The Fear of Male Birth Control
A Podcast is on this page:
(Link): The Fear of Male Birth Control
What’s keeping men from sharing more of the burden?
The Fear of Male Birth Control
A Podcast is on this page:
(Link): The Fear of Male Birth Control
What’s keeping men from sharing more of the burden?
Two Iranian Politicians’ Sex Tapes Are Leaked To Expose Hypocrisy of Male Lawmakers Who Preach Morality Under Strict Islamic Law that Issues Death Sentences To Women For Adultery
One will be hard-pressed to ever see Liberal Feminists discuss this, because it conflicts with their stupid ‘Intersectionality’ beliefs, in which Muslims are viewed as being a bigger ‘victim class’ than women…
So hey, according to this very warped American liberal thought process, if Muslim men want to sexually exploit women and then kill the women, or kill women like them for fornication, that is A-OK by the standards of most liberals.
Will Stephanie Drury of “Stuff Christian Culture Likes Facebook group” ever acknowledge a story like this one?
Nope, not likely – it doesn’t bolster Drury’s liberal, antagonistic- against- Christianity (and yes, I know she attends mass, but she’s still quite caustic against the faith) views.
One can see from stories such as this one that Muslims, particularly male Muslims, are not victims – they are not victims, nor are they oppressed in Western culture, and they are sure as hell not victims in nations in which they are in the majority.
Also, the similarities between Islamic views on sex and women, in which women are blamed for the sexual sins of men, or women are punished for sexual sin but men are not (ie, double standards and sexism aplenty), and the American Christian complementarian view of sex and women, is quite striking.
Two Iranian politicians’ sex tapes have been leaked on social media by activists trying to highlight the hypocrisy of officials who preach morality under strict Islamic law.
The first video was posted online on August 4 and is said to have captured Ali Mohammad Ahmadi – the former governor of Kohgiluyeh and Boyer-Ahmad – having sexual relations with a woman.
Principal who Banned Books Over Homosexuality Is Busted For Child Porn by J. Miller
A Kentucky vocational school principal is facing child porn charges — a decade after he banned books for “soft pornography” and homosexual content, according to a report.
Philip Todd Wilson, 54, was busted Tuesday after state troopers received a tip that he was in possession of explicit images involving a minor, and possibly distributing the revolting photos, Kentucky State Police announced.
Women Being Slut Shamed, Virgin Shamed, or Celibate Shamed at The Doctor’s Office
So, I saw a headline go through my Twitter feed a few weeks ago about a woman who says while on a trip to the doctor’s office to get a check up, she was “slut shamed” by a nurse practitioner at that appointment. (The link to that is towards the bottom of this post.)
I don’t doubt her experience, but I chipped in under that Tweet or another related to mention that as a chaste woman – I’m over 45 and still a virgin myself – I had the same exact thing happen to me, but in the reverse, when I was in my mid or late 20s and had to see a doctor to get blood tests done (over a non-sexual related medical issue).
The doctor I saw at my appointment sort of “Virgin-Shamed” me at that time.
We’re all the time hearing about “Slut Shaming” in our culture, but there is far more Celibacy- and Virgin- Shaming taking place than Slut Shaming.
However, I don’t very often see feminists discussing Virgin-Shaming nearly as much.
As a matter of fact, some feminists who are always complaining about “slut shaming” participate in Celibate-Shaming, or Virgin-Shaming (and sadly, other conservatives also participate in virgin shaming or celibate shaming as well, though many conservatives CLAIM to respect sexual abstinence – but they really do not).
The lady doctor I saw when I was in my mid to late 20s said in addition to running the tests I was in to see her for that day (and I don’t recall now what they were, only that the tests were not related to anything of a sexual nature), she also wanted to run sexually transmitted disease tests on my blood samples to make sure I did not have any sexually transmitted diseases.
I laughed and told her that would be a waste of her time and the lab’s time, as I was still a virgin.
Impure Motives Of ‘Purity Culture’ Critics by R. Dreher
Before we get to the link and excerpts to the page by Dreher, let’s talk for a moment about the liberal Christian and ex-Christian backlash against Purity Culture:
I’ve seen this as well, time and again from the “anti purity culture” brigade on Tweets and blogs:
They think that dismantling “Purity Culture” means rejecting all Christian sexual ethics, or the “rules” or specific morals of it they do not like, including the biblical teaching that fornication is considered a sin (some self-professing Christians are actually on blogs insisting that God doesn’t prohibit pre-marital sex, but they can’t point to verses that say that God accepts it, either).
But there is definitely a “throw the baby out with the bathwater” mindset among many of the “anti Purity Culture” adherents. They also tend to “look down their noses” at adults over the age of 30 who voluntarily sexually abstain – both liberals and Christian conservatives view adult celibates as repressed, weird, or as freaks.
I’m a woman who never married, was committed to the idea of abstaining until marriage, so I am still a virgin – and I’m currently in my forties. I mention that because one thing I’d like to make clear: not everyone who leaves the faith does so due to sexual considerations.
I myself am not quite Christian and not quite non-Christian – but I remain celibate. I’m now fine with the idea of having sex outside of marriage, but only in a committed relationship – but I arrived at this view years after my faith crisis began.
In other words, having sex was not a reason as to why I’m somewhat walked away from the faith – sex was not the cause or my reason.
So, if you are a Christian who tut tuts and shames people online for leaving the faith, please stop assuming that most who leave the faith do so because they are sexual libertines who want to have sex all over the place. That may be true for some ex-Christians or for some doubters, but it’s certainly not the case for all of them.
Matthew Lee Anderson (Link): makes a true and necessary point about Josh Harris’s apostasy and the subsequent critiques of Evangelical “purity culture.” Excerpts: [omit]
….As I’ve said before, I don’t have any direct experience with “purity culture,” though I have friends who are theologically conservative on sexual matters, but who say that they were damaged by it.
Their point, as I understand it, is not that traditional Christian sexual ethics are wrong, but that “purity culture” distorts them in a rigidly legalistic way that can harm the ability of particular believers to live out these ethics. I accept that this can be true. I have seen this kind of thing at work within non-Protestant religious circles too.
That said, Anderson is certainly right that whatever the problems with purity culture, they can never justify throwing out Christian sexual ethics, tout court.
Pastor’s Wife Charged With Sexually Assaulting Student by L. Blair
Do Marriage and Parenthood, as so many pro-Nuclear Family Christians and conservative think tanks suggest, improve people or make society better, or cause individuals to become more godly, ethical, responsible, and loving? Nope. Here’s another example.
By Leonardo Blair, Christian Post Reporter
A pastor’s wife and teacher from Burbank, Illinois, has been arrested and charged after she allegedly supplied alcohol to a 15-year-old student at Jordan Baptist School, a ministry of Jordan Baptist Church, and had sex with him at least five times before it was legal for her to do so.
Museum of Sex a Hotbed For Sexual Harassment: Suit
A Museum of Sex employee says she was constantly subjected to sexual harassment by drunken customers and coworkers and when she complained her bosses told her it’s “the nature of the establishment,” according to her new lawsuit.
Katherine McMahon said she worked at the Fifth Avenue museum — which houses over 20,000 artifacts relating to sex — as a gallery attendant and researcher getting paid $13.25 an hour from February 2018 until she was forced to quit in December after her and other female employees’ concerns were neglected, the Manhattan Civil suit alleges.
Priest Who Urged Women to Cover Their Shoulders To Protect Men’s ‘Purity” Calls Twitter ‘Demonic’ – Wipes Account
When will men – especially conservative, religious, men – stop blaming women for the men’s sexual hang ups and sexual sins? It is not a woman’s responsibility to dress a certain way to keep a man “from stumbling.”
You men are responsible for your own thought lives and actions.
For one man, bare shoulders may be sexy, but to another, no. A woman cannot dress in such a way to please all men all the time. It’s subjective to a large degree.
I thought this sort of sexist kook-ery was the province of Baptists and Protestants only, but no, the Catholics are in on this nonsense as well.
Last week a Catholic priest drew nationwide attention – and outrage – after taking to Twitter (Link): to urge women to cover their shoulders to protect men’s “purity.” The responses were what you might expect, mostly outrage and accusations of misogyny.Continue reading “Priest Who Urged Women to Cover Their Shoulders To Protect Men’s ‘Purity” Calls Twitter ‘Demonic’ – Wipes Account”
A Philosopher of Sex Says Sexual Freedom Is Destroying Desire by Olivia Goldhill
Philosophers claim to explore the most fundamental features of existence, but have been disappointingly silent on one all-important subject: Sex.
Sure, Michel Foucault addressed the sociological discourses around sex and Simone de Beauvoir definitively demonstrated the value of sexual equality, but what about sex itself—or, as philosophy professor Jeanne Proust researches, sexual desire?
Woman ‘Accidentally Shot Dead By Her Lover In Deadly Sex Game Gone Wrong’ by Mydrim Jones
Two take-aways from this story:
A WOMAN died after her lover shot her during a risky sex game using a loaded gun.
Andrew Shinault’s handgun accidentally went off during foreplay at his home, said cops.
A Kentucky pastor was arrested on child sexual exploitation charges after police said he tried to arrange a liaison between himself and two underage girls.
Bobby “BJ” Blackburn, pastor of Elevate Church and owner of Giovanni’s Pizza in Prestonsburg, was charged with using an electronic device to ask an employee to take part in a threesome with another minor, (Link): reported WBKO-TV.
Blackburn turned himself in to police Wednesday and was released on $5,000 bond.
World’s Biggest Brothel Swamped With Millennial Adult Virgins “Not Interested in Sex” by H. Holloway
May 6, 2019
THE MADAM of the world’s biggest brothel has revealed the establishment is seeing more adult virgins than ever before – and some of them are not interested in sex.
Dena, from famous Nevada legal brothel Sheri’s Ranch, revealed the Daily Star Online they having a boom of “late bloomers”.
Sheri’s Ranch is believed to be the largest establishment of its kind in the world.
The brothel styles itself as luxurious rest with a bar, spa, pool and a full range of services on the “sex menu”.
And ranch mama Dena revealed some of their clients are not interested in just sex.
Barna: Half of Pastors Worry They’ll Offend Someone if They Preach on Controversial Topics by T. G. Phillips
This is actually nothing new. Over six years ago, I noticed that a lot of preachers, even conservative ones, are reluctant to address certain sins from the pulpit or online, in particular, sexual sins, for fear it may offend the audience.
Months after I began noticing that trend, I came across an article with an interview with a preacher (Link): who admitted to the fact that he’s afraid to preach against sexual sin lest it cause controversy – he did not want to offend his congregation or anyone else.
So this 2019 study is really nothing new. I am not surprised by this.
Many conservative Christians have actually (Link): given up on defending celibacy or virginity- until- marriage (which is in fact a (Link): biblical standard and expectation for bother sexes, regardless of what the evangelical feminists and anti-purity culture advocates argue), to the point, many of them now (Link): expect all un-married persons to fornicate.
Further, some conservatives actually express disdain that more people today are practicing celibacy – they’d rather see single adults fornicating.
(Link): Half of Pastors Worry They’ll Offend Someone if They Preach on Controversial Topics by T. G. Phillips
April 13, 2019
New polling has revealed half of American pastors are too concerned they might offend someone to speak out on hot-button social and moral issues, but could that problem have a simple fix?
According to research from the (Link): Barna Group, the same issues pastors feel most pressured to preach about are also the ones they feel most uncomfortable addressing.
(Link): Video Games, not Chastity, to Blame for Young Men Not Having Sex, Sociologist Says by Michael Foust
April 9, 2019
A leading sociologist says video games – and not a sudden interest in chastity – may be to blame for a dramatic increase in the percentage of young men not having sex.
by S. Gordon
….In two national surveys, investigators found that between 4% and 8% of boys reported having sex before they were 13. That number varied greatly depending on where the boys lived. In San Francisco, just 5% of boys said they had sex before 13, but in Memphis that number jumped to 25%.
Race and ethnicity also made a difference in whether or not a young person had an early sexual experience. Black males were most likely to have sex before 13, followed by Hispanic males.
Conservatives Have Now Abandoned All Pretense of Advocating For Sexual Abstinence and They Actually Lament the Lack of Fornication – The Bradford Wilcox Piece, 2019
The following piece at The Atlantic (“The Happiness Recession”) was written by marriage-idolater and anti-singleness bigot of The Institute for Family Studies, W. Bradford Wilcox, and co-writer Lyman Stone.
I’d like to remind any new-comers to this blog that I am a life long conservative. I am not a liberal.
This moronic essay actually suggests that single adults having less sex is what has led to them reporting higher rates of unhappiness, if I’m understanding things correctly.
This, astonishingly, from a right wing organization, (Link): The Institute For Family Studies, that claims to promote “strong families,” and good Lord knows they are obsessed with promoting marriage, even if that comes at the expense of singleness.
The members of this organization regularly publish materials intended to scare, guilt, shame, or pressure single adults into getting married, because this organization exists to promote the nuclear family: hetero-marriage where the couple have children.
The Arizona House Ethics Committee on Friday released shocking documents from an investigation into former Republican Rep. David Stringer, who abruptly resigned on Wednesday.
Children’s Pastor, Decorated Detective, Commits Suicide After Child Porn Found on Church Computer, by L. Blair
Another example of why single Christian women should give up on the “equally yoked” rule concerning dating and marriage, and why, perhaps, churches are not a good place to find dates.
One of the articles below says that this guy was married – a lot of Christians teach that marriage is necessary to make people mature, godly, and ethical, but did being married make this guy who was caught with child porn any more godly and ethical? Nope.
Also, some “how to get married” type literature I used to read while growing up – stuff that was written by Christians – usually suggested that if you remain single past the age of 25 or 30, it’s because you are “lacking” in some way.
Such Christian authors would suggest that you’re too sinful or too messed up in some way, and God was trying to “clean you up” before “allowing” you to marry.
When you see news articles below, do you really think that rationale is true? If it’s true that God demands about 100% perfection and godliness before he will send someone a spouse, how is it that Christian pedophiles like the man in this article managed to marry, he had children, grandchildren, and he worked in a church?
Obviously, taking such news stories as the one below into account, God does not hold anyone to a certain standards before he “permits” them to marry or “sends” them a spouse.
A Florida police detective and children’s minister committed suicide after being investigated for having child pornography.
Detective Vernon Allan Richardson, a beloved (List): children’s minister and award-winning veteran officer with the Jacksonville Sheriff’s Office, known for his work in helping to locate missing children, killed himself Tuesday as authorities investigated him for possession of child pornography, some of which was found on his church computer.Continue reading “Children’s Pastor, Decorated Detective, Commits Suicide After Child Porn Found on Church Computer by L. Blair”
Technological Progress and the Global Sex Recession by J. Kotkin
The author’s attitude towards celibacy is a bit negative, which I do not like. This guy seems to worship the Nuclear Family, something a lot of secular and Christian conservatives are guilty of.
It’s not just technology that possibly leads to celibacy – Christian teachings in the United States is also, or can be, a celibacy factory., and that was true long before the rise of social media.
He thinks less sex is “grim.” Oh please.
Marriage isn’t a guarantee of sex, either. I have many examples on my blog of (Link): sexless marriages.
We may live amidst what seems a libidinous culture, but oddly also an increasingly sexless time.
Of course, the drop in early teen sex – and even more so, teen pregnancies – represents positive developments, but when lack of social interaction leads to celibacy in the twenties, thirties and beyond, the implications are less than wholesome.
The Atlantic recently described a “sex recession” in the United States and most western countries, with fewer people dating and even those in relationships getting intimate less often than in the past, while fewer enjoy regular bonds of any kind.
Nadia Bolz-Weber’s Gospel of Shame-Free Sexuality by W. Hill
I recognize there are flaws with Christian “Purity Culture,” but the response to those flaws (usually by liberal Christians) is just as bad.
The liberal Christians, or others who are opposed to Christian sexual purity teachings, want to reject about any and all sexual boundaries, in the process of rebelling against Christian purity teaching.
However, not all of Christian purity teaching is bad – something the anti-Purity Culture advocates don’t want to admit or discuss.
As I’ve pointed out in older posts, the anti-Purity Culture movement ends up alienating and marginalizing any adults who do choose to remain celibate or virgins until marriage.
We’re living in an age and culture where a lot of us are demanded to respect any and all sexual behaviors, except for virginity and celibacy; those are mocked, as are those who practice them. The tolerance goes only one-way with many Anti-Purity Culture adherents.
By W. Hill, Feb 2019
We can’t defeat shame by whittling down God’s law to fit our behavior. We need the good news of God’s forgiveness instead
….Doing Away with Absolution
Unfortunately, the pastor who talked up the liberation that comes from admitting you’re in the wrong now seems more interested in helping people understand why they don’t need to.
In her new book, Shameless: A Sexual Reformation, Bolz-Weber is out to set Christians free from the angst and humiliation churches have often foisted on them because of their sexual proclivities and behaviors.
But the way the book goes about doing so is by rejecting wholesale the idea of “sexual purity” and, with it, the need to confess sexual transgression.