Craigslist Confessional: I’m in My 40s, Never Married, and a Virgin—but I’m Happy by Abigail

Craigslist confessional: I’m in my 40s, never married, and a virgin—but I’m happy by Abigail

(Link): Craigslist confessional: I’m in my 40s, never married, and a virgin—but I’m happy by Abigail

Excerpts

Abigail, 40s

I come from what’s considered a pretty small family in my community. My parents are both Holocaust survivors, but growing up, our neighborhood wasn’t just Orthodox Jewish families like mine.

A lot of my friends were Italian, so it was really easy to see the difference between how other kids were raised, and how we were being raised. I went to an all-girls school that had a double curriculum: morning classes were religious, and the afternoon classes were secular.

By the time I was 19, three quarters of my high school class was engaged. The typical age for marriage was in the early twenties, so I didn’t really feel too much pressure at the time. But in our community, you don’t have “boyfriends.” You look for husbands.

Continue reading “Craigslist Confessional: I’m in My 40s, Never Married, and a Virgin—but I’m Happy by Abigail”

She’s Waiting Until Marriage to Have Sex. Here’s Her Response to Those ‘Inevitable Jerks’ Who Think Her Decision Is ‘Stupid’. – by E. Kahn

She’s Waiting Until Marriage to Have Sex. Here’s Her Response to Those ‘Inevitable Jerks’ Who Think Her Decision Is ‘Stupid’ – by E. Kahn

——————

Before I get to the introduction and the links:

——————

These days, society should be respecting persons who are virgins, whether due to their choice, or because they have not been able to find a suitable partner.

We’re living in a culture that expects us to salute and respect all sexual orientations and behavior, from asexuality to homosexuality, but the same people who expect us to embrace those sexual lifestyles or orientations mock or criticize virginity or celibacy. It’s hugely hypocritical.

I would note on my blog again that leftist secularists are not the only ones who disrespect virginity and celibacy: so do many right wingers and conservative Christians – I have several blog posts with examples of that and analysis.

The following appears on the right wing site The Blaze –

(Link): She’s Waiting Until Marriage to Have Sex. Here’s Her Response to Those ‘Inevitable Jerks’ Who Think Her Decision Is ‘Stupid’

-They in turn got this story from these sites:

(Link): She’s Waiting Until Marriage to Have Sex. Here’s Her Response to Those ‘Inevitable Jerks’ Who Think Her Decision Is ‘Stupid’

January 26, 2016

  • A young woman who described herself as a “religious Jew” who is waiting until she’s married to have sex has a message for all of the “inevitable jerks” who think that she’s “some lonely, naive little girl” who is “stupid for believing in waiting.”
  • In a blog post published on relationship website YourTango and on the Huffington Post, Estee Kahn said that she has never seen herself as being “extreme” when it comes to her religion or values, but that many people somehow see her decision to abstain from sex in that light.
  • Noting that Jews, among many other religious adherents, believe in waiting until marriage to have sex, she said that some people have a hard time understanding why she believes that sex should be reserved for matrimony.
  • “When I explain my decision to people, they accept it — and some even praise it,” Kahn wrote. “But then there’s those inevitable jerks who think I’m some lonely, naive little girl and that I’m stupid for believing in waiting. I even get this from Jewish men, too.”

Continue reading “She’s Waiting Until Marriage to Have Sex. Here’s Her Response to Those ‘Inevitable Jerks’ Who Think Her Decision Is ‘Stupid’. – by E. Kahn”

Jesus Christ Removed the Stigma, Shame From Being Single and Childless – by David Instone Brewer

Jesus Christ Removed the Stigma, Shame From Being Single and Childless – by David Instone Brewer

——-

Reminder:

(Link): Blogger Guy John Morgan Who Accused Me Of Being Untrustworthy Finds My Blog Trustworthy Enough to Use as Resource

———

These are just excerpts, so you’ll have to visit the link here to read the page in full:

(Link): Bible Scandals (Ineligible Bachelor) by David Instone-Brewer

Commenting on what it was like to be single in the time and culture of Jesus:

  • …. Girls were mostly married by the age of twelve, and if a man wasn’t married by the age of twenty the gossips started comparing notes and looking for a reason.
  • …. So why was Jesus still single at the age of thirty? It was clear to all who knew him. No-one would let his daughter marry someone of questionable parentage since, if there was any irregularity in their birth, it could cast doubt on the legitimacy of their children for ten generations. And Jesus’ birth, as everyone knew, was very irregular.
  • …. Jesus not only shared the stigma of being single – he also tried to do something to alleviate it for other single people. Jewish law excused eunuchs from the command to marry, because they couldn’t physically fulfil the duty to have children.

Continue reading “Jesus Christ Removed the Stigma, Shame From Being Single and Childless – by David Instone Brewer”

Synagogue Worker: I was Fired for Having Sex Before Marriage

Synagogue worker: I was Fired for Having Sex Before Marriage

The same thing has happened to women who work for or at Christian places of employment; I have blogged about it before (see links about that, at the bottom of this post, under “Related Posts”).

Notice that only women are penalized in this scheme, since one cannot tell just from looking at a guy if he’s fathered any children.

I also find this strange and very discriminatory – there are so many people having sex outside of marriage these days (both men and women), what do such organizations plan on doing, trying to fire every woman who has pre-marital sex?

And why not try harder to determine if THE MEN are pre-marital boinking, and fire some of them, too?

They cannot pull this off, they cannot get every last person who pre-marital boinks fired from every company in America, so they single out the one or two women who work for them in particular.

Meanwhile, there are bazillions of fornicating women employed all over the nation and still employed as I type this.

Even Christian women fornicate, and some of them do so via oral sex or other “Non-Penis in the Vagina” sexual activity. You cannot tell from looking at those women they are getting or receiving oral sex, or participating in other types of sex acts, so it seems even one more step removed to “pick on” single women who are pregnant, because their sex act (which results in pregnancy) is more visually obvious.

Would such people prefer women like one in this story get an abortion, to hide the fact they had pre-marital sex?

Many of these conservative religious groups complain out that ying yang that women are having abortions in droves, so rather than punish women who are having conceptions out of wedlock, shouldn’t they be expressing some amount of gratitude that such women are opting to have a kid, rather than abort it?

I do still believe that both Old and New Testaments forbid women AND MEN from having sex prior to marriage, but I don’t know about religious groups doing things like firing people (and it’s almost always women) who do have sex prior to marriage.

How is this woman supposed to pay for doctor’s visits, baby formula, diapers and other stuff her new baby will need, if they fire her? One of these articles says after being fired, she won’t have medical coverage.

If this religious group cares about babies and “the family” (Gawd knows evangelical Christians never shut up professing to care about both, and no, I’m not opposed to “the family” only the obsession with it that my fellow conservatives have), shouldn’t they keep her on at her job, so she can buy diapers and stuff for the new kid?

(Link):  Jewish congregation in Manhattan accused of firing employee because she was pregnant at time of wedding

(Link):  Synagogue Accused of Firing Woman for Being Pregnant at Her Wedding

  • Congregation Shearith Israel, a Manhattan synagogue known as the first Jewish congregation in the U.S., allegedly fired an employee because she was 19 weeks pregnant at the time of her marriage, according to a federal lawsuit filed Tuesday.
  • The employee, Alana Shultz, alleged in the lawsuit that she was fired from her job as a program director at the Upper West Side synagogue once officials learned that she was pregnant at the time of her marriage in June. She was about 23 weeks pregnant when she was fired in July, according to the complaint.

Continue reading “Synagogue Worker: I was Fired for Having Sex Before Marriage”