Dating, Marriage, Male Entitlement, and ‘My 600 LB Life’ TV Show

Dating, Marriage, Male Entitlement, and ‘My 600 LB Life’ TV Show

This is going to be one of those posts that meanders all over the place.

I’m not really sure where to start.

I’ve been watching a cable TV show called “My 600 LB Life” for over a year now. Aspects of content I see on this show remind me of some of the subjects I blog about on here.

I’m not sure exactly why I watch this show, but I find it riveting, and sometimes horrifying. It’s a reality program. Each show features a real-life person who is 600 or more pounds over-weight.

I do not watch the show to make fun of or laugh at the obese people.

I watch, I suppose, because I am interested in their life stories and what drove them to cope with life’s problems by over-eating to the point they become morbidly obese.

I also tune in to learn medical information about what happens to a body once it gets up to 600 pounds.

I learned from this show that not only does the body get a lot of fat on it (obviously), and the heart has a harder time pumping, but obese people can and do develop all sorts of secondary issues, such as painful bumps, scales, and swelling on their legs (which are referred to as, or the result of, things such as (Link): Cellulitis and (Link): Lymphedema).

The majority of the time, I feel empathy for the obese people on this show.

I am wishing them all the best and hoping they lose the weight and recover and get over whatever childhood horror and pain led them to over-eat (most cases of this show consist of someone who turned to food as comfort after they were neglected, molested, or abused in childhood).

There have been a few cases on this show, such as Steve Assanti, Chuck, and James K., where I have little to no empathy at all, because the person is whiny, ungrateful, abusive, rude, or incredibly self-absorbed.

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On Not Filtering Every Choice Through the Bible

On Not Filtering Every Choice Through the Bible

This is one of those topics I’m working my way through right now. Maybe a year from now, my opinion will flip on it. But here is where I am now.

I was first made aware of this post from John Piper’s “Desiring God” web site via someone posting to SCCL Facebook group.

Here it is:

(Link):  How to Drink Orange Juice to the Glory of God by John Piper

Excerpts:

  • I said that one of my reasons for believing this comes from 1 Corinthians 10:31. “Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” I asked, “Is it sin to disobey this Biblical commandment?” Yes.
  • …Some of you then asked the practical question: Well, how do you “eat and drink” to the glory of God? Say, orange juice for breakfast?
  • ….Orange juice was “created to be received with thanksgiving by those whobelieve the truth.” Therefore, unbelievers cannot use orange juice for the purpose God intended—namely, as an occasion for heartfelt gratitude to God from a truth heart of faith.
  • But believers can, and this is how they glorify God. Their drinking orange juice is “sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer.”

Yes, it’s an entire post explaining why and how Christians may drink Orange Juice to the glory of God.

This is a part of Christianity that I am glad to leave behind. In my faith crisis of the last few years, there have been some advantages to ceasing turning to the Bible as an authority in decision-making in life in every area.

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A Dating Video in Light of Being Equally Yoked Teaching

A Dating Video in Light of Being Equally Yoked Teaching

Facebook group  SCCL (Stuff Christian Culture Likes) posted a link to this video a few days back

I’ve watched the video, but I didn’t pay close attention to it. Several of the guys mentioned they wanted a “girl” who would be servant-minded – what, so they can serve these guys, bring them their beer and slippers when they get home from work? Bleh and puke.

Some of the guys in the video also mentioned wanting a girl who “dresses modestly.”

Someone on SCCL named, Elizabeth Burger, typed up a transcript of the video:

Transcript complete (typed by E. Burger):
[Three or Four Young Christian men speaking:]
I define a godly girl as a girl who is wholeheartedly pursuing God with her life.
A godly girl, to me, really understands that being a wife and a mother is an extremely high calling.

So to me, a godly girl is a girl who loves the Lord with all her heart and wants to serve Him.
To me, a godly girl is someone who is patient.

To me the most attractive thing about a girl is that she is really selfless.
I really admire when girls dress modestly.

I really admire a girl who is content with where God has her in life.
I admire a girl who has love for people.
I really admire a girl who is respectful towards her parents and is kind to her siblings.
Some character qualities that I really appreciate in a girl are selflessness, and a girl who is kind.

I admire a girl who gets outside of herself and invests in the lives of others.
I know a girl who really prioritizes God in her life. Every morning she talks with the Lord through prayer and reads her Bible and really just yearns to hear from the Lord.

Study: Porn Use by Men Could Be Reason For Declining Marriage Rates / Double Standard by Many Single Men: Single Men Too Entitled, Picky About Dating Criteria

Study: Porn Use by Men Could Be Reason For Declining Marriage Rates / Double Standard by Many Single Men: Single Men Too Entitled, Picky About Dating Criteria

So a new study says that the rise of porn use may be one reason behind the declining marriage rates.

But Christian sociologist Mark Regnerus says Christian single women should totally seek out these porn-addicted perverts as potential spouses, LOL. (Seriously, he did argue this point, read this).

I’ve seen Christian men in comment sections on other blogs act all offended or butt-hurt when women like me say, “Thanks, but no thanks, not interested in dating or marrying a porn user or porn addict.”

Christian men who object think we single ladies are supposed to show them all sorts of “grace” about their sexual sin (including porn viewing), and that porn use is just like any other sin, no big deal.

Sorry, no. Some women may not care about porn use or addiction, but some of us do, and that is our right.

I do wonder if the Christian men in the comment sections on other blogs who are butt-hurt that single women want nothing to do with porn addicts/users are porn users themselves.

It’s interesting how men, even Christian men, feel entitled to have criteria in dating or in marriage, but these same men do NOT believe that women should be allowed to have criteria.

Many single men are VERY picky and judgmental concerning who they are willing to date or marry.

Christian single men of all ages, even the 65 year olds, all demand and expect to marry a 25 year old woman, or a 45 year old who looks as though she is still age 25.

If, however, women have any criteria, preferences, or standards concerning whom they wish to date or marry, such as, “I’d rather not date or marry a male porn user,” men get very angry and miffed on web forums and blogs about this.

Men start lecturing us single ladies how we should not limit our dating pool to non-porn users.

But ask these same male idiots if they’d consider dating or marrying a woman who is 15 or more pounds overweight, who is over 35 years of age, or who is a brunette, and they instantly say, NO.

Most men feel it is their right to have criteria in selecting a partner, but we women are supposed to consider any and every man who takes a fancy to us – nope, not gonna do that.

I’d rather stay single. I have a right to choose for myself who I want to date or not date.

(Link):  Free porn could be to blame for decline in U.S. marriage rates, researchers say

(Link): Rise of free internet porn delays people getting married 

(Link):  Shock study: Marriage rate declines with porn use, threatening economy, society

(Link):  Porn getting in the way of marriage?

(Link):  Americans aren’t getting married, and researchers think porn is part of the problem

(Link): Rise of internet porn could be to blame for lower marriage rates, study claims, as men find ‘low-cost sexual gratification’ without being tied to a relationship

  • Pornography is an ‘important factor’ in the decline in marriage formation
  • Researchers said it was ‘disrupting traditional family arrangements’ 
  • And found policies like the UK’s porn filter could reduce useage

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