‘Deadly Wives’ Reality TV Series – ‘Very Devoted Christian’ Woman Who Held Bible Studies Drowned Her Husband in a Pool of Hydrochloric Acid

‘Deadly Wives’ Reality TV Series – ‘Very Devoted Christian’ Woman Who Held Bible Studies Drowned Her Husband in a Pool of Hydrochloric Acid

As I’ve said many times on this blog, there are times I am glad I have never married. After watching this show a few times, I definitely feel that way.

Here is a link or two about the show:

(Link): Deadly Wives: Acid Lady

(Link): Deadly Wives: Crime and Investigation

(Link): Deadly Wives

(Link): Deadly Wives TV Show

I caught a couple of episodes the other day on LIFEtime channel or whatever it’s called of a reality series called “Deadly Wives.”

Usually, it seems abuse and crimes in marriages are male- on- female, but in this show…

It’s a show about women who murder their husbands, female- on- male violence.

The first episode I saw was about a woman who killed her husband by giving him horse tranq via drops in his mouth from a Visine bottle, then she buried him in a vineyard.

The second episode I saw disturbed me far more than the first.

It was about a woman named Larissa, a chemist, who was married to Tim. She knocked Tim out with chloroform, and when he was only partially knocked out (he may have still been alive), she had a male accomplice named James stuff Tim into a large, blue barrel, where upon she dumped about four gallons of Hydrochloric acid on him.

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‘Sex Starved Wife’ Cuts Off Her Husband’s PENIS After He Refused to Make Love to Her for Ten Years

‘Sex Starved Wife’ Cuts off Her Husband’s PENIS After He Refused to Make Love to Her for Ten Years

Well, this certainly helps put another dent in the Christian gender stereotype that women are not interested in sex, that only men are.

When I see news stories like this, I also sometimes think, “Maybe being single isn’t so bad.”

I also think that stories like this go to show that the Christian propaganda about people needing to be perfect before God will bless them with a spouse is obviously a crock, and, marriage does NOT make every one more mature, godly, and loving.

(Link): Sex Starved Wife’ Cuts off Her Husband’s PENIS After He Refused to Make Love to Her for Ten Years

A wife in India has cut off her husband’s penis after he refused to have sex with her for more than a decade.

Rita Yadav, 28, attacked her husband Ved Prakash, 31, at their home in Khora Colony, in Ghaziabad, Uttar Pradesh, in northern India, on Thursday morning.

She claimed he had refused to have sex with her for ten years of their 11-year marriage and she believed he was having an affair.

‘He used to tell me he hated me,’ the housewife said.

‘We used to fight daily and he told me he hated looking at my face.

‘He always threatened he would have an affair. I was desperate to have children.

‘I used to beg him but he said he’d make love to someone else instead.

‘I’d been dealing with the torture for years and I couldn’t take any more.’

When Ved, a taxi driver, arrived home from his night shift yesterday morning he went straight into the shower.

But as he stepped out Yadav hit him over the head with a stone grinder and he fell unconscious.

She then used a kitchen knife and slashed his penis.

Yadav locked him in the bathroom and she then handed herself into the local police station.

Ved regained consciousness after 30 minutes and called his friend in agony, who immediately took him to Jaypee Hospital.


Related Posts:

(Link):   Frustrated Husband Chops Off His Genitals With A Knife After His Wife Hadn’t Had Sex With Him For A DECADE

(Link):   Married Christian Man Says He’s Been in Sexless Marriage for Nineteen Years and Is Not Happy About It

(Link): Resident Christian Marriage Advice Writer at Christian Mag Admits Some Christian Marriages are Sexless

(Link): More Married Couples Admit to Sexless Marriages (various articles) / Christians promise you great frequent sex if you wait until marriage, but the propaganda is not true

(Link): AARP post: How to Handle a Sexless Married Life – But Christians Promise You Great Hot Regular Married Sex

 

Married Christian Man Says He’s Been in Sexless Marriage for Nineteen Years and Is Not Happy About It

Married Christian Man Says He’s Been in Sexless Marriage for Nineteen Years and Is Not Happy About It

At least I am assuming this guy who wrote in to the TV show is a Christian – I cannot fathom why a Non-Christian guy would even consider writing a host of a Christian TV show with a relationship question.

This question comes from a guy who signed his name as “Viewer,” and he e-mailed or snail mailed it to the hosts of “The 700 Club,” which is sometimes hosted by Wendy, Terry, Pat, or Gordon. Pat Robertson was the one who replied to this particular inquiry.

From the time I was a kid, I heard from various Christian sources (books, articles, sermons on TV, sermons in person at churches I attended) that if a person remained a virgin, that person could expect God to send them a great spouse, and that their married sex life would be regular and wonderful.

But then, as I got older, I started seeing the occasional married Christian person (sometimes women too, not just men – women have a libido, contrary to what conservative Christians teach!!) – complain that their marriage was sexless.

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Newlyweds Forced to Be Celibate After Bride Diagnosed With Cervical Cancer Just Days After Honeymoon

Newlyweds Forced to Be Celibate After Bride Diagnosed With Cervical Cancer Just Days After Honeymoon

I hope this woman’s health recovers. (The link to the news story about this woman and her husband is much farther below. I wanted to make a few observations first.)

Growing up, I often heard or read Christians say that if one remains a virgin until marriage, that the married sex will be regular and great – I never once heard Christians discuss the possibility of a sexless marriage, where at least one partner does not want to have sex, or cannot (due to health problems, job stress, or what have you).

A lot of people, Christians certainly included, mistakenly think that sexual sin is the province ONLY of adult singles.

Therefore, Christian sermons and materials rarely discuss the possibility that married persons may have affairs, use prostitutes or pornography. Christians tend to teach that sexual purity (including chastity and celibacy) are only for adult singles, even though the Bible teaches that sexual purity is also expected of married persons.

Many Christians are in error to assume that the “marry if you don’t want to burn in lust” verse, as written by Paul, should be translated to mean, “Married persons will never commit sexual sins once they marry.”

The only sexual sin marriage takes care of is pre-marital sex.

Obviously, if two people marry and have sex with each other after marriage, their sex is not fornication (pre-marital sex). However, I have example after example on my blog (especially in the “sex sins by married couples one stop thread”) of married couples who use porn, hire call girls, molest kids, have affairs, etc.

There is nothing intrinsic about being married that makes sexual sin impossible.

A married man may still view porn, rape little kids, or have affairs on his wife. Being married is not a fail-safe or guarantee measure of sexual purity, but many Christians continue to act as though it is.

Sexual sin is therefore generally associated by many Christians with ADULT SINGLENESS (with the state of being single), so that single women (such as myself) are ostracized by the Christian community  (often under the Billy Graham Rule) as being “sexual temptresses,” although we are still virgins over the age of 35.

I, as a virgin adult woman, am ostracized and penalized by other Christians for something I have not even done (ie, had sex with a married man) – Christians just assume because I am single and female that I will want to lure a married man into bed. It is a very offensive view point that is common in churches and among Christians.

(Link): These newlyweds were forced to be celibate after bride was diagnosed with cervical cancer just days after honeymoon

Woman Says She’s Been in Three Year Marriage that Has Not Been Consummated, Wants Advice

Woman Says She’s Been in Three Year Marriage that Has Not Been Consummated, Wants Advice

A letter or e-mail was sent from a lady to a Christian show called “700 Club” saying she married her husband three years ago, but the marriage has never been consummated.

I am not certain, but I believe this particular “Bring It On” segment in which this issue was addressed was aired on January 10, 2017.

I don’t think 700 Club has uploaded that episode yet. If or when they do, you can view it by going to their “Bring It On” You Tube channel (Link): here.

Edit: Okay, the video I am discussing can be viewed (Link): here (Sexless Marriage letter). It is the second or third letter on the video.

They may later upload it to the (Link): 700 Club Bring It On Video Page.

Edit. (Link): Same Video with Sexless Marriage Letter on 700 Club Site

The show host, Pat Robertson, basically told her to divorce the guy.

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Frustrated Husband Chops Off His Genitals With A Knife After His Wife Hadn’t Had Sex With Him For A DECADE

Frustrated Husband Chops Off His Genitals With A Knife After His Wife Hadn’t Had Sex With Him For A DECADE

Am I the only one who’s heard of the concept of masturbation? If your wife isn’t doing it for you, you can do it for yourself, if you know what I mean.

The article says every time this guy asked for sex, it was when he was drunk, and understandably, his wife was not interested in “getting it on” when he was drunk.

I guess getting married did not guarantee this guy a steady diet of sex, which runs contrary to what Christians tell you – that if you reserve sex until marriage, the sex will be recurrent and great.

(Link): Frustrated husband chops off his genitals with a knife after his wife hadn’t had sex with him for a DECADE

  • Ghasi Ram, 37, cut off his penis after his advances were rejected
  • His wife, Manjhri Devi, said he was regularly drunk and never listened to her
  • The couple have been married for 18 years and have a daughter and two sons
  • It happened in Uttar Pradesh in northern India 

Related Posts:

(Link):  Lonely Life of Roberto Esquivel Cabrera, the Man with the World’s Longest Penis

(Link):  Guy So Depressed Over Being Single He Cut Off His Own Penis (article)

(Link):  Man undergoing minor surgery given vasectomy by mistake

(Link): Husband Forgets How to Have Sex After Botched Cancer Surgery

(Link): Spiritual leader allegedly manipulated 400 men into removing testicles to be ‘closer to God’

(Link):  Ohio Preacher Asked Men if they Performed Oral Sex on Spouses, Asked Males if they Had Large Penises, Asked to Look at their Penises, Asked One Actor if He Shaved His Pubic Hair, Encouraged Women Congregants to Get Abortions, Males to Get Vasectomies / Another Blow to “Be Equally Yoked” Christian Teachings

Woman Says Her Formerly (Supposed) Womanizing Husband Claims He’s Not Interested in Having Sex With Her (Ask Amy)

Woman Says Her Formerly (Supposed) Womanizing Husband Claims He’s Not Interested in Having Sex  With Her (Ask Amy)

This is a Nov. 2016 letter from a married woman to advice columnist “Ask Amy.”

The woman’s husband was quite the horn dog prior to meeting her, or so he says. The husband claims he slept around a lot, prior to them marrying.

I would avoid a guy like this like the plague, but this woman actually found it “touching” or sweet when the guy told her out of the bazillions of women he’s slept with before, she seems special to him – so she married him (sounds like a cheap line a player would use to me, but I digress).

Anyway. The woman is now writing Amy to say their marriage has turned sexless.

I suspect that the guy is probably having affairs with other women, which is one possibility Amy tosses out.

Regardless of his motivations, it remains that this woman is in a sexless marriage.

I never heard things like this from Christians when I was a kid, teen, or older.

All I ever heard growing up was the propaganda that if a woman remains a virgin until marriage, that the married sex will be Fantastic! Roof shattering! Frequent! Always satisfying! Great!

Well apparently, married sex is not what it’s cracked up to be. If you marry, your husband may have so much extra-marital sex with other women, he won’t be interested in having sex with you any longer. Or, the husband may be under so much job stress he won’t want to have sex. Or, he might have depression, which can sap a person’s libido.

There could be any number of reasons why a spouse won’t “put out” in a marriage any more, which will leave you, the other half, sex-less. I seldom see Christians admit that this is a thing, that it happens to couples, which I feel is dishonest of them.

Being married is not – contrary to a lot of conservative Christian propaganda – a guarantee of receiving hot, regular, great sex.

You can read the woman’s letter here:

(Link):  Ask Amy: Wife ponders mystery of husband’s behavior

Dear Amy: I fell madly in love with a wonderful, kind man. He told me that he had been with 30-plus women in his 55-plus years, primarily for sex.

When he told me he really loved me and had never truly felt this way before about any other woman, it won me over, and now we are married.

I am seven years younger than he is and had been divorced for about 15 years. My issue is that now my husband is not interested in having sex with me at all.

He states that he has already had that and now he just wants love.

I have cried, talked and asked for counseling, to no avail. I am ready to walk away. I feel ugly and undesirable.

He has promised to make changes, but in 10 months nothing has changed.

I love him deeply, but my heart is telling me that this is now becoming toxic.

I don’t understand how he can have sex with so many women he didn’t love, but not with the woman he loves.

Do you have any guidance?

Feeling Abandoned

Your husband is not a “wonderful, kind” man. He’s a user and a sexist pig, lady. A wonderful, kind man does not sexually use woman or sleep around to the point he’s bagged 30 plus women over his life. You married a dud.

And by the way, if the guy is saying he will make changes, but ten months later, none have been made, that is your two by four over the head: the man has NO INTENTION of changing. Leave now. Stop wasting your time on this guy. Divorce. Learn to be happy being single.

Newlywed: His Wife Refuses to Have Sex With Him – There Goes the “Marriage Equals Hot, Regular Sex” Propaganda by Christians

Newlywed: His Wife Refuses to Have Sex With Him – There Goes the “Marriage Equals Hot, Regular Sex” Propaganda by Christians

Yep. A lot of conservative Christians teach this notion that if you remain a virgin until marriage, it will be so worth it, because marriage means nothing but great, regular sex.

I’m not opposed to sexual purity until marriage. Teaching that is all well and good, but I do question this selling technique of promising Christians consistent, great sex if they wait.

Because that just ain’t true. I have a whole blog category called “sexless marriages.” So obviously, not everyone who marries has sex.

(Link):  ‘Unfortunately, we didn’t have sex last night’: Married at First Sight star fears his relationship is over after his wife refused to get physically intimate with him on a romantic overnight trip

Oct 18, 2016

Nick Pendergrast, 32, and Sonia Granados, 33, enjoy a trip together on Tuesday night’s episode of the FYI reality series

  • The getaway comes a week before they have to decide whether they will stay  married or get divorced
  • Nick is upset that Sonia has yet to move back in, and although they slept in the same bed for the first time in a while, they didn’t have sex

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Benevolent Sexism in the Christian Bedroom (Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality) by J. Kamps

Benevolent Sexism in the Christian Bedroom (Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality) by J. Kamps

Some parts of these posts tackle subjects I’ve mentioned before on my blog in the past.

(Link):  It’s my orgasm, not his [part 1] by J. Kamps

(Link): It’s my orgasm, not his [part 2] by J. Kamps

Excerpts from (Link):  It’s my orgasm, not his [part 1] by J. Kamps

Jasmine’s story is an example of Benevolent Sexism. Hostile Sexism is fairly easy to recognise. Benevolent Sexism is sneaky and far more socially pervasive. It parades around wearing a facade of chivalry, making out women to be weaker, lesser, diminished, objectified, by using what are perceived as good manners, male consideration, and role definition.

Benevolent Sexism operates on the fundamental belief that, whether observed in practice or not, there IS a gender hierarchy.

….Benevolent Sexism even uses compliments and praise to disarm and disempower women. “Women are kinder, gentler, naturally more loving. Women are not as strong as men, so they require protection. Women are not as naturally competitive.”

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Remarried couples should abstain from sex, Philadelphia Catholic church says

Remarried couples should abstain from sex, Philadelphia Catholic church says

Are they serious? Are they on crack cocaine?

(Link): Remarried couples should abstain from sex, Philadelphia Catholic church says

(Link):

  • Archbishop Charles Chaput also stated that gay Catholics should also ‘live chastely’ in new rules issued after Pope Francis urged more acceptance of others
  • Catholics in Philadelphia who are divorced and civilly remarried will be welcome to accept Holy Communion – as long as they abstain from sex and live out their relationships like “brother and sister”.

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Women Are More Interested In Sex Than You Think, (2016) Studies Show – Men underestimate their wife’s or girlfriend’s sexual desire; read the signals

Women Are More Interested In Sex Than You Think, (2016) Studies Show – Men underestimate their wife’s or girlfriend’s sexual desire; read the signals

The majority of Christians will disregard this study, because it does not fit their culturally- based gender stereotypes that men are sexual animals and visually oriented while all women are supposedly, basically uninterested in sex and only interested in emotional closeness, weeping at beautiful poetry, and knitting scarves.

It is true: for all their bloviating on how they adhere to “sola scriptura,” many Christians take their secular-cultural based assumptions about women and read them back into the Bible. The Bible no where teaches that “God designed men to be visual” or that “men are more interested in sex than women are.” Christians get those assumptions from their culture or perceived personal experiences – not from the Bible.

(Link): Women Are More Interested In Sex Than You Think, (2016) Studies Show

Excerpts

  • by E. Bernstein
  • Men underestimate their wife’s or girlfriend’s sexual desire; read the signals
  • Rarely are researchers’ findings so satisfying. Women may want more sex than their husbands or partners think.
  •  

    New research by psychologists at the University of Toronto and the University of Western Ontario, (Link): published earlier this month in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that men in long-term relationships often underestimate how often their wives or girlfriends want to be intimate.

  •  

    The research consists of three studies, following a total of 229 long-term couples, most of whom are heterosexual. (The sample of homosexual couples was too small to be statistically significant, the researchers say.) Participants ranged in age from 18 to 68 years old; the couples had been together six years on average, and they reported they had sex an average of one to two times a week.

  • ….All three studies showed the same thing: Men consistently underestimated their female partner’s desire, while the women had an accurate read on whether or not their partner was interested in sex. And on the days when the men thought their partner was less sexually interested than she actually was, the women reported being more satisfied in and committed to the relationship.

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Newlywed Husband Divorces His Wife Hours After the Ceremony Because She Was Too Busy Texting Her Friends to Have Sex on Their Wedding Night

Newlywed Husband Divorces His Wife Hours After the Ceremony Because She Was Too Busy Texting Her Friends to Have Sex on Their Wedding Night

I was just remarking on my Twitter account about this that a lot of Christians, during sexual purity lectures, will promise people that if they abstain from sex until they marry that married sex will be regular and great.

Then you see news stories like this….

(Link): Newlywed husband divorces his wife hours after the ceremony because she was too busy texting her friends to have sex on their wedding night

I was engaged while in my early 30s. The doofus to whom I was engaged did not meet any of my needs – not emotional or otherwise (I blogged about that a bit more (Link): here). It got to the point I found watching TV preferable to the ex’s company. I got more happiness and meaning watching TV, reading books, or what have you, than from  him.

I recall reading a letter to Dear Abby or Ask Amy a few years ago (I might have posted this to this blog) from a husband who was perturbed that his wife spent all her time playing Farmville on Facebook rather than with him, and she seemed to prefer that to spending time with him.

Can I tell you, if you are a married guy, and your wife seems more interested in being online, or engaging in some other hobby to spending time with you, it’s more than likely due to the fact that she does not think you or your relationship is bad enough to leave, but she has to find other outlets to get her needs met because you are not meeting them.

Here are excerpts from

(Link): Newlywed husband divorces his wife hours after the ceremony because she was too busy texting her friends to have sex on their wedding night

  • Bride spurned groom’s advances when they got back to their hotel room
  • She said she wanted to reply to congratulatory text messages from friends
  • He snapped when she said that her friends were more important than him
  • A husband divorced his wife hours after their wedding because she was too busy texting her friends to consummate the marriage.

  • The groom took his Saudi bride back to their hotel room after the ceremony in the city of Jeddah.

  • But when he tried to get intimate with her, he was pushed away by his wife because she was trying to respond to congratulatory messages from friends on her phone.

  • She became angry when he asked her to stop.

  • A relative told Saudi daily Al Watan: ‘The groom tried to get closer with her and more intimate, but he was shocked when she ignored him, not responding to his words and action.

  •  ‘When he asked her if her friends were more important than he was, the bride answered that they were.’

  • The argument became heated and the groom stormed out of the hotel, telling his wife that he wanted a divorce.

  • Gulf News, which cited Al Watan, reported that a court had referred the case to a reconciliation committee, but the husband insisted on a divorce.

 

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Related Posts:

(Link):  Married Man in Sexless Marriage To A Woman Has Affairs With Another Married Man

(Link):  How My Wild Sex Drive Killed My Marriage – review by L. Crocker of book by R. Rinaldi

(Link): Jason the Christian’s Sexless Marriage – Christians promise hot regular steamy married sex but it isn’t true

(Link): Long Time Married Lady Wants to Know If She Can Have Affair Because Husband Has Not Been Spending Much Time With Her – Another example of why Christians need to teach that sexual purity is for all not just young singles

(Link): Getting Married Does Not Necessarily Guarantee Frequent Hot Satisfying Sexy Sex – Husband is Sexless for Eight Years (article)

(Link): Why Christians Need to Uphold Lifelong Celibacy as an Option for All Instead of Merely Pressuring All to Marry – vis a vis Sexless Marriages, Counselors Who Tell Marrieds that Having Affairs Can Help their Marriages

(Link): AARP post: How to Handle a Sexless Married Life – But Christians Promise You Great Hot Regular Married Sex

(Link): Married Woman Signing off as “Looking Ahead” Admits to Being in Sexless Marriage for TEN YEARS

(Link): More Married Couples Admit to Sexless Marriages (various articles) / Christians promise you great frequent sex if you wait until marriage, but the propaganda is not true

(Link): Wife Writes to Ask Amy About Her Sexless Marriage October 2013

(Link): Resident Christian Marriage Advice Writer at Christian Mag Admits Some Christian Marriages are Sexless

(Link): Her Marriage is Sexless While She Cares For Sick Elderly Father

 

Woman in 16 Year Marriage That Turned Sexless Wants To Know What To Do (Hax Letter)

Woman in 16 Year Marriage That Turned Sexless Wants To Know What To Do (Hax Letter)

A lot of Christians like to tell folks if they just hold off on sex until marriage, that the sex will be frequent and the best ever.

But then you see these letters or blog posts by married people who complain that the sex is terrible or is not happening at all. In some of these situations, the partner that wants sex will have an affair because the spouse with a low libido or sexual dysfunction is not putting out.

Christians need to stop promising singles that if they are chaste, they will have great and regular sex when they marry, and they need to continually remind married couples that celibacy is for married couples too – in a case where the husband lacks a sex drive, this does not give the wife the right to seek sex outside of marriage (or vice versa).

But too often, Christians just assume that the only persons who need to hear sermons and reminders about being sexually pure are singles. Wrong!

Note also that the woman writing this letter wants to have sex. She misses sex. Too often in secular and Christian culture, men are depicted as being randy horn dogs who always want to have sex, while married women are depicted as hating sex and not wanting it. The fact is a lot of women want sex and enjoy it. Sex isn’t for men only.

Here is the letter to Hax:

December 2015

Dear Carolyn (Hax):

  • I’ve been with my husband for 16 years, married 10. We were friends at first, and it grew into a mutual love. Generally we’re great.
  • The not-so-great part is that he stopped wanting sex, and it has been a source of contention for a few years now.

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There Are Almost No Active Female Users on Ashley Madison (and Related Ashley Madison News Stories, Editorials)

There are almost no active female users on Ashley Madison

Before I get to posting the links and commentary: your sexual past and choices you make now – can negatively impact your partner or any future partners you have. Maybe not in every case, but sometimes.

I mention this because too often, I see ex-Christians or liberal Christians mock sexual purity standards, such as staying a virgin until marriage. They think such concepts or practices are “fuddy duddy” and silly.

These types of hedonists (the ex Christians and liberal Christians) believe that nobody should judge, or be upset by, their current partner’s sexual history.

As I’ve explained before, not everyone is as casual about sex as these hedonists are. To some people, sex still means something, and is not an act they are going to participate in easily or with just any guy (or woman) who comes along.

This Ashley Madison hack has caused some damage to women who found out their spouses were on the site.

Your sexual choices, history, and behavior can and do sometimes hurt other people.

At any rate.

Unfortunately, some writers are using this sort of information about Ashley Madison lacking women members to conclude that women don’t like sex as much as men do (for example: (Link): Ashley Madison Proves Women Aren’t Interested in Casual Sex by N S Riley – a brief critique of this editorial) .

However, I read an article yesterday that explains that Ashley Madison’s marketing alienates women (as it tended to be sexist), and they did not make the site easy for women to use. Those might be factors as to why there were not as many women members as there were male members.

As to the women who did sign up for the site, one guy studied the data dump and came to the conclusion that what women were on the site (and there weren’t many) did not log in often, or did not use the chat feature often, etc. They were members but were not very active members.

(Link): There are almost no active female users on Ashley Madison

(Link):  Ashley Madison’s Female Subscribers Barely Exist, Analysis Concludes

(Link):  99% of ‘women’ on Ashley Madison didn’t use the site at all

(Link):  Was Ashley Madison populated almost entirely by men?

  • Analysis of data from the Ashley Madison hack suggests that the vast majority of users on the extramarital dating site were men

(Link):  New analysis shows over 99 percent of the women on Ashley Madison were fake

(Link):  Ashley Madison has just 31 active female users in Britain – for 700,000 men

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Here’s What All Women In Sexless Marriages Need To Know by B. Wong

Here’s What All Women In Sexless Marriages Need To Know

As  you know if you’ve been to my blog before, one topic I repeatedly remind readers of is how Christians will entice people to stay virgins until they marry by promising if they will only wait, that the sex will be regular and/or “mind blowing.”

What happens in some marriages, however, is that one partner may not be interested in having sex for whatever reason (and sometimes it’s the WIFE who goes without sex, contra usual Christian stereotypes that men are horn dogs and women don’t want sex).

(Link): Here’s What All Women In Sexless Marriages Need To Know by B. Wong

Excerpts:

  • Stuck in a sexless marriage? You’re not alone. According to data scientist Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, the top-searched marriage (Link): complaint on Google is “sexless marriage.” (What’s more, searches for “sexless marriage” are three and a half times more common than “unhappy marriage” and eight times more common than “loveless marriage.”)
  • (Link): Many of those searching for answers are women struggling to understand why their spouses aren’t reciprocating their desire for sex. We reached out to marriage therapists and sex experts to share the advice they give women stuck in sexually unsatisfying
  • marriages. Read what they had to say below.
  • 1. KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE
  • “Many women are the ones with a higher sex drive in their marriages but women commonly don’t discuss this dynamic openly with friends. Also, the media portrayal of relationships makes women think that males have a constant high level of sexual desire.
  • On the contrary, many women struggle in sexless marriages. Outside of therapy, I’d say that finding a support system can be invaluable. There are forums online where women share their experiences, such as the (Link): Dead Bedrooms forum on Reddit.” — Samantha Rodmanpsychologist and couples’ counselor

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Married Man in Sexless Marriage To A Woman Has Affairs With Another Married Man

Married Man in Sexless Marriage To A Woman Has Affairs With Another Married Man

There are times I’m glad I’ve never married. This is one of those times.

Also, this disproves the typical Christian propaganda that married people don’t sexually sin, and/or that married sex is SO great that married couples won’t want to boink other people.

(Link): Frustrated husband finds passion elsewhere

  • June 2015
  • Dear Amy: My wife and I have not had a physical relationship with one another in several years.
  • She seems to have completely lost interest. That has resulted in an accompanying slowdown of our emotional bond.

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Elderly Dude Complains Wife’s Not Had Sex With Him For Seven Months. Oh cry me a river, pal.

Elderly Dude Complains Wife’s Not Had Sex With Him For Seven Months. Oh cry me a river, pal.

Sex with another person is a luxury, not a necessity, buddy.

Secondly, I’m over 40 and have never had sex – despite wanting to. I was waiting for marriage, marriage never happened, so you know, I generally do not have sympathy for morons like this who bitch and moan over missing sex for a few months.

There are people in the military who are apart from their spouses for a year or more, so this guy can just SHUT UP.

Also: this serves as another example that American evangelical Christians need to stop teaching sexual purity, chastity, and celibacy as though these issues only impact teen-agers or single adults.

Letter to Ask Amy, May 2015

  • DEAR AMY:
  • My wife and I have been married for more than 50 years. We are both in our 70s. About seven months ago, my wife stopped having sex with me. She has been ill and so have I. She said she can’t have sex until she is completely better. I have asked her if she still desires me and she said she does, but that we have to wait.
  • In all of our married years we have never gone so long without sex. It’s very frustrating for me. I’ve even started frequenting porn Web sites, which I’m ashamed of and never did before.
  • I feel ready and eager for intimacy and I don’t know what to do. She would never go to a therapist with this. We’re still tender to each other. I hug and kiss her when I’m leaving for a few hours to do errands. I love her very much. I am very frustrated and upset.
  • — An Old but Young Man

Husband Tells Advice Columnist Wife Hit Menopause, Has No Libido, So He’s Been Having Affair, is that OK?

Husband Tells Advice Columnist Wife Hit Menopause, Has No Libido, So He’s Been Having Affair, is that OK?

I have this series of posts ongoing where I point out that

1. Christians need to stop portraying sexual purity as something for TEENS only. They need to encourage it for all age levels and all marital statuses (single, married, divorced, widowed).

and

2. They need to stop teaching the falsehood that marital sex is always regular, hot, great, etc

in light of stories such as this….

Letter to advice columnist, Dec 8, 2014

  • DEAR AMY:
  • I am a 68-year-old professional man who has been married to the same wonderful and talented woman for 35 years. Up until about 10 years ago, I would have called our marriage as close to perfect as possible.
  • Then menopause changed everything. My beautiful wife lost all interest in sex. Our sex life had been very fulfilling from the start and I urged her to seek medical help. She did so halfheartedly but ultimately told me that “we were too old for sex, anyway.” My libido has never waned, but I finally gave up.
  • Four years ago I met a lady through a business connection and our friendship quickly turned physical. We enjoy each other’s company in and out of bed. Neither of us is looking to leave our marriages.
  • She is over a decade younger and enjoys sex every bit as much as I do. I’m sure the day will come when I’m no longer able to perform but I don’t see that happening any time soon. I know that you’re a woman and naturally will look at this through a woman’s eyes but I don’t feel guilt. Do you think I’m a terrible person for looking outside my marriage in an effort to satisfy urges ignored at home?
  • — 68 and Cheating

DEAR CHEATING:

  • I wouldn’t put your villainy up there with Hannibal Lecter, but yes, you’re fairly terrible.
  •  I can only conclude that in addition to being a guilt-free cheater, you are also a coward — because disclosing this to a stranger is so much easier than dealing with your marriage.
  • You might be surprised by this, but almost as many women write to me about sexless marriages as men do. If your wife wrote to me saying that you were impotent and so she had decided to look outside the marriage for sex, I would give her the same answer.
  • Lifetime sexual fidelity may be unrealistic, but nowhere in the (traditional) marriage vows does it say all bets are off if you don’t have a satisfying sexual life.
  • This falls under the “for better or worse” clause. I urge you to consider what could happen as you continue to age and deal with health (and other) challenges. I assume the person you’d expect to be by your side is the wonderful woman you married. Perhaps it’s time you acted as if you deserved it.

Christian Pundit’s take: yes, you dirt bag, you should feel guilty.

If the ‘no-sex with the spouse’ thing is problematic for you, either look into masturbation, or, tell the wife you want a divorce so you can move on and find a mate who wants to diddle around with you. Dirt bag.

People should feel ashamed and guilty for sexual sins like this, but we have

1. secular feminists with their moronic “no slut shaming” policy

and

2. churches who are proclaiming Christians shouldn’t define fornication as sin because gosh golly

The advice columnist said,

  • Lifetime sexual fidelity may be unrealistic

No, it’s not. Lifetime virginity / celibacy is not unrealistic, either. It’s only “unrealistic” because you consider it to be so.

My favorite food is chocolate. I could live the rest of my life without eating it. I really, really like chocolate.

Applying the same set of standards to chocolate that people normally do in regards to sex:

According to most advice columnists, Christians, Non-Christians, and secular feminists, it should be impossible or unrealistic for me to never eat another bite of chocolate ever again.

They would expect me to weaken, cave in, give into temptation and run out after two weeks and buy the biggest chocolate cake I can find and gorge myself. Because nobody has self control, they assume.

Lord. People, you are not a slave to your appetites, whether sexual, with food, relationships, or whatever else.

It may be difficult to give up chocolate, but I could choose to do so. Using will power and self control, I could go for the rest of my life never touching another candy bar or bowl of chocolate ice cream. Something being difficult does not make it impossible or unrealistic.

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Related posts:

(Link): Why Christians Need to Uphold Lifelong Celibacy as an Option for All Instead of Merely Pressuring All to Marry – vis a vis Sexless Marriages, Counselors Who Tell Marrieds that Having Affairs Can Help their Marriages

(Link): Fallacy: Lifelong Celibacy is “heroic ethical standard that is not expected of heteros, so it should not be expected of homosexuals”

(Link):  Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality : All Unmarried Women Are Supposedly Hyper Sexed Harlots – But All Married Ones are Supposedly Frigid or Totally Uninterested in Sex

(Link): Douglas Wilson and Christian Response FAIL to Sexual Sin – No Body Can Resist Sex – supposedly – Re Celibacy

(Link): Groundbreaking News: Women Like Sex (part 1, 2) (articles)

(Link): Why So Much Fornication – Because Christians Have No Expectation of Sexual Purity

(Link): More Married Couples Admit to Sexless Marriages (various articles) / Christians promise you great frequent sex if you wait until marriage, but the propaganda is not true

(Link): Married Woman Signing off as “Looking Ahead” Admits to Being in Sexless Marriage for TEN YEARS

(Link): Atlantic: “The case for abandoning the myth that ‘women aren’t visual.’”

(Link):  Perverted Christian Married Couple Wants to “Wife Swap” (For Sex) With Other Christian Couple – Why Christians Need to Uphold Chastity / Celibacy For All People Even Married Couples Not Just Teens

(Link): Her Marriage is Sexless While She Cares For Sick Elderly Father

(Link):  Long Time Married Lady Wants to Know If She Can Have Affair Because Husband Has Not Been Spending Much Time With Her – Another example of why Christians need to teach that sexual purity is for all not just young singles

(Link): AARP post: How to Handle a Sexless Married Life – But Christians Promise You Great Hot Regular Married Sex

(Link): Christian Swingers: Body-building Christian Couple Advocates and Practices Wife Swapping – and the wife calls this lifestyle “pure”

(Link): New ‘Christian Swingers’ Dating Site Offers Faithful Couples Chance to ‘Hookup’

(Link): Jason the Christian’s Sexless Marriage – Christians promise hot regular steamy married sex but it isn’t true

(Link): Getting Married Does Not Necessarily Guarantee Frequent Hot Satisfying Sexy Sex – Husband is Sexless for Eight Years (article)

(Link): Article: ‘Getting to the Root of Female Masturbation’ / Also: Virgin woman gets next to no sex in marriage

Woman Partner Competes with Porn for Her Boyfriend’s Attention (Ask Amy)

Letter to Ask Amy, Nov 2014

And Christian sociologist Mark Regnerus was recently advising Christian single women to date and marry porn users (see link to a post about that at the bottom of this post).

Also notice that the woman who wrote this says she wants to have sex more than once a month. I often see Christian and Non Christian commentators assume that only men want sex, but that women are not interested in sex – not so.

This is another example that blows the lid off the falsehood that women don’t like sex or don’t want it. Here you have a relationship where the woman is bothered because the couple is not having as much sex as she would prefer. She wants more sex, the boyfriend (or spouse, whoever this guy is), wants less.

Letter:

(Link): Ask Amy: Partner Competes With Porn for Attention – Idaho Statesman

(Link): Partner Competes with Porn for Attention – TMS Features

  • Dear Amy:
  • I met my boyfriend in my first year of college. No other man had ever treated me with such respect. At first our physical relationship was great!
  • We’ve been in a monogamous relationship for five years. We own a home together and for the most part get along great. Unfortunately I am sexually unsatisfied (for about two years now). I try to initiate sex regularly but nine times out of 10 he pushes me away.
  • The sexual side of our relationship has fizzled out and it’s affecting other aspects of our relationship.
  • We’ve talked about it many times and he swears it has nothing to do with me. He says he’s happy in our relationship, but he’s just not into sex.I occasionally catch him pleasuring himself to online porn after I’ve gone to bed. I’ve asked him what I can do to make him attracted to me like he is to the women in his videos.
  • He says I should dress up in lingerie. I’ve done this but it’s actually made it worse, because when I do and he still rejects me, it really hurts.
  • We are both in our late 20s. I am not satisfied with having sex once a month, but he is! Friends of mine have said the honeymoon period is over but it doesn’t mean we should break up.Does every physical relationship fizzle out like this? I feel like I can’t be my best self when I’m holding in all this anger. What should I do?
  • — Lonely Partner

Reply by Amy:

  • Dear Lonely:
  • Let’s refresh. Your guy is not into sex, except when he’s alone with his laptop — and then he is.
  • He claims his lack of interest has nothing to do with you, except it would be great if you dressed more like a porn star. You comply and he rejects you.
  • Sexual relationships are bound to fizzle if one partner finds a sexual outlet that interferes with the connection between the couple. Perhaps your guy would be willing to share his porn with you so you could (at least) have parallel pleasures.
  • You seem to be making all of the effort to have an experience with him that he does not want to have with you. Sexual relationships are not universally destined to fizzle. It doesn’t have to be this way. A relationship counselor would help, but if he won’t make any effort, things will not improve.

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Related:

(Link):  Male Christian Researcher Mark Regnerus Believes Single Christian Women Should Marry Male Christian Porn Addicts – another Christian betrayal of sexual ethics and more evidence of Christians who do make an idol out of marriage

(Link): When Women Wanted Sex More Than Men and How the Stereotype Flipped

(Link):  Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality : All Unmarried Women Are Supposedly Hyper Sexed Harlots – But All Married Ones are Supposedly Frigid or Totally Uninterested in Sex

(Link): Groundbreaking News: Women Like Sex (part 1, 2) (articles)

(Link): Letter to Advice Columnist: Husband Upset That Wife Masturbates – Marriage Doesn’t Guarantee Hot Regular Sex For Both or Either Partner, Contra Usual Christian Claims

(Link): Ramifications of Pre Martial Sex – Sky Diver Husband; Also: Stereotypes About All Men Wanting Sex Constantly and Being Visually Stimulated Disproven Again

Sexless Marriage: Wife Doesn’t Want Any Sex During Get-Away Weekend (letter to Ask Amy)

So much for the Christian propaganda that married sex is (or will be) hot, regular, steamy, and consistent.

November 2014 letter to “Ask Amy” columnist from some married guy:

  • DEAR AMY:
  • I have been planning a four-day weekend getaway with my wife to celebrate our 20th anniversary. We have school-age children and work full time. We decided we owed ourselves a little enjoyment on a milestone anniversary.
  • We booked a room at a very nice resort with an in-room hot tub. We had plans for breakfast in bed each morning, sightseeing, dining on a lake cruise, antiquing and just relaxing and reconnecting. (I even made special arrangements to have flowers and champagne delivered to our room.)
  • Last week while discussing our plans, my wife matter-of-factly said, “Just so you know, we aren’t going to have any sex on this trip.”
  • While intimacy between us has dropped off significantly over the past few years (though not through lack of trying on MY part), I never would have expected her to say that. Now I don’t even want to go. I am angry and insulted. Why would she say that? What should I do?
  • — Celebrate or Celibate