Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

So, Lester Winningham murdered Deborah Houchin – I believe this was around the year 2005.

Houchin was in her 50s, she was divorced. After being single for several years after the divorce, she wanted to remarry, her friends said.

So, she joined a dating site or two – I think one news source says she tried “Match .com”.

Houchin went on dates with a lot of men who ended up being creepy or weirdos, until she met Winningham, who seemed to be a great match – he seemed normal and kind. I guess he didn’t give off any red flags, not immediately.

Well, as it turned out, Winningham murdered Houchin.

Prior to that, he proposed marriage, but one of her friends suggested before she accepted, that she get him to sign a pre-nup, because she was financially well-off.

When Houchin brought up wanting a pre-nup with Winningham, he became infuriated, very hostile, and it frightened Houchin; she told one of her friends that he acted like a totally different man.

The police detectives later found out in their research on Winningham that he was broke, and in a lot of debt. He had only wanted to marry Houchin for her money.

Houchin had met Winningham on a dating site.

The kicker to this is that the murderer, Winningham, worked as a marriage counselor!

Sort of reminds me of the blog post I did a few years ago about a husband who had written a marital advice book (on how to have a great marriage) who (Link): shot his wife in her head and killed her.

Here are a few links about this horrible news story:

(Link): Marriage counselor convicted of killing ex-fiance

A marriage counselor was convicted today of fatally shooting his ex-fiance.

 Lester Winningham, 59, faces up to life in prison in the murder conviction. Jurors were expected to begin deliberating his punishment later today.

Winningham, a licensed psychologist, is accused of shooting Deborah Houchin three times in her Arlington home before dumping her body behind a mechanic’s shop in 2005. During three days of testimony, the jury was told how the couple fought often in the months before her death.

(Link): Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

A marriage counselor was sentenced to life in prison Friday for fatally shooting his ex-fiancee.

Earlier in the day, jurors convicted Lester Winningham, 59, of murder.

Authorities say the licensed psychologist shot Deborah Houchin three times in her Arlington home before dumping her body behind a mechanic’s shop in 2005.

Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

I really do want conservative think tanks, pro-family groups, conservative television host Tucker Carlson, and complementarian or conservative Christians to explain to me how marriage or “the family” makes society better, or how marriage is necessary to make a person mature, godly, or a “true” adult,  when I keep seeing so many news stories of married people who kill each other, or news items about husbands who are caught using child porn, beating their wives, or visiting prostitutes.

Marriage did not do anything to make this woman behave in a godly, mature, kind-hearted nature towards her husband.

I am someone who is over the age of 45, I’ve never been married, and I deeply resent conservative talk show hosts or “pro-family” Christian groups who keep acting as though everyone needs to be married, and if they are not, they are ruining society or are incapable of being godly and mature.

The Bible teaches that being single is fine with God – see 1 Corinthians chapter 7. No where does the Bible teach that marriage is mandatory for any reason – not to “save” culture or to make people more “godly.”

This article says that the wife may have dementia or mental health problems – well, did marriage keep this woman from developing mental health issues? No, it did not.

Christians and conservatives need to stop holding marriage or “the family” up as some kind of magical fix-alls.

(Link): Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

An elderly Florida woman beat her husband to death with a cane on Saturday, police said.

Ramona Maxine Lund, 86, from Pace, is charged with 89-year-old Francis Lund’s murder,the Orlando Sentinel reported. She is the oldest person in the county to be charged with murder, Santa Rosa County Sheriff Bob Johnson said at a press conference Monday.

Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death (1987) – Equally Yoked Is Pointless

Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death (1987) – Equally Yoked Is Pointless

Some Christians insist that single Christian women can and should marry only Christian men.

But why on earth should any Christian woman bother dating or marrying Christian men, when some of them do things like murder other people? See the news coverage below.

(Link): Trial Begins for Preacher Accused in Decapitation of Handyman – 1988

NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP) _ A minister went on trial Monday on charges of beheading a handyman and burning down his church in an alleged attempt to assume a new identity and disappear with $50,000 in church money.

Jury selection is expected to take most of the week in the first-degree murder and arson trial of the Rev. John David Terry, who faces the death penalty if convicted.

Terry may take the witness stand to break his yearlong silence in the decapitation of James C. Matheny.

The slaying and fire on June 15, 1987, at Emmanuel Church of Christ Pentecostal Oneness stunned Terry’s parishioners. Some have stuck by him since Matheny’s body was found rolled up in a scorched carpet.

(Link): Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death

This week “Grave Secrets” examines the case of Rev. John David Terry, a pastor who took a very dark path indeed.

Nashville, June 16, 1987, and the 44-year-old pastor is found dead after a fire at the church where he preached but the investigation soon reveals something is amiss.

 Terry’s path to crime partly stemmed from his feeling of having failed in life, a feeling he claimed became stronger after his mother died in 1983.

He then hatched a plan to fake his own death and befriended 32-year-old down on his luck father of one James C. Matheny.

He wanted to fake a robbery that would result in his heroic death and claimed that his plan was to include Matheny in the plot.

However, the detectives believe that he lured Matheny to the church and then shot him in the back of the head.

Woman Killed by Man She Began Dating After Her Husband Died of Cancer

Woman Killed by Man She Began Dating After Her Husband Died of Cancer

(Link): Woman slain with 2 children, mother was recently widowed

Excerpts:

A suburban St. Louis woman who was killed along with her two children and her mother had started dating her alleged killer after her husband died of cancer

Dec 2018

The man accused of killing a suburban St. Louis woman, her children and her mother began dating the woman as she rebuilt her life following her husband’s death from cancer.

Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

(Link): Virginia Man Who Preyed on Single Mothers to Gain Access To Their Daughters To Molest Them Given 60 Years

March 2017

ABINGDON, Va. –A Galax man accused of killing a woman and her daughter will serve 60 years in federal prison on child pornography charges.

Richard Nofsinger, 37, previously pleaded guilty to three counts of producing child pornography. On Tuesday, in a United States District Court, Judge James P. Jones sentenced Nofsinger to 60 years in federal prison.

Nofsinger is also charged with first-degree murder in the deaths of Galax resident 28-year-old Alyssa Kenny and her 21-month-old daughter. He has not yet gone to trial on those charges, according to WDBJ.

The mother and daughter were found dead inside their home on Laurel Street in Galax on March 10. The town of Galax is located off Interstate 77, near the Virginia-North Carolina line.

Woman Accidentally Killed Partner, 73, With Sleeping Pills ‘Used to Calm His Libido’

Woman Accidentally Killed Partner, 73, With Sleeping Pills ‘Used to Calm His Libido’

Well, if you’re single, your chances are high you’re not going to have to deal with any of this. If you’re a celibate guy, you’re not likely to have any Viagara around, nor a girlfriend who’s going to kill you.

(Link): Woman Accidentally Killed Partner, 73, With Sleeping Pills ‘Used to Calm His Libido’

The 62-year-old known only as Silvia M slipped her boyfriend sleeping pills so he would “be quiet and go to sleep”

A wife accidentally killed her 73-year-old partner after giving him sleeping pills because she couldn’t keep up with his high sex drive.

The Green River Serial Killer and Necrophiliac Was A Christian Married Father

The Green River Serial Killer and Necrophiliac Was A Christian Married Father

There was a television special on a few days ago about Gary Ridgway, who is the Green River serial killer.

Several aspects of this pervert’s life are relevant to subjects I discuss regularly on this blog, so keep on reading…

Ridgway had upwards of around 70 women victims, most in age of about 15 to their early 20s, though a few may have been around 12 or 13 years old.

Most of Ridgway’s victims were prostitutes, some were runaway kids.

Ridgway later admitted to authorities to occasionally going back and having sex with the dead bodies of his murder victims.

Here is how this pervert’s story is relevant to this blog:

Point 1. Marriage and Parenthood Do Not Make People Into Godly, Mature, Responsible Adults

I grew up in Southern Baptist churches. Both my parents were Southern Baptists.

Like many other conservative Christian groups, Southern Baptists peddle some untrue and un-biblical notions about marriage, natalism, and the family unit: they tend to assume and they will also sometimes teach, that marriage or parenthood are necessary to make a person fully adult, mature, godly, responsible, and ethical.

Jilted Woman Who “Cooked Ex And Served Him To Unsuspecting People” Is Caught After Victim’s Tooth Is Spotted In Blender

Jilted Woman Who “Cooked Ex And Served Him To Unsuspecting People” Is Caught After Victim’s Tooth Is Spotted In Blender

Holy cow.

Sometimes, when I see stuff like this, I think, yes, it really is good to be single.

(Link): Jilted Woman Who ‘Cooked Ex and Served Him To Unsuspected Builders’ Is Caught After Victim’s Brother Spots Tooth in Blender

by Jon Lockett
Nov 2018

The Moroccan woman, whose identity has not been released, then threw the rest of the remains to dogs in her neighbourhood

A JEALOUS woman has been accused of killing, mincing and cooking up her lover after he revealed he wanted to marry someone else.

She allegedly made a traditional machboos – a Gulf recipe similar to biriyani – using his flesh before serving it to local builders in the United Arab Emirates.

The Moroccan woman, whose identity has not been released, then reportedly threw the rest of his remains to dogs in her neighbourhood.

Widow, 35, and Her 12-Year-Old Son Are Knifed To Death By Violent Russian Criminal She Met On A Dating Site

Widow, 35, and Her 12-Year-Old Son Are Knifed To Death By Violent Russian Criminal She Met On A Dating Site

(Link): Widow, 35, and Her 12-Year-Old Son Are Knifed To Death By Violent Russian Criminal She Met On A Dating Site

by Will Stewart, November 9, 2018

A 35-year-old widow and her 12-year-old son have been stabbed to death by a violent criminal she met on a dating website.

[Photo caption: Ekaterina [the murder victim] (left) had met Batygin [the killer] on a dating website after her 61-year-old husband Vadim (together right) had died from a heart attack]

Ekaterina Smirnova was killed by Dmitry Batygin, 30, at her home in Moscow which was then filled with gas in the hopes it would explode and destroy evidence.

Police say Batygin carefully planned the murders, wearing shoe covers to disguise his shoe-prints and gloves so as not to leave fingerprints behind.

Chris Watts Accused Of Having Affair With A Man He Met On Homosexual Dating Site Before Allegedly Killing Wife and Kids

Chris Watts Accused Of Having Affair With A Man He Met On Homosexual Dating Site Before Allegedly Killing Wife and Kids

Let’s hear it for those false Christian teachings about marriage and fatherhood!

Like, it’s supposedly necessary (many conservative Christians and their think tanks insist) for someone to get married and have children to be fully mature self-less and responsible. And supposedly if everyone was in a Nuclear Family, all sin in the United States would cease to exist!

Next, we have some Christians who teach or imply that marriage is some kind of reward for those who become godly or develop some other qualities (yes, some of the Christian literature I read as I was growing up taught this sort of thing).

As you can see, though, from all the losers (like the guy below) who do end up getting married, a person does not have to be godly, wonderful, physically attractive, responsible, or mature, to gain a spouse. God is obviously not with-holding spouses from the inept or sleazy – if he were, we wouldn’t see losers like this one getting married.

(Link): Pregnant Woman Had ‘Marital Problems’ with Husband Accused of Murdering Her and Daughters

(Link):  Man claims he had affair with dad accused of killing wife, kids

(Link):  Chris Watts: Man claims he ‘dated’ husband accused of killing wife and daughters ‘after meeting him on gay dating app’

(Link):  Dad Chris Watts – accused of murdering pregnant wife and daughters – trawled hook-up apps for gay sex, news show caller claims

…”I asked him to make sure he’s not bisexual cause he had two children. He told me he didn’t know. At that moment he was attracted to me as a male,” the man told Banfield.

The man even bizarrely claims he spent time with Watts’ family after he was apparently reassured by Watts that he no longer had sex with his wife.

US TV host Ashleigh Banfield – who fronts the show Crime & Justice – said she spoke to the man but admits she can’t stand up his claims.

“He reached out to me and messaged me,'” the man alleged.

 “It was small talk. He told me his age. He had two daughters.

“He told me he was looking for a relationship in the long run.

“I asked why his profile said straight. He said he was not out and not ready to be out as far as sexuality.”

Watts was said to have been having an affair with a female colleague, however the man now alleges Watts, 33, was not sure of his sexuality.

(Link): Chris Watts Accused Of Having Affair With A Man Before Allegedly Killing Wife & Kids — Watch

Excerpts:

A man went on live TV on Aug. 28 and claimed he had alleged 10-month affair with Chris Watts before Chris allegedly killed his pregnant wife and two daughters. The alleged lover also claimed he met Chris’ kids!

Chris Watts, 33, (Link): admitted to an affair with a co-worker, according to his arrest affidavit, and now an unidentified man has come forward to allege he had a sexual relationship with Chris.

Wife Kills Husband in Argument Over Porn

Wife Kills Husband in Argument Over Porn

It doesn’t look to me as though marriage makes people more godly or mature. Al Mohler and other Christians need to walk back that pro- marriage propaganda they’re always spewing, in light of news items such as this:

(sorry, but I can’t finish this post tonight, my web connection sucks – I’ll see if I can fix things…)

According to one article, she killed him because he was watching too much porn on TV. Well, I hope that was some spectacular porn, because he paid for it with his life.

(Link):  She Shot Her Husband After He Bought Porn

(Link):  Arkansas woman shoots, kills husband over pornography, police say

An Arkansas woman was arrested Saturday after telling police she shot and killed her husband because he bought pornography, officials said.

The Jefferson County Sheriff’s Office said in a news release it received a call around 2:30 p.m. from 69-year-old Patricia Hill, who told dispatchers she just shot her 65-year-old husband, Frank.

Woman ‘Strangled her BDSM Lover During Rough Sex’ then ‘Chopped Up the Body and Kept His Head in the Fridge’

Woman ‘Strangled her BDSM Lover During Rough Sex’ then ‘Chopped Up the Body and Kept His Head in the Fridge’

There are times it is good to be single and celibate, distinct advantages, like not having to marry so much as being decapitated by a romantic partner.

(Link): Woman ‘Strangled her BDSM Lover During Rough Sex’ then ‘Chopped Up the Body and Kept His Head in the Fridge‘ – July 2018

WARNING: DISTRESSING CONTENT
-Anastasia Onegina, 21, killed lover Dmitry Sinkevich, 24, a former policeman
-Onegina and Sinkevich were known to have been interested in the occult
-Corpse was butchered with kitchen knife to make it look like Satanic idol

A 21-year-old Russian student ‘accidentally strangled her lover during a rough sex session’ then dismembered his body in a grotesque Satanic sacrificial ritual, says a lawyer.

Anastasia Onegina killed lover Dmitry Sinkevich, 24, a former policeman and conscript soldier, at her flat in Oryol before slicing him up using a kitchen knife.

She beheaded him, cut off his genitals and cheeks, severed his limbs, removed several fingers and toes and then gutted him.

Tinder Murder: Boxer Killed and Dismembered Date Because She Lied About Being A Virgin

Tinder Murder: Boxer Killed and Dismembered Date Because She Lied About Being A Virgin

What a nut.

(Link): Tinder Murder: Boxer Killed and Dismembered Date Because She Liked About Being A Virgin

May 2018

Gary Chu is believed to have killed Yee-min Huang after the pair met on the dating app – before going on to kill himself.

Detectives said Chu, 28, is believed to have murdered her in a jealous rage after finding out she was not a virgin.

Officers also suspect Huang, 27, had been cheating on him at the time of the killing.

Woman Accused of Serving Lover’s Remains in Barbecue

Woman Accused of Serving Lover’s Remains in Barbecue

Good lord.

(Link): Woman Accused of Serving Lover’s Remains in Barbecue

Excerpts

An Indiana woman who injected her husband with a lethal dose of heroin before smothering him with a pillow may be responsible for nine other deaths — and is suspected of serving her lover’s remains to unsuspecting neighbors at a barbecue.

Gold State Killer and Serial Rapist Joseph James DeAngelo Is a Father

As I was just saying in the last post:

Let us once more, for the millionth time on this blog, point out what Christian – and sometimes secular – conservatives get wrong (I am speaking here as a conservative myself, one who at times disagrees with other conservatives), in lieu of news stories like the one I am copying below:

-Marriage does not make people more godly, responsible, mature, or ethical

-God does not require a single adult who desires marriage to become pure, holy, godly, or perfect before he sends them a spouse

-The Christian “Equally Yoked” rule is unnecessary and too limiting for Christian women who’d like to marry, since there are not enough Christian single men for Christian single women to marry.
Furthermore, many Christian men turn out to be adulterers, pedophiles, wife abusers, and god only knows what else they are guilty of (see (Link): this list for examples), so that Christian single women are better off selecting a man to marry based on his actions and character, rather than his stated religious beliefs.

I mention all that because news broke today that some guy known to be a serial rapist and serial killer in 1970s and 1980s California was also apparently married, or at least the father of children (this is from a Tweet by the New York Times):

The suspect, Joseph James DeAngelo, who has adult children, was twice employed as a police officer in California: In Exeter from 1973 to 1976, and in Auburn from 1976 to 1979, according to the sheriff of Sacramento County.

Nothing about being married or a parent (or even having been a police officer) at one stage turned this guy into an up-standing, law abiding citizen.

More links:

Golden State Killer: Ex-cop Joseph James DeAngelo arrested as suspect in serial murder-rapes

by Doug Stanglin, April 2018

After six days of surveillance and the analysis of a discarded DNA sample, police in Sacramento arrested a 72-year-old ex-cop Wednesday as the suspected Golden State Killer in a series of rapes and murders that terrorized California communities in the 1970s and 1980s.

Brit Arrested For Kicking His Thai Wife to death After She Spurned His Advances

Brit Arrested For Kicking His Thai Wife to death After She Spurned His Advances

Obviously, the murder is horrific – but I also note that the husband is 51 years old, the wife was 29. Here is what I’ve said before about such  (Link): May December relationships?

Any way, if you’re a single woman like me who had wanted to marry, but still find yourself single, such news stories show that being married in and of itself is not a great thing if your husband is an abusive loser, like this guy in this article.

Let this also go to show (yet again) that marriage does not make people more godly, mature, or responsible, as so many Marriage-Idolating, Anti-Singles Christians and conservative think tanks like to argue.

(Link): Brit Arrested For Kicking His Thai Wife to death After She Spurned His Advances

April 2018

A British man has been arrested in Thailand for allegedly kicking his wife to death after she refused to have sex with him.

Kevin Smitham, 51, had been staying with wife Kanda Smitham, 29, and their parents in Ubon Ratchathani, Thailand, during the Songkran new year holiday.

But he is said to have flown into a drunken jealous rage — accusing his wife of cheating on him when she refused to have sex on Sunday evening.

Texas Church Shooter, Who Was An Anti-Theist Atheist, Tried to Bribe Underage Girls to Date Him

Texas Church Shooter, Who Was An Anti-Theist Atheist, Tried to Bribe Underage Girls to Date Him

I think other articles said this guy is an ex-Christian who became an atheist, who wrote anti-theist rhetoric online. Yeah, I googled and found this:

(Link): Devin Patrick Kelley: An anti-Christian, atheist ‘outcast’

Devin Patrick Kelley, the 26-year-old who stormed First Baptist Church in Texas and shot and killed 26 and wounded scores more, was described by former school classmates as an “outcast” and atheist who used social media to mock Christianity.

(Link): Texas Gunman Devin Kelley Was Atheist Who Taught Vacation Bible School

(Link): Texas Church Shooter Tried to Bribe Underage Girls to Date Him

Excerpts:

By Max Jaeger

Texas church shooter  Devin Patrick Kelley was so pathetic, he tried to bribe and threatened ex-girlfriends to take him back — and he stooped so low as to date a 13-year-old when he was 18, according to former flings.

“He was very sick in the head,” Katy Landry, a former girlfriend of Devin Patrick Kelley, told NBC News. “Years after dating me he would try to bribe me to hang out with him. He ended up assaulting me.”

Church-Goer and Her Pastor Lover Killed Her Husband So They Could Be Together

Church-Goer and Her Pastor Lover Killed Her Husband So They Could Be Together

(Disclaimer: I am a conservative, always have been. This does not mean I completely agree with other conservatives on all issues.)

This news story once more disproves several Christian and secular conservative assumptions, such as: marriage makes people more godly, mature, and responsible; that God will not grant an imperfect person a spouse, and that being “Equally Yoked” (marrying another Christian) means that your spouse will be up-standing, a decent person, loving, caring, etc.

(Link):  Church-Goer and Her Pastor Lover Killed Her Husband So They Could Be Together March 2017, by Gail Shortland

Excerpts:

Cindy was devoted to the church and the clergyman who preached there…

…Accountant Cindy Reese, 40, lived with her husband Michael, also 40, in Morris, Alabama. They’d been married six years, and had met after Cindy’s first husband had committed suicide.

The couple had a seemingly normal and idyllic life in their picture-perfect white-painted house nestled under the shade of the trees.

…The couple were religious and regularly attended the local Sardis Baptist Church, where Cindy was also head of music. But things were far from perfect. In 2013, Jeffery Brown, 36, became senior pastor at the church.

Cindy was taken with the clergyman and they started an affair.

Twisted Dad Allegedly Killed Son Who Found His ‘Disgusting’ Fetish Photos

Twisted Dad Allegedly Killed Son Who Found His ‘Disgusting’ Fetish Photos

Christians and conservative think tanks really need to stop promoting this idea that parenthood or marriage are necessary to make a person mature, loving, or godly, or that either one can “fix” culture.

I’m a conservative, but I realize it’s un-biblical and wrong for other conservatives to keep hyping parenthood and marriage as they do.

Here’s another example where parenthood and marriage did not make a person loving, godly, responsible, or mature:

(Link): Son Murdered for Taunting Diaper-Wearing Dad, Prosecutors Say

(Link): Father ‘killed his son, 13, after the boy found and mocked compromising photos of him eating feces from a diaper he was wearing and posing in women’s clothes with makeup on’

In 2015, the teenager’s skull was found just 1.5 miles away from his dad’s home

(Link): Twisted Dad Allegedly Killed Son Who Found His ‘Disgusting’ Fetish Photos

By Lia Eustachewich
July 26, 2017

A twisted Colorado father was driven to allegedly murder his son when the teen discovered “disgusting” photos of the deviant dad eating feces from a diaper while dressed in women’s clothes, according to reports.

Mark Redwine allegedly flew into a rage when his 13-year-old son, Dylan, and his older brother Cory unearthed the embarrassing snaps, ABC 7 in Denver reported.

Man with HIV Charged with Murder After Girlfriend Dies of AIDS

Man with HIV Charged with Murder After Girlfriend Dies of AIDS

American culture inside and outside the church glorifies sex and ridicules celibates, but it looks to me there are sometimes advantages to being celibate, such as…

(Link): Man with HIV Charged with Murder After Girlfriend Dies of AIDS

by AP, June 7, 2017

A married man accused of not telling his longtime girlfriend that he was HIV-positive was charged with murder after the woman died of AIDS.