New study: Average American man is ugly and fat – And yes, men, you should panic because American women DO judge you based on your looks

New study: Average American man is ugly and fat – And yes, men, you should panic because American women DO judge you based on your looks contrary to what Christian propaganda tells you

The following page has several computer generated images of what this study says the typical American man looks like. The study says the average American male is getting shorter and fatter.

As to most American women, we prefer Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome with a buff body and full head of hair…

Contrary to you all who sit in pews every week where your male preacher and Christian dating advice blogs tells you “only men are visually stimulated and women don’t care about looks or sex, they only care about emotional stuff.”

Christian preachers and dating advice gurus need to be lecturing the single males if they want a date or a wife, they better get off their flabby, lard butts and start running, and watch the carbs and calories.

Christian women will NOT be attracted to you solely on your bank account or “spiritual walk” or great sense of humor.

(Link): This Is the Average Man’s Body

    Graphic renderings of modern males

    by J Hamblin
    Oct 2013

    Click here to View computer generated image of “Todd” who represents the average American male

    Todd is the most typical of American men. His proportions are based on averages from CDC anthropometric data. As a U.S. male age 30 to 39, his body mass index (BMI) is 29; just one shy of the medical definition of obese. At five-feet-nine-inches tall, his waist is 39 inches.

    Don’t let the hyperrealistic toes fool you; Todd is an avatar. I gave Todd his name, and gave his life a narrative arc, but he is actually the child of graphic artist Nickolay Lamm as part of his Body Measurement Project.

    Todd would prefer perfection—or at least something superlative, even if it’s bad—to being average. But Todd is perfect only in being average. With this perfection comes the privilege of radical singularity, which is visible in his eyes.

    Though in his face this reads lonesome, Todd does have three international guyfriends. They met at a convention for people with perfectly average bodies, where each won the award for most average body in their respective country: U.S., Japan, Netherlands, and France. The others’ BMIs, based on data from each country’s national health centers, are 23.7, 25.2, and 25.6.

    I named them all Todd, actually, even though it could be confusing, because not everyone’s name is a testament to their cultural heritage.

    [omit computer generated images of average males from USA and various other nations]

    Most people look better from their left, but Lamm rendered the Todds from their right, just because he can. To these men, Nickolay is God.

    Avatars of various ethnicities are important, because obesity depends on culture and genetics. The weight of every person’s destiny is equal, but some countries are fat, and others are not. The World Health Organization cares about that, because understanding the differences should help to explicate causes.

    So does history. Fifty years ago, American Todd would not have been round. The trend is not unique to men, either; Lamm just chose to work with white male renderings. The same CDC data puts the female BMI in this age group at 28.7.

    [omit chart]

    Americans are also losing ground in height. For most of two centuries, until 60 years ago, the U.S. population was the tallest in the world. Now the average American man is three inches shorter than the Dutch man, who averages six feet. Japanese averages are also gaining on Americans’. Anthropologists tie these recent changes primarily to diet and lifestyle, as we’ve turned habitable wilderness into excess.

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Real Every Day, Average Men Ain’t All That Attractive – and yes, male looks matter to Christian women / Ageism and Desirablity

Real Men Ain’t All That Attractive – and yes, male looks matter to Christian women

I love how sexist pig men, including Christian ones, assume that lookism (and even ageism) is one-sided.

That is, men believe it’s okay or normal for men to choose or reject women based on that woman’s age or looks alone, or they assume that a woman’s looks fade as soon as she hits 35, or 40, which is not the case.

What many of them continue to overlook is that a lot of women also engage in lookism (and ageism) against men.

By the way, age 40 women do NOT want to date “older men,” yet I see women ages 25 and up, but in particular the 40 somethings, often complaining on sites how only dudes age 60 and older contact them on dating sites.

Same thing has happened to me, though I also get contacted by 20s, 30s aged males on dating sites.

Hell, even when I was mid 30s, I still had old, white haired grandpas hitting on me on dating sites, and it’s gross.

Women do not want to date older men. There might be a few who do, if the woman in question is an air-headed 23 year old who is a gold digger, or the 50+ year old male in question is movie actor Johnny Depp, but as to the rest of the female gender: no, just no, we don’t want to date older guys.

I have no idea why older men assume women ten, fifteen, twenty years their junior would even consider it. Most of us find the romantic attention of a much older guy ICKY. Not a turn on, but ICKY and GROSS.

I’ve been meaning on doing a related post or two on these subjects for some time now. Here’s the first one. I don’t know when I will be cranking out part 2.

The sexist doofus(*) at another site commented to me that in my 40s, that my looks have lost their allure (I forget the exact nauseating, odd phrase he used, but something like, “the flower is off the youth of your looks”), so I can no longer depend on my looks to get a man, he said.

As I told him, I never depended on my looks to start with.

He has no idea what I look like, by the way, but just assumes I must resemble an old crone (I do not).

(*The doofus to which I refer:
Frank Swift / Geek in the Wilderness post (‘How churches today abandoned the Christian single’))

He’s not the only male who feels this way. I’ve seen other ones like him before.

The larger point I’d like to make, though, is that Hollywood and Madison Avenue keep portraying women over age 35 as being unattractive or sexless, and your idiot Christian “Average Joes” have bought into this thinking.

Males generally get a pass in American culture for having slobby looks, for looking old, or being fat, and are not considered un-sexy, ugly, haggard, undesirable, or old-looking until they get to their 50s, or a few, such as movie star Sean Connery, escape this ageism until their 60s or 70s.

I am now in my early 40s. I don’t look too different now than I did in my early or mid 30s. I don’t have wrinkles or grey hair, and I jog several times a week. I am not fat.

Yet, weenies like the guy on the other site – Swift – seem to assume once a woman hits 40, that she automatically morphs into a stereotypical, grey- hair- in- a- bun, wrinkled 95- year- old grandma. (Think “Granny” on “The Beverly Hillbillies” show.).

However, that is not what 40 looks like.

Even secular people pick up on these things – some of them do pick apart male appearance and note that most guys are not as hot and attractive as they think they are, and some of them are catching on that looks do matter to women.

Some women, such as me, put more value on a man’s looks than how much money he makes.

I’ve always cared more about ‘the Cute’ than ‘the Bank Account’ or the sort of car the guy drives.

Guys like the sexist Swift assumes he can be chubby, fat, wrinkled, flabby and bald, and yet still attract an attractive woman, if only he has a steady job – and this assumption is flat wrong.

Someone put photos of average guys in underwear beside photos of famous male athletes and movies stars in underwear:

(Link): Real Men Underwear Ads

Here are a couple examples from that page – the regular guys are on the left, the male models / professional soccer players are on the right – the regular Joes are NO WHERE NEAR AS sexy, hot, and attractive as the guys on the right:

Rergular Guy Compared to Male Model
Rergular Guy Compared to Male Model
Rergular Guy Compared to Male Model
Regular Guy Compared to Male Model

Men You’re Less Attractive Than You Think (video)

Related posts this blog:

(Link): New study: Average American man is ugly and fat – And yes, men, you should panic because American women DO judge you based on your looks

(Link): Women Are Visual And Like Hot Looking Men (Part 1) Joseph in Genesis Was A Stud Muffin

(Link): Creepy, wrong, immature and pathetic: older men chasing after much younger women

(Link): Misogynistic Christian Single Guy Blog – Keeping Singles Single Re Frank Swift of Geek in the Wilderness

(Link): Rise of the trophy HUSBAND: The high-flying women paying for their partners to get surgery – so that they will look better on their arm (article)

(Link): Christian Males Blaming their Unwanted Protracted Singleness on Feminism – They have the wrong target

(Link): Example of How Christian Teaching About Sex, Marriage, and Gender Creates Hang Ups and Entitlements Among Christians

(Link): Conflicting Message to Christian Women by Christians About Physical Appearance

(Link): Ryan Gosling and Shirtless, Buff Cowboy Photos on Social Media – Yes, Women Are Visually Stimulated and Visually Oriented (Part 2)

(Link): The Annoying, Weird, Sexist Preoccupation by Christian Males with Female Looks and Sexuality

(Link): Follow up: BITTER GUY Replies to ‘It’s Okay To Call A Guy Creepy (article) / Little Sympathy for Ugly Single Guys’

(Link): And They Like to Caution Single Women About Being “Too Picky” – Check this nauseatingly too picky list by a single 39 year old who will die single

(Link): How Not to Help All the Single Ladies (excellent article)

(Link): Some Advertisers Have Caught on that Women are Visually Oriented

(Link): Conservative Christian Sexist Immature Imbecilic Pressure on Women to Look Pretty and Skinny and to Put Out Sexually

(Link): Christian Gender and Sex Stereotypes Act as Obstacles to Christian Singles Who Want to Get Married (Not All Men Are Obsessed with Sex)

(Link): Boy Bands, Rock Singers, and Other High School Crushes – Yes, Women Are Visually Stimulated and Visually Oriented

And They Like to Caution Single Women About Being “Too Picky” Check this nauseatingly too picky list by a single 39 year old who will die single

And They Like to Caution Single Women About Being “Too Picky” Check this nauseatingly too picky list by a single 39 year old who will die single

This 39 year old man (he goes by the screen name “Romeo Rose” as well as “Sleepless in Austin”) will never, ever get married, unless he happens across a very, very emotionally damaged, codependent woman, they are the only sort who would go along with this, but then, he might not meet one who is a red head, sans glasses, etc etc…

This makes me glad that I’m single.

(Link): Delusional Man-Child Has Most Incredible List of Dating Requirements

This is the summary of his list, along with the intro from his site’s home page; you will have to click the link above to see the entire thing:

    I am willing to pay anyone $1,500 as a finders fee for anyone that can help find me a girlfriend. (I will give you a extra $1,000 as a bonus if this turns into marriage, I offer this extra bonus as I hope it will motivate you to find me a woman of great quality)

    I will not date an overweight girl
    I will not date a black girl
    I do not like glasses on a girl
    I will not date a girl that does not have a job
    I do not like tattoos on a woman
    I do not like gamblers
    I do not like strippers
    I will not date a girl that has had a threesome
    I will not date a girl if she is still friends with an ex
    I do not want a girlfriend that has breast implants
    I have a very high sex drive

I hope you enjoy growing old totally alone, dude, or that you like paying for sex.

His list is actually way worse than you see above, because he gets into nit pickier details under each main point. It’s fairly ridiculous.

Oddly enough, this selfish, entitled man also has this on his list of wants:

    I will not date a selfish woman. I do not like selfish women at all.

From his site:

    I prefer a woman that has never had children, because having kids does ruin a womans body often times.

    They end up with stretch marks.

    And also sometimes it makes their vagina looser, and I don’t care how many kegel exercises a woman does, after she has 2 or 3 eight to ten pound babies, you can’t tell me it’s going to be 100% as tight as it ever was!

    Plus, what’s even worse than all of that, is sometimes during childbirth the lips/vulva of a woman get torn and they never look the same as the did originally even after they heal, that’s why some women even get cosmetic reconstructive surgery to their vulvas after childbirth to try and regain their original appearance.

-I don’t even know what to say about that.

He apparently works as a photographer (at least someone on another site said this is the guy’s photography page):

(Link): Lonely, entitled, too judgemental and picky about women Single Guy’s Photography page
-by the way, guys like him are single because they are selfish, entitled, and unrealistic.

They are not single “because of feminism” – I’m not saying that is necessarily true of this Romeo guy, but a lot of guys who have a difficult time getting girlfriends often blame feminism (see (Link): Christian Males Blaming their Unwanted Protracted Singleness on Feminism – They have the wrong target)

I’m fine with singles of either gender having preferences (including regarding physical appearances of people they’d like to date), but when your list of preferences is twenty feet long and some of it is sexist or hypocritical, er, no.

However, the people in the Jezebel comments are off base by saying anyone who says “I like all music except for rap” is racist.

You got it: I am not racist but don’t like most rap. I also dislike most heavy metal and country music that is too hick-i-fied. Some country is okay, but some of it is annoying.

Said a commentator on the Jezebel page about this guy:

    Oh, and you missed something that another commenter pointed out: he did an AMA on Reddit.

    in his AMA, he explains that the reason he would never date a woman who had been with a Black man is because he considers it “ALMOST the same thing as beastiality, because black people look like apes, monkeys and gorillas.”

Several people have suggested that he’s trolling people, and this is all a publicity stunt to get attention.

Some also say that he posts to PUA type threads on reddit. Figures. He does give off that kind of vibe.

October 10, 2013 update at Jezebel:

New developments about this sexist, weirdo, nit picky guy, hosted on the Jezebel site – this weirdo has been sending gross texts to women:

(Link to Jezebel page): [Update] Inevitably Disgusting Sexts From the Racist ‘Sleepless in Austin’ Dude

Related posts this blog

(Link): Nice Guys: Scourge of the Single Woman

(Link): Blogs by Single Women Who Discuss the Weirdos, Perverts and Losers Who Contact Them on Dating Sites

Clueless Guys Can’t Read Women (article/study)

Clueless Guys Can’t Read Women (article/study)

Yes. I’ve been saying this for ages, and I’ve had it happen to me numerous times.

Men who can’t get the hint I don’t want to date them and have zero romantic interest in them will not back off. They are very persistent, and it can be scary or creepy and annoying as hell.

They don’t get my polite clues and hints that I’m not interested, so I have to whack them over the head with a two by four and cuss them out. Then they have the nerve to bitch and moan that women are bitches who only want to date jerks. 🙄

These clueless idiots force you into the position of being a heartless rude bitch after your numerous attempts at letting them down gently, because they cannot read normal social cues, but then they blame you.

It’s not just “young, college aged men” who have this problem but also older ones, too. Some middle aged and senior aged guys are oblivious and stupid about women, and some are arrogant and can’t imagine any woman wanting to turn them down, so they keep pursuing you, even though you have made it clear you are not interested in them.

(Link): Clueless Guys Can’t Read Women (article/study)

    by Jeanna Bryner | March 19, 2008

    More often than not, guys interpret even friendly cues, such as a subtle smile from a gal, as a sexual come-on, and a new study discovers why: Guys are clueless.

    More precisely, they are somewhat oblivious to the emotional subtleties of non-verbal cues, according to a new study of college students.

    “Young men just find it difficult to tell the difference between women who are being friendly and women who are interested in something more,” said lead researcher Coreen Farris of Indiana University’s Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences.

    This “lost in translation” phenomenon plays out in the real world, with about 70 percent of college women reporting an experience in which a guy mistook her friendliness for a sexual come-on, Farris said.

    Some might think the results come down to “boys being boys,” and so even the slightest female interest sparks sexual fantasy. But the study, to be detailed in the April issue of the journal Psychological Science, also found that it goes both ways for guys — they mistake females’ sexual signals as friendly ones. The researchers suggest guys have trouble noticing and interpreting the subtleties of non-verbal cues, in either direction.

    The study’s funding came from the National Institutes of Mental Health and the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism.

    Flirting or not?

    To unravel it all, Farris and her colleagues examined non-verbal communication in a group of 280 undergraduates, both men and women with an average age of 20 years old.

    The students viewed images of women on a computer screen and had to categorize each as friendly, sexually interested, sad or rejecting. Each student reported on 280 photographs, which had been sorted previously into one of the categories based on surveys completed by different groups of students.

    Overall, women categorized more images correctly than men did. When it came to friendly gestures, men were more likely than women to interpret these to mean sexual interest.

    More surprising, the researchers found guys were also confused by sexual cues. When images of gals meant to show allure flashed onto the screen, male students mistook the allure as amicable signals.

    So ladies trying to brush off a guy at work or the gym may need to be, uh, more direct. Men in the study also had more trouble than women distinguishing between sadness and rejection.

    Programmed for sex

    The results help to tease out the underlying causes of guys’ flirt-or-not mistakes. One common explanation for reports of men taking a friendly gesture as “she wants me,” is based on men’s inherent interest in sex, which is thought to result from their biology as well as their upbringing.

    Following this idea, men and women would be aware of the same behavioral cues, but men would have a lower threshold for what qualifies as sexual interest. In contrast, women would wait for compelling evidence before labeling a behavior as sexual interest.

    However, Farris and her colleagues didn’t find this to be the case. Rather than seeing the world through sex-colored glasses, men seemed just to have blurry vision of sorts, overall. For instance, the college guys sometimes mistook sexual advances as pal-like gestures.

    “I would say that there are many factors that could relate to men demonstrating insensitivity to women’s subtle non-verbal cues,” said Pamela McAuslan, associate professor of psychology at the University of Michigan-Dearborn, who was not involved in the current study. These factors would include socialization, gender roles and gender stereotypes, she said.

    For instance, “women are supposed to be the communicators, concerned with relationships and others … men are supposed to be less concerned with communication and to be constantly alert for sexual opportunities,” McAuslan said. “This could mean that men in general may be less sensitive to subtle non-verbal behavior than women.”

    That doesn’t mean such men can’t learn to read cues or that all men are clueless decoders of women’s gestures.

    “These are average differences. Some men are very skilled at reading affective cues,” Farris told LiveScience, “and some women find the task challenging.”

Blogs by Single Women Who Discuss the Weirdos, Perverts and Losers Who Contact Them on Dating Sites

Blogs by Single Women Who Discuss the Weirdos, Perverts and Losers Who Contact Them on Dating Sites


The lady who owns this blog (I think she owns it with a friend) post screen caps of the creepy, perverted, obscene, and rude messages they get on OK Cupid (dating site):

(Link): OKWeirdo – because OK Cupid is Filled With Weirdos
Related posts this blog:

(Link): Police urge caution when using dating websites / Murderers on Dating Sites

(Link): Is it a date? Or hanging out? [2014] Survey reflects confusion (article)

(Link): Online Dating: Women Want Younger Men (article)

(Link): Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work (article)

(Link): Men Posting Profiles on Dating Sites Could Use Some Tips (from Dear Abby column)

(Link): Stop Telling Your Single Friends to Try Dating Sites – Please.

(Link): Beware of HIV / AIDS Infected Christian Male Preachers On Dating Sites

(Link): Beware of Rapists on Christian Dating Sites

(Link): Online Dating Vs Meeting in Real Life (copy)

(Link): Creepizoids Weirdos and Perverts on Dating Sites

(Link): Internet dating firms entice lonely hearts with faked profiles based on real people (article)

The Myth of Male Decline (editorial by S. Coontz)

The Myth of Male Decline (editorial by S. Coontz)

(Link): The Myth of Male Decline

    Published: September 29, 2012

    SCROLL through the titles and subtitles of recent books, and you will read that women have become “The Richer Sex,” that “The Rise of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys,” and that we may even be seeing “The End of Men.” Several of the authors of these books posit that we are on the verge of a “new majority of female breadwinners,” where middle-class wives lord over their husbands while demoralized single men take refuge in perpetual adolescence.

    How is it, then, that men still control the most important industries, especially technology, occupy most of the positions on the lists of the richest Americans, and continue to make more money than women who have similar skills and education? And why do women make up only 17 percent of Congress?

    These books and the cultural anxiety they represent reflect, but exaggerate, a transformation in the distribution of power over the past half-century. Fifty years ago, every male American was entitled to what the sociologist R. W. Connell called a “patriarchal dividend” — a lifelong affirmative-action program for men.

    The size of that dividend varied according to race and class, but all men could count on women’s being excluded from the most desirable jobs and promotions in their line of work, so the average male high school graduate earned more than the average female college graduate working the same hours. At home, the patriarchal dividend gave husbands the right to decide where the family would live and to make unilateral financial decisions. Male privilege even trumped female consent to sex, so marital rape was not a crime.

    The curtailment of such male entitlements and the expansion of women’s legal and economic rights have transformed American life, but they have hardly produced a matriarchy. Indeed, in many arenas the progress of women has actually stalled over the past 15 years.

    Let’s begin by determining which is “the richer sex.”

    Women’s real wages have been rising for decades, while the real wages of most men have stagnated or fallen. But women’s wages started from a much lower base, artificially held down by discrimination. Despite their relative improvement, women’s average earnings are still lower than men’s and women remain more likely to be poor.

    Today women make up almost 40 percent of full-time workers in management. But the median wages of female managers are just 73 percent of what male managers earn. And although women have significantly increased their representation among high earners in America over the past half-century, only 4 percent of the C.E.O.’s in Fortune’s top 1,000 companies are female.

    What we are seeing is a convergence in economic fortunes, not female ascendance. Between 2010 and 2011, men and women working full time year-round both experienced a 2.5 percent decline in income. Men suffered roughly 80 percent of the job losses at the beginning of the 2007 recession. But the ripple effect of the recession then led to cutbacks in government jobs that hit women disproportionately. As of June 2012, men had regained 46.2 percent of the jobs they lost in the recession, while women had regained 38.7 percent of their lost jobs.

    [omit some comments]

    … Proponents of the “women as the richer sex” scenario often note that in several metropolitan areas, never-married childless women in their 20s now earn more, on average, than their male age-mates.

    But this is because of the demographic anomaly that such areas have exceptionally large percentages of highly educated single white women and young, poorly educated, low-wage Latino men. Earning more than a man with less education is not the same as earning as much as an equally educated man.

    Among never-married, childless 22- to 30-year-old metropolitan-area workers with the same educational credentials, males out-earn females in every category, according to a reanalysis of census data to be presented next month at Boston University by Philip Cohen, a sociologist at the University of Maryland. Similarly, a 2010 Catalyst survey found that female M.B.A.’s were paid an average of $4,600 less than men in starting salaries and continue to be outpaced by men in rank and salary growth throughout their careers, even if they remain childless.

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