Modern Couples Looking to Start a Family Are Turning to IVF – Because They Are Too Busy for Sex

Modern Couples Looking to Start a Family Are Turning to IVF – Because They Are Too Busy for Sex

But so many of Christians told me, assured me, when I was growing up – in their magazine articles, books, sermons, and TV shows – that married sex is GREAT and REGULAR! I guess not, judging on news stories like the one below!

Look at how all those reassurances and promises I heard from Christians as I as growing up ended up being false.

(Link): Modern couples looking to start a family are turning to IVF… because they are too busy for sex, experts reveal

Excerpts:

by Victoria Allen
May 2022

Modern couples wanting a baby are turning to IVF – not because they are infertile but because they are too busy to have sex, according to experts.

Couples are advised to try to have sex around every three days to optimise their chances of conceiving.

But the pressure of being ‘always available’, checking emails out of hours and finishing to-do lists has left many people with flagging libidos and little time for passion.

The spare time they do have is often spent watching Netflix, experts fear.

The number of British couples turning to fertility treatment they do not really need simply because they do not have sex often enough to conceive naturally is thought to run into hundreds.

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Man Paid to Have His Wife Killed Over Lack of Sex: Lawyers – Husband Also Had Hitman Kill the Man’s Pet Pug Dogs, Beat Dogs to Death With a Hammer

Man Paid to Have His Wife Killed Over Lack of Sex: Lawyers – Husband Also Had Hitman Kill the Man’s Pet Pug Dogs, Beat Dogs to Death With a Hammer

Basically, a lot of complementarian Christian men feel the same way this man, Edward Heck, does: they feel entitled to sex from their wives.

The erroneous biblical interpretations that lead men (and some women) to support “gender complementarianism” lead to these types of views about marriage, sex, and women.

I can see Christian persons like Lori Alexander (of “The Transformed Wife”), Mark Driscoll, John MacArthur, John Piper, Owen Strachan, Denny Burk, Douglas Wilson, and many members of “CBMW” defending this man’s actions and blaming the (murdered) wife.

(We also have problems with unmarried men, of whatever religious beliefs, who feel entitled to sex from any woman, and they go on murderous rampages when women refuse to date or to have sex with them).

The hired hit man not only killed the man’s wife, but one article also says that he “brutally murdered” the husband’s (who hired the hit man) pet dogs by beating them to death with a hammer – one article says that killing the dogs was also part of the plan by the husband – so the husband approved of the dogs being killed by the hit man.

I despise animal abusers, and yes, he and the husband should pay for killing the wife (obviously), but that both men also killed dogs means their death by the state should be very, very extra painful – perhaps shoving them alive, awake, into a wood chipper could be one possible solution to that.

This news story also goes to contradict the dating advice articles I used to see by Christians years ago that conveyed the notion that a single adult has to achieve some level of perfection or godliness or else God won’t send the person a spouse. If dirt bags like this loser can get married, anyone can – obviously if there is a deity, He is not expecting moral perfection or some other quality to be achieved before He permits people to marry.

Also note that contrary to Christian and secular conservative pro-marriage groups and persons – such as Al Mohler, Brad Wilcox, and Focus On the Family – that marriage does not make people more godly, loving, responsible, ethical, or loving.

Aaaannnnd… married sex is not a guarantee for great or frequent sex, as so many Christian sexual purity material insists. I am not against sexual purity, but I do think a lot of Christians have “over-promised” in this area.

(Link): Pa. man admits hiring hit man to kill his sleeping wife, is sentenced to life in prison

(Link): Man Paid to Have His Wife Killed Over Lack of Sex: Lawyers

May 2, 2022
By Genevieve Gluck

A Pennsylvania husband who hired a hitman through a porn site to kill his wife, allegedly because she wasn’t sexually available enough, is now claiming “diminished mental capacity” at his trial for her murder.

Edward Heck, 56, paid Kenneth Wayne Smith $10,000 to kill his wife, Sonja Rowe-Heck, in August of 2018.

Smith and Heck met on Motherless, a site which hosts extreme fetish pornography and snuff videos. Smith had posted in the comment section to a video that he had a fetish for killing, and Heck replied, “How about my wife?”

(Link): According to local news, the two men had been conversing on social media for about 18 months before the planned murder.

Text messages reviewed by authorities included those in which Heck said he fantasized about someone raping and strangling his wife. In messages to Smith, Heck stated that he hated his wife, called her offensive names, and complained about the fact the two did not share a bedroom.

On the day of the murder, Heck brought Smith to his home and helped him hide in the cellar. While there, Smith brutally murdered Heck’s two dogs. At about 1:50 a.m. on August 16, Heck texted Smith saying, “the time has come.”

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British Couple Whose French B&B Dream Ended in Tragedy When Husband ‘Strangled His Wife in Murder-Suicide’ After They Ran Out of Money

British Couple Whose French B&B Dream Ended in Tragedy When Husband ‘Strangled His Wife in Murder-Suicide’ After They Ran Out of Money

The mind boggles – you run out of funds, so you off your spouse and yourself??? What???

Better to be single than married to a guy who thinks it’s acceptable to strangle you to death when your finances go down the drain.

(Link): British Couple Whose French B&B Dream Ended in Tragedy When Husband ‘Strangled His Wife in Murder-Suicide’ After They Ran Out of Money

by Nick Fagge
April 26, 2022

These are the first pictures of a British couple whose dream of opening a bed and breakfast in the foothills of the Pyrenees Mountains ended in tragedy when they ran out of money.

French investigators believe John Boyes, 64, strangled his wife Kathryn, 65, to death before hanging himself at their picturesque countryside home near Toulouse in the south of France which they had planned to open as a bed and breakfast.

The couple were found dead inside the property in Boudrac, a village with a population of around 130 people, on Sunday after concerned friends who had not heard from them in several days went to investigate.

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Pastor’s Wife Pleads Guilty to Asking Their Threesome Lover to Murder Her Pastor Husband

Pastor’s Wife Pleads Guilty to Asking Their Threesome Lover to Murder Her Pastor Husband

Is this death by complementarianism? It sounds like it may be death by complementarianism, or at least, that is what the wife seems to be indicating.

Does being married make a person more godly, loving, responsible, or ethical? No, no it does not, Jim Daily, Al Mohler, Brad Wilcox and other hyper marriage pushers, it does not.

Does one have to be perfect, godly, and really great before God will allow that person to have a spouse? No – that’s simply not the case, contrary to what all the Christian dating advice books and Christian magazine articles from the 1980s and 1990s said.

God can forsee you being a murderer, and He is still delighted to send a spouse into your life (or permit this) – even a spouse you will end up murdering after your perverted, threesome romps in Motel 6!

Also, sadly, contrary to what my parents taught me as I was growing up, church may NOT be the best place for a single woman to meet eligible men to date and marry, since
1.) most churches lack single men and
2.) the ones who do attend end up being perverts, like the abusive “swinger” in the news report in this post.

The guy murdered in this news story worked as a preacher, and his wife claims he forced her into threesomes and that he was verbally abusive.

(Link): Oklahoma Pastor’s Midnight Execution Unravels Secret Threesome Love Affair

Last Sunday, David Evans warned his parishioners that the devil was trying to “kill them.” But police say there was something sinister much closer to home.

March 2021
by Pilar Melendez

Hours before Oklahoma pastor David Charles Evans was fatally shot in his bed on Monday morning, the 50-year-old warned his parishioners that the devil would seek to “destroy and kill them” for witnessing God’s power.

“Sometimes, I just stop and think. If the devil is not attacking you with everything he’s got in trying to destroy and kill you, maybe [it’s] because you’re not the reason anybody is believing in Jesus. And as a pastor and just as a Christian, what a waste,” he said in a sermon at the Harmony Free Will Baptist Church last Sunday, delivered shortly after he returned from a mission trip to Mexico.

… But police say something sinister was closer to home for Evans. The following day, his wife had her lover shoot Evans in the head, even after an affair that, at one point, involved the pastor, police allege.

… Authorities say that Kristie Evans asked Square to kill her husband in a sinister plot the two hatched while the pastor was away in Mexico. According to an affidavit, obtained by The Daily Beast, the mother-of-three later told police her husband “was verbally abusive and controlling of her” and “called her names like ‘slut, fat, ugly, and whore.’”

…“Kristie and David first met Kahlil months ago at a Super 8 Motel,” the affidavit states. The trio had sex at the Super 8 Motel on more than one occasion.

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Bride and Caterer Charged with Lacing Wedding Food with Cannabis, Some Wedding Guests Became Ill

Bride and Caterer Charged with Lacing Wedding Food with Cannabis, Some Wedding Guests Became Ill

Hey, Brad Wilcox, Al Mohler, and other hyper-marriage-promoters: marriage does not make people more responsible, godly, or mature. Another example below.

(Link): Florida Bride and Wedding Caterer Laced Food With Cannabis, Sickening Guests, Court Docs Say

(Link): A Florida Bride And Her Caterer Allegedly Served Cannabis-Laced Food To Unknowing Guests

Several of the unwitting guests became so stoned they had to be hospitalized.

… The bride, Danya Shea Svoboda, 42, and the caterer, Joycelyn Montrinice Bryant, 31, have been charged with tampering with food, delivery of marijuana, and culpable negligence.

(Link): Florida bride and caterer charged with lacing wedding food with cannabis

April 21, 2022
by Jamiel Lynch and Elizabeth Wolfe

A Florida bride and her wedding caterer have been arrested and accused of lacing wedding food, including lasagna, with marijuana and causing several guests to become sick, according to their arrest warrant affidavits.

Bride Danya Shea Svoboda, 42, and caterer Joycelyn Montrinice Bryant, 31, have been charged with culpable negligence, delivery of marijuana and violating Florida’s Anti-Tampering Act, the affidavits say.

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Vermont Man Gets 27 Years for ‘Vile’ Films of Man Killed, Boy Being Tortured (This Guy Was Married)

Vermont Man Gets 27 Years for ‘Vile’ Films of Man Killed, Boy Being Tortured (This Guy Was Married)

This article says that this man was formerly married (it mentions his ex-wife).

What is one thing we can deduce from this, and the many other gross news stories like this on my blog? We can deduce that marriage (and parenthood) does not make people more ethical, godly, loving, and mature, as is often the claim made by pro-Nuclear Family, pro-natalism, pro-Marriage Christians and conservatives.

(Disclaimer: I am not “anti family” or “anti marriage,” I happen to be a conservative, but I realize that too many other conservatives have turned marriage, the family, and parenthood into idols.)

Not only is this guy a piece of garbage, but so too is the woman who went along with this – he paid her to torture and kill people for money.

That dirt bags like this guy ever got married in the first place (though later divorced) also shows the flaw in the dating and marital advice books I used to read by Christians in my teens and 20s: such books would usually tell the single adult reader that if she wanted to marry, that she would have to reach a level of perfection, or godliness, or some other kind of quality, before God would “bless” or “grant” her with a spouse.

Such Christian teachings make it sound as though marriage is something only the deserving can or should achieve, that getting married is based upon one’s worthiness, etc.

In light of the fact that psychopaths like the one in the news story below ever got married reveals that no, marriage is not something one has to strive or earn; you don’t have to achieve some level of sainthood to be worthy of a spouse, so spare me on that one, Christians.

(Link): Vermont Man Gets 27 Years for ‘Vile’ Films of Man Killed, Boy Being Torture (This Guy Was Married)

March 31, 2022
By  Joshua Rhett Miller

A Vermont man who admitted to paying a Venezuelan woman to kidnap “a slave” and film a sick video of the victim being tortured and suffocated to death was sentenced to 27 years in prison.

Sean Fiore, 38, of Burlington, was sentenced Wednesday after pleading guilty in October to charges of conspiracy to kidnap and kill a person overseas, murder-for-hire and child pornography in his depraved scheme to get a snuff film and footage of a child being brutally abused, according to the US Attorney’s Office for the District of Vermont.

“The defendant paid for and scripted unspeakably vile and horrific videos of a child being tormented, and an adult sadistically abused,” Assistant Attorney General Kenneth Polite said.

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Married Father of Three Pastor Allegedly Committed Adultery, Raped Junior Woman Church Staffer, Used Church Funds to Fund Lavish Lifestyle

Married Father of Three Pastor Allegedly Committed Adultery, Raped Junior Woman Church Staffer, Used Church Funds to Fund Lavish Lifestyle

Does being a male, married, and a parent make a person smarter, more ethical, godly, compassionate, or responsible than being a woman, single, or childless? Why no, Al Mohler and other marriage, patriarchy, complementarian, and parenthood promoters, it surely does not, but you guys keep promoting that falsehood.

(Link): Hillsong Dallas pastor Reed Bogard was accused of rape by junior staffer he had an affair with before he and his wife were fired for using church donations to fund their lavish lifestyle

Excerpts:

by Jennifer Smith
March 25, 2022

Hillsong Dallas pastor Reed Bogard was secretly accused of raping a younger, female staffer who he had an affair with in 2013, it has been revealed.

Bogard was ousted from the church along with his wife last year amid claims they had been misappropriating church donations to fund their lavish lifestyle.

Now, it has emerged that he had an affair between October 2013 and 2014 with a junior female staffer.

It remains unclear if the allegation has ever been reported to the police.

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Three Reasons Women’s Ministries Might Want to Focus Less on Marriage and Motherhood

Three Reasons Women’s Ministries Might Want to Focus Less on Marriage and Motherhood

I’ve been saying many of the same things on this blog for the last several years that this 2022 essay says.

Churches, especially gender complementarian ones – and not just in women’s ministries, but overall, in every facet of a church – make single / childless / childfree women feel ignored or unwanted, except for those Christians who patronizingly behave like the only use for a single, childless woman is to babysit the children of the married couples.

Reminder to Christians: more adults are not marrying these days – at all. Some may marry, but not until their 30s, 40s or older. Many (even if they do marry) are choosing to forgo children.

When churches focus on marriage and motherhood to the extent they do, they also send a message that being married and a parent is necessary for sanctification or relationship with God, which is false.

A person does not need to marry or have children to be sanctified, know God, or to be mature, ethical, godly, loving, or responsible.

(Link): Three Reasons Women’s Ministries Might Want to Focus Less on Marriage and Motherhood

Excerpts:

March 25, 2022
by Rachel Baker

Women’s ministries are often the home to every category of woman: Single, married, mother, widow, and so forth. As a Women’s Ministry Director, I both attend a women’s small group and organize the women’s ministry meetings at my local church.

In my small group alone there is a vast array of women, each in different categories, some are empty nesters, some are starting families, some are intentionally single, while others are single with the hope of being in a relationship in the future.

We cover the gamut, so why is it that women’s ministries’ regularly cast their focus on the married mother?

Don’t get me wrong, as a married mother I have absolutely benefited from Bible study curriculum and content focused on marriage and motherhood, however it should go without saying that these types of studies do not represent all women.

If you are in a position at your local church in women’s ministry or as a small group leader here are a few reasons why you might want to steer your Bible study content away from marriage and motherhood:

Studies Solely Based on Marriage and Motherhood Can Feel Exclusive

As a young married woman and then young mother I desperately needed support and connection and resources to help me feel a little less alone in that particular season of my life.

Marriage ministries and parenting ministries absolutely have a place within the church; they are absolutely needed.

However, when our larger-scale ministries such as women’s ministry or small group ministry only focus on young-married or motherhood we can miss out on the richness that comes from a group of women of all life-stages and relationship status.

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Oh, Dear, Another (Male) Mega-Church Pastor In Trouble, Possibly for Adultery – Brian Houston of Hillsong Church – So Much for Equally Yoked and Male Headship Teachings!

Oh, Dear, Another (Male) Mega-Church Pastor In Trouble, Possibly for Adultery – Brian Houston of Hillsong Church – So Much for Equally Yoked and Male Headship Teachings!

Update below, March 22, 2022 – Houston has since resigned.


If not adultery, this may possibly be a case of Clergy Sexual Abuse, if there was sexual activity between this guy and the lady.

This would also go to show (once again) that marriage does not make people more upstanding, loving, moral, or godly than remaining single. Also: one does not have to achieve a level of godliness before God will permit a person to marry (this was commonly taught in the dating advice books I read by Christians while growing up).

If so many grown, married men, even ones who identify as Christian, can do idiot things like claim to be quasi-stoned and stumble into another woman’s hotel room, this goes to show that married people are not more responsible than single adults.

Also goes to show that the “equally yoked” rule is a waste of time for single Christian women: you can be a Christian woman who marries a Christian man, but the Christian man in question doesn’t even bother to follow the most basic of Christian ethics.

Complementarian Christians keep teaching that men are, for some reason, supposedly more suitable for leadership roles in life in church, and news stories like this one reveal that no, they are not. Many men are complete failures at leadership.

(Link): Hillsong bombshell as boss claims founder Brian Houston committed ‘indiscretions’ towards TWO women – including an ‘inappropriate’ text and a late night hotel encounter

Embattled former Hillsong pastor Brian Houston allegedly committed ‘indiscretions’ towards two women, the current head of the global church has revealed in a meeting with staff.

Pastor Phil Dooley, who took over leadership of the church from Houston in January, told staff about the apparent incidents during a video conference on Friday morning, the ABC reported.

The claims, revealed during a Zoom meeting with some 800 staff, come just months after Mr Houston stepped down as leader of the mega-church while he fights criminal charges that he covered up his father’s child sex abuse.

(Link): Hillsong Church founder Brian Houston breached code of conduct with inappropriate behaviour towards two women, leaked letter says

Hillsong Church says founder Brian Houston breached its code of conduct, with the organisation apologising “unreservedly” to two women who complained about his inappropriate behaviour.

(Link): Hillsong board blames anxiety drug, alcohol for landing Brian Houston in a woman’s hotel room

Excerpts:

by Roxanne Stone

The board of the global megachurch released a statement revealing its cofounder had sent inappropriate text messages to a staff member and spent time in a woman’s hotel room.

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Disney Employees (and one married man, father to eight children) Among 108 Arrested in Florida Human Trafficking Sting: Police

Disney Employees (and one married man, father to eight children) Among 108 Arrested in Florida Human Trafficking Sting: Police

I haven’t read any of the articles about this sting yet, I’ve only seen the headlines. I wouldn’t be surprised if there were some married guys involved and a pastor or two.

Yes, as I read along, at least one of the articles says one guy was a married father.

Looks like perverts and pedophiles love to obtain victims in Florida. No wonder the left is in a tizzy over DeSantis’ bill that stops the grooming of children from K – third grade by leftists (what progressives mistakenly refer to as “the don’t say gay” bill).

Lessons one can take away from this news story:

Marriage and Fatherhood do not make a man more godly, loving, responsible, or ethical (note to Al Mohler and other conservatives who keep promoting that un-Biblical and over-reaching, unfounded view about marriage and parenthood).

It is not absolutely necessary to “improve yourself” or have to “earn” a spouse from God by “fixing” yourself or achieving some state of godliness or perfection before God will grant you or send you a spouse, if you’re a single adult who’d like to marry (note to all the Christians who’ve ever said as such in their sermons about marriage or in dating advice books and blog posts).

(Link): 108 People, Including Several Disney Employees, Arrested in Human Trafficking Operation

March 18, 2022

One-hundred and eight people were recently arrested in a six-day undercover human trafficking operation in Florida. Among those arrested were several Disney employees and a retired judge. Four child predators were also arrested in the operation.

…Four of the men were specifically targeting children, including Xavier Jackson, 27. Jackson had previously worked as a lifeguard at Walt Disney World’s Polynesian Resort.

…Other arrests in the operation included a married father of eight who left his child at a soccer game to meet a prostitute, a 66-year-old former judge, and a woman who threatened another woman if that woman did not prostitute herself.

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Married Mother and Father Fake the Wife’s Kidnapping, Used Donated Funds Meant to Help Find Kidnapped Wife to Pay off Couple’s Personal Credit Card Debt

Married Mother and Father Fake the Wife’s Kidnapping, Used Donated Funds Meant to Help Find Kidnapped Wife to Pay off Couple’s Personal Credit Card Debt

Never. Ever. Argue. Ever Again.  That “marriage” or “parenthood” somehow improve a person’s character, morality, or that either one somehow fixes what is wrong with culture, if you’re one of those who is super obsessed with Nuclear Families, marriage, and parenting, like most secular or religious conservatives, such as but not limited to, Focus On The Family,  National Marriage Project, Jim Daly, Mark Regnerus, Brad Wilcox, or Al Mohler.

Never again, in light of the fact I regularly see news items of married people (some of whom are parents!) who rape people, or who steal, make child porn, sell illegal drugs, and on and on with the wrong-doing, write, publish, or broadcast your stupid “if only every one would marry by the time they are 25 years old and have three children each, it would usher in a sin-free society and fix all that is wrong with the world!” bullshit.

Being married or being a parent does not necessarily make a person more responsible, loving, or ethical, or better in any way, shape, or form, than being single and childless (or childfree).

The following married couple faked the wife’s kidnapping, and used the “Go Fund Me” account that was opened to provide funds to help the family find her to use that donated money to pay off their personal debt on their credit card. Both are parents. Un-freaking-believable!

I am not anti-Marriage, anti-Nuclear Family, or anti-parenthood, but all the other conservatives have to stop it with cramming the “hyper pro Nuclear Family / Marriage / Natalism” propaganda down people’s throats, which they do every few months, with their stupid, insulting essays containing their fear-mongering, shaming, anti-singleness, “oh no, people are not getting married any more, or choosing not to have babies any more, marriage is so much better for people and culture than staying single” pearl-clutching essays and editorials.

(Link):  Years ago, she told police she had been abducted, beaten and branded. Now she’s charged with making it all up 

(Link):  Volunteer Who Feels Duped by Sherri Papini’s Kidnapping Story Reacts to Her Arrest: ‘Honestly, I Was Shocked’ 

(Link): Sherri Papini, husband allegedly paid off credit cards with $49,000 donated to kidnapping hoax

March 5, 2022
By Kerry J. Byrne

Sherri Papini’s once sympathetic tale grows more loathsome with each passing day.

The California “super mom” didn’t just fake her own abduction: Papini and her husband Keith also allegedly used nearly $50,000 donated toward the effort to find her to pay off their credit cards instead, according to authorities.

Papini was arrested Thursday on charges she staged her own 2016 kidnapping, a shocking three-week disappearance that generated international headlines and an outpouring of public support.

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Man Slept With Wife’s Dead Body For Days After Killing Her

Man Slept With Wife’s Dead Body For Days After Killing Her

Not so sure that excessively pro-marriage guys or groups such as Al Mohler or Brad Wilcox or Focus On the Family are correct that marriage makes people more mature, loving, ethical, and godly. Marriage didn’t do anything to improve this guy…

And hey, this is a May-December relationship. The killer guy is 47, the wife he killed was age 64.

(Link): Man jailed for murdering wife and sleeping with her body in bed for a week

Police acted on a tip off and found Jeff Charles Sherwood, 47, with his wife Susan Klepsch’s body in their bed at their home in Michigan, US, as he initially claimed they made a suicide pact

A man who was accused of killing his wife and sleeping with her corpse for a week has been been found guilty of her murder.

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