Despite Marrying His Son’s Ex-Wife, and Allegedly Grooming and Dating Her While She Was Still Married to His Son, a Pastor Remains in His Position

Despite Marrying His Son’s Ex-Wife, and Allegedly Grooming and Dating Her While She Was Still Married to His Son, a Pastor Remains in His Position

I so tire of seeing other conservatives keep spewing out excessive marriage praise. Marriage does not, contrary to what those conservatives say, make people more godly, responsible, ethical or loving, nor does it “save” society.

I myself am a conservative, I am not against marriage, but I am opposed to the unrealistic views of marriage (and the nuclear family) that so many other conservatives have.

Also, let this be a lesson that finding a godly spouse in church is a joke – some of the biggest dirt bags and wolves attend church or work as preachers – and “equally yoked” is a joke and a waste of time if you’re a single Christian woman.

Stories like the one below demonstrate that a person doesn’t have to be holy, clean themselves up, be perfect, or be good to earn or merit a spouse from God (that was fairly common advice in Christian dating articles and books I read years ago).

(Link):  MN Pastor Who Married Son’s Ex-Wife Remains in Ministry, But Son’s TikToks Going Viral


May 9, 2023
By Jessica Eturralde

Despite marrying his son’s ex-wife, and allegedly grooming and dating her while she was still married to his son, a Minnesota pastor remains in his position. The pastor’s son, however, is now going public with the 14-year-old, shocking story on TikTok—and his videos are going viral [his video on TikTok can be viewed here].

… Through a string of TikTok videos spanning months, Drew explained how their family split apart after his father married Drew’s ex-wife, following Drew’s mother’s death.

…Since then, Drew has published 21 videos, unveiling the stunning story.

According to Minnesota Family Law Attorney Johanna Clyborne, Bill Matthews’ marriage to Ana Lorena may not be legal.

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Miserable in a Marriage to a Covert Narcissist – Content by Renee Swanson – Complementarians Push People to Stay in Toxic Marriages Like This One (This Content Can Help Single Adults Too)

Miserable in a Marriage to a Covert Narcissist – Content by Renee Swanson (This Content Can Help Single Adults Too) – Complementarians Push People to Stay in Toxic Marriages Like This One

This post has been edited to add more material

It would be nice if more psychologists, therapists and lay persons wrote articles or blog posts from the vantage of how things affect single adults, but that’s not always the case.

As you know from my blog, I am a never married, middle-aged adult. Yet, I still find some content about marriage helpful in navigating or understanding my relationships with family members and friends.

This lady, Renee Swanson, has a blog, several social media channels, and a podcast about having been married to a Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissist for 21 years – in my opinion, based on what she’s written, her husband is not only a Covert Narcissist but displays elements of what is called Neglectful Narcissism (more on that below).

It looks to me as though some of Swanson’s accounts have not been updated in two or so years, but the content is still quite helpful and illuminating.

I’m going to excerpt a few of her blog posts below.

I want you to note that contrary to what extreme marriage (and parenthood and nuclear family) promoters have to say, that marriage (and parenthood, etc), does not necessarily make a person happy, safe, and secure, as Renee Swanson’s content once again demonstrates.

The person you marry, should you marry, can end up being emotionally, sexually, financially, or physically controlling, negligent, or irresponsible.

There are some personality disorders for which there is no cure, and for which the disorder is largely impervious to therapy.

Which means, should you marry someone with one of those disorders, such as severe pathological narcissism, your partner is never going to change or get better, no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, or how much you do for them, love them, or pray for them.

I think that the Christian gender complementarian interpretation of the Bible is incorrect on many topics, but certainly in regards to divorce.

Many complementarian persons, churches, denominations, and pastors believe that the Bible never allows for divorce, including in cases of physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse.

Such anti-divorce, complementarian churches and pastors frequently mistakenly teach people (usually women) who are married to abusers to simply submit more to their spouse, and that will make the mistreatment stop. Such pastors, churches, etc, are entirely ignorant about personality disorders and abuse dynamics.

If these complementarian, anti-divorce clowns spent any time at all looking up information on abuse dynamics or personality disorders, they would learn soon enough that there is nothing another person can do to fix, change, or heal an abusive or toxic person – and the spouse sure won’t be able to do it.

I’ve never married, but I’ve had family members, co-workers, bosses, friends, and acquaintances display presence of disorders or toxic behaviors, and no matter how kind and loving I was to those persons, it didn’t get their abuse of me to stop.

In each case, I either had to limit contact with the toxic person, or cut them out of my life entirely. The same should be true of marriage – you may have to limit contact with your toxic spouse (grey rocking or yellow rocking), or divorce the person.

The following blog post by Renee (the second one featured below, particularly) accurately explains many family and friendship relationships I’ve had over the course of my life.

I used to be extremely Codependent until a few years ago, and during the time I was Codependent, I often attracted Vulnerable Narcissists, or self absorbed, perpetually angry (or depressed) people, who would contact me mainly to complain to me about their problems, where they’d expect me to just listen and give empathy, something I did for many people for many years, and it left me mentally exhausted.

And those who used me as their “Free Therapist” rarely did anything to work on their own problems or their own mental health.

Such persons preferred to take their frustration, disappointment, pain, or anger in life, and phone or text me about it, and make their pain my pain.

It’s as though some of them wanted me to handle or carry their inner pain for them, so they wouldn’t have to face it or carry it themselves. But no person can do that for another person. It’s something we must each do for ourselves.

And the people dumping all their pain or anger in life on me very rarely (or never) allowed me to discuss MY pain or MY frustrations in life with THEM.

When you are a people pleaser, an emotional dependent, a Codependent, or an empath with no boundaries, you will often end up in these unfair friendships (or marriages), where you’re meeting the needs of the perpetually wounded or disordered person, but they generally refuse to meet your needs in return.

(Link):  The Narcissist’s Constant Victim Role


by Renee Swanson

Covert narcissists are constant victims. Everyone has done them wrong. Everyone has injured their precious ego at some point or another.

The whole world is responsible for their anger, negativity, lack of initiative, lack of motivation, and even their lack of empathy. From the tiniest injury to the grandest, the narcissist continues to be the never-ending victim.

This causes all relationships with the narcissist to be strained and exhausting.

When the narcissist plays the victim so well, it leaves you with two roles in life. You are either the therapist or the enemy. You are either the rescuer or the perpetrator.

The trouble is that healthy people do not want to play these roles with their loved ones.

Your Role as a Therapist

Healthy individuals recognize that they cannot serve as a rescuer to their parent, spouse, adult child, friend, boss, etc. When a person is constantly relying on your approval and validation in order to feel good about themselves, this is not a healthy situation.

You are not helping them or yourself. You are not their therapist and should not serve as such. They need to be working on their own problems on their own, just as you should be with yours.

… Your Role As Enemy

… That peace, however [that you get from constantly apologizing to the Covert Narcissist], will be short-lived. There are not enough apologies in the world to satisfy the victim role of a narcissist.

Their pain comes from within, and yet they constantly look for external reasons and external solutions. Those solutions will NEVER be good enough. To stop being the perpetrator, you have to set your own boundaries and walk away.
— end excerpts —

You’ll note in this next blog post, excerpted below, how being married to this Covert Narcissist of hers, whom she refers to as Steven (not his real name) for 21 years did not bring this lady any joy or peace.

She does say in other podcasts or blog posts, and I think maybe this one, that there were a few moments of happiness with her husband here and there, but ultimately, her spouse would display his sullen, entitled, insensitive nature the majority of the time.

The thing about abusive or toxic people is that they are rarely abusive or toxic 100% of the time.

Abusive or toxic individuals have moments or days where they can be fun, loving, or considerate – so, you end up thinking the relationship is not so bad; it’s intermittent reinforcement (which I believe plays a role in “trauma bonding,” or is the basis of it) – that combined with fear and false hope can keep someone stuck in a terrible relationship for years.

Remember, just because your toxic or abusive person (family member, spouse, friend, whoever it is) occasionally acts nicely towards you, or treats you to a lovely dinner on your birthday, gifts you with a wonderful vacation or a ruby necklace, or whatever nice gesture or gift
– does not excuse or make-up for the rest of the relationship, where they are constantly invalidating you, neglecting you, nit picking you, overtly abusing you, or exploiting you!

Narcissists are known for “Love Bombing” their victims. You will waste years of your life on this person, longing to “bring back” the nice, sweet, kind funny version of them that they first put on display when you were first dating (or befriending) them, but that was a fake persona. It was never genuine.

The person who chronically invalidates or who ignores you now is the “real” them.

You’re never (permanently) getting back to that fake “nice, charming, loving” version of them again, unless they sense you are going to dump them, in which case, they will temporarily put on the “nice guy” (or the “I’m a poor, helpless victim in life, please help me, rescue me”) mask again (called “hoovering“) to “breadcrumb” you. Don’t fall for it.

(Link): How the Covert Narcissist Plays Rejection, Abandonment, and Abuse

Excerpts (you should read her ENTIRE post, not just the portion below):

by Renee Swanson

My marriage lasted almost 21 years. For most of these years, I convinced myself and the world that I had the perfect marriage. We were simply great together.

There was no other option available. The mind is powerful and can do amazing things. I truly believed that it was a match made in heaven and that he was perfect for me.

…Besides we had some really good days in between these outbursts. So I swept it under the rug every time and continued to believe that our marriage was great and wonderful.

Ever so slowly, my eyes started opening. …

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Conservative Host Steven Crowder Says His Wife Wants a Divorce

Conservative Host Steven Crowder Says His Wife Wants a Divorce

(Updates Below)

(Link): Podcast: David Instone-Brewer On Divorce and Remarriage in the Church

The Bible offers guidance on many issues. But when it coms to issues like divorce and remarriage in the church, there are still many questions that don’t have quick and easy answers. Questions like …

Is adultery the only grounds for divorce?
Is remarriage considered adultery?
What should you do if your spouse walks away from the marriage?

Dr. David Instone-Brewer helps clear things up on these issues that continue to remain controversial in the church today.

Crowder Announces Divorce

I saw “divorce” – the word – trending on Twitter, clicked on that, where I saw people tweeting that conservative host Steven Crowder announced that his wife wants a divorce.

I do recall years ago, seeing Crowder saying he and his wife waited until marriage to have sex, which I respect.

I can edit this post later to add any more information that comes to light, if I find it interesting or whatever.

This just goes to show that marriage is not a fairy tale, nor is it a guarantee for ongoing happiness. You can get married and still end up being miserable – if your spouse asks for a divorce, and you don’t want one – or if your spouse is abusive, a serial cheater, or what have you.

You can get married, and your spouse still want to end the relationship, leaving you single once more. I’m guessing that marriage didn’t bring this guy happiness, and certainly not his wife – she wants out.

I’m a conservative, I’m not anti-Nuclear Family nor am I anti-parenthood, but I am so sick and tired of other conservatives tendency to elevate marriage, parenthood and The Nuclear Family to a station that even the Bible does not. The Bible does NOT REVERE the Nuclear Family (or marriage, etc).

But many of the conservatives (maybe all) revere all that. Conservatives as a group tend to bash others over the head all the time with the “rah rah motherhood, rah rah marriage” rhetoric and shame anyone who isn’t married, who doesn’t have children, who cannot or does not want to get married or have children.

Then they turn around and get divorces. Or are found out for having committed adultery or child molesting.

I will say that at least most conservatives have standards, whereas progressives just don’t. But sometimes I wonder what good is it having certain standards if you’re going to fail them consistently?

Why bother shaming or judging never married, childless women such as myself for being single and childless (which many conservatives often do) when you cannot even keep your own marriage together?

I have more to say below all these links and excerpts:

(Link): SINGLE CROWDER Who is Steven Crowder’s estranged wife Hilary Crowder? 

(Link): ‘NOT MY CHOICE’ Steven Crowder announces ‘horrendous divorce’ from wife Hilary as YouTuber speaks out on ‘deepest personal failure’

April 25, 2023

POLITICAL commentator and YouTuber Steven Crowder revealed that he and his wife, Hilary, are getting a divorce after a decade of marriage.

Crowder made the announcement on Tuesday during an episode of his podcast, Louder with Crowder.

…”Since 2021, I’ve been living through what has increasingly been a horrendous divorce.”

Crowder clarified that the end of his marriage wasn’t a result of infidelity or any kind of physical abuse on either side.

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Virginia Woman Convicted of Killing Two Young Daughters in Twisted Revenge Plot on Ex-Husband

Virginia Woman Convicted of Killing Two Young Daughters in Twisted Revenge Plot on Ex-Husband

To counter-act some of the usual talking points I heard from fellow conservatives as I grew up, and that I still hear now from them:

Does marriage or parenthood make a person more godly, responsible, ethical, or loving? Nope. Did this woman have to achieve some level of perfection or loving-kindness before God granted her a spouse? Apparently not.

(Link): Va. Mom Murdered Her 2 Daughters, Then Called Their Father to Tell Him What She’d Done

Veronica Youngblood allegedly gave her daughters sleeping pill gummies before she shot them

March 23, 2023

.. Prosecutors argued that Youngblood murdered her children to get back at her ex-husband who was allegedly scheduled to move out of the state with Brooklynn, the Post reported.

(Link): Virginia Mother Found Guilty of Killing Her Two Daughters


March 22, 2023

A Virginia woman was found guilty of murder in the 2018 shootings of her two daughters.

Prosecutors said Veronica Youngblood shot 5-year-old Brooklynn and 15-year-old Sharon in their McLean apartment just days before Brooklynn was supposed to move to live with her father.

…“She said her mom came into the room and said, ‘I’m gonna take you to see God,’ and then shot her,” the officer testified.

Youngblood was arrested after calling her ex-husband and leaving him a voicemail confessing and telling him she hated him.

(Link): Virginia woman convicted of killing 2 young daughters in twisted revenge plot on ex-husband

March 26, 2023
By Steve Janoski

A Virginia woman has been found guilty of murdering her two young daughters in what prosecutors said was a twisted attempt to get revenge on her ex-husband, who planned to move away with one of the girls.

Veronica Youngblood, 37, had admitted that she killed her kids, 15-year-old Sharon Castro and 5-year-old Brooklynn Youngblood — but she pleaded not guilty by reason of insanity to the Aug. 5, 2018 murders, according to the Washington Post.

However, the jury was not convinced that mental illness was a major factor in the slayings.

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Preacher Charles Stanley of InTouch Ministries Has Died at Age 90

Preacher Charles Stanley of InTouch Ministries Has Died at Age 90

I used to watch Stanley’s “In Touch” program quite often in my 20s and even into my 30s.

I occasionally disagreed with his position on a topic here or there, but it’s sad to hear he passed.

He was notorious for once having said (in the 1980s I think?) that divorced people can never serve as pastors and should step down when they get a divorce, but after he and his wife divorced (they never came out and said why the two divorced, Stanley just said it was over his behavior due to things he picked up in childhood), he then refused to step down as pastor himself.

So, dude preached against divorced men holding office of pastor, but when he later divorced, he refused to step down as pastor.

It’s really strange that he’s gone now. He was one of those guys you’d always see on Christian stations.

(Link): Dr. Charles Stanley, influential Atlanta faith leader and author, dies at 90

April 18, 2023

ATLANTA – Dr. Charles Frazier Stanley, the senior pastor at First Baptist Church Atlanta and the founder of In Touch Ministries has died.

FOX 5’s Buck Lanford has confirmed First Baptist Atlanta Senior Pastor Anthony Georgia that the influential Atlanta faith leader passed away peacefully at his home Tuesday morning.

For more than five decades, the pastor, broadcaster, and author served on the staff of First Baptist Atlanta. He was named Senior Pastor in 1971, becoming the 16th pastor at the historic church that was founded in 1848. Under Stanley’s leadership, the church saw unprecedented growth.

In 1997, FBA moved from its Midtown Atlanta location on Peachtree Street to the former Avon property in Dunwoody to accommodate its diverse membership of more than 15,000 from all over the metro area.

Stanley, who was born in Dry Fork, Virginia in 1932 would become a pioneer in religious broadcasting. He founded In Touch Ministries in 1977 to in his words, “Get the truth of the Gospel to as many people as possible”.

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Someone Asks Women What They Consider To Be A Bad Marriage, And They Don’t Hold Back (30 Answers)

Someone Asks Women What They Consider To Be A Bad Marriage, And They Don’t Hold Back (30 Answers)

That’s right, marriage doesn’t always end up being a font of never ending happiness and fulfillment. Sometimes the spouse can end up being a selfish, self absorbed, abusive, irresponsible, jerk and/or serial cheater.

I won’t be pasting in all 30 examples, just a few from this page:

(Link): Someone Asks Women What They Consider To Be A Bad Marriage, And They Don’t Hold Back (30 Answers)


by Jonas Grinevičius and Austėja Akavickaitė

It takes a lot of guts and honesty to admit that your marriage isn’t working. Instead of the happily ever after you imagined, you might have gotten into a relationship full of hidden intimacy issues, gaslighting, and unfairness.

When you fully recognize how bad the situation really is, you can start thinking about the future: whether you’ll do anything to salvage what you have or if it’s time to go your separate ways.

Redditor u/readitalreadydude sparked a very candid discussion on the r/AskWomen online community after asking its members what they consider to be a bad marriage.

The internet users opened up their hearts about how their own romantic lives had taken a turn for the worse. Read on for their stories, in their own words.

[Person One here sounds as though she was married to a stereotypical narcissist}:

(1) My personal experience was with a guy who was very charming and appeared to be everything I wanted in a partner.

Was with him over a decade, but a couple years of reflection after he left and I realized he controlled EVERYTHING in my life with manipulation.

Gaslighting, tearing me down in the guise of jokes, withholding sex and shaming me for ever wanting it (think not even once every 6 months), telling me I was a Nazi with money and guilting me out of handling our finances.

He left me for me best friend at my lowest. He’ll never admit to an affair, but they’ve been married for years now.

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Porsche Billionaire Files for Divorce Over Wife’s Dementia: Report

Porsche Billionaire Files for Divorce Over Wife’s Dementia: Report

A few years ago, when Pat Robertson was still hosting The 700 Club (he’s mostly retired from that now), he created a stir when he replied to a viewer question from a man who talked about his wife having dementia. From what I remember, Robertson told the man to go ahead and divorce his wife who had dementia.(*)

Marriage does not make people more godly, giving, or loving.

Marriage does NOT cancel out personality disorders, either, and a lot of these cruel, abusive, or selfish spouses you hear about often have a Cluster B personality disorder, such as sociopathy or narcissism.

Marriage is not a guarantee that you’ll have a “happily ever after” ending with someone to care for you until you die. Too many pro-nuclear family conservatives, everyone from Matt Walsh to Al Mohler to Abby Johnson and others, keep promoting that false “fairy tale” view of marriage.

(Link): Porsche billionaire files for divorce from wife, 74, ‘because she has dementia’

A billionaire has filed divorce proceedings against his elderly wife citing her ‘dementia-like illness’ as the reason he wants out of the marriage.

(Link): Porsche billionaire files for divorce over wife’s dementia: report

March 23, 2023
By Nika Shakhnazarova

Billionaire Porsche executive Wolfgang Porsche is divorcing his wife because her “dementia-like illness” has become unbearable for him, according to a report.

Sources close to the couple say the magnate, 79, finds it “impossible” to live with his wife, Claudia Porsche, 74, whose declining health has permanently altered her personality, (Link): the Daily Beast reported, citing German-language tabloid Bild.

The billionaire, who struck up a relationship with Claudia in 2007 before tying the knot in 2019, has reportedly cited her illness and these “drastic changes” to her personality as grounds for separation.

Claudia — a former adviser to the German government — has been unable to move without help for months, the outlet reported.

For the last two years, she has been relying on round-the-clock care from her daughter and four housekeepers.

Meanwhile, it’s believed her soon-to-be ex-husband has been spending time with his longtime pal, 59-year-old Gabriela Prinzessin zu Leiningen, in recent months.

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Judge Uses Slavery Law to Rule Frozen Human Embryos are Property in Divorce Case

Judge Uses Slavery Law to Rule Frozen Human Embryos are Property in Divorce Case

This is creepy and unsettling, for like, 54, 000 reasons.

(Link):  Virginia judge uses slavery-era law to argue human embryos can be considered property

Fairfax County Circuit Court Judge Richard Gardiner’s ruling came amid dispute between divorced couple over frozen embryos

(Link): Judge rules frozen embryos are property in divorce dispute, cites pre-Civil War slavery law 

March 15, 2023

A Virginia judge cited a 19th-century law about slave ownership in ruling that human embryos can legally be considered property or “chattel.”

Fairfax County Circuit Court Judge Richard Gardiner issued the preliminary opinion last month in a case involving a divorced couple’s dispute over embryos they stored together. The couple, Honeyhline Heidemann and Jason Heidemann, separated in 2017 and divorced in 2018.

The ex-wife is 45 and infertile due to cancer treatments and wants to use the embryos, while her ex-husband does not.

(Link): Judge uses slavery law to rule frozen human embryos are property in divorce case

by AP
March 10, 2023

Frozen human embryos can legally be considered property, or “chattel,” a Virginia judge has ruled, basing his decision in part on a 19th-century law governing the treatment of slaves.

The preliminary opinion by Fairfax County Circuit Judge Richard Gardiner — delivered in a long-running dispute between a divorced husband and wife — is being criticized by some for wrongly and unnecessarily delving into a time in Virginia history when it was legally permissible to own human beings.

“It’s repulsive and it’s morally repugnant,” said Susan Crockin, a lawyer and scholar at Georgetown University’s Kennedy Institute of Ethics and an expert in reproductive technology law.

Solomon Ashby, president of the Old Dominion Bar Association, a professional organization made up primarily of African American lawyers, called Gardiner’s ruling troubling.

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Judge Orders Man to Pay Ex-Wife Over $200K for 25 Years of Housework – Doesn’t Jibe With Sexist Complementarian or Trad Wife Propaganda

Judge Orders Man to Pay Ex-Wife Over $200K for 25 Years of Housework – Doesn’t Jibe With Sexist Complementarian or Trad Wife Propaganda

The sub-heading of the news article below is

“Ex-wife claimed her dedication to housework left her without career prospects”

I am not anti-marriage. I am not opposed to women who, if they understand what they’re getting into, decide of their own accord to marry and be a housewife (however, I do not respect this choice if it’s done primarily or only because of church teachings, societal expectations, or family pressure).

If you are a woman, and you know in your heart of hearts that one of your big dreams or goals in life is to marry and be a housewife, then go for it! But it has to be YOUR freely chosen goal or dream, not that of your church, your parents, or your culture.

I do oppose the rigid, sexist societal, family, and religious views that tell women that their only or highest purpose in life is to marry and get pregnant.

I oppose the flip side of this rhetoric, where a society, family, or religion (or cultural, conservative commentators) shame, mock, or criticize women for not marrying or for not having children (for whatever reasons).

Too often, I’ve seen moderate to higher level complementarians argue that women should not get college degrees, and/or should not get a paying job or career.

There’s also been a new-ish trend the last year or two called “Trad Wife,” that seems mostly composed of secular women who want to live out a 1950s, June Cleaver housewife lifestyle (I may be doing a post about this later).

Super hard core wacko patriarchist Lori Alexander, of The Transformed Wife, even goes so far as to say (if I remember correctly) that single women shouldn’t get a job outside of the home and just “trust the Lord to provide.”

(Side note: that is the same advice given to Christian single women: just trust the Lord to send you a husband! Yeah, well, I did a lot of trusting in the Lord, I also tried dating sites and church single classes, and I’m still single, so that advice is bogus.)

Anyway. I have another news story on this blog of a married woman who was jobless, and she was depending on her husband’s disability (or social security? I forget which) payments, but he died in a hospital when his body bursts into flames… so now, this woman, with no job, no income, and a dead husband, has no financial means.

It’s not a wise life choice for a woman to skip college (or a trade school of some kind) and to depend wholly on a husband for financial support, when he may divorce her, she may have to divorce him, or he may die from a heart attack, car accident, or from another factor.

(Link): Court Orders Woman’s Ex-Husband to Pay Her $215K for 25 Years of Housework During Their Marriage

Ivana Moral of Spain will be paid by her former husband, who owns a flourishing gym business, according to multiple reports

(Link): Judge orders man to pay ex-wife over $200K for 25 years of housework

Ex-wife claimed her dedication to housework left her without career prospects

March 12, 2023
by Michael Lee

A Spanish judge ordered a man to pay his ex-wife $215,000 for 25 years of housework that she “exclusively” handled while they were a couple.

Ivana Moral won the judgment after arguing she was burdened by chores for the couple during their 25 years of marriage, according to a report from WSB, citing the Spanish language newspaper El Pais.

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Texas Man Sues Three Women for $1M for Helping His Ex-Wife Get an Abortion

Texas Man Sues Three Women for $1M for Helping His Ex-Wife Get an Abortion

I’m pro-life, not pro-choice, but this seems very strange. I’d wager that this guy was subjecting his ex wife to narcissistic abuse while they were married and that’s why she dumped him. Narcississts are notorious for loving to sue people.

(Link): Texas man sues three women for $1M for helping his ex-wife get an abortion and concealing ‘murderous actions’ from him – text messages show she feared he’d use pregnancy to stop her leaving him

March 11, 2023
by Aneeta Bhole

A Texas man is suing his ex-wife’s three friends for $1 million after they helped her get an abortion as a text exchange reveals she was scared he’d ‘use it against her’ to keep her in the relationship.

Marcus Silva filed the lawsuit in Galveston and argues that a self-managed abortion is equivalent to murder under Texas law.

The lawsuit appears to break new ground in Texas with Silva alleging that he only recently learnt about the termination July last year after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade – which allowed state abortion laws to take effect.

The lawsuit accuses three women with helping obtain abortion pills and convincing Silva’s then-wife to conceal their ‘murderous actions.’

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I Went on a Girls’ Holiday for My 40th and Realized I Didn’t Miss My Husband So I Divorced Him

I Went on a Girls’ Holiday for My 40th and Realized I Didn’t Miss My Husband So I Divorced Him

I remember saying in a much older post on this blog (maybe the one about idiot dating advice givers who say, “you have too much baggage” to single women), that most people change as they age. As I said in some older blog post, I’m not the same person now as I was when I was 20, 30, or even 40.

I’ve grown, I’ve learned. In some ways, yes, I’m the same, but I’ve dealt with my baggage and chucked it away, so in some regards, I’ve changed (for the better) – contrary to all the sexist morons who say they won’t date women over the age of 35 because, supposedly, all women at age 35+ “have too much baggage.”

I’d argue that many people below the age of 40 have more baggage than those over 40, since they’ve probably not done the work on themselves to deal with it yet, as an older person likely has.

I’ve read of this same thing before, where women who turn 35, 40, or 50, realize they’re not the same person that they were when they married at age 25 or 28, what they want out of life isn’t what their husband wants, their husband and them are not on the same page, so they decide to divorce and move on. Sometimes people do grow apart over time.

I don’t know if I’d expect someone to stay in a marriage where that occurs. Getting a divorce might be the best option.

I know if you’re a single adult, especially if you’re under the age of 45, and you want to be married, yet you’re still single, it can be difficult to deal with.

It does get easier with age – and you start seeing articles like the one below and realize you can get married and still end up being miserable, and decide you’d rather break things off with your spouse.

Staying and being single indefinitely may not be so bad, especially by comparison of the abuse, emotional neglect, or unfulfillment that married people go through. Getting married is not a guarantee of lasting happiness.

(Link):  I went on vacation and didn’t miss my husband — so I divorced him

(Link): I went on a girls’ holiday for my 40th and realised I didn’t miss my husband so I divorced him

March 16, 2023
by Siofra Brennan

A mum divorced her husband after realising on holiday she didn’t miss him.

Stephanie Hanson, 41, from Liverpool, was in Greece with friends last year when she made the life-changing decision.

On her return, she informed her husband of ten years that she was leaving him.

Six months later, Stephanie had lost five stone, and met David Baldwin 43.

Now, the mum-of-four says ‘she couldn’t be happier’.

Stephanie said: ‘I remember thinking while I was away about how I really missed the kids, but I didn’t miss my husband.

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My Husband Tried to Kill Me By Smothering Me with a Pillow and Stabbing Me in the Face While I Slept After I Asked for a Divorce by C. Fernandez

My Husband Tried to Kill Me By Smothering Me with a Pillow and Stabbing Me in the Face While I Slept After I Asked for a Divorce by C. Fernandez

If you’re a single adult still struggling with singleness though you want to be married, keep posts like this one bookmarked to remind you – being married won’t make you happier or keep you safe.

Ignore my fellow conservatives who over-romanticize marriage and make it sound like it will be the solution to all your problems.

(Link): My husband tried to kill me by smothering me with a pillow and stabbing me in the face while I slept after I asked for a divorce – my teenager was forced to stab him to stop the attack

February 25, 2023
by C. Fernanadez

A mother-of-two has revealed her husband of 25 years tried to kill her by smothering her with a pillow and stabbing her in the head after she asked for a divorce.

Shahla Walker, 55, from Gateshead, married Nezam Ghalate, 53, in 1995 – but after welcoming two daughters, their marriage began to fall apart.

In January 2022, she told Nezam she wanted a divorce, before waking up to find he had attacked her.

Her screams woke their 18-year-old daughter, who struck her father with a lamp and eventually resorted to stabbing him in the head in a desperate effort to save her mother.

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