Wagner’s Response to TGC’s Morris’s Review of “Non Toxic Masculinity” – and Morris is Incorrect About Singleness, Among Other Issues

Wagner’s Response to TGC’s Morris’s Review of “Non Toxic Masculinity” – and Morris is Incorrect About Singleness, Among Other Issues

TGC is the same group that brought us all that cringe, weird book about sex called “Beautiful Union,” whose author claimed that sex can point us all to God, which is a disaster for those of us over 30 who are still virgins and living celibately.

I had a few comments I wanted to make below this:

(Link):  A Response to Shane Morris’s TGC Review of Non-Toxic Masculinity

Excerpts:

[The review that Wagner is responding to is located here, on TGC’s site: Sexual Ethics Is More than Not Being Evil]

by Zachary Wagner

…I want to note some of my ongoing disappointment with The Gospel Coalition on their engagement with issues of sexuality, gender, and masculinity.

…For many of my friends who have left Christianity, the straw that broke the camel’s back was not merely that Christianity was sexually restrictive. It was the hypocrisy of those who condemned the culture’s sexual permissiveness while indulging in sexual sin themselves or excusing it on the part of Christian leaders and heroes.

…In particular, the juxtaposition between purity culture on the one hand and sexual scandal on the other has opened a floodgate of apostasy for Millennials in particular, including members of my family and many very dear friends. How should evangelical pastors respond to this? Morris has little to say on this point, but he seems to imply that defending purity culture and doubling down on its good intentions is the correct approach. …

This is pastorally irresponsible. Parents, pastors, and authors were the ones who should have known better, not teenagers with raging hormones and half-developed brains. The sons and daughters of purity culture have repeatedly been told that they were the problem. Any suffering or frustration or confusion they experienced was their fault, a result of their sinful and broken inclinations.

Mom Killed Her Newborn, 30 Minute Old Baby to Save Her Sex Life, Cut His Throat Minutes After Birth

Mom Killed Her Newborn, 30 Minute Old Baby to Save Her Sex Life, Cut His Throat Minutes After Birth

This is evil, it is vile.

This piece of garbage killed an infant out of pure selfishness, prioritizing her “sex life” over the life of a baby, her very own baby.

I do not, nor have I ever, supported abortion. If you’re a woman, you know that having sex with a man may result in pregnancy – and you should take responsibility for that, which means carrying the child to term and putting the baby up for adoption, or, at the very least, use birth control if you’re going to have sex – but birth control isn’t 100% effective.

If you don’t want to risk the possibility of pregnancy, DO NOT HAVE SEX. It’s not complicated.

Sadly, this is not the only news report I’ve seen of this type of thing. I don’t know if I’ve blogged about it before or not, but I remember years ago reading a similar news item about a teen girl who got an abortion (I think she killed the baby at home? Don’t recall the details), but she said the reason she killed the baby inside her is that she wouldn’t be able to fit into her prom dress.

In the last few years, I’ve seen one news story of a grandmother who helped her granddaughter kill the granddaughter’s new born infant, when the teen girl went into labor at home. They killed the baby, burned it, and buried it somewhere around their property.

Saw another story that was like that one, only it was either a father or grandfather who helped the teen girl murder the new born and bury it – in one of these stories, the girl in question, if I remember right, was a high school cheerleader, and she felt having an infant would get in the way of her being on the cheerleading squad.

I also have news stories on this blog of an adult woman or two who murdered their toddler children because they were tired of being mothers, or they felt they wouldn’t be able to get a boyfriend if they had children.

This news story is from 2014, but I did not see it until recently.

I follow a number of left of center, radical feminists on twitter who unfortunately defend abortion.

I only follow them because they speak out against the progressive transgender agenda – on that much, we have agreement, but I am usually grieved to see them arguing in favor of abortion on Twitter. I usually just scroll by and say nothing, because I didn’t follow them to start fights about abortion.

In light of horrendous news stories like the one below, I wish those pro-choice women would reconsider their views on abortion.

(Link): German mother kills 30 minutes old baby to save her sex life

London: A young mother in Germany killed her newborn son by slitting his throat, barely 30 minutes after delivering it, as she feared the child would be an interference in her sexual life, a court heard.

(Link): Young mother ‘killed her baby to save her sex life’: German woman, 20, ‘cut son’s throat 30 minutes after he was born before going to a disco’

May 2014

-Nadine Koenig, 20, from Regensburg, smothered her newborn son before killing him with a Stanley knife

-Koenig concealed her pregnancy from her parents, gave birth at their home

-After Koenig’s arrest, her mother Kerstin, 44, committed suicide

A young mother killed her baby by slitting his throat only 30 minutes after giving birth because she feared the child would interfere with her sex life, a court heard.

Nadine Koenig, 20, from Regensburg in the German state of Bavaria, smothered her newborn son before killing him with a Stanley knife. Then she went out to a disco, judges were told.

Oral Sex is Fueling an ‘Epidemic’ of Throat Cancers in the US and UK, Doctor Claims

Oral Sex is Fueling an ‘Epidemic’ of Throat Cancers in the US and UK, Doctor Claims

Looks like avoiding any and all sex acts can be a wise move!

Funny how so many people in culture think that telling someone “they’re a virgin” or an “incel” (someone not having sex) is the biggest insult ever, when the people having sex all over the place are getting STIs.

(Link): Oral sex is fueling an ‘epidemic’ of throat cancers in the US and UK, doctor claims

April 26, 2023
by Luke Andrews

The US and UK are suffering a throat cancer ‘epidemic’ — and experts point to oral sex as the culprit.

Dr Hisham Mehanna, from the UK’s University of Birmingham, said 70 percent of cases of throat cancer are caused by human papillomavirus (HPV), a normally harmless virus that is spread sexually and has been linked to multiple forms of cancers.

Dr Mehanna said people with multiple oral sex partners have an up to nine-fold increased risk of throat cancer.

Dr Mehanna wrote in The Conversation: ‘Over the past two decades, there has been a rapid increase in throat cancer in the west, to the extent that some have called it an epidemic.

‘This has been due to a large rise in a specific type of throat cancer called oropharyngeal cancer.’

Oropharyngeal cancer is the most common type of throat cancer. It appears in the tonsils and back of the throat.

Catholic Group Spent $4M Tracking Priests Who Use Gay ‘Hookup Apps’

Catholic Group Spent $4M Tracking Priests Who Use Gay ‘Hookup Apps’

(Link): Catholic Nonprofit Secretly Spent Millions on Gay Priests’ App Data, Report Says

A Catholic nonprofit based in Colorado is spending millions to purchase tracking data that identifies members of the priesthood using dating and hookup apps, according to a new investigation from The Washington Post. The Catholic Laity and Clergy for Renewal group has used this data to prepare reports for bishops across the country on individual priests’ usage of apps like Grindr—a hookup app for gay men—the outlet reports.

(Link): Catholic nonprofit in Colorado spent millions for data from hookup apps to identify gay priests: report 

Excerpts:

March 9, 2023

A Denver-based Catholic nonprofit spent millions of dollars to purchase tracking data from gay dating and hookup apps to identify gay priests. They then shared that information with bishops across the country, a new investigation has found.

Catholic Laity and Clergy for Renewal — a group whose goal is to “empower the church to carry out its mission” by providing church leaders with “evidence-based resources” so they can better train priests after identifying their weaknesses — obtained tracking data from popular dating and hookup apps from 2018 through 2021, according to an investigative report published Thursday by The Washington Post.

(Link): Catholic group spent $4M tracking priests who use gay ‘hookup apps’

March 10, 2023
by Lee Brown

A Colorado Catholic group spent millions tracking clerics who used mostly gay “hookup apps” — then outing them to bishops.

The head of Catholic Laity and Clergy for Renewal admitted its secretive research in a lengthy response Thursday to an exposé by The Washington Post.

The DC paper detailed how the Denver-based nonprofit spent at least $4 million buying up data mostly from Grindr, but also from Scruff, Growlr, Jack’d and OkCupid.

Americans Are Cheating More, Are Less Keen on Monogamy – Survey Results – This is One Result of Christians Not Advancing and Defending Sexual Purity – The Slow, Steady Decline of U.S. Christians Defending Celibacy, Virginity, etc

Americans Are Cheating More, Are Less Keen on Monogamy – Survey Results – This is One Result of Christians Not Advancing and Defending Sexual Purity – The Slow, Steady Decline of U.S. Christians Defending Celibacy, Virginity, etc

I don’t know about this – the report says that more America adults are not as into monogamy and so on. This must be a smaller percentage of people.

In the years I’ve run this blog, I’ve seen studies, reports, etc in the last few years that more adults are staying single, and that singles are having less sex, so that ones who are married or coupled up must amount to a small number.

I’ve also seen more and more people, even self proclaimed feminists and liberals, start to write more essays and books in the last few years about how the “sexual revolution” did a lot of harm to people (especially women), how younger women now reject “sex positivity” feminism, and how young men would rather stay at home on Friday nights playing video games than date women or have sex with women.

As to any single, hetero sexual adults who are having sex outside of marriage, if this new report is accurate and true:

I’ve been warning on this blog the last ten or so years that American Christians have dropped the ball on teaching about biblical sexuality.

What I saw as the progression of events concerning this subject are as follows (the first step below seems to have started around 2005 or there abouts):

• (Step 1) Pastors, churches, and Christian authors, bloggers, online influencers and personalities at first stopped preaching on the importance of staying a virgin until marriage and stopped openly, regularly condemning pre-martial sex (they just went silent on the topic),
  while, during or around this time, idiot sex-obsessed pastors (such as Ed Young,  Mark Driscoll, and others) started giving more frequent, inappropriate, salacious, “How to Have Great, Steamy Sex With Your Spouse” type sermons, to,
• (Step 2)… they assumed (wrongly) that because all single adults are fornicating horn dogs, might as well start giving sermons about how God will forgive you of your sexual sins, since, the assumption goes, all adults are fornicating now (no mention of condemning fornication and encouraging and honoring those adults who are chaste to keep on hanging in there and remain chaste), to,
• (Step 3)… when the liberal and progressive Christians, some of whom are self professing feminists, began complaining about 1980s and 1990s era “Purity Culture,”
  the pastors and Christian bloggers and influencers decided to chuck sexual purity out the window altogether as even a possible option,
  all to soothe and placate the offended feelings of (mostly) women who had fornicated,
  and they further disgraced biblical sexual morality standards by disturbingly beginning to fall all over themselves to blog and tweet vomit-worthy, groveling apologies to all the hurt fee-fee’s of any Christian woman who had felt stung or offended by 1980s or 1990s purity culture messages, to,
• (Step 4 – we are now here in this depressing journey)… this gross attitude of, “Let’s re-define sexual purity and virginity in such a way to make purity abstract, to make purity all about loving Jesus and “purity of the heart,” so that for all the adults who have LITERALLY engaged in actual physical sexual activity, they won’t feel so icky, shamed, and guilty about their sexual sins”

So, the church opted to cave in to in-church and out-church (secular society) views and trends on sex.

(Edit and disclaimer: in so far as old school Christian Purity Culture contained things like sexist double standards, no, I do not support all of “Purity Culture,” but I also don’t agree with Christian feminists or other anti-Purity Culture Christians who insist that “virginity is nothing but a patriarchal construct,” that virginity (for men and women) just does not matter, that fornication is a-okay, and that sexual purity is merely an abstract, of being “pure in heart” with regards to Jesus. -Actual, physical virginity, literal sexual purity, is of import as well, not just “purity in Jesus.”)

I am not surprised, therefore, that the culture at large (at least the small percentage that is still dating and marrying) is practicing all sorts of weird, deviant, distasteful, and sinful sexual and relationship behaviors these days.

There is no longer any American Christian voices out there regularly speaking up on behalf of remaining a virgin until marriage, speaking against fornication, and repeating the Bible’s message that self control in all areas, including sexual ones, is possible.

Hey, moderate to conservative Christians, including preachers: the following result is what happens once you give up and cave in and/or neglect to uphold sexual purity messages! You get a nation that drifts more and more off course and into living gross sexual lifestyles and seeing nothing wrong with it.

Instead you idiot preachers either ignored the topic altogether, or else gave “how to have sizzling sex with your spouse” sermons, or, you apologized for churches that actually did the right thing (but carried it out wrongly) of the 1980s and 1990s of preaching that sex before marriage was sin.

In the meantime, virtually nobody in Christendom was speaking up in favor of virginity- until- marriage and its benefits, and pointing out that the Bible condemns pre-marital sex.

(Link): Americans Are Cheating More, Are Less Keen on Monogamy – Survey Results

by James Reinl
February 23, 2023

Americans are increasingly cheating on partners, are more open to multiple lovers, and less keen on monogamy, a new survey on changing attitudes to sex and love has revealed.

YouGov polling this month shows that while most Americans still want a wholly monogamous marriage, the numbers are slipping as people increasingly accept some degree of dallying.

Meanwhile, polygamy — the custom of having more than one spouse at the same time — remains mostly taboo, but nearly a fifth of US adults say it will be legal within 50 years.

For many, the trend is not surprising, echoed in the celebrity cheating scandal involving stars Meghan Fox and Machine Gun Kelly and the open marriage between Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith.

But for others, including conservative DailyMail.com columnist David Marcus, the trajectory is a worrying progression from the collapse of traditional norms about family life.

‘Polygamy will be legal in parts of the US within a decade,’ Marcus posted on social media.

‘There is no logical basis to oppose it once you accept gay marriage.’

Beware Men (especially Hetero): Men Masquerading as Women are Lying to Have Sex with You – A Few Tips on How Men Can Spot the Imposters

Beware Men (especially Hetero): Men Masquerading as Women are Lying to Have Sex with You – A Few Tips on How Men Can Spot the Imposters

 ⚠️ The following blog post contains some very vulgar language and frank discussion of sex and sex acts.  ⚠️

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I follow a few social media accounts whose owners lurk at Transgender forums, Reddit areas, and so on.

Most of these Transgender spaces discussed on those social media accounts are MtF (male to female – biological males – people who were born male – who want to transition to be women, mostly by wearing dresses; these would be “transwomen”).

From what I’ve seen, there is a percentage of these men (I’m not going to call them women) who want to have relationships and sex with hetero, natal men, and most of them claim in their forums that they do not divulge upfront to the men they approach in bars or over dating apps that they too are men (transwomen).

Many of these guys seem to be homosexuals – they are men who are attracted to other men. They should’ve just stayed as regular men, skipped the mascara and skirts, and tried to date other homosexual males.

Then there is a smaller percentage of these guys who seem to be hetero – they’re normally attracted to biological women, but their desperate, pathological need for validation, to be seen as a ‘real’ woman (something they will never, ever be) runs so disturbingly deep that they think the only way they can receive validation is if a straight, biological man will have sex with them, and/or date them and view them as being the same as what they call “cis” (biological) women.

Some of these trans deviants are admitting in their online spaces to one another to already having engaged in one night stands with a lot of straight men already.

Some of them get quite descriptive with all the kinky, weird sex acts they performed on the straight, biological men they fooled into having sex with them.

Sex in Your 50s… Has the Rise of Mid-Life Dating Triggered a New Epidemic of Post-Coital Problems in Older Women?

Sex in Your 50s… Has the Rise of Mid-Life Dating Triggered a New Epidemic of Post-Coital Problems in Older Women?

Has the Rise of Mid-Life Dating Triggered a New Epidemic of Sexual Problems?

The article below is sex British-based, so I am unsure if all the products listed are available to Americans or others outside of Britain.

I don’t necessarily endorse sex outside of marriage – the doctor who wrote this is fine and dandy with people committing fornication.

After reading articles like the following, which discuss all the possible (health) ways sex can go wrong (lead to pain, discomfort, physical injury, etc), I don’t think sex sounds like it’s worth it. Sex sounds like more trouble than it’s worth.

This is an extremely long article. If you’d like to read it all, please use the link below:

(Link): Sex in your 50s… Has the rise of mid-life dating triggered a new epidemic of post-coital problems with one-in-three older woman suffering pain related to intimate liaisons?

Excerpts:

By Dr. Philippa Kaye
February 15, 2023

[The article beings by discussing a woman in her 60s named Anne who had only ever had sex with her husband, but he and she divorced a few years before, her daughters got her to join a dating app, she met a new man via the app, had sex with that guy, which resulted in physical health issues]

…I had to break it to Anne that as we age, while the spirit might be willing, the body, so to speak, isn’t always so up for new romance.

Sex after the menopause can continue to be enjoyable.

But, to put it bluntly, changes to the vagina mean that, for some women, this doesn’t come as naturally as they may have hoped. Without a small amount of medical help, sex can lead to discomfort, bleeding and infections.

I’d like to say at this point that patients like Anne are not unusual.

As our surgery’s women’s health specialist, cases like this often come to me, and over the past five years or so they’ve been increasingly frequent.

Divorce, desertion or the death of a partner all mean the same thing: people in middle age find themselves newly single.

And the rise of online and app-based dating services, while fantastic in many respects, has meant problems such as Anne’s are increasingly common.

… And if you are having a tough time becoming sexually active again with a new partner – or even struggling with a not-so-new one – there’s actually a lot GPs can do to help. Painful sex is not something you have to put up with.

New Strain of Multi-Drug Resistant Gonorrhea Detected in the US for the First Time

New Strain of Multi-Drug Resistant Gonorrhea Detected in the US for the First Time 

(Link): U.S. investigating first cases of “concerning” new drug-resistant gonorrhea strain 

(Link): Drug-resistant strain of gonorrhea found in US: ‘A serious public health concern’

January 20, 2023

Two cases of a worrisome new strain of gonorrhea that’s proven resistant to antibiotics have been discovered, according to Massachusetts health officials.

While both patients improved after being treated with ceftriaxone, the most common antibiotic used to treat the condition, the infections showed resistance to nearly all standard gonorrhea drugs.

The cases, they said, are the first confirmed instances in the US.

(Link):  Novel Strain of Gonorrhea that Shows Resistance to Antibiotics Found in U.S.

January 21, 2023
by Amy Furr

Two cases of a novel strain of gonorrhea, a sexually transmitted disease, have been found, health officials in Massachusetts say.

Even though the patients improved once doctors treated them with ceftriaxone, the infections presented resistance to almost all medicines used to fight the disease, the New York Post reported Friday.

…Gonorrhea is a sexually transmitted disease (STD) individuals can contract from engaging in sex with an infected person, according to WebMD.

(Link): New Strain of Multi-Drug Resistant Gonorrhea Detected in the US for the First Time

by Jim Hoft
January 22, 2023

Two cases of a novel strain of gonorrhea that is resistant to a wide variety of antibiotics were reported by Massachusetts health officials on Thursday. These are the first cases of “concerning gonorrhea strain” reported in the US.

“The Department of Public Health (DPH) today announced it has detected a novel strain of gonorrhea in a Massachusetts resident that showed reduced response to multiple antibiotics and another case with genetic markers that indicate a similar drug response,” DPH said in a statement.

Patients were successfully cured after receiving ceftriaxone treatment, the currently recommended antibiotic. However, the new strain of gonorrhea was resistant to a variety of antibiotics.

Swingers Often Face Social Stigmas That Lead to Worse Mental Health

Swingers Often Face Social Stigmas That Lead to Worse Mental Health

(Link): Swingers often face social stigmas that lead to worse mental health

by Study Finds
December 19, 2022

GAINESVILLE, Fla. — Swingers — or people who regularly swap sexual partners [🤮] or engage in group sex [🤮] — are ironically all alone when it comes to the rest of society. A new study finds these individuals are often snubbed by others — to the detriment of their health.

Researchers from the University of Florida discovered that people in open relationships often face negative attitudes regarding their lifestyle from others and that this impacts their mental health and well-being.

Suicide Bomber Blows Himself Up in Protest Over Indonesia’s New Criminal Code That Bans Sex Outside of Marriage

Suicide Bomber Blows Himself Up in Protest Over Indonesia’s New Criminal Code That Bans Sex Outside of Marriage

This guy takes fornication seriously.

(Link): Suicide bomber blows himself up in protest over Indonesia’s new criminal code that bans sex outside of marriage and insulting the president

Dec 7, 2022
by Rachel Bunyan

A suicide bomber angered by Indonesia’s new criminal code that bans sex outside marriage and insulting the president blew himself up at a police station on the main island of Java today, killing one other person and wounding 11 people.

Agus Sujatno, 34, an Islamist militant and convicted bomb-maker who was released from prison last year, entered the police station in the city of Bandung on a motorbike and detonated a bomb as officers were lining up for morning assembly.

Detectives later found ‘dozens’ of white pieces of paper taped to the attacker’s motorbike protesting against the country’s controversial new criminal code that was passed on Tuesday.

Tennessee Landlord Rejects Unmarried Christian Tenants’ Application

Tennessee Landlord Rejects Unmarried Christian Tenants’ Application

(Link): Landlord rejects tenant application because they are unmarried

Nov 26, 2022

A landlord’s bizarre contract has been exposed online after a Christian couple were denied tenancy for ticking one wrong box.

A couple in the US have shared their bizarre altercation with a landlord who denied their application because they said they were Christian.
The couple were asked to answer a questionnaire when applying for the property, with the landlord asking if they’d have a problem with him “expressing his faith” around them.

Tenants were able to put down that they were not Christian but didn’t have an issue with the landlord expressing their faith.

…He said the pair were free to make their own choices but refused to “aid and abet choices that disobey dad” before claiming everything that has gone wrong in their lives is a result of sin.

Christian Influencer, 23, is Mercilessly Mocked After Claiming ‘Masturbation is Witchcraft’ and Will Create a Curse that Will ‘Bleed Into Your Future Children’s Life’

Christian Influencer, 23, is Mercilessly Mocked After Claiming ‘Masturbation is Witchcraft’ and Will Create a Curse that Will ‘Bleed Into Your Future Children’s Life’

While I have pretty traditional, conservative views about sex – I believe sex should be reserved for one man married to one woman after they marry – I don’t think that masturbation is a sin.

The Bible is silent on the topic. The story of Onan was about prolonging a dead man’s family line; the main point was not about masturbation.

If this young lady doesn’t want to support the behavior or engage in it herself, that’s okay, that’s her choice.

But I am a little troubled to see that she has an on-going TikTok account or a site that is filled with “Dear Future Husband” letters. Yikes.

My concern is that she, much like me when I was a teen and her age, bought into the false Christian views that if one remains chaste, a devout Christian, prays and trusts Jesus, and attends church (and follows other Christian rules) that God will of course bless and reward me by sending me a wonderful Christian man to marry, and by the time I reach 25 or 30 or 35 by the latest.

Well, as I’ve mentioned many times over, I was a very devout Christian for years, I’ve never had sex, I’m middle aged, and I have never married.

And I followed all the Christian advice and precepts for years – I didn’t have sex outside of marriage, I attended church, I prayed, trusted God, tried Christian dating web sites, etc, etc, but I am still single

I just want this young woman to know that just because you are being a faithful Christian and following relationship advice that you sincerely think the Bible teaches does NOT mean you will ever get married. You may end up like me, in your 50s, and still single. God may never send you a Christian Prince Charming.

(Link): Christian influencer, 23, is mercilessly mocked after claiming ‘masturbation is WITCHCRAFT’ and will create a CURSE that will ‘bleed into your future children’s life’

by Erica Nardozzi
December 6, 2022

A Christian influencer has gone viral after claiming ‘masturbation is form of witchcraft’ that will ‘literally bleed into your future children’s life’ and become a ‘generational curse.’

Sierra Scribner, 23, from Tennessee, has more than 289,000 followers on TikTok, where she preaches against self-pleasure and sexual immorality ‘in the name of Jesus.’

In a recent video posted on November 14, she alleged that masturbation is a ‘demonic attack’ and a ‘form of control’ that needs to be bound, sparking both criticism and mockery.

‘You are literally controlling an orgasm. You’re controlling your own pleasure. That is witchcraft,’ she argued. ‘That is a curse that you begin to place over your own life that will then literally bleed into your future children’s life.’