I regard Mormonism as being a cult, not a form of legitimate Christianity (Mormons don’t believe in the Jesus of the Gospels, for one thing), but I think there are some parallels between Mormons and Christians, such as the over-emphasis upon marriage.
When your church makes an idol out of marriage, as Mormons and Christians do, it drives people away. Because sometimes people stay single by choice, or due to factors beyond their control.
And if you’re single in a religion that over-values marriage, there is a tendency to be ignored, set aside. Churches care more about marriage than singlehood. Churches care more about meeting the needs of married couples than they do adult singles.
There is no incentive for a single adult to remain in a church or denomination that marginalizes them constantly, or that behaves as though singleness is a disease or a second-rate life station.
(Link): Who is leaving the LDS Church? by Jana Riess
We know, or can infer, some things about them from prior research. There is a correlation between certain life situations and leaving. This does not mean that being any one of these things will cause a person to leave, only that there is a relationship.
- Being single. There’s been some tantalizing research over the last two years about singles in the LDS Church.
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Mormon author says “we just can’t shame women” for not following the wife-and-mother script
I don’t regard Mormonism as being a form of Christianity, but I found this page interesting. There are parallels to how Mormons view women and marriage and how evangelical Christians (and Southern Baptists, Reformed, etc) view the whole thing.
There is definitely still pressure among gender complementarian Christian women to marry and have children, and women who never marry, who don’t have children (or who don’t want any), or who are divorced, are either treated with scorn, ignored, or shamed.
I just saw a creepy natalistic story in my Twitter feed I might post about later, if I remember to or have the time: some Roman Catholic Church is bribing people in its congregation to have two or more children.
Amazing how some people and organizations cannot just leave people alone to make their own choices in life about fundamental life situations, like when or if to have children (note I am pro-life on abortion, but I’m not against women using birth control and choosing not to get pregnant).
Anyway, here is the page about how Mormonism pressures women into marrying and having children, and how this negatively impacts some women.
(Link): Mormon author says “we just can’t shame women” for not following the wife-and-mother script
Excerpt from first half of the article:
- by J. Riess
- When Jamie Zvirzdin was living in the Marshall Islands a few years ago, she had a cultural and religious awakening. Suddenly the tidy Mormon gospel she had taken for granted all her life just wasn’t quite big enough.
- The Sandy, Utah native had always been a diehard Mormon – “religious scrupulosity was my middle name,” she said in an interview this week – until living in a radically different culture challenged some of her assumptions.
- For example, it no longer seemed fair for her to teach the Young Women under her care that they shouldn’t shop on Sundays; in their world without refrigeration, electricity, and pantry shelves full of food, daily shopping was imperative.
- Additionally, Zvirzdin began to realize that the gender roles she had been raised on in Mormondom were not universal – and in fact were sometimes harmful.
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