Families Marry off Daughters to Ease Finances Amid COVID-19

Families Marry off Daughters to Ease Finances Amid COVID-19

(Link): Families Marry off Daughters to Ease Finances Amid COVID-19

Excerpts:

by Krista Larson
December 2020

KOIDU, Sierra Leone (AP) — The man first caught a glimpse of Marie Kamara as she ran with her friends past his house near the village primary school. Soon after, he proposed to the fifth-grader.

“I’m going to school now. I don’t want to get married and stay in the house,” she told him.

But the pressures of a global pandemic on this remote corner of Sierra Leone were greater than the wishes of a schoolgirl. Nearby mining operations had slowed with the global economy. Business fell off at her stepfather’s tailoring shop, where outfits he had sewn now gathered dust. The family needed money.

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Nearly 1 in 10 Women Find Sex Painful, Study Finds

Nearly 1 in 10 Women Find Sex Painful, Study Finds

But Christian complementarians don’t care!

How do I know? Because in years past, any time I’ve seen male pastors or male Christians discuss sexuality issues on Christian shows on television, they’ve denoted that if a woman has “hang ups” about sex (because she was previously raped or sexually abused at some point in her life, even in childhood) – that is preventing her husband from having sex whenever he wants – that she should go see a therapist and get over it already.

These male pastors and male Christians convey that the married woman who has difficulty with sex in marriage because she is still dealing with past sexual trauma (i.e. rape or sexual abuse) needs to just shove it aside so she can have sex with her husband, because her husband is really horny and wants sex (again I must ask: have men, even Christian ones, never heard of masturbation?)

The emphasis with men, even Christian ones, is not the feelings and needs of the woman, but how the selfish ass hat men can get any and all the sex they want from their wives, their wives needs and concerns be dammed.

So I have no reason to believe that the sexist d-bags of the Christian world such as but not limited to Mark Driscoll, John Piper, John MacArthur, Pat Robertson, et al, would care if “one in ten women experiences pain during intercourse”

(Link): Nearly 1 in 10 Women Find Sex Painful, Study Finds

Excerpts:

by D. Steingold

Being intimate is an important part of keeping a healthy relationship, but for some women, there’s nothing enjoyable about it. According to a recent British study, nearly one in 10 women find sex to be painful.

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Man Slammed For Eating a Takeaway Pizza While His Wife Gives Birth

Man Slammed For Eating a Takeaway Pizza While His Wife Gives Birth

I’m not opposed to motherhood, but, news stories like this goes to expose the propaganda put out by my fellow conservatives about how motherhood is so great, motherhood is worth it, etc.

I appreciate that the dude who snapped this photo may have felt he was being amusing, but it actually showed a cavalier and insensitive attitude towards what his wife was going through. He did not have to snap a photo of it AND post it to social media.

This alone is enough proof to dismiss the Christian complementarian arguments that God supposedly “put men in charge.”

I also think this shows that Fatherhood, contrary to propaganda from Al Mohler and other Pro-Family groups or persons, such as “Focus On the Family,” Bradford Wilcox, National Marriage Project, etc, does not make men more empathetic, godly, responsible, ethical, or mature.

(Link): Man Slammed For Eating a Takeaway Pizza While His Wife Gives Birth

A DAD-to-be has been slammed online after he shared a snap of himself eating pizza while his wife gave birth.

In the photo the bloke can be seen chowing down on a hot and spicy pepperoni pizza while his other half struggles with labour pains.

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Birth Rates Will Drop, People Will Stay Single Longer…. Scientists Predict How Society Will Change in a Post-COVID World

Birth Rates Will Drop, People Will Stay Single Longer…. Scientists Predict How Society Will Change in a Post-COVID World

(Link): Birth rates will drop, people will stay single for longer and women will sexualise themselves more: Scientists predict how society will change in a post-COVID world

Excerpts:

October 2020

Psychological fallout from the pandemic will cause birth rates to drop, people to stay single for longer and women to sexualise themselves more, experts have predicted.

Experts from the US reviewed 90 studies to help them predict how COVID-19 could shift social behaviours and gender norms — even among those not infected.

They expect planned pregnancies to decrease in response to the global health crisis as people defer marriage and kids, leading some nations’ populations to shrink.

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Pastor Quits Church To Become a Stripper and Now Sells X-Rated Pics and Videos Online

Pastor Quits Church To Become a Stripper and Now Sells X-Rated Pics and Videos Online

Before I get to the link about the woman pastor who left pastoring to be a sex kitten on line:

I never, ever want to hear another Christian woman complain on a blog, in a book, a podcast, or on social media that the church “values virginity or sexual abstinence too much,” nor do I need or want to hear any more women talk about how much Christian sexual abstinence pep talks comparing non-virgins to “used chewing gum” made them feel icky.

Because the times have changed.

It’s hard for me to pinpoint exactly when the change happened, but sometime in the last 10 to 20 years, the Christian community stopped supporting sexual abstinence, and they’ve never truly supported adult virgins who remain single over the age of 30.

(They only gave lip service to supporting anyone who is a virgin / celibate, but in practice, they aren’t there for the sexually abstinent; they’re only there to serve the married-with-children people.)

We are living in quite the opposite age now.

The culture has changed. Most people, including Christians and churches, no longer support celibacy and virginity – but rather mock or insult these things. 

In light of the news stories like the one below, or about how, what is it, 70% of (Link): Christian American women comprise abortion seekers, or how up to half or more of the church see (Link):  nothing wrong with unmarried sex, any Christians out there (especially women – it’s usually women, seldom men) who complain that the church emphasizes virginity or sexual purity too much – are quite full of sh*t and have things totally backwards.

The church now openly supports sexual hedonism, and they shame or question adults who remain virgins until marriage.

Are there double standards, sexism, and problems within “Purity Culture” and how sexual purity is taught, or are there problems with the content of it? Yes, certainly.

But none of those issues suddenly excuse extra-marital sex as being fine and dandy.  And the Bible does not support extra-marital diddling.

You can criticize some of the excesses, sexism, or weirdness of Purity Culture and its teachings without completely tossing aside the principles of sexual propriety or without criticizing, shaming, or mocking those adults who are still virgins or celibate.

A word of warning: I am an (Link): ex-complementarian. But as someone who realized complementarianism was false and abandoned it, I did not become a liberal or embrace sexual hedonism as a result.

I disagree with this woman’s lifestyle who is mentioned below. Rejecting complementarianism does not automatically or necessarily turn a woman into a liberal, feminist, bimbo harlot.

I’m putting this warning in here, because the article mentions the woman in the article became a stripper after joining a church that was more egalitarian in regards to gender roles.

I would imagine a lot of complementarians would see that part of the article and say, or reason to themselves, “A-ha, this is what happens when a woman rejects Christian gender complementarianism!” – but alas, no, it is not.

Again, I rejected complementarianism many years ago, but I did not turn into a sexual hedonist or a bi-sexual stripper.

Another warning: If you’re a Christian, stop assuming that the reason why some leave the Christian faith is because they want to live in sexual hedonism.

Some people leave the faith not to indulge in sexual sin, which is a common and false assumption a lot of Christians have, but due to other reasons, ones having nothing to do with sexual sins, or going after some goal or dream in life that may be considered incompatible with the Bible.

People do have legitimate reasons for questioning the faith, ones that don’t have to do with wanting to be kinky. 

There may be some people for whom wanting to be lascivious is one (or a main) motive in leaving the faith, but that is not true for all.

Additional comments by me are below this:

(Link): Pastor Quits Church To Become a Stripper and Now Sells X-Rated Pics and Videos Online 

Nikole Mitchell, a mum-of-three, said she has always wanted to become an erotic dancer but she was brought up in a strict Christian family which put a damper on her dreams

by L. King

She has now come out as bisexual and carved a new career as a stripper, model and erotic dancer.

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Male Baboons Get Health Benefits from Platonic Friendships with Females

Male Baboons Get Health Benefits from Platonic Friendships with Females

I guess the animal world doesn’t care about the sexist, stupid “Billy Graham Rule.”

Maybe the sex-obsessed Christian church can learn a thing or two from these baboons? I’m not saying humans should always look to other animals to dictate their behavior, but this is one instance where it may not be a bad idea.

(Link): Male Baboons Get Health Benefits from Platonic Friendships with Females

by Erin Blakemore

A growing body of research hints that for nonhuman primates, purely platonic relationships come with big benefits.

A study that draws on decades of research about baboons is adding to a pile of cross-species evidence of the protective power of friendships.

…Male baboons don’t just interact with females when they want to mate: They also engage in platonic grooming, a behavior known as a way for primates to bond and destress. 

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Church’s Woke Advert Featuring a Bearded Jesus with Women’s Breasts and Make-Up Sparks Outrage

Church’s Woke Advert Featuring a Bearded Jesus with Women’s Breasts and Make-Up Sparks Outrage

I am surprised this story I have linked to below didn’t get any play on Christian twitter.

I even kept re-tweeting the original news story, from Daily Mail, off and on at my Twitter account for several days, still, nobody else who follows me, even folks who run spiritual abuse type blogs, commented on this or shared it. I thought that was very strange.

Jesus of Nazareth as a cartoon woman I’m rather undecided about movies or TV shows or what have you that want to depict Jesus as a biological woman, in that, too many Christians are already sexist enough (which one can witness via their (Link):  “complementarian” teachings) where they deify and idolize the male sex; it really should not matter if Jesus came to earth in a male or female body.

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Dad of Five Girls ‘Sliced Open Pregnant Wife’s Stomach to Check Baby’s Gender as he “Desperately Wanted Son”‘

Dad of Five Girls ‘Sliced Open Pregnant Wife’s Stomach to Check Baby’s Gender as he “Desperately Wanted Son”‘

I detest men who are obsessed with having sons, who are unhappy or dis-satisfied with having daughters. And it’s usually men who do this – I don’t often hear about a woman having a biological sex preference regarding having children – it’s usually a MAN who wants SONS. So sexist.

And let this be another example of how, contra Al Mohler, Brad Wilcox and other Christians and conservatives who keep pushing parenting, marriage, the nuclear family, and natalism: being a parent does NOT make a person a “human” ((Link): as Mohler asserts), nor does being a parent (or being married) make a person more ethical, loving, responsible, or mature.

Being married and being a father did not prevent the man in this news story from being a reprehensible sexist, taking his daughters for granted, or physically abusing his wife.

(Link): Father of five girls slit open his 7-month pregnant wife’s stomach in India to check if she was bearing a son

(Link): Dad of Five Girls ‘Sliced Open Pregnant Wife’s Stomach to Check Baby’s Gender as he “Desperately Wanted Son”‘

A FATHER of five girls is reported to have sliced open the stomach of his pregnant wife to find out if she was expecting a boy.

The husband – named only as Pannalal – is now in police custody after the sickening incident in the Indian northern state of Uttar Pradesh.

Pravin Singh Chauhan, a senior police official, told local news crews that the woman was left seriously injured in the attack.

He added the reason for the attack is still under investigation, reports Newsweek. However, the victim’s family said the suspect already had five daughters and was desperate for a son.

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The Obese, Overly Hairy ‘Erotic Eater’ Guy Should Be The Final Nail in the Coffin of Sexist Complementarian Teachings that Looks Matter Only To Men

The Obese, Overly Hairy ‘Erotic Eater’ Guy Should Be The Final Nail in the Coffin of Sexist Complementarian Teachings that Looks Matter Only To Men & That Women Are Oblivious To, or Don’t Care About, What Men Look Like

I am an ex-complementarian (yes, I am, read more about that (Link): here if you so choose).

I’m very aware of what complementarians teach and believe on many topics.

Many complementarians wrongly believe that women lack sexual drive, an interest in sex, and that women don’t care about what men look like.

Complementarians operate in this very strange worldview that only men are “visual.” The Bible does not teach that God created men to be visual or to have more of a sex drive than women, but Complementarians act as though it does. These views permeate their blogs, pod casts, books, sermons, and so on.

So, under complementarian teachings, women are often shamed and scolded about their physical appearance.

I’ve seldom heard complementarians tell male listeners or male readers to join a gym, work out, and get in shape so that they will be physically and visually appealing to women.

(Edit, Side Note:
Complementarians seem to assume that all single women are only interested in a man’s bank account. No, we’re not.

But there’s nothing wrong with wanting to marry a guy who has a steady job, steady pay check, who is financially responsible.

I was engaged to a man who took financial advantage of me for years. Most women I know were dating or married to men who refused to get jobs, so the women had to earn a pay check.

These women’s husbands would sit about the house all day in their underpants playing Playstation video games or watching sports.

I’ve never personally run across too many female gold diggers in my time, only one – the rest of the gold diggers I’ve met or known personally have been MEN who were leeching off their wives or girlfriends.

At any rate, complementarians wrongly assume that all women are obsessed with  looking for a husband or boyfriend with a very large income or expensive sports car, so they are always telling us women to “stop judging a man by his income or what kind of car he drives, and instead, focus on how much he loves Jesus.”

Well, I hate to break it to you complementarians, but some us ladies are busy checking out if the guy has great abs and muscular arms or not – we aren’t as obsessed with his credit score, car, or savings and investments as you may assume.)

No, the sexist complementarians reserve that rhetoric for women.

But women do notice and care about what men look like, as I’ve blogged about years ago in a series of posts, such as (Link): this one or (Link): this one.

(Even the (Link): Bible mentions women noticing hot looking men and getting turned on by them, but per usual, complementarians ignore or do not mention parts of the Bible that don’t fit their backwards views.)

All of that brings me to this…

The other day, I was scrolling down my Twitter page and saw this headline from The Daily Mail:

(Link): ‘Erotic weight gainer’ who tips the scales at 500lbs reveals he eats 10,000 calories a day to maintain his ‘ball gut’ and keep his OnlyFans followers entertained

Here are some excerpts:

A 500lb OnlyFans influencer who found a lucrative niche within the fat fetish community has revealed he has to eat around 10,000 calories a day to maintain his ‘ball gut’ and keep his followers entertained.

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Husband Takes His Own Life ‘Because of Lack of Sex’ and His Wife Is Arrested

Husband Takes His Own Life ‘Because of Lack of Sex’ and His Wife Is Arrested

This sounds like both a Christian gender complementarian nightmare AND a dream.

From the male complementarian perspective, it would be a nightmare to live without sex because the sexist douche bags (i.e., Christian complementarians) are entitled and have no concept of self sacrifice, self control, nor have any of them heard of masturbation.

The “dream” part is the notion that their wife would be imprisoned or put to death for having refused to “put out.”

This is the nightmare AND dream of sexist jackasses such as, but not limited to, Douglas Wilson, John Piper, Owen Strachan, Al Mohler, and Mark Driscoll.

(Link): Husband Takes His Own Life ‘Because of Lack of Sex’ and His Wife Is Arrested

Geeta Parmar has been arrested in Gujarat, India, after her mother-in-law blamed her for the death of husband Surendrasinh, who reportedly took his own life last month

The grieving widow faces charges in India following a criminal complaint by the man’s mother.

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Do You Need a Partner to Have a Happy Life? by D. LaBier

Do You Need a Partner to Have a Happy Life? by D. LaBier

As to the part of this article that talks about how to be happy as a single adult (which I did NOT excerpt on my blog, but which does appear in the article): please take the section that talks about meeting other people’s needs with a grain of salt.

Christian women in particular are already subjected, quite frequently, to deeply codependent messages passed off as “biblical” from churches, Christian blogs, books, and pastors (Link): that neglecting one’s own needs to meet the needs of others is godly, wonderful, loving, meaningful, and will bring one joy.

However, this is not always the case.

You can actually suffer burn out, resentment, and exhaustion if you never get your own needs met – even while you may be running around doing charity work, helping your neighbor, and meeting other people’s needs.

So where this article advises you to volunteer, help other people, etc, to keep your happiness levels up, take that advice with a grain of salt and only practice it in moderation, if at all.

(Link): Do You Need a Partner to Have a Happy Life? by D. LaBier

Excerpts:

July 29, 2020

New research into happiness and well-being reveals what really matters.

…The upshot of the study [from Michigan State University] was that “…staking your happiness on being married isn’t a sure bet,” as co-author William Chopik reported.

That is, the lifelong singles and those who had varied relationship histories didn’t differ in their level of happiness.

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Why Is It So Difficult To Believe Single Men Can Have Paternal Instincts Too? by A. Mahdawi

Why Is It So Difficult To Believe Single Men Can Have Paternal Instincts Too? by A. Mahdawi

Single women get slammed with the reverse stereotype as what this author  describes about unmarried men in this editorial: we’re (single women) all expected to be really maternal, even if we find babies and children annoying and weird and prefer the company of adults only. 

I have other posts on my blog with articles about the negative stereotypes that culture and married people have about singles – and ones that pertain to single women.

For example, some restaurants with bars (Link): forbid single women from sitting at the bar, because the management insultingly assumes any woman sitting alone at the bar is a prostitute (I am not joking). See the links under “Related Posts” at the bottom of this page for more such unfortunate examples.

(Link): Why Is It So Difficult To Believe Single Men Can Have Paternal Instincts Too? by A. Mahdawi

Excerpts:

The widespread mockery and suspicion of Gaetz’s relationship with Nestor isn’t just due to the congressman’s personality, however; it reflects sexist assumptions about parenthood.

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