Mother Sex-Trafficked 5-Year-Old Daughter to Man Who Murdered Her: Officials – Parenthood Does Not Make People More Godly, Mature, Loving, or Ethical

Mother Sex-Trafficked 5-Year-Old Daughter to Man Who Murdered Her: Officials – Parenthood Does Not Make People More Godly, Mature, Loving, or Ethical

Beyond evil. Beyond disgusting.

(Link): Georgia Mother Who Reported Her 5-Year-Old Daughter Missing Is Now Charged with Girl’s Murder

(Link): Mother Sex-Trafficked 5-Year-Old Daughter to Man Who Murdered Her: Officials

Dec 31, 2021
By Mark Lungariello

A 5-year old Georgia girl was brutally murdered after her mother took money from a man to have sex with the young child, authorities claimed.

Kelly Siple, 35, was arrested for murder and human trafficking for the death of daughter Kamarie Holand – weeks after Siple denied involvement and called the child “my life” during a tearful TV interview.

Prosecutors say Jeremy Williams, 37, paid Siple to have sex with her daughter before he raped and strangled her, WRBL-TV reported Friday, citing court records.

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Life Lessons After Recovering from Codependency – I Can’t Save You, and I No Longer Want To

Life Lessons After Recovering from Codependency – I Can’t Save You, and I No Longer Want To

This will be a repetitive, somewhat rambling (and very long) post, because this involves a huge pet peeve of mine.

I very much resent any one lecturing me or accusing me of not being compassionate enough, or not giving enough “emotional support” in some situation or another, when they refuse to factor in what I’ve been through in my life and why I now do what I do.

I refer to this highly pertinent fact:

I spent over 3 decades of my life being very codependent. I was pathologically un-selfish, giving, and supportive of and to others to my own detriment.

It’s absolutely perverse and demonic to accuse a recovering codependent (such as myself), who has finally begun developing healthy boundaries, of being selfish or not being “giving” enough in relationships.

You’re accusing a former codependent of the very opposite things she spent decades doing, behaviors which caused her setbacks and harm in life. timeClock

I have since learned what a huge mistake that is (to live codependently), how toxic it is, and how much harm it caused me over my life.

I am now more picky and choosy about when, to whom, for how long, and under what conditions, I will grant other people non-judgmental emotional support or other types of help.

And it took me into middle age to figure out – just upon thinking things over, noticing patterns in my relationships, and from reading some books by psychologists  – that a big reason I kept attracting so many damaged, depressed, hurting, self absorbed, strange, or angry people is precisely because I was so giving, loving, and I didn’t put limits on anyone in any fashion.

For years, I was a very shy, people pleasing, undemanding, compliant, kind hearted, sensitive, caring person, and by my late 20s to early 30s and older, I kept wondering why when I did finally make a friend or two, that I seldom attracted normal, mentally healthy, fun, well-adjusted individuals who would meet my needs in return.

Attracting Disturbed, Angry, or Miserable People for Over 35 Years

Instead, I kept attracting selfish people, abusers, bullies, constant complainers, pessimists, self absorbed people, people with personality disorders, or people who were depressed, and while I was giving all these people a lot of my time, attention,  affection, emotional support (or sometimes money), they never thanked me for this, and the vast majority never met my needs in return.

It took me years to figure out why I kept attracting so many mal-adjusted or emotionally injured people into my life.

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God’s Big Message at Christmas: You Are Not Alone, by Chris Field (Churches Need To Reach Out More to the Singles In Their Communities)

God’s Big Message at Christmas: You Are Not Alone, by Chris Field (Churches Need To Reach Out More to the Singles In Their Communities)

I have mixed feelings about posting a link to this (way below).

I know if you are literally alone – if you are a never married, divorced, or widowed adult, and you either don’t have children, or you are not on good terms with your biological family (or many of them are deceased or out of state), that it may be hard to feel positive about the message below.

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I  know it can be difficult to hear Christians writing “you’re not alone, God is with you” if you are, as I said, literally, physically alone in your apartment or home.

It would be nice to have an actual, breathing human sitting across from you, rather than have to rest in the idea that there’s this God in Heaven who cares about you, and have to take that on faith.

I do think Christians (churches especially) need to step up to the plate more and make more of an effort to include those adults who live alone, who aren’t married, who don’t have a nuclear family of their own…

Rather than doing things like over-focusing on nuclear families, and closing churches down on Christmas Day (yes, some churches have been known to (Link):  withhold services on Christmas Day, because they assume every one is at home watching their biological child and spouse opening presents under the tree).

Never mind that some sites say that (Link): half or over half of the American population is now single – singles out-number married couples, and that stat won’t be changing any time soon, all the focus on Nuclear Families is excluding about half the American population.

So, what are you members of churches out there doing to reach out to the lonely and single in your areas?

Churches, you can stop it any time now with slobbering all over the married- with- children couples already. The “Nuclear Family” has received the “lion’s share” of affection and attention from churches and Christian culture for far too long now.

Time to start acknowledging the single and childless among you.

Churches have been losing in attendance in the last so many years – if they want to increase attendance, it might help if they start focusing on single adults.

(Link):  God’s Big Message at Christmas: You Are Not Alone, by Chris Field

Dec 25, 2021

Loneliness a terrible thing.

And as is often pointed out, at no time is loneliness more poignantly felt by scores of people than at Christmas.

If there’s an upside to the whole COVID fiasco, it’s that many of us had the opportunity last Christmas to experience a little bit of what that’s like. Millions of people had to stay separated from family — and we quickly realized that it’s not so great.

And it should have served as a wake-up call for those who call themselves followers of Jesus.

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Four in 10 Adults Between the Ages of 25 and 54 are Single, Up From 29% in 1990

Four in 10 Adults Between the Ages of 25 and 54 are Single, Up From 29% in 1990

(Link): Four in 10 Adults Between the Ages of 25 and 54 are Single, Up From 29% in 1990

by Sarah Todd
Nov. 9, 2021

The frustrations that single people encounter in a largely coupled-up world are well established. Less well-known—but just as pervasive—are the challenges faced by single people at the office.

The expectation that single people clock longer hours than their paired-up counterparts is one common complaint. “Lots of people I interviewed complained that their managers presumed they had extra time to stay at the office or take on extra projects because they don’t have family at home,” Eric Klinenberg, author of the 2013 book Going Solotold The Atlantic last month.

And in some cases, being single can affect a person’s job prospects.

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It’s Okay If You Don’t Have Baby Fever! by Olga Khazan

It’s Okay If You Don’t Have Baby Fever! By Olga Khazan

The Atlantic is one of those sites that periodically publishes some material I agree with and enjoy, but ever since Trump was in (and now out of) office, they seem to go the other route and publish some bat sh*t insane leftist material.

The following article seems okay to me, though. But please don’t assume that if or when I share an article or editorial at The Atlantic that I always agree with all of their content.

(Link): It’s Okay If You Don’t Have Baby Fever – via The Atlantic

Excerpts:

A deep, sudden longing for babies is certainly real, but it’s not a prerequisite for having kids.
By Olga Khazan

Dec 22, 2021

….But some people—research and, frankly, real life shows—will get pregnant this winter without getting baby fever, without even thinking about babies, and indeed without really meaning to at all.

And I’m here to tell you that’s also totally normal and fine.

Being a woman of what obstetricians charmingly call “advanced maternal age,” I have tried to detect the mysterious force that is baby fever, so far to no avail.

At first, I thought I’d get baby fever when I woke up on the first day of my 35th year, my body suddenly deciding that I would enjoy changing diapers more than watching TV. That didn’t occur…

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Five Tips to Help You Quiet the Chronic Complainer in Your Life by Lisa Fields

Five Tips to Help You Quiet the Chronic Complainer in Your Life by Lisa Fields

(Link): 5 Tips to Help You Quiet the Chronic Complainer in Your Life

Excerpts:

by Lisa Fields

The problems start when complaining becomes the default mode. “When we have a need to be heard, we repeat ourselves. We become more emphatic,” says Dian Killian, PhD, a New York City-based life coach.

This behavior could be hard­wired, since it does seem that those who complain frequently don’t realize that they do. Robin Kowalski, a psychology professor at Clemson University in South Carolina and one of the first researchers to study complaining, says the satisfaction for chronic complainers comes from attention.

“Even if it’s negative attention,” she says, “they’re OK with that.”

This is why some Negative Nancies (or Neds) are never satisfied with any suggestion to address the problems that they highlight—resolution isn’t their aim.

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31% of Americans Experience Loneliness Daily; 1 in 5 Practicing Christians Say the Same: Study – article by Leonardo Blair

31% of Americans Experience Loneliness Daily; 1 in 5 Practicing Christians Say the Same: Study – article by Leonardo Blair

The church should act as friends and family to all – but do most churches do this? No.

Most Christians expect that you run out, marry, create your own nuclear family and get most to all companionship via that marriage/family.

Those Christians and the rest then sit around on social media, podcasts, and blogs complaining and shaming anyone who doesn’t marry or have children.

They choose to complain about an issue rather than look for or implement solutions, or minister to people who cannot, or do not, ever marry, have children of their own, or have a nuclear family.

I have more commentary below this excerpt:

(Link): 31% of Americans experience loneliness daily; 1 in 5 practicing Christians say the same: study

by Leonardo Blair

Loneliness is being experienced by 31% of U.S. adults daily and Christians aren’t doing much better, new research from the Barna Group suggests.

Data for the research done in partnership with behavioral scientist Susan Mettes and the evangelical polling firm Barna was collected through online surveys from 1,003 U.S. adults from Feb. 18 to March 2, 2020, and 1,000 U.S. adults from April 28 to May 5, 2020.

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Dating Is Hard. It’s Even Harder When You Don’t Want Kids by Danai Nesta Kupemba

Dating Is Hard. It’s Even Harder When You Don’t Want Kids By Danai Nesta Kupemba

(Link): Dating Is Hard. It’s Even Harder When You Don’t Want Kids

Excerpts:

… She [Alex] says she’s upfront about her decision to be child-free in her dating profiles and also tells prospective partners about it on first dates. However, the conversation has often been met with shock, confusion, and that question other child-free women know all too well: “Why?”

“I remember one guy who, when I told him I didn’t want children, asked me, ‘Why do you want a boyfriend then?’” she says. “‘What are you going to do with a boyfriend if it’s not to start a family?’”

For women who choose to navigate the already perilous sea of dating, being child-free by choice can come with its own unique set of challenges.

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Ohio Father Pleads Guilty to the Rape and Murder of His Ten Year Old Son

Ohio Father Pleads Guilty to the Rape and Murder of His Ten Year Old Son

I’m having a difficult time seeing how parenthood makes people more godly, mature, responsible, and ethical, as so many Nuclear Family promoters make it out to be.

Assuming this guy in this news article was married at one time (I’m not sure if he was married at one time or not – this article says he was engaged to be married)…

If you’re an older, single adult be aware that Christian dating advice books, blog posts, and pod casts that insist you’ve not been sent a spouse ever (or not yet) is because you don’t deserve one (because you’re not godly enough, not worthy enough, or whatever enough!)…

….news stories like this one show that if there is a God, he’s not with-holding spouses from child rapist and child murdering dirt bags, so I don’t think there is some kind of thresh-hold one must meet before God will send someone a spouse, or permit them to marry, or however you wish to put it.

(Link): Dad tortured son, 10, with taser dog collar and forced him to eat faeces

(Link): Boy in the Attic: Father Pleads Guilty After Raping & Torturing His Own Son to Death

A search warrant carried out on December 16, 2019, revealed multiple items of interest at the home, including a Taser, four Taser-style dog collars, and a combination lock located in the attic.

Authorities said Takoda Collins was covered in scratches and bruises stemming from a sexual assault. They also said that the boy was forced to eat his own feces.

…“Takoda was kept in a dirty, locked, dark attic and abused daily over the course of several years,” an affidavit read. “The interviews also revealed that Takoda was held underwater and gasping for breath prior to succumbing to his injuries.”

(Link): Ohio Father Pleads Guilty to the Rape and Murder of His Ten Year Old Son

by Patrick Reilly
Sept. 10, 2021

An Ohio father has pleaded guilty to kidnapping, raping and murdering his 10-year old son, who was subject to years of “sustained extreme abuse and torture“ before he was beaten to death, according to prosecutors.

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Chris Chan (Transgender Person) starts trending after claiming they raped their 80-year-old mother

Chris Chan (biological man who claims to be a woman) starts trending after claiming they (he) raped their (his) 80-year-old mother

This Chris Chan person is a biological man but began claiming a few years ago that he is a woman.

(Link):  Chris Chan starts trending after claiming they raped their 80-year-old mother

Excerpts:

On July 30, a disturbing audio recording and text conversation leaked that showed Chan claiming to have sex with their own mother, who has dementia.

The graphic and upsetting text messages go into great detail about Chan’s decision to molest their mother as a form of “bonding.”

In the texts, Chan even states that their mother asked them to stop touching them. But Chan reassured her friend that her mother, Barb, was getting used to it.

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Debunking Eros: Why Romantic Love Isn’t the Only Love Worth Having by Mimi Haddard

Debunking Eros: Why Romantic Love Isn’t the Only Love Worth Having by Mimi Haddard

This raises several points I’ve been pointing out here on this blog for years:

(Link): Debunking Eros: Why Romantic Love Isn’t the Only Love Worth Having

Excerpts:

by Mimi Haddard
June 4, 2019

Recently, my graduate students discussed how US culture sometimes idolizes sex. Citing a friend, one said, “the orgasm has replaced the cross as the place of transcendence in 21st century American culture.”

A recent study suggested that, though casual sex is more accepted than ever, loneliness is too.

 Twenty-seven percent of Americans feel isolated, but loneliness is far worse among eighteen to twenty-two year-olds, followed by Millennials. The least lonely were Americans aged seventy-two and older—those having fewer sexual encounters.

Western culture often celebrates eros (romantic or sexual love) exclusively, but Scripture speaks of four distinct types of love: storge (love for those who are familiar, such as family, neighbors, coworkers, etc.), agape (God’s love), philia (love between kindred spirits), and eros.

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Nebraska Mother Sentenced to Decades in Prison for Sexually Assaulting Daughter’s Friends at Sleepovers

Nebraska Mother Sentenced to Decades in Prison for Sexually Assaulting Daughter’s Friends at Sleepovers

Yet another news story on my blog demonstrating that motherhood does not make people more godly, mature, loving, or ethical – as opposed to what a lot of secular and Christian conservatives teach or believe about parenting / marriage vs. remaining single or having children.

(Link):  Sarpy County woman gets lengthy prison term for having sex with minors at sleepovers

A 38-year-old woman was sentenced to 64 to 102 years in prison Monday in Sarpy County District Court after being found guilty of several charges including sexual assault of a minor, tampering with witnesses and child abuse. 

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