Fewer Americans See Their Romantic Partners As a Source of Life’s Meaning
This doesn’t bother me, and it is as it should be.
There’s nothing wrong with marriage or wanting to be married, but, too often times, secular culture, many religions, and in particular, Christian gender complementarians, have made far too much out of marriage, to the degree all these groups make women who never marry, or who marry only past their mid-30s, or who are divorced, feel like they are big, worthless losers.
Some secular conservatives and Christians even run around on their podcasts, tweets, and blogs saying as such – that single or childless adults are selfish or losers.
Complementarians especially are pretty bad about this, because they tend to define “womanhood” as, and to tie a woman’s worth and purpose, to if she marries and has children .
While I am not a supporter of the far left’s anti-nuclear family views, I also don’t agree with how so many Christians have gone the opposite and equally damaging route by advising women that their value or identity resides only in being a wife and a mother – something the Bible does not teach, by the way, but actually says that being single is better than being married (see 1 Cor. 7).
Christians often seem to forget that Jesus of Nazareth never married and never had children – yet Christians shame or exclude adults today who don’t marry and/or who do not have children.
- Pew research found 9% of Americans saw their partner as a source of meaning, down from 20% in 2017.
- Dating during a pandemic is hard, and couples had to confront unhappy relationships in quarantine.
- Paired with the declining birth rate, it seems Americans are finding fulfillment on their own terms.
Some people spend a lifetime looking for their soul mate. But more Americans are finding life’s meaning in other things.
A new report from Pew Research Center that surveyed more than 2,500 Americans found that 9% of respondents cited their spouse or romantic partner as a source of meaning in life.
That’s quite a drop from 2017, when 20% said the same.