Wagner’s Response to TGC’s Morris’s Review of “Non Toxic Masculinity” – and Morris is Incorrect About Singleness, Among Other Issues

Wagner’s Response to TGC’s Morris’s Review of “Non Toxic Masculinity” – and Morris is Incorrect About Singleness, Among Other Issues

TGC is the same group that brought us all that cringe, weird book about sex called “Beautiful Union,” whose author claimed that sex can point us all to God, which is a disaster for those of us over 30 who are still virgins and living celibately.

I had a few comments I wanted to make below this:

(Link):  A Response to Shane Morris’s TGC Review of Non-Toxic Masculinity

Excerpts:

[The review that Wagner is responding to is located here, on TGC’s site: Sexual Ethics Is More than Not Being Evil]

by Zachary Wagner

…I want to note some of my ongoing disappointment with The Gospel Coalition on their engagement with issues of sexuality, gender, and masculinity.

…For many of my friends who have left Christianity, the straw that broke the camel’s back was not merely that Christianity was sexually restrictive. It was the hypocrisy of those who condemned the culture’s sexual permissiveness while indulging in sexual sin themselves or excusing it on the part of Christian leaders and heroes.

…In particular, the juxtaposition between purity culture on the one hand and sexual scandal on the other has opened a floodgate of apostasy for Millennials in particular, including members of my family and many very dear friends. How should evangelical pastors respond to this? Morris has little to say on this point, but he seems to imply that defending purity culture and doubling down on its good intentions is the correct approach. …

This is pastorally irresponsible. Parents, pastors, and authors were the ones who should have known better, not teenagers with raging hormones and half-developed brains. The sons and daughters of purity culture have repeatedly been told that they were the problem. Any suffering or frustration or confusion they experienced was their fault, a result of their sinful and broken inclinations.

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Mom Killed Her Newborn, 30 Minute Old Baby to Save Her Sex Life, Cut His Throat Minutes After Birth

Mom Killed Her Newborn, 30 Minute Old Baby to Save Her Sex Life, Cut His Throat Minutes After Birth

This is evil, it is vile.

This piece of garbage killed an infant out of pure selfishness, prioritizing her “sex life” over the life of a baby, her very own baby.

I do not, nor have I ever, supported abortion. If you’re a woman, you know that having sex with a man may result in pregnancy – and you should take responsibility for that, which means carrying the child to term and putting the baby up for adoption, or, at the very least, use birth control if you’re going to have sex – but birth control isn’t 100% effective.

If you don’t want to risk the possibility of pregnancy, DO NOT HAVE SEX. It’s not complicated.

Sadly, this is not the only news report I’ve seen of this type of thing. I don’t know if I’ve blogged about it before or not, but I remember years ago reading a similar news item about a teen girl who got an abortion (I think she killed the baby at home? Don’t recall the details), but she said the reason she killed the baby inside her is that she wouldn’t be able to fit into her prom dress.

In the last few years, I’ve seen one news story of a grandmother who helped her granddaughter kill the granddaughter’s new born infant, when the teen girl went into labor at home. They killed the baby, burned it, and buried it somewhere around their property.

Saw another story that was like that one, only it was either a father or grandfather who helped the teen girl murder the new born and bury it – in one of these stories, the girl in question, if I remember right, was a high school cheerleader, and she felt having an infant would get in the way of her being on the cheerleading squad.

I also have news stories on this blog of an adult woman or two who murdered their toddler children because they were tired of being mothers, or they felt they wouldn’t be able to get a boyfriend if they had children.

This news story is from 2014, but I did not see it until recently.

I follow a number of left of center, radical feminists on twitter who unfortunately defend abortion.

I only follow them because they speak out against the progressive transgender agenda – on that much, we have agreement, but I am usually grieved to see them arguing in favor of abortion on Twitter. I usually just scroll by and say nothing, because I didn’t follow them to start fights about abortion.

In light of horrendous news stories like the one below, I wish those pro-choice women would reconsider their views on abortion.

(Link): German mother kills 30 minutes old baby to save her sex life

London: A young mother in Germany killed her newborn son by slitting his throat, barely 30 minutes after delivering it, as she feared the child would be an interference in her sexual life, a court heard.

(Link): Young mother ‘killed her baby to save her sex life’: German woman, 20, ‘cut son’s throat 30 minutes after he was born before going to a disco’

May 2014

-Nadine Koenig, 20, from Regensburg, smothered her newborn son before killing him with a Stanley knife

-Koenig concealed her pregnancy from her parents, gave birth at their home

-After Koenig’s arrest, her mother Kerstin, 44, committed suicide

A young mother killed her baby by slitting his throat only 30 minutes after giving birth because she feared the child would interfere with her sex life, a court heard.

Nadine Koenig, 20, from Regensburg in the German state of Bavaria, smothered her newborn son before killing him with a Stanley knife. Then she went out to a disco, judges were told.

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Trans Pedophile [Biological Male] Who Sexually Abused His Own Daughter, Age 7, for Warped Porn Videos is Inmate of Women’s Prison ‘Despite Still Having Penis…’

Trans Pedophile [Biological Male] Who Sexually Abused His Own Daughter, Age 7, for Warped Porn Videos is Inmate of Women’s Prison ‘Despite Still Having Penis…’

Transgenderism is not only a men’s rights movement, but it’s being used as an excuse so that any male pervert can play the “I’m a transwoman” card to get out of negative consequences for their actions, or get off much easier.

The POS in the news story below should be slowly shoved alive into a woodchipper, not housed in a prison, especially not in a women’s prison.

Also note that marriage and parenthood do not make people more godly, loving, ethical, mature, responsible, etc, as so many marriage- and parenthood- idolizing conservatives like to assume or teach.

(Link): Trans pedophile who sexually abused her own daughter, 7, for warped porn videos is inmate of New Jersey women’s prison ‘despite still having PENIS – and wants to marry trans accomplice so they can share a cell’

May 3, 2023
by Neirin Gray Desai

A transgender female pedophile who filmed her [his] seven year-old daughter being sexually abused for horrific porn videos is being housed in a New Jersey women’s prison despite still having a penis, it is claimed.

Marina Volz, 34, is serving her 25 year sentence at the notorious Edna Mahan Correctional Facility alongside her [his] accomplice Ashley Romero, 30 [a biological male whose real first name is Adam], who joined in the abuse of the girl.

Volz, born a man named Matthew, is now recorded as ‘female’ in official prison records, with his presence at Edna Mahan said to be causing terror among biological women housed there.

Shockingly, Volz is even said to want to marry Romero, so they can share a cell together, Reduxx reported, after the publication spoke to other inmates there.

Volz, Romero and two others were found guilty for their roles in sexually abusing Volz’s daughter in the basement of her New Jersey home as part of a scheme to create pornographic films.

Volz, who ran a transgender fetish porn studio, took the youngster from her mother’s home in Oregon, then brought her back to New Jersey, where she was subjected to horrific sexual abuse, the details of which are too graphic to repeat.

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The Church’s Problem: Pornification of Christian Sex by Sarah McDugal

The Church’s Problem: Pornification of Christian Sex by Sarah McDugal

(Link): The Church’s problem: Pornification of Christian sex

Excerpts:

by Sarah McDugal

As I’ve observed the firestorm of Josh Butler’s hotly debated article in The Gospel Coalition, “Sex Won’t Save You (But it Points to One who Will),” I was left with so many questions. Indeed, in what universe did a book describing the vagina as a Most Holy Place get labeled the “Protestant magnum opus on sexual ethics we’ve been waiting for”?

The now withdrawn article reflects a pervasive problem within the church: pornification of Christian sex.

Hyper-spiritualizing sex is no guarantee of getting it right. In fact, doing so might actually be a guarantee of getting it wrong. We make the same mistake as secular society when we frame sex as the endgame of intimacy. Salvation is better than sex; it is based on God’s work, not ours; it is received by faith, not by feeling; it is secured by Christ’s blood, not our bodies; it is expressed by love, not lust; it is fulfilled by resurrection, not orgasm.

… Why do so many Christian male authors idolize gratification instead of recognizing that the best sexual pleasure is the fruit of intimacy that is already established outside the bedroom? Real oneness is the friendship, companionship, commitment, and safety of two people merging lives

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People Who Wait for Sex Until They Are Married More Likely to Have Higher Stability in Their Relationship

People Who Wait for Sex Until They Are Married More Likely to Have Higher Stability in Their Relationship

(Link): Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder! People who wait for sex until they are married are THREE times more likely to have higher stability in their relationship, study claims

by Stacy Liberatore
April 24, 2023

Sex before marriage is no longer taboo in America, but a new report suggests staying abstinent until after your wedding ensures a happily ever after.

Researchers from Brigham Young University found that 45 percent of men and women who had only had sex with their spouse reported a ‘very high’ level of relationship stability in their marriage.

But just 25 percent of people with five to nine sexual partners reported similar levels, and just 14 percent of those with 10 or more partners.

The researchers suggest their findings might be due to the risk of comparing or previous sexual partners interfering with a marriage.

However, Brigham Young University follows the guidelines of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which preaches against premarital sex.

Researchers noted the study was ‘controlled for religiosity, which captured for each participant how frequently spirituality is an important part of life, how frequently prayer occurs, and how important religious faith is.’

‘Being highly religious is related to having both fewer sex partners and longer relationships. We wanted to ensure that any differences we found based on sexual history were not simply related to how religious the people in the sample were,’ reads the study.

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Oral Sex is Fueling an ‘Epidemic’ of Throat Cancers in the US and UK, Doctor Claims

Oral Sex is Fueling an ‘Epidemic’ of Throat Cancers in the US and UK, Doctor Claims

Looks like avoiding any and all sex acts can be a wise move!

Funny how so many people in culture think that telling someone “they’re a virgin” or an “incel” (someone not having sex) is the biggest insult ever, when the people having sex all over the place are getting STIs.

(Link): Oral sex is fueling an ‘epidemic’ of throat cancers in the US and UK, doctor claims

April 26, 2023
by Luke Andrews

The US and UK are suffering a throat cancer ‘epidemic’ — and experts point to oral sex as the culprit.

Dr Hisham Mehanna, from the UK’s University of Birmingham, said 70 percent of cases of throat cancer are caused by human papillomavirus (HPV), a normally harmless virus that is spread sexually and has been linked to multiple forms of cancers.

Dr Mehanna said people with multiple oral sex partners have an up to nine-fold increased risk of throat cancer.

Dr Mehanna wrote in The Conversation: ‘Over the past two decades, there has been a rapid increase in throat cancer in the west, to the extent that some have called it an epidemic.

‘This has been due to a large rise in a specific type of throat cancer called oropharyngeal cancer.’

Oropharyngeal cancer is the most common type of throat cancer. It appears in the tonsils and back of the throat.

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All Porn – Even “Ethical Porn” – is Bad for Your Sex Life No Matter What, So Stop It: BYU Study

All Porn – Even “Ethical Porn” – is Bad for Your Sex Life No Matter What, So Stop It: BYU Study

(Link):  BYU study shows all porn consumption negatively impacts relationships

In their research, the scholars accounted for differences between “mainstream” and more extreme types of porn.

(Link): Now scientists say even ‘ethical’ porn is bad and call for anyone who wants a healthy relationship to ditch it completely

March 18, 2023
by Luke Andrews

Hardcore, violent pornography is thought to have devastated the psyche of young American minds — warping their perception of relationships and sex.

But now experts are warning that even the more ethical ‘softcore’ variety is damaging, leading to poorer satisfaction with their other half.

Researchers at Brigham Young University quizzed 3,500 people in relationships who were about 38 years old on their porn use and happiness with their partner.

They were asked whether they watched hardcore porn — that included violence or rape — and softcore — including consensual sex.

Regardless of the category, those who watched porn were more likely to say they were not satisfied with their relationships.

The experts called on people to quit watching pornography entirely in order to help them maintain committed relationships.

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Porn-Addicted Dentist Arrested for Murdering His Wife With Poison-Laced Protein Shakes ‘To Start A New Life With Orthodontist Lover’ Had Multiple Affairs, and Flew in Mistress to Be By His Side While Mother-Of-Six Was Hospitalized

Porn-Addicted Dentist Arrested for Murdering His Wife With Poison-Laced Protein Shakes ‘To Start A New Life With Orthodontist Lover’ Had Multiple Affairs, and Flew in Mistress to Be By His Side While Mother-Of-Six Was Hospitalized

I feel sorry not just for the wife, but especially for her six children (the oldest is 20 years of age). They will have to grow up without their mom.

Anyway. Marriage and parenthood and the Nuclear Family didn’t save this family, didn’t make this husband a good, ethical, or godly man. I mention this because my fellow conservatives, who are excessively “pro Nuclear Family, natalism and marriage” to an absurd degree often like to make outlandish claims about marriage and parenthood.

This porn-addicted, cheating scum wad also was a member of his local police department’s anti-bullying program. Because of course he was!

Looks like he’s in legal hot water now, not having fun with his mistress.

I see these types of news stories frequently, and I’m always amazed at how people’s selfishness blinds them – if you pull this sort of thing, you will be caught. You’re not going to get to sail off in to the sunset with your mistress, sipping pina coladas.

I also can’t help but wonder, was it worth it? I don’t think so.

You got to boink some other trashy woman, but to stay with her, you killed your wife, the cops figured it out, and I can only assume your ass is going to sit in a prison for around 20 years over this. It was not worth it.

I cannot get over how short-sighted and stupid these people are – these people who murder their spouse to either get money or run off with a lover. You’re going to get caught and pay the price.

(Link):  Porn-Addicted Dentist Arrested for Murdering His Wife With Poison-Laced Protein Shakes ‘To Start A New Life With Orthodontist Lover’ Had Multiple Affairs, and Flew in Mistress to Be By His Side While Mother-Of-Six Was Hospitalized

by Harriet Alexander
March 20, 2023

A Colorado dentist charged with murdering his wife with poison-laced protein shakes sent her text messages in hospital enquiring about her condition and professing his love – even as she told him: ‘That drink you gave me tastes weird.’

James Craig, 45, was arrested in Aurora, Colorado on Sunday.

His wife Angela, the mother of his six children, died in hospital the day before, having first reported pain and nausea after drinking a protein shake he prepared for her on March 6.

Craig’s mistress – an orthodontist in Texas – sent him worried messages, asking about his wife’s condition. She even flew to Colorado to visit Craig from March 8-10, while his wife was in hospital.

Craig’s charging documents state that their relationship ‘had always been tumultuous’: she told a confidant several times over their 16-year relationship that she was leaving him, but he always convinced her to stay.

He ‘had multiple affairs with several women,’ the documents state, and told his wife he had been addicted to pornography since he was a teenager.

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Texas Man Confesses to Strangling Girlfriend to Death While Having Sex

Texas Man Confesses to Strangling Girlfriend to Death While Having Sex

Sometimes being single and celibate is the best way to go.

It’s my understanding that men slapping, spitting upon, etc, women during sex is becoming more commonplace, especially among younger people, because young men see this sexist garbage in porn they watch and I suppose wrongly assume that women enjoy this.

(Link): Texas man confesses to strangling girlfriend while they had sex

March 24, 2023
By Snejana Farberov

A Texas man has been charged with manslaughter after confessing to choking his girlfriend to death while the pair were having sex, cops said.

Harris County sheriff’s deputies responded to an address in the 800 block of Ashland Boulevard in Channelview around 2:20 a.m. Tuesday for a medical emergency report.

Officers found 24-year-old DeJe Garett-Hillard lying unresponsive. She was rushed to a hospital, where she was pronounced dead.

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Married Pastor Allegedly Drugged, Raped Married Parishioner (who was not his wife) He Promised ‘Spiritual Revival’

Married Pastor Allegedly Drugged, Raped Married Parishioner (who was not his wife) He Promised ‘Spiritual Revival’

Did being married make this pastor more loving, ethical, sexually pure or godly? Nope.

Did being married protect the woman in this news story, make her any safer? Nope.

We have here a married woman who was allegedly raped by a married man who works as a church preacher.

So, my fellow conservatives out there, both religious and secular, can stop trying to argue against anti-marriage rhetoric by the left by making such bogus claims (that marriage “improves” culture or makes people more responsible, mature, loving) – which they do. I was brought up in evangelical culture, in the Southern Baptist Church, and such propaganda is common, even now.

Conservatives mistakenly think that the way to “own the libs” and defeat anti-Nuclear Family, anti-natalism rhetoric from the left is to double down on marriage, parenthood, etc, and shame or fear monger any single, celibate adults into getting married, and to try to convince women that motherhood – not career or education – is in their best interest. It is a wrong and ridiculous strategy.

(Link): Kissimmee pastor accused of drugging, raping member of his church during ‘spiritual revival’: Deputies

Excerpts:

by FOX 35 News Staff
March 3, 2023

KISSIMMEE, Fla. – A Kissimmee pastor was arrested after he allegedly sexually battered a member of his church twice at his home, Osceola County deputies said.

Eddy Noelsaint, 51, was arrested on two charges of sexual battery after a woman told deputies he raped her twice at his home and reportedly drugged her on one occasion in 2022.

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Study Finds that 60% of Young Men Are Single (2023 Study), Many Are Lonely, Not Interested in Dating or Marriage, Articles Say

Study Finds that 60% of Young Men Are Single (2023 Study) – Many Are Lonely, Not Interested in Dating or Marrying, Articles Say

I first saw headlines about this study a few weeks ago but was too busy to blog about it then.

I don’t find this surprising.
About once every other year the past several years, more articles and studies keep being published about how more people (men and women) are either giving up on sex, not dating, not marrying, or deliberately putting off marriage.

I wouldn’t be surprised that if my fellow conservatives take note of this study and comment on it, hypocritically and infuriatingly,  it will be done with the utmost concern – conservative commentators and hosts, such as Matt Walsh, Al Mohler, and Tucker Carlson – will fawn all over today’s single, 20-something men, expressing all sorts of worry for men today.

Why do I say this is hypocritical and infuriating?

Whenever these same conservative groups or persons comment on women being single, they always criticize the hell out of single women for being single (and/or for being childless), all nuance is stripped away, for these conservative commentators to make all sorts of sexist, negative, sometimes simplistic, assumptions about why women are single.

Some women are single by circumstance, not from choice, but that fact is often overlooked by the Tucker Carlsons, Al Mohlers, Abby Johnsons and Matt Walshes, who love to assume all women deliberately choose career over marriage.

The single men won’t get the same insulting, sexist treatment, for the most part for being single. Conservatives like Mohler, Carlson, etc, will actually find a way to blame all women, or blame feminism, for why so many of today’s men are passing up marriage.

Churches Need to Meet the Needs of Adult Singles, Stop Focusing on Dwindling Number of Married Persons with Kids at Home

American churches (as I’ve been saying forever on this blog) need to step up and start offering true community to any and all adults in their areas, including single (never married) or divorced or widowed adults – they need to stop pandering to married couples with children still living at home, which is what they keep doing.

Church attendance is dwindling in the United States. People are losing interest in the Christian faith. Maybe if churches got out of their “Nuclear Family” niche and attempted to meet the needs of single and childless adults, they could increase their numbers.

Some of the following articles say that young, single men today are lonely. Not only do they not have girlfriends or wives, the articles say, but they have little to no friends, either.

Marriage- and Nuclear-Family- obsessed Christians and churches have totally dropped the ball on ministering to single, childless adults.

And you’ll notice that conservatives will NOT mock single men for being single, like they do with single women, when they make their ageist and sexist jokes about single women dying alone in a house full of cats, or saying that single women over 30 have “hit the wall,” or tweeting photos of empty egg cartons.

They won’t tweet parallel, insulting, misandrist or ageist comments about single men dying alone clinging to a life-size anime doll, a toy stuffed shark, while previously having had watched porn on their computer, while having had to urinate 50 times a night due to an enlarging prostate. The effing, sexist hypocrites.

(Link): Study finds more than 60 percent of young men are single: ‘Who are all the young women dating?’

February 23, 2023

Sixty-three percent of men and 34 percent of women under 30 report being single, according to a Pew study

(Link): Most young men are single. Most young women are not. 

More than 60 percent of young men are single, nearly twice the rate of unattached young women, signaling a larger breakdown in the social, romantic and sexual life of the American male.

Men in their 20s are more likely than women in their 20s to be romantically uninvolved, sexually dormant, friendless and lonely. They stand at the vanguard of an epidemic of declining marriage, sexuality and relationships that afflicts all of young America.

(Link):  Six out of 10 young men are single — the disturbing reasons why

Excerpts:

They’re not getting jerked around by dating anymore.

New Pew Research Center data has found that nowadays, 63% of men under 30 are electively single, up from 51% in 2019 — and experts blame erotic alone time online as a major culprit.

“[Young men] are watching a lot of social media, they’re watching a lot of porn, and I think they’re getting a lot of their needs met without having to go out,” psychologist Fred Rabinowitz told the Hill.

“I think that’s starting to be a habit.”

The new, post-COVID numbers would surely back up previous research that the pandemic has made men prefer an evening alone instead of actually meeting a partner.

Just half of single men as a whole responded that they are “looking for a committed relationship and/or casual dates,” a decrease compared to 61% four years ago.

But these statistics tell a sadder truth about this generation of men, NYU psych professor Niobe Way told the outlet.

“We’re in a crisis of connection,” Way said. “Disconnection from ourselves and disconnection from each other. And it’s getting worse.”

The male numbers come sharply juxtaposed to the 34% of women under 30 who now say they’re single — which has seen only a slight pandemic rise in that age group.

Another factor at play might be the interests of women changing — especially as suitors of the same age are becoming apparently less desirable, experts said.

“[Women would] rather go to brunch with friends than have a horrible date,” LA couples and family psychologist Greg Matos said.

The expectations of American men are also rising in the minds of women, according to masculinity expert and University of Akron professor Ronald Levant, who added that “unfortunately, so many men don’t have more to give.”

But perhaps the largest issue now with young men — one highly impacting their social abilities — is that they are, as a whole, more lonely people than women, a recent study showed.

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Americans Are Cheating More, Are Less Keen on Monogamy – Survey Results – This is One Result of Christians Not Advancing and Defending Sexual Purity – The Slow, Steady Decline of U.S. Christians Defending Celibacy, Virginity, etc

Americans Are Cheating More, Are Less Keen on Monogamy – Survey Results – This is One Result of Christians Not Advancing and Defending Sexual Purity – The Slow, Steady Decline of U.S. Christians Defending Celibacy, Virginity, etc

I don’t know about this – the report says that more America adults are not as into monogamy and so on. This must be a smaller percentage of people.

In the years I’ve run this blog, I’ve seen studies, reports, etc in the last few years that more adults are staying single, and that singles are having less sex, so that ones who are married or coupled up must amount to a small number.

I’ve also seen more and more people, even self proclaimed feminists and liberals, start to write more essays and books in the last few years about how the “sexual revolution” did a lot of harm to people (especially women), how younger women now reject “sex positivity” feminism, and how young men would rather stay at home on Friday nights playing video games than date women or have sex with women.

As to any single, hetero sexual adults who are having sex outside of marriage, if this new report is accurate and true:

I’ve been warning on this blog the last ten or so years that American Christians have dropped the ball on teaching about biblical sexuality.

What I saw as the progression of events concerning this subject are as follows (the first step below seems to have started around 2005 or there abouts):

  • (Step 1) Pastors, churches, and Christian authors, bloggers, online influencers and personalities at first stopped preaching on the importance of staying a virgin until marriage and stopped openly, regularly condemning pre-martial sex (they just went silent on the topic),
    while, during or around this time, idiot sex-obsessed pastors (such as Ed Young,  Mark Driscoll, and others) started giving more frequent, inappropriate, salacious, “How to Have Great, Steamy Sex With Your Spouse” type sermons, to,
  • (Step 2)… they assumed (wrongly) that because all single adults are fornicating horn dogs, might as well start giving sermons about how God will forgive you of your sexual sins, since, the assumption goes, all adults are fornicating now (no mention of condemning fornication and encouraging and honoring those adults who are chaste to keep on hanging in there and remain chaste), to,
  • (Step 3)… when the liberal and progressive Christians, some of whom are self professing feminists, began complaining about 1980s and 1990s era “Purity Culture,”
    the pastors and Christian bloggers and influencers decided to chuck sexual purity out the window altogether as even a possible option,
    all to soothe and placate the offended feelings of (mostly) women who had fornicated,
    and they further disgraced biblical sexual morality standards by disturbingly beginning to fall all over themselves to blog and tweet vomit-worthy, groveling apologies to all the hurt fee-fee’s of any Christian woman who had felt stung or offended by 1980s or 1990s purity culture messages, to,
  • (Step 4 – we are now here in this depressing journey)… this gross attitude of, “Let’s re-define sexual purity and virginity in such a way to make purity abstract, to make purity all about loving Jesus and “purity of the heart,” so that for all the adults who have LITERALLY engaged in actual physical sexual activity, they won’t feel so icky, shamed, and guilty about their sexual sins”

So, the church opted to cave in to in-church and out-church (secular society) views and trends on sex.

(Edit and disclaimer: in so far as old school Christian Purity Culture contained things like sexist double standards, no, I do not support all of “Purity Culture,” but I also don’t agree with Christian feminists or other anti-Purity Culture Christians who insist that “virginity is nothing but a patriarchal construct,” that virginity (for men and women) just does not matter, that fornication is a-okay, and that sexual purity is merely an abstract, of being “pure in heart” with regards to Jesus. -Actual, physical virginity, literal sexual purity, is of import as well, not just “purity in Jesus.”)

I am not surprised, therefore, that the culture at large (at least the small percentage that is still dating and marrying) is practicing all sorts of weird, deviant, distasteful, and sinful sexual and relationship behaviors these days.

There is no longer any American Christian voices out there regularly speaking up on behalf of remaining a virgin until marriage, speaking against fornication, and repeating the Bible’s message that self control in all areas, including sexual ones, is possible.

Hey, moderate to conservative Christians, including preachers: the following result is what happens once you give up and cave in and/or neglect to uphold sexual purity messages! You get a nation that drifts more and more off course and into living gross sexual lifestyles and seeing nothing wrong with it.

Instead you idiot preachers either ignored the topic altogether, or else gave “how to have sizzling sex with your spouse” sermons, or, you apologized for churches that actually did the right thing (but carried it out wrongly) of the 1980s and 1990s of preaching that sex before marriage was sin.

In the meantime, virtually nobody in Christendom was speaking up in favor of virginity- until- marriage and its benefits, and pointing out that the Bible condemns pre-marital sex.

(Link): Americans Are Cheating More, Are Less Keen on Monogamy – Survey Results

by James Reinl
February 23, 2023

Americans are increasingly cheating on partners, are more open to multiple lovers, and less keen on monogamy, a new survey on changing attitudes to sex and love has revealed.

YouGov polling this month shows that while most Americans still want a wholly monogamous marriage, the numbers are slipping as people increasingly accept some degree of dallying.

Meanwhile, polygamy — the custom of having more than one spouse at the same time — remains mostly taboo, but nearly a fifth of US adults say it will be legal within 50 years.

For many, the trend is not surprising, echoed in the celebrity cheating scandal involving stars Meghan Fox and Machine Gun Kelly and the open marriage between Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith.

But for others, including conservative DailyMail.com columnist David Marcus, the trajectory is a worrying progression from the collapse of traditional norms about family life.

‘Polygamy will be legal in parts of the US within a decade,’ Marcus posted on social media.

‘There is no logical basis to oppose it once you accept gay marriage.’

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