The One Question You Should Never Ask a Single Person at Christmas by J. Hocking

The One Question You Should Never Ask a Single Person at Christmas by J. Hocking

(Link): The one question you should never ask a single person at Christmas

Excerpts:

by Jana Hocking
December 15, 2022

This time of year can put a shiver up the spine of most singletons.

Yes, it’s Christmastime, and oopsy daisy, you forgot to bag yourself a partner in time for dinner with the family.

You’re armoring up for the “Why haven’t you got yourself a partner yet?” question from annoying relatives with good hearts, and the idea of waking up by yourself instead of to a boisterous house full of children and a sexy husband can seem pretty darn crappy.

Except … it’s not.

You see, we focus so much on the traditional side of Christmas, we forget that this time of year as a singleton is actually ridiculously fun.

Don’t believe me? Let me point out a few reasons why you can thank the Lord he didn’t throw your soulmate into your direct path this year.

1. Sweet, sweet freedom

Unlike partnered-up couples who are arguing about who will be designated driver, and trying to figure out whose family gets Christmas and whose gets Boxing Day, you get the glorious gift of freedom to pick and choose to do whatever the heck you want for Christmas.

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Village Fed Up With Weddings Put Up ‘Brides and Grooms Not Welcome’ Signs

Village Fed Up With Weddings Put Up ‘Brides and Grooms Not Welcome’ Signs

(Link): Village fed up with weddings put up ‘brides and grooms not welcome’ signs

Excerpts:

Oct 26, 2022
by Jasper King

People in a quiet Norfolk village have launched a campaign to deter people from getting married in a nearby stately home.

Couples wanting to get married the 16th century Oxnead Hall near Aylsham are greeted with ‘brides and grooms are not welcome’ signs on their drive to the venue.

Neighbours have complained about people wandering through their yards and keeping them awake at night with loud music.

Susi and Roger Crane, who own a farm which surrounds the venue, are among those who’ve had enough.

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‘Miserable’ Karen ‘Ruins’ Neighbors’ Wedding with Lawnmower: ‘Just Rude’

‘Miserable’ Karen ‘Ruins’ Neighbors’ Wedding with Lawnmower: ‘Just Rude’

Yes, you can marry one day, but your wedding day can be a disaster. LOL.

(Link): ‘Miserable’ Karen ‘ruins’ neighbors’ wedding with lawnmower: ‘Just rude’

Excerpts:

June 21, 2022
By Brooke Kato

These newlyweds were not a happy couple.

A “miserable” neighbor — dubbed a “Karen” — seemed to purposefully “ruin” a wedding across the street, droning out the bride with a lawnmower as she walked down the aisle.

In fact, the whirring during her lawn mowing session was so noisy that it even disturbed the couple’s vows so the audience couldn’t hear them.

The clip, which garnered more than 293,000 views on TikTok, has sparked outrage in the comments.

“The second the bride’s song came on and she walked down the aisle this Karen decided to PURPOSELY mow her lawn and yell at us to ruin the wedding,” read the text on the video, captioned “some people are so miserable.”

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Emma Responds – My Comments

Emma Responds – My Comments

-post updated below, June / August 2022… post has been edited after publication to add more links and commentary –

The individual I wrote about previously, who decided, a week or so ago, she no longer wanted to be friends with me (after having first contacted me years ago online), contacted me again this evening via a private chat app. babyCry3

I referred to her as “Emma” in (Link): the last blog post or two, but “Emma” is not her real name.

I have no idea how “Emma” was able to message me again on this other app, as I unfriended her on there, but a message popped up in my in box there.

I will again be keeping “Emma” anonymous and changing any identifying details.

I may be sharing some of her comments to me so I can respond.

Emma wrote to me:

“You’re free to reply, but I will not be responding”
— end —

Okay, so I will be replying here.

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Clinical Depression Doesn’t Make People Incapable of Making Choices or Changes 

Clinical Depression Doesn’t Make People Incapable of Making Choices or Changes 


Follow-Up Posts:

(Link): Addendum – Mental Health and Treatment and the Goals of Mental Health Professionals

(Link): An Alarming Trend in Psychotherapy by Christine Sefein – (Woke Therapists Want You To Stay In a Victim Mindset and Miserable)


I don’t frequently feature mental health related topics on this blog, but a friend of mine recently became very angry and “blew her top” at me and basically said she wants nothing more to do with me, and this topic pertains to the reason why.

(I will be doing another blog post or two later about this friend biting my head off this past couple of weeks.
And I will repeat this in the future, but:
The irony is that this now ex friend is someone who spent about a year and a half or two years asking me on Twitter if I could befriend her on other sites and share more about myself with her.
I was hesitant to do that but eventually took a chance. She and I have never met in person – but she initially wanted to befriend me further, not vice versa!)

Despite the fact I informed this (now ex) friend a few times over the last two or three year period that I was diagnosed with clinical depression when I was around age 11 by a psychiatrist,
and that this diagnosis was verified as I got older (into my 30s) by about three other psychiatrists (in a total of three different states),
this ex friend, who I shall call “Emma” (not her real name) continued to insist that there is no way I ever could have had clinical depression.

I can’t begin to describe how insensitive and obnoxious I found that.

Side note:

I was appreciative of the times this ex-friend listened to me describe my anxiety-laced concerns with her, as she did many times, and I made sure to thank her for that several times in the last few years.

I even asked this ex friend, “Emma,” a time or two that if she found my anxiety produced ruminations on the same topics crazy-making that I could back off, but she said it was okay.

But as I told her, I was fighting my anxiety to make changes in my life. I’ve not seen her fight her depression to make changes in her life.

I also told her I realize it’s not good to stay angry at people, which is why I’ve been trying to move past anger at family members of mine. I don’t think she’s willing to let go of some of her issues to move forward, though.

At any rate…

I finally politely yet directly told Emma this past week, when she once more insisted there’s no way I ever had depression, that it was not okay for her to keep denying my medical diagnosis like that. babyCry3

Pictured here: Crying Baby: a Meme of Emma.

And she has never apologized for it, and she told me this about three times over a 3 or 4 year period!

But she kept acting angry and incredulous that rather than offer her non-judgmental emotional support recently (which I had done for a few years now), that I dared to change strategy and offer her a few suggestions.

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Brother’s Future Wife Expects Woman To Babysit 40 Kids During Their Wedding, Goes Ballistic When She Refuses

Brother’s Future Wife Expects Woman To Babysit 40 Kids During Their Wedding, Goes Ballistic When She Refuses

(Link): Brother’s Future Wife Expects Woman To Babysit 40 Kids During Their Wedding, Goes Ballistic When She Refuses

Excerpts:

…“We don’t get along at all,” the author of this r/AITA post said about Emily, her future SIL.

It turns out, Emily asked her to babysit the guests’ babies at their ‘childfree’ wedding, the same wedding she initially didn’t allow the author to attend because she was too young.

“In Emily’s eyes, a child is anyone under twenty-one years old,” the author explained.

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Dumbfounded by Stepson’s ‘Humiliating’ Father’s Day Gift: ‘I Almost Cried’

Dumbfounded by Stepson’s ‘Humiliating’ Father’s Day Gift: ‘I Almost Cried’

Yet another example of why, if you get married, it’s best to NOT marry someone who has children from a previous relationship.

The stepson does sound rather thoughtless – but – the stepfather who wrote in asking for advice sounds as though he could be very sensitive.

Depending on how you look at it, it’s possible the stepfather is a little on the sensitive side, and the kid is not intending to be cruel. If someone in my family did this to my Dad when I was a kid, like myself or one of my siblings – as a kind of joke – I think my Dad either would’ve found such a gesture either really weird or he would’ve found it funny.

If the stepson didn’t mean to be malicious about this, I’d give the kid a break. But if he that giving a stinky sock to his stepdad would in any way upset his stepdad, this is not okay.

Again, this sort of thing makes you sit there and feel fortunate you never had a kid, and definitely makes you think, “I don’t want to date anyone who already has a kid.”

(Link): Dumbfounded by Stepson’s ‘Humiliating’ Father’s Day Gift: ‘I Almost Cried’

June 24, 2021
by Emerald Pellot

A man can’t seem to connect with his 16-year-old stepson, and it’s become truly upsetting.

He explained the situation on Reddit’s “Am I the A******” forum. Despite him putting in the effort, his stepson doesn’t seem interested in bonding. Whenever the teenager does give him attention, it usually turns out to be a prank. But on Father’s Day, the Reddit poster believes his stepson took the jokes too far.

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“Christian Preacher” James MacDonald Continues to be an Obnoxious Ass Clown

“Christian Preacher” James MacDonald Continues to be an Obnoxious Ass Clown

The scare quotes in this post are intentional, because MacDonald is not a legitimate preacher – he has disqualified himself per the Bible’s criteria – and I doubt he is an actual Christian, based on his on-going sexism and narcissistic traits (like “Christian preacher” Mark Driscoll).

I don’t always agree with Julie Roys on every issue, but she seems to be a highly competent, honest, reporter with integrity.

Roys is simply reporting on ethical breaches and issues as committed by various Christian pastors and Christian ministries, which is a good thing.  I don’t think she has an anti-Christian or anti-church or anti-James MacDonald agenda. She’s simply reporting the news as it happens.

(Link): James MacDonald Continues Tirade; Defends Using Hashtag “#JRgossipsl**”

That would be “Gossip Slut” above, but censored for a presumably, primarily Christian audience who tends to be too sensitive and delicate about cuss words or crass language. I don’t quite have that compunction.

According to that article, and MacDonald’s own blog posts, he actually defended using sexually tinted (and non-sexually tinted) insulting language towards Christian reporter Julie Roys.

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I’m An Atheist, But I Had to Walk Away from The Toxic Side Of Online Atheism by C. Stedman

I’m An Atheist, But I Had to Walk Away from The Toxic Side Of Online Atheism by C. Stedman

This atheist, Stedman, outlines some of the very reasons I reject atheism, particularly anti-theism atheism: many of its adherents behave like arrogant or hateful jerks. They display an irrational, seething, obsessive hatred for anything about faith or deity.

Apparently, being an anti-theist atheist turns people into jerks. I don’t want any part of a belief set that would turn me into a jerk, nor would I want to associate with such a group of people.

The atheists I’ve known in real life and online who are kind are not anti-theists; they don’t rant and rave and belittle theists. They have a more “easy going” form of atheism that is way easier to tolerate.

(Link): I’m An Atheist, But I Had to Walk Away from The Toxic Side Of Online Atheism by C. Stedman

Excerpts:

…In an environment that rewards anger and sound bites, I attempted to humanize my community — one of the most negatively viewed in the country. Afterward, strangers from around the country messaged me to say the conversation helped them rethink their views on atheists.

But the chatter online took a different, but sadly familiar, tone.

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Regarding Tacky or Inappropriate Christian Themed Jokes, Signs, or Art by Christians or By Non-Christians

Regarding Tacky or Inappropriate Christian Themed Jokes, Signs, or Art by Christians or By Non-Christians

About a week ago, Facebook group owner of SCCL (Stuff Christian Culture Likes) did a post with a photo of a sign celebrating Easter season in front of a church with the words “Nailed It.”

You can view that particular Facebook post (Link): here.

Many in the comments section found the church “Nailed It” sign to be tacky, as did the guy who runs the “Friendly Atheist” blog (see here).

In turn, a Christian guy wrote a post about this whole thing here.

I don’t care for this kind of cheap marketing, either. I think it makes light of the crucifixion of Jesus.

However, there may be a tiny bit of hypocrisy going on here.

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Too Cool for School: The Ex, Quasi, or Liberal Christians (and Atheists) Who Think Their Snarkiness Against Christians Makes Them Clever (But It Doesn’t)

Too Cool for School: The Ex, Quasi, or Liberal Christians (and Atheists) Who Think Their Snarkiness Against Christians Makes Them Clever (But It Doesn’t)

This post contains some vulgar language.

edited to add: I’ve already been told by two different people that this post is too long. Sorry, being concise has never been a talent of mine.

Someone also informed me that this blog post of mine has been linked to at a sub thread on Reddit (Link): here / on (Link): Reason and Faith on Reddit

Someone in that Reddit thread thinks my title of this post is “an atrocity,” but I feel it pretty much accurately sums up what I’ve seen online the last decade or more


In my faith crisis of the last few years, I’ve visited more sites, blogs, groups, and forums that are critical of Christians or Christianity. I sometimes find myself agreeing with some of their criticisms of evangelical, Protestant Christianity (sometimes not).

One of the recurrent tendencies that crops up in such blogs, forums, and groups that disturbs or annoys me  (or has me doing a lot of eye rolls) are that many of the people who post to these types of groups act as though they are Too Cool for School.

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Pat Robertson’s Incredibly Insensitive Advice to Gail the Unmarried Woman

Pat Robertson’s Incredibly Insensitive Advice to Gail the Unmarried Woman 

I am infuriated at Robertson’s response to this Gail woman who wrote to him. I am trying to keep my language clean in this post, but I want to cuss up a storm.

A woman named Gail wrote a question to Christian television host Pat Robertson. You can view her question and listen to Robertson’s response below (I will embed the video in this post).

Gail wrote to Pat Robertson (despite the fact I’ve tweeted several times over begging women of America to stop asking him for relationship advice – dang it Gail, have you not seen my warnings??) and Gail asked Robertson a question.

Gail wanted to know why all her female friends are married but she is not, even though she’s prayed and asked God to send her a husband. Gail also said she is having financial problems.

Robertson went on to shame and scold this woman. He said (to paraphrase) that she had a lot of egotistical nerve expecting God to just answer her prayers and plop a husband down in her lap. Robertson told Gail if she wants a husband or financial help to go out and work for it.  He implied that she is at fault in some way.

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