protect the interests of the denomination above alleged sexual abuse victims even as they fielded credible claims of abuse.

These claims include one made against former SBC President Johnny Hunt, who was accused of sexually assaulting another pastor’s wife while on a beach vacation in Panama City, Florida.

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According to Progressives, Only Black People May Publicly Opine About, Discuss, or Analyze the Will Smith 2022 Oscar’s Slap of Chris Rock – Why I Kind of Disagree

According to Progressives, Only Black People May Publicly Opine About,  Discuss or Analyze, the Will Smith 2022 Oscar’s Slap of Chris Rock – Why I Kind of Disagree

This post has been edited after publication to add more content


I’m not sure if all or most progressives would state their position on this subject as being, “Only POC (People of Color) can or should discuss actor Will Smith slapping stand up comic and actor Chris Rock” or not.

For those not familiar (are you living under a rock?!), both Will Smith and Chris Rock are black, celebrity men, and, Will Smith, who is a movie actor, slapped Chris Rock across the face during the Oscar program for telling a tepid joke about Smith’s wife; Rock told a joke about Jada Pinkett Smith’s hair (or lack thereof) at the 2022 Oscars ceremony.

This topic is quite close to one I’ve been meaning to blog about for months now, which I may get around to later.

Here’s one example of several I’ve seen ever since The Slap, where progressives of whatever skin color are telling non-Blacks to shut up:

(Link): ‘Sit this out’: MSNBC host says white people ‘do not understand’ Will Smith slap

I have a few reasons why I don’t really agree with progressives on this topic.

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The SBC and Whether God’s Word ‘Whispers’ About Sexual Sin by K. Williams

The SBC and Whether God’s Word ‘Whispers’ About Sexual Sin by K. Williams

The link (with excerpts) to the essay by K. Williams is farther below in this post. Here are my opening words about the subject:

Most Christians – even the moderate to conservative ones – stopped advocating or defending the concept of sexual purity years ago.

I’m not sure, but I suspect that the constant complaining about “Purity Culture” by mostly center-left to progressive Christian women who grew up in churches with Purity Culture complaining about it constantly on twitter or writing books and blog posts about it contributed.

I’m not in total agreement with all aspects of Purity Culture, but I do believe that Christian liberals or feminists who ditch the concept of sexual purity with all the rest of Purity Culture are in error.

Now, conservative Christians – it seems males especially and interestingly, even the ones who are complementarian – are too cowardly to keep defending “virginity until marriage.”

Christians, including pastors, in the past decade or so, have fallen into these false, default assumptions that any adult over the age of 25 is going to have pre-marital sex, that lifelong celibacy is too difficult – so they have started excusing or down-playing sexual sin (such as fornication) in their social media comments, books, sermons, podcasts, and You Tube videos.

I find this very bizarre, as I would if most Christians were to start saying on social media, sermons, or in books tomorrow that nobody can possibly expect any adult to… say… refrain from over-eating, stealing from stores, killing human babies for fun, or from committing adultery – so they stop advocating for moderation in eating, not stealing, not murdering babies, and refraining from extra-marital affairs.

I don’t see most Christians letting theft, gluttony, infanticide, and adultery “off the hook,” or justifying such sins (well, not usually), but they are happy to do so in regards to single adults having sex outside of marriage, and sexual sins generally speaking
(I mean, how many more of these idiots are going to -contra the Bible- keep allowing preachers guilty of child molesting or adultery back into the pulpit to preach, as they often do?)

There are different reasons I’ve been fed up and disappointed by Christianity and Christians in the last several years, and one of those reasons is this tendency for Christians to dismiss the notion or practice of “virginity- until- marriage,” and to even bash and insult it, as being “unrealistic” or “too judge-y” or whatever.

Today’s Christians cannot even be bothered to live out some of the most basic Christian ethics, defend them, or encourage them.

The following essay, taking other Christians to task for being dismissive of sexual purity, is a breath of fresh air.

(Link): The SBC and Whether God’s Word ‘Whispers’ About Sexual Sin by K. Williams

Excerpts:

By Kelly Williams, Op-Ed Contributor | March 27, 2022

My family has been Southern Baptist all my life.

…I have great respect for J.D. Greear; however, I can’t agree with him or President Ed Litton’s approach to sexual sin and how God sees it.

In 2019 Pastor Greear said, “The Bible appears more to whisper on sexual sin compared to its shouts about materialism and religious pride.”

The problem here is the Bible holds a different view.

It was sexual sin in Genesis 6 that triggered God to raise up Noah to build an ark before He destroyed the earth with a flood.

It was sexual sin that caused God to command Lot and his family to leave and not look back at Sodom and Gorromah.

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I Guess The Southern Baptist “Biblical Womanhood” Site Is No More – Many Other Complementarian Blogs Now Inactive – and I’m Not Sad About It

I Guess The Southern Baptist “Biblical Womanhood” Site Is No More – Many Other Complementarian Blogs Now Inactive – and I’m Not Sad About It

I wrote about this Southern Baptist site a few years ago, here:

(Link): Southern Baptist’s New Sexist “Biblical Woman” Site – Attitudes in Total Face Palm of a Site One Reason Among Many This Unmarried and Childless Woman Is Saying Toodle-Oo to Christianity

Biblical Womanhood mast head screen shot
Biblical Womanhood mast head screen shot

That site was hosted here at one time:

(Link): Biblical Womanhood (Southern Baptist site – www.biblicalwoman.com)

However, as of February 2022, the site is not loading. I guess it was taken down?

I’ve done some web searching, but I cannot find another site about Biblical Womanhood like this one by SWBTS, or written by them.

Their site was an off shoot of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (their site: swbts.com).

Their site’s affiliated Twitter, account, @BiblicalWoman still exists, but they removed all Tweets – well, the Twitter account must’ve been newer than the site, because the Twitter page says they started their account in 2019, but their site goes back to at least around 2014.

Apparently, the last that site was active was May 15, 2021, if the (Link): Wayback Machine site: Biblical Womanhood Site Archived is any indication.

On another look, 2015 was the date on Wayback Machine’s last available date for them, but a few of their blog posts are time stamped 2019.

Edit. I think somewhere on the archived “Biblical Womanhood” site is a notice that says they will be shutting their Christianized Martha Stewart site down and moving content over to Facebook.

Let me see if I can find them on Facebook. Their archived site states that their Facebook group address is (Link): facebook.com/BiblicalWoman. I tried that link, but it goes to a blank page, except for this text:

This Page Isn’t Available
The link may be broken, or the page may have been removed. Check to see if the link you’re trying to open is correct.
— end —

So even their Facebook presence was deactivated at some stage.

But where ever, and how ever, will I get content to shame me for being single into my adulthood (the TGC or Desiring God sites maybe)?

Where else will I get content like, “55 Feminine, Biblical Casserole Recipes with Hamburger Meat as an Ingredient,” -?
or, “17 Feminine, Godly Handi-Crafts Using Popsicle Sticks Glued Together” -? Where?! 

Can I make it through life without gender stereotyped dating, cooking, and arts- and- crafts advice from complementarians?  What ever will I do?🤔🙄

From the Southern Baptist Biblical Womanhood’s (Link): archived “About” page:

Whether it’s parenting your teenage daughter, finding purpose in your singleness ….
— end excerpt —

Oh please. 99.9% of the time, 100% of complementarians are only interested in three, four areas areas in regards to women(*), and NONE of them have to do with single women, because complementarians, beyond giving their presumptuous “practice being a good homemaker NOW, while you’re living alone in your own apartment, to prepare yourself for the day, when you’re 25 and get married and have children!” articles (presumptuous because some women never end up marrying), they never have anything meaningful to say about adult female (or male, for that matter) singleness.

The areas most complementarians harp on 100% of the time include:

  • convincing women it’s not biblical for them to preach,
  • brainwashing them to think the complementarian form of codependency (“submission”) is good and godly,
  • and constantly harping on “marriage and motherhood.”

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Acceptance (vs. Denial, Anger, or Should-ing) – Helps in Healing and Getting Through Painful Events and Dealing With Things You Cannot Change

Acceptance (vs. Denial, Anger, or Should-ing) – Helps in Healing and Getting Through Painful Events and Dealing With Things You Cannot Change

Disclaimer: All names have been changed in the post below to keep people’s identities anonymous.


One of the things I’ve noticed in the last few years is that when I’ve accepted a situation, whether something current or something from years ago that once bothered me a lot, is that it speeds up the recovery process.

I used to hold on tightly to people or dreams or hopes. In the last few years, I’ve gotten better at Letting Go.

(I’ve not arrived at perfection at this, but I have improved a lot in the last couple of years.)

Instead of constantly regretting, feeling sad or angry about a past incident, or that my life is not where I want it to be now, I’ve learned to accept my past and present, and that has definitely been good for my mental health – and I’m more able to enjoy each day as it is, instead of sitting around angry or upset that things aren’t how I had hoped or planned.

I don’t get as upset by set backs as I once did.

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How Evangelical Teachings Ruin Sex and Marriage For Many Women by L. Blair

How Evangelical Teachings Ruin Sex and Marriage For Many Women by L. Blair

Some of the issues discussed in this article and in her book are ones I’ve brought up on this blog over the years.

There is so much hypocrisy in Christianity, usually hypocrisy that works out in favor of men and to the detriment of women, especially in “gender complementarian” teachings.

Some of these teachings about marital sex, or marriage generally, can be directly or indirectly derogatory towards single, celibate adults (e.g., some Christians teach that having sexual intercourse is “necessary to know God,” while some preachers teach that to fulfill your purpose in life, you must marry.)

Here is the article about the book:

(Link): How Evangelical Teachings Ruin Sex and Marriage For Many Women

Excerpts:

By Leonardo Blair, Christian Post Reporter 

Evangelical blogger Sheila Wray Gregoire doesn’t care if her critics want to brand her a feminist. She wants the Church to know that “sex is for women too,” and ignoring that point can ruin sex, orgasms and marriages for women. 

New research shows that many evangelical women are unsatisfied in the bedroom due to some evangelical beliefs, and that’s the big takeaway Gregoire wants readers to get as she stages a scholarly intervention in her new book, The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended. 

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Sexual Abusers Vote Democrat and Some Child Abuse Victims Grow Up To Vote Republican: Jeri Massi = Huge Hypocrite

Sexual Abusers Vote Democrat and Some Child Abuse Victims Grow Up To Vote Republican: Jeri Massi = Huge Hypocrite

Sexual abusers, and those that cover up sexual abuse, exist among all political parties, and among all sorts of groups.

But I titled this post what I did because so many left- of- center individuals ignore sexual abuse and sexual abuse cover-ups when they are committed by Democrats, liberals, leftists, and groups they favor (e.g., such as LGBT persons).

I am no longer on Twitter at this time, but when I was, I used to follow a lady named Jeri Massi on there because she sometimes tweeted links to information pertinent to issues within the church (such as sexual abuse cover ups), and it concerns me that so many of those in the Christian faith continue to mishandle child sex abuse cases, or domestic abuse cases.

I was scrolling down Massi’s Twitter page one day to see if she had any new information (this was in January 2021), when I saw this tweet she made:

“Pedophiles Vote Republican Part #2 ” (Tweet Link – screen capture of the tweet below):Massi Tweet screen cap

(She made a few other, similar tweets, where she declares that “pedophiles vote Republican,” such as this one and another one)

Not only do some sexual abusers vote Democrat, some of them ARE Democrats, such as Bill Clinton, former Democrat President, who buddied around with noted child sex ring pedophile Jeffery Epstein.

(Link): New Jeffrey Epstein doc should finally lead to a reckoning with Bill Clinton

Clinton was also credibly accused by (Link): several adult women from the 1990s onwards with rape, but feminists of the 1990s let him off on that, because they wanted him in a second term to “protect abortion.”

(Link): These are the sexual assault allegations against Bill Clinton (Democrat)

Andrew Cuomo, who is a Democrat (not Republican!) governor, has many sexual harassment claims against him.

(Link): Another Cuomo sex harass complaint as aide becomes sixth woman to accuse governor

(Link): Few Democratic governors speak up on Cuomo sexual harassment allegations

Update: the Democrat governor pervert is in the news again, August 3, 2021:

(Link): Gov. Cuomo grilled for 11 hours by AG probers over sex-harass claims

(Link): BOMBSHELL: Dem Darling Andrew ‘Creep’ Cuomo Groped Women, ‘Broke The Law,’ AG Report Finds

An October 2021 update:

(Link): Andrew Cuomo charged with forcible touching, a misdemeanor sex crime

(Link): Ex-Gov. Cuomo to be charged over alleged groping of former aide: source

Disgraced ex-Gov. Andrew Cuomo was charged Thursday with groping a former aide in Albany’s Executive Mansion — a crime that could force him to register as a sex offender if he’s convicted.

A misdemeanor criminal complaint filed in Albany City Court alleges that Cuomo, 63, “did intentionally, and for no legitimate purpose, forcibly place his hand under the blouse shirt of the victim…and onto her intimate body part,”

“Specifically, the victims [sic] left breast for the purposes of degrading and satisfying his sexual desire,” it adds.

…It’s unclear when the former governor will be arrested, booked and arraigned but a source briefed on the matter told The Post the arrest would likely take place next week.

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Southern Baptist Al Mohler Intimates That Childless And Childfree Adults Are Not Human (2019) – and He Thinks This is a Good and Biblical Worldview

Southern Baptist Al Mohler Intimates That Childless And Childfree Adults Are  Not Human (2019) – and He Thinks This is a Good and Biblical Worldview

I am amazed that (Link): Mohler’s tweet / blog post / podcast from August 2019, where he indicates that anyone who doesn’t biologically pro-create is not fully human, did not get far more blow-back and attention than it did. Because it most certainly deserved a lot of push back.

(Please note: this post has been edited a few times since I published it, so that I could add more commentary and more links, and I may (or may not) edit it more in the future.)

At the time Mohler’s comment about this happened (August 2019),  I was too busy at the time to blog about it (or even months later). Hence, my post tackling this issue now, in June of 2020.

Mohler did (rightfully) get a lot of flack under the tweet at the time (I would ask that you (Link): click on the tweet link and read the replies he received), and one or two blogs ripped his attitude apart, but by and large, most did not tackle this.

Here is how Mohler’s tweet read (it is also embedded below):

Americans are basically, by the millions, giving up on the fact that to be human is to be a parent, eventually to take on that responsibility to get married and have children, to take on the responsibility of passing on civilization itself.
— end Mohler Tweet content —

Mohler also had a (Link): web page with either an essay or a podcast about this topic, but as of June 2020, the page does not seem to be working (you might be able to view an archived version of that page (Link): here – or view Mohler’s page on (Link): Google Cache).

At this point in time, I do not care to re-explain, for the billionth time, why the Bible and the God of the Bible does NOT support the “nuclear family,” marriage and natalism (and parenthood) to the insane degree that so many social conservatives and Christians and guys like Al Mohler assume.

I refer you to these older posts of mine which explain that no, the Bible does not endorse “the nuclear family,” marriage or parenting, not in the way conservative Christians presume it does (I have many more blog posts discussing this, I will only be sharing a few of them here – also some related posts here):

(Link): Conservatives Have Now Abandoned All Pretense of Advocating For Sexual Abstinence and They Actually Lament the Lack of Fornication – The Bradford Wilcox Piece, 2019

(Link):  “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site

(Link):   If the Family Is Central, Christ Isn’t, by John B. Carpenter, CP Guest Contributor

(Link): Salvation By Marriage Alone – The Over Emphasis Upon Marriage by Conservative Christians Evangelicals Southern Baptists

(Link): Why Christians Need To Stress Spiritual Family Over the Nuclear Family – People with no flesh and blood relations including Muslims who Convert to Christianity – Also: First World, White, Rich People Problems

(Link): This Christmas, I’m Defining Family by My Single Friends by L. Wilbert

(Link): Family as “The” Backbone of Society? – It’s Not In The Bible

(Link):  Ever Notice That Christians Don’t Care About or Value Singleness, Unless Jesus Christ’s Singleness and Celibacy is Doubted or Called Into Question by Scholars?

(Link):  Really, It’s Okay To Be Single – In order to protect marriage, we should be careful not to denigrate singleness – by Peter Chin

(Link): Parents Who Regret Having Children Speak Honestly About Why It Was A Huge Mistake

(Link): The Bible Does Not Teach Christians to “Focus On The Family” – The Idolization of Family by American Christians (article)

(Link): Why Having Kids Won’t Fulfill You

Mohler Judging If Someone is Human Or Not Based on Their Childed Status

I’m pretty sure that the Bible says all humans are fully human because God deemed them so, and because all humans are created in the image of God.

The Bible says nothing about one’s value or worth or humanity being defined by marital or parental status.

God does not love childless or childfree people any less than he does people who have children.

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The One Thing Evangelical Leaders Don’t Want Christians to Know about Mixed-Faith Marriages (two links) by C. Cassidy

The One Thing Evangelical Leaders Don’t Want Christians to Know about Mixed-Faith Marriages (two links). by C. Cassidy

I do agree with the author that a lot of Christians demonize all atheists, which they should not do – but to be fair, many atheists I’ve run into online have been either unbearably smug or else they are out-right hostile to anyone who doesn’t share their particular take on theism or atheism.

I grew up in Southern Baptist Churches and was exposed to a lot of conservative Christian content around the home – Christian magazines, books, TV programs, and so on. Most of them went on and on about how sinful, unwise, or wrong it would be for a Christian to marry a Non-Christian, which they refer to as the “Equally Yoked” rule.

I used to be a believer in the “Equally Yoked” rule myself, until several years ago, when I began noticing several problems with it, one being there are more single Christian women then there are single Christian men, and, I’m all the time seeing news stories of Christian men who are jailed for child molesting, wife abuse, or what have you.

So, I realized it’s far more important to judge a man based on his actual actions and how he treats me (and treats other people) as opposed to what he claims to be his religious views.

At this stage of life, I’m more comfortable now with the idea of marrying a kind-hearted atheist man than a sexist or abusive Christian one.

Without further ado, here is the link with excerpts:

(Llnk): The One Thing Evangelical Leaders Don’t Want Christians to Know about Mixed-Faith Marriages.

The follow up post to that:

(Link): The Question that Breaks the Facade (in Mixed-Faith Marriages).

From

(Llnk): The One Thing Evangelical Leaders Don’t Want Christians to Know about Mixed-Faith Marriages.

[Summary: a Christian woman writes in for advice because her Christian husband of 20 years now says he’s an atheist. She’s not comfortable with his atheism but doesn’t want to divorce him]

…The idea of marrying a non-Christian is so far past unacceptable [to many Christians] that it veers into genuine revulsion and anathema.

I’ve got an old binder from a marriage seminar I attended at an SBC church in my mid-teens that painted non-believers as repulsive, ugly, dirty, unkempt people–in one illustration, a hobo-like non-believer is marrying a young woman in a perfect white bridal gown.

I’ve seen countless blog posts from Christian leaders openly wondering if non-Christians have the capacity to love at all, or can even conduct themselves in an honest and compassionate way.

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A Married, Pro- Family Values, Conservative Judge and Southern Baptist, Paul Pressler, Allegedly Raped, Molested Teen Boy for Years

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Pressler is a leader in the “conservative resurgence” in the Southern Baptist Convention, which seeks to push back against perceived liberal influence in the Baptist church.

A-ha.

I’m not a liberal (I’m a conservative), but do I ever get disgusted by this sort of thing, where someone who is right wing, or who is a Baptist, or other type of Christian, who beats up on liberals for lacking “Family Values,” later turns out to be a huge, hypocritical pervert or sexist himself, angers and annoys me.

I had to go to the cached version of this web page, because the normal, live site is not pulling up the page:

(Link):  Former Texas state judge and lawmaker Paul Pressler has been hit with a lawsuit that alleges he molested a man over the course of 35 years.

Excerpts:

Pressler, a former justice on the 14th Court of Appeals, who served in the Texas House from 1957 to 1959, vehemently denied the allegations by Gareld Duane Rollins, who claims that Pressler began molesting him in 1979, when he was 14, through the year 2014.

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The Rhetoric of Singleness Blog – Links, Comments, Thoughts

The Rhetoric of Singleness Blog

Warning: I discovered through further reading that the author of the blog is a complementarian. I disagree with complementarianism; more on that below.

Had I known from the start she is a complementarian, I may not have started composing this post. I am leery of pointing anyone to a complementarian resource, but here we are.


As of today, I see only a small number of posts on the The Rhetoric of Singleness blog, dating from April 2017, and this blog appears to be from a Christian perspective – but then, her blog does not display a list or pull down menu of all her posts.

Even though the blog looks to be on hiatus, I’ll link to it on the off chance the blogger resumes writing again.

The person behind this blog says she’s single, in her 30s, and has yet to marry but would like to.

(Link): The Rhetoric of Singleness Blog – main page

Some of the only posts I am seeing on this blog include:

(Link): Pursuing Marriage

In that “Pursuing Marriage” post, she says she is a believer in gender complementarianism.

For example, here’s part of what she writes:

So, what options does that leave me, a woman with a complementary view of gender roles, of pursuing marriage? I know for some women who see no options left to them there is a strong temptation to bitterness, resentment, and to denigrate our single brothers who are called by God to the leadership role in the pursuit of marriage.

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Oh no. I (Link): used to be a complementarian myself but ditched it by my mid 30s.

I heard all the same stuff from conservative Christians growing up, as this other blogger likely did, such as, how (Link): men are supposed to be the heads in marriages, God supposedly created women pretty much to exist (Link): only to wait on menand so on.

(And I remained a conservative, even after I realized that complementarianism is false and actually quite sexist – it doesn’t just teach that men and women “complement” one another but that there should be a male hierarchy, of men ruling over women.

Contrary to what complementarians would have you believe, abandoning gender complementarianism will not turn you into a left wing, abortion-supporting, man-hating feminist. I am still right wing, even after leaving complementarianism.)

I am no longer a complementarian, but can pin point complementarianism, among a few other things, as being (Link): one reason as to why I am in my 40s and never got married.

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