Yes, You Need to Prioritize Your Marriage Over Your Kids by V. Pelley
I’ve done one or two posts on this subject previously on this blog.
One reason I don’t want to date or marry men who have children from previous relationships is that they may put their kids before me.
Notice in the interview below how married couples are (Link): greedy, they’re self-involved: they even admit that the “lion’s share” of their time is devoted to their careers, next, their kids, and lastly, their romantic lives with their spouses.
This information flies in the face of warped, false, Christian teachings that married couples are more godly and giving than single adults.
Christians often wrongly and incorrectly portray single adults as being totally self-absorbed, sexually promiscuous people who are in a state of arrested development.
More than a few men joke that they fall third or fourth in their wives’ pecking order, after the kids and the dog.
But for a lot guys (and moms), it’s not really a joke. Many assume that’s the way it should be — after all, being a good parent means putting the kids’ needs first, no matter what.
And because in this day and age parents are expected to be more attentive and accommodating to children than ever before, that’s a pretty all-consuming job.
But many psychologists and relationship experts push back on that idea, arguing that your spouse should come before your children.
The theory is that without a strong marriage and loving home, kids won’t thrive, so you’re doing them a disservice by putting your spouse on the back burner, which can lead to marital trouble and even divorce.