My Husband Caught Me Masturbating, and It Led to Our Divorce by Jane Doe

My Husband Caught Me Masturbating, and It Led to Our Divorce by Jane Doe

And some Christians, especially in their dating or martial advice books, would have you believe that if you just wait until marriage to have sex, that you’ll always have great, regular sex. Not so…

(Link):  My Husband Caught Me Masturbating, and It Led to Our Divorce by Jane Doe

Excerpts:

as told to CAYLIN HARRIS

Sure, it’s awkward being walked in on. But how my husband responded was what shocked me the most.

… Over time, though, our sex life changed. And by that I mean it became nonexistent. What once was us having sex at least a few times a week turned into one or two times a month, if I was lucky.

He grew more emotionally distant and had trouble getting aroused, and while I knew he was dealing with a lot of financial stress at work (and I was bringing in less money due to my job switch), he never wanted to have a conversation with me, or even see a doctor.

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Masturbation Kills 100 Germans Every Year, Study Finds

(Link): Masturbation Kills 100 Germans Every Year,  Study Finds

Masturbation kills 100 Germans every year: Study discovers bizarre ways people died pleasuring themselves including a man who tried to melt sliced cheese over himself

Study found up to 100 Germans die a year through risky masturbation practices

One died after tying to melt cheese on his body while sitting next to a heater

Another man was found dead with Christmas tree lights clamped to his nipples

 By JULIAN ROBINSON FOR MAILONLINE, Feb 2017

Masturbation kills up to 100 Germans a year, according to a study which has also uncovered the bizarre ways people have died pleasuring themselves.

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Prudie Counsels a Woman Whose Husband Stopped Initiating Sex. – But Most Christians Teach that Marriage Means Great and Regular Sex.

Prudie Counsels a Woman Whose Husband Stopped Initiating Sex. – But Most Christians Teach that Marriage Means Great and Regular Sex.

A lot of Christian teaching I heard while growing up – and even as an adult  – suggested if you wait until marriage to have sex that the sex would be so worth it, because it would be FREQUENT and GREAT QUALITY.

Lo and behold if that is not the case. Here is the one billionth example on my blog.

Oh, let this go to show that women are interested in sex too, not just men – Christians often falsely teach that only men want and enjoy sex, while they also teach that women only want cuddles and to sip tea.

(Link): Prudie counsels a woman whose husband stopped initiating sex

Q. Husband doesn’t initiate sex anymore:

I’m a 39-year-old woman, and my husband is 43. Our sex life has always been very good, and we each have done our own fair share of initiating.

However, in the past few years, the frequency of sex has really dwindled. Currently, as long as I do all of the initiating, our sex life remains great. If I don’t, no sex for months.

I’ve found myself becoming somewhat resentful, as it makes me feel like he no longer desires me or cares to make an effort. I’ve talked with him a number of times about this, and I only get the same responses over and over.

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Christian Publisher: ‘Women are Losing their Salvation Because They Masturbate’

Christian Publisher: ‘Women are Losing their Salvation Because They Masturbate’

The chuckle-head espousing this view specifically cites the use of sex toys in his equation. I’m not sure if he realizes that women do not need to use any sex toys to masturbate.

I can’t figure out if this guy is against all female masturbation per se, or only women using sex toys on themselves, or what.

The Bible doesn’t even discuss masturbation (no, the story about Onan in the Old Testament is not about masturbation – it was about a guy’s failure to fulfill familial duties).

The Bible doesn’t say anything about masturbation forfeiting a person’s salvation. Even if a person wants to consider masturbation a sin, adultery, fornication and other sexual sins do not forfeit a person’s salvation, either. The Bible says God will forgive those sexual sins.

I sometimes wonder what these types of Christians expect randy, unmarried Christians to do – the ones who do experience strong sexual desire.

These types of wacko Christians – the ones who think masturbation is satanic – tell you (adult single) that you should not have sex with another person, but then they also tell you not to masturbate, either.

And so, how are randy Christian singles supposed to get that itch scratched, exactly? People are staying single longer than they were decades ago. Meditating on Jesus or singing a hymn or some Bible reading is not going to work.

The only positive take away I can leave with here is that this guy, as wacked as he is, at least realizes that Christian women experience sexual desire. Most Christians pretend as though most women (especially married ones) totally lack a libido.

In Christian-Land, only men are “visually stimulated” and want sex and experience sexual desire. Meanwhile, women in Christian-Land are mistakenly assumed to only care about emotional needs and only want to pursue non-sexual hobbies, like knitting scarves.

(Link):  Christian Author Mack Major Says Female Masturbation Is ‘Direct Path To Satan’ – Huffington Post

(Link): Christian Publisher: ‘Women are losing their Salvation because they Masturbate’ by D. Edwards

  • Christian author and publisher Mack Major warned over the weekend that “Christian women are losing their salvation” by using dildos, which he called a “direct path to Satan.”

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How to hack a sex toy: tech firms warn public on growing cyber-risks

How to hack a sex toy: tech firms warn public on growing cyber-risks

I do not use sex toys – this story sounds like a good incentive to stay away from them.

(Link):  How to hack a sex toy: tech firms warn public on growing cyber-risks by Caroline Copley

Excerpt:

  • HANOVER, Germany (Reuters) – It’s not just computers and mobile phones that are vulnerable to cyber attack, according to software firm Trend Micro. As more devices are hooked up to the Internet, it could be anything from medical equipment to industrial machinery – and even sex toys.
  • To illustrate the point, Trend Micro spokesman Udo Schneider surprised journalists at a news conference this week by placing a large, neon-pink vibrator on the desk in front of him and then bringing it to life by typing out a few lines of code on his laptop.

    While the stunt provoked sheepish giggles, the message was sobering. As the number of smart, interactive devices connected to the Internet explodes, concern is mounting about insufficient safeguards and a lack of consumer and employee awareness.

    “If I hack a vibrator it’s just fun,” Raimund Genes, Chief Technology Officer at Tokyo-listed Trend Micro, told reporters at the CeBIT technology fair in Hanover.

    “But if I can get to the back-end, I can blackmail the manufacturer,” he added, referring to the programming system behind a device’s interface.

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Related:

(Link):  Sex Makes People Do Stupid Things – New Jersey brokers accused of using client home for sex fests

(Link):   Man Had Sex With Sandwich Shop Window

(Link): Having Sex in Restaurant Bathrooms is Now A Thing

(Link): Couple Fall To Death Having Sex Against Window

(Link): Weirdo Dude Arrested for Having Sex with Raft and Pumpkin

(Link):  One in Five People Surveyed Said They Would Have Sex With a Robot

Cops: Pantsless Motorist Killed In Crash Was Masturbating While Watching Porn Flick On His Phone

Cops: Pantsless Motorist Killed In Crash Was Masturbating While Watching Porn Flick On His Phone

(Link): Cops: Pantsless Motorist Killed In Crash Was Masturbating While Watching Porn Flick On His Phone

  • A Detroit man who died early Sunday in a one-car crash was pantsless and masturbating while watching a pornographic movie on his cell phone, according to police who investigated the accident.
  • The rollover crash occurred around 3:40 AM as motorist Clifford Ray Jones, 58, was driving a 1996 Toyota on a freeway near Interstate 75.
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    Michigan State Police officials report that Jones became “distracted” while watching the film and lost control of the car, which overturned. Jones, who was not wearing a seat belt, was partially ejected through the car’s sun roof and died on the scene,

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    Accident investigators discovered that Jones, who was alone in the Toyota, was not wearing pants at the time of the crash.

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Related:

(Link):  Couple Fall To Death Having Sex Against Window

Christian Author Admits that Bible Does Not Condemn Masturbation But Buries This Truth Under 500 Pages of Commentary

Christian Author Admits that Bible Does Not Condemn Masturbation But Buries This Truth Under 500 Pages of Commentary

I was just about to get off this blog for the day when I saw this linked to in my Twitter feed by a Christian Twitter account:

(Link):  Is Masturbation A Sin? by Jack Wellman

I don’t really intend for this post to be about that topic in and of itself, to argue that point either way.

From what I can tell, the Bible is silent on the topic, and I don’t see masturbation as being a sin. I’m not here in this post to try to prove that point, it’s just a given.

Funny enough, that is pretty much Wellman’s position too, that the Bible does not condemn masturbation, but it seems he gets there reluctantly.

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Sex Myths That Could Seriously Hurt Your Relationship – from Huffington Post

Sex Myths That Could Seriously Hurt Your Relationship

I am only copying two or three points they make, ones that are the same as I’ve been addressing on this blog for the last few years.

If you want to see the full list, please use this link:

(Link): 9 Sex Myths That Could Seriously Hurt Your Relationship

  • Written by Adriana Velez on CafeMom’s blog, The Stir
  • 3. Married people don’t play with themselves. Supposedly if you’re married you don’t have to masturbate because of all the sex you’re having, right?
  • Wrong! People who live with a sexual partner actually masturbate more than singles. But it’s not because their sex lives are dead. Folks who are married also have more sex and better sex.
  • “The myth that married people don’t play with themselves is just plain wrong!” says sexy lifestyle expert Dana B. Myers. “For busy moms, its so important to give yourself some ‘pleasure-play time’ for stress relief, to ground yourself, and to keep learning about what you like. It helps you tap into your unique power as a woman. While its often great, and fun, to involve another person, crafting out time for a weekly, or even daily, a solo session is one of the greatest ways we can instantly bring ourselves into a state of calm, centered authenticity and reclaim our own happiness.”
  • 8. Women don’t really want sex. People have been saying this for years — that men’s sex drives are stronger than women’s. Well, the most current research proves that’s just plain wrong. It’s just that women often want sex in different ways — and we’ve been (Link): culturally biased against seeing women as sexual beings. “When it comes to biology,” Carroll and Vreeman write, “there is plenty of research to suggest that women are also hardwired to have a strong sex drive in and of itself.”

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Related posts:

(Link): When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men – and how the stereotype flipped

(Link):  Letter to Advice Columnist: Husband Upset That Wife Masturbates – Marriage Doesn’t Guarantee Hot Regular Sex For Both or Either Partner, Contra Usual Christian Claims

(Link): Groundbreaking News: Women Like Sex (part 1, 2) (articles)

(Link): Do men really have higher sex drives than women? (article/study)

(Link):  Superman, Man Candy -and- Christian Women Are Visual And Enjoy Looking At Built, Hot, Sexy Men

(Link): Getting Married Does Not Necessarily Guarantee Frequent Hot Satisfying Sexy Sex / (also discussed): Gender and Sex Stereotypes (article)