Oregon Torture Suspect Using Dating Apps to Lure New Victims, Police Warn (Update: Police Caught the Guy)

Oregon Torture Suspect Using Dating Apps to Lure New Victims, Police Warn (Update: Police Caught the Guy)

Updates Below

(Link): Man accused of torturing woman he held captive is using dating apps while on the run, police warn

(Link): Oregon torture suspect using dating apps to lure new victims, police warn

January 28, 2023
By Patrick Reilly

Oregon police have warned the public that an attempted murder suspect accused of holding a woman hostage is using dating apps to potentially lure new victims.

Benjamin Obadiah Foster, the subject of a multi-agency manhunt, could also be using the apps to recruit others who will help him evade capture, the Grants Pass police department said Friday.

The search for Foster, who was convicted in Nevada of keeping another woman in captivity, comes after he allegedly bound and severely beat a woman into unconsciousness near Grants Pass, Oregon on Tuesday, police said.

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Mystery as ‘Happily Married’ Mom ‘Shoots Dead’ Her Republican-Activist Husband at Home on Christmas Day

Mystery as ‘Happily Married’ Mom ‘Shoots Dead’ Her Republican-Activist Husband at Home on Christmas Day

My fellow conservatives are really bad about over-promoting marriage, parenthood, the nuclear family – they even go so far as to mistakenly suggest that marriage makes people happier, and that the nuclear family can save a culture.

Well, the nuclear family doesn’t and cannot save a culture (the Bible teaches only individuals can be redeemed and “fixed” via saving faith in Jesus), and marriage does not guarantee happiness, safety, or great health. Here’s another example below.

(Link): Wife murdered politically-active husband on Christmas, prosecutors say

Dec 27, 2022
by C. Weil

A New Jersey woman is currently in custody after she shot and killed her husband on Christmas, police say.

Shortly after 10 p.m. on Sunday, the Township of Hamilton Police Department received a call about “an injured male” at a residence in Mays Landing, an unincorporated area of Hamilton Township, about a half-hour northwest of Atlantic City.

When police arrived, they discovered David Wigglesworth, 57, in serious medical distress after sustaining “an apparent gunshot wound,” a report from the Atlantic County Prosecutor’s Office states. Wigglesworth was later pronounced dead at the scene.

That same evening, police arrested Wigglesworth’s wife, Marylue Wigglesworth, 51, and charged her with his murder. She has been booked into the Atlantic County Justice Facility. It is unclear whether she has any criminal history or whether she is currently being represented by counsel.

(Link): Mystery as ‘happily married’ mom ‘shoots dead’ her Republican-activist husband at home on Christmas Day

December 27, 2022

The brother of a New Jersey woman accused of shooting dead her husband at home on Christmas night has told DailyMail.com exclusively: ‘They could argue about anything.’

Francis Gallagher, 58, said sister Marylue Wigglesworth, 51, and politically-active spouse David were very ‘off and on’ – despite the couple posting happy pictures of themselves on social media.

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Woman Butchered Boyfriend, Giggled While Showing Pal Dead Body: Prosecutors

Woman Butchered Boyfriend, Giggled While Showing Pal Dead Body: Prosecutors

She sounds completely delightful (< that would be sarcasm).

The murdered boyfriend had been texting a 13 year old girl – if he was grooming the teen girl, he’s not a winner, either.

(Not saying he deserved to be murdered by the girlfriend over that, but it’s also difficult for me to fall to pieces for a grown man who’s apparently hitting on a 13 year old girl.)

If you’re single and bummed out about being single – it’s better to be single than in an abusive relationship with someone who will mistreat or murder you.

(Link): Woman butchered boyfriend, giggled while showing pal dead body: prosecutors

by Olivia Land
January 20, 2023

A British woman with an interest in serial killers is accused of viciously stabbing her boyfriend to death and then giggling over his corpse during a video chat.

Shaye Groves is currently on trial for the July 17 murder of her lover, Frankie Fitzgerald, 25.

Jurors at Winchester Crown Court heard this week how the mother-of-one allegedly knifed Fitzgerald 22 times in his sleep, the Daily Mail reported.

According to prosecutors, Groves, 27, was “obsessed” with Fitzgerald’s “performance in the bedroom,” and attacked him at her home a jealous rage after she discovered he was exchanging messages with a 13-year-old girl.

Groves’ former friend, Vikki Baitup, testified that the accused killer video called her after the attack, and that she was “giggling away.”

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Married Father Intentionally Drives His Wife and Children Off Cliff to Murder Them – The Nuclear Family Doesn’t Make People More Loving or Responsible

Married Father Intentionally Drives His Wife and Children Off Cliff to Murder Them – The Nuclear Family Doesn’t Make People More Loving or Responsible

This Nuclear Family didn’t make society any more upstanding, moral, or compassionate.

Being married or a parent didn’t make this man in this news story loving, ethical, responsible, godly, and if any mental illness drove him to do this, then being a married father obviously didn’t keep him in his right mind.

Conservatives should stop over-promising the so-called benefits of marriage, parenting, and The Nuclear Family, just as much as far left liberals need to shut up about discouraging people from having families of their own (ie, getting married and becoming parents).

(Link): A doctor has been charged with attempted murder after his family survived being driven over a 250ft cliff in a Tesla.

Update:
(Link):  Dharmesh Patel’s wife said he ‘intentionally tried to kill’ family by driving Telsa off cliff 

January 31, 2023

The wife of a California doctor charged with deliberately driving them and their kids off a 250-foot cliff had screamed at rescuers that her husband “intentionally tried to kill” them all, according to officials.

Neha Patel, 41, was still conscious when paramedics made it to her family’s crushed Tesla Model Y at the bottom of a notorious steep cliff off Highway 1 known as Devil’s Slide.

She then started “screaming” about her husband’s “intentionality” to kill her and their two kids, a 7-year-old daughter and 4-year-old son, San Mateo County District Attorney Steve Wagstaffe told the San Francisco Chronicle.

Specifically, Wagstaffe told the Los Angeles Times that Neha Patel said: “He intentionally tried to kill us.”

“She said very simply this was not an accident,” Wagstaffe told the LA paper of the plunge that officials have called “an absolute miracle” that all four survived, with the youngest walking away with just bruises.

(Link):  California doctor performed U-TURN on Devil’s Slide cliff before driving Tesla off edge with wife and two young children – as he’s charged with attempted murder after all miraculously survived 250ft drop

The Pasadena doctor charged with the attempted murder of his wife and their two young children by intentionally driving their Tesla off the slide of a 250ft cliff has been pictured today for the first time.

Dharmesh A. Patel, 42, works as a radiologist at Providence Holy Cross Medical Center in Pasadena.

He is accused of intentionally driving his white Tesla Model Y off a cliff known as Devil’s Slide on Monday near San Francisco, during a trip north.

(Link): Doctor accused of intentionally driving Tesla off cliff in Calif. with wife, kids 

Jan 4, 2023
By Yaron Steinbuch

The driver of a Tesla that plunged 250 feet off a notorious California cliff Monday has been arrested — after authorities say he intentionally drove over the edge with his wife and two children inside the car.

Dharmesh Patel, a 41-year-old physician from Pasadena, will be booked on attempted murder and child abuse charges once he is out of a hospital, the California Highway Patrol said in a statement.

…Patel, his wife, Neha, and their children — a 7-year-old girl and 4-year-old boy — miraculously survived after the electric car careened off the notoriously perilous part of the Pacific Coast Highway known as the “Devil’s Slide” about 10:50 a.m. Monday.

The vehicle apparently flipped several times before coming to rest on its wheels.

…Several neighbors of the Patels were shocked to hear of the crash and subsequent arrest.

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Florida Man Throws Christmas Tree at Wife After Being Asked to Help With Dinner

Florida Man Throws Christmas Tree at Wife After Being Asked to Help With Dinner

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Ho ho ho! 🎅 Does being married guarantee happiness, contentment, and inner peace? No it does not!

So if you’re single this holiday and bummed out about it, don’t be! You can enjoy your own company… which is preferable to having an idiot spouse throw a Christmas tree at you.

(Link): Florida man is arrested after hitting his wife with a CHRISTMAS TREE after she asked him to help her with dinner

Dec 15, 2022

A Florida man was arrested after bashing his wife with a Christmas tree after he became enraged when she asked him to help prepare dinner.

Richard Daniel Atchison, 52, was arrested on Monday around 7pm on felony charges including false imprisonment, violation of an injunction and domestic battery, according to an arrest affidavit obtained by DailyMail.com.

…The disturbing incident occurred when Atchison ‘lost his temper’ after the couple got into an argument inside their Fruitland Park home.

(Link): Florida Man Throws Christmas Tree at Wife After Being Asked to Help With Dinner

December 14, 2022
By Pilar Arias , Fox News christmasTree1

A Florida man allegedly threw a Christmas tree at his wife during an argument that was sparked when she asked him to help make dinner, authorities said.

Richard Atchison, 52, “lost his temper” in the couple’s Fruitland Park home Monday evening after his wife asked for help and put a spoon in the sink, accidentally splashing him with water, according to an arrest affidavit obtained by FOX 35 Orlando.

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Dear Abby: I’m Happy Now That My Abusive Ex is Dead

Dear Abby: I’m Happy Now That My Abusive Ex is Dead

 This is not the first time I’ve come across this sort of thing. I have another blog post or two from the past several years detailing letters by widowed women who say their dead husband was abusive or a big jerk, and they are thrilled the husband is dead.

(Link): Dear Abby: I’m Happy Now That My Abusive Ex is Dead

DEAR ABBY:
I have been a widow for six months.

My late husband was a physically and verbally abusive alcoholic.

I spent numerous nights in the ER waiting to be seen and nursed many black eyes throughout the years.

During all those years of abuse, which was witnessed by numerous friends and family, I remained faithful and dedicated to him and our marriage, but due to the toxicity of our relationship I was severely depressed and needed antidepressants.

I tried many times to get him help and had family interventions, only to end up being threatened with getting all my teeth knocked out.

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Jealous Ex Shoots Off His Wife’s New Boyfriend’s Penis with a Handgun – Then Laughs While Describing What Happened to Police

Jealous Ex Shoots Off His Wife’s New Boyfriend’s Penis with a Handgun – Then Laughs While Describing What Happened to Police

If you’re a single adult, tired of being single, just look at news stories like this and cheer up – being in a relationship isn’t a guarantee of happiness, not when your S.O.’s former flame shows up to shoot you with a gun in your genitals.

The guy says the shooting was an accident, but I don’t think the police are buying that. The ex wife says it was deliberate.

Is it worse to be single, or be shot in the genitals? 🤣

(Link): Jealous ex shoots off his wife’s new boyfriend’s penis with a handgun – then laughs while describing what happened to police

By Chris Matthews
Nov 11, 2022

A jealous ex-husband laughed as he told police how he shot off his wife’s new lover’s penis with a handgun.

Bunteurm Oonkaew, 37, had been drinking with his own girlfriend when he flew into a rage and stormed over to his ex-wife’s home in Chumphon, southern Thailand, on Thursday night.

He pushed open the door before pointing the gun at Somchai Sakoolchai, 40, and blasting him in the groin, which Bunteurm claims was an accident.

Horrified ex-wife Ubonrat, 35, called the police and Bunteurm, a lottery ticket seller, was arrested at his home.

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Pathologies of Victimhood by R. Gunderman – The Danger of Victimhood Mentality

Pathologies of Victimhood by R. Gunderman – The Dangers of Victimhood Mentality

I wanted to explain a few things before I paste in excerpts from the article about victimhood by Gunderman, so nobody will misunderstand my views upfront.

I do think there are actual victims out there in life, including in the Christian church context. I am not denying that.

I recognize that sometimes painful or unfair things happen to all of us in life, and sometimes those painful things are due to other people’s cruelty, incompetence, negligence, or sins against us, and not due to any personal moral failings or choices we make.

Sometimes bad things happen to good people through no fault of those people. One can be more sinned against than sinner.

A few years ago, there was a guy on Twitter with several accounts (he seemed to be a Christian), all of which were disgustingly used to mock victims of church abuse or of sexual abuse whose churches tried to cover up the abuse.

I think he later deleted these accounts, or his accounts received so many complaints from others that Twitter deleted them all.

One of his Twitter accounts used the name “Victim Princess,” as if to suggest that any and all women who spoke out against abuse they received by their churches or by Christians was nothing but entitled, petty whining with no merit. I was appalled by his account.

This guy would do things like actually tweet rude or nasty comments at Christian women on Twitter who discussed how their church covered up their abuse by other church members.

Politically, I am a conservative, and I do not agree with the vast majority of liberal or progressive “woke,” intersectional identity politics, which is largely based on victimhood mentality.

In progressive identity politics, different identity groups end up competing for “who is the most oppressed and biggest victim in life,” which creates (not solves) all sorts of problems.

However, while I do think that the “woke” go over-board with their grievance culture mentality, that does not mean that people who complain about having been hurt in life are always lying, exaggerating, or trying to get special accommodations.

Out of Knee Jerk Dislike of Wokeness, Among Other Factors, Sadly, Too Often, Too Many Conservatives Minimize Actual Abuse

While some progressives over-play the “victim card” to exploit and manipulate others, it is still wrong for conservatives to deny, minimize, or to reject altogether that churches do usually cover up sexual abuse in their midst or by their members.

It is wrong for conservatives to fail to acknowledge the reality that most pastors and churches do in fact fail domestic abuse victims and constantly enable abusers.

I do think that most churches are insensitive and incompetent at handling abuse among their members, and that should change.

There is such a thing as a victim. People can be exploited, hurt, and abused by other people – that is not something that “woke” liberals and progressives are making up.

I’m a conservative who has been taken advantage of and bullied through my life by school mates, my ex fiance, siblings, co-workers on jobs, etc., and this through no fault of my own.

Victims do actually exist.

Conservatives can and have been abused and mistreated on an individual and group level, whether by liberal and progressive persons and policies, or by their spouses or bosses on jobs.

At one time or another, we’ve all been bullied, abused, harassed, exploited, or on the receiving end of rude or cutting comments, regardless of our identity or political beliefs.

It is therefore unrealistic and cruel for conservatives to act like any and every person who claims victim status is a sensitive snowflake or is lying about it.

Flip Side of Coin: People Who Choose to Stay in Victimhood Status (yes, it’s ultimately a choice), Refuse to Move Forward

However, I have seen people, and groups of people, who – whether they are actual victims or not – wallow in victimhood status and victimhood mentality, and this is not acceptable, either.

Some of those still participating in the “exvangelical” (ex-evangelical) tag over on Twitter in 2022, which has been going on for several years now, are one example of this.

I’ve seen so many people, under that “exvangelical” tag,  as well as non-ex-evangelical people I once befriended online,
or people (including family members I’ve had, real life friends and co-workers) who may have been honestly victimized and wounded in childhood or adulthood, but they remain “stuck” in their rage, anger, and hurt – they still think of themselves as victims, and they want to be viewed as victims.

They want to be endlessly coddled and validated.

These are people who are very resistant to, or who refuse to take, the only avenue out of the pain, regret, anger, and disappointment and into joy, peace, and happiness – which includes, after a period of grieving and anger (that comes to an end and does not go on indefinitely),

  • accepting, once for all, what happened to them,
    realizing that remaining focused on external causes and other people (ie, their abuser or abusive church) is keeping them “stuck,”
  • to make a deliberate decision at some point to move forward, whether they “feel like it” or not
    (i.e., to no longer stew in anger, to ruminate, stew in past wrongs done against them, to dwell on how life is unfair, to dwell upon the idea they are a good person who didn’t deserve the abuse, etc),
  • to realize in order to change their life for the better, they will have to look inwards,
    which will allow them to get to the next healing point…
  • take personal responsibility for their life, healing,
    and realize if you want your life to change,
    you will have to get active and make changes yourself
    – sitting around all day doing things like watching TV or complaining to people on social media about how life, your former church, God, or your abuser, treated you so unfairly
    (even if any and all those things are in fact true, ie, you WERE treated horribly and unfairly)
    – won’t ultimately help you in the long run, it won’t make the necessary changes;
    complaining frequently, and receiving validation that, yes, what happened to you was horrible and wrong, and yes, you were a victim who didn’t deserve abuse, will only offer temporary emotional relief but will not produce long lasting inner peace and happiness

Stewing in anger, hurt, and regret and enjoying or wanting to receive validation that one did not deserve to be abused, is all but a step in the overall journey of healing.
It is the first step… but too many victims want to stay in Step One forever and ever, rather than moving through the rest of the steps.

Yes, there should be time limits on how long you are angry, ruminating, and upset and wanting to receive validation – a lot of therapists and victims (and former victims) get upset when this view point is stated, but it’s true.

Maybe that time limit is different for each victim and should not be rushed – which is fine.

HOWEVER, I do not support any person staying mired in “victimhood land” perpetually.

Staying in step one – never getting over or past the anger and hurt, refusing to let go or from even considering to do so, being addicted to external validation like it’s a drug one craves and needs – is one huge component of what keeps people trapped in depression, anger, pain, and from enjoying the rest of their life.

If you feel perpetually wounded, hurt, or angry, as long as you keep shifting blame towards those outside you (even if yes, those others deserve that blame), as long as you continue to dwell on being angry at your abuser, at God, life circumstances, or former churches that treated you like trash, you’ll never be able to move on and enjoy life again.

You have to look inwards in order to move forward, and that is a choice one has to make, because it won’t instantaneously happen.

Furthermore, your emotions will never magically change on their own; you will never “feel” like getting up, making changes, and moving forward. It’s a matter or choice and self discipline.

So if your mindset is, “I will make changes and move on when I feel like it, when my emotions change,” that is never going to happen.

Moving on is more a matter of will.

While I do think there are actual victims out there (and anti-woke conservatives need to be sensitive to these persons),
I’m also aware of legitimate victims who cannot or who refuse to move on,

-and there are persons with Covert or Vulnerable Narcissism (a personality disorder – more about that on this blog (Link): here and (Link): here), a hallmark of which is holding a life-long self-pitying, victimhood mentality – these people, of their own accord, are mired in depression and misery of their own making, because they refuse to look inwards and take personal responsibility.

Covert Narcissists, for one, prefer to point the finger of blame for their misery at their family of origin, God, and / or their former church, ex-spouses, and so on. They never want to look at how their attitudes or actions keep them in a limited, unhappy situation.

Sorry for that very long intro, but I didn’t want anyone to get to the following link and excerpts and think by posting it that I am in denial that yes, at times in life, sometimes people have legitimate pain and grievances and can be honest to goodness victims.

I do believe there are honest- to- goodness victims out there and that these victims deserve compassion, empathy, and justice,
but – however –
I am also aware that, unfortunately, some people, whether legitimate victim or not, will milk and exploit a “victim” label to lash out at others, to demand special treatment (at the expense of others), and that  clinging to a “victim” identity and view of themselves will cause them to remain stuck in unhappiness.

I have more commentary below this link with excerpts:

Pathologies of Victimhood – the Essay

(Link): Pathologies of Victimhood by R. Gunderman – Victimhood Mentality

Excerpts:

by Richard Gunderman
November 13, 2022

[Piece opens by discussing the late Sacheen Littlefeather, who claimed to be a Native American but who was actually of Mexican descent. She wanted to be viewed as a Native American to depict herself as an undertrodden member of a victim class.
As someone who actually is part Native American, I don’t view myself as a victim, so I find her ploy strange]

…Everyone has experienced genuine victimization at some point in their lives. Some have been the victims of political persecution and violent assault, while others have suffered lesser slights, such as bullying, verbal insults, and interruptions when speaking.

Most of us have also experienced situations where presumed victimhood stemmed from a mistaken assumption—for example, a driver who “cut off” a fellow motorist by abruptly changing lanes might appear to harbor malicious intent, but it might turn out that he was merely attempting to get to the hospital as quickly as possible to be with an ailing loved one.

Some among us, however, have a habit of adopting a posture of victimhood too easily and too often, a tendency that can damage communities, interpersonal relationships, and supposed victims themselves.

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Husband Is Jailed for Life for Pushing His Seven- Month Pregnant Wife to Her Death From a Cliff After Posing for a Selfie With Her on 1,000Ft-High Ledge

Husband Is Jailed for Life for Pushing His Seven- Month Pregnant Wife to Her Death From a Cliff After Posing for a Selfie With Her on 1,000Ft-High Ledge

Does marriage and/or parenthood make a person more godly, loving, responsible and ethical than staying single and/or childless? No, no it does not, contrary to all the hyper-pro-marriage-nuclear family talking points that many conservatives pump out – another example below.

(Link): Turkish man jailed for life for pushing pregnant wife off cliff

Oct 28, 2022

A man will spend the rest of his life behind bars after he pushed his pregnant wife off a cliff so he could collect a life insurance policy.

…He had lured his wife – who was afraid of heights – to the edge of the 304-meter cliff on the pretense of taking a selfie, but then pushed her over.

A court heard how he committed the horrific act, which took place in June 2018, amid a twisted plot where he took out life insurance on her behalf worth $25,000, which he quickly claimed after her death.

(Link): Husband is jailed for life for pushing his seven-month pregnant wife to her death from a cliff after posing for a selfie with her on 1,000ft-high ledge

October 27, 2022
by Chris Pleasance

A husband who pushed his heavily pregnant wife to her death from a cliff [located in the nation of Turkey] so he could collect a life insurance policy has been jailed for life.

Hakan Aysal, 40, was told Tuesday that he must serve at least 30 years before he can be considered for release by judges at Fethiye High Criminal Court, southern Turkey.

The court had previously heard that Aysal pushed wife Semra, 32, off a 1,000ft cliff in Butterfly Valley, a beauty spot around 10 miles south of Fethiye, in June 2018.

Aysal had lured his wife – who was afraid of heights – to the edge of the cliff on the pretense of taking a selfie before shoving her over. He then tried to pocket a £40,000 insur

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Illegal Immigrant Husband Kills Wife, Slits His Own Throat in Front of Their Kids in Horrific Murder-Suicide

Illegal Immigrant Husband Kills Wife, Slits His Own Throat in Front of Their Kids in Horrific Murder-Suicide

Do marriage or parenthood make a person more responsible, godly, mature, or loving? Nope. Does being in a Nuclear Family make someone more loving, godly, or mature? Nope. Another case in point below.

(Link): Illegal immigrant stabs wife to death – then slits his own throat in front of her three kids during horrific murder-suicide sparked by argument about their son’s behavior

October 18, 2022
by Melissa Koenig

A man living in the country illegally stabbed his wife to death before slitting his own throat in front of her three children Monday night.

Officials with the Volusia County Sheriff’s Office said they were first alerted to the home in Deltona, Florida after a neighbor reported a 10-year-old boy ran to his house because his stepfather stabbed his mother.

The boy also told authorities his stepfather tried to stab him as well, but he was able to get away.

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Bodybuilder Is Arrested After ‘He Incinerated His Ex-Wife While She Went to Pick Up Her Belongings’

Bodybuilder Is Arrested After ‘He Incinerated His Ex-Wife While She Went to Pick Up Her Belongings’

Contrary to what marriage-pushing conservatives keep insisting, does marriage improve society? Nope. Does marriage make people happier? Nope. Does marriage make people more ethical, loving, or responsible? Nope. Here’s another example.

(Link): Florida bodybuilder, 43, is arrested after ‘he incinerated his ex-wife while she went to pick up her belongings’ – and cops did not trace him to the grisly murder until they found her JAWBONE at his home with one of her teeth still intact

October 12, 2022

A Florida bodybuilder and former Marine has been accused of murdering his ex-wife when she visited him to collect some of her things, and then burning her body in an oil drum in the back yard.

Ian Christopher Baunach, 43, appeared in court in Tampa on Monday and pled not guilty to killing Katie Baunach, the 39-year-old mother of his two children.

In November 2021, Baunach, a former Marine who retrained as an engineer, was arrested on charges of domestic battery by strangulation, and was released the same day on $25,000 bond.

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Overcoming a Narcissistic Husband and a Church that Enabled Him – Podcast

Overcoming a Narcissistic Husband and a Church that Enabled Him – Podcast

The following is a podcast. The identical episode is available on several different hosts, including iHeart media, Apple, and I forget where all else.

I listened to this podcast, then went back and re-listened to the first ten or so minutes of it, but the podcast did not go into detail in explaining how this woman’s church enabled this (not that I recall), but I’ve seen enough over the years to guess why and how.

Most Christians, and I include church preachers in this, are ignorant about Cluster B personality disorders (under which Narcissism falls), so they actually expect women to stay married to individuals who lack empathy and/or a conscience- this is not a realistic, safe, sane, or compassionate response or perspective, by the way – most Christians, especially preachers, are huge morons on these topics.

(Not that secular culture is great at understanding these topics, either.)

There is currently no ‘cure’ for Cluster B personality disorders, and they are quite therapy-resistant (especially Narcissism and Anti-Social), so it’s quite unrealistic for Christians to instruct someone married to a “Cluster B” person to tell them to just “submit more” to the spouse, or to just “pray and trust the Lord” and to tell them divorce is always prohibited, no matter the situation.

Goodness knows that gender complementarian Christians don’t help matters, in that under the false, un-biblical “complementarian” or “biblical womanhood” teachings they love to spout off, they essentially ask or guilt trip  Christian girls and women into adopting Codependent, people pleasing behaviors, to lack boundaries, and to endure abuse or mistreatment.

However, the Bible teaches personal responsibility for each person and does not teach that God wants or expects girls or women to remain in abusive relationships, but to leave them and to avoid them in the first place, if possible.

God gave girls and women discernment and wisdom and expects them to use it – to high tail it out of abusive situations, for one thing, not sit there and put up with it, all because Pastor John Doe has a faulty interpretation of the Bible.

It’s not up to any girl or woman to “change” a man, nor is it possible, certainly not in the case of Cluster B personality disorders. Women are not the Holy Spirit. It is not up to women to sanctify a man. It is that man’s responsibility to fix his own problems.

It’s possible I am misunderstanding things, but by “enabling,” I think the lady interviewed (who was married to a Narcissistic Sociopath named John) seemed to be saying that she was living with John as boyfriend-girlfriend, and he manipulated her into marrying him by continually nagging her with the observation that she was “living in sin,” which her church would not approve of.

They, her church, would expect her to make things right by getting married, and not living together as boyfriend and girlfriend, seemed to be the point.

Her ex, John, was using her religious upbringing to manipulate her into marriage.

She said in the podcast that John asked her many, many times to marry him, but she kept saying “No,” until he finally wore her down, and she caved in.

(I could write a separate blog post on that!
I’ve run into several people via this very blog and/or this blog’s associated Twitter account, who kept pestering me and hounding me repeatedly OVER MONTHS (some were very nice about it) to befriend them further over Facebook or e-mail, they kept saying they wanted to get to know me better, even though I politely turned them down many times.

I finally blocked one guy who kept doing this; he would not respect my boundaries and take “no” for an answer, when he kept asking if we could be friends over e-mail.
I’ve since come to learn that this non-stop pestering and hounding after you’ve said “no” to the person many times (and no matter how friendly and nice they are being about it) is one indication that the person more than likely has a personality disorder, and they are to be kept at arm’s length.)

(Link – to iHeart host, 1.15 hour long): Overcoming a Narcissistic Husband and a Church that Enabled Him

(Link – same podcast episode, but located on Spotify): Overcoming a Narcissistic Husband and a Church that Enabled Him

(Link – same episode but on PodPlay): Overcoming a Narcissistic Husband and a Church that Enabled Him

Sept 8, 2022

Today’s Guest overcame a tumultuous marriage with a narcissistic husband and the Church that supported his actions. Coming straight from a religious college and community, our Guest and her ex-husband met and were groomed by the Church to be together and get married.

After what she thought was the perfect pairing to the perfect man, and that they were going to change the world for the better, everything changed.

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