Cops Searching for Married Church Preacher Who Raped Teen Girl and Impregnated Her

Cops Searching for Married Church Preacher Who Raped Teen Girl and Impregnated Her

This news story (among other ones like it I have on my blog) counters common evangelical claims about sex and marriage, including:

  1. Married persons are not necessarily more godly or mature than un-married ones.
  2. If married sex is so great and satisfying, why are married preachers boinking other women, including teen-aged girls? They should be “getting off” with their wife alone
  3. One does not have to obtain perfection or a certain level of godliness before God will allow that person to marry
  4. The “equally yoked” rule is pointless, as some Christian men are just as capable as being perverted, abusive, and deviant as Non-Christian men

(Link): Married pastor, 33, believed to be on the run after he ‘sexually assaulted teenage girl and got her pregnant’

(Link): Police: Chesco pastor accused of sexually assaulting teen

Excerpts:

  • by M. Bond
  • Jan 2016
  • Police are searching for a former Chester County pastor accused of sexually assaulting and impregnating a teenage girl who lived with him.Jacob “Jake” Malone, 33, of the 300 block of South Whitford Road in Exton, is wanted for rape, institutional sexual assault, and related offenses, police said Monday.
  • … Malone worked at Calvary Fellowship, a nondenominational church in Downingtown, for about 18 months, said Bill Bateman, one of five pastors at the church.
  • Malone and his wife treated the teenager like an adopted daughter, Bateman said.
  • …In November 2015, church leaders learned of the girl’s pregnancy and of Malone’s alleged inappropriate relationship in another state with a female whose age Bateman would not disclose.
  • The church leaders confronted Malone, he admitted he impregnated the teenager, and he resigned in mid-November, Bateman said.
  • …Police said Malone met the girl when she was about 12 and a member of a church in Mesa, Ariz., where Malone was serving as a pastor.
  • Police said several years later, in June 2014, Malone contacted the girl, who was 17. He invited her to stay with him and his family in Minnesota, where he had become a pastor.
  • The girl said Malone then began trying to have “inappropriate contact” with her, police said.

Updates.

(Link):  Pastor Charged With Raping Teenage Girl Is In Ecuador, Police Say

  • by Andy Campbell
  • A former pastor thought to be on the run after allegedly raping a teenage girl is trying to return from Ecuador to turn himself in, police said Tuesday.
  • Jacob Malone, 33, was charged last week with rape and institutional sexual assault for allegedly attacking a teen he’d met years earlier at an Arizona church, according to police from West Whiteland Township in Pennsylvania.
  • A spokesman with the police department told The Huffington Post on Tuesday that Malone hired a lawyer, and that he was in Ecuador awaiting a return flight to Pennsylvania. Malone plans to turn himself in this week, the spokesman said. Malone’s attorney, Charles Proctor, declined to comment on the case.
  • Police announced Malone’s whereabouts just a day after they said he was on the run in an unknown location.

Family Values, Conservative Christian Bill Gothard Accused Of Rape

Family Values, Conservative Christian Bill Gothard Accused Of Rape

I have written about Gothard once before, and I’m reminding you of that post now:

In the days or weeks to come, you can probably expect more of the same. Gothard is currently in his 80s, I believe, and he’s never married, and has indicated before that he is celibate.

Ergo, a lot of people, even some Christians sadly enough, tend to blame Gothard’s alleged sexual assaults of women on him being celibate. They seem to think if you live without sex for so many years, it comes gushing out beyond your control later – you get so horny, they seem to think, they you sexually attack another person.

A lot of people do this sort of odd ball reasoning in the case of  Roman Catholic priests who take a vow of celibacy but who get caught molesting children: people assume that being celibate causes pedophilia and rape.

Celibacy, however, does not cause pedophilia and rape.  Married men who have sex with their wives on a regular basis also rape people or molest kids (I’ve done a post or two about that topic before in the past).

Or, these types of Christians and Non-Christians somehow suspect that any adult who claims to be celibate is secretly a horn dog and must be getting lots of nooky anywhere, but especially salacious nooky, by raping people or fondling kids.

Celibates are not perverts, folks: we celibates are NOT having any sex at all, salacious or consensual. That’s the whole point about celibacy, you ding bats who accuse celibacy of causing rape and pedophilia.

While I myself don’t agree with some views of secular, left wing feminists, I note that they are not the monsters that many “family values” Christians make them out to be.

Right wing, American Christians will often fault the American feminists of the 1960s sexual revolution of causing all manner of problems in society (such as the rise of divorce rates, promiscuity, etc),
and maybe to a degree, secular feminism played some role in those sorts of things,
but how then do these Christians and conservatives explain the other “family values” Christians who are opposed to secular, left wing feminism, such as Gothard, who allegedly rape or molest girls, or who have affairs on their wives (for the men who are married)?

Again, I am not saying I am in total agreement with all opinions of secular, liberal feminists, but am merely saying that you cannot fairly and justly blame secular, liberal feminism for the moral failings and crimes of right wing, Christian men such as Gothard.

Anyway, Gothard is in the news again, this time for supposedly raping people.

Here is a selection of links about that news story, along with a link to a site that specializes in Gothard news coverage, and articles that highlight or refute his damaging teachings:

(Link): Recovering Grace: A Gothard Generation Shines Light on the Teachings of IBLP and ATI 

(This site, Recovering Grace, tends to keep up with the latest Gothard news and information, so you may want to bookmark them and visit them regularly if you are really interested in the latest Gothard- related developments.
I don’t plan on doing regular Gothard updates on my own blog, or not over every little thing concerning him.)

(Link): Bill Gothard, Christian counseling ministry leader with ties to TLC’s Duggar family, target of sexual assault lawsuit by 10 women

  • by Laura Bult
  • January 7, 2016
  • Ten women filed a bombshell lawsuit Wednesday alleging decades of sexual assault and rape by the longtime leader of Christian homeschooling ministry, Bill Gothard, who preaches modesty among women and has ties to Republican politicians and the reality TV Duggar family.
  • The lawsuit is the latest development after numerous women who sought counseling at Gothard’s Institute of Basic Life Principles, a prominent religious homeschooling ministry, came forward accusing the magnetic leader of sexual abuse, some of whom were minors at the time
  • The 81-year-old unmarried former president of the IBLP resigned from the ministry in 2014 after more than 30 women said they had been molested by him, according to the (Link): Washington Post, which first reported the story.
  • The lawsuit filed in an Illinois circuit court includes allegations that range from sexual harassment,  inappropriate touching and hand-holding, molestation and rape, according to the complaint provided to the Daily News by the lawyers representing the women at the Texas Gibbs Law Firm.

Continue reading “Family Values, Conservative Christian Bill Gothard Accused Of Rape”

Kansas Church Hired Known Sex offender Who Then Molested Disabled Churchgoer: Police

Kansas Church Hired Known Sex offender Who Then Molested Disabled Churchgoer: Police

I was brought up in a Christian family and taught to believe that church was THE best place to meet a potential spouse.

After seeing how poorly some churches handle wife abuse and child abuse, though, I have been having some severe second thoughts about church being a good place to meet safe, single men.

Not only do perverts and women abusers hang out in churches, but even when the churches find out they have abusers in their midst, they often protect the abusers and treat the victims like dirt. I have seen that time and time again on blogs that specialize in Christian marital abuse, or sex abuse cases in churches.

(I think I first saw this story on WatchKeep’s Twitter)

(Link): Kansas Church Hired Known Sex offender Who Then Molested Disabled Churchgoer: Police

  • KCTV reported that Rodney Sexton was accused of molesting a disabled churchgoer “who is deaf and functions like an 8 year old.”
  • Dec 30, 2105
  • by David Edwards
  • A church treasurer in Overland Park, Kansas has been accused of sexual abuse — and it’s not the first time.
  •  

    KCTV (Link): reported that Rodney Sexton was accused of molesting a 31-year-old disabled churchgoer “who is deaf and functions like an 8 year old.” Sexton is also deaf.

Continue reading “Kansas Church Hired Known Sex offender Who Then Molested Disabled Churchgoer: Police”

Family: Tennessee church hid bathroom rape of 3-year-old, lied to parents and urged against prosecution – Ditch the Equally Yoked Teaching

Family: Tennessee church hid bathroom rape of 3-year-old, lied to parents and urged against prosecution by D. Edwards – Ditch the Equally Yoked Teaching

One reason of several I’m no longer so keen on seeking a mate at a Christian church – as dear old Mom and Dad raised me to consider – is because a lot of perverts and wife abusers attend churches, AND the churches cover up for these dirt bags when the dirt bags do abuse children or women.

I really don’t think I want to attempt to pursue a romantic relationship in the context of an entity that thinks it’s acceptable to cover up any abuse a teen takes against a kid, or a grown man takes against a woman.

But many, many churches try to hide or sweep abuse cases under the carpet, AND they will often victim-blame the victim on top of that.

If you are a single woman, would you REALLY trust any single man you meet at the following church? I would not. I really hesitate any more to view church as a safe place to meet a potential husband.

Not only do some real dirt balls attend church, but the church itself will often brush off or cover up for the abuser and refuse to help the victim.

And, this is the height of hypocrisy. Most churches claim to believe in “the family” and in protecting the “traditional family,” and they go around talking about “family values” constantly, yet, when a child is fondled or raped by a teen or adult, these same churches try to cover up the abuse!

The church will often counsel the parents to refrain from calling law enforcement. How is sweeping crime and sin against children being “pro family values”? It is not.

(Link):  Family: Tennessee church hid bathroom rape of 3-year-old, lied to parents and urged against prosecution

Excerpts:

  • by D. Edwards
  • A Family filed a lawsuit this week against a church in Brentwood, Tennessee for allegedly covering up the rape of their 3-year-old child.
  • The lawsuit, which was (Link):  obtained by WTVF, indicates that the family left their 3-year-old-boy in the care of the church’s Children’s Ministry on the Sunday of August 24, 2014.

Continue reading “Family: Tennessee church hid bathroom rape of 3-year-old, lied to parents and urged against prosecution – Ditch the Equally Yoked Teaching”

Pastor Saeed Abedini’s Wife Halts Public Advocacy, Citing Marital Woes and Abuse -article says her husband is a Porn Addict

Pastor Saeed Abedini’s Wife Halts Public Advocacy, Citing Marital Woes and Abuse -article says her husband is a Porn Addict

Before I get to the link to the news story itself – about jailed pastor Saeed being a porn user who abused his wife, I wanted to comment about the story first (I also have comments below the news page excerpt below).

So much for the Christian teachings about “being equally yoked,” which is generally understood to mean a Christian person can only marry another Christian.

While it’s true that a lot of Non-Christians are scum balls who would make poor spouses, I have so far not seen any evidence that so-called Christian men are any more trustworthy, loving, or mature than your average atheist guy, Hindu, Jewish guy, or whomever.

I actually tweeted in support of this guy a few times several months back… but he was abusing his wife, and she says he has a porn addiction problem – I didn’t know this until a couple of days ago, when I saw this article.

I also want to remind you of another point I touch on often on this blog: Contrary to what some conservative Christians teach on how to go about getting married, you do NOT have to be perfect, clean  yourself up, or change yourself in some fashion to “earn” a spouse.

Continue reading “Pastor Saeed Abedini’s Wife Halts Public Advocacy, Citing Marital Woes and Abuse -article says her husband is a Porn Addict”

People Suspect Pastor Davey Blackburn May Have Something to Do With His Wife’s Murder

People Suspect Pastor Davey Blackburn May Have Something to Do With His Wife’s Murder

(In the days after making this post, I have added new links, mostly at the bottom of the post)


I haven’t been keeping up with this news story all that much. I’ve just skimmed a few other blog posts about it.

A lot of Christian chatter I’m seeing online indicates people suspect that Davey Blackburn, who is a pastor, may have hired a hit man to murder his wife, or he killed her himself. They find his actions suspicious, his demeanor and tone when talking about his deceased wife suspicious.

All I care to say at this point that if true, if this pastor husband did in fact murder his wife or paid someone to have her killed, I would not be shocked.

I already keep a long, running list of such stories – I have many blog posts on my blog here with links to news stories of men who claim to be Christ-followers, who are married, who are arrested for killing or beating their wives. You can view that collection of links (Link): here.

The police said a few days ago that they cleared the husband, but still, a lot of people I’ve seen online think that the husband had something to do with his wife’s murder.

Let this news story of the pastor’s wife being found dead, with a bullet wound in her head, be a reminder that if you do actually marry, there is no guarantee your spouse will live for years with you.

Your spouse may die, leaving you single again.

I mention this because secular and Christian culture tend to paint this picture of life that there is a “soul mate” for everyone, that you will find this soul mate person, marry them, and live happily ever after.

The truth is, your spouse may be a crime victim, get in a car wreck and die, or develop cancer and die.

Christians therefore need to stop placing so much emphasis on “the nuclear family” and marriage – the New Testament teaches that all believers in Christ (and Christ himself) are to take priority over your spouse or blood relations.

The way this works, is that if you are married and your spouse dies, you will not be left completely alone, IF your church family (assuming you have one) will be your family too. You won’t be left alone.

However,  many churches don’t view other Christians in this manner; they all think the cure for loneliness is to marry and have some kids. But what happens if you never marry, you divorce, or your spouse dies?

Edit. Here are some new links, by way of Watchkeep’s Twitter and Janet Mefferd’s Twitter:

(Link):  Questions, Inconsistencies Remain in Murder of Indiana Pastor’s Wife

Excerpts:

Jarrett emphasized that the pastor is not a person of interest, but must be investigated because in so many cases, husbands and boyfriends are involved when a female is murdered.

The pastor said he left the house at 6am on the morning of the murder to go to the gym, then found his wife when he returned.

Jarrett said another issue is that authorities cannot pin down the exact time that Amanda Blackburn was shot.

Therefore, Jarrett said police can’t rule out that Amanda was shot before the pastor left.

Jarrett said the suspect in the surveillance image is said to have broken into a home nearby beforehand, but there was no sign of forced entry at the Blackburn home and nothing was taken.

… Jarrett noted that there was no “discernible” sadness, tears or anguish from the pastor during the interview.

He said all people grieve in different ways, but others have also pointed out that the pastor smiled at other points in the interview.

(Link):   Pastor takes time away from Indianapolis to mourn slain wife

Here are links to the news story about Blackburn and his wife’s murder:

(Link):  Cops vow to catch killer of Indianapolis pastor’s wife as they probe next-door break in: ‘We will find you’

Nov 13, 2015

Indiana crime fighters cleared a popular pastor in the fatal shooting of his pregnant 28-year-old wife and narrowed their investigation to a rash of burglaries in the couple’s leafy Indianapolis neighborhood, officials said during an emotional press conference Friday morning.

Continue reading “People Suspect Pastor Davey Blackburn May Have Something to Do With His Wife’s Murder”

Christian Ladies: Be Equally Yoked to Christian Men Who Like To Have Sex With Dogs! (Re: Jerald Hill news story)

Christian Ladies: Be Equally Yoked to Christian Men Who Like To Have Sex With Dogs! (Re: Jerald Hill news story)

Christians who lecture or shame Christian single women into marrying only other Christians are… full of, you know.

When you have CHRISTIAN men jailed for rape, murder, or initiating dog sex, you have nothing to lose by dating or marrying Non-Christian men.

Why settle for a Non-Christian pagan dude when you, fine Christian single woman, can get a gem like this: a Baptist guy who gets hot and bothered thinking of doing it with Fido. (gag)

I haven’t yet seen in these articles if this guy is married or is a father (see this link for why I mention that).

(Link): [Baptist] Church Leader Jerald Hill Suspected Of Attempted Dog Sex

    A church leader in Roach, Missouri, is out of a job after being arrested for allegedly trying to arrange a sexual encounter with a dog.

    Jerald Hill, 56, was arrested Tuesday on suspicion of attempted unlawful sex with an animal and attempted animal abuse.

(Link): Missouri Baptist leader arrested for attempted bestiality

(Link): Missouri Baptist leader arrested for allegedly seeking sex with a dog

(Link): Missouri Baptist church leader arrested for seeking sex with dog

    by Joe Kemp
    August 2014

    Jerald Hill, 56 — the head of the Windermere Baptist Conference Center — was collared after he turned to Craigslist to arrange sex with a dog and the ad was answered by an undercover police officer.

    A Missouri church leader was arrested after he turned to Craigslist to arrange sex with a dog, authorities said.

    Jerald Hill, 56 — the head of the Windermere Baptist Conference Center — was collared after a police officer spotted the online ad and offered to unite the man with a pooch at a Columbia park, local media reported.

    The undercover cop, an officer with the Boone County Sheriff Department’s Cyber Crimes Task Force, charged Hill with soliciting sex with an animal.

    He was released after posting a $1,000 bond.

    The conference center will likely choose a new president and CEO after Hill’s arrest.

    “We are concerned for the well-being of Jerry…and we are also concerned with the well-being of Windermere,” Chairman Arthur Mallory said.

    “Windermere will continue to function in a good way…It is a significant piece of God’s kingdom’s work.”

h/t to SCCL Facebook Group, which is where I think I first saw this story
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Related posts (YES SAD TO SAY THERE ARE RELATED POSTS ABOUT THIS TOPIC)

(Link): Married Southern Baptist and Calvinist Preacher and Father of Boy Exposes His Naked Penis to Teen Girl in Store

(Link): Married Couple Charged With Making Dog Porn (wife had sex with dogs while husband filmed it)

(Link): Being Unequally Yoked – should Christians marry Non Christians or only marry Christians

(Link): Pastor charged in wife’s murder was headed to Europe to marry boyfriend, prosecutor says – Single Xtian Ladies: Kick that Be Equally Yoked Teaching to the Curb! Also: Marriage and Parenthood do not make people more godly or mature or loving or ethical

(Link): Being Equally Yoked: Christian Columnist Dan Delzell Striving to Keep Christian Singles Single Forever

(Link): Another Example of Why the Equally Yoked Teaching is A Joke for Single Christian Women : Baptist Preacher Arrested for Allegedly Fire Bombing Ex Girlfriend’s House While She Was In It

(Link): Lists of More Married Preachers Arrested for Being Rapists or Child Molesters

(Link): Males and Females Raped at Christian College, College Doesn’t Care – Equally Yoked is a Joke

(Link): Christian Single Women: Another Example of Why You Should Abandon the “Be Equally Yoked” Teaching: 21-Y-O Christianity Student, Children’s Minister Charged With Murdering Fiancée He Was to Wed in August; Made It Look Like Suicide

(Link): American Teen Missionary Raped Several Orphan Children in Africa, One As Young As Four – Being Equally Yoked is a Joke

(Link): Christian Host Pat Robertson Tells Christian Woman Who Married Christian Man Who Turned Out to Be Totally Unethical That She has Discernment of a Slug – Single Women: toss Be Equally Yoked teaching in the trash can

(Link): Wife of Preacher Shoots, Kills Him, Recounts Years of Physical and Sexual Abuse– So Much for the Equally Yoked Teaching and the Notion that Christian married sex is Mind Blowing

(Link): Preachers Arrested For, or Accused of, Promoting Prostitution, Rape, Spreading HIV, Child Molesting etc – And Christian Single Women Should Only Consider Marrying So Called Christian Men Why?

Baptist missionary and husband murders wife on Valentine’s Day so he could be with his mistress – Tell me again why Christian women should only date or marry Christians when garbage like this keeps happening?

Baptist missionary and husband murders wife on Valentine’s Day so he could be with his mistress – Tell me again why Christian women should only date or marry Christians when garbage like this keeps happening?

Another news story that

    1. disproves, or displays the pointlessness of, the “be equally yoked” position
    and
    2. that married Christian sex is great
    and
    3. married people are more mature, self-less, godly, and sexually pure than singles

(Link): Illinois Man Accused of Killing Wife on Valentine’s Day Heads to Trial

    A former Baptist missionary from Illinois is on trial for allegedly killing his wife on Valentine’s Day so he could be with the Lithuanian college student prosecutors say is his mistress.

    Nathan Leuthold, 39, of Peoria, Ill., called police to his home on Feb. 14, 2013, saying he was the victim of a home invasion. It was there that officers found the body of his wife, Denise Leuthold, with a single gunshot wound to the head.

    “I observed some kitchen cabinets open, and some kitchen drawers on the floor. I felt that this was not an ordinary burglary,” Officer Richard Linthicum testified.

    Investigators say Denise Leuthold was killed with a Glock 40, the same gun Leuthold owns but which is now missing. They also found Internet searches for “how to muffle a gun,” “hitting someone over the head to knock them out,” and “lethal injection,” on Leuthold’s computer.

    Leuthold has been charged with first degree murder. Prosecutors say they believe he murdered his wife so he could be with Aina Dobilaite, the 20-year-old college student.

    Leuthold and his wife met Dobilaite during a missionairy trip to Lithuania. When she turned 18, the couple sponsored her to come to the United States.

    Now prosecutors say they believe Leuthold’s relationship with the college student was more than just a sponsored student.

    “I know you want me dead. Why do you want to humiliate me by running around with a 20-year-old,” Leuthold’s wife allegedly wrote in a day planner entry investigators found.

    Leuthold’s lawyers say there is no evidence that Leuthold was romantically involved with the college student or that he shot his wife on Valentine’s Day.

    If convicted, Leuthold faces up to 45 years in prison.

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Related posts:

(Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

Christian Confusion on Sexual Ethics – Sexual Purity is For All Ages and All Marital Statuses, and Sexual Sin is Not Just Limited to Adultery – Rape is Not An Extra Marital Affair

Christian Confusion on Sexual Ethics – Sexual Purity is For All Ages and All Marital Statuses, and Sexual Sin is Not Just Limited to Adultery – Rape is Not An Affair

Conservative Christians keeps presenting some very skewed views about sex and sexual sin.

While a lot of Christians have watered down the biblical teaching of “virginity- until- marriage,” the ones who still do bother to give it lip service seem to think that sexual sin only befalls unmarried people who are younger than age 25.

There is an ignorant assumption by most Christians that married couples will never commit sexual sin, because they are supposedly getting their sexual desires satiated on a regular basis with their spouse (which is false, see these links: Link 1, Link 2, Link 3, Link 4, for just a few examples).

In some recent news stories about rape, some Christians have been characterizing the reported rapes as being “extra marital affairs,” and one young lady, who was raped several times at age 19 by a co-worker, told her Christian college (B.J.U., Bob Jones University) about the rapes, and was told by college staff that she needed to repent of her sin of being a rape victim.

I wrote about the first story here:
(Link): Married Youth Pastor Jailed for Sexually Assaulting Teen Girl Writes Editorial About Said Abuse for Christianity Today, Uproar Ensues On Christian Blogs

One rape victim also made the comment in an interview that she thought in terms of sexual sin as being ‘adultery’ and did not have a concept of rape.

As one commentator over at SCCL Facebook group pointed out in regards to this news story about BJU’s mishandling of response to sexual assault victims (source),

    The lack of a working, moral vocabulary for sexual violation is a huge blindspot for faith communities. The Christianity Today article last week was also couched in “adultery” terms. The discussion of sexual morality has to grow outside the marriage/adultery frame. Also, that moral vocabulary has to do a better job in connecting to broader social justice. Less hush-up. More call-out.

It is true that often, in their stereotypes about sex and sexual sin, the Christians who do bother to preach against sexual sin any more (many do not preach against it), still often neglect to teach that celibacy applies to married couples (e.g., when one partner cannot perform, or the couple are apart for whatever reason), as well as to unmarried people, and that sexual purity applies to people of all ages, not just to teen-aged kids.

(Link): Rape victims say Bob Jones University told them to repent

Excerpts:

    June 18, 2014 1:00PM ET
    by Claire Gordo

    Raised in a conservative Mennonite home in rural Ohio, Katie Landry was a sheltered kid. She hadn’t even held hands with a boy when, at age 19, she says her supervisor at her summer job raped her. Two years later, and desperate for help, she reported the abuse to the dean of students at her college.

    He goes, ‘Well, there’s always a sin under other sin. There’s a root sin,’” Landry remembers. “And he said, ‘We have to find the sin in your life that caused your rape.’ And I just ran.”

    …But most damaging was how, through the language of Scripture, victims say they were told that their sins had brought on their rapes, that their trauma meant they were fighting God and that healing came from forgiving their rapists.

    [Katie Landry discusses having been raped by a co-worker]

    Landry didn’t know the word rape; she only knew adultery, and liked the man’s wife, she said. Afraid of her attacker and deeply ashamed, she said she failed most her classes first semester, and kept her assaults a secret until her junior year.

I do think there is something very amiss with any so-called Christian group, church, or denomination, that speaks of sexual sin only in terms of adultery, so that when a young, unmarried woman is sexually assaulted, she does not even have the terminology to describe it, or is not even familiar with the word “rape.”

I also wonder if the church Ms. Landry attended did not read aloud from the Scriptures, where episodes such as the rape of Tamar are discussed (see (Link): 2 Samuel 13:32).

Christians have idolized marriage to the point that it’s given them faulty views about sexual sin, where some of them think only un-married adults are capable of sexual sin, or others think that the only sexual sin married people are capable of is “adultery” (never mind all the married men who view porn, use prostitutes or who sexually fondle children, aside from men raping 19 year old women).

I see a lot of outrage over this B.J.U. story from left wingers, ex Christians, etc, and rightly so – but – these are the same groups who criticize sexual purity teachings, which I find a tad hypocritical.

If Christians supported and taught sexual purity across the board rather than only emphasizing virginity for females ages teen to 25, but also taught and upheld the biblical views that males are to remain virgins until marriage as well, and that any sexual activity outside of marriage (rape, consensual affairs, porn use, etc), was wrong, maybe some of these problems could be lowered.
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Related posts:

(Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

(Link): Perverted Christian Married Couple Wants to “Wife Swap” (For Sex) With Other Christian Couple – Why Christians Need to Uphold Chastity / Celibacy For All People Even Married Couples Not Just Teens

(Link): No Christians and Churches Do Not Idolize Virginity and Sexual Purity – Christians Attack and Criticize Virginity Sexual Purity Celibacy / Virginity Sexual Purity Not An Idol

(Link): Males and Females Raped at Christian College, College Doesn’t Care – Equally Yoked is a Joke

(Link): How Feminists Are Making Women Easier Rape Targets

(Link): The ol’ Christian myth that married couples are impervious to sexual sin but singles have lots of sexual sin

(Link): New ‘Christian Swingers’ Dating Site Offers Faithful Couples Chance to ‘Hookup’

(Link): Marriage does not guarantee sexual purity: Married guy discovers his wife is having sex chats with online buddy

(Link): Why Christians Need to Uphold Lifelong Celibacy as an Option for All Instead of Merely Pressuring All to Marry – vis a vis Sexless Marriages, Counselors Who Tell Marrieds that Having Affairs Can Help their Marriages

(Link): Jason the Christian’s Sexless Marriage – Christians promise hot regular steamy married sex but it isn’t true

(Link): AARP post: How to Handle a Sexless Married Life – But Christians Promise You Great Hot Regular Married Sex

(Link): More Married Couples Admit to Sexless Marriages (various articles) / Christians promise you great frequent sex if you wait until marriage, but the propaganda is not true

Singer Tim Lambesis Said He Became Atheist But Kept Claiming to Be Christian to Keep Selling Music to Faithful (update)

Singer Tim Lambesis Said He Became Atheist But Kept Claiming to Be Christian to Keep Selling Music to Faithful (update)

Yet another reason single ladies need to stop thinking in terms of ‘I can only marry another Christian because of “be not yoked.”‘

You can start out marrying a guy who claims to be a Christian and by, who all appearances is an actual Christian, but then he converts to atheism and hires a hit man to murder you.

This is an update to my previous post:
(Link): Married Christian Rock Singer in Legal Trouble for Hiring Hit Man To Kill His Wife – he also had drug addiction

Here is the update:

(Link): As I Lay Dying Singer Tim Lambesis Said He Became Atheist But Kept Claiming to Be Christian to Keep Selling Music to Faithful

    BY LEONARDO BLAIR , CP REPORTER
    June 17, 2014|4:01 pm

    Tim Lambesis, lead singer and founder of Christian metalcore band As I Lay Dying, recently confessed that he and other members of his band had become atheists but kept claiming to be Christians so they could keep making money selling records to Christians.

    … He [Lambesis] explained that he was afraid of revealing his true thoughts about God because he was afraid it would affect the record sales of his band; so he simply chose to just say, “I’m not a Satanist” as a cover.

    “As far as the [YouTube] video I did explaining Pyrithion’s lyrics … I was trying to put out a fire. I was afraid it would affect As I Lay Dying sales, which would affect my overall income. …

    …”Truthfully, I was an atheist. …” he said.

    Lambesis noted that the majority of “Christian bands” he encountered while he was on tour had taken similar positions – where they were simply working to collect a check.

    “We toured with more ‘Christian bands’ who actually aren’t Christians than bands that are. In 12 years of touring with As I Lay Dying, I would say maybe one in 10 Christian bands we toured with were actually Christian bands,” he said.

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Related posts:

(Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

(Link): Being Unequally Yoked

(Link): Wife of Preacher Shoots, Kills Him, Recounts Years of Physical and Sexual Abuse – So Much for the Equally Yoked Teaching and the Notion that Christian married sex is Mind Blowing

(Link): Christian Host Pat Robertson Tells Christian Woman Who Married Christian Man Who Turned Out to Be Totally Unethical That She has Discernment of a Slug – Single Women: toss Be Equally Yoked teaching in the trash can

Married Youth Pastor Jailed for Sexually Assaulting Teen Girl Writes Editorial About Said Abuse for Christianity Today, Uproar Ensues On Christian Blogs

Married Youth Pastor Jailed for Sexually Assaulting Teen Girl Writes Editorial About Said Abuse for Christianity Today, Uproar Ensues On Christian Blogs
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There has been an uproar the last day or so, ever since Christianity Today published a long page by a jailed sex offender who preyed on a teen girl.

I don’t know the man’s name because the piece was published anonymously. I shall here after refer to the author, the convicted sex offender, as “Mr. Perverted Youth Pastor,” or “Mr. PYP” for short.

The author of the piece, Mr. PYP, is in his 30s, and he worked as a youth pastor. He was jailed for statutory rape of one of his female church students under his charge, a young lady he began to groom for exploitation when she was around 11 or 12 years old.

Mr. PYP said in his piece published by Christianity Today that he found the attention from the young lady flattering and intoxicating, and felt his wife was not paying him enough attention, and IIRC, I think he mentioned that the wife was not putting out enough (sexually), or whatever. (I only skimmed the guy’s story, I did not read all of it closely.)

The thing is, a grown man of age 30 should not be seeking validation from an 11 or 16 year old girl – that is not only morally wrong, perverted, and gross, but absolutely pathetic.

I think the editors at Christianity Today intended for this pervert’s essay to be a helpful warning to Christian men not to get too close to women (or something along those lines), and which unfortunately also plays into false stereotypes about the genders, but the guy who wrote the page, Mr. PYP, never fully and unambiguously owns his sin, moral failing, and crime, so it comes across as though he’s excusing and justifying his behavior.

There’s a bit of “victim blaming” in the piece on Mr. PYP’s part, where he uses terminology such as,
“When WE [he and the young lady he was victimizing] decided to end the affair, I felt that…”

I don’t feel like summarizing the guy’s entire story and situation on my blog, so click here to read his page (“My Easy Trip from Youth Minister to Felon”) and read it for yourself.

The aspect of this story I am interested in for the purpose of this blog is that here he is, he is a married adult (with, IIRC, a kid of his own), he worked as a pastor, and yet he also sexually exploited a young lady, and I will explain further below why this interests me.

Another aspect I am interested in regarding this story is that Mr. PYP does not take full responsibility for his actions in the piece, and he classifies his sexual exploitation of the young lady as an “extra martial affair.”

Now, I, to a point, do regard his actions towards her as an “extra marital affair” because he was a MARRIED man who was sleeping with this girl – he was in fact sleeping around on his wife, but of course, his actions are more than just a standard extra-martial affair, because he was taking advantage of a young lady.

In my opinion, his actions contain traits of both situations, sexual abuse as well as an extra-marital affair.

There are a few other writers online who disagree with my view on this; they think his actions were 100% sexual abuse and that the phrase “extra marital affair” should not even be used when discussing this case, but I never- the- less see a tinge of extra-marital affair in the situation as well (but on the man’s part only; I am not blaming the girl at all).

I am simply saying that yes, while Mr. PYP did sexually abuse a teen girl, that in doing so, he also violated his marital vows to his wife to remain faithful to the wife – which to me can categorize his actions as being an affair as well as being sexual abuse.

Why I am interested in this story:

As I have pointed out time and time again on the blog, Christians have several falsehoods and fairy tales and stereotypes about marriage, sex, dating, gender relations, and whom they feel a Christian should marry.

Many conservative Christians believe that married people are immune from sexual sin. Christians falsely believe if a man is married, he must be getting steady, regular, hot sexy sex from his wife, and he therefore will not use porn, fondle kids, or have mistresses. This is of course naive and incorrect, because even men married to sexy wives, who get regular, great sex from the wife, still use porn and have affairs.

Continue reading “Married Youth Pastor Jailed for Sexually Assaulting Teen Girl Writes Editorial About Said Abuse for Christianity Today, Uproar Ensues On Christian Blogs”

Six Christian Homeschool Brothers Some of Whom Attended a FIC (Family Integrated Church) raped their kid sister over ten year period

Six Christian Homeschool Brothers Some of Whom Attended a FIC (Family Integrated Church) raped their kid sister over ten year period

So, tell me again, evangelical, Baptist, Fundamentalist, and Reformed Christians, why should Christian single women only marry Christian men, when they rape their own sisters? You’ll have to do better than quote “be not yoked to an unbeliever” at me. I don’t think most unbelievers rape their own sisters for ten years.

(Link): 6 Brothers Charged With Sexual Assault of Sister While Parents Looked On

    This is one of the most sick and twisted stories of incest and abuse that I’ve heard in a while.

    Six brothers from a small county in North Carolina have been charged with the sexual assault of their little sister, 16, who allegedly endured their abuse from the time she was four until she was almost 15.

    Perquimans County Sheriff Eric Tilley said he was “disgusted” by the situation, and by that I’m sure he meant throw up in my mouth and weep for humanity appalled. He also said he blamed the parents. “It’s your responsibility as a parent to teach [your children] right and wrong,” he said. “When you see a child doing something that is totally wrong and you don’t correct them, then the child thinks it’s OK.”

    … All six brothers purportedly participated in the alleged abuse, which ranges from rape to sexual assault.

    Aaron Jackson, 19, Benjamin Jackson, also 19, Nathaniel Jackson, 21, Mathew Jackson, 23, Jon Jackson, 25, and Eric Jackson, 27, were arrested last week and are being held on $150,000 bond.

    Their parents, John Jackson, 65, and Nita Jackson, 54, were also charged with felony child abuse, as they were aware of the attacks yet did nothing to stop it.

    Tilley said, “Part of the investigation revealed that, at one point, the mother observed some of this activity and never did anything about it.”

    Continue reading “Six Christian Homeschool Brothers Some of Whom Attended a FIC (Family Integrated Church) raped their kid sister over ten year period”

Males and Females Raped at Christian College, College Doesn’t Care – Equally Yoked is a Joke

Males and Females Raped at Christian College, College Doesn’t Care – Equally Yoked is a Joke

As I said on a previous post (this one to be exact), if you’re a single, female Christian who wants marriage, and you’re over 30, you don’t have many single Christian males to choose from.

If you want to marry, you will have to consider dating and marrying a Non Christian, regardless of the “be equally yoked” passage.

Plus, in the two years or more I’ve been skimming news stories to add to this blog, I have seen what appears to be a flood gate of incidents of Christian men (and sometimes women) who have admitted to, or been arrested for, pedophilia, rape, serial killing, stealing, drug abuse, prostitution solicitation.

You may meet an atheist or agnostic who has better morals than some of these Christian males – you really cannot afford to assume that because people interpret the “be equally yoked” verse to mean you can only marry another Christian that anyone claiming Christ is a safe bet.

This story was on SCCL group and appears on the Slacktivist blog. It’s about a woman who was raped, and also a male student who was raped (by other males) and the college did not care, and even accused the female rape victim of fornicated (and the guy who raped her is now working as a preacher some where!). Unbelievable.

(Link): Guest post: ‘God is Done with You’: Pensacola Christian College and Sexual Violence

Excerpts:

    March 11, 2014
    By Fred Clark

    At Pensacola Christian College (PCC), a fundamentalist school similar in ideology and purpose to Bob Jones University and Patrick Henry College, there is a saying: “attending PCC is a privilege, not a right.” Students who attend here agree to abide by the Pathway, the school’s honor code, as well as signing an agreement that gives PCC the right to expel any student for any reason at any time.

    When Beth* and David* signed this agreement, they had no idea they were going to be expelled for being raped.

    Continue reading “Males and Females Raped at Christian College, College Doesn’t Care – Equally Yoked is a Joke”

Former Minister Raped Ten Year Old Girl For Three Years, Wife Helped Him to Cover it Up – Marriage Does Not Make People More Mature and Godly

Former Minister Raped Ten Year Old Girl For Three Years, Wife Helped Him to Cover it Up – Marriage Does Not Make People More Mature and Godly

(Link): Sabattus woman convicted on all counts related to husband’s sex assaults of preteen

Excerpts (click the link above to read the entire story)

    by CHRISTOPHER WILLIAMS, Staff Writer
    Lewiston-Auburn | Wednesday, March 12, 2014

    AUBURN — It took a jury 13 minutes to find Christal Natasha Gagnier guilty on three counts related to her husband’s repeated sexual assault of a preteen girl over three years.

    …In opening statements Monday, Bogue told the jury that Natasha Gagnier [wife of rapist who was a minister] had provided the victim with a medication to treat a sexually transmitted disease the girl apparently contracted from Michael Gagnier.

    Bogue said Natasha Gagnier also coached the victim on what to say to police, including the omission of certain facts, before an interview last year.

    …Lobozzo said Michael Gagnier invented an imaginary boyfriend for the victim to explain the need for Natasha Gagnier to help the victim undergo repeated pregnancy tests, evidence that Natasha Gagnier didn’t know about her husband’s sexual assaults against the victim.

    … He said Michael Gagnier began sexually abusing Natasha when she was 12, and married her after she turned 18.

    Lobozzo said Michael Gagnier had been ordained as a minister before coming to Maine with Natasha. He suffered delusions about his authority under God , Lobozzo said.

    In 2012, the victim told a school friend that Michael Gagnier had raped her. That friend passed along the victim’s account to a guidance counselor. The victim later denied the abuse after she was threatened and verbally abused by Gagnier, according to prosecutors.

    The victim disclosed again last year to the same friend, who, in turn, told a youth worker at a Lewiston church retreat.

    A Sabattus police officer said Gagnier admitted in an interview to having sex with the girl over a three-year period, starting when the girl was 10, confirming the victim’s account. Gagnier said he was abusing narcotics at that time.

    He was arrested and charged nearly a year ago; Natasha Gagnier was arrested in June.

Married Preacher (Davis) Found Guilty of Exposing Women to HIV

Preacher Found Guilty of Exposing Women to HIV

This is another example of…

1. Married professing Christians are not more godly, ethical, or mature than single people

2. “Be not yoked to an unbeliever” is a joke to single Christian women who want to marry

3. Married Christian sex is not “mindblowing” – as Christians often claim it is

This preacher was married. One of the women he infected with HIV had prior to their affair been celibate for fifteen years, according to the news articles I have read. Another article says that Davis has a 15 year old son: parenthood does not make a person more godly or mature, as Christians often claim.

(Link): Atlanta minister gets 20 years for not disclosing HIV before sex

      Updated: Feb 21, 2014 4:42 PM CST

    By Tony McNary

  • After Davis’ 15-year-old son and two other men asked the judge to go easy on him, Davis took the stand and apologized.

(Link): Family Weeps as Adulterous Former Pastor Craig Lamar Davis Found Guilty of Exposing Women to HIV

      BY LEONARDO BLAIR , CP REPORTER

    January 23, 2014|5:03 pm

  • The family of former pastor Craig Lamar Davis, 43, of Full Gospel Baptist Church in Atlanta, Ga., wept in court Tuesday as a jury found him guilty of two counts of reckless conduct for failing to tell two women he had affairs with while he was married that he is HIV positive.
  • According to CBS Atlanta, the now divorced Davis admitted to jurors on the witness stand during his four-day trial that doctors had diagnosed him with the AIDS virus in 2005.
  • As the verdict was being read by the jury, the Atlanta Journal-Constitution said Davis sat motionless and was seen comforting weeping family members shortly before he was taken into custody.
  • Davis could be imprisoned for up-to 20 years for each count of reckless conduct. His sentencing is scheduled for 10 a.m. on Feb. 21.
  • One of his ex-lovers and victim Ronita McAfee, who initiated the case against him, said, “I am pleased with the verdict today. It has been my hope and prayer that justice would be served and the reckless behavior of Mr. Davis would be exposed.”
  • … Davis was arrested in July 2012. McAfee reportedly met him on Facebook and the two became lovers. She confronted Davis about his HIV status after one of his former lovers contacted her and told her the then pastor had given her HIV. McAfee, who says she has since repeatedly tested negative for the virus, made it her mission to expose Davis’ reckless behavior after that.
  • He reportedly infected another woman in church leadership with the HIV virus who had been celibate for 15 years, according to the Today News Gazette.
  • “The swiftness at which the verdict was delivered demonstrated Clayton County jurors are going to protect their community,” said Clayton County prosecutor Kathryn Powers after the verdict. “They are not going to stand for someone infecting recklessly with such a deadly disease.”

(Link): Atlanta man [who is a preacher] to be sentenced in HIV case

Excerpts:

      By Kathy Jefcoats

    February 20, 2014

  • The first defendant convicted in Clayton County of reckless conduct by an HIV-infected person will be sentenced today in Superior Court.
  • ….He faces similar charges involving a second woman in Fulton County who has been diagnosed as HIV-positive.

(Link): Pastor Craig Davis Sentenced To 10 Years For Knowingly Exposing Women In Congregation To HIV

Excerpts:

      Feb 22, 2014

    By NewsOne Staff

  • …. As previously reported by NewsOne, Davis was found guilty in January of two counts of reckless HIV.
  • Davis, who was married at the time that the allegations came to light, initially denied both his HIV status and cheating on his wife.
  • In a last-ditch plea for leniency during Friday’s sentencing hearing, the formerly “unrepentant” pastor said that his actions were “wrong.”

(Link): HIV Positive Pastor Sentenced To 10 Years In Prison For Knowingly Exposing the virus

    Former pastor of Full Gospel Baptist Church in Atlanta, Georgia, Minister Craig Lamar Davis has been sentenced to 10 years in prison,after being convicted just one month ago of knowingly exposing female congregates to the HIV virus. He learned he was HIV positive back in 2005, was charged with two counts of reckless HIV.

  • Lamar Davis was accused and charged with carrying on 2 extramarital affairs while knowingly exposing them to the HIV virus.
  • One of his accusers, who allegedly remained celibate for 15 years prior to sleeping with the minister, tested positive for the deadly virus, while his second accuser, Ronita McAfee, tested negative. Davis, however, denies ever sleeping with McAfee.

(Link): Man gets 10 years in Clayton reckless HIV case

      By Tammy Joyner

    The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

  • A Clayton County judge sentenced a Stone Mountain man to 10 years in prison for knowingly exposing a woman to HIV.
    The sentence imposed by Superior Court Judge Geronda Carter was half of the maximum time Craig Lamar Davis could have faced on the two counts of reckless HIV. A Clayton jury found Davis guilty of the two counts on Jan. 21.

(Link): Former pastor sentenced to 10 years in HIV sex case

This is similar to another post I did a few months ago, this one – it discusses another HIV pastor, named Carr, who had affairs with women and infected them:

(Link): Beware of HIV / AIDS Infected Christian Male Preachers On Dating Sites
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Related posts this blog:

(Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread – thread contains many links to news stories of married Christian people who were caught in sin, arrested, etc)

(Link):  Alabama Preacher Admits to having AIDS, Sleeping with Church Members

(Link): Parenthood Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

(Link): Christian Preacher Admits He Won’t Preach About Sexuality and Against Sexual Sin For Fear It May Offend Sexual Sinners

(Link): “Born Again Virgins” – Christian concept / term that mocks literal, actual virginity

(Link): Former N.Y. pastor convicted of raping 2 teen girls

(Link): Another Example of Why the Equally Yoked Teaching is A Joke for Single Christian Women : Baptist Preacher Arrested for Allegedly Fire Bombing Ex Girlfriend’s House While She Was In It

(Link): Christians and Cheap Grace Concerning Sexual Sin

(Link): Christian Response FAIL to Sexual Sin – Easy Forgivism

(Link): Being Equally Yoked: Christian Columnist Dan Delzell Striving to Keep Christian Singles Single Forever

(Link): Permissiveness, Cheap Grace, and Easy Forgivism Run Amok in Christianity – Dallas Preacher Todd Wagner Says Christians Can Use Heroin (parallel to topic of sex, celibacy) / Why some Christians turn agnostic

(Link): Christians Are Following Secular Trends in Premarital Sex, Cohabitation Outside of Marriage, Says Dating Site Survey (survey/article)

(Link): Church allows nude worship because ‘Jesus was crucified naked’

(Link): Christian Single Women: Another Example of Why You Should Abandon the “Be Equally Yoked” Teaching: 21-Y-O Christianity Student, Children’s Minister Charged With Murdering Fiancée He Was to Wed in August; Made It Look Like Suicide

(Link): A Critique of – 10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry by J. Lee Grady / And on Christians Marrying Non Christians -and- Unrealistic, Too Rigid Spouse Selection Lists by Christians

(Link): Gender Complementarian Advice to Single Women Who Desire Marriage Will Keep Them Single Forever / Re: Choosing A Spiritual Leader

(Link): Pastor charged in wife’s murder was headed to Europe to marry boyfriend, prosecutor says – Single Xtian Ladies: Kick that Be Equally Yoked Teaching to the Curb! Also: Marriage and Parenthood do not make people more godly or mature or loving or ethical

(Link): Wife of Preacher Shoots, Kills Him, Recounts Years of Physical and Sexual Abuse – So Much for the Equally Yoked Teaching and the Notion that Christian married sex is Mind Blowing

Let Us Prey: Big Trouble at First Baptist Church – article about sexual abuse in Baptist churches

Let Us Prey: Big Trouble at First Baptist Church – article about sexual abuse in Baptist churches

Standard disclaimer: Being married and a parent, or saying you are a Christian, or working as a preacher, does not automatically make you more godly, ethical, or loving than anyone else.
And single Christian ladies who’d like to get married: time to give up on the “be equally yoked” teaching, since so many Christian men are rapists and perverts.

I blogged about one of the pervy idiots mentioned in the article before, here:

Notice in the article below that one of the sexual assault victims was depicted as being a “temptress.”

I have blogged on something along those lines before, please see

(Link): Let Us Prey: Big Trouble at First Baptist Church

    A string of assaults and sexual crimes committed by pastors across the country have one thing in common: The perpetrators have ties to the megachurch in Hammond, Indiana.

    BY BRYAN SMITH

    PUBLISHED DEC. 11, 2012

    … [Baptist preacher] Schaap continued to rub the stick—up and down, up and down—and converse with God, sometimes angrily, sometimes ecstatically, for more than a minute. What he was doing was unmistakable: simulating masturbation, in front of thousands of children, in the middle of a church service. A row of white-coated high-ranking churchmen seated behind Schaap watched in silence. At the end, as usual, young men streamed up to the stage.

    … The true believers of the ultrafundamentalist Independent Baptist movement were accustomed to Schaap’s style.

    If he wasn’t scolding his flock for not living up to God’s demands (tithing, volunteering, “soul winning”), he was delivering R-rated sermons that, for example, likened the Lord’s Supper to having sex with Jesus Christ. “He would just repeatedly talk about sex and repeatedly talk about women, how they were dressed and body parts . . . in graphic detail,” recalls Tom Brennan, who attended the church for six years and is now an Independent Baptist pastor at Maplewood Bible Baptist Church in Chicago.

    Unfortunately, it went well beyond talk. Last September, Schaap, 54, a married father of two, pleaded guilty to taking a 16-year-old girl he was counseling at First Baptist across state lines to have sex. Denied bond, he awaits sentencing in the Porter County Jail; the minimum term is ten years.

    But Schaap is not simply one of those rogue evangelists who thunders against the evils of forbidden sex while indulging in it himself. According to dozens of current and former church members, religion experts, and historians interviewed by Chicago—plus a review of thousands of pages of court documents— he is part of what some call a deeply embedded culture of misogyny and sexual and physical abuse at one of the nation’s largest churches.

    Continue reading “Let Us Prey: Big Trouble at First Baptist Church – article about sexual abuse in Baptist churches”

Church volunteer sued by second victim; Robert Sobczak, 20, admitted to molesting 8-year-old boy

Church volunteer sued by second victim; Robert Sobczak, 20, admitted to molesting 8-year-old boy

Standard disclaimer: Being married and a parent, or saying you are a Christian, does not automatically make you more godly, ethical, or loving than anyone else.
And single Christian ladies who’d like to get married: time to give up on the “be equally yoked” teaching, since so many Christian men are rapists and perverts.

(Link): Lawsuits: Willow Creek Church negligent in molestation cases

    2/14/14
    by Gaynor Hall Reporter

    Two lawsuits claim that negligence by officials at a church in South Barrington allowed a volunteer to molest two young boys in a special needs program.

    Robert Sobczak Junior, 20, pleaded guilty in December to the aggravated criminal sexual abuse of an 8-year-old special needs boy.

    On Friday, the boy’s family filed a lawsuit claiming the ega church was negligent.

    It was February 17th 2013, almost a year ago, the 8-year-old boy told his mother, the lawsuit alleges, that Sobczak him into a room and sexually assaulted him.

    Sobczak was a volunteer for the “Special Friends” church program and church officials say children in the program– while their parents are in service– are supposed to be under the supervision off at least two people at all times.

    Sobczak was immediately arrested but he wasn’t indicted in that case until three months later and that’s when church officials held a meeting informing parents about the allegation.

    Parents of another special needs child who filed a lawsuit in November say it wasn’t until after that meeting that church officials told them their child may have been a victim too

(Link): Church volunteer sued by second victim; Robert Sobczak, 20, admitted to molesting 8-year-old boy

Excerpt:

    February 14, 2014 (SOUTH BARRINGTON, Ill.) (WLS) — A second victim of a convicted child sex offender and church volunteer is taking legal action.

    The lawsuit was filed in Cook County Circuit Court on behalf of an 8-year-old boy who 20-year-old Robert Sobczak admitted to molesting.

    Sobczak was a volunteer at Willow Creek Community Church in South Barrington.

Sexual Assault victim speaks out against former youth minister

Sexual Assault victim speaks out against former youth minister

The pervy youth pastor is married and has five children of his own, one is one year younger than one of his victims.

Standard disclaimer: Being married and a parent, or saying you are a Christian, does not automatically make you more godly, ethical, or loving than anyone else. And single Christian ladies who’d like to get married: time to give up on the “be equally yoked” teaching, since so many Christian men are rapists and perverts.

I may have blogged on this particular case before. It seems familiar.

(Link): Sexual Assault victim speaks out against former youth minister

    Posted: Feb 11, 2014 6:27 PM CST
    By Brittany Rainville, Reporter

    BRIDGE CITY – A former youth minister is out of jail on bond after being indicted on six counts of sexual assault of a child.

    Joshua Luke McDonald, 36, of Bridge City is accused of having sexual relations with two victims under the age of 17, over a two year period. McDonald’s bond was set at $10,000 for each count — totaling $60,000.

    One of his victims said she met McDonald at First Baptist Church in Bridge City where he was a youth minister. She said the abuse began in January 2011, when the victim was 15-years-old.

    She said McDonald and his wife developed a parental relationship with her and that she frequently spent weekends over their house.

    According to the victim, the abuse began when McDonald put his hand down her shirt and over time progressed to what she called “not just sex.”

    She said once the abuse started she felt too trapped to leave, which is why she only recently decided to talk about it.

    “I was away from him long enough to see through his lies and manipulation,” she said. “My health was declining and I knew it was because I was keeping such a big secret.”

    She said she eventually left First Baptist Church and began attending Commonground Community Church, but said McDonald began working there a month later.

    Orange County District Attorney John Kimbrough said the sexual assault charges have to do with the victim’s age and nature of the crime.

    “A child that’s under 17 but older than 13, that would be sexual assault,” he said. “Children under 13 that would be aggravated.”

    Kimbrough said the next step will be McDonald’s arraignment. If found guilty of all charges he could face a sentence of up to 120 years.

    “Sexual assault is a second degree felony,” he said. “He’s looking at a range of punishment, on each of the indictments, as low as five years probation and as high as 20 years prison and a $10,000 fine.”

    McDonald has six children of his own including five daughters, one of whom is a year younger than one of the alleged victims.

Christian Women Sexually Assaulted by Christian Men At Christian College – College Blames The Victims / Re: Patrick Henry College

Christian Women Sexually Assaulted by Christian Men At Christian College – College Does Nothing

I’ve said it before, and I will say it again: if you are a Christian single woman, you need to possibly reconsider the “be not yoked to an unbeliever” teaching, since so many self professing Christians turn out to be rapists, killers, or don’t care if you are raped or killed.

Just because a person or organization quotes Bible verses, and says they believe in Jesus, does NOT mean that person is necessarily an actual Christian or a caring, ethical person (or organization).

Another example…..

(Link): Sexual Assault at God’s Harvard Patrick Henry College was supposed to be a safe place. For these young women, it wasn’t.

(Link): Patrick Henry College under scrutiny for alleged sex assaults

    By Stephen Tschida February 19, 2014 – 04:41 pm

    (WJLA) – Patrick Henry College, founded in 2000, has just more than 300 students enrolled. It is a Christian college in Purcellville, where drinking, dancing, and premarital sex are frowned upon
    Continue reading

    “We can see high standards in the rules order and different areas, so I am happy,” says parent Neissy Briceno.

    But the school is suddenly the subject of scorn after a report with a provocative title details a series of alleged sexual assaults in liberal magazine, New Republic.

    Former students maintain that when they told the Dean of Student Affairs, Sandra Corbitt, about male students assaulting them, she suggested the young women brought it on themselves by their behavior and dress.

    The New Republic reports that Patrick Henry is among a handful of colleges that do not take federal funding. Thus, it is not required to provide programs to combat sexual assault on campus and to assist alleged victims who report incidents to police.

    The Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests (SNAP) is now weighing in on the controversy and calling for Patrick Henry to fire Dean Corbitt.
    “She basically blamed the victims she did not give them support,” said Becky Ianni, SNAP Director.

    We tried to speak with Dean Corbitt, but instead were told that she is unavailable. Becky Ianni, herself a survivor of sexual abuse when she was a child at a religious school, worries that the college could be further stigmatizing possible victims:

    “How many other victims could there be? I mean, are there others who are afraid to come forward because no one will believe them or they will be blamed?”

    No one from Patrick Henry would talk with us about the report or allegations against the college.

(Link): Rape culture and evangelical culture collide at “God’s Harvard”

    A reporter details how the evangelical Patrick Henry College systematically failed victims of sexual assault
    KATIE MCDONOUGH

    Investigative journalist Kiera Feldman has an incredible (though deeply troubling) piece in the New Republic detailing how Patrick Henry College, an evangelical Christian private university commonly referred to as “God’s Harvard,” systematically failed student victims of sexual assault.

    In a series of interviews with female students, Feldman uncovers a pattern within the administration of dismissing or blaming the women who disclosed their assaults to school officials. After a student named Sarah told the school’s dean of student life Sandra Corbitt that she had been sexually assaulted, she was told, “He’s a nice boy. Are you sure you want to report this?”

    More from Feldman:

    Sarah says Corbitt grilled her on certain details: What was she wearing? Had she flirted with him or given him mixed signals? “The entire line of questioning was basically like, ‘Did you make it up? Or did you deserve it in some way? Or was it consensual and now you’re just lying about it to make him look bad?’ ” recalls Rachel Leon, Sarah’s roommate who had accompanied her to Corbitt’s office for support.

    Listening to Sarah from across her desk, the dean was as polite as ever. But she didn’t seem to believe Sarah’s story at all. “If you were telling the truth about this,” Sarah remembers Corbitt saying, “God would have kept you conscious to bear witness to the abuse against you.” […]

    Corbitt summoned Sarah for several rounds of questioning. “It’s my job to poke holes in your story,” Sarah remembers Dean Corbitt saying. “I have to make sure that you’re not lying to me. … I don’t think you’re wholly innocent in this situation.”

    Continue reading “Christian Women Sexually Assaulted by Christian Men At Christian College – College Blames The Victims / Re: Patrick Henry College”

Christian Single Women: Another Example of Why You Should Abandon the “Be Equally Yoked” Teaching: 21-Y-O Christianity Student, Children’s Minister Charged With Murdering Fiancée He Was to Wed in August; Made It Look Like Suicide

21-Y-O Christianity Student, Children’s Minister Charged With Murdering Fiancée He Was to Wed in August; Made It Look Like Suicide

Christian single women: ditch the “equally yoked” teaching. What matters is if the guy you are marrying treats you well, NOT if he professes a belief in Christ.

You have to judge a guy based on his characer, track record, and how he treats you in particular, not how often he goes to church, or if he reads the Bible, or says he “accepted Jesus as Savior.”

Here’s another news story about a Christian man who killed his wife (to be):

(Link): Devout Christian studies student allegedly kills fiancée, makes it look like suicide

    Charles Pittman, a student at Union University, allegedly gunned down Olivia Greenlee on Tuesday night in a Jackson, Tenn., parking lot. Police say the 21-year-old tried to make it look like the music education major had killed herself — and has since been arrested on charges of first-degree murder and evidence tampering.

    BY LEE MORAN / NEW YORK DAILY NEWS
    MONDAY, FEBRUARY 17, 2014, 8:24 AM

    A devout Christian studies student learning about moral decision-making shot his fiancée dead then tried to make it look like a suicide, police said.
    Charles Pittman, 21, allegedly gunned down long-term lover Olivia Greenlee as they sat inside her Toyota Corolla in Union University, Jackson, Tenn., parking lot last Tuesday night.

    He is then accused of staging the scene to make it look like the music education student had killed herself.

(Link): 21-Y-O Christianity Student, Children’s Minister Charged With Murdering Fiancée He Was to Wed in August; Made It Look Like Suicide

    BY LEONARDO BLAIR , CP REPORTER
    February 17, 2014|2:10 pm

    A 21-year-old Christianity student and children’s minister who allegedly murdered his fiancée he was expected to wed in August, then tried to make it look like a suicide, has been suspended by his church after he was arrested and charged by the Jackson Police Department in Tennessee.

    Investigators in the case announced Saturday that they had charged Charles Pittman, 21, with the first-degree murder of his fiancée, Olivia Greenlee, 21. Pittman was also charged with tampering with evidence related to the murder, according to the Jackson Sun.

    Both Pittman and Greenlee attended Union University in Tennessee where Pittman is a senior Christian ministries major while Greenlee was a senior in music education. While the two were engaged they lived separately off campus.

    Capt. Tyreece Miller said that at 7:50 a.m. Wednesday, police were called to a parking lot behind Luther Hall on campus where Greenlee was discovered dead in her 2001 Toyota Corolla. A gun was found inside the car and the preliminary cause of death was noted as a single gunshot wound.

    During a three-day investigation Miller said they discovered that the gun belonged to a friend of Pittman’s who acknowledged it was his gun but did not know it was taken.

    Pittman soon became a person of interest in the case, and after a follow-up interview he was taken into custody based on the findings of investigators. Police argue that Pittman shot Greenlee as she sat in her car on Tuesday night, then staged the scene to make it look like it was a suicide.

    “This case shows that domestic violence affects people from all different races, religions and socioeconomic statuses,” Miller said on Saturday.

    … Church leaders at Providence Baptist Church in Alamo, where Pittman served as youth and children’s minister, say he has been suspended pending the outcome of the case against him, according to a WBBJ report.

(Link): Friend: Greenlee was “one of those girls everyone just noticed and loved.”

(Link): Tennessee Kids Pastor Charles Pittman Charged With Murdering Fiancé Olivia Greenlee, Made It Look Like Suicide

(Link): Tenn. Children’s Minister Charged With Fiancée’s Murder, Staged To Look Like Suicide

    By Sarah Fruchtnicht, Tue, February 18, 2014

    A 21-year-old children’s minister in Tennessee was suspended by his church when he was charged in the shooting death of his fiancée.

    The Jackson police department announced Saturday that Union University student Charles Pittman was charged with the first-degree murder of Olivia Greenlee, 21.

    Greenlee was found dead in her car with the doors locked last Tuesday. A 9-mm handgun was found in the vehicle.

    … “This case shows that domestic violence affects people from all different races, religions and socioeconomic statuses,” Capt. Tyreece Miller said Saturday.

    The couple planned to be married in August.

(Link): Shock after ministry student’s murder charges

(Link): Fiancé charged in death of Union University student

(Link): Christian Student Allegedly Kills Fiancee and Stages Scene Months Before the Two Wed (PHOTOS)

    Christian ministries major Charles Pittman a student at Union University in Tennessee, was arrested on charges of first-degree murder and evidence tampering for the murder of his Fiancee Olivia Greenlee.

    Pittman, 21, allegedly shot his long-term girlfriend turned Fiancee Greenlee as they sat inside her Toyota Corolla, in the campus parking lot last Tuesday night.

    According to The Jackson Sun, he is then accused of staging the scene to make it look like Greenlee had killed herself.

(Link): Christianity student, 21, arrested for ‘shooting 21-year-old fiancee dead and staging crime scene to make her death look like suicide’

(Link): Christian studies student accused of shooting girlfriend, making it look like suicide

(Link): Tennessee Youth Pastor Charged with Murder of Fiancee

(Link): Murder Charges Filed Against Tennessee Christian Ministries Student

(Link): Charles Pittman, Christianity student shoots dead his fiancé but made it look like suicide