Dear Abby: As Boyfriend Loses Hair, I Lose Interest
Secular culture would have you believe that men care about looks in women, while women supposedly only care about money or emotional support from a man, and to that I say: FALSE.
Christians, specifically, Christian gender complementarians, ratchet this up to really emphasize the point.
I’ve heard or seen so many male Christian complementarians (and occasionally, a few women complementarians) hype up this supposed idea that God created men to be “visual,” so they will shame and badger women to stay skinny, diet, exercise, and wear make-up all the time.
The truth is, women are every bit as “visual” as men are. Most hetero women dig a hot, sexy man every bit as much as some hetero men appreciate a hot, sexy woman.
However, complementarians will seldom lecture or advise men to lose weight, go to the gym and work out, or get a toupee if they’re balding.
I think the differences is that most women are willing to cut men slack where as the reverse is not true.
I mean, a woman may prefer a hot, studly looking man, but, if you’re tubby, bald, or sort of ugly she might still be willing to date you if you bring “something else to the table” – such as a lot of money, a steady income, a great sense of humor, intelligence, dependability, or what have you.
I think most women are more wiling to take trade-offs in the “looks” and sex appeal department than most men are.
Other than that, most of both sexes prefer people who are easy on the eyes, but this sexist, irritating stereotype that only men care about looks and only women care about romance (or emotions) persists.
Here is an example of a woman who is turned off by her male partner’s baldness:
My physical attraction to my boyfriend has significantly diminished due to his baldness.
I know this may seem shallow, but I have lost all interest in intimate contact with him.