Mother Murdered Her Newborn Son by Suffocating Him With Clingwrap, Previously Murdered Daughter with Plastic Bag

Mother Murdered Her Newborn Son by Suffocating Him With Clingwrap, Previously Murdered Daughter with Plastic Bag

Motherhood does not make women more giving, ethical, responsible, godly, or loving. Another example…

(Link): TOT TRAGEDY Evil mum cleared of killing Fraserburgh baby with clingfilm admits to death a year later

by Dave Findlay

A MUM cleared of murdering her newborn baby by smothering him in clingfilm has admitted killing the toddler – a year after she killed her helpless daughter.

Ineta Dzinguviene, 38, placed the wrap over the mouth and nose of Paulius Dzingus hours after he was born in Fraserburgh, in April, 2010.

The Lithuanian had her conviction quashed in March on appeal but today pleaded guilty to culpable homicide at the High Court in Edinburgh.

Paulius was the second infant to die at her hands after she killed a little daughter Paulina in her native country in 2009.

Advocate depute Alex Prentice KC said: “Both babies were healthy at birth. The cause of death of each child was asphyxiation.

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Despite Marrying His Son’s Ex-Wife, and Allegedly Grooming and Dating Her While She Was Still Married to His Son, a Pastor Remains in His Position

Despite Marrying His Son’s Ex-Wife, and Allegedly Grooming and Dating Her While She Was Still Married to His Son, a Pastor Remains in His Position

I so tire of seeing other conservatives keep spewing out excessive marriage praise. Marriage does not, contrary to what those conservatives say, make people more godly, responsible, ethical or loving, nor does it “save” society.

I myself am a conservative, I am not against marriage, but I am opposed to the unrealistic views of marriage (and the nuclear family) that so many other conservatives have.

Also, let this be a lesson that finding a godly spouse in church is a joke – some of the biggest dirt bags and wolves attend church or work as preachers – and “equally yoked” is a joke and a waste of time if you’re a single Christian woman.

Stories like the one below demonstrate that a person doesn’t have to be holy, clean themselves up, be perfect, or be good to earn or merit a spouse from God (that was fairly common advice in Christian dating articles and books I read years ago).

(Link):  MN Pastor Who Married Son’s Ex-Wife Remains in Ministry, But Son’s TikToks Going Viral

Excerpts:

May 9, 2023
By Jessica Eturralde

Despite marrying his son’s ex-wife, and allegedly grooming and dating her while she was still married to his son, a Minnesota pastor remains in his position. The pastor’s son, however, is now going public with the 14-year-old, shocking story on TikTok—and his videos are going viral [his video on TikTok can be viewed here].

… Through a string of TikTok videos spanning months, Drew explained how their family split apart after his father married Drew’s ex-wife, following Drew’s mother’s death.

…Since then, Drew has published 21 videos, unveiling the stunning story.

According to Minnesota Family Law Attorney Johanna Clyborne, Bill Matthews’ marriage to Ana Lorena may not be legal.

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Virginia Woman Convicted of Killing Two Young Daughters in Twisted Revenge Plot on Ex-Husband

Virginia Woman Convicted of Killing Two Young Daughters in Twisted Revenge Plot on Ex-Husband

To counter-act some of the usual talking points I heard from fellow conservatives as I grew up, and that I still hear now from them:

Does marriage or parenthood make a person more godly, responsible, ethical, or loving? Nope. Did this woman have to achieve some level of perfection or loving-kindness before God granted her a spouse? Apparently not.

(Link): Va. Mom Murdered Her 2 Daughters, Then Called Their Father to Tell Him What She’d Done

Veronica Youngblood allegedly gave her daughters sleeping pill gummies before she shot them

March 23, 2023

.. Prosecutors argued that Youngblood murdered her children to get back at her ex-husband who was allegedly scheduled to move out of the state with Brooklynn, the Post reported.

(Link): Virginia Mother Found Guilty of Killing Her Two Daughters

Excerpts:

March 22, 2023

A Virginia woman was found guilty of murder in the 2018 shootings of her two daughters.

Prosecutors said Veronica Youngblood shot 5-year-old Brooklynn and 15-year-old Sharon in their McLean apartment just days before Brooklynn was supposed to move to live with her father.

…“She said her mom came into the room and said, ‘I’m gonna take you to see God,’ and then shot her,” the officer testified.

Youngblood was arrested after calling her ex-husband and leaving him a voicemail confessing and telling him she hated him.

(Link): Virginia woman convicted of killing 2 young daughters in twisted revenge plot on ex-husband

March 26, 2023
By Steve Janoski

A Virginia woman has been found guilty of murdering her two young daughters in what prosecutors said was a twisted attempt to get revenge on her ex-husband, who planned to move away with one of the girls.

Veronica Youngblood, 37, had admitted that she killed her kids, 15-year-old Sharon Castro and 5-year-old Brooklynn Youngblood — but she pleaded not guilty by reason of insanity to the Aug. 5, 2018 murders, according to the Washington Post.

However, the jury was not convinced that mental illness was a major factor in the slayings.

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Porsche Billionaire Files for Divorce Over Wife’s Dementia: Report

Porsche Billionaire Files for Divorce Over Wife’s Dementia: Report

A few years ago, when Pat Robertson was still hosting The 700 Club (he’s mostly retired from that now), he created a stir when he replied to a viewer question from a man who talked about his wife having dementia. From what I remember, Robertson told the man to go ahead and divorce his wife who had dementia.(*)

Marriage does not make people more godly, giving, or loving.

Marriage does NOT cancel out personality disorders, either, and a lot of these cruel, abusive, or selfish spouses you hear about often have a Cluster B personality disorder, such as sociopathy or narcissism.

Marriage is not a guarantee that you’ll have a “happily ever after” ending with someone to care for you until you die. Too many pro-nuclear family conservatives, everyone from Matt Walsh to Al Mohler to Abby Johnson and others, keep promoting that false “fairy tale” view of marriage.

(Link): Porsche billionaire files for divorce from wife, 74, ‘because she has dementia’

A billionaire has filed divorce proceedings against his elderly wife citing her ‘dementia-like illness’ as the reason he wants out of the marriage.

(Link): Porsche billionaire files for divorce over wife’s dementia: report

March 23, 2023
By Nika Shakhnazarova

Billionaire Porsche executive Wolfgang Porsche is divorcing his wife because her “dementia-like illness” has become unbearable for him, according to a report.

Sources close to the couple say the magnate, 79, finds it “impossible” to live with his wife, Claudia Porsche, 74, whose declining health has permanently altered her personality, (Link): the Daily Beast reported, citing German-language tabloid Bild.

The billionaire, who struck up a relationship with Claudia in 2007 before tying the knot in 2019, has reportedly cited her illness and these “drastic changes” to her personality as grounds for separation.

Claudia — a former adviser to the German government — has been unable to move without help for months, the outlet reported.

For the last two years, she has been relying on round-the-clock care from her daughter and four housekeepers.

Meanwhile, it’s believed her soon-to-be ex-husband has been spending time with his longtime pal, 59-year-old Gabriela Prinzessin zu Leiningen, in recent months.

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Porn-Addicted Dentist Arrested for Murdering His Wife With Poison-Laced Protein Shakes ‘To Start A New Life With Orthodontist Lover’ Had Multiple Affairs, and Flew in Mistress to Be By His Side While Mother-Of-Six Was Hospitalized

Porn-Addicted Dentist Arrested for Murdering His Wife With Poison-Laced Protein Shakes ‘To Start A New Life With Orthodontist Lover’ Had Multiple Affairs, and Flew in Mistress to Be By His Side While Mother-Of-Six Was Hospitalized

I feel sorry not just for the wife, but especially for her six children (the oldest is 20 years of age). They will have to grow up without their mom.

Anyway. Marriage and parenthood and the Nuclear Family didn’t save this family, didn’t make this husband a good, ethical, or godly man. I mention this because my fellow conservatives, who are excessively “pro Nuclear Family, natalism and marriage” to an absurd degree often like to make outlandish claims about marriage and parenthood.

This porn-addicted, cheating scum wad also was a member of his local police department’s anti-bullying program. Because of course he was!

Looks like he’s in legal hot water now, not having fun with his mistress.

I see these types of news stories frequently, and I’m always amazed at how people’s selfishness blinds them – if you pull this sort of thing, you will be caught. You’re not going to get to sail off in to the sunset with your mistress, sipping pina coladas.

I also can’t help but wonder, was it worth it? I don’t think so.

You got to boink some other trashy woman, but to stay with her, you killed your wife, the cops figured it out, and I can only assume your ass is going to sit in a prison for around 20 years over this. It was not worth it.

I cannot get over how short-sighted and stupid these people are – these people who murder their spouse to either get money or run off with a lover. You’re going to get caught and pay the price.

(Link):  Porn-Addicted Dentist Arrested for Murdering His Wife With Poison-Laced Protein Shakes ‘To Start A New Life With Orthodontist Lover’ Had Multiple Affairs, and Flew in Mistress to Be By His Side While Mother-Of-Six Was Hospitalized

by Harriet Alexander
March 20, 2023

A Colorado dentist charged with murdering his wife with poison-laced protein shakes sent her text messages in hospital enquiring about her condition and professing his love – even as she told him: ‘That drink you gave me tastes weird.’

James Craig, 45, was arrested in Aurora, Colorado on Sunday.

His wife Angela, the mother of his six children, died in hospital the day before, having first reported pain and nausea after drinking a protein shake he prepared for her on March 6.

Craig’s mistress – an orthodontist in Texas – sent him worried messages, asking about his wife’s condition. She even flew to Colorado to visit Craig from March 8-10, while his wife was in hospital.

Craig’s charging documents state that their relationship ‘had always been tumultuous’: she told a confidant several times over their 16-year relationship that she was leaving him, but he always convinced her to stay.

He ‘had multiple affairs with several women,’ the documents state, and told his wife he had been addicted to pornography since he was a teenager.

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Stay-at-Home Mom Kills Husband by Lacing His Favorite Cookies With Sleeping Pills

Stay-at-Home Mom Kills Husband by Lacing His Favorite Cookies With Sleeping Pills

Marriage and parenthood do not make people more godly, loving, responsible, mature or ethical – another example:

(Link): Stay-at-home mom kills husband by lacing his favorite cookies with sleeping pills

By News.com.au
March 28, 2023

It’s a bizarre crime that tore through a sleepy regional town in Victoria, Australia.

A stay-at-home mom was found guilty of drugging and killing her husband by lacing his favorite lemon cookies with sleeping pills.

The outback town of Walpeup in northwestern Victoria, Australia was torn in half after 68-year-old Noel Payne was killed inside his own home by his wife Rebecca Payne in 2020.

“I was absolutely devastated,” Noel’s daughter Tracy Payne told Nine’s A Current Affair through tears.

The Paynes appeared to be a normal country family from the outside.

But those closest to them say their marriage was far from happy.

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Woman Allegedly Kills Her Husband in an Argument Streamed on Facebook

Woman Allegedly Kills Her Husband in an Argument Streamed on Facebook

(Link): Woman kills husband in argument streamed on Facebook

Excerpts:

March 26, 2023

A Lowndes County woman is accused of killing her husband Saturday morning during an argument that was being streamed on Facebook Live.

Kadejah Michelle Brown, 28, is charged with murder, Sheriff Eddie Hawkins said.

Deputies responded to a domestic violence call at 500 Greentree Drive about 7:40 a.m., Hawkins said. When they arrived, they found a male victim dead of a single gunshot wound.

(Link): Woman Charged With Murder After She Goes Live To Record Her Husband Leaving Her Then She Shoots Him

According to The Dispatch, a woman A Lowndes County woman is accused of killing her husband Saturday morning during an argument that was being streamed on Facebook Live.

(Link):  Mississippi woman unalive her husband on Facebook live after finding out he’s gay

Excerpts:

Days before Kadejah allegedly shot and killed her husband Jeremy, she put him on blast for being a cheater and gay.

In one social media post, Kadejah wrote, “I have a bisexual husband, Jeremy Roc Brown.”

(Link): Woman Allegedly Kills Her Husband in an Argument Streamed on Facebook

“This was a tragic and senseless murder, and our thoughts and prayers go out to the family of the victim,” Lowdnes County Sheriff Eddie Hawkins said in an official statement

By Alexis Jones
Published on March 26, 2023

A Georgia woman allegedly killed her husband during an argument streamed on Facebook Live.

According to the Lowdnes County Sheriff’s Office (LCSO) statement, 28-year-old Kadejah Michelle Brown was arrested without incident by deputies on Saturday after they responded to a domestic violence call.

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Massachusetts Man Unknowingly Hires Undercover Federal Agent to Kill Wife

Massachusetts Man Unknowingly Hires Undercover Federal Agent to Kill Wife

For the trillionth time on my blog: I am not a progressive, I do not hate The Nuclear Family or Marriage, but I do totally abhor how so many Christians and secular conservatives continue to maintain this FALSE promise or illusion that “the family” is necessary for society, to save it, or that marriage or parenthood will make a person more godly.

Can you imagine being a single woman who wanted to be married one day, and you supposed that the guy you would get married to would be a real Prince Charming who only had your best interest at heart, only to find out later he tried to hire a hitman to murder you?

I don’t think most women, when they daydream about getting married one day, fantasize about their husband- to- be getting them bumped off by a John Wick type of guy.

Did being married make this guy more loving, ethical, godly, or responsible? No, it sure did not. I think the article says that this guy is also a parent – he and the wife he was trying to kill had a few children together.

Maybe getting married makes people LESS godly, mature, responsible, loving, or ethical. 🤔

Do you think the guy in this news story reached a state of perfection and then God allowed him a wife? I’d say no.

If there is a God, I don’t think if God follows a directive of, “well, I cannot permit someone to marry unless they clean up their act and became a wonderful person,” as so many Christian dating advice books, articles, and blogs argue, then God would not have sent a woman into this man’s life for him to marry.

Obviously, since killer clowns like this guy are able to marry, it shows that one doesn’t have to meet some kind of criteria of godliness and great morals before God will allow that person to marry, or that sure is not true for every person.

(Link): Massachusetts man unknowingly hires undercover federal agent to kill wife

by Isabel Keane
March 19, 2023

A Massachusetts man who attempted to hire a contract killer to murder his wife had unknowingly asked an undercover federal agent to carry out the hit, authorities say.

Massimo Marenghi, 56, now faces up to a decade behind bars after pleading guilty Thursday to the murder-for-hire, the US Attorney’s Office for the District of Massachusetts said in a release.

The Malden man “complained about his wife seeking a restraining order against him” during a January 2021 meeting with an undercover FBI agent posing as a contract killer, officials said.

Marenghi later met with the undercover agent and asked him to help “eliminate” his problem as the pair “discussed a price of $10,000,” the feds said.

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Police: 150 Starving Cats Discovered in NY House Where Presumably Married Couple is Found Dead – (Time To Stop With the “Single Lady Will Die Alone But For the Cats” Sexist Trope, Thanks)

Police: 150 Starving Cats Discovered in NY House Where Presumably Married Couple is Found Dead – (Time To Stop With the “Single Cat Lady Will Die Alone But For the Cats” Sexist Trope, Thanks)

Though I am a conservative and am not a feminist, I detest sexism, have been on the receiving end of it, and I notice that sexism exists in American culture – especially among some conservatives and bitter, jaded MGTOW and MRAs who are still torn up that their wives dumped them for their abuse or neglect.

It’s common for sexist idiots online to use sexist and ageist insults against single women, such as using the ageist phrase “hit the wall” (women don’t have expiration dates)  and to laugh at women who are single, and to mock those single women that they will die alone with many cats. crazyCatLadyActionFigure

Here we have a news story about a dead couple (a man and a woman), who police say they believe to be married, who died in a house filled with 100+ cats.

Hey, there married people:
You may die with your spouse along with your many cats!

How does it feel to turn that sexist anti-single slur against married men and women now? I think it feels great. Married people will die only with their spouse and their hundreds of cats, those pathetic losers, ha ha ha! See where family values gets you? Ha ha ha ha ha.

Sometimes, though, married people die alone, apart from their spouse (and not even with any pet cats near), see examples below in this post under “Related Posts.”

(Link):  150 starving cats discovered in NY house where couple is found dead

February 3, 2023
by Amanda Woods

More than 100 famished cats were discovered living in squalor inside a Westchester County hoarding house where a man and woman were found dead this week, officials said.

Police were conducting a welfare check on the residents at the request of a family member inside the Cordial Road home in Yorktown Heights Monday when they were confronted with 150 cats living in filth.

The felines were trapped in every room of the home, including the walls and ceilings, Yorktown Police and the SPCA Westchester said.

Cops were unable to clear the scene until the SPCA’s rescue team removed most of the cats from the “small dilapidated home,” according to the animal protection agency.

The deceased homeowners were not immediately identified by police, but are believed to have been husband and wife.

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Bride Almost Walked Out on Wedding After Finding the Groom Being BREASTFED by His Mother – Marriage and Parenthood Doesn’t Instill Character or Morals Into People, Another Example

Bride Almost Walked Out on Wedding After Finding the Groom Being BREASTFED by His Mother – Marriage and Parenthood Doesn’t Instill Character or Morals Into People, Another Example

Disgusting.
And all the other conservatives out there can stop moaning and groaning about how marriage is soooo important to society,
and Christian conservatives can stop spreading the false view that marriage (and parenthood) is necessary to make people more godly, mature, and loving when

1. the Bible does not teach that at all (but teaches the opposite, see 1 Corinthians 7) and

2. plenty of other, similar news stories like the one below – of married or engaged to be married people – being weird, gross, or criminal are all over my blog.

There is NOTHING about marriage that makes it improve a person.

Marriage does not “save” society or an individual – that concept is foreign to the Bible.

I am fine with marriage and parenthood, but NOT when conservatives make claims about it that are false (which they do constantly, because they’re trying to own the anti-family neo-Marxist progressive lunatics), or when they elevate it to an un-Biblical degree and marginalize single, childless persons in the process.

The article never explains WHY the mother was still “breast feeding” her ADULT son.

And why does this article say “almost?” Why did this woman go ahead and marry this weirdo?

(Link): Bride almost walked out on wedding after finding the groom being BREASTFED by his mother

February 22, 2023

A wedding makeup artist has claimed one of her brides almost called off her wedding after discovering her groom being breastfed by his mother.

In the latest episode of the Unfiltered Bride podcast, host Georgie Mitchell – who is a professional UK wedding planner – explained how she had been told the story by someone she had previously worked with.

Referring to the makeup artist by the fake name ‘Jenny’, Georgie relayed how she had just finished the bride’s face and hair when she said she needed to go to use the restroom.

George said: ‘[The bride] walked into the toilet and what she saw is enough to end a wedding.’

At first, Georgie’s co-host Beth – who runs the business Etiquette Events Styling – assumed that the groom was cheating on his bride with another woman.

After being told to try again, Beth then questioned if he was taking drugs in the lead-up to the ceremony.  barfFace

Insisting that it was ‘much worse’, Georgie then replied: ‘He was being breastfed by his mum.’

Beth then replied: ‘Sorry, WHAT? Why would you marry a man [who still breastfeeds]?’

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The Bizarre, Misguided Shaming of Single and Childless or Childfree Women by Pro-Lifer Abby Johnson – (Not All Single, Childless Women are Liberal, Pro-Choice Feminists)

The Bizarre, Misguided Shaming of Single and Childless or Childfree Women by Pro-Lifer Abby Johnson – (Not All Single, Childless Women are Liberal, Pro-Choice Feminists)

When I was on Twitter the other day, someone who I follow on Twitter commented on a Tweet by a lady calling herself Abby Johnson.

A reminder: I sometimes follow people on social media who I don’t fully agree with on all topics. I’m a conservative, but I follow some liberals and progressives, including women who call themselves “radical feminists.” A lot of those radical feminists are pro-choice; they support abortion, I do not.

Like me, most of those radical feminists do not support “sex work” (strip clubs, prostitution, etc), and they do not support transgender activism.

Here is how Abby Johnson is currently describing herself on her Twitter bio (@AbbyJohnson):

Planned Parenthood Director turned Pro-Life Advocate! CEO of @ATTWNministry
. Global Ambassador for @COL1972official
. Best selling author & speaker. Mama/Wife
— end Twitter bio —

I am sincerely glad to hear that Johnson flipped her opinion on abortion, that she went from being pro-choice to pro-life.

Johnson seems a bit familiar. I think I may have seen her interviewed on Christian television program “The 700 Club,” in one of their CBN news segments, or perhaps I saw her on Fox News at some point?

At any rate, I am dismayed by her Twitter feed. Unfortunately, she, like many of my other fellow conservatives, falsely equates motherhood and wifehood with womanhood. I corrected her on that under a few of her other tweets.

(I’m not sure if Johnson is a Christian or not, but from her tweets, I can see that she leans right – as I do – and she also is pro-life, does not support transgenderism. I too am pro-life, and I sure as heck do not support progressive transgenderism, ie, allowing biological men who say they are women into women’s prisons, women’s locker rooms and so forth).

Also like a lot of other conservatives, Johnson holds a lot of false stereotypes about secular, liberal feminists. Not all feminists support trans activism, are anti-men, anti-nuclear family, and so on. There are actually women feminists who are married mothers.

If you’ve followed my blog, you will already know that I am middle-aged, I am single by circumstance (not by choice – not that men or women who choose to be single should be criticized for that, either), I am a conservative, I am anti-progressive trans agenda, and I am pro-life.

I am not opposed to The Nuclear Family, parenthood, and marriage, but I am opposed to the deification of such by other conservatives.

(Yes, most conservatives have unfortunately turned “the family,” motherhood, fatherhood, and marriage into idols, and they frequently love to make negative assumptions about, and insult anyone, who isn’t married or who doesn’t have children).

Let’s look at some of Johnson’s tweets – here’s the first one that I saw the other day, because someone I followed on Twitter commented below it (link to her tweet):

johnsonRadicalFeministTweetFeb2023

So, what does Johnson do with conservative, pro-life, anti- leftist transgender activism, middle-aged never married women such as myself, who was a devout Christian for decades, who had expected to get married, never met the right guy, remained faithful to biblical sexual ethics – no sex outside of marriage, hence no pregnancies?

Why is Johnson lumping pro-life, conservative, single, childless women, such as myself, into the same group with progressive, pro-choice, pro-progressive- gender- ideology women? Which is what she’s doing, because she’s equating being a woman, and/or a decent, happy woman, with being married and a mother.

Johnson is unnecessarily insulting other pro-life, conservative women who never did marry, who may never marry, and who do not have children, and she’s doing this to score a few points against what she terms “radical feminists,” who she (like many of my other fellow conservatives) wrongly assume, are all man-hating, baby-hating, single women who are lonely, miserable Cat Ladies.

(The Cat Lady trope is very sexist and needs to die off already. I usually see men tossing this at women. It feels a little more gross to see a woman tossing this sexist stand-by at other women to insult them with.) catnip

In trying to score points against radical feminists, many of whom are actually married with children (and possibly cats) of their own, Johnson creates collateral damage.

Meaning…
Not all conservative, anti-trans agenda, pro-life women are married, can get married, or want to get married. Not all conservative, anti-trans agenda, pro-life women have children, can have children, or want to have children.

Why is Abby Johnson throwing such conservative women under the bus? To get some cheap shots in at liberal, feminist, pro-choice women?

I’m a conservative, and while I do not agree with feminists (radical or otherwise) on every issue, I am not okay with Johnson (or other conservatives) shaming or insulting liberal or pro-choice women over their marital or parenting status, or that of mine or that of other conservative women.

I cannot imagine how Johnson hopes to change any pro-choice minds by carrying on like she is?

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Dear Abby: “My Kids Never Call or Visit Me” – Your Adult Children Do Not Owe You Friendship and Won’t Visit You When You Are Elderly: Readjust Your Expectations, Parents

Dear Abby: “My Kids Never Call or Visit Me” – Your Adult Children Do Not Owe You Friendship and Won’t Visit You When You Are Elderly: Readjust Your Expectations, Parents

If you’re a childfree person, you know you’ve heard pro-parenthood people, usually parents themselves, ask a million times, “But who is going to take care of you when you get older?”

From what I’ve heard of people who work in nursing homes, the adult children of elderly people in nursing homes seldom to never go to visit them.

When I used to periodically visit my grandmother in a nursing home, as myself and other family would be sitting in the lobby waiting for a nurse to wheel my grandmother out to visit, other seniors would wheel up to myself or one of my aunts and start to cry.

These seniors would cry (I mean literally cry, with tears running down their faces), and they’d say, “I don’t like it here, I want to go home.”

The vibe is that these elderly people hated being in the nursing home (which is understandable; I felt so bad for these people), but they were apparently not getting many visits (if any at all) from their family members.

When one of my Aunts got into her 80s (by that time, her spouse had been dead for around ten or more years), she was living alone, her memory was going – she eventually had to move in with one of her adult sons.

But prior to that, for years and years, that Aunt was on her own. She’d phone my Dad (her brother in law) any time she needed help.

My Dad ended up doing things like driving that particular Aunt of mine to the hospital at 2:00 in the morning when she fell and broke a rib. She called him and asked him for help with that.

My Dad went to her home on another occasion to fix a leaking toilet. My Dad also mowed her lawn for her a few times.

My Aunt’s own own adult son, who lived much closer to her than my father did, was not stepping up to the plate. He only came into the picture when there was no other choice.

His Mom (my Aunt) eventually got fairly bad dementia, or whatever problem (her recall became terrible) – she also became more and more physically frail, and it became glaringly obvious she could no longer live alone.

Only then did the adult son step up and let her live in his house, something he should’ve done years prior.

Before that, my Dad, who was up there in age himself, was driving to her house, which was like a 40 minute commute each way, to run errands for her, drive her to doctor’s appointments, etc, whenever she’d phone for help.

In reading up on books and web pages on abuse and codependency, I kept seeing one boundary violation by parents who have this bogus expectation that their adult children owe them friendship – to keep them occupied when they’re lonely.

This is doubly true if the parent in question is widowed (the other spouse died), or if they’re in a lonely, loveless marriage.

These types of parents (usually the mother) actually expects that their adult children (usually a daughter) to wait on them hand and foot, eat lunch with them daily, to phone them daily to chit chat – to be their buddy, their confidant and their pal to keep loneliness at bay.

And that is not a fair or reasonable expectation for a parent to have. Psychologists write about this in their books, it’s not merely me informing you of this.

I also read an entire book about emotional incest by a psychologist, and, according to this book, a lot of parents actually begin looking to a young child of theirs to meet their emotional needs and their need for companionship and/or identity or purpose when their kid is a baby, toddler, pre-teen, or teen!

This sort of thing does not always start in the kid’s adulthood, in other words. For some kids, it begins when they’re a baby or small child.

If the parent leans on the child in that manner, according to the psychologist who treats the now-adult patients who were leaned on by a parent when they were a kid, it will create all sorts of problems for the child when he or she grows up.

If you’re a parent, you need to realize that it’s not your child’s responsibility or duty to provide you with companionship, regardless of your child’s age.

If you are lonely or bored, you need to get out of the house and make friends with people YOUR OWN AGE.

You should never, ever rely on a child of yours (whatever their age) to meet your need for friendship, nor should you share personal details with them, like divorce stress, or whatever.

Your child is not your mini-therapist at any age. Talk to an adult friend about your adult problems. Making friends as an adult is not easy, but you will be messing up your kid if you start sharing “adult” details and problems with them, especially if they are young.

Anyway, having children is NOT a guarantee that the children will regularly stay in touch with you as you age.

(Link): Dear Abby: My Kids Never Call or Visit Me

by Dear Abby
January 29, 2023

DEAR ABBY:
I am an active widower with five grown children. Although three of them live in the same city and two live in a city nearby, I haven’t heard from or seen them as often over the past few years as I would like.

I realized recently that I miss their company and I’d like them to call or see me more often.

Continue reading “Dear Abby: “My Kids Never Call or Visit Me” – Your Adult Children Do Not Owe You Friendship and Won’t Visit You When You Are Elderly: Readjust Your Expectations, Parents”