An Assessment of the Article “Why the Religion of Self-Care is Really Sanctified Selfishness” – Christian Author is Indirectly Promoting Codependency, Which is Harmful

An Assessment of the Article “Why the Religion of Self-Care is Really Sanctified Selfishness” – Christian Author is Indirectly Promoting Codependency, Which is Harmful

A link to this article, from a site and Twitter account called “Truth Over Tribe,” came through my Twitter feed today.

I don’t think I am following these guys; this was a suggestion by Twitter that appeared in my timeline. The “Truth Over Tribe” site says on their site that they are “too liberal for conservatives and too conservative for liberals.”

Okay… I’m somewhat in the same place. I’m a conservative who occasionally disagrees with other conservatives, but I sure don’t agree with many positions of progressives.

After having skimmed over some articles on this site – the site owner and author seems to be a Patrick Miller – he seems to lean left of center.

I can tell he’s left of center from some of the commentary and language he’s used – for one, in the article below, he puts his Intersectional Feminism (a left wing concept) on full display by talking about how “self care” was really started by black people, white women love it, and these days, only white woman can (financially) afford it. (Though I didn’t quote those portions of his article below, but they are over on his site.)

(Does Miller realize that left wing darling BLM (Black Lives Matter) is misleading people financially or that they spend more on transgenderism than on race related issues?)

At any rate, let’s get on to the article on this site that alarmed me, and I will provide a few excerpts, and then I will comment on them to explain why I feel this piece goes horribly wrong:

(Link):  Why the Religion of Self-Care is Really Sanctified Selfishness

Excerpts:

by Patrick Miller

“To be happy, you need to leave toxic people behind.” The preaching Peloton instructor continued, “I’m talking about people who take more than they give. People who don’t care about your dreams. People whose selfishness impedes your ability to do what you want to do.”

 Oh crap. She just described my two-year-old. I guess it’s time to cut him off.

This is the gospel of self-care. The notion that the most important person in my life is me, and anyone who impedes my happiness is an existential threat to my emotional and physical well-being. …

… What’s the Religion of Self Care?

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What do Female Incels Really Want? By Kaitlyn Tiffany

What do Female Incels Really Want? By Kaitlyn Tiffany

(Link): What do Female Incels Really Want?

Excerpts:

By Kaitlyn Tiffany
May 12, 2022

“We were all ugly,” Amanda, a 22-year-old student from Florida told me, recalling the online community she found when she was 18. “Men didn’t like us, guys didn’t want to be with us, and it was fine to acknowledge it.”

This Reddit forum was called r/Trufemcels, and she commented there under the username “strangeanduglygrl.” Amanda didn’t post very often, but she checked in every day on the community of self-identified “femcels,” or involuntarily celibate women. (I agreed to refer to her by her first name only, to separate her current life from her former internet identity.)

They came to complain about the superficiality of men and the privilege of pretty women, and to share their experiences moving through the world in an unattractive body, which therefore disadvantaged them romantically, socially, and economically.

They were finding the modern dating landscape—the image-based apps, the commodified dating “market,” the illusory “freedom” to be found in hookup culture—to be unnavigable, and they talked about taking a “pink pill,” and opening their eyes to the reality that society was misogynistic and “lookist.”

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Christian Gender Complementarians and Far Left Woke Progressives and Transactivists – What They Have in Common

Christian Gender Complementarians and Far Left Woke Progressives and Transactivists – What They Have in Common

There are a few things Christian gender complementarians have in common with the following: the woke; progressives; social justice warriors; anti-Trumpers; exvangelicals (ex evangelicals); transactivists; critical theory advocates; BLM; Antifa, and anti-racists.

I don’t want to get into all the similarities I see among these seemingly- at- first- glance- totally- in- opposition groups, but one or two I did want to mention for now:

Both the Christian complementarians and the Progressives participate in “identity politics.” You’re not allowed to be an individual.

Complementarians divide people into the groups of “men” and “women,” and then ascribe gender stereotypes to both groups. They believe that all women are, or should be, passive, non-confrontational, and docile and enjoy crocheting tea cozies, for example.

If you’re a woman who is not passive, docile, or who does not enjoy knitting tea cozies and has no desire to do so, they either ignore you, or other types of complementarians may insult you or question your fealty to Jesus, the Bible, and the nuclear family.

The progressives, of course, put everybody into groups and then in sub-groups; the progressives will not only divide people up by biological sex, for instance, but if you are a “person of color” AND a woman, you’re now in a sub-group.

The progressives will then try to determine, via “intersectionality,” which group or sub-group is the “most” oppressed, and which ever group is deemed most victimized gets all the cookies (devotion, protection, attention, energy).

Members of these groups, who are declared to be most marginalized, are given carte blanche permission by woke liberals to treat other groups terribly, and to stomp all over other groups’ needs, rights, and concerns (one example of this on my blog).

Women Are Not Allowed to Have Their Own Opinions On Either Side, Christian Complementarian OR Progressive

Christian gender complementarians and woke, far left liberals (including transactivists, BLM supporters, and even a lot of progressive Exvangelical, anti-Trump persons, and some abuse survivor advocates) all have the distasteful, unfortunate habit of pressuring women to think a certain way.

All those groups also tend to guilt trip women or shame them when they won’t cave in to the pressure, and they also advise – more like command and dictate! – women to “let this group do your thinking for you. You are not allowed to question the group or its assumptions or opinions. You are not allowed to have or hold a dissenting view from that of the group.”

Women Who Disagree With Christian Gender Complementarianism

If you’re a woman who doesn’t agree with Christian gender complementarianism (or Christian patriarchy, which is essentially the same thing as complementarianism, but usually more severe),
complementarian men (and some of the women) in those belief sets will accuse you of being a liberal, a feminist, and/or a Democrat and will sometimes also accuse you of hating babies, men, meritocracy, due process, or the nuclear family.

The more crude, overtly sexist ones will also suggest on occasion you are “trying to be like a man,” you are “too old, past your expiration date,” you own 47 pet cats, and you never shave your legs.

Women Who Disagree With Progressives or Any Progressive View or Behavior

If you’re a woman who doesn’t agree with progressives on, well, any of their socio-political views (CRT, pro-choice, BLM, transactivism, etc), they will accuse you of being bigoted, racist, homophobic, transphobic, and/or of possessing “Internalized Misogyny,” and they’re rarely civil in how they express those views.
(This is, laughably and remarkably, after they stress repeatedly, especially in their online communities, how, unlike Trump voters and evangelical Christians, how tolerant and loving they are.)

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Huffington Post Writer Exposed Tracking Down and Harassing Conservative Women

Huffington Post Writer Exposed Tracking Down and Harassing Conservative Women

This is a common move among those on the left – the liberals, Democrats, progressives – they claim to be opposed to sexism, and yet, they are perfectly fine when anyone from their political group harasses (or sexually abuse) any woman who does not agree with their social or political views
– and whenever I point this out to them on social media, they almost always deny it and try to justify this disgusting behavior (and hypocrisy) by trying to convince me that conservatives are so much worse.

(Democrats, liberals, and progressives also love to point out pedophilia or rape when committed by Christians or Republicans (or when Christians or Republicans are accused of it), but many of them almost always ignore it or rationalize it when it is done by another Democrat, liberal, or progressive.

Being partisan about sexism and sexual abuse and pedophilia is disgusting, but people on the left do so often.)

(Link): Huffington Post writer exposed tracking down and harassing conservative women

Excerpts:

May 16, 2022

A number of other women contacted by Schlarmann reached out with their own stories during the process of writing this article, however none wanted their messages shared out of fear for retaliation.

A self-described “comedian” and former unpaid writer for the Huffington Post who now operates a web of political websites that garner minimal traffic has been tracking down and sending harassing messages to female conservative political commentators, it’s been revealed.

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Trans Craziness Has Ruined the Credibility of Gay Activism, Says Stonewall Founder by Kurt Zindulka

Trans Craziness Has Ruined the Credibility of Gay Activism, Says Stonewall Founder by Kurt Zindulka

(Link):  Trans Craziness Has Ruined the Credibility of Gay Activism, Says Stonewall Founder by Kurt Zindulka

One of the co-founders of the far-left LGBTQ charity Stonewall has accused the group of discrediting equal rights activism by embracing far-left ideology on transgenderism, such as claiming there is no difference between the bodies of men and women.

LGBTQ activists at Stonewall have lost the plot, according to Simon Fanshawe OBE, who was one of the six founders of the group in 1989. Fanshawe, an openly gay man who spent decades campaigning for equal rights in Britain, said that he and others made gains by engaging with others of differing opinions.

In contrast, the Stonewall co-founder accused the current batch of trans activists of treating their ideology as “non-negotiable”.

“All that work is now in danger of being wrecked, Stonewall’s reputation discredited, and its credibility squandered, by trans activists — not all trans people, I hasten to add — who believe they can dictate what everyone is allowed to say and think,” Fanshawe wrote in the Daily Mail.

“A small minority of activists, including those who have taken over Stonewall, do not want to extend that decency and tolerance to the rest of the population,” he said.

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Transgender Inmate Convicted Of Raping Female Prisoner at Women’s Facility

Transgender Inmate Convicted Of Raping Female Prisoner at Women’s Facility

The “Transgender” inmate in the headline is a MAN. He’s a  biological man who raped a biological woman in a women’s prison, all because woke liberals and leftists insist on putting women’s safety in jeopardy to promote their stupid, deviant gender ideology.

Leftists, woke liberals, and Democrats do not care about women or women’s rights, no – they’re the ones advocating for the laws, rules, and arguments that make this horror possible.

(Link): Transgender Inmate Convicted Of Raping Female Prisoner at Women’s Facility

A trans-identified male inmate at Rikers Island has been convicted of raping a female prisoner while in the women’s section of the New York prison. Ramel Blount, 33, who uses the alias Diamond Blount, was sentenced to seven years after accepting a plea deal for a lesser charge of attempted rape.

While housed in the female facility, Blount approached a 33-year-old woman in the bathroom at the Rose M. Singer Center of the Rikers complex on February 8, 2021. The victim had just finished showering when Blount grabbed her by the neck, held her down and sexually assaulted her.

(Link): Transgender Rikers inmate serving time in women’s wing of jail for assault RAPES female prisoner in a bathroom after victim finished showering

by Ruth Bashinsky
April 26, 2022

A transgender Rikers Island inmate with previous arrests for assault raped a female prisoner after she finished showering in the women’s section of the violence-plagued New York City facility.

Ramel Blount, 33, who goes by the name Diamond Blount, pleaded guilty to the sexual attack in a deal on April 7, the Bronx District Attorney’s Office announced Monday.

The 33-year-old victim, whose name was not released, had just finished showering when Blount approached her from behind, held her down by the back of her neck and raped her at the Rose M. Singer center on February 8, 2021.

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Dominic Lawson: Why Are Women Attacked by the Trans Lobby While We Men Get Far Less Abuse?

Dominic Lawson: Why Are Women Attacked by the Trans Lobby While We Men Get Far Less Abuse?

The guy who wrote this isn’t the first to notice that biological women who criticize the trans movement and its sexism get treated with far more vitriol than biological men who speak out against it.

(Link): DOMINIC LAWSON: Why are women attacked by the trans lobby while we men get far less abuse?

Excerpts:

April 10, 2022

…Dr Stock had warned me: ‘You may well encounter very unpleasant consequences. If you do, please don’t recant. I would rather you didn’t write about this at all than speak out and then retract.’

As it turned out, I encountered no abuse at all, just a lot of mail from female readers of this newspaper to the effect that they were delighted I was speaking up for them.

Yet I am sure that if I were a woman and had written such a column in the issue of April 8, 2019, I would indeed have been monstered on social media, especially Twitter.

Look at what has happened to J.K. Rowling, who has endured death threats and the foulest of personal abuse after she defended Maya Forstater.

…This is the woman sacked from her job at the London office of a U.S. think-tank, the Center For Global Development, after expressing her belief — one might say, the fact — that it is not possible to change one’s biological sex.

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Feminist Author: Stay-At-Home Moms Breed ‘Worse, More Sexist’ Men

Feminist Author: Stay-At-Home Moms Breed ‘Worse, More Sexist’ Men By Samantha Ibrahim

From what I recall reading years ago, there is a grain of truth of some of what this feminist woman wrote – I have read studies that men who have daughters tend to be less sexist than men who don’t, and that men brought up with sisters where all household chores were equally divided (the boys weren’t let off the hook for domestic chores) grow up to have more egalitarian gender attitudes than men who grow up in families where they see their parents expect or force the female children to take on more domestic duties.

I’ve also read studies saying that never-married women are happier than married women. There are studies saying people who are parents are not as happy as childless couples. (Some of these studies are linked to below under “Related Posts.”)

Having said that: while I do believe that too many conservatives (I myself am a conservative) have turned marriage and parenthood into idols, and that they do cling to some sexist stereotypes, I do not have an issue with women who knowingly walk into marriage and motherhood.

That is, I do not think that feminists should shame women who want to marry and have children any more than I think that it’s acceptable for conservatives or Christians to pressure women into thinking their only life goal should be marriage and motherhood.

(Link): Feminist author: Stay-at-home moms breed ‘worse, more sexist’ men

By Samantha Ibrahim
April 13, 2022

Controversial feminist author Jill Filipovic is preaching the “overwhelmingly negative consequences” of stay-at-home moms — and social media watchdogs are coming for her.

Filipovic, 38, detailed her stance that these mothers create “worse, more sexist” men — and women who are “psychologically and emotionally worse off” — in a now-viral (Link): Twitter thread published on Tuesday.

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Rape Victim’s Legal Fight After Transgender Woman Was Allowed to Access Female-Only Support Group

Rape Victim’s Legal Fight After Transgender Woman Was Allowed to Access Female-Only Support Group

Trans-activism: where men’s feelings are prioritized by the left over the feelings, needs, and concerns of biological women. It’s misogyny, it’s unjust, and it’s a farce.

I don’t want to hear from liberals, progressives, or Democrats about any sexism by evangelicals or Republicans, real or perceived, until they clean up their own side of the aisle.

(Link): Rape Victim’s Legal fight After Transgender Woman Was Allowed to Access Female-Only Support Group

May 3, 2022

A sexual assault survivor is suing a government-funded rape crisis centre for allowing a transgender woman to access its female-only support group.

The victim, who has been named only as Sarah, joined the group at the Survivors’ Network in Brighton last year.

Sarah, who was sexually abused as a child and later raped in her 20s, said she initially felt ‘relieved’ to share her story with women who had similar experiences.

But after noticing ‘someone who appeared to be a man’ in one of her sessions in September, she said she was left feeling ‘shaken and upset’.

Sarah, who is now married and in her 40s, requested a support group for those who were born female but said the organisation ‘made it really clear they can’t offer me any help’.

The Survivors’ Network’s trans inclusive policy states its women-only services are available to any ‘self-identifying woman’.

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Transgender Inmate (Biological Male) Convicted Of Raping Female Prisoner at Women’s Facility

Transgender Inmate (Biological Male) Convicted Of Raping Female Prisoner at Women’s Facility

It’s not conservatives, evangelicals, Trump voters, or Christians who are arguing that men can identify as women and be housed with biological women in women’s prisons.

This is the left doing this – it’s the Democrats, the Progressives, and the woke Liberals who are responsible for putting the safety of girls and women at risk, and doing so to push their “Queer Theory,” left wing values about sex and sexuality.

(Link): Transgender Rikers inmate serving time in women’s wing of jail for assault RAPES female prisoner in a bathroom after victim finished showering

April 26, 2022

A transgender Rikers Island inmate with previous arrests for assault raped a female prisoner after she finished showering in the women’s section of the violence-plagued New York City facility.

Ramel Blount, 33, who goes by the name Diamond Blount, pleaded guilty to the sexual attack in a deal on April 7, the Bronx District Attorney’s Office announced Monday.

The 33-year-old victim, whose name was not released, had just finished showering when Blount approached her from behind, held her down by the back of her neck and raped her at the Rose M. Singer center on February 8, 2021.

The victim reported the incident to jail officials, and a rape kit was administered, which matched Blount’s DNA in the New York State Registry.

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Did the Supreme Court Leak (Regarding Abortion) Cause the Democrat Party to Abandon the Trans Community? by Brandon Morse

Did the Supreme Court Leak (Regarding Abortion) Cause the Democrat Party to Abandon the Trans Community? by Brandon Morse

The following editorial (actually there is a second one – there’s another, I’ll link to both below) comes a day or so after a Supreme Court leak shows that the Justices may rule to return the legality of abortion back down to each state to decide, and weeks after the Democrat nominee for the Court said she was unable to define the word “woman.”

As I noted on a blog post a few years ago – before I became more educated about the left’s concept of “intersectionalism” – I noticed that the “woke” liberals on my timeline, and liberals writing for blogs and magazines, seemed to put groups of people into hierarchy, with those groups perceived to be the most marginalized are deemed more worthy of defense and consideration than other groups.

For over a year now, woke liberals have consistently placed the needs, concerns, and preferences of transwomen (biological men who say they are women) above the needs, concerns, preferences, and safety of biological girls and women, because the “trans” group is considered more victimized or down-trodden by the left than biological women.

In light of the fact that the 49 year old pro-abortion ruling Roe V. Wade may be overturned and the legality of abortion sent back to each state to decide, portions of the left are now deciding that the rights or concerns of biological women are paramount, that they over-ride the concerns of transwomen (biological men).

The Democrat Party does not truly care about women – and by women, I mean biological women, not the freaks who are biological males who wear lipstick, skirts, and run around calling themselves women and want access to women’s bathrooms so they can indulge their Autogynephilia and sexually harass or sexually abuse biological girls and women.

(Link): The Transgender Community Just Got Its First Abandonment Moment From the Democrat Party (behind a pay wall)

Excerpts:

by Brandon Morse
May 3, 2022

If there’s one point I’ve made over and over again, it’s that the Democrat Party has no friends, just allies that remain allies so long as they’re useful. They may make a race, group, or career seem like the holiest thing on the planet, but there will be a moment where what was once useful will either lose its luster or become detrimental.

Like a toy that a child got bored with, that group will get tossed to the side where it will collect dust and be forgotten–or be retrieved when it’s considered cool again. 

…Right now, the toy being forgotten about that the Democrat considered its most prized possession just the day before yesterday is the transgender community.

So entrenched was the Democrat Party in the transgender narrative that Ketanji Brown Jackson wouldn’t even define what a woman is during her Supreme Court confirmation hearing. More accurately, she said she couldn’t because she wasn’t a biologist.

This was a moment applauded by Democrats, but now that’s all changed.

With the Roe v Wade draft decision leaked and the left getting up in arms over the fact that abortion may now be an issue from state to state, the Democrats have rediscovered the usefulness of the abortion debate and its ability to rally women to its cause.

Just in time too, because the Democrats’ base was getting a bit anemic, and with all the mounting narratives that worked in favor of Republicans growing, a swift change of subject was necessary.

So, now it’s all about women’s rights, but you can’t proclaim to be a protector of women’s rights if your position is “women don’t exist.” Democrats are now required to drop the transgender community, in order to pick back up where they left off with being “the party of women.”

The transgender community is now out of vogue, just like the Asian community, just like Black Lives Matter, and just like every other cause or group the Democrat Party claimed was so important to America. Transgender people went from being the “backbone of our democracy” to being inconvenient in the span of a Politico report.

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Christian College Accused of Banning Student for Having Premarital Sex After She Reported Rape

Christian College Accused of Banning Student for Having Premarital Sex After She Reported Rape

I do believe that the Bible forbids both rape and pre-marital sex, but rape is obviously not the same thing as “pre-marital sex” in the ‘normal’ sense.

Christian colleges and complementarians need to stop conflating the two – what such Christians do when they conflate both is to victim-blame rape victims, which is disgusting.

(Link): She told her Christian college she was raped. Then she was banned from campus.

A new federal complaint says Visible Music College gave a student a choice: admit to breaking the school’s ban on premarital sex or be expelled.

April 29, 2022
By Tyler Kingkade

When Mara Louk told an administrator at Visible Music College, where she was a senior, that a male classmate had choked and raped her last November, she expected that school officials would help her file a police report and arrange a safety plan.

Instead, she said in a federal complaint filed with the U.S. Department of Education on Wednesday, administrators at Visible, a Christian college in Memphis, Tennessee, accused her of breaking school rules against premarital sex with a different student, an ex-boyfriend.

She denied having sex with him but said the school threatened to expel her unless she signed a confession and finished the school year remotely.

Visible Music College administrators also told her they would not remove the accused student from her classes because police didn’t arrest him, nor would they conduct a Title IX investigation, because the alleged assault happened off campus. And administrators attempted to bar Louk from telling anyone else at the school that she had been raped, she said.

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