Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

(Link): Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

Dating apps have made it easier than ever to find a partner. Paradoxically, the ease of finding matches means some remain perpetually single.

January 8, 2022
by Scotty Hendricks

Dating can be drudgery. The trouble of finding someone to date, going to a restaurant for a quasi-job interview, having to scrutinize everything they say for red flags like you’re trying to root out a communist agent, and then having to decide if the whole experience was enjoyable enough to do it again might make a person want to stay single forever.

Dating apps were supposed to make this easier by simplifying the first part: finding the potential mate.

With the swipe of a finger, you can search through eligible bachelors and bachelorettes all over the globe.

However, a forthcoming study in the American Economic Journal: Microeconomics suggests that the ease of using dating apps can, and does, cause some people to think that “the one” is merely one more swipe away — so they never actually go on a date.

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Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs Abusers for The Audacious Life podcast

Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs Abusers for The Audacious Life podcast

The first half to two thirds of this video of what the speakers describe, how they describe the typical views of abusive men, is reminiscent of some Christian Gender Complementarians and their views, and what some complementarian adherents believe.

Especially if you are a Christian single woman who’s wanting to marry AND in particular you were raised by Christian parents or in a church that taught traditional gender roles (perhaps under the phrase or label of “gender complementarianism“) please pay special attention to the video below.

Under “gender complementarian” teachings (and just mainstream, evangelical or Baptist and Christian dating advice), Christian women have been taught to accept all sorts of toxic teachings and to accept on-going mistreatment from a spouse (and from other people in their lives).

Chances are good that if you’re a single Christian woman who was brought up to believe in gender complementarian teachings that you were heavily encouraged to adopt people pleasing or codependent behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes, which will make you attractive to abusers and people with personality disorders (many of whom can be abusive).

Additionally, if you do marry an abusive person (whether he is emotionally, sexually, verbally, or physically abusive) the majority of Christian churches and denominations teach women that divorce is not an option, not even in cases of abuse.

You (if you’re an abused wife asking a Christian for advice or help in regards to your marriage) will usually be told just to “submit more,” give your spouse more sex, and to pray about it – but none of those methods will change your spouse or cause him to stop abusing you.

There is nothing you can say or do that will get your husband to stop abusing you – (Link): nor is it your responsibility to try to fix or change your spouse in the first place.

You have to go into a marriage to a self professing Christian man knowing before-hand  that if your spouse turns abusive, that you must eventually divorce the guy, and you most likely won’t get any help or encouragement in that area from your church, church group, church friends, or pastor.

Most churches and pastors will shame, pressure, and guilt trip an abused wife to stay in the abusive marriage at all costs, because they value the institution of marriage above the safety and mental health of the abused wife.

If you’re a Christian woman in an abusive marriage, your church, church friends, and your preacher will never, ever give you permission to divorce – but you don’t need their permission or approval – you just need your own. It’s your life, not theirs.

(Link – to video on You Tube): Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs Abusers for The Audacious Life podcast

Excerpts, video description (from text below the video on the You Tube page):

I’m happy to interview Lundy Bancroft, author, and expert on male abuse behaviors and tactics.

Lundy has 30 years experience working in the field of abuse. His book “Why Does He Do That” is a one of the first I read and it helped tremendously.

Lundy is a lifelong advocate for the safety of women and children and it shines through in his books. You may be wondering whether you’re in a relationship with a Narcissist or an Abuser or someone who’s both.

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Disturbing Sites Use AI to Non-Consensually Digitally Remove Clothing of Clothed People (Usually of Women) To Make Them Appear Nude

Disturbing Sites Use AI to Non-Consensually Digitally Remove Clothing of Clothed People (Usually of Women) to Make Them Appear Nude

(Link): A Powerful New Deepfake Tool Has Digitally Undressed Thousands Of Women

The AI-generated nudes, which look horrifyingly realistic, are sweeping the web.

The website promises to make “men’s dreams come true.” Users upload a photo of a fully clothed woman of their choice, and in seconds, the site undresses them for free. With that one feature, it has exploded into one of the most popular “deepfake” tools ever created.

…Launched in 2020, the site boasts that it developed its own “state of the art” deep-learning image translation algorithms to “nudify” female bodies, and that the technology is so powerful there is not a woman in the world, regardless of race or nationality, who is safe from being “nudified.” But it doesn’t work on men. When fed a photo of a cisgender man’s clothed body, the site gave him breasts and a vulva.

…The website’s stunning success lays bare the grim and increasingly dangerous reality of being a woman on the internet as malicious deepfake technology continues to advance undeterred.

Women were already being digitally (Link): inserted into porn and stripped naked against their will via similar, less powerful deepfake tools. But the problem is spiraling out of control, with the technology becoming ever more accessible and the imagery becoming ever more believable.

…The victims of deepfake porn, who are almost exclusively women and girls, are often left with little to no legal recourse as their lives are turned upside down.

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Shock: Irresponsible, Sexist, and Selfish Men Benefit from Abortion Access by T. Lowe

Shock: Irresponsible, Sexist, and Selfish Men Benefit from Abortion Access by T. Lowe

This is kind of old news, or maybe it’s more accurate to say news goes in cycles, because I remember after I began blogging here more regularly, a few years later, I saw news stories about how some men support abortion only, or primarily, because they want to be able to use women for sex and dump them soon after, and if abortion is legal, they won’t have to be concerned about helping the woman they impregnate.

(Link): Shock: Irresponsible, Sexist, and Selfish Men Benefit from Abortion Access by T. Lowe

Excerpts from the editorial:

….Men are certainly entitled to an opinion on abortion. But the absolute worst male opinion on abortion is the one articulated recently by Kaivan Shroff, an alum of the Hillary Clinton campaign. He proudly writes, “Men like me benefit from safe abortion access.”

“Since I’ve spent 10 of the past 11 years as a student, most of the women I’ve had sex with were also students, also progressive, and also not at a point in their lives where they were looking or ready to have children,” Shroff writes.

“I try to share responsibility for birth control and if a woman tells me she’s on it, I also trust that. If she still got pregnant, however, though entirely her decision, I assume we would both want the same thing: an abortion.”

Although Shroff says he “often” relies on women to “protect” him from fathering a child, he concedes that he and a Tinder date who claimed to be allergic to latex “didn’t use the best judgment,” presumably having unprotected sex and then relying on her taking Plan B. The security of unfettered abortion access, Shroff writes, “has informed my approach to sexual exploration and relationships.”

He then laments that, all too often, “male engagement with the pro-choice movement has been articulated solely through the lens of female empowerment.”

That last line really gives the game of third-wave feminism away. Rather than hold men to higher standards of conduct, third-wave feminism rebranded the objectification and degradation of women as a form of empowerment.

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Perverted Company Sells Infant Shaped Butt Plugs So Biological Males Who Like to Say They’re Women Can Pretend to Give Birth – Also: Men Faking Periods, Sucking on Helium to Inflate Their Stomachs

Perverted Company Sells Infant Shaped Butt Plugs So Biological Males Who Like to Say They’re Women Can Pretend to Give Birth – Also: Men Faking Periods, Sucking on Helium to Inflate Their Stomachs

All of the following is a part and parcel of the far left’s “queering” of culture, and sick biological men who claim to be “trans” who make a mockery out of actual (biological) womanhood.

In light of phenomenon like what is below in this post, I cannot take the “trans” or “non binary” groups, movements, or views seriously. There is an element of misogyny going on in these beliefs and practices as well.

Some of this also just reads as perversion.

I came across this tweet the other day – I follow a mix of liberal and conservative accounts and news sites, some of which cover sexism and gender and so forth.

Someone found a web site by a company that sells sex toys called “butt plugs” in the shape of babies – infant children, and they tweeted about it.

The site is called “Weapons of Ass Destruction,” and the product title is “Butt Baby.”

You can visit their “Butt Baby” page by clicking here (their site may ask you to verify if you are age 21 or older by clicking a button that pops up on screen).

The company advertises these sex toys as a means for “non gender conforming” biological males (which I’d imagine includes biological men who claim to be transgender but actually have autogynephilia or are just rank and file perverts) to pretend to be pregnant.

The purpose of this item is for them to shove this infant-shaped item up their anus, expel it, and so pretend to give birth.
(That is actually having a simulated bowel movement, not a simulated pregnancy.)

The company says on their site that this is part of their MPREG (“male pregnancy”) collection.

Here below is a screen capture I took from their page of their “butt baby” anal plug.

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Florida Man Fatally Stabbed Woman Co-Worker Who Refused to Date Him: Report

Florida Man Fatally Stabbed Woman Co-Worker Who Refused to Date Him: Report

(Link):  Florida Man Fatally Stabbed Co-Worker Who Refused to Date Him: Report

Dec 5, 2021
by Sam Raskin

A Miami Beach man whose repeated romantic advances to a restaurant co-worker were rejected killed her outside her apartment, according to reports.

Agustin Lucas Mariani, 20, faces second-degree murder charges for the fatal stabbing of Delfina Pan, a 28-year-old from Argentina who had refused to date him, the Miami Herald reported Friday.

According to the Miami Beach police’s report, released Thursday, a neighbor and friend of Pan’s said that on Monday night Mariani “arrived at the victim’s apartment, uninvited, and waited for the victim.”

When Pan came home, Mariani requested to speak to her inside her apartment, but she refused — prompting an enraged Mariani to kill her, authorities say.

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Men with ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ Are Ruining Sex and Dating for Women

Men with ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ Are Ruining Sex and Dating for Women

The following reminds me of an article I linked to months ago, about how single men in conservative religious communities, such as Mormonism and Judaism, know they out-number single women, so they act like entitled, overly demanding jerks towards single women.

(Link):  How ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ is ruining dating for university women: Deficit of male students means men develop inflated egos and become ‘Casanovas’ who ‘cheat’ – despite a ‘lack of social and sexual skills’

(Link): Men with ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ Are Ruining Sex and Dating for Women

By Andrew Court
Nov 2, 2021

Beware of the college grad cad!

Men with college degrees have become so cocky that they’re ruining romance for their female counterparts, one “leading expert” alleges.

Just 40.5% of college students in the United States are male, according to the National Student Clearinghouse, meaning they’re in short supply and high demand when dating on campus.

A lack of competition has led these men to develop (Link):  “golden penis syndrome” — an arrogance that stems from the assumption that a steady supply of females will be sexually interested in them.

“Golden penis syndrome” has led these smug males to engage in dastardly dating practices, such as cheating and ghosting, because they’re confident that another woman will always be waiting around the corner.

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Women Are Sharing The “Normal” Behaviors They’ve Been Forced To Change So They Don’t “Lead Men On,” And I Can’t Believe We’re Still Having This Conversation In 2021 by BuzzFeed

Women Are Sharing The “Normal” Behaviors They’ve Been Forced To Change So They Don’t “Lead Men On,” And I Can’t Believe We’re Still Having This Conversation In 2021 by BuzzFeed

(Link): Women Are Sharing The “Normal” Behaviors They’ve Been Forced To Change So They Don’t “Lead Men On,” And I Can’t Believe We’re Still Having This Conversation In 2021

Not too long ago, we wrote up a viral Reddit thread where women shared the behaviors they’ve had to change around men so they don’t get accused of “leading them on.” And, because society is a nightmare, there were even more upsetting responses from women in the BuzzFeed Community. Here are their stories:

Warning: This post discusses verbal harassment, sexual harassment, sexual assault, and mentions of stalking that may be disturbing to some readers.

    1. “When I was very pregnant, I had a guy block my car because he was ‘into pregnant women.’ So, apparently, being pregnant is an invite for harassment.”

2. “I was once told that I was acting provocatively by just smiling at a man. There are so many things I’m afraid to do. I’m just afraid to be around them in general, TBH. I think I’ve earned that right as a trauma survivor.”
—zombiedolllizkah

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Creep Obtains Woman’s Phone Number from Her Dog’s Collar, Asks Her Out

Creep Obtains Woman’s Phone Number from Her Dog’s Collar, Asks Her Out

Actions like this definitely have stalker vibes. I don’t know why these guys don’t just ask the woman out on a date directly when they meet her taking her dog on a walk, that would be more normal, less creepy.

(Link): Creep Obtains Woman’s Phone Number from Her Dog’s Collar, Asks Her Out

by Andrew Court
Oct 28, 2021

….A TikTok star has been left shaken after a predator procured her phone number from her dog’s collar.

Michelle Kimball was out walking her German shepherd, Nilla, near her home in North Carolina when she says she was stopped by a friendly-looking man.

The cheery male pet Kimball’s canine before asking to take a photo of the adorable animal. Kimball thought nothing of the seemingly innocent encounter and continued along her way.

But just hours later, the blonde bartender received a text message from a stranger trying to chat her up.

“I said, ‘I don’t know anybody by that name? How did you get my phone number?’” Kimball recalled in an interview with Inside Edition. “He said, ‘Oh, I got it off your dog’s collar.’”

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Lesbian Biological Women Are Being Pressured into Having Sex With Biological Men Who Claim to be Transwomen – Trans Rights Movement is Toxic to Women; TRAs Perpetuate Rape Culture

Lesbian Biological Women Are Being Pressured into Having Sex With Biological Men Who Claim to be Transwomen – Trans Rights Movement is Toxic to Women; TRAs Perpetuate Rape Culture

How much do leftists, liberals, “Me Too” feminists, the Woke and Democrats actually care about natal women? Not at all, because they are willing to sacrifice the needs, rights, safety and preferences of natal women to biological men who claim to be “transwoman.” This is perverse and sexist.

Many people who say they support “queering” or transgenderism are supporting misogyny and violence against actual women.

(Link): ‘We’re being pressured into sex by some trans women’

Excerpts:

By Caroline Lowbridge
BBC News
October 2021

Is a lesbian transphobic if she does not want to have sex with trans women? Some lesbians say they are increasingly being pressured and coerced into accepting trans women as partners – then shunned and even threatened for speaking out. Several have spoken to the BBC, along with trans women who are concerned about the issue too.

Warning: Story contains strong language

“I’ve had someone saying they would rather kill me than Hitler,” says 24-year-old Jennie*.

“They said they would strangle me with a belt if they were in a room with me and Hitler. That was so bizarrely violent, just because I won’t have sex with trans women.”

Jennie is a lesbian woman. She says she is only sexually attracted to women who are biologically female and have vaginas. She therefore only has sex and relationships with women who are biologically female.

Jennie doesn’t think this should be controversial, but not everyone agrees. She has been described as transphobic, a genital fetishist, a pervert and a “terf” – a trans exclusionary radical feminist.

“There’s a common argument that they try and use that goes ‘What if you met a woman in a bar and she’s really beautiful and you got on really well and you went home and you discovered that she has a penis? Would you just not be interested?'” says Jennie, who lives in London and works in fashion.

“Yes, because even if someone seems attractive at first you can go off them. I just don’t possess the capacity to be sexually attracted to people who are biologically male, regardless of how they identify.”

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Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage

Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage by Andrew J. Bauman and Taylor May

(Link): Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage

Excerpts:

by Andrew J. Bauman

I am proud to be writing this article in partnership with Taylor May, a survivor of emotional and spiritual abuse. She has boldly shared her own story about what it was like to be married to someone who had a Pornographic Style of Relating, (PSR) and what it felt like to be used by him with her Church’s consent.

*Trigger warning for those who have suffered this type of betrayal trauma.


I’ve written about the pornographic style of relating here (PSR), but today we will hear from the perspective of a woman who has lived on the other side of this dynamic.

Many people have been talking about this with the release of this new book [Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life by Gary Thomas] and some of its disturbing implications.

How can we talk about what these women are experiencing, and what can we learn from them?

Taylor May has offered her story and her experience below. My hope is that this can begin to clear up the muddy waters of what it means to live a Christlike marriage in a deeply pornified world.


by Taylor May

I didn’t realize how a pornographic style of relating was so deeply embedded into my first marriage until I was firmly planted into my second marriage.

That’s when I began to see the impact my first husband’s issue with lust had on my new, much healthier relationship.

Let me tell you my story, and how I and countless other women feel when our significant others lust for other women, on-screen or off.

Those of us who grew up in the evangelical Church have been told that we are responsible for men’s lust issues. This lie has been perpetrated by the church for far too long.

Many men are leading our church conversations with 90% of pastors being men, and considering that nearly 50% of those pastors self-report having used pornography, it would make sense that they would try to gaslight women by minimizing the destructive nature of porn use.

One way they do this is by framing it as a women’s issue or a sex issue, rather than the objectification of women/sin issue–one that stems from the person doing the objectifying.

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Florida Man with HIV Sentenced to Two Years for Not Informing Sexual Partners

Florida Man with HIV Sentenced to Two Years for Not Informing Sexual Partners

(Link): Florida Man with HIV Sentenced to Two Years for Not Informing Sexual Partners

July 24, 2021
by Amy Furr

A man in Port Orange, Florida, has been sentenced to two years in prison for not telling his sexual partners he was infected with HIV.

“Gentry Burns, 27, pleaded no contest Thursday to one count of uninformed HIV-infected sexual intercourse. Two other counts were dropped,” WESH (Link): reported.

Burns was initially charged in 2019 once an ex-girlfriend stepped forward with information that he was having sex with other women and apparently not telling them he was infected.
He will be put on probation for 12 months following his release from prison, the outlet stated.

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