views and thoughts on topics, especially ones pertaining to christianity – with an emphasis on how most christians either ignore or discriminate against unmarried christians – and how christians have turned marriage and parenting into IDOLS and how there is no true support for sexual purity, virginity, or celibacy among christians – this is a blog for me to vent; I seldom permit dissenting views. I don't debate dissenters ————-
Here is my review of this sermon / video as I am watching it (and it is a slooow video to download, geeze):
The preacher dresses in a Spider Man costume at the start, which I don’t understand; I don’t get what Spiderman or superheroes have to do with singleness.
The wife of the pastor explains to the congregation how they met and hooked up, while he goes off stage to change out of his costume into jeans and a shirt.
I actually find these ‘how we met and got married’ type things depressing. I won’t give a damn how “Mrs. Jones” met “Mr. Jones” until I get a Mr. Jones of my own, thank you very much. These cutesy couple stories about ‘how we met’ are not encouraging to me the older I get. They are reminders that I’m still unmarried, so I’d rather not hear them.
At least the preacher recognizes that there are a lot of singles in American culture now, and says it’s okay being single. He mentions that up to 44% of Americans today are single. Most preachers still remain oblivious to the fact that close to half the US adult population is single.
Preacher dude says he thinks “God has a person for you,” you better “ask God to be your hitch [match maker],” and, he says, you better, “ask God for that person [your future spouse]”. Uh yeah, I tried all that fella, and I am still never- married in my early 40s.
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Superman, Man Candy -and- Christian Women Are Visual And Enjoy Looking At Built, Hot, Sexy Men
Christian women, including the married ones, are visually oriented and enjoy looking at good-looking male celebrities, a fact which most Christians, especially males and preachers, are uncomfortable about, or unwilling to admit to themselves or to their audiences.
So male Christians, and the occasional Christian female, keep subjecting single (and occasionally married) Christian women to propaganda in sermons and books that only men are “visual,” or “visually stimulated,” so that they, the Christian females, should stay reed thin, have big boobs, and work out several times a week, and have long hair (because supposedly all men love long hair. Having medium or short length hair means you will be single forever).
Note the hypocrisy and double standard in this perspective: Christian males get no pressure or expectation (and not by Christians) to stay in shape as nearly as much as Christian women do, and certainly not from Christian quarters. (Christian women are also told by secular media that their worth is in their physical appearance).
The fact is, women (and yes, this includes Christian females, even married ones) are “visually oriented” and “visually wired,” not just males.
Now, I don’t have any stats about the percentage of Christian women who are drooling over actor Henry Cavill, who is portraying Kal-El (Superman) in the recently released film “Man of Steel,” but I’m willing to bet that more than one Christian woman has taken a glance at Cavill and swooned over the guy, or at least thought, “Lord have mercy, is that ever a perfect specimen of manliness, ooohhhh yes, baby!”
I suppose Cavill is good-looking, but he’s not my speed (I prefer actor Hugh Jackman myself).
In the past few weeks, a lot of women have taken to blogs and Twitter to gush and swoon about how in-shape, studly, and sexy Cavill is. This has caught the attention of other sites, which have been covering this (links below).
Interestingly, when trying to find photos of Cavill to illustrate this post, as I typed in his name in Google images, Google automatically filled my search out to say “Henry Cavill shirtless.” Meaning, a lot of women out there (and maybe some homosexual guys, who knows?) have been specifically searching for photos of Cavill without a shirt on.
Women want to see Henry Cavill topless. Because the man works out and is in shape and looks very appealing to hetero-sexual women.
Henry Cavill is the earnest new Superman in Man of Steel, but he’s inspiring some impure thoughts on Twitter. Entertainment Weekly rounded up a ton of tweets from drooling fans who want him to … basically do what Christian Grey does in Fifty Shades of Grey.
Here’s just a sample of the tweets in EW’s roundup:
[Tweet by Audrey Roberts ]
Henry Cavill. I want him, like chained to my body por favor #damn #manofsteel #superman
[Tweet by Tiffany Sullivan]
I have to say, seeing Henry Cavill’s Superman with his shirt off gives me the special chills.
[Tweety by a woman named nice sedonio]
Henry Cavill. On my bed every night before I sleep and every morning when I wake up. Zipping and unzipping my dress❤😍💋
Women are going crazy for this Cavill guy. Especially Cavill shirtless. They are admiring his face and his outstanding physique.
None of these ladies (that I’ve seen so far) are stopping to ask themselves what kind of personality Cavill has, how smart he may be, does he have a good sense of humor, does he read a Bible daily, does he believe in God?
No, these women are not concerned with Cavill’s intellect, personality, hobbies, political opinions, or spirituality – but these women are acting purely on a visual basis, something conservative Christians say women just do not do. Christians should stop being naive about female sexuality.
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Reaction to Secular Entertainment’s Presentation About Sex (videos)
Very good video about secular entertainment’s treatment of sex in television shows:
This next video discusses how movies depict virgins as being nerdy losers or freaks and Hollywood’s common “curing the virgins” plot staple – because, you know, virginity is like a disease (discusses other movie cliches too):
Notice to American Pastors Who Like to Criticize American Pop Culture
A quick note to American preachers:
You guys are always 10 to 20 years behind the popular culture times. (I’m amazed some of you even have web sites, really, or have even heard of Twitter, Facebook, and You Tube.)
Since you are hell-bent on ignoring Christians in your viewing audience or congregation who do not fit the “married with kids” demographic and actually addressing the needs of never-married adults over the age of 30, (or the divorced, widowers, or Christians with other problems that do not pertain to marriage or parenting), all so you can either sermonize repeatedly about
wifely / female submission to men; (*barf!*)
Bible prophecy and Israel;
the supposed need to tithe;
the evils of liberalism, homosexuality, Democrats, and abortion;
… and one of your other frequent, other favorite topics to rant about, the downfall and coarsening of American popular culture…
At least. At least. At least KEEP CURRENT WITH POP CULTURE. Please at least keep current with what it is you criticize.
In the film, there’s a scene where Sandra Bullock’s character, Margaret, is talking to Ryan Reynolds’ character, Andrew. They’re staying at Andrew’s parents’ home and pretending to be engaged.
Margaret is laying in the bed, and Andrew is on the floor. In a conversation they’re having, Margaret admits to Andrew that it’s been over a year and a half since she’s had sex with a man.
Andrew looks a little surprised by this.
Seeing this scene in the movie reminded me of how often this is used as a staple in movies or television shows: a character admits to not having had sex in X number of weeks, months, or years, and the audience is either meant to feel sympathy, or pity, for the character – or else the audience is meant to find humor in the situation.
I don’t have anything profound to say about this situation, I’m only making note of how often it’s used in dialogue in movies and television shows.
It’s just another example to me of how people have wrong attitudes about sex – as though it’s unheard of for anyone to actually last longer than three days without having sex, or it’s thought of as weird or something to feel pity over.
I hope Hollywood and TV show writers stop using the “I haven’t had sex in three weeks, how awful / amazing / weird/ pitiful is that” shtick any longer.
I would like respect from Christian culture for being celibate, and I would like for older celibates to at least be acknowledged by American Chrisianity (hello, we exist!), but I find the whole pity / shock / revulsion / treating us as though we are side show freaks / disbelief (“OMG, no one is a virgin past the age of 25!”), and other such attitudes from both Christian and Non Christian culture, to be insulting and patronizing.