Despite Marrying His Son’s Ex-Wife, and Allegedly Grooming and Dating Her While She Was Still Married to His Son, a Pastor Remains in His Position

Despite Marrying His Son’s Ex-Wife, and Allegedly Grooming and Dating Her While She Was Still Married to His Son, a Pastor Remains in His Position

I so tire of seeing other conservatives keep spewing out excessive marriage praise. Marriage does not, contrary to what those conservatives say, make people more godly, responsible, ethical or loving, nor does it “save” society.

I myself am a conservative, I am not against marriage, but I am opposed to the unrealistic views of marriage (and the nuclear family) that so many other conservatives have.

Also, let this be a lesson that finding a godly spouse in church is a joke – some of the biggest dirt bags and wolves attend church or work as preachers – and “equally yoked” is a joke and a waste of time if you’re a single Christian woman.

Stories like the one below demonstrate that a person doesn’t have to be holy, clean themselves up, be perfect, or be good to earn or merit a spouse from God (that was fairly common advice in Christian dating articles and books I read years ago).

(Link):  MN Pastor Who Married Son’s Ex-Wife Remains in Ministry, But Son’s TikToks Going Viral

Excerpts:

May 9, 2023
By Jessica Eturralde

Despite marrying his son’s ex-wife, and allegedly grooming and dating her while she was still married to his son, a Minnesota pastor remains in his position. The pastor’s son, however, is now going public with the 14-year-old, shocking story on TikTok—and his videos are going viral [his video on TikTok can be viewed here].

… Through a string of TikTok videos spanning months, Drew explained how their family split apart after his father married Drew’s ex-wife, following Drew’s mother’s death.

…Since then, Drew has published 21 videos, unveiling the stunning story.

According to Minnesota Family Law Attorney Johanna Clyborne, Bill Matthews’ marriage to Ana Lorena may not be legal.

Porsche Billionaire Files for Divorce Over Wife’s Dementia: Report

Porsche Billionaire Files for Divorce Over Wife’s Dementia: Report

A few years ago, when Pat Robertson was still hosting The 700 Club (he’s mostly retired from that now), he created a stir when he replied to a viewer question from a man who talked about his wife having dementia. From what I remember, Robertson told the man to go ahead and divorce his wife who had dementia.(*)

Marriage does not make people more godly, giving, or loving.

Marriage does NOT cancel out personality disorders, either, and a lot of these cruel, abusive, or selfish spouses you hear about often have a Cluster B personality disorder, such as sociopathy or narcissism.

Marriage is not a guarantee that you’ll have a “happily ever after” ending with someone to care for you until you die. Too many pro-nuclear family conservatives, everyone from Matt Walsh to Al Mohler to Abby Johnson and others, keep promoting that false “fairy tale” view of marriage.

(Link): Porsche billionaire files for divorce from wife, 74, ‘because she has dementia’

A billionaire has filed divorce proceedings against his elderly wife citing her ‘dementia-like illness’ as the reason he wants out of the marriage.

(Link): Porsche billionaire files for divorce over wife’s dementia: report

March 23, 2023
By Nika Shakhnazarova

Billionaire Porsche executive Wolfgang Porsche is divorcing his wife because her “dementia-like illness” has become unbearable for him, according to a report.

Sources close to the couple say the magnate, 79, finds it “impossible” to live with his wife, Claudia Porsche, 74, whose declining health has permanently altered her personality, (Link): the Daily Beast reported, citing German-language tabloid Bild.

The billionaire, who struck up a relationship with Claudia in 2007 before tying the knot in 2019, has reportedly cited her illness and these “drastic changes” to her personality as grounds for separation.

Claudia — a former adviser to the German government — has been unable to move without help for months, the outlet reported.

For the last two years, she has been relying on round-the-clock care from her daughter and four housekeepers.

Meanwhile, it’s believed her soon-to-be ex-husband has been spending time with his longtime pal, 59-year-old Gabriela Prinzessin zu Leiningen, in recent months.

My Husband Booked Himself a Seat in Business Class but Left Me and Our Toddler in Economy for a 14 Hour Flight – and LIED to Me About It – Parenthood and the Nuclear Family Doesn’t Make People More Loving

My Husband Booked Himself a Seat in Business Class but Left Me and Our Toddler in Economy for a 14 Hour Flight – and LIED to Me About It – Parenthood and the Nuclear Family Doesn’t Make People More Loving

My fellow conservatives like to propagandize parenthood, marriage, and the nuclear family – usually by arguing that all those things save culture and make those in those situations (marriage, parenthood) “better” or more loving, godly, responsible, or ethical than staying single and childless.

Furthermore, Christian gender complementarians (who lean conservative) attempt to defend their sexist gender complementarian ideology by saying that male headship is beneficial to women, because it means that men will be “servant leaders” to women, and do noble things like give up their bus seat to pregnant women on buses, or take a bullet for a woman. That is all a bunch of bunk.

The truth is that some men (like some women), regardless if they are married, single, childless, child free, or parents, are selfish, immoral jerks.

Fatherhood did not make this parent discussed in this story below less selfish, ethical, or dishonest.

(Link): My husband booked himself a seat in business class but left me and our toddler in economy for a 14 hour flight – and LIED to me about it

February 3, 2023
by Abi Turner

A mother has sparked outrage after revealing how her husband lied and booked economy seats for her and her toddler on their long-haul flight – while he laps it up in business class thanks to his company.

Taking to British parenting site (Link): Mumsnet, she explained how his work had paid for him to fly – but she insisted she and her toddler be bought seats in premium economy if they were to tag along on the journey.

The unidentified woman, thought to be from the UK, explained that it was six weeks before the flight that she realised her husband had just booked them economy and the seats couldn’t be changed.

She said: ‘Flying long-haul on Friday – 14 hour flight. DH going for a week’s work and wanted me & DS (2) to go and tag on a holiday. I only agreed to go if DS & I flew premium economy as it’s a long way, I’ll be on my own with toddler whilst DH is in business class (work paid for his ticket).

‘DH said fine no problem, had lots of points to use. Booked the flights. Told me had booked premium. Six weeks later I discover he’d lied and basically booked the cheapest economy tickets available (no seat reservation option/upgrade option).’

Am I A Jerk For Not Allowing My Late Husband’s Affair Partner To Come To His Funeral? (question to advice column)

Am I A Jerk For Not Allowing My Late Husband’s Affair Partner To Come To His Funeral? (question to advice column)

“AITA” stands for “Am I The Asshole,” and I believe it’s a popular advice section on Reddit.

And to answer the question, just on the title alone (I’ve not yet read the column itself): HELL NO, you are not a jerk for not wanting the mistress at your spouse’s funeral. That she (the mistress) would even think that is appropriate shows how entitled she is.

(Link): AITA For Not Allowing My Late Husband’s Affair Partner To Come To His Funeral?

… The thing is, u/MyMomo20 recently lost her husband, with whom she shares three children, to a car accident. The whole family was under the impression that he was traveling for a work trip, but they later learned that he was headed to visit his lover of 5 years.

For the sake of her kids, the woman was forced to put on a brave front, but she soon ran into trouble when a super-persistent mistress refused to respect their privacy.

“AITA for not allowing my late husband’s affair partner [to] come to his funeral?” – this netizen turned to one of Reddit’s most judgmental communities, asking its members if it was wrong of her to not let her late husband’s mistress attend his funeral.

The post managed to garner nearly 11K upvotes as well as 1.8K comments containing mostly supportive remarks.

Woman ponders if she was wrong to remove her late husband’s mistress from his funeral when she showed up uninvited

The author of the post started out by mentioning that her spouse had recently died in a car accident halfway across the country.

The man told her that he was going on a work trip, but the family later found out that it was actually a lie, and he instead was headed to see his mistress, with whom he’d been together for at least five years.

Couple Leave Their Baby at the Airport After Refusing to Buy the Baby a Ticket – Parenthood Does Not Improve Society or Make People More Loving or Responsible

Couple Leave Their Baby at the Airport After Refusing to Buy the Baby a Ticket – Parenthood Does Not Improve Society or Make People More Loving or Responsible

(Link): Parents leave baby behind at Israeli airport check-in

Two parents with Belgian passports were detained by police after they left their baby at the check-in at Israel’s Ben-Gurion Airport while attempting to fly abroad, Israeli media reported Tuesday.

(Link): Couple leave baby at Israeli airport check-in counter after told child couldn’t board flight without a ticket

A couple who attempted to board a plane without buying a ticket for their baby left the child behind at an airport check-in counter and ran to the security gate to catch their flight.

(Link): Baby abandoned at Tel Aviv airport as parents attempted to board flight: officials

Excerpts:

An infant was abandoned at a Tel Aviv airport by his parents, who tried to board their flight to Belgium without him after they failed to purchase a ticket for the child, authorities said.

The unnamed parents, who both held Belgian passports, had arrived at Ben Gurion Airport in Tel Aviv on Tuesday with their baby, planning to board a Ryanair flight to Brussels, the Israeli Airport Authority told local Channel 12.

But according to officials, the family arrived at Terminal 1 late, after the check-in counter had closed, and the parents were either unable or unwilling to buy a ticket for their child.

The mom and dad then left the carrier with their son next to the check-in counter while they rushed toward the security line so they could board the flight.

A short cellphone video that was reportedly recorded at the airport purports to show a woman looking at the baby in the carrier and exclaiming in Hebrew: “She left him here, I swear!”

(Link):  Couple leave their baby at Israeli airport check-in while attempting to board Ryanair flight after refusing to buy a ticket for the child

January 31, 2023
by Miriam Kuepper

A couple left their baby at an Israeli airport check-in while attempting to board a Ryanair flight after refusing to buy a ticket for the child.

Two parents with Belgian passports were detained by police after leaving their baby at the check-in at the Ben-Gurion Airport in Tel Aviv, according to the Jerusalem Post.

The couple attempted to board a Ryanair flight from Tel Aviv to Brussels, but they didn’t have a ticket for their baby.

They refused to pay for one and seemed to have left their baby in the stroller as they walked to passport control.

Church Pastor, Wife Sentenced After Using Homeless for Forced Labor, Stealing Benefits – Christian Marriage Doesn’t Improve Society or Make People More Ethical

Church Pastor, Wife Sentenced After Using Homeless for Forced Labor, Stealing Benefits – Christian Marriage Doesn’t Improve Society or Make People More Ethical

It’s more and more difficult for me to want to stick with the Christian faith at all when I see so few people who claim to be Christians actually consistently live out a Christian lifestyle, or who commit such obviously anti-biblical actions.

Also let this serve as yet another example of how “hyper pro marriage, hyper pro Nuclear Family” views put out by Christians simply is not true: Christian marriage didn’t make this couple more godly, mature, loving, or ethical, nor did this marriage improve society.

Further, Gender Complementarian teaching (which includes “male headship” teaching) is clearly false, since so many self professing Christian men are unethical dirt balls.

(Link): Pastor Who Used Homeless as Forced Labor, Three Others Plead Guilty to Benefits Fraud 

(Link): California pastor gets jail time for using homeless in benefits fraud scheme: ‘Appalling abuse of power’

Victor Gonzalez and wife were part of church labor trafficking scheme, according to prosecutors

by Jon Brown

A California pastor and his wife were sentenced to prison time earlier this month after pleading guilty to a charge related to what federal prosecutors described as a church labor trafficking scheme that victimized the homeless.

Victor Gonzalez, the head pastor of California-based Imperial Valley Ministries (IVM), was sentenced to six months in prison and another six months of house confinement after pleading guilty in a San Diego federal court to conspiracy to commit benefits fraud, according to the San Diego Union-Tribune.

His wife, Susan Gonzalez, who pleaded guilty to the same charge, received a time-served sentence.

Florida Man Throws Christmas Tree at Wife After Being Asked to Help With Dinner

Florida Man Throws Christmas Tree at Wife After Being Asked to Help With Dinner

🎄🎄🎄

Ho ho ho! 🎅 Does being married guarantee happiness, contentment, and inner peace? No it does not!

So if you’re single this holiday and bummed out about it, don’t be! You can enjoy your own company… which is preferable to having an idiot spouse throw a Christmas tree at you.

(Link): Florida man is arrested after hitting his wife with a CHRISTMAS TREE after she asked him to help her with dinner

Dec 15, 2022

A Florida man was arrested after bashing his wife with a Christmas tree after he became enraged when she asked him to help prepare dinner.

Richard Daniel Atchison, 52, was arrested on Monday around 7pm on felony charges including false imprisonment, violation of an injunction and domestic battery, according to an arrest affidavit obtained by DailyMail.com.

…The disturbing incident occurred when Atchison ‘lost his temper’ after the couple got into an argument inside their Fruitland Park home.

(Link): Florida Man Throws Christmas Tree at Wife After Being Asked to Help With Dinner

December 14, 2022
By Pilar Arias , Fox News

A Florida man allegedly threw a Christmas tree at his wife during an argument that was sparked when she asked him to help make dinner, authorities said.

Richard Atchison, 52, “lost his temper” in the couple’s Fruitland Park home Monday evening after his wife asked for help and put a spoon in the sink, accidentally splashing him with water, according to an arrest affidavit obtained by FOX 35 Orlando.

South Carolina Parents Left Toddler Home Alone While on Trip to New York: Cops – Parenthood Does Not Make People More Loving or Responsible

South Carolina Parents Left Toddler Home Alone While on Trip to New York: Cops – Parenthood Does Not Make People More Loving or Responsible

Parenthood does not make people more godly, responsible, giving, self-less, or mature – take note, Philip Derrida, Al Mohler, Focus On the Family, Brad Wilcox and all the other Nuclear Family and Natalism obsessed persons out there.

(Link):South Carolina parents left toddler home alone while on trip to New York: cops

By Olivia Land
Nov 23, 2022

Two South Carolina parents have been arrested this week after they allegedly left their toddler home alone while they were on a trip to New York, authorities said.

Donald Gekonge and Darline Aldrich, both 24, were booked in the Sheriff Al Cannon Detention Center on Monday on suspicion of unlawful conduct toward a child, WCIV reported

Police said they received a report on Nov. 17 that a toddler was alone in a Charleston apartment complex after Gekonge, the child’s father, had sent a text saying he was away in New York, WCBD reported.

When the apartment managers could not contact anyone inside the apartment, an “emergency walk-through” was carried out, cops said.

The child, 2, was found sleeping on a bed in the living room, police said.

Four Friends Who Drugged Their Wives and Watched as They Raped Each Others’ Partners Now Face Jail

Four Friends Who Drugged Their Wives and Watched as They Raped Each Others’ Partners Now Face Jail

This is beyond wicked. It is beyond depraved.

And let this go to show that my fellow conservatives are in very deep, grave error in combatting anti-nuclear family, anti-marriage rhetoric by progressives by perpetuating falsehoods about the benefits of marriage.

Contrary to what most “family values” conservatives argue, marriage does not make every person who marries (or who becomes a parent) more ethical, godly, loving, or responsible.

The Bible does not teach that being married heals sin, or that marriage (or being a parent) stops a person from sinning.

The Bible teaches the only “cure” for sin is acceptance of Jesus as Lord and Savior.

Some of the men charged with raped mentioned in the article below also have biological children with those wives; these men are fathers, but parenthood did not make them more godly, mature, loving, or ethical.

Let such news stories also go to show that God is not with-holding spouses from single adults who don’t meet certain criteria. Contrary to what some teaching by Christians about marriage says, a person doesn’t have to be godly, perfect, or wonderful to “merit” a spouse from God.

God is allowing all kinds of trashy, disgusting, perverts to marry, like the men in the article below.

(Link): Four friends who drugged their wives and watched as they raped each others’ partners now face jail in Singapore

Nov 3, 2022
by James Callery

Four friends who drugged their wives, watched as they raped each others’ partners and congratulated each other for ‘putting on a good show’ face jail in Singapore.

One woman was raped several times over a period of at least seven years by different men while unconscious, having been drugged and blindfolded by her husband, Channel News Asia reports.

The case came about when the woman found naked pictures of herself in a chat on her husband’s phone.

The four men, who are under gag orders placed by the court, pleaded guilty on Monday to two charges each of conspiracy to rape, with various other charges taken into consideration.

They are K, M, L and N.

According to Channel News Asia, the main accomplice linked to their cases is a fifth man, J, who married his wife in 2008 and with whom he has four children.

The Dad Is The A-Hole: Dad Rages as Wife Refuses to Pay for His Kids from Another Marriage

The Dad Is The A-Hole: Dad Rages as Wife Refuses to Pay for His Kids from Another Marriage

As someone who has no desire to marry a dude previously married and especially a previously married guy with kids from said previous marriage, I am on “Team Stacey” on this one.

I was always sexually responsible… I did not diddle around outside of marriage, because I didn’t want to get pregnant (birth control is not 100% effective, and I don’t believe in abortion).

If you’re divorced and you re-marry, it is not your new spouse’s job, obligation, or duty to emotionally or financially support your crotch fruit from your previous relationship. No psychologist, therapist, of family counselor out there can convince me otherwise.

And single parents can be huge hypocrites on this one – I used to lurk at child free forums filled with never-married, child free adults who said they keep noticing on dating sites and dating apps that the single parents say they expect YOU to be a loving, nurturing, considerate step-parent to their kids from a previous marriage,
but
they also specify in their dating profiles that they do not want YOU to have any kids of your own from one of your prior relationships
– those types of single parents can go f*ck themselves sideways.

The hypocrisy with single parents who demand you be okay with them already having children (and these are often also the same types who annoyingly insist on their profile pages that they and their kids are a “package deal,” and “you MUST ACCEPT THAT FULLY” – insert barf emoji here 🤮) while they are not okay with YOU already having kids (if you do), and they also demand that only child-free adults contact them for dating in their dating profiles – is astounding.

I myself never married, I was sexually abstinent, so I never had children, I did not want that responsibility, so I was sexually responsible. If you think I would be willing to take on parent-like responsibilities (or any at all) to YOUR children from your last relationship, think again.

This guy is entitled.

It’s not his second wife’s responsibility to care for his kids from a former marriage, financial or otherwise – and especially considering he pressured, demanded, forced her, or expected her, to pay for half of all household expenses, which his children from his first marriage benefit from.

But I can imagine a percentage of single parents out there RAGING at that – miffed at the idea that there are childless adults such as myself who don’t feel the least obligated to help them raise their kids from another partner. That’s how life goes.

My dating preferences and values are mine. I am not obligated to change them because someone else is having a total hissy fit due to poor life choices they made, and I refuse to go along with it.

I have no empathy for this guy. Zippo. His second wife owes his kids from Marriage One nothing, not in the form of financial support, not like how he is demanding.

Beyond the bare, bare minimum, the spouse owes nothing here – if one of the kids from the former marriage is getting eaten by an alligator, yes the non-biological parent should dial animal control, the police, or whomever one calls for help in such a situation to get the kid to safety – but beyond basics like that, NO.

This example below is why, if you are a never married, childless adult you never, ever date or marry someone with children from a previous relationship, unless perhaps those kids are out of the house and self-sufficient, unless you really, really relish the idea of raising someone else’s brats.

So this entitled guy has three children from his first marriage to “Hannah” and two children via his second wife, (who he calls “Stacey“) for a total of five children for him.

And notice that being a five time parent has not made this guy more loving, ethical, responsible, mature, or godly.

About the ONLY part of his letter that makes me think that Stacey, the second wife, is being unfair, weird, or unreasonable, is where he says she demands that he pay her the same amount in child care for THEIR children together that she sends the ex-wife (“Hannah”) in child support. I just find that very odd.

If the dude is already paying half of house-hold expenses (she’s paying the other half), I don’t see the need for that.

A dude should not be paying a current-wife “child support” for kids they have – if he’s already paying or partially paying for food, lodging, etc. I’ve never before heard of a current spouse paying child support to another current spouse.

That is just bizarre and too controlling or petty on the part of “Stacey.” But to the rest of it, no, I’m not on the husband’s side here.

(Link): Dad rages as wife refuses to pay for his kids from another marriage

by Christine Younan

The anonymous man has been left raging as he claims his wife refuses to pay “her fair share” when it comes to his children from another marriage. He opened up on Reddit

Oct 23 2022

….Now one man is raging as his wife won’t pay “her fair share” when it comes to his kids from another marriage.

The woman does however pay her half of the joint household expenses, which involve things for the children.

Taking the Reddit, the dad-of-five explained his point-of-view as he still supports his three sprogs with his ex-wife.

He said he’s been married to his wife Stacey [the second wife], 30, for about five years now and they share two children together.

The man wrote: “I also share three children with my ex-wife Hannah, 37.

“Ever since Stacey and I got together she has made it very clear to me that my three children are mine and Hannah’s responsibility, not hers. This has worked out well so far, but lately it has been taking a toll on me.

“I pay Hannah child support every month, ever since Stacey had our first child she has demanded that I give her the same amount of money each month to keep things ‘fair’.

“In addition, I have to pay for half of our joint household expenses (ie mortgage, utilities, food) and my own car. Stacey pays for the majority of expenses for our children.”

But the problem for the man is that his wife Stacey has an issue with covering expenses for his kids.

I’m Child-Free by Choice So No, I Don’t Want to Look After Your Kids by Jana Hocking

I’m Child-Free by Choice So No, I Don’t Want to Look After Your Kids by Jana Hocking

This is interesting… it’s (the essay below, via New York Post) presented from a secular vantage, so I’m not sure what the religious beliefs are here, or if everyone discussed is an atheist or what, but I can tell you as a former Southern Baptist, former evangelical Christian, that most Christians exploit single, childless adults and assume that all single, childless adults ADORE children, are only good for free babysitting services. And that is all false.

While I am pro-life on abortion (I don’t support abortion), I do NOT enjoy being around babies, toddlers, and little kids and have no interest in babysitting them.

The false, condescending idea that all single, childless adults should babysit the children of married couples for free at any and all times and LOVE doing it!!, is very, very common among Baptist and Protestant Christians (I’ve never been Roman Catholic, so I cannot speak to that).

But often in their sermons, podcasts, books, or literature about singleness (if and when the Christian idiots bother to address adult singleness at all, because they usually ignore the topic),
they always advise single adults (especially women) that they should help their “married with children” couples in their lives (especially in their churches) by babysitting their children for free. How obnoxious.

But it’s a very common theme that turns up in Christian thinking.

Years ago, I did a blog post here about a totally obnoxious, hideous post published in “Christianity Today” magazine by a married-with-kids woman who started the editorial out nicely enough, when she talked about how churches treat single, childless adults like trash (yes, they do), but then that wonderful opening transitioned into a vomitous, disgusting explanation at how churches should value single, childless adults for all the free babysitting they can provide nuclear families.

Seriously.

Just when I thought I had found a wonderful essay uplifting and affirming single, childless adults, and acknowledging how horribly Christian culture mistreats single, childless adults, married bitch has to go and ruin the essay by making it into another gross, “single adults are only good and useful for the services they can provide to married parents, like babysit my kids for free, since I’m a mother to toddlers, I have no immediate family near me, and the parenting leaves me exhausted all day!” spiel.

This below sounds like the secular version of that.

And it’s so wrong. Damn it all, am I ever sick and tired of married- with- kids couples acting as though their single, childless friends have life so much easier then they do and that these single adult friends “owe” babysitting services to them. It pisses me off to no end. And I’m also effing sick of Christian culture for upholding this same singles-exploiting crap in their books, tweets, You Tube videos, sermons, etc.

(Link): I’m child-free by choice so no, I don’t want to look after your kids by Jana Hocking

By Jana Hocking, News.com.au (in New York Post)
Oct 13, 2022

Look, there’s no polite way to put this: Dear people with kids, look after your own damn children!

There, I said it.

This fury has been quietly raging in me for a couple of years now. It started when a few of my girlfriends started coupling off.

Sure, I’ve managed to come to peace with the fact that once my friends find their special person, I’m probably not going to see them for a couple of months. At least until they’ve come out of that honeymoon period.

I’ve never complained, because I’ve secretly hoped they would understand when I too, went through that phase. It’s exciting, and lusty and totally worth dumping your friends for a few months of lovey dovey ridiculousness.

But then something happens once they start having kids.

We singletons become less friends, and more servants to you and your children. Think I’m being extreme? I’m really not!

Single Woman Who Plans Ahead Refuses to Change Airplane Seats So that Couples and Families Can Sit Together

Single Woman Who Plans Ahead Refuses to Change Airplane Seats So that Couples and Families Can Sit Together

I don’t blame her.

By the way. Marriage and parenthood do not make people more responsible, godly, loving, or ethical. Some married people are very entitled.

(Link): I absolutely REFUSE to switch my airline seat to help families and couples sit together – even when they start yelling, says single traveler JACI STEPHEN in a hilarious confession. So, do YOU sympathize with her?

August 25, 2022
By Jaci Stephen

Every summer, it happens: a family who hasn’t had the nous to book seats together on a plane asks a single passenger to move, in order to accommodate them.

This week, it’s Irish model and mother-of-three Vogue Williams, who publicly berated a fellow passenger for not wishing to give up his aisle seat and move to the window so that she could sit with her family. She was flying to London from Gibraltar, for goodness sake.

It’s a three-hour flight. Read a magazine. Order Duty Free. It’s not his fault that you’re so disorganized you can’t read a plane seat map.

I travel a lot. I have very specific seats I always choose (ask Virgin Atlantic; if I can’t get 8A, I’ll change planes). I like an aisle seat when traveling domestically because I need to use the rest room a lot.

I like to be at the front because I don’t like crowds and invariably need to disembark quickly. I spend weeks, sometimes months, making sure I have my favorite seat.

But I’ve lost count of the times I’ve been singled out as a single woman on her own and asked to change my seat. I suspect it’s because people think we’re going to be the softest touch. Wrong.