Family Are Furious With Daughter After She Sues Them For Stealing Her College Fund So Their Son Could Have A Grand Wedding

Family Are Furious With Daughter After She Sues Them For Stealing Her College Fund So Their Son Could Have A Grand Wedding

Another example of how Nuclear Families do not save culture or a nation, they don’t improve people’s character or make them more happy – it also shows that being a parent, being married, doesn’t make a person more ethical, happier, or loving.

I don’t think it’s okay that this family prioritized the dippy son’s wedding over the daughter’s college future. That money was not theirs to take.

(Link): These Parents Spent Their Daughter’s College Fund On Their Son’s Wedding — Now She’s Suing Them, And It’s All Very Messy

Excerpts:

“My parents managed to access the accounts that were set up for my sister and I. They used it to pay for my brother’s wedding.”

by Alexa Lisitza

Recently, a Reddit user who goes by the username u/Accomplished_Bar5656 (who we’ll call Accomplished for short) shared (Link): a post about why she had to take out student loans despite her great-aunt setting up a fund for her, and it’s quite the ride.

The post was originally shared in the Am I the Asshole subreddit, where people present sticky situations to readers and allow them to decide who was wrong in the given situation.

Here’s what happened, according to Accomplished: “My great-aunt set up savings accounts for all of her female relatives,” they said. “In our culture, education for women is not really valued and she thought that was bullshit.”

Unlike other women in her family, her great-aunt lived in London and received a college education. She went on to become a doctor, marry a British man, and move to practice in the US.

“She funded the education of as many of her nieces and grand-nieces as she could,” Accomplished said. “When she passed away, she left money for every girl relative she could.”

This led Accomplished to believe her future access to education was secure. However, “My parents managed to access the accounts that were set up for my sister and I. They used it to pay for my brother’s wedding. My sister didn’t care because she got married two years out of high school and had no intention of going to college. [But] when I graduated, I went to the bank to get money for school and it was almost all gone. There was like $13,000 left.”

Conservatives With Blinders On: Upset Over Racism Against Whites, but Not Sexism; Criticizing the Woke for Ignoring Whites but Not Caring When Churches Ignore Singles and the Childless

Conservatives With Blinders On: Upset Over Racism Against Whites, but Not Sexism; Criticizing the Woke for Ignoring Whites but Not Caring When Churches Ignore Singles and the Childless

I’m a conservative, but I don’t see eye to eye with other conservatives on every subject.

I generally agree with conservative site “Not the Bee’s” takes on many, but not all issues, and I find a lot of material by their sister site, which is a parody site, “The Bee” to be amusing.

Conservative Matt Walsh is correct about the transgender issue but not much else.

I notice these conservatives are sometimes hypocritical or blind to their own double standards or insensitivities. Here are a few of them I’ve picked up on lately.

The same Babylon Bee (and its associated, non-parody site, Not The Bee) sometimes take pot shots at, or mock, transwomen.

These conservative sites don’t agree with biological men who identify as women being allowed on to women’s sports teams and so forth, which I agree with them on.

However, oddly, the rest of the time, these two “Bee” sites (and other similar conservatives) like to make sexist jokes about women or treat Women’s History Month like a joke, as does Matt Walsh.

These conservative groups will condemn sexism in very narrow situations, when it’s carried out by progressives, but then they spend the remainder of their time either making sexist jokes about women too, or spreading and defending sexist gender stereotypes – which is what the far left does.

Sandwiches, Racism, and Sexism

Take this Not the Bee tweet and article for example (their tweet for this was time stamped 3:25 PM · Mar 21, 2023):

(Link): Here’s a hilarious thread of 28 everyday things that have now been labeled racist– Not The Bee site, article by Jesse James, March 21, 2023

Here's a hilarious thread of 28 everyday things that have now been labeled racist https://t.co/TEXdfJU9fY

— Not the Bee (@Not_the_Bee) March 21, 2023

On that list is included Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwiches.

(Snopes will dispute that such a claim was ever made by the woke, but I read the article in which the claim first appeared, and yes, the woke were implying that PB&J sandwiches are racist. It wasn’t stated as bluntly as the dumb dumbs at Snopes would prefer, but it was in there.)

Like the Not the Bee site, I too find it laughable to classify PB&J sandwiches racist. I do think the woke go over-board with insisting we all see “white supremacy” and racism in every facet of life.

That is not where I disagree.

It’s that the writers of the non-parody site take objection to that conflation of racism and sandwiches, but their parody site, earlier that same day, made a joke  at the expense of women, using a sexist trope uttered by sexist men at women: “Make me a sammich,” or “women are only good for making sandwiches.”

Hmm, you don’t like that the woke declared PB&J sandwiches racist,
but in another recent tweet via your sister account, The Bee,
made a sexist joke in poor taste about women making sandwiches & tied that to Women’s History Month.
🤔#sexism #racism https://t.co/HdgOmlrhju

— Solo (@sololoner2) March 21, 2023

(Link): 10 Iconic Milestones In Women’s History – via The Babylon Bee

(The content of that page is very patronizing, consisting of a list of photos of sandwiches, in one, a woman’s hand can be seen spreading mayo on bread, with comments below each photo saying things like, “Behold the accomplishments of women, is there anything women can’t do.”)

I’m supposed to find that funny… and I do have a sense of humor… but no, I don’t find that funny.

10 Iconic Milestones In Women's History https://t.co/lQEhLzZCe3

— The Babylon Bee (@TheBabylonBee) March 21, 2023

Their tweet for the above was time stamped 2:51 PM · Mar 21, 2023 – that’s just about 34 minutes the same day before they sent a tweet to an article on their non-parody site expressing incredulity over progressives deeming PB&J sandwiches racist.

I’m fairly sure that the non-parody Bee site ridiculed Hershey’s chocolate company for using a man as their spokeswoman for their “HERshe’s” candy bars to promote Women’s History Month. Which again says The Bee writers are fine with conservatives insulting women but not progressives.

Male Celebrity Says He’s Happy Being Childless – I’m Awaiting the Attacks by the Tucker Carlsons, Abby Johnsons, and Matt Walshes Shaming This Man For Being Fine With Not Having Kids

Male Celebrity Says He’s Happy Being Childless – I’m Awaiting the Attacks by the Usual: The Tucker Carlsons, Abby Johnsons, and Matt Walshes, Shaming This Man For Being Fine With Not Having Kids

Will movie actor Seth Rogen get backlash from hyper-pro-parenthood conservatives for publicly admitting that he’s fine with being childless, as did comic Chelsea Handler?

If you’re new to my blog: I’m a conservative who is not anti-family, anti-parenthood, or anti-marriage, but can see how many other conservatives have wrongly placed undue emphasis upon marriage, parenthood, and The Nuclear Family. (I am not a woke, abortion-supporting feminist progressive, in other words.)

I’ve so far seen a very small number of people on Twitter saying, “Ha ha, I’m glad Rogen isn’t reproducing” and a few that are critical of him being childfree, but there’s hardly been any resistance or criticism over his childfree choice by everyday people on that platform.

Will Tucker Carlson tell Rogen that by putting career over family, he’s ultimately choosing misery?

(On his nightly Fox news program, Carlson often likes to mock working women who are childless, he likes to argue that they are trading in motherhood – which he equates with guaranteed happiness for all women – for devoting their lives to a corporation.

I’ve never heard Carlson say to single, childless men: “You’re trading in happiness over having kids for a career, you sucker.”
This rhetoric is only directed at women. It’s a double standard.

Also, if a single, childless woman doesn’t earn a pay check, if she doesn’t hold down a job somewhere, is Tucker Carlson going to pay her rent for her, while she’s out dating, to try and find a “Mr. Right” to marry and pro-create with? My guess is no.)

Will sexist Matt Walsh (who’s correct about the transgender debate but little else) mock Rogen for “pushing 50 and being childless,” and suggest he will die alone in a room full of cats, as he did with comic Chelsea Handler? -Probably not.

Even should the usual culprits, who constantly try to shame, criticize, and fear monger women into getting pregnant and having children, should actually criticize Rogen over passing up Fatherhood, it will be a very, very rare exception that does not counter the repeated bashing of childless women that these extreme “pro family” conservatives have been aiming at women for decades.

And, I would guess that on the chance they would confront a man on his being childless, they would do so without using the same level of gross sexism and ageism at a man for passing up parenthood that they commonly direct at women, such as the phrases and jokes about “hitting the wall,” tweeting  photos of empty egg cartons, and making “crazy cat lady” jokes.

I do not think that men or women should be shamed, guilt tripped, or scared into getting married or having children, but I’ve noticed for many years that most of the criticism for being single or childless is more often than not directed at women.

(Link): Seth Rogen Says He and His Wife Are ‘Happy’ They Didn’t Have Kids

(Link): Seth Rogen: Not having kids ‘has helped me succeed’ 

Seth Rogen says he and his wife are “happy” with their “choice to not have kids” — and he believes it’s only boosted his career.

(Link): Seth Rogen claims he’s more successful because he did not have kids: ‘Honestly, thank God’

Seth Rogen and wife Lauren Miller ‘get to do whatever we want’ because they do not have kids, actor says

March 11, 2023
By Stephanie Giang-Paunon | Fox News

Seth Rogen is crediting his success to not having children.

The “Knocked Up” star candidly opened up about his personal life and the reason behind why he and his wife Lauren Miller decided not to start a family of their own.

“I do not [have kids]. That has helped me succeed as well, definitely” Rogen laughed during an interview on The Diary of a CEO podcast.

“There’s a whole huge thing I’m not doing, which is raising children.”

The 40-year-old actor continued to say he doesn’t believe having kids would make him happy.

“I’ve been around obviously a lot of children, I’m not ignorant to what it’s like…everyone I know has kids…some of my friends have had kids for decades,” he quipped.

“Some people want kids, some people don’t want kids. Honestly, you just are told, ‘You go through life, you get married, you have kids.’ That’s what happens…me and my wife, neither of us were like that.”

Bizarre: Women Who Are Genuinely Fine With Being Single or Childless and Who Publicly Admit It Deeply Disturb or Infuriate Sexist Incel Types and My Fellow Conservatives, Who Want Such Women to Harbor a Victim Mindset

Bizarre: Women Who Are Genuinely Fine With Being Single or Childless and Who Publicly Admit It Deeply Disturb or Infuriate Sexist Incel Types and My Fellow Conservatives, Who Want Such Women to Harbor a Victim Mindset

I have been a conservative person my entire life. I am not liberal, woke, or progressive.

I am not opposed to marriage, motherhood, the nuclear family, or parenthood. I do not support abortion on demand.

For years now, I have noticed the oddest, most disgusting behavior from other conservatives: many of them become unhinged, unsettled, or very angry about women who are truly happy with being single or childless or childfree. It didn’t cross my mind to blog about this observation until now.

The cherry on top of Conservative Outrage on this topic is that the fury seems to be particularly directed at single, childless women who mention on social media or in televised interviews that they’re enjoying life single and childless.

That is, from the angry conservative pro-family types, if you are single, childless (or childfree) and happy about it as a woman, you damn well just better keep it to yourself.

These pro-family conservatives, many of whom even profess to be Christian, further sometimes say things to or about those childless women and tell them personally on social media, how miserable they must be.

They chortle things at them things like, “You will die alone in a house full of cats,” and they say this as though they are filled with glee and happy at the thought of childless women dying alone and unhappy. How perverse.

Some of them, like Catholic Matt Walsh, even like to get ageist, and toss in comments about age at these women, saying to them, “You’re nearing 40…” or, “You’re almost 50….” (See (Link): example Tweet of his here.)

Ditto regarding “incels” or other types of men who are deeply sexist and ageist towards women. They too get very agitated and unglued if a woman publicly admits to being okay, content, or happy with being single or childless.

It’s as though these groups need and desperately want to believe that women who are and remain single or childless (or childfree) are lonely, bitter, miserable, and unhappy, or will become so in the future – and they need to believe that such women are deeply unhappy precisely because those women are single, childless, or childfree.

In the reverse situation, every once in awhile a woman celebrity may publicly say she’s sad that she was never able to have children – and what do the sexist conservatives and d-bag incels do, but immediately take screen captures of the comments, share them all over social media, as if to say,

“See? See?! Feminism has made women miserable. All women obviously want to marry and have babies! They are depressed if they don’t marry and have children, see, see, see!!!
“Women are unable to enjoy life or find contentment if they never marry or never have children, here is your proof, right here, this lady movie star saying she is lonely at 62 and regrets she never had children!!!!”

I’ve never been a feminist, but may I add: if some women are unhappy being childless or single, it may be in part precisely because conservatives and churches are constantly brainwashing women to think their only purpose in life, and their only road to happiness, resides in marrying and becoming pregnant.

If a woman grows up in a family, societal, or religious context that conditions her to think that she can be happy and have meaning only if she marries or has children, well, duh, don’t be surprised if yes, some women may get to adulthood and feel a little down that they’re not married or don’t have kids.

But that would be a result, in part, due to conservative, traditional, old school “family values” brainwashing. That would not be due to “feminism,” of all things

It’s as though many conservatives and sexist lunatics want single and childless women to be unhappy. It’s utterly bizarre to me.

Before I go on further, here is a pertinent article from the WSJ:

(Link): What’s That Ticking Sound? The Male Biological Clock

Men are also at the mercy of age when it comes to having kids

June 25, 2011
By Jennifer Vanderbes

A man’s age when he has children is turning out to be an important factor in that child’s health, according to WSJ contributor Jennifer Vanderbes. Kelsey Hubbard talks to the author about the role a man’s biological clock plays in a child’s risk for diseases and disorders.

Conservatives and the Double Standard Re: Lonely, Single Hetero Men

By the way, I’ve seen more and more articles the last several years that say more and more hetero men are single, and those hetero men either don’t want to date or marry (they’ve lost interest), or, some of them do want to date or marry women, but they can’t seem to get girlfriends and do not know how to go about getting dates or getting a girl friend.

So, I then began seeing news stories such as these about men who are single, some of whom are lonely:

(Link): Guy So Depressed Over Being Single He Cut Off His Own Penis (article)

(Link): ‘Transmaxxing’: Meet The Online Community Encouraging Gender Transitions For Sexually Frustrated (Incel) Men

(Link): Number of ‘Lonely, Single’ Men is on the Rise as Women with Higher Dating Standards Look for Partners Who are ‘Emotionally Available, Good Communicators, and Share Similar Values’, Says Psychologist

(Link): Dear Abby: I (Older, Single Man) Gave Up Dating Women, and 30 Years Later, I’m Lonely

(Link): Bitter, Frustrated 22 Year Old Male Virgin and Member of Men’s Rights / PUA Groups Kills Several Women Because He Couldn’t Get Dates – what an entitled sexist doof

Funny how I seldom see other conservatives mocking such men as the ones mentioned in those news articles for being single and lonely.

If anything, when these topics and news reports of men “falling behind” in culture are brought up, both conservative men and women rush to the men’s defense, to pity them and portray men in culture as being victims.

Often times, such conservatives who paint men as a group as being victims blame women for the men’s victim status, or else, they blame feminism or feminists, for the failings of men – it is so hypocritical and laughable.

By the way, as a conservative, I’ve also noticed that any time a new study or news story is published about men being single and lonely, that conservatives such as (but not limited to) Tucker Carlson will offer very understanding, compassionate, nuanced examinations about these shifts in culture leaving men out in the cold, and how society has supposedly let men down.

Carlson especially likes to invite on conservative women guest speakers on to his television program on Fox News who back Carlson up on this issue, and these women cluck in worry over those poor, poor, single men who are allegedly being kept down and single by a supposedly “feminized” culture of raving, men-hating feminists.

However, if women are under discussion – let’s say there’s a study or news story about women finding it difficult finding suitable marriage partners to marry, or what have you – those very same conservatives who pity men will revoke deep, thoughtful, compassionate analysis to instead snigger in contempt that, “feminism has made you women miserable, ha ha ha, look how  you’ve traded the bliss of family and marriage to being chained to a corporate desk! Ha ha, it’s so wonderful to see single and childless women suffering!”

The culture-wide problems that men face and the ones that women face are treated completely differently by such conservatives, with pity and empathy (and lots of excuses and justifications) being made for the failings or sadness of men,
while women, on the other hand, get roasted, demonized, mocked, and criticized, often for things and problems that they actually did not bring about, but are blamed for anyhow.

I see this phenomenon come up quite often by Tucker Carlson, Matt Walsh, sometimes Ben Shapiro, Candace Owens, and so on.

The men always get a pass, and always get rationalizations and lots of hugs, kisses, and reassurances, and the men’s failings get blamed on women, or on feminism, while the women, on the other hand, usually (wrongly), get blamed for problems they did not create, and they get ridiculed or criticized, too.

The Gospel Coalition Says – in Sex Won’t Save You Essay – that (Married) Sex is a “Salvation Icon” that Supposedly “Points People to God” – TGC Making Christianity Irrelevant to Single, Celibate Adults

The Gospel Coalition Says – in Sex Won’t Save You Essay – that (Married) Sex is a “Salvation Icon” that Supposedly “Points People to God” -TGC Making Christianity Irrelevant to Single, Celibate Adults

I first began composing this on or around March 1 (or 2?), I have it set to be auto-published on March 4, and as of today, March 3, there’s been a lot more commentary on Twitter about this awful TGC marital sex article, to the point, TGC removed the original tweet linking to it, and I learned that one guy I quote-tweeted about it, a Brent McCracken, deleted his tweet that I quote tweeted (but I have a screen capture of it), and I was informed McCracken is head editor of TGC.

NOTE: I will edit this post after publication to add any more links or new content pertinent, so you may want to periodically re-visit this page and scroll down and skim over to find new links / videos, etc

I may be writing a follow up to this post later – a part two, if you will.

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Un-freaking-believable. I’ve been blogging here for over ten years, and during that time, have I not been pointing out that not only do most Christians now, even the conservatives, attack sexual purity, sexual abstinence, virginity-until-marriage, but they have also turned sex (and marriage, parenthood, the nuclear family) into idols that they worship, to the point they act distressed when they hear that fornication among singles has declined? (I have a few examples under “Related Posts” towards the bottom of this page.)

There’s more of this nonsense, courtesy of The Gospel Coalition.

It starts off well enough by recognizing that many in secular society have turned sex and relationships into idols, and seek to find love and purpose in romance and sex, but then it goes on to make the very distasteful point that sex can, or does, point people to God.

Also… if such a book begins by acknowledging that singleness is fine in a page or two (or paragraph or two) but then never-the-less 99% of the book remains focused on a Jesus-marriage-sex analogy, it’s undercutting any “it’s okay to be single” or “you don’t have to be married and having sex to have a relationship with God” message.

This is no different from the idiot pastors who make every other sermon in church about “how to have smokin’ hot sex with your spouse” but who thinks it’s okay to overly focus on marriage constantly, if they merely toss in the token, “Hey, you may be single, but this marital sermon can be applicable to you too.”

I’m sorry, but evangelical Protestants or Baptists making the majority of the non-stop deluge of comments, sermons, or books about marriage and married sex, while only offering passing lip service, to adult singleness and celibacy, is still elevating marriage (and sex) to an unhealthy, bizarre, un-Biblical degree that still marginalizes singleness.

Screen Cap of Gospel Coalition Tweet

While it is true for a long time that many in American culture have turned sex and romantic relationships into idols, or seek to find identity or purpose in such, it’s also true that for the past several years, many news headlines and studies have been published showing that a larger number of adults are declining to have sex, date, and/or marry.

If you’re trying to titillate a secular public into giving Jesus a try by using sex-God analogies or metaphors, in a society where having sex, dating, or marrying are no longer the norm and not very popular, it’s not going to work.

I mean, while Butler is writing his book comparing knowing the Trinity to marital sexual intercourse and pro-creation, other conservative outlets have been in pearl-clutching, severe worry mode, that marriage is on the decline, and they’re shaming women for not choosing motherhood, and some conservatives are even upset that single adults are not having as much sex prior to marriage as they used to.

(Link): Sex Won’t Save You (But It Points to the One Who Will)

Excerpts (citing free use):

by Josh Butler
March 1, 2023

…Our culture looks to sex for salvation too. We want romance to free us from solitary confinement, to deliver us into a welcome embrace. But idolizing sex results in slavery.

Sex wasn’t designed to be your salvation but to point you to the One who is.

Union with Christ
Sex is an icon of Christ and the church.  …

[The author then goes on to refer to a Bible verses which seem to refer to marriage, such as a man leaving his family and cleaving to his wife, etc]

… A husband and wife’s life of faithful love is designed to point to greater things, but so is their sexual union! This is a gospel bombshell: sex is an icon of salvation.

Bride Almost Walked Out on Wedding After Finding the Groom Being BREASTFED by His Mother – Marriage and Parenthood Doesn’t Instill Character or Morals Into People, Another Example

Bride Almost Walked Out on Wedding After Finding the Groom Being BREASTFED by His Mother – Marriage and Parenthood Doesn’t Instill Character or Morals Into People, Another Example

Disgusting.
And all the other conservatives out there can stop moaning and groaning about how marriage is soooo important to society,
and Christian conservatives can stop spreading the false view that marriage (and parenthood) is necessary to make people more godly, mature, and loving when

1. the Bible does not teach that at all (but teaches the opposite, see 1 Corinthians 7) and

2. plenty of other, similar news stories like the one below – of married or engaged to be married people – being weird, gross, or criminal are all over my blog.

There is NOTHING about marriage that makes it improve a person.

Marriage does not “save” society or an individual – that concept is foreign to the Bible.

I am fine with marriage and parenthood, but NOT when conservatives make claims about it that are false (which they do constantly, because they’re trying to own the anti-family neo-Marxist progressive lunatics), or when they elevate it to an un-Biblical degree and marginalize single, childless persons in the process.

The article never explains WHY the mother was still “breast feeding” her ADULT son.

And why does this article say “almost?” Why did this woman go ahead and marry this weirdo?

(Link): Bride almost walked out on wedding after finding the groom being BREASTFED by his mother

February 22, 2023

A wedding makeup artist has claimed one of her brides almost called off her wedding after discovering her groom being breastfed by his mother.

In the latest episode of the Unfiltered Bride podcast, host Georgie Mitchell – who is a professional UK wedding planner – explained how she had been told the story by someone she had previously worked with.

Referring to the makeup artist by the fake name ‘Jenny’, Georgie relayed how she had just finished the bride’s face and hair when she said she needed to go to use the restroom.

George said: ‘[The bride] walked into the toilet and what she saw is enough to end a wedding.’

At first, Georgie’s co-host Beth – who runs the business Etiquette Events Styling – assumed that the groom was cheating on his bride with another woman.

After being told to try again, Beth then questioned if he was taking drugs in the lead-up to the ceremony. 

Insisting that it was ‘much worse’, Georgie then replied: ‘He was being breastfed by his mum.’

Beth then replied: ‘Sorry, WHAT? Why would you marry a man [who still breastfeeds]?’

New Jersey Restaurant, Nettie’s, Wisely Bans Children (Good For Them) – Most People Do Not Want Screaming Kids Present or Underfoot When Eating Out

New Jersey Restaurant, Nettie’s, Wisely Bans Children (Good For Them) – Most People Do Not Want Screaming Kids Present or Underfoot When Eating Out

I don’t know how this Feb. 10, 2023 news story escaped my attention previously.

There are so many restaurants that already permit babies and children, I marvel every time a business does ban kids – you’ll see one of these news stories about once every two years – and parents get into an uproar about it and throw hissy fits.

Most people do not want to put up with loud, unruly children on airplanes, movie theaters, and restaurants.

Most parents are entitled narcissists who think everyone will or should love and adore their children as much as they do. Wrong. We don’t.

I remember going to a “help yourself” type restaurant, when I was in my 20s, where you take your dishes and tray up to the food bars, then walk your tray (loaded with food) back to your table,
and as I was walking back to my table, two kids, a boy and a girl, who must’ve been around ages 3 or 4, keep running and running in front of me, in back of me, around me in circles, because they were chasing one another (they were also screaming and yelling, treating the dining room as though it were a playground).

I was scared to death those kids would cause me to trip and fall, spilling the very hot food on myself or them or on other patrons, and someone would get burned.

I kept waiting for their irresponsible parents to tell the kids to sit down and shut up, but they did not. It’s a miracle of sorts I made it to my table without spilling anything on my tray that day.

Nobody wants to put up with that when they go out in public. Nobody.

I don’t mind if other people want to have children, but I resent being subjected to their misbehaving, loud, screaming babies, toddlers, little kids, pre-teens, or teens when I go out in public.

Now, I don’t support abortion, so if you’re a woman who gets pregnant, you should give birth and give the kid up for adoption if you don’t want to raise it yourself, but if you keep it, don’t bring the kid to a restaurant until he or she is old enough to behave.

Surprised that fellow conservatives, who are always wrong on such topics, didn’t chime in to mock a restaurant that bans kids under ten from dining there – surprised that Matt Walsh, Tucker Carlson, and all the usual hyper-pro-children persons and groups didn’t run out and do video segments or blog posts denouncing this restaurant over this, screaming or mocking them. I guess they save their bile only for single, adult, child women who are fine with being single and childless.

(Link):  Italian restaurant in New Jersey banning children under 10

Feb. 11, 2023

Nettie’s House of Spaghetti in Tinton Falls announced on its social media platforms that beginning March 8, children under 10 will not be allowed to dine there.

…According to its website, the restaurant will be closed for its winter break from Feb. 20 to March 7. The age limit ban will go into effect the following day.

Nettie’s, described as a “retro-chic pasta joint” by NJ.com, was named the state’s 28th-best Italian restaurant by the news outlet.

An age-limit at a restaurant is not new.

In 2021, Red Rooster Burgers and Grill in Garden Valley, California, banned patrons under 18 unless they were accompanied by an adult, “Today” reported. The restaurant cited bad behavior from teens that caused damage at the business.

Another California restaurant, Old Fisherman’s Grotto in Monterey, made headlines in 2018 when it banned “crying children” or youths making “loud noises,” “Today” reported. The restaurant also had a “no stroller” police in effect since 2009.

Nettie’s did not respond to “Today’s” request for comment.

(Link): New Jersey restaurant Nettie’s sparks furious debate after banning children under the age of 10

by Kelsi Karruli
February 10, 2023

A New Jersey restaurant has sparked furious debate after revealing it was banning children under the age of 10 from dining in.

Italian restaurant Nettie’s, located in Tinton Falls, New Jersey, caused a stir on social media after making the announcement.

In a Facebook post, a staff member said the ban would begin March 8, claiming its decision was due to rowdy children causing safety issues during peak dining times.

The new policy comes after another woman called for ‘adults only’ suburbs to have ‘peace and quiet’ without any disturbances from children.

Despite the growing calls for more strict no-kids rules to be enacted, the restaurant’s announcement has come under fierce criticism from many parents, triggering heated discussion about the controversial policy.

‘It’s been extremely challenging to accommodate children at Nettie’s. Between noise levels, lack of space for high chairs, cleaning up crazy messes, and the liability of kids running around the restaurant, we have decided that it’s time to take control of the situation,’ the post read.

‘This wasn’t a decision that was made lightly, but some recent events have pushed us to implement this new policy. As of March 8, the day we return from our winter break, we will no longer allow children under 10 to dine in the restaurant.

‘We know that this is going to make some of you very upset, especially those of you with very well-behaved kids, but we believe this is the right decision for our business moving forward. Thank you for understanding.’

The announcement prompted major backlash from many diners.

My Husband Booked Himself a Seat in Business Class but Left Me and Our Toddler in Economy for a 14 Hour Flight – and LIED to Me About It – Parenthood and the Nuclear Family Doesn’t Make People More Loving

My Husband Booked Himself a Seat in Business Class but Left Me and Our Toddler in Economy for a 14 Hour Flight – and LIED to Me About It – Parenthood and the Nuclear Family Doesn’t Make People More Loving

My fellow conservatives like to propagandize parenthood, marriage, and the nuclear family – usually by arguing that all those things save culture and make those in those situations (marriage, parenthood) “better” or more loving, godly, responsible, or ethical than staying single and childless.

Furthermore, Christian gender complementarians (who lean conservative) attempt to defend their sexist gender complementarian ideology by saying that male headship is beneficial to women, because it means that men will be “servant leaders” to women, and do noble things like give up their bus seat to pregnant women on buses, or take a bullet for a woman. That is all a bunch of bunk.

The truth is that some men (like some women), regardless if they are married, single, childless, child free, or parents, are selfish, immoral jerks.

Fatherhood did not make this parent discussed in this story below less selfish, ethical, or dishonest.

(Link): My husband booked himself a seat in business class but left me and our toddler in economy for a 14 hour flight – and LIED to me about it

February 3, 2023
by Abi Turner

A mother has sparked outrage after revealing how her husband lied and booked economy seats for her and her toddler on their long-haul flight – while he laps it up in business class thanks to his company.

Taking to British parenting site (Link): Mumsnet, she explained how his work had paid for him to fly – but she insisted she and her toddler be bought seats in premium economy if they were to tag along on the journey.

The unidentified woman, thought to be from the UK, explained that it was six weeks before the flight that she realised her husband had just booked them economy and the seats couldn’t be changed.

She said: ‘Flying long-haul on Friday – 14 hour flight. DH going for a week’s work and wanted me & DS (2) to go and tag on a holiday. I only agreed to go if DS & I flew premium economy as it’s a long way, I’ll be on my own with toddler whilst DH is in business class (work paid for his ticket).

‘DH said fine no problem, had lots of points to use. Booked the flights. Told me had booked premium. Six weeks later I discover he’d lied and basically booked the cheapest economy tickets available (no seat reservation option/upgrade option).’

The Chelsea Handler Childless Woman Upset: Other Conservatives Wrongly Conflating Married Motherhood with Womanhood or Happiness, Meaning, Purpose

The Chelsea Handler Childless Woman Upset: Other Conservatives Wrongly Conflating Married Motherhood with Womanhood or with Happiness, Meaning, or Purpose

After entertainer Chelsea Handler uploaded (Link): a Tweet with a video of herself listing the numerous ways she enjoys life due to being childless – I didn’t see anything in the video mentioning abortion – a lot of other conservatives jumped to shame and scold Handler for being happy about being childless and publicly expressing that happiness.

Others have said that Handler had two or three abortions in the past. The fact that Handler previously had abortions does not change the substance of my problems with conservative reaction to Handler’s video.

I am pro-life, not pro-choice, so I don’t agree with Handler’s actions to terminate her pregnancies.

However, again, I don’t recall Handler’s “happy to be childless” video advocating abortion or mentioning anything about abortion.

I don’t think her video criticized or shamed women for being mothers or for wanting to be mothers.

The only possible, even remotely “anti motherhood” take away one can get from her video is that mothers – assuming they are good, non-abusive mothers – invest a lot of time in child-rearing, but Handler doesn’t frame it in an anti-motherhood way.

It’s Okay For Women to Be Childless at Any Age and to be Happy About Being Childless, Just Like It’s Okay For Mothers to Be Happy About Being Mothers

Handler was just showing ways she has more free time because she doesn’t have to participate in childcare – which is not the same thing as being “anti-motherhood,” or telling other women they are wrong to be mothers.

It’s perfectly fine for a woman to be single and childless and to be happy about it.

Women can and should find meaning and purpose apart from marriage and motherhood. It’s unhealthy for any person to wrap up all their happiness, meaning, or purpose into one identity, station of life, or role.

If you are a married mother, your children will grow up, move out, and seldom visit you once they’re gone. Your husband may develop dementia, abuse you, or cheat on you, so that you will be without emotional support or you will have to divorce him.
In all these situations, you will be left with yourself, by yourself, and god help you if you never forged purpose, identity, happiness, or meaning apart from a spouse and children.

There’s no reason to criticize or shame an adult, man or woman, for being single and childless and for being happy about it and posting about it.

My fellow conservatives often push motherhood (via podcasts, tweets, magazine articles, church sermons, blog posts, etc) to a loopy, creepy, fevered pitch, about how super awesome, fulfilling, and wonderful motherhood supposedly is – but goodness forbid a childless woman lists or publicizes the ways she’s happy with being childless – and do so without criticizing motherhood or mothers. That’s a huge double standard.

I also didn’t agree with Handler’s mockery of single women who choose to remain virgins until marriage or to remain chaste (I blogged about that (Link): here a few years ago).

Unfortunately, in the midst of criticizing Handler, a lot of conservatives today were conflating “womanhood” to married motherhood. 

However, a woman remains a woman regardless if she has a child or is infertile, childless, or childfree, or whether she wants to have children or not.

The Bizarre, Misguided Shaming of Single and Childless or Childfree Women by Pro-Lifer Abby Johnson – (Not All Single, Childless Women are Liberal, Pro-Choice Feminists)

The Bizarre, Misguided Shaming of Single and Childless or Childfree Women by Pro-Lifer Abby Johnson – (Not All Single, Childless Women are Liberal, Pro-Choice Feminists)

When I was on Twitter the other day, someone who I follow on Twitter commented on a Tweet by a lady calling herself Abby Johnson.

A reminder: I sometimes follow people on social media who I don’t fully agree with on all topics. I’m a conservative, but I follow some liberals and progressives, including women who call themselves “radical feminists.” A lot of those radical feminists are pro-choice; they support abortion, I do not.

Like me, most of those radical feminists do not support “sex work” (strip clubs, prostitution, etc), and they do not support transgender activism.

Here is how Abby Johnson is currently describing herself on her Twitter bio (@AbbyJohnson):

Planned Parenthood Director turned Pro-Life Advocate! CEO of @ATTWNministry
. Global Ambassador for @COL1972official
. Best selling author & speaker. Mama/Wife
— end Twitter bio —

I am sincerely glad to hear that Johnson flipped her opinion on abortion, that she went from being pro-choice to pro-life.

Johnson seems a bit familiar. I think I may have seen her interviewed on Christian television program “The 700 Club,” in one of their CBN news segments, or perhaps I saw her on Fox News at some point?

At any rate, I am dismayed by her Twitter feed. Unfortunately, she, like many of my other fellow conservatives, falsely equates motherhood and wifehood with womanhood. I corrected her on that under a few of her other tweets.

(I’m not sure if Johnson is a Christian or not, but from her tweets, I can see that she leans right – as I do – and she also is pro-life, does not support transgenderism. I too am pro-life, and I sure as heck do not support progressive transgenderism, ie, allowing biological men who say they are women into women’s prisons, women’s locker rooms and so forth).

Also like a lot of other conservatives, Johnson holds a lot of false stereotypes about secular, liberal feminists. Not all feminists support trans activism, are anti-men, anti-nuclear family, and so on. There are actually women feminists who are married mothers.

If you’ve followed my blog, you will already know that I am middle-aged, I am single by circumstance (not by choice – not that men or women who choose to be single should be criticized for that, either), I am a conservative, I am anti-progressive trans agenda, and I am pro-life.

I am not opposed to The Nuclear Family, parenthood, and marriage, but I am opposed to the deification of such by other conservatives.

(Yes, most conservatives have unfortunately turned “the family,” motherhood, fatherhood, and marriage into idols, and they frequently love to make negative assumptions about, and insult anyone, who isn’t married or who doesn’t have children).

Let’s look at some of Johnson’s tweets – here’s the first one that I saw the other day, because someone I followed on Twitter commented below it (link to her tweet):

So, what does Johnson do with conservative, pro-life, anti- leftist transgender activism, middle-aged never married women such as myself, who was a devout Christian for decades, who had expected to get married, never met the right guy, remained faithful to biblical sexual ethics – no sex outside of marriage, hence no pregnancies?

Why is Johnson lumping pro-life, conservative, single, childless women, such as myself, into the same group with progressive, pro-choice, pro-progressive- gender- ideology women? Which is what she’s doing, because she’s equating being a woman, and/or a decent, happy woman, with being married and a mother.

Johnson is unnecessarily insulting other pro-life, conservative women who never did marry, who may never marry, and who do not have children, and she’s doing this to score a few points against what she terms “radical feminists,” who she (like many of my other fellow conservatives) wrongly assume, are all man-hating, baby-hating, single women who are lonely, miserable Cat Ladies.

(The Cat Lady trope is very sexist and needs to die off already. I usually see men tossing this at women. It feels a little more gross to see a woman tossing this sexist stand-by at other women to insult them with.)

In trying to score points against radical feminists, many of whom are actually married with children (and possibly cats) of their own, Johnson creates collateral damage.

Meaning…
Not all conservative, anti-trans agenda, pro-life women are married, can get married, or want to get married. Not all conservative, anti-trans agenda, pro-life women have children, can have children, or want to have children.

Why is Abby Johnson throwing such conservative women under the bus? To get some cheap shots in at liberal, feminist, pro-choice women?

I’m a conservative, and while I do not agree with feminists (radical or otherwise) on every issue, I am not okay with Johnson (or other conservatives) shaming or insulting liberal or pro-choice women over their marital or parenting status, or that of mine or that of other conservative women.

I cannot imagine how Johnson hopes to change any pro-choice minds by carrying on like she is?

Couple Leave Their Baby at the Airport After Refusing to Buy the Baby a Ticket – Parenthood Does Not Improve Society or Make People More Loving or Responsible

Couple Leave Their Baby at the Airport After Refusing to Buy the Baby a Ticket – Parenthood Does Not Improve Society or Make People More Loving or Responsible

(Link): Parents leave baby behind at Israeli airport check-in

Two parents with Belgian passports were detained by police after they left their baby at the check-in at Israel’s Ben-Gurion Airport while attempting to fly abroad, Israeli media reported Tuesday.

(Link): Couple leave baby at Israeli airport check-in counter after told child couldn’t board flight without a ticket

A couple who attempted to board a plane without buying a ticket for their baby left the child behind at an airport check-in counter and ran to the security gate to catch their flight.

(Link): Baby abandoned at Tel Aviv airport as parents attempted to board flight: officials

Excerpts:

An infant was abandoned at a Tel Aviv airport by his parents, who tried to board their flight to Belgium without him after they failed to purchase a ticket for the child, authorities said.

The unnamed parents, who both held Belgian passports, had arrived at Ben Gurion Airport in Tel Aviv on Tuesday with their baby, planning to board a Ryanair flight to Brussels, the Israeli Airport Authority told local Channel 12.

But according to officials, the family arrived at Terminal 1 late, after the check-in counter had closed, and the parents were either unable or unwilling to buy a ticket for their child.

The mom and dad then left the carrier with their son next to the check-in counter while they rushed toward the security line so they could board the flight.

A short cellphone video that was reportedly recorded at the airport purports to show a woman looking at the baby in the carrier and exclaiming in Hebrew: “She left him here, I swear!”

(Link):  Couple leave their baby at Israeli airport check-in while attempting to board Ryanair flight after refusing to buy a ticket for the child

January 31, 2023
by Miriam Kuepper

A couple left their baby at an Israeli airport check-in while attempting to board a Ryanair flight after refusing to buy a ticket for the child.

Two parents with Belgian passports were detained by police after leaving their baby at the check-in at the Ben-Gurion Airport in Tel Aviv, according to the Jerusalem Post.

The couple attempted to board a Ryanair flight from Tel Aviv to Brussels, but they didn’t have a ticket for their baby.

They refused to pay for one and seemed to have left their baby in the stroller as they walked to passport control.

Woman, 26, Shoots and Kills Her Missionary Parents Then Herself in Yard of their Home in Murder-Suicide They ALL Consented To – The Nuclear Family Doesn’t Improve Society or Make People Happy

Woman, 26, Shoots and Kills Her Missionary Parents Then Herself in Yard of their Home in Murder-Suicide They ALL Consented To – The Nuclear Family Doesn’t Improve Society or Make People Happy

While I am not opposed to the Nuclear Family, I say SHAME on other conservatives who continue to propagandize on behalf of it, by saying that Nuclear Families somehow are necessary for a society (they’re not), and by trying to argue that forming one will make a person happy, healthy, and whole – news stories like the one below show this is false.

(Link): Missionary parents didn’t want to live without suicidal daughter so they decided to die together 

Excerpts:

by Leonardo Blair

A missionary couple from York County, Pennsylvania, were found dead at their home along with their 26-year-old daughter in what local police say is the result of a tragic suicide pact triggered by their daughter’s struggle with mental illness.

….In a separate PennLive report, one neighbor, who did not want to be identified, said the family had grown isolated over the years and withdrew altogether from the community during the COVID-19 pandemic.

(Link): Friend claims woman who died with parents in suicide pact was oppressed by strict religious upbringing

Excerpts:

by Leonardo Blair
Feb 2, 2023

A childhood friend of 26-year-old Morgan E. Daub, 26, who was found dead at home along with her missionary parents in York County, Pennsylvania, last week, in what authorities claim was a suicide pact, suggested she might have been driven insane by her parents’ strict religious upbringing.

“She grew up in a very uptight Christian household. …. Her family life, according to CPS, was perfect, but the amount of control her parents had over her was crazy. She wasn’t allowed to go out with friends. She wasn’t allowed any social media. Anything fun that she liked to do she was only allowed to do it with supervision. It was kinda like she was a prisoner in her own home,” the friend, identified only as Samantha told YouTube personality Molly Golightly in an interview on Monday.

The friend also said she did not know which denomination her family followed, amid speculation from some that they were not Christian and might have been Jehovah’s Witnesses. …

…Samantha, 23, said she became friends with Morgan when she was 10 but stopped communicating regularly with her at the age of 18. She said her grandmother and Morgan’s parents were neighbors. She also said she suspects the deaths might not have been a suicide pact, but a murder-suicide because Morgan’s parents would not have believed she would actually harm them.

(Link):  Woman, 26, shoots and kills her parents then herself in yard of their home in murder-suicide they ALL consented to – as her bizarre YouTube videos are revealed

by Lewis Pinnock
Jan 26, 2023

A 26-year-old Pennsylvania woman shot dead her parents then herself in a planned suicide pact after posting a bizarre video to YouTube proclaiming to be the Antichrist.

Morgan Daub killed her mom, Deborah, 59, and father, James, 61, with gunshots to the head, before turning the weapon on herself.

The massacre in the backyard of the family home in York County on Wednesday happened two months after Daub shared an eight-minute video to YouTube in which she referred to herself as the Antichrist and said she would ‘abdicate the throne of the United Kingdom’.

Authorities in West Manchester Township said ‘the three family members had pre-planned their deaths’.