Even If You’re Married You Can Die Alone – Elderly Married Couple Found Dead

Even If You’re Married You Can Die Alone – Elderly Married Couple Found Dead

Sad story linked to below.

One scare tactic people (usually my fellow conservatives) will pull on singles to get them to hurry up and marry is to tell them that if they remain single, they will die alone, or that being married some how makes dying easier.

By the way, side note, here – if the church did its job and acted as spiritual family to everyone, instead of focusing on their blood relations, then elderly single people who are unrelated to them would do just fine.

A  Christian man or woman should not have to marry to have “family” look after them – if churches stopped worshipping The Nuclear Family and actually got off their marriage-worshipping asses, they could look after elderly people who live alone!

Anyway, about this view that you should marry or have to so that you won’t die alone: this is a pretty dumb argument, because married people die alone all the time.

My mother died in the wee hours of the morning in a hospital. She was supposed to be there for only about a week before returning home.

My father and I were not with her when she passed – we got a phone call from the nursing staff that she had passed away. My mother was married to my father. Her being married did not prevent her from dying, nor was my father with her when she died.

In this story below, an elderly married couple died.  They were ‘kind of’ together when they died, but it did not help them.

The husband in the story had dementia, and the wife could not walk, or not walk well.

The husband accidentally drove off the road, got the car stuck in the mud, left his wife in the car to go get help, walked down the street – he died (not sure if he had a heart attack of what).

His wife died in the car, some X feet away from her husband who was dead on the road side.

She was in the car alone in temperatures over 80 degrees. (Remember, she could not walk, or found it difficult, and her son or the cops or whomever, found her wheelchair back at her house, it was not in the car with her.)

Okay: so you can be married and still end up dying. You can end up dying alone.

I’m not sure if your husband dying a few feet of where you are (as in this story) would be any more comforting than your husband not being there at all.

So to all the singleness-shamers out there, stop telling us singles that we’ll die all alone, because you know what, married people? You may die all alone, too.

Not everyone dies in a warm, cozy bed surrounded with the smiling faces of loved ones before they kick off.

(Link):  He was his wife’s caretaker for decades but got dementia. Their deaths were ‘horrific’

BY SAMANTHA SCHMIDT

Aug 2017

…Getting around became even more difficult for the Tarnowskis – Mary, 78, and Ron, 81. The couple hardly ever left the home which their son, Karl Tarnowski, built adjacent to his own so he could keep an eye on them.

…On Saturday afternoon, eight days after the couple went missing, the family received their answer, and a tragic end to their strenuous search.

A U.S. Border Patrol helicopter found the couple’s Chevy Tahoe on an overgrown, abandoned driveway in a swampy area off the road just two miles away from the family’s hunting property.

They were near Brookston, a town about 30 miles from their Duluth home.

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75 Year Old Politician (Democrat) Fondles Breasts of 103 Mother- in- Law Who Has Dementia

75 Year Old Politician (Democrat) Fondles Breasts of 103 M-I-L Who Has Dementia

(MIL = Mother In Law.)

This is so disgusting. I’m also at a fail to see how my fellow conservatives keep promoting these views that marriage makes makes men more godly and mature, or how being in a nuclear family makes society better in some fashion, when I see news stories of married men who are doing things like fondling elderly women who have dementia.

All the dirt bag in this story is concerned about is that this act has him in trouble and may ruin his career. He doesn’t care that he objectified a woman, and his own MIL, plus, she has dementia. This guy is a sicko.

The article mentions that this guy is a Democrat.

(Link) 75 Year Old Politician Fondles Breasts of 103 MIL Who Has Dementia

A former Pennsylvania politician has been convicted of indecent assault after admitting that he fondled the breasts of his 103-year-old mother-in-law suffering from dementia — the “biggest mistake” of his life, he said.

William Spingler, former commissioner of Radnor Township, said during a hearing Thursday that the “stupid, harmless act” has destroyed his life, (Link):  the Delaware County Daily Times reports.

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Sex and Alzheimer’s – Selfish, Perverted Husband Rapes His Alzheimer’s Wife

Sex and Alzheimer’s – Selfish, Perverted Husband Rapes His Alzheimer’s Wife

This is another example of why Christians – for the ones who are still teaching biblical sexuality and not white-washing and diminishing fornication – need to be reminding married people that chastity and celibacy is for them also.

Sexual self control is not just for single adults, or teen agers, or college aged people, but churches often behave as though it is, and as though it’s impossible for anyone over age of 25, which is bogus.

If your wife has Alzheimers and is in a hosptial bed in a nursing home or SNF, you should be able to restrain yourself, neither using her body for sex, nor using prostitutes or having sex with willing, adult partners – no sex for you, pal.

If you want to have sex again, you should divorce the wife and remarry. Not that I think people should just flatly dump a spouse who has a mental or physical impairment, but I am saying, if these louses and selfish perverts refuse to live without sex, then I’d rather see them go about things the right way, make a clean break with the impaired spouse.

There is something deeply selfish, perverted, unseemly, and distasteful about a husband who puts his sexual desires above his wife, to have sex with her while she lay addle-brained in a hospital bed – to take advantage of a mentally impaired or feeble spouse is sick and demented.

Has nobody else heard of the concept of masturbation? Solo sex? Sex with another human being is a luxury, not a necessity. This guy could have been spanking the monkey back in his own home, if he was that desperate for an orgasm – for him to subject his sick, bedridden wife to sex is beyond disgusting. I rank this right up there with child rape.

By the way, you (and this includes married people) don’t really have a “right” to sex, not in a secular sense, nor even in a biblical sense.

The New Testament may have a remark about two partners not depriving each other of sexual relations consistently, but unfortunately, too many (male, sexist) Christians distort this verse to mean that the wife has to have sex whenever, however, and as frequently as the spouse wants it, no matter what – this is another example of Christians engaging in lazy and shallow biblical interpretation. They will take a single verse and blow it out of proportion, and twist it to mean something it does not mean.

I hope the judge rules that the police can cut this pervert’s dick off.

Celibacy, chastity, and sexual purity, according to the Bible, do not have age cut-off limits, but I’m amazed at the number of Christian and Non-Christian people who feel entitled to do whatever they want to do sexually if they reach a certain age.

A lot of people seem to feel once they reach 35, or 45, or 55, that they can have sex as often as they want, with as many partners as they want. They seem to feel that celibacy and virginity are only for 12 year old kids.

(Link): In an Iowa courtroom, an astonishing case of sex and Alzheimer’s

by Sarah Kaplan

  • April 2015
  • …After a four-year battle with Alzheimer’s, Donna Lou Rayhons died in a nursing home in August, just four days shy of her 79th birthday. A week later, Henry Rayhons was arrested and charged with sexual abuse. State prosecutors accused him of having sex with his wife while she was incapacitated by dementia.
  • Rayhons’s trial, which begins Wednesday, is a rare and possibly unprecedented examination of a little-explored aspect of consent. While much of the discussion about rape these days swirls around the influence of drugs, alcohol and the culture on college campuses, the Rayhons case asks a much different question: When is a previously consenting spouse suffering from dementia no longer able to say yes to sex?
  • ..Katherine C. Pearson, who teaches and writes about elder law at Penn State’s Dickinson School of Law, told Bloomberg News that this is the first case of its kind she’s seen in more than 20 years of working in the field.

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