More Christian Abuse Survivor Infighting – Yikes – this time it involves ‘Sacred Wilderness’

More Christian Abuse Survivor Infighting – Yikes – this time it involves ‘Sacred Wilderness’

Several months ago, Christian abuse survivor advocates were ganging up on Christian journalist Julie Roys – I wrote a blog post or two about it, like (Link): this one. I’ve been meaning to write another post or two about it but didn’t get around to it (maybe some day – a lot of Christian abuse survivor advocates are appallingly ignorant about Codependency).

This time, there was another “Civil War” among Christian abuse survivor advocates, some of the names or groups I do not recognize.

Someone named Johnna Harris (who runs or is somehow affiliated with a group called Sacred Wilderness) was being accused of things, and attacked for weeks on end, by another so-called Christian abuse survivor advocate calling himself Kyle Howard. Also, staff or volunteers of SW (Sacred Wilderness) were accusing higher ups at SW of abuse or something.

Again, I’m not familiar with everyone in this drama, so I’m not sure who started what and why, and who is pushing what agenda – well, after having read through the PDF mentioned below, I now have a better idea, but it’s a somewhat long and convoluted mess.

This SW group hired a third party to investigate them, to ensure they were above board.

They released their findings of this third party in (Link): an open letter, Organizational Assessment with Pellucid Consulting,  and a PDF file (I believe the PDF file is linked to at the bottom of the open letter).

Excerpts from the open letter:

Kyle Howard has personally tweeted many hurtful lies towards one of our founding members, Johnna Harris, including tagging her in an email claiming that she was fearful Kyle would try to sexually assault her. This is just one example of hundreds of tweets that we have screenshots of directly targeting Johnna or her work.

Our former employee tweeted on multiple occasions that we chose to do an assessment over an investigation. He said that was wrong because since abuse claims had already been made we should have gone straight to an investigation.

We interviewed and reached out to several corporate investigation companies, both secular and non-secular.

After reviewing our situation with associates of three companies, none of those companies thought we qualified for an investigation. Things they brought up were that we “were not a company with a history of abuse,” “this is too small for them to take on,” and “this just sounds like a corporate conflict where you need to amicably part ways and move on.”

There are so many examples of harmful things said about us that could have been included, but we encourage you to read the report to see more, specifically pages 38-48.
— end excerpts —

Wife of Disabled Man Accused of Keeping Him in Slavery While Having Affair with His Care Provider

Wife of Disabled Man Accused of Keeping Him in Slavery While Having Affair with His Care Provider

Contra to obsessive conservative marriage, parenthood, and nuclear family promoters, marriage, parenthood and the nuclear family don’t necessarily improve society nor do those things make people more loving, godly, responsible or ethical.

Lest you think that it’s only women who murder or abuse their husbands, I have plenty examples on thig blog of husbands who abuse or murder their wives. Just a week or two ago, for instance, I did a blog post about a dentist who killed his wife by poisoning her smoothies so he could run off with his orthodontist mistress.

(Link): Wife of disabled man accused of keeping him in slavery while having affair with his carer tells court their marriage was ‘strong and really good’ but when he lost his sight she became ‘exhausted’

Excerpts:

May 4, 2023
by Stewart Carr

The wife of a disabled man who cheated on him with his carer today told a court her marriage had been ‘strong and really good’ but that she felt ‘exhausted’ when his health took a turn for the worse.

Sarah Somerset-How and her lover George Webb allegedly ‘enslaved’ her husband Tom, barely keeping him alive as they spent his money while treating him ‘like a piece of property’.

While they bought themselves lingerie and DJ equipment with cash he had been given by relatives, the 40-year-old, who was an ‘intelligent’ history graduate with cerebral palsy, was left as a ‘prisoner in his own home’, a jury has been told.

Conservative Host Steven Crowder Says His Wife Wants a Divorce

Conservative Host Steven Crowder Says His Wife Wants a Divorce

(Updates Below)

(Link): Podcast: David Instone-Brewer On Divorce and Remarriage in the Church

The Bible offers guidance on many issues. But when it coms to issues like divorce and remarriage in the church, there are still many questions that don’t have quick and easy answers. Questions like …

Is adultery the only grounds for divorce?
Is remarriage considered adultery?
What should you do if your spouse walks away from the marriage?

Dr. David Instone-Brewer helps clear things up on these issues that continue to remain controversial in the church today.

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Crowder Announces Divorce

I saw “divorce” – the word – trending on Twitter, clicked on that, where I saw people tweeting that conservative host Steven Crowder announced that his wife wants a divorce.

I do recall years ago, seeing Crowder saying he and his wife waited until marriage to have sex, which I respect.

I can edit this post later to add any more information that comes to light, if I find it interesting or whatever.

This just goes to show that marriage is not a fairy tale, nor is it a guarantee for ongoing happiness. You can get married and still end up being miserable – if your spouse asks for a divorce, and you don’t want one – or if your spouse is abusive, a serial cheater, or what have you.

You can get married, and your spouse still want to end the relationship, leaving you single once more. I’m guessing that marriage didn’t bring this guy happiness, and certainly not his wife – she wants out.

I’m a conservative, I’m not anti-Nuclear Family nor am I anti-parenthood, but I am so sick and tired of other conservatives tendency to elevate marriage, parenthood and The Nuclear Family to a station that even the Bible does not. The Bible does NOT REVERE the Nuclear Family (or marriage, etc).

But many of the conservatives (maybe all) revere all that. Conservatives as a group tend to bash others over the head all the time with the “rah rah motherhood, rah rah marriage” rhetoric and shame anyone who isn’t married, who doesn’t have children, who cannot or does not want to get married or have children.

Then they turn around and get divorces. Or are found out for having committed adultery or child molesting.

I will say that at least most conservatives have standards, whereas progressives just don’t. But sometimes I wonder what good is it having certain standards if you’re going to fail them consistently?

Why bother shaming or judging never married, childless women such as myself for being single and childless (which many conservatives often do) when you cannot even keep your own marriage together?

I have more to say below all these links and excerpts:

(Link): SINGLE CROWDER Who is Steven Crowder’s estranged wife Hilary Crowder? 

(Link): ‘NOT MY CHOICE’ Steven Crowder announces ‘horrendous divorce’ from wife Hilary as YouTuber speaks out on ‘deepest personal failure’

April 25, 2023

POLITICAL commentator and YouTuber Steven Crowder revealed that he and his wife, Hilary, are getting a divorce after a decade of marriage.

Crowder made the announcement on Tuesday during an episode of his podcast, Louder with Crowder.

…”Since 2021, I’ve been living through what has increasingly been a horrendous divorce.”

Crowder clarified that the end of his marriage wasn’t a result of infidelity or any kind of physical abuse on either side.

Georgia Woman Killed Fiance and Lived with His Corpse for Two Months

Georgia Woman Killed Fiance and Lived with His Corpse for Two Months

Yeah, hey, keep this post bookmarked if you’re in the stage of feeling bad about being single when you had hoped or expected to be married.

By the way, this isn’t completely pertinent to the news story altogether, but the caption below the woman’s mug shot on the page says she is 46 years old – good grief, she looks like a very old 46!

She looks 20 to 30 years OLDER than 46 in that mug shot. I know sometimes people can appear much older than they are if they’re into drugs and so forth – that could explain it, I guess. I don’t know if she was on drugs or not, but she looks much older than her actual age, IMHO.

(Link): Georgia woman killed fiancé and lived with his corpse for 2 months

by Landon Mion
March 20, 2023

A Georgia woman was found guilty of killing her fiancé and living with his body for two months until officials discovered he had died.

Tabitha Zelida Wood, 46, was found guilty on Friday by a Hall County jury of killing and concealing the death of her fiancé last year, according to court documents obtained by WSB-TV.

Officials said they learned of the death of Leroy Franklin Kramer Jr., 82, after his stepdaughter reported in June that she was concerned for his safety after not hearing from him for several months.

Hall County Sheriff’s deputies then arrived at Kramer’s home and discovered his body.

Man Fatally Stabs His Wife During Bible Study

Man Fatally Stabs His Wife During Bible Study-

Sorry this lady is dead – but – this goes to show what I’ve been saying all along: marriage does not confer special character traits into people and improve them, as so many marriage-promoters (the same guys who promote The Nuclear Family, parenthood, and natalism) keep pushing, that marriage supposedly makes people more godly, loving, mature, responsible, ethical, and so on.

Also: “equally yoked” doesn’t guarantee you’re marrying a quality spouse. I’m not sure if the man mentioned in this news story is a Christian himself or not, but…  I have plenty of examples on my blog of self-identifying Christians who are arrested for beating or murdering their spouse or for molesting children and goodness knows what else.

If I understand the news story correctly, both the murdered woman and the husband had children from previous marriages(?). This also goes to show that parenthood is not a guarantee of happiness and safety in life, or of instilling good morals and virtue into a person.

(Link): Minnesota man stabs wife to death during family bible study

March 24, 2023

A deranged Minnesota man with a violent past stabbed his wife to death during a family bible study at a relative’s home earlier this week, officials said.

Robert Castillo, 40, of St. Paul was charged with second-degree murder of his wife, 41-year-old Corinna Woodhull, after allegedly knifing her repeatedly at a St. Paul residence around 9 p.m. Tuesday, according to the Ramsey County Attorney’s Office.

(Link):  Minnesota man fatally stabs wife during Bible study, asks if she’ll be OK: police

Corrina Woodhull begged a witness, “Don’t let me die,” after Robert Castillo stabbed her, court records say

 March 24, 2023
by Chris Eberhart

A Minnesota man allegedly stabbed his estranged wife 20 times during a Bible study before she begged a witness, “Don’t let me die,” court documents say.

By that time, Corrina Woodhull was soaked in blood from stab wounds that Robert Castillo had allegedly inflicted through her torso, chest and arms, according to a criminal complaint that was obtained by Fox News Digital.

The alleged assault unfolded in front of several witnesses around 9 p.m. Tuesday in a Saint Paul home, where Castillo’s sister lives and hosts a weekly Bible study.

…By 9:39 that night, Woodhull was pronounced dead in the hospital, and Castillo was charged with second-degree murder, along with two other felonies.

Nearly Half of Single People Receive Unsolicited Nudes, Get Ghosted: Poll – and a Few Dating Tips

Nearly Half of Single People Receive Unsolicited Nudes, Get Ghosted: Poll – and a Few Dating Tips

The page I’ve linked to below has some “first date dating tips,” a few of which I’ve included in my post.

May I add another tip or two (this is especially for single women), and this is also applicable to friendships, family relationships, and any job you have (your co-workers or bosses):
Please spend time researching Narcissistic Abuse and Cluster B personality disorders (which includes but is not limited to Narcissism and Sociopathy).

Particularly if you are a woman, and you’re a shy, people pleasing or codependent woman, you may be prone to over-sharing when you meet someone new (whether a date, a co-worker, etc) because you mistakenly think that sharing personal details when you first meet someone will establish intimacy.

You need to throw that thinking, assumption, and behavior into the trash can immediately.

One reason you do NOT want to overshare early in a relationship (as one of the tips gets into below – and remember, this is applicable to friendship and co-workers too, not JUST dating) is that the person you are dating might be a Cluster B,
and a Cluster B person will exploit any personal information or weaknesses you admit to, or that they can pick up from observing you, to control or manipulate you as the relationship progresses.

Such persons (especially Vulnerable Narcissists) will get you to talk about yourself WAY too much on a first or second date (and of course psychopaths and sociopaths will use this strategy too, but it seems to be a little more of a classical move that Vulnerable Narcissists play).

They may start out acting very, very interested in you, asking you all sorts of questions about what makes you “tick,” about your background, what kind of family you come from, etc.

You need to be careful how much or what type of that information you share.

You can also choose to refuse to answer any questions out-right, just tell the person, “I choose not to answer that question.” If they keep pressing or nagging you into giving an answer, just keep repeating over and over (however many times necessary), “I decline to answer that question.”

You do not always owe other people answers (not all the time with all people in every situation – this is highly context specific, but on a first, second, third, fourth, etc., date, NO, you do NOT owe your date answers to any or all questions!), nor do you owe people justifications or explanations for whatever choices you make in life, either.

Vulnerable (also known as Covert) Narcissists (and other Cluster B persons) try to pry into your personal business and learn about weak areas and regrets as much as they can, not because they truly care about you or your background, or your likes, your triggers, or your vulnerabilities, but they want that information so that they can use it to exploit and control you with later on.

They will eventually intentionally bring up your triggers, your weak spots, and/or shame you with painful or embarrassing things you admitted to them on a first or second date.

For example, if you admit early on in a relationship to always having had body issues and insecurities, to feeling embarrassed about not being stick thin, then as time moves on, they will more than likely start mocking you about your weight, or making thinly veiled insults
– like if they walk in seeing you eating a slice of pie, they may make a low key snide dig like, “Oh, is that your second piece of pie today?,” or, “Do you really think with your weight issues you should be eating that?”

They are doing that kind of thing on purpose. It’s calculated to make you feel shame. It is deliberate.

They want to chip away at your self esteem so that you are easy to control, abuse, and manipulate.

Some of them, especially the Covert Narcissists, will sometimes feign innocence and act as though they really and truly DO care about your weight and your health when they make comments about you eating another piece of pie. But they don’t actually care about your health or your weight.

Their end goal is to shame you more so they can control you, and you unknowingly tipped them off early in the dating stages that they can use your sensitivity about your body image / weight to clobber you with down the road.

One good book on this topic to get you started, what to look for early on in dating (or in forming friendships, or what to look for on job interviews to make sure you’re not walking into a toxic work environment with an abusive boss or co-workers),
and to learn about some of the typical emotionally manipulative games Cluster B persons play on their targets, is this book:
“Psychopath Free” by Jackson MacKenzie.
The book “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin DeBecker also offers a few similar insights. 

(Link): Nearly half of single people receive unsolicited nudes, get ghosted: poll

by Jack Hobbs
March 28, 2023

Single people who’ve been ghosted or sent an unsolicited nude photo — you’re not alone.

A new poll revealed that nearly half of the single people asked have been victims of nasty dating etiquette.

The dating app Plenty of Fish created a survey along with a dating guide in partnership with life coach Michelle Elman to help single people avoid “undesirable dating behaviors and engineer more positive experiences.”

“Helping daters understand and navigate different behaviors on their dating journey is something I’m really passionate about, which is why I’ve partnered with Plenty of Fish to create the Desirable Dating Guide,” Elman told the Sun. “The guide highlights some of the negative behaviors and experiences that can occur in the dating world, while also shining a light on how singles can enact some positive change.”

According to the survey, which sampled nearly 4,000 British singles, 48% of respondents said that they received unsolicited nude photos from a match or date — with 45% of the 48% revealing that it made them feel disgusted.

Woman Allegedly Kills Her Husband in an Argument Streamed on Facebook

Woman Allegedly Kills Her Husband in an Argument Streamed on Facebook

(Link): Woman kills husband in argument streamed on Facebook

Excerpts:

March 26, 2023

A Lowndes County woman is accused of killing her husband Saturday morning during an argument that was being streamed on Facebook Live.

Kadejah Michelle Brown, 28, is charged with murder, Sheriff Eddie Hawkins said.

Deputies responded to a domestic violence call at 500 Greentree Drive about 7:40 a.m., Hawkins said. When they arrived, they found a male victim dead of a single gunshot wound.

(Link): Woman Charged With Murder After She Goes Live To Record Her Husband Leaving Her Then She Shoots Him

According to The Dispatch, a woman A Lowndes County woman is accused of killing her husband Saturday morning during an argument that was being streamed on Facebook Live.

(Link):  Mississippi woman unalive her husband on Facebook live after finding out he’s gay

Excerpts:

Days before Kadejah allegedly shot and killed her husband Jeremy, she put him on blast for being a cheater and gay.

In one social media post, Kadejah wrote, “I have a bisexual husband, Jeremy Roc Brown.”

(Link): Woman Allegedly Kills Her Husband in an Argument Streamed on Facebook

“This was a tragic and senseless murder, and our thoughts and prayers go out to the family of the victim,” Lowdnes County Sheriff Eddie Hawkins said in an official statement

By Alexis Jones
Published on March 26, 2023

A Georgia woman allegedly killed her husband during an argument streamed on Facebook Live.

According to the Lowdnes County Sheriff’s Office (LCSO) statement, 28-year-old Kadejah Michelle Brown was arrested without incident by deputies on Saturday after they responded to a domestic violence call.

Texas Man Sues Three Women for $1M for Helping His Ex-Wife Get an Abortion

Texas Man Sues Three Women for $1M for Helping His Ex-Wife Get an Abortion

I’m pro-life, not pro-choice, but this seems very strange. I’d wager that this guy was subjecting his ex wife to narcissistic abuse while they were married and that’s why she dumped him. Narcississts are notorious for loving to sue people.

(Link): Texas man sues three women for $1M for helping his ex-wife get an abortion and concealing ‘murderous actions’ from him – text messages show she feared he’d use pregnancy to stop her leaving him

March 11, 2023
by Aneeta Bhole

A Texas man is suing his ex-wife’s three friends for $1 million after they helped her get an abortion as a text exchange reveals she was scared he’d ‘use it against her’ to keep her in the relationship.

Marcus Silva filed the lawsuit in Galveston and argues that a self-managed abortion is equivalent to murder under Texas law.

The lawsuit appears to break new ground in Texas with Silva alleging that he only recently learnt about the termination July last year after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade – which allowed state abortion laws to take effect.

The lawsuit accuses three women with helping obtain abortion pills and convincing Silva’s then-wife to conceal their ‘murderous actions.’

My Husband Tried to Kill Me By Smothering Me with a Pillow and Stabbing Me in the Face While I Slept After I Asked for a Divorce by C. Fernandez

My Husband Tried to Kill Me By Smothering Me with a Pillow and Stabbing Me in the Face While I Slept After I Asked for a Divorce by C. Fernandez

If you’re a single adult still struggling with singleness though you want to be married, keep posts like this one bookmarked to remind you – being married won’t make you happier or keep you safe.

Ignore my fellow conservatives who over-romanticize marriage and make it sound like it will be the solution to all your problems.

(Link): My husband tried to kill me by smothering me with a pillow and stabbing me in the face while I slept after I asked for a divorce – my teenager was forced to stab him to stop the attack

February 25, 2023
by C. Fernanadez

A mother-of-two has revealed her husband of 25 years tried to kill her by smothering her with a pillow and stabbing her in the head after she asked for a divorce.

Shahla Walker, 55, from Gateshead, married Nezam Ghalate, 53, in 1995 – but after welcoming two daughters, their marriage began to fall apart.

In January 2022, she told Nezam she wanted a divorce, before waking up to find he had attacked her.

Her screams woke their 18-year-old daughter, who struck her father with a lamp and eventually resorted to stabbing him in the head in a desperate effort to save her mother.

The Chelsea Handler Childless Woman Upset: Other Conservatives Wrongly Conflating Married Motherhood with Womanhood or Happiness, Meaning, Purpose

The Chelsea Handler Childless Woman Upset: Other Conservatives Wrongly Conflating Married Motherhood with Womanhood or with Happiness, Meaning, or Purpose

After entertainer Chelsea Handler uploaded (Link): a Tweet with a video of herself listing the numerous ways she enjoys life due to being childless – I didn’t see anything in the video mentioning abortion – a lot of other conservatives jumped to shame and scold Handler for being happy about being childless and publicly expressing that happiness.

Others have said that Handler had two or three abortions in the past. The fact that Handler previously had abortions does not change the substance of my problems with conservative reaction to Handler’s video.

I am pro-life, not pro-choice, so I don’t agree with Handler’s actions to terminate her pregnancies.

However, again, I don’t recall Handler’s “happy to be childless” video advocating abortion or mentioning anything about abortion.

I don’t think her video criticized or shamed women for being mothers or for wanting to be mothers.

The only possible, even remotely “anti motherhood” take away one can get from her video is that mothers – assuming they are good, non-abusive mothers – invest a lot of time in child-rearing, but Handler doesn’t frame it in an anti-motherhood way.

It’s Okay For Women to Be Childless at Any Age and to be Happy About Being Childless, Just Like It’s Okay For Mothers to Be Happy About Being Mothers

Handler was just showing ways she has more free time because she doesn’t have to participate in childcare – which is not the same thing as being “anti-motherhood,” or telling other women they are wrong to be mothers.

It’s perfectly fine for a woman to be single and childless and to be happy about it.

Women can and should find meaning and purpose apart from marriage and motherhood. It’s unhealthy for any person to wrap up all their happiness, meaning, or purpose into one identity, station of life, or role.

If you are a married mother, your children will grow up, move out, and seldom visit you once they’re gone. Your husband may develop dementia, abuse you, or cheat on you, so that you will be without emotional support or you will have to divorce him.
In all these situations, you will be left with yourself, by yourself, and god help you if you never forged purpose, identity, happiness, or meaning apart from a spouse and children.

There’s no reason to criticize or shame an adult, man or woman, for being single and childless and for being happy about it and posting about it.

My fellow conservatives often push motherhood (via podcasts, tweets, magazine articles, church sermons, blog posts, etc) to a loopy, creepy, fevered pitch, about how super awesome, fulfilling, and wonderful motherhood supposedly is – but goodness forbid a childless woman lists or publicizes the ways she’s happy with being childless – and do so without criticizing motherhood or mothers. That’s a huge double standard.

I also didn’t agree with Handler’s mockery of single women who choose to remain virgins until marriage or to remain chaste (I blogged about that (Link): here a few years ago).

Unfortunately, in the midst of criticizing Handler, a lot of conservatives today were conflating “womanhood” to married motherhood. 

However, a woman remains a woman regardless if she has a child or is infertile, childless, or childfree, or whether she wants to have children or not.

Oregon Torture Suspect Using Dating Apps to Lure New Victims, Police Warn (Update: Police Caught the Guy)

Oregon Torture Suspect Using Dating Apps to Lure New Victims, Police Warn (Update: Police Caught the Guy)

Updates Below

(Link): Man accused of torturing woman he held captive is using dating apps while on the run, police warn

(Link): Oregon torture suspect using dating apps to lure new victims, police warn

January 28, 2023
By Patrick Reilly

Oregon police have warned the public that an attempted murder suspect accused of holding a woman hostage is using dating apps to potentially lure new victims.

Benjamin Obadiah Foster, the subject of a multi-agency manhunt, could also be using the apps to recruit others who will help him evade capture, the Grants Pass police department said Friday.

The search for Foster, who was convicted in Nevada of keeping another woman in captivity, comes after he allegedly bound and severely beat a woman into unconsciousness near Grants Pass, Oregon on Tuesday, police said.

Mystery as ‘Happily Married’ Mom ‘Shoots Dead’ Her Republican-Activist Husband at Home on Christmas Day

Mystery as ‘Happily Married’ Mom ‘Shoots Dead’ Her Republican-Activist Husband at Home on Christmas Day

My fellow conservatives are really bad about over-promoting marriage, parenthood, the nuclear family – they even go so far as to mistakenly suggest that marriage makes people happier, and that the nuclear family can save a culture.

Well, the nuclear family doesn’t and cannot save a culture (the Bible teaches only individuals can be redeemed and “fixed” via saving faith in Jesus), and marriage does not guarantee happiness, safety, or great health. Here’s another example below.

(Link): Wife murdered politically-active husband on Christmas, prosecutors say

Dec 27, 2022
by C. Weil

A New Jersey woman is currently in custody after she shot and killed her husband on Christmas, police say.

Shortly after 10 p.m. on Sunday, the Township of Hamilton Police Department received a call about “an injured male” at a residence in Mays Landing, an unincorporated area of Hamilton Township, about a half-hour northwest of Atlantic City.

When police arrived, they discovered David Wigglesworth, 57, in serious medical distress after sustaining “an apparent gunshot wound,” a report from the Atlantic County Prosecutor’s Office states. Wigglesworth was later pronounced dead at the scene.

That same evening, police arrested Wigglesworth’s wife, Marylue Wigglesworth, 51, and charged her with his murder. She has been booked into the Atlantic County Justice Facility. It is unclear whether she has any criminal history or whether she is currently being represented by counsel.

(Link): Mystery as ‘happily married’ mom ‘shoots dead’ her Republican-activist husband at home on Christmas Day

December 27, 2022

The brother of a New Jersey woman accused of shooting dead her husband at home on Christmas night has told DailyMail.com exclusively: ‘They could argue about anything.’

Francis Gallagher, 58, said sister Marylue Wigglesworth, 51, and politically-active spouse David were very ‘off and on’ – despite the couple posting happy pictures of themselves on social media.