Mother in Legal Fight to Save Dead Transgender Daughter’s (Her Son’s) Sperm

Mother in Legal Fight to Save Dead Transgender Daughter’s (Her Son’s) Sperm

Very weird story. It dates from three years ago, but I didn’t see it until today.

(Link): Mother in legal fight to save dead transgender daughter’s sperm

Louise Anderson hopes to use sample frozen at Glasgow clinic to produce a grandchild

August 26, 2020

The mother of a transgender teenager is preparing to take legal action to prevent fertility doctors from destroying her dead daughter’s frozen sperm.

Louise Anderson, from Stirling, says she wants to honour her daughter Ellie’s wish to produce a grandchild, using her sperm, an egg donor and a surrogate carrier.

The 16-year-old died in Forth Valley hospital in July after falling ill. Her cause of death was described as “unascertained”.

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Trans Pedophile [Biological Male] Who Sexually Abused His Own Daughter, Age 7, for Warped Porn Videos is Inmate of Women’s Prison ‘Despite Still Having Penis…’

Trans Pedophile [Biological Male] Who Sexually Abused His Own Daughter, Age 7, for Warped Porn Videos is Inmate of Women’s Prison ‘Despite Still Having Penis…’

Transgenderism is not only a men’s rights movement, but it’s being used as an excuse so that any male pervert can play the “I’m a transwoman” card to get out of negative consequences for their actions, or get off much easier.

The POS in the news story below should be slowly shoved alive into a woodchipper, not housed in a prison, especially not in a women’s prison.

Also note that marriage and parenthood do not make people more godly, loving, ethical, mature, responsible, etc, as so many marriage- and parenthood- idolizing conservatives like to assume or teach.

(Link): Trans pedophile who sexually abused her own daughter, 7, for warped porn videos is inmate of New Jersey women’s prison ‘despite still having PENIS – and wants to marry trans accomplice so they can share a cell’

May 3, 2023
by Neirin Gray Desai

A transgender female pedophile who filmed her [his] seven year-old daughter being sexually abused for horrific porn videos is being housed in a New Jersey women’s prison despite still having a penis, it is claimed.

Marina Volz, 34, is serving her 25 year sentence at the notorious Edna Mahan Correctional Facility alongside her [his] accomplice Ashley Romero, 30 [a biological male whose real first name is Adam], who joined in the abuse of the girl.

Volz, born a man named Matthew, is now recorded as ‘female’ in official prison records, with his presence at Edna Mahan said to be causing terror among biological women housed there.

Shockingly, Volz is even said to want to marry Romero, so they can share a cell together, Reduxx reported, after the publication spoke to other inmates there.

Volz, Romero and two others were found guilty for their roles in sexually abusing Volz’s daughter in the basement of her New Jersey home as part of a scheme to create pornographic films.

Volz, who ran a transgender fetish porn studio, took the youngster from her mother’s home in Oregon, then brought her back to New Jersey, where she was subjected to horrific sexual abuse, the details of which are too graphic to repeat.

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Miserable in a Marriage to a Covert Narcissist – Content by Renee Swanson – Complementarians Push People to Stay in Toxic Marriages Like This One (This Content Can Help Single Adults Too)

Miserable in a Marriage to a Covert Narcissist – Content by Renee Swanson (This Content Can Help Single Adults Too) – Complementarians Push People to Stay in Toxic Marriages Like This One

This post has been edited to add more material

It would be nice if more psychologists, therapists and lay persons wrote articles or blog posts from the vantage of how things affect single adults, but that’s not always the case.

As you know from my blog, I am a never married, middle-aged adult. Yet, I still find some content about marriage helpful in navigating or understanding my relationships with family members and friends.

This lady, Renee Swanson, has a blog, several social media channels, and a podcast about having been married to a Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissist for 21 years – in my opinion, based on what she’s written, her husband is not only a Covert Narcissist but displays elements of what is called Neglectful Narcissism (more on that below).

It looks to me as though some of Swanson’s accounts have not been updated in two or so years, but the content is still quite helpful and illuminating.

I’m going to excerpt a few of her blog posts below.

I want you to note that contrary to what extreme marriage (and parenthood and nuclear family) promoters have to say, that marriage (and parenthood, etc), does not necessarily make a person happy, safe, and secure, as Renee Swanson’s content once again demonstrates.

The person you marry, should you marry, can end up being emotionally, sexually, financially, or physically controlling, negligent, or irresponsible.

There are some personality disorders for which there is no cure, and for which the disorder is largely impervious to therapy.

Which means, should you marry someone with one of those disorders, such as severe pathological narcissism, your partner is never going to change or get better, no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, or how much you do for them, love them, or pray for them.

I think that the Christian gender complementarian interpretation of the Bible is incorrect on many topics, but certainly in regards to divorce.

Many complementarian persons, churches, denominations, and pastors believe that the Bible never allows for divorce, including in cases of physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse.

Such anti-divorce, complementarian churches and pastors frequently mistakenly teach people (usually women) who are married to abusers to simply submit more to their spouse, and that will make the mistreatment stop. Such pastors, churches, etc, are entirely ignorant about personality disorders and abuse dynamics.

If these complementarian, anti-divorce clowns spent any time at all looking up information on abuse dynamics or personality disorders, they would learn soon enough that there is nothing another person can do to fix, change, or heal an abusive or toxic person – and the spouse sure won’t be able to do it.

I’ve never married, but I’ve had family members, co-workers, bosses, friends, and acquaintances display presence of disorders or toxic behaviors, and no matter how kind and loving I was to those persons, it didn’t get their abuse of me to stop.

In each case, I either had to limit contact with the toxic person, or cut them out of my life entirely. The same should be true of marriage – you may have to limit contact with your toxic spouse (grey rocking or yellow rocking), or divorce the person.

The following blog post by Renee (the second one featured below, particularly) accurately explains many family and friendship relationships I’ve had over the course of my life.

I used to be extremely Codependent until a few years ago, and during the time I was Codependent, I often attracted Vulnerable Narcissists, or self absorbed, perpetually angry (or depressed) people, who would contact me mainly to complain to me about their problems, where they’d expect me to just listen and give empathy, something I did for many people for many years, and it left me mentally exhausted.

And those who used me as their “Free Therapist” rarely did anything to work on their own problems or their own mental health.

Such persons preferred to take their frustration, disappointment, pain, or anger in life, and phone or text me about it, and make their pain my pain.

It’s as though some of them wanted me to handle or carry their inner pain for them, so they wouldn’t have to face it or carry it themselves. But no person can do that for another person. It’s something we must each do for ourselves.

And the people dumping all their pain or anger in life on me very rarely (or never) allowed me to discuss MY pain or MY frustrations in life with THEM.

When you are a people pleaser, an emotional dependent, a Codependent, or an empath with no boundaries, you will often end up in these unfair friendships (or marriages), where you’re meeting the needs of the perpetually wounded or disordered person, but they generally refuse to meet your needs in return.

(Link):  The Narcissist’s Constant Victim Role


by Renee Swanson

Covert narcissists are constant victims. Everyone has done them wrong. Everyone has injured their precious ego at some point or another.

The whole world is responsible for their anger, negativity, lack of initiative, lack of motivation, and even their lack of empathy. From the tiniest injury to the grandest, the narcissist continues to be the never-ending victim.

This causes all relationships with the narcissist to be strained and exhausting.

When the narcissist plays the victim so well, it leaves you with two roles in life. You are either the therapist or the enemy. You are either the rescuer or the perpetrator.

The trouble is that healthy people do not want to play these roles with their loved ones.

Your Role as a Therapist

Healthy individuals recognize that they cannot serve as a rescuer to their parent, spouse, adult child, friend, boss, etc. When a person is constantly relying on your approval and validation in order to feel good about themselves, this is not a healthy situation.

You are not helping them or yourself. You are not their therapist and should not serve as such. They need to be working on their own problems on their own, just as you should be with yours.

… Your Role As Enemy

… That peace, however [that you get from constantly apologizing to the Covert Narcissist], will be short-lived. There are not enough apologies in the world to satisfy the victim role of a narcissist.

Their pain comes from within, and yet they constantly look for external reasons and external solutions. Those solutions will NEVER be good enough. To stop being the perpetrator, you have to set your own boundaries and walk away.
— end excerpts —

You’ll note in this next blog post, excerpted below, how being married to this Covert Narcissist of hers, whom she refers to as Steven (not his real name) for 21 years did not bring this lady any joy or peace.

She does say in other podcasts or blog posts, and I think maybe this one, that there were a few moments of happiness with her husband here and there, but ultimately, her spouse would display his sullen, entitled, insensitive nature the majority of the time.

The thing about abusive or toxic people is that they are rarely abusive or toxic 100% of the time.

Abusive or toxic individuals have moments or days where they can be fun, loving, or considerate – so, you end up thinking the relationship is not so bad; it’s intermittent reinforcement (which I believe plays a role in “trauma bonding,” or is the basis of it) – that combined with fear and false hope can keep someone stuck in a terrible relationship for years.

Remember, just because your toxic or abusive person (family member, spouse, friend, whoever it is) occasionally acts nicely towards you, or treats you to a lovely dinner on your birthday, gifts you with a wonderful vacation or a ruby necklace, or whatever nice gesture or gift
– does not excuse or make-up for the rest of the relationship, where they are constantly invalidating you, neglecting you, nit picking you, overtly abusing you, or exploiting you!

Narcissists are known for “Love Bombing” their victims. You will waste years of your life on this person, longing to “bring back” the nice, sweet, kind funny version of them that they first put on display when you were first dating (or befriending) them, but that was a fake persona. It was never genuine.

The person who chronically invalidates or who ignores you now is the “real” them.

You’re never (permanently) getting back to that fake “nice, charming, loving” version of them again, unless they sense you are going to dump them, in which case, they will temporarily put on the “nice guy” (or the “I’m a poor, helpless victim in life, please help me, rescue me”) mask again (called “hoovering“) to “breadcrumb” you. Don’t fall for it.

(Link): How the Covert Narcissist Plays Rejection, Abandonment, and Abuse

Excerpts (you should read her ENTIRE post, not just the portion below):

by Renee Swanson

My marriage lasted almost 21 years. For most of these years, I convinced myself and the world that I had the perfect marriage. We were simply great together.

There was no other option available. The mind is powerful and can do amazing things. I truly believed that it was a match made in heaven and that he was perfect for me.

…Besides we had some really good days in between these outbursts. So I swept it under the rug every time and continued to believe that our marriage was great and wonderful.

Ever so slowly, my eyes started opening. …

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We Married as Man and Wife – Now We’re Renewing Our Vows as Two Women After I Transitioned and I Can’t Wait To Wear A Dress by C. Toureille

We Married as Man and Wife – Now We’re Renewing Our Vows as Two Women After I Transitioned and I Can’t Wait To Wear A Dress by C. Toureille

What I say here I may copy and paste into a new, separate post at a later date, because the observations I raise below bears repeating.

I’m a conservative who is not against marriage or the nuclear family, but I do disagree with how obsessed other conservatives are with promoting marriage and the nuclear family and criticizing or shaming any adult who hasn’t married and had children.

Growing up, I was hearing from conservative Christians regularly about how marriage supposedly makes a person more mature, responsible, or godly, and even today, conservative think tanks publish such bogus rhetoric.

Conservatives like Matt Walsh ridicule women for “pushing 50” (his terminology) and still being childless and single.

Speaking of Walsh – he recently criticized a man for going trans, the sidekick to a You Tube star named “Mr. Beast.” Walsh criticized the man for “transitioning,” because, Walsh said, the man’s wife would now be without a husband, and their son would be without a “masculine father.”

Okay, well, here’s my problem with Walsh and marriage-pushers like him (first let me give some background):

I’m in my 50s, and I never did get married. I tried to get married. I went to church singles classes, I prayed and asked God to provide me with a spouse, I tried dating sites in my mid 30s, etc, etc.
None of that worked, as I remain single by circumstance. (Christian dating advice on how to get married is dumb and incompetent, and many Christians will criticize you for pointing that fact of life out;
it makes Christians angry when they are confronted with the fact that their stupid dating advice, specifically of the “how to get married” variety, does not work. They prefer to victim-blame you or scream at you when you point out that Christian “how to get married” advice didn’t work and in some cases even played a role in holding you back from getting married.)

How can the Matt Walsh conservatives (the guys who hyper- market marriage) keep doing so, when so many marriages either end in adultery, divorce, verbal abuse, physical abuse, or in the creation of “Trans Widows?”

Trans widows are women who marry men, and the men later become crossdressers (who claim to be trans).

What is the frikkin’ point of getting married if the man you marry ends up “transitioning” into a fake woman (or he ends up neglecting your emotional needs, or he’s abusive)?

It’s better off for a woman to remain single than to marry some man who first more or less acts and dresses like a normal man, but then, after so many years of marriage says, “Honey, I feel like a woman trapped in a man’s body,” so he either starts perversely wearing women’s clothing and/or gets his penis chopped off?

A normal woman who wants a normal marriage is not going to want that. Some such women may not have a choice but to stay married to the guy if they’re financially dependent on him.

I have more comments to make below this:

(Link): We married as man and wife – now we’re renewing our vows as two women after I transitioned and I can’t wait to wear a dress

A married couple who wed as man and wife plan to renew their vows as two women – with the bride insisting ‘it’s the person I fell in love with – not the body.’

Jae Harvey, 32, met her partner Rayna, 35, on Myspace in 2009 but after two years in a long-distance relationship the couple broke up.

The couple rekindled their romance and got married – as man and woman – in Jae’s hometown – Dallas, Texas, in March 2018 before returning to the UK, where Rayna is from, later that year.

However, Rayna was struggling with her identity and confided in Jae on their honeymoon – who vowed to stick by her and helped her through her transition.

Five years on, the couple who are based in Somerset, plan to renew their vows with Rayna now living as her authentic self, and are trying to get a  gender recognition certification from the British government for her.

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Transgender Sex Worker Who Infected Client With HIV Fights Deportation

Transgender Sex Worker Who Infected Client With HIV Fights Deportation

There can definitely be some advantages to being a celibate and conservative adult… like not picking up sexually transmitted infections and diseases from transgender prostitutes, for example.

(Link): Transgender sex worker who infected client with HIV fights deportation

by Holly Hales
April 18, 2023

A transgender sex worker who was jailed for infecting a client with HIV is fighting to stop being permanently deported to New Zealand.

CJ Palmer was convicted in the Western Australia District Court in 2018 of one count of grievous bodily harm in relation to having sex with a client.

The man was infected with HIV in the encounter despite Ms. Palmer knowing she was HIV positive.

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Woman, 30, Sues Buddhist Monk for Sexual Battery and Trafficking – Claiming He Raped Her in a Temple

Woman, 30, Sues Buddhist Monk for Sexual Battery and Trafficking – Claiming He Raped Her in a Temple

There are perverts and opportunists in every group, every religion.

(Link): Guru Accused of ‘Mystical’ Baby Plot in U.S. Rape Case

According to a lawsuit, a Buddhist leader in the Pacific Northwest told his victim she should give birth to his baby as the child could be anointed as an enlightened guru like him.

(Link): Woman, 30, sues Buddhist monk for sexual battery and trafficking – claiming he raped her in a temple

April 12, 2023
by S. Lepore

An Oregon woman has sued an influential Buddhist monk and trusted mentor over a litany of alleged sexual offenses including rape and pressuring her to keep an unwanted pregnancy.

Dzogchen Khenpo Choga Rinpoche, who also goes by Choying Rabjam, also allegedly asked her to sit in his lap and ‘suck his tongue like a lollipop,’ echoing accusations against the Dalai Lama earlier this week.

Rachel Montgomery, now 30, has filed a lawsuit accusing him of sexual battery and sex trafficking in 2011, when she was just 19 years old.

The two met when Montgomery was a teenager who studied under him at the Dzogchen Retreat Center in Eugene.

Montgomery alleges that Choga, as he is known, would continuously use their student-teacher relationship to make unwanted sexual advances, eventually allegedly raping her inside a Buddhist temple when she was 21.

She also claims that Choga, now 58, pressured her to get drunk before he sexually to the point where she was ‘barely conscious’ when he assaulted her and ordered her to, much like the Dalai Lama asked a child to do, suck his tongue for ‘tantric empowerment.’

‘I feel like Buddhism was weaponized to take advantage of me,’ Montgomery said to The Daily Beast. ‘I don’t want to say that it gets weaponized for everyone. But for me, it was weaponized.’

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The Church’s Problem: Pornification of Christian Sex by Sarah McDugal

The Church’s Problem: Pornification of Christian Sex by Sarah McDugal

(Link): The Church’s problem: Pornification of Christian sex


by Sarah McDugal

As I’ve observed the firestorm of Josh Butler’s hotly debated article in The Gospel Coalition, “Sex Won’t Save You (But it Points to One who Will),” I was left with so many questions. Indeed, in what universe did a book describing the vagina as a Most Holy Place get labeled the “Protestant magnum opus on sexual ethics we’ve been waiting for”?

The now withdrawn article reflects a pervasive problem within the church: pornification of Christian sex.

Hyper-spiritualizing sex is no guarantee of getting it right. In fact, doing so might actually be a guarantee of getting it wrong. We make the same mistake as secular society when we frame sex as the endgame of intimacy. Salvation is better than sex; it is based on God’s work, not ours; it is received by faith, not by feeling; it is secured by Christ’s blood, not our bodies; it is expressed by love, not lust; it is fulfilled by resurrection, not orgasm.

… Why do so many Christian male authors idolize gratification instead of recognizing that the best sexual pleasure is the fruit of intimacy that is already established outside the bedroom? Real oneness is the friendship, companionship, commitment, and safety of two people merging lives

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Conservative Host Steven Crowder Says His Wife Wants a Divorce

Conservative Host Steven Crowder Says His Wife Wants a Divorce

(Updates Below)

(Link): Podcast: David Instone-Brewer On Divorce and Remarriage in the Church

The Bible offers guidance on many issues. But when it coms to issues like divorce and remarriage in the church, there are still many questions that don’t have quick and easy answers. Questions like …

Is adultery the only grounds for divorce?
Is remarriage considered adultery?
What should you do if your spouse walks away from the marriage?

Dr. David Instone-Brewer helps clear things up on these issues that continue to remain controversial in the church today.

Crowder Announces Divorce

I saw “divorce” – the word – trending on Twitter, clicked on that, where I saw people tweeting that conservative host Steven Crowder announced that his wife wants a divorce.

I do recall years ago, seeing Crowder saying he and his wife waited until marriage to have sex, which I respect.

I can edit this post later to add any more information that comes to light, if I find it interesting or whatever.

This just goes to show that marriage is not a fairy tale, nor is it a guarantee for ongoing happiness. You can get married and still end up being miserable – if your spouse asks for a divorce, and you don’t want one – or if your spouse is abusive, a serial cheater, or what have you.

You can get married, and your spouse still want to end the relationship, leaving you single once more. I’m guessing that marriage didn’t bring this guy happiness, and certainly not his wife – she wants out.

I’m a conservative, I’m not anti-Nuclear Family nor am I anti-parenthood, but I am so sick and tired of other conservatives tendency to elevate marriage, parenthood and The Nuclear Family to a station that even the Bible does not. The Bible does NOT REVERE the Nuclear Family (or marriage, etc).

But many of the conservatives (maybe all) revere all that. Conservatives as a group tend to bash others over the head all the time with the “rah rah motherhood, rah rah marriage” rhetoric and shame anyone who isn’t married, who doesn’t have children, who cannot or does not want to get married or have children.

Then they turn around and get divorces. Or are found out for having committed adultery or child molesting.

I will say that at least most conservatives have standards, whereas progressives just don’t. But sometimes I wonder what good is it having certain standards if you’re going to fail them consistently?

Why bother shaming or judging never married, childless women such as myself for being single and childless (which many conservatives often do) when you cannot even keep your own marriage together?

I have more to say below all these links and excerpts:

(Link): SINGLE CROWDER Who is Steven Crowder’s estranged wife Hilary Crowder? 

(Link): ‘NOT MY CHOICE’ Steven Crowder announces ‘horrendous divorce’ from wife Hilary as YouTuber speaks out on ‘deepest personal failure’

April 25, 2023

POLITICAL commentator and YouTuber Steven Crowder revealed that he and his wife, Hilary, are getting a divorce after a decade of marriage.

Crowder made the announcement on Tuesday during an episode of his podcast, Louder with Crowder.

…”Since 2021, I’ve been living through what has increasingly been a horrendous divorce.”

Crowder clarified that the end of his marriage wasn’t a result of infidelity or any kind of physical abuse on either side.

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Man Fatally Stabs His Wife During Bible Study

Man Fatally Stabs His Wife During Bible Study-

Sorry this lady is dead – but – this goes to show what I’ve been saying all along: marriage does not confer special character traits into people and improve them, as so many marriage-promoters (the same guys who promote The Nuclear Family, parenthood, and natalism) keep pushing, that marriage supposedly makes people more godly, loving, mature, responsible, ethical, and so on.

Also: “equally yoked” doesn’t guarantee you’re marrying a quality spouse. I’m not sure if the man mentioned in this news story is a Christian himself or not, but…  I have plenty of examples on my blog of self-identifying Christians who are arrested for beating or murdering their spouse or for molesting children and goodness knows what else.

If I understand the news story correctly, both the murdered woman and the husband had children from previous marriages(?). This also goes to show that parenthood is not a guarantee of happiness and safety in life, or of instilling good morals and virtue into a person.

(Link): Minnesota man stabs wife to death during family bible study

March 24, 2023

A deranged Minnesota man with a violent past stabbed his wife to death during a family bible study at a relative’s home earlier this week, officials said.

Robert Castillo, 40, of St. Paul was charged with second-degree murder of his wife, 41-year-old Corinna Woodhull, after allegedly knifing her repeatedly at a St. Paul residence around 9 p.m. Tuesday, according to the Ramsey County Attorney’s Office.

(Link):  Minnesota man fatally stabs wife during Bible study, asks if she’ll be OK: police

Corrina Woodhull begged a witness, “Don’t let me die,” after Robert Castillo stabbed her, court records say

 March 24, 2023
by Chris Eberhart

A Minnesota man allegedly stabbed his estranged wife 20 times during a Bible study before she begged a witness, “Don’t let me die,” court documents say.

By that time, Corrina Woodhull was soaked in blood from stab wounds that Robert Castillo had allegedly inflicted through her torso, chest and arms, according to a criminal complaint that was obtained by Fox News Digital.

The alleged assault unfolded in front of several witnesses around 9 p.m. Tuesday in a Saint Paul home, where Castillo’s sister lives and hosts a weekly Bible study.

…By 9:39 that night, Woodhull was pronounced dead in the hospital, and Castillo was charged with second-degree murder, along with two other felonies.

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Twitter Rolls Back Their Policy Prohibiting People from “Dead Naming” or “Misgendering” Trans People

Twitter Rolls Back Their Policy Prohibiting People from “Dead Naming” or “Misgendering” Trans People

Awesome policy reversal if true!

I was suspended from Twitter (prior to Musk) for mentioning that Rachel Levine is a MAN. And he is. Rachel Levine is Richard Levine.

I didn’t even know what “dead naming” and “misgendering” meant, never heard the terms, until a few years ago when transgenderism became a huge topic online.

Of course, most of the media journalists, which lean left, are upset by this change of policy. I’m not. I think it’s great. 🥰🤗🤩

(Link): Twitter removes policy against deadnaming transgender people 


by Barbara Ortutay

Twitter has quietly removed a policy against the “targeted misgendering or deadnaming of transgender individuals,” raising concerns that the Elon Musk-owned platform is becoming less safe for marginalized groups.

Twitter enacted the policy against deadnaming, or using a transgender person’s name before they transitioned, as well as purposefully using the wrong gender for someone as a form of harassment, in 2018.

On Monday, Twitter also said it will only put warning labels on some tweets that are “potentially” in violation of its rules against hateful conduct. Previously, the tweets were removed.

It was in this policy update that Twitter appears to have deleted the line against deadnaming from its rules.

(Link): Twitter quietly reversed its policies to allow for intentional deadnaming and misgendering

The policy, which dates back to 2018, disappeared without explanation.

April 18, 2023
by Karissa Bell

Twitter has, once again, quietly updated a significant policy without explanation. The company appears to have changed its hateful conduct policy to remove a section that protected transgender people from misgendering and deadnaming, in a move spotted by GLAAD.

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My Husband is Forgetting Our Family – A Tumor is Eating His Brain by J. Herz – Problems for Christian Gender Complementarianism and “Pro Nuclear Family, Marriage” Conservatives

My Husband is Forgetting Our Family – A Tumor is Eating His Brain by J. Herz – Problems for Christian Gender Complementarianism and “Pro Nuclear Family, Marriage” Conservatives

I’m sorry for this lady and her spouse.

This article serves as a couple of examples.

First of all, as a conservative who is NOT anti-Nuclear Family, nor am I anti-Marriage, I want this to serve as yet another course correction on the hyper-marriage and excessive, false Nuclear Family propaganda other conservatives pump out continually about marriage and the Nuclear Family,
which is, contrary to conservative talking points,
marriage (and the nuclear family) will not only not always and continually make a person happy, healthy, more responsible, godly, mature, ethical, but forming one’s own nuclear family or being married will not necessarily make a person content, bring lasting safety, and a better all around life.

Furthermore, marriage and the nuclear family will not save a society.

You have a married couple here where one spouse has a deteriorating brain, so he’s losing his functionality and his memories. Being married didn’t keep him from developing health problems. Being married to him is not going to cut his wife any slack.

Secondly, this also presents problems for American Christian gender complementarians (and I’d imagine complementarians in other parts of the world as well), because realistically, for their sexist, gross view of the genders and marriage to work, it can only work, and work well, in or with a certain set of very narrow circumstances:
In order for complementarianism and complementarian male headship to work the way complementarians say it should or will, the woman will have to be married to a normal, healthy, caring, considerate, responsible, psychologically healthy, relatively intelligent, non-abusive man who holds a steady job.

If a  complementarian woman is married to an abusive, unemployed, negligent, unempathetic, or disabled, permanently injured, or very stupid or very irresponsible husband, her life and her health will suffer, and the couple in question will most likely have a terrible, abusive, or toxic marriage.

I have a similar, older post on this blog about a married man who entered early dementia (in his 40s, I think), he lost the ability to speak, think or communicate clearly, and his wife became his care-taker.

Her husband became her ward to care for, not a life partner. She is more like his mother now, and not a wife.

All decision-making came down to her and her alone, because her husband was physically unable to do anything. Every day, professional health assistants come to this woman’s home to bathe and dress her husband, prop him up in a chair, and he basically sits in silence staring at a wall and drooling all day. He is unable to converse with his wife.

That is his life day in, day out, and his wife has to deal with that and work around it. She is responsible for everything now. There is no “male headship” in their marriage.

In some of these marriages, it is necessary or vital that the wife have vocational or a college education and a steady job, so that she can continue to pay whatever bills the couple has.

Complementarianism cannot and does not work in such marriages.

It is incapable of working in such situations, and when I was in complementarianism myself until my mid-30s, and even afterwards, when I’d periodically visit comp sites (such as CBMW), I never saw these situations addressed.

The one lone article I saw discussing it at a pro-complementarian site pulled a cop-out, where the article said that that wife who was caring for the brain-injured, quasi-vegetative spouse was honoring his “male headship.”

But by their own admission, the spouse in that story, who came back from a tour of duty, quasi-mentally impaired (he cannot think or communicate) and in a wheelchair forever, is incapable of carrying out complementarian male headship: the wife had to take over his and her “roles.”

Complementarianism and its adherents fail to take into account men who are abusive, incompetent, irresponsible, drug addicts, who have personality disorders, who are permanently physically or mentally incapacitated, etc.

And no, merely saying that women married to such failures at “male headship” are not, in your opinion, allowed to “biblically” divorce such a man, is not an actual answer or explanation. It still does not address the substance of the problem. That is one of a few huge gaping holes and failings in their sexist, false, un-biblical, horrid gender theology.

(Link): My husband is forgetting our family — a tumor is eating his brain

March 15, 2023
by Jane Herz

A British father of two, who may only have three months left to live, is beginning to forget his family — and any memory of his wedding day.

Kirsty Chorlton, a 34-year-old from Wales, says time is running out for her 37-year-old husband, Wayne.

He was reportedly diagnosed with a butterfly glioma, a rare type of brain tumor that is slowly eating away at his brain. Memory loss is just one symptom of the tragic illness.

“We’ve been left completely devastated as a family, as his memory has gone really bad, and he can’t remember much of his daily routine or big life moments,” Chorlton told Jam Press.

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Texas Man Confesses to Strangling Girlfriend to Death While Having Sex

Texas Man Confesses to Strangling Girlfriend to Death While Having Sex

Sometimes being single and celibate is the best way to go.

It’s my understanding that men slapping, spitting upon, etc, women during sex is becoming more commonplace, especially among younger people, because young men see this sexist garbage in porn they watch and I suppose wrongly assume that women enjoy this.

(Link): Texas man confesses to strangling girlfriend while they had sex

March 24, 2023
By Snejana Farberov

A Texas man has been charged with manslaughter after confessing to choking his girlfriend to death while the pair were having sex, cops said.

Harris County sheriff’s deputies responded to an address in the 800 block of Ashland Boulevard in Channelview around 2:20 a.m. Tuesday for a medical emergency report.

Officers found 24-year-old DeJe Garett-Hillard lying unresponsive. She was rushed to a hospital, where she was pronounced dead.

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