Every Successful Relationship is Successful For The Same Exact Reasons by M. Manson
….So, that’s what I did. I sent out the call the week before my wedding: anyone who has been married for 10+ years and is still happy in their relationship, what lessons would you pass down to others if you could? What is working for you and your partner? And if you’re divorced, what didn’t work previously?
The response was overwhelming. Almost 1,500 people replied, many of whom sent in responses measured in pages, not paragraphs.
It took almost two weeks to comb through them all, but I did. And what I found stunned me…
They were incredibly repetitive.
1. Be together for the right reasons
Don’t ever be with someone because someone else pressured you to. I got married the first time because I was raised Catholic and that’s what you were supposed to do. Wrong.
I got married the second time because I was miserable and lonely and thought having a loving wife would fix everything for me. Also wrong.
Took me three tries to figure out what should have been obvious from the beginning, the only reason you should ever be with the person you’re with is because you simply love being around them. It really is that simple.
Before we even get into what you should do in your relationship, let’s start with what not to do.