Men Complain About Minor Issues With Dating Sites While Women Discuss Being Sexually Assaulted or Harassed by Men They Meet on Dating Sites

Men Complain About Minor Issues With Dating Sites While Women Discuss Being Sexually Assaulted or Harassed by Men They Meet on Dating Sites

This is pretty common: in many ways, men have life much easier than women, but they think they have life harder, especially the sexist, bitter, and/or immature dolt men who post to “red pill,” Men’s Rights, or MGTOW groups online.

So, a lot of men end up complaining about problems that are pretty inconsequential as compared to the ones many women face on a regular basis, as is demonstrated in this article (which I was first made aware of by a lady on Twitter, @DLulabele):

(Link): What happened to Lucy on a Tinder date was chilling. It’s time to investigate dating apps

Excerpts:

March 2020

It all started off pretty routinely: Lucy matched with a guy on Tinder, they chatted on the app, then they decided to meet up in person.

There was dinner, a movie, more banter – it was a fun date.

“He seemed lovely, I really liked him… He was a guy I could see myself dating.”

He drove up into the bush, towards the Dandenong Ranges on Melbourne’s outskirts. It’d be fun and they could sleep in the van, he said, despite Lucy’s protests.

“It was really scary and things definitely progressed more than I had wanted them to.”

Lucy told him she didn’t want to have sex, but her date didn’t listen.

“I was raped that night,” Lucy says.

Continue reading “Men Complain About Minor Issues With Dating Sites While Women Discuss Being Sexually Assaulted or Harassed by Men They Meet on Dating Sites”

The “Dating Market” Is Getting Worse by A. Fetters and K. Tiffany

The “Dating Market” Is Getting Worse b A. Fetters and K. Tiffany

For anyone who cannot wait to get to it, here’s the link to the piece on The Atlantic:

(Link): The ‘Dating Market’ Is Getting Worse

Some of my comments about that piece before I put in some excerpts from it:

About the only “numbers approach” I have ever mentioned on my own blog here is that Christian women really do unnecessarily limit themselves if they try to live out the “Be Equally Yoked” philosophy in regards to dating and marriage, because the reality is, yes, the math is that there are not enough single, Christian men to go around for all the Christian single women who’d like to marry.

So, it makes sense to forgo the “equally yoked” rule, if one is a Christian, to date outside the Christian faith.

At the same time, though, I have seen other adults singles make much too much out of the “numbers game” philosophy on dating sites or comments sections on blogs about dating, where they make finding a romantic life partner sound so cold, or as though they’re shopping for a car.

There’s nothing wrong with having standards, but I am afraid there is a category of single adult who is too stringent or unrealistic with their lists of “must haves.”

I am personally turned off by anyone dispensing dating or “how to get married” advice who behave  as though there is a sure-fire guarantee way to land a spouse – because (Link): there is no such thing.

So, I’m really turned off by the many (sexist) attitudes and lists out there telling women if only the women do X, Y, and Z, they will absolutely get married to a great guy.

One problem is that most of these lists (which go viral on Twitter) are predicated on the notion that all men want and prefer 1950s, submissive, uber-feminine women.

Well, I lived that way for many decades – I was raised in a very traditional family that was into conservative values – so I had many of those prized traits sexist men online say will grant a woman a husband, but I remain never-married into my late 40s.

I was a very meek, docile, passive, sweet woman with traditional values, and no, it didn’t get me a husband.

(As I’ve aged, I’ve realized that it’s not a healthy or safe dating strategy for a woman to fit the picture of docile, overly feminine, passive, etc, that the “dating advice” gurus suggest on twitter and elsewhere, because many abusive, selfish, or controlling men intentionally seek out women with such qualities so that they can control, abuse, or take advantage of them.)

There are many conservatives – including women authors, unfortunately – who keep writing dating advice books for women, or who go on to FOX cable news morning shows, who keep encouraging women to engage in these dangerous dating strategies (of being a doormat, where being “feminine” is associated with doormat behaviors), which I’ve written about before (Link): here and (Link): here, among other blog posts.

The article below states at one point that men out-number women on dating sites. That may be so on some sites, but certainly not all.

Years ago, I had a paid membership on a dating site, and the site was forever claiming they could find no matches for me, most of the time.

For the four or five month paid subscription I had, I was only linked up to a total of about three men in that time.

My research on that particular online dating company found it’s the same with a lot of women, as it had been for me: that site tends to only “dribble out” a tiny number of matches for women, while they send male members more matches per month, every month.

Here are excerpts from…

(Link): The ‘Dating Market’ Is Getting Worse

The old but newly popular notion that one’s love life can be analyzed like an economy is flawed—and it’s ruining romance.

It’s understandable that someone like Liz [a 30 year old single who is using dating apps to find dates] might internalize the idea that dating is a game of probabilities or ratios, or a marketplace in which single people just have to keep shopping until they find “the one.”

The idea that a dating pool can be analyzed as a marketplace or an economy is both recently popular and very old:
For generations, people have been describing newly single people as (Link): 
“back on the market” and (Link): analyzing dating in terms of supply and demand.

Continue reading “The “Dating Market” Is Getting Worse by A. Fetters and K. Tiffany”

Boy, Age 2, Dies After Father Stole $150,000 Raised for Treatment and Blew It On Hookers, Liquor, Drugs and Hotels

Boy, Age 2, Dies After Father Stole $150,000 Raised for Treatment and Blew It On Hookers, Liquor, Drugs and Hotels

Christians (such as but not limited to Al Mohler) and my fellow conservatives often like to claim that “family values” and parenthood and marriage are all necessary to make society better, and to make people into loving, mature, godly, and/or ethical adults. But the Nuclear Family, parenthood, and marriage does none of those things. Here’s yet another example.

(Link): Boy, Age 2, Dies After Father Stole $150,000 Raised for Treatment and Blew It On Hookers, Liquor, Drugs and Hotels

Excerpts:

October 23, 2019

A toddler who suffered from a neuromuscular disorder died last week in Brazil after his father allegedly stole the cash raised for his treatment and spent it on wild parties.

Two-year-old João Miguel Alves passed away October 17 following a lengthy battle with Spinal Muscular Atrophy [AME].

His father, Mateus Henrique Leroy Alves, 37, was arrested July 22, a week after his wife reported him to the police.

He was found at a luxury hotel where he had been staying at for almost two months having spent $150,000 on designer clothes, watches, drugs, hookers and booze, local media reports.

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Supposedly Woman-Honoring and Pro-Marriage Focus On the Family Group Wants Wives to Blame Themselves If or When Their Husbands Commit Adultery – Re: Book: ‘How God Used the Other Woman,’ by Tina Konkin

Supposedly Woman-Honoring and Pro-Marriage Focus On the Family Group Wants Wives to Blame Themselves If or When Their Husbands Commit Adultery – Re: Book: ‘How God Used the Other Woman,’ by Tina Konkin

I have some new developments in my personal life that have kept me busy the last month or two, which is why I’ve not been blogging as often.

During this time, I do recall seeing comments on other people’s blogs and on Twitter, about some idiotic, sexist, stupid book that “Focus On The Family” was recommending or selling.

Here is a page about the book by Tina Konkin that created an uproar:

(Link): How God Used “the Other Woman”: Saving Your Marriage After Infidelity via Focus On The Family site

Excerpts about that book from the site:

In How God Used “the Other Woman,” Konkin shares how she and her husband Ron saved their marriage after his affair and fought to make it better than ever before.
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I am horrified to see that this Tina Konkin works as (or claims to be) (Link): a “relationship expert.”

This awful book of hers is also being sold at Wal-Mart.

From what I can recall, it’s a book for Christian wives that tells them how to approach their husband or their marriage if and whenever their husband should commit adultery,
and their view is that you, you Christian wife, should blame yourself for  your husband’s adultery, don’t hold him accountable, and just write off the situation as a learning experience.

Below you will find a few links or videos to work by other people refuting such a disgusting viewpoint.

Before I get to those resources, though, I wanted to point out how utterly hypocritical these conservative secular and conservative Christian groups are, who proclaim they respect women, and marriage, and The Nuclear Family. Continue reading “Supposedly Woman-Honoring and Pro-Marriage Focus On the Family Group Wants Wives to Blame Themselves If or When Their Husbands Commit Adultery – Re: Book: ‘How God Used the Other Woman,’ by Tina Konkin”

The Fear of Male Birth Control

The Fear of Male Birth Control

A Podcast is on this page:

(Link): The Fear of Male Birth Control

What’s keeping men from sharing more of the burden?

Why Some Men Are Obsessed with Inseminating as Many Women as Possible by E.J. Dickson

Why Some Men Are Obsessed with Inseminating as Many Women as Possible by E.J. Dickson

(Link): Why Some Men Are Obsessed with Inseminating as Many Women as Possible

Excerpts:

“Some men have this very strange identification with their sperm”

…When taken to a criminal extent, nowhere was this impulse more apparent than in a recent New York Times report on fertility doctors impregnating unwitting female patients with their own sperm, rather than that of a donor.

Due to the relative lack of regulation in the fertility industry, it wasn’t until the advent of DNA tests that many children of these patients discovered their true parentage, resulting in many patients feeling traumatized and violated; one Texas legislator aiming to introduce a bill prohibiting fertility fraud likened the actions of these men to rape.

The piece provided shocking detail on how specialists were able to get away with doing this for years, often fathering dozens of children in the process.

Yet it focused relatively little on why men would actually be driven to impregnate dozens of women with their own sperm, totally without their patients’ consent.

Continue reading “Why Some Men Are Obsessed with Inseminating as Many Women as Possible by E.J. Dickson”

Teenage Girl, 18, Knocked Out In Street After Telling Man Who Followed Her From Club ‘I’m Not Interested’

Teenage Girl, 18, Knocked Out In Street After Telling Man Who Followed Her From Club ‘I’m Not Interested’

I don’t know what’s more distressing: that men feel it’s acceptable to verbally or physically attack women who reject their advances in the first place, or the men I see online who were defending guys who do this (and assume the teen-aged girl in question did something to “deserve it”),
or the idiotic and oblivious Christian men (like the one I debated with today on social media about this)
-and other types of men- online who assume that single men have life and relationships worse than women do – when men don’t face attacks like this from women when they are out and about.

I read two articles about this: the girl in the story had just left a club with a male friend of hers, when a man and his two friends started following her down the street. The girl in this news item had NOT been flirting with this man inside the club, nor was she accepting drinks from him inside the club.

I mention that fact because one sexist asshole who left a comment under one of the news tweets about this story said something like, “She was probably taking drinks off men like him all night then blowing them off when they flirted, so she deserved this.”

I tweeted at the guy that the man was not even in the club with her when this started – at no time did he buy her a drink, and even had he, it would still not give him the right to attack this girl or to harass her or intimidate her as she walked home.

In all my years of collecting links to place on this blog, I’ve seen only a few where women attack men – usually their boyfriends or husbands – when their male partner refuses to have sex with them. (I have a few examples of this on my blog.)

However! The vast majority of news items I see where one person rejects the advances of another features male-on-female violence. Yet some men want me to believe they have dating or single life just as hard as women do.

No, you men do not – you men don’t have dating and singleness any where near as difficult as women do.

(Link): Teenage Girl, 18, Knocked Out In Street After Telling Man Who Followed Her From Club ‘I’m Not Interested’

July 2019

AN 18-YEAR-OLD girl was punched unconscious after telling a man who followed her home from a nightclub that she wasn’t interested.

Gabrielle Walsh was on a night out with her friend Kyle McKeown in the Manchester city centre over the weekend when they were attacked.

They were walking from Club Bloom in the Gay Village at about 3.30am when three men approached them.

Continue reading “Teenage Girl, 18, Knocked Out In Street After Telling Man Who Followed Her From Club ‘I’m Not Interested’”

Give Us SexBots With A Soul by L. Emmons

Give Us SexBots With A Soul by L. Emmons

(Link): Give Us SexBots With A Soul by L. Emmons

Excerpts:

Who really needs relationships anyway? They’re a pain in the ass. Partners are difficult. They want us to be our best selves, to quit drinking, to stop leaving dirty socks in the bathroom.

Partners have feelings, emotional realities, flatulence, bad breath, opinions, debts, wants, needs and desires than can clash with our own.

Partners want things from us even when we just want them to shut up and get cozy. But the worst thing about partners, the worst part about romance, is the potential for rejection.

Continue reading “Give Us SexBots With A Soul by L. Emmons”

Inside Secret World of Incels Who Turn To Murder Because They’ve Never Had Sex by J. Lavender

Inside Secret World of Incels Who Turn To Murder Because They’ve Never Had Sex by J. Lavender

Ah, male entitlement. I’m a celibate, hetero woman who had hoped to marry (and hence be having sex with a husband), I’m still single and celibate over age of 45, but I don’t run around killing men because of it.

I do not believe men owe me sex or marriage. Too bad our culture largely sends a message to boys and men in movies, magazine ads, and so on, that they are all deserving and owed marriage, sex, or dates.

Rejection is a part of life, whether we’re talking about not getting what we want romance-wise (no marriage, no dates, no sex, etc), or in other areas. You can go out on a lot of job interviews and be rejected by employer after employer.

Notice that in some of these cases, men are also harmed by incels: incels don’t always just target women, they also kill men in their rampages.

(Link): Inside secret world of Incels who turn to murder because they’ve never had sex

July 2019

WARNING: DISTRESSING CONTENT Elliot Rodger butchered six people because he was a virgin and had been constantly rejected by women

When Elliot Rodger slaughtered six university students he had never met, the world united in grief.

But when it emerged that the 22-year-old had carried out the senseless murdersof innocent victims because he was virgin who had been rejected by women, grief turned to horror.

Rodger’s horrific actions exposed a chilling online underworld of the Incels, meaning involuntarily celibate.

Continue reading “Inside Secret World of Incels Who Turn To Murder Because They’ve Never Had Sex by J. Lavender”

A Man Allegedly Shot A Baby In The Head After Her Mom Rejected Him At A Party by B. Sacks

A Man Allegedly Shot A Baby In The Head After Her Mom Rejected Him At A Party by B. Sacks

Here is an example of Toxic Masculinity – a phenomenon that many conservatives either misunderstand or believe does not exist. (Note to any new-comers: I am a conservative. I am not a liberal, but I do agree with liberals and feminists that Toxic Masculinity is real.)

(Link) A Man Allegedly Shot A Baby In The Head After Her Mom Rejected Him At A Party

June 2019

The 10-month-old girl had surgery Sunday to remove bullet fragments from her skull. The suspect has been charged with attempted murder.

A man allegedly shot a 10-month-old baby in the head after her mother rejected him at a party, police said.

Officials in Fresno, California, say 23-year-old Marcos Antonio Echartea had continuously hounded Deziree Menagh at a party Saturday night.

Echartea allegedly met the 18-year-old woman the week before and, when he ran into her at the gathering, tried to grab her hand.

Continue reading “A Man Allegedly Shot A Baby In The Head After Her Mom Rejected Him At A Party by B. Sacks”

Pervert With Vegetable Fetish Who ‘Killed His Partner By Sexually Assaulting Her With A Carrot’ Faces Life In Prison

Pervert With Vegetable Fetish Who ‘Killed His Partner By Sexually Assaulting Her With A Carrot’ Faces Life In Prison

(Link): Pervert with vegetable fetish who ‘killed his partner by sexually assaulting her with a carrot’ faces life in prison in Romania

June 5, 2019 – by Luke Andrews

A 55-year-old man is facing life in prison in Romania for allegedly sexually assaulting his partner with a carrot grown in their back garden.

Continue reading “Pervert With Vegetable Fetish Who ‘Killed His Partner By Sexually Assaulting Her With A Carrot’ Faces Life In Prison”

Men Care More About Valentine’s Day Than Women, Says (2019) Survey by Z. Gervis

Men Care More About Valentine’s Day Than Women, Says (2019) Survey by Z. Gervis

This seems familiar. I may have posted a similar article as this one a year or more ago. Hmm.

(Link): Men care more about Valentine’s Day than women, says survey

Excerpts:

… A new survey finds nearly 60 percent of people give their partner an F grade when it comes to bringing the romance on February 14.

The Groupon study, which looked into gift expectations and plans surrounding the annual day of love, uncovered that the average person rates their partner at just 52 percent — an F-grade equivalent — when it comes to the effort they put into Valentine’s Day.

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‘I Love My Boyfriend But He Forces Sex On Me And I Don’t Know How To Stop Him’ (Letter to Advice Columnist)

‘I Love My Boyfriend But He Forces Sex On Me And I Don’t Know How To Stop Him’

(Link): ‘I Love My Boyfriend But He Forces Sex On Me And I Don’t Know How To Stop Him’

DEAR DEIDRE:
MY boyfriend is forcing sex on me.

We get on well, mostly. We’ve been together for six years and he’s my rock – but there are times we don’t get along.

He’s 27 and I’m 21.

Even when we argue and he sulks, he always wants sex.

Continue reading “‘I Love My Boyfriend But He Forces Sex On Me And I Don’t Know How To Stop Him’ (Letter to Advice Columnist)”

Woman Who Worked As Model Strangled To Death After Refusing To Have Sex With Photographer

Woman Who Worked As Model Strangled To Death After Refusing To Have Sex With Photographer

(Link): Model, 20, ‘strangled to death after refusing to have sex with photographer’Model, 20, ‘strangled to death after refusing to have sex with photographer’

January 2019

Mansi Dixit was hit on the head with a wooden stool and strangled for refusing sex during a photoshoot in Oshiwara, India, it is alleged

A 20-year-old model was killed by an aspiring photographer for saying no to sex, according to reports.

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“I Hate, Hate, Hate Anal Sex, but My Husband Says It’s “Unfair” Not to Do It Do I have to keep trying?” – by Stoya

“I Hate, Hate, Hate Anal Sex, but My Husband Says It’s “Unfair” Not to Do It Do I have to keep trying?” – by Stoya

The male entitlement is strong with her douche bag of a husband.

You don’t owe him anything, lady.

(Link): “I Hate, Hate, Hate Anal Sex, but My Husband Says It’s “Unfair” Not to Do It Do I have to keep trying?” – by Stoya

Dear How to Do It [advice column],

My husband wanted to try anal. I didn’t want to. I let myself be talked into trying. I hated it. We tried again. I hated it. We tried with toys of slowly increasing sizes. I hated it.

Continue reading ““I Hate, Hate, Hate Anal Sex, but My Husband Says It’s “Unfair” Not to Do It Do I have to keep trying?” – by Stoya”

French Author Yann Moix, 50, Says Women Over 50 Are ‘Invisible’ To Him

French Author Yann Moix, 50, Says Women Over 50 Are ‘Invisible’ To Him

Before I get to the article about this person, here are a couple of related ones:

(Link): Men Become ‘Invisible’ And Lose Sex Appeal At 39 – Article from Daily Caller

(Link): Online Dating: Women Want Younger Men (article)

I’m not 50 years old – the big 5-0 is a few years away for me – but – I have no desire to date people such as this Moix guy, who is, I think over age 50 himself. I’ve seen his photo on sites – he is not attractive.

When I was in my 20s, I was creeped out by any guy more than five years my senior who took a fancy to me. And I sometimes, yes, had guys older than me hit on me. It was gross.

I wonder if this guy actually gets any dates with anyone?

Here’s the article:

(Link): French Author Yann Moix, 50, Says Women Over 50 Are ‘Invisible’ To Him

Yann Moix’s comments about being “incapable” of loving women over his own age has sparked furious backlash online.

A prize-winning French author faced backlash online after he reportedly declared he was “incapable” of loving women over the age of 50 because they are “too old” and “invisible” to him.

Yann Moix, who is 50 himself, told Marie Claire magazine’s French edition that he preferred the bodies of younger women, according to multiple media reports.

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Dear Prudie: Help! My Boyfriend Refuses to Do Any Housework.

Dear Prudie: Help! My Boyfriend Refuses to Do Any Housework.

When your boyfriend won’t help do housework, you dump him.

But let’s see what Prudie has to say.

(Link): Dear Prudie: Help! My Boyfriend Refuses to Do Any Housework.

By DANIEL MALLORY ORTBERG

Q. The second shift in 2019? When I’m 23? My boyfriend and I live together and we’re incredibly happy.

We’re in our early 20s and live in New York with two full-time jobs and side hustles. We’re both equally ambitious and serious about our future, both professionally and as a couple.

I typically beat him home from work, and while I admit I tend to be the neater roommate and more inclined in the kitchen, we have fallen in the habit of me taking over the cleaning and cooking.

My boyfriend vocalizes that he’s appreciative of everything I do but groans and drags his feet when I ask him to help out too.

Continue reading “Dear Prudie: Help! My Boyfriend Refuses to Do Any Housework.”

Girl, 16, Has To Wear Colostomy Bag for Life After Rough Group Sex ‘Copying Porn Scenes’ Left Her With Horror Injuries by Debbie White

Girl, 16, Has To Wear Colostomy Bag for Life After Rough Group Sex ‘Copying Porn Scenes’ Left Her With Horror Injuries by D. White

So much for all that third wave feminist propaganda about being “sex positive” and porn being “empowering for women.”

This reminds me of the post I did a few years ago about the woman who was pressured by her boyfriend (Link): into having anal sex she didn’t want to have.

(Link): Girl, 16, has to wear colostomy bag for life after rough group sex ‘copying porn scenes’ left her with horror injuries

Excerpts:

An investigation into the impact of violent porn in Australia reveals the serious injuries suffered through copycat behaviour

A SIXTEEN-year-old girl’s bowel was so badly injured during group sex that she needs to use a colostomy bag for the rest of her life.

A teacher who warns pupils in Australia of the hazards of copying violent porn told ABC News about the teen’s life-changing injury.

The country’s national broadcaster was told the girl’s horrific experience was just one in a string of serious injuries to result from porn-addicted Australians trying to imitate aggressive sex they’ve watched online.

Continue reading “Girl, 16, Has To Wear Colostomy Bag for Life After Rough Group Sex ‘Copying Porn Scenes’ Left Her With Horror Injuries by Debbie White”

Model Says Fiancé Dumped Her Days Before Wedding After Cancer Made her Gain Weight by James Somper

Model Says Fiancé Dumped Her Days Before Wedding After Cancer Made her Gain Weight by James Somper

According to one site I visited, Five stone converts to 70 pounds.

(Link): Model claims fiancé dumped her days before wedding after cancer made her gain five stone

Emily Nicholson, 24, from York, ballooned five dress sizes in six weeks due to the steroids she was taking to fight the disease and claims ex Jamie Smith called off the wedding over Facebook – and still went on his stag do

A model claims her fiancé dumped her days before their wedding after medication for her terminal brain tumour caused her to gain five stone.

Continue reading “Model Says Fiancé Dumped Her Days Before Wedding After Cancer Made her Gain Weight by James Somper”

Spurned Virgin Man Arrested in Utah for Threatening to Go on Shooting Rampage and Kill ‘As Many Girls as I See’ by David Edwards 

Spurned VirginMan Arrested in Utah for Threatening to Go on Shooting Rampage and Kill ‘As Many Girls as I See’ by David Edwards

Oh give me a break. I too am single, I’m also a virgin, would like to be in a relationship (of the romantic variety), but you don’t see me acting entitled to a man, and consequently going on shooting rampages because men are not asking me out on dates.

(Link): Spurned Man Arrested in Utah for Threatening to Go on Shooting Rampage and Kill ‘As Many Girls as I See’ by David Edwards

A spurned Denver man was taken into custody over the weekend after he allegedly threatened to kill “as many girls as I see.”

Continue reading “Spurned Virgin Man Arrested in Utah for Threatening to Go on Shooting Rampage and Kill ‘As Many Girls as I See’ by David Edwards “