The Most Important Factor in Aging Happily as a Single Person: Guest Post by Cathy Goodwin
I think this is from Bella DePaulo’s Medium account.
By the way, the anecdote about all the married couples immediately departing from welcoming the new woman neighbor once they found out she had no husband?
Read the book “Singled Out” by Field and Colon to see example after example of Christians doing the SAME THING to new single adults who show up in their lives, even to church services or church events (such as luncheons) –
– the minute the married Christian women find out you are single and/or childless, they immediately act freaked out, or weirded out, and will turn their back on you to run across the room to greet a woman who they know is married and/or a mother.
Treating adult singles as though they are dangerous, weird, or flawed, and then immediately avoiding them to run off in search of another married mother to chat with, is very hurtful behavior to the adult singles in question, but it seems to be common behavior by married Christians in many churches and Christian culture.
Married Christian men treat single women as though they are all harlots, so they avoid single women, which is also insulting, demeaning, and hurtful behavior. (At least this is true of the Christian married men who aren’t looking to commit adultery.)
God says in the Bible he does not play favorites, and I believe God instructs Christians to avoid playing favorites
– which would mean, (and since so many Christians have turned The Nuclear Family into idols they worship), Christians do play favorites, they almost always prioritize married parents above single, childless adults, and so,
they will instantly ignore or otherwise marginalize any adult who crosses their path (even at church) if that adult is single and childless (ie, these adults don’t have a Nuclear Family of their own, they’re not married parents).
The church should not be doing this; the church is supposed to be above this behavior – but it’s not.
(Link): The Most Important Factor in Aging Happily as a Single Person: Guest Post by Cathy Goodwin
Aging happily while single isn’t about doctors, diets or relationships. It’s about choosing the best place to live.
Nov 11, 2022
From Bella: Guest blogger Cathy Goodwin really knows how to get to the heart of things that matter to single people.
A guest post she wrote for my Living Single blog on (Link): how the medical establishment makes it hard for single people to get the care they need, is one that readers go back to again and again. Now she is out with a new, provocative book on aging, (Link): When I Grow Old I Plan to be a Bitch.
Prepare to hear some ideas you’ve never encountered before, and to laugh out loud along the way. I invited Cathy Goodwin to write a guest post about aging when single and I am delighted that she agreed.
The Most Important Factor in Aging Happily as a Single Person
By Cathy Goodwin
Go to any online forum about being single, growing older, or even “being single while growing older.” You’ll find dozens of posts like this:
“I can’t seem to find anything meaningful to occupy my time.”
“I’m having trouble making new friends.”
“I couldn’t get help when I was sick.”
“I feel like an outsider in my community.”
“I’m just not enjoying life the way I’d hoped.”
What happened to most of these folks?
They’d say they’re lonely. They might say, “It’s part of growing old.” They’d be wrong.
The truth is, they moved to a place that’s all wrong for them.
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