Sex Dolls, Robots, and Woman Hating – a Conversation with Author Caitlin Roper (video and other, related material – similar to what Christian Gender Complementarians Teach About Women and Sex)

Sex Dolls, Robots, and Woman Hating – a Conversation with Author Caitlin Roper (video and other, related material – similar to what Christian Gender Complementarians Teach About Women and Sex)

The interview (in the video below) also discusses “pedophile activists” and pedophiles who want “sex dolls” that look like little girls.

There is something terribly, horribly wrong going on with men … and women and feminism are not to blame. And patriarchy and enforced traditional gender roles is not the solution, either (I say this as a conservative).

A lot of what Roper mentions about sex in some of the pieces below (especially this one on ABC) sounds very much like the usual attitude by many complementarian Christian men, such as Doug Wilson
– a lot of complementarian and pro-patriarchal “Christian” men –
continue to falsely teach in their books, blogs, sermons, videos, and pod casts that all men have a need for sex, men are incapable of sexual self control (in distinct contradiction to Galatians 5:22-23, 2 Timothy 1:7, etc), that women are obligated to have sex with men whenever men want sex (especially married women).

On Barnes and Noble:

(Link):  Sex Dolls, Robots and Woman Hating: The Case for Resistance

(Link): Pleasure machines: What sex robots tell us about men and sex

Excerpts:

by Caitlin Roper
December 2017

… The growing popularity of sex robots raises many ethical issues, but it also forces us to ask questions about the very nature of sex.

What is sex? What is it for? Is it merely the “acquisition of pleasure” as Robert Jensen put it, a mechanism for orgasm, or is it something one experiences with another person?

While it’s true that sex does not necessarily involve intimacy or meaningful connection, and it’s certainly not always mutually beneficial – mutuality is a key factor. Sexual relations without mutuality might be more appropriately described as sexual exploitation.

… Some men express their preferences for sex robots over relationships, which require catering to someone else’s needs and “needless drama.” Others, despite being married or in committed relationships, prefer their dolls to their living female partners, who unlike dolls are complex human beings with their own interests, feelings and lives.

Dolls, on the other hand, have no expectation of an equal or mutually beneficial partnership, have no needs to be met and no free will to be exercised.

It is precisely the dolls’ complete lack of autonomy that is the key attraction for many men. “You ALWAYS have their full attention,” said one. “It’s just nice to know that there is someone home waiting on me without the bitching … She can’t talk [but] at least she looks good sitting there watching TV.”

One owner described the bliss of gaming for hours with his devoted sex doll by his side, something his ex-wife “would only do … for a few mins, then find things to be upset about.”

…But what is it female bodied sex robots are providing? What is the appeal?

Rather than simply “better” sex, sex dolls provide men with the means for more selfish sex – sex that is totally one-sided. It is sex predicated on men’s absolute sexual freedom to dominate and use a woman without limitations.

There is no pressure to perform well, no need to reciprocate, no need to consider the other party’s feelings, enjoyment, discomfort, humiliation or pain.

It is sex with a compliant woman that is all about the user’s sexual fantasies – with a woman who never refuses, who can be used over and over again.

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Help! Can I Use My Dead Wife’s Vibrator With My New Girlfriend?

Help! Can I Use My Dead Wife’s Vibrator With My New Girlfriend?

I can’t believe I didn’t stumble across this bizarre perversion when it was first published back in 2013 (this is a re-print).

A lot of Americans spend a lot of time shaming adults over the age of 25 or so for still being virgins as being freaks or odd-balls, but the real odd-balls and freaks are people having sex who do gross, weird things like think it may be okay to pawn off their dead wife’s vibrator on their new girlfriend, I mean, WTF?

(Link): Help! Can I Use My Dead Wife’s Vibrator With My New Girlfriend?

Is This Creepy?

August 7, 2022 (originally printed in 2013)
by Slate Staff

Dear Prudence,

In the summer of 2011 my wife and I purchased a top-of-the-line Jopen vibrator. We used it a few times and were just beginning to really integrate it into our sex lives when my wife died suddenly of a heart attack. (The vibrator had nothing to do with that.)

Now, more than a year later, I’ve begun to date again. I’ve met a woman with an open mind, and I’m thinking she might be interested in using the vibrator.

But I’m not sure how, or whether, to suggest it.

Is it creepy to offer a dead woman’s vibrator to someone else?

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Man on Honeymoon Busted in Prostitution Sting

Man on Honeymoon Busted in Prostitution Sting

This is very sad. I feel so bad for his wife, especially if she’s old school like me, takes marriage seriously, and believes the guy you marry should be stand-up, have good morals, etc. Can you imagine you thought you had married “Mr. Right,” only for him to betray you and for him to turn out to be a pervert?

What is the point in getting married, if the guy you marry ends up being willing to cheat on you on your honeymoon?

I know the guy cheating would be bad at any point in the marriage, but there seems something especially under-handed and cruel about having an affair on one’s honeymoon.

News stories like this betray older, and even some contemporary, conservative propaganda about marriage – such as, marriage will make a person more loving, ethical, mature and godly; a person has to reach some state of perfection or godliness before God will allow a person to marry.

Marriage certainly did not make the man in this news story any more loving or moral, and God sure was not with-holding marriage from this scum bucket.

I think news stories like this go to show un-seriously most people take sex, as though sex is nothing. Some people will just put out whenever, with whomever. Very sad.

(Link): Florida man arrested for calling sex worker on his honeymoon 

by I. Vincent
August 27, 2022

A Florida man was arrested on his honeymoon after he answered an ad for a prostitute, according to a local report.

Paul Turovsky, 34, left his new bride sleeping in their hotel room in Tampa and went out to meet a prostitute he had connected with online, authorities said.

When the self-employed businessman arrived at the Hyatt Hotel, he was placed in handcuffs, caught up in a sting operation by local police to crackdown on sex trafficking.

(Link): Sheriff: Man on honeymoon among 176 arrested in prostitution sting

August 25, 2022

HILLSBOROUGH COUNTY, Fla. — The Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office announced that its newly formed Human Trafficking Squad cut a couple’s honeymoon short after the husband was arrested in a prostitution bust.

… “Sometimes the demand was so overwhelming that we had to go purchase a second, sometimes a third hotel room, because they would all show up at once,” Chronister told WFLA, noting the “disturbing” number of men arrested.

(Link): Florida Man Friday: Caught In a Prostitution Sting on His Honeymoon (paywall)

(Link):  Man on Honeymoon Busted in Prostitution Sting

by A. Morris
August 25, 2022

A couple’s honeymoon was cut short this summer after the husband left his new wife to solicit a prostitute, authorities in Florida said.

The suspect, a 34-year-old male, was among the 176 people arrested for alleged sex crimes following a monthslong prostitution sting in Hillsborough County, according to Sheriff Chad Chronister.

During his honeymoon, the man answered an ad from an undercover detective posing as a prostitute, Chronister said Thursday at a news conference.

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Dog Gets Monkeypox From Non-Monogamous Homosexual Couple

Dog Gets Monkeypox From Non-Monogamous Homosexual Couple

Just think, if more people practiced self control, chastity, this type of nonsense and depravity would not be an issue.

(Link): [Homosexual] Owners Spread Monkeypox to Their Dog, CDC Warns of Human-to-Animal Transmission

(Link): I’m just gonna (heaven help us) leave this right here as the CDC updates its monkeypox guidance to include dogs

12 days after the men were diagnosed, their 4-year-old male Italian greyhound began presenting symptoms, including “mucocutaneous lesions, abdomen pustules and a thin anal ulceration.”

(Link): Italian greyhound belonging to gay couple in Paris catches monkeypox ‘after sharing bed with its infected owners’

by Tom Brown
August 14, 2022

A dog in Paris has caught monkeypox after sharing the bed with its gay owners who were infected with the disease.

The two Parisians developed symptoms at the beginning of June before they developed the lesions showing a monkeypox infection.

The two men aged 44 and 27, who live together in a non-monogamous relationship, developed sores a week after having sex with other men.

They went to the Pitié-Salpêtrière Hospital in Paris with their symptoms after twelve days — but there was one patient the doctors had forgotten about.

Their Italian greyhound had also developed ulcerations and pustules on its stomach.

A PCR test confirmed the canine had also come down with monkeypox, confirming the first case of a domestic pet contracting the virus.

Further genetic sequencing showed the strain of the disease was an identical match with the disease that had infected its owners.

The 44-year-old, a Latino, lived with HIV – according to The Lancet Journal –  was in a ‘non-exclusive’ relationship with his partner, who was HIV negative.

The disease is often spread through prolonged close contact with the monkeypox lesions.

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I Believe God Gave Me Genital Herpes to Turn My Life Around – Now I’m Happier Than Ever by A. Court

I Believe God Gave Me Genital Herpes to Turn My Life Around – Now I’m Happier Than Ever by A. Court

Oh gawd. Is she serious? On the one hand, I think it’s good when people learn from past mistakes, take personal responsibility, and move on – but this is horribly weird.

It would’ve been even more prudent for this woman to stay celibate if she was single.

It shouldn’t take getting genital herpes into waking someone up and making them realize they’ve made some very questionable or poor life choices, FFS.

God did not give her herpes, as she states in the interview below. She got herpes from her (poor) sexual choices in life, which was having pre-marital sex with her STD-afflicted boyfriend. Don’t lay your poor life choices at God’s doorstep.

(Link): I believe God gave me herpes to turn my life around — now I’m happier than ever 

by Andrew Court
August 12, 2022

She believes it’s divine intervention.

A Las Vegas mother says God gave her genital herpes as a “wake-up call” to turn her life around.

Alexandra Harbushka, now 39, was diagnosed with the STI in 2011 after contracting it from her then-boyfriend.

The Nevada native — who now runs the website LifeWithHerpes — was in her late 20s and feeling directionless at the time, living with her parents, struggling with her finances and frequently binge drinking.

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Leftist: We Need to Kill Babies in Abortions So We Can Have “Care-Free Sex Lives”

Leftist: We Need to Kill Babies in Abortions So We Can Have “Care-Free Sex Lives”

Here (first link below) is the original Daily Beast editorial the other author is responding to
(celibacy exists, folks, try it! Earlier feminists said that they were only requesting that abortion be rare and safe, but these days, many of them admit to wanting to use it as birth control, which is immoral and irresponsible):

(Link): I Had a Carefree Sex Life. The Next Generation Will Have Fear.  – The Daily Beast

I had the privilege of coming of age when sex-positive women had more options. That’s why we need to fight the movement that equates “sex” with “shame.”

(Link): Leftist: We Need to Kill Babies in Abortions So We Can Have “Care-Free Sex Lives”

July 26, 2022
by  Tierin-Rose Mandelburg

The overturn of Roe v. Wade is going to impair the next generation’s sex-life according to Sunday’s Daily Beast piece.

Rebecca White, a “culturally white, cis, straight-identifying woman” penned the piece titled “I Had a Carefree Sex Life. The Next Generation Will Have Fear” to talk about how great her sex life is/was without having to worry about limited access to abortion. Ms. White expressed her concern for younger people who will have to “fear” the result of unprotected sex.

Abortion access has supposedly become “a war” and White advocated for women to “manifest on the streets, on the page, and in conversation.” Yes, take to the streets to ensure that you have the “right” to kill your babies after you choose to engage in unprotected sex. That’s the narrative these lunatics want you to buy.

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Man Gets Painful, Drug-Resistant ‘Super Gonorrhea’ on International Vacation Having Sex With Prostitute

Man Gets Painful, Drug-Resistant ‘Super Gonorrhea’ on International Vacation Having Sex With Prostitute

You know one thing you don’t have to be concerned about when you’re celibate? Catching drug-resistant super gonorrhea. LOL.

(Link): Man gets painful, drug-resistant ‘super gonorrhea’ on international vacation

June 21, 2022
By Emily Lefroy

Scientists have revealed a reason to protect yourself when engaging in some intimate holiday fun with a report that a man contracted “super gonorrhea” on an international holiday.

An Austrian man reportedly caught a new drug-resistant strain of the sexually transmitted disease after having relations with a sex worker in Cambodia.

According to the World Health Organization, ”super gonorrhea” refers to a strain that has a high level of resistance to currently recommended treatments.

If multidrug-resistant strains of gonorrhea start to spread, many cases of the STD might become untreatable.

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Women Threaten to Go On Sex Strike In Protest Over SCOTUS Overturning Roe V Wade

Women Threaten to Go On Sex Strike In Protest Over SCOTUS Overturning Roe V Wade

So, it takes the overturn of Roe Vs Wade to get secular feminists (and probably some progressive religious ones) to think seriously about celibacy now? Are they for real?

I’m in my 50s, still haven’t had sex because I was waiting until marriage to have sex, never got married, so I’m still a virgin. I have a normal libido. There is no such thing as a “gifting of celibacy,” as so many Christians assume; God, if he exists, did not remove my libido.

I discussed in a previous post a couple years ago why I made the choice I did to sexually abstain, but I will repeat one reason of several from that post: I did not want to get pregnant out of wedlock.

Birth control is not totally effective, it costs to maintain, I didn’t want to see a doctor periodically to get check ups to get birth control, etc.

I realized years ago – even as far back as my teen years – that a possible outcome of consensual sex was pregnancy which I didn’t want to happen. I didn’t want to use abortion as birth control (I don’t believe in abortion).

I managed to live my life practicing sexual self control, and I expect others to be capable of the same.

Any time you have sex with another person, that is a choice you’re making. As I’ve said before, sex with another person is a luxury not a necessity.

Having sex is not a biological necessity for you to stay alive – you will continue to live even if you’re abstaining. You can enjoy life without sex with another person.

If you are a woman thinking you can get or keep a boyfriend by giving him sex, think again. That won’t work, and you’ll only attract manipulative, selfish men who don’t make for good boyfriends anyway.

I just find it ludicrous that now that Roe V Wade was overturned, that all these women (many of whom are probably self-identifying feminists who spent years promoting “sex positivity”) are willing to practice celibacy, probably for the first time.

I’ve been celibate my whole life. I never bought into the hedonistic sex messaging of feminists, not even when I was a teen in the 1980s or a college student in the 1990s.

A lot of the “sex positive” feminists always came across to me as though they are really infuriated that men get to have (in some regards) consequence- free sex but not women; some of these feminists assume that all women want to be just as gross and promiscuous as most men are.

Why on earth would it take limitations on abortion to get a woman to think twice about when to have sex, with whom, and so forth?

Abortion will not be out-lawed in all fifty states going forward. Currently, some states still permit abortion, while others still allow it but with more stipulations.

Things should never have gotten to this point in the first place.
Pro Choice feminists reassured all of us pro-lifers back years ago that abortions would be “safe but rare” if it were legalized, but now I see all these air-headed Gen Z or younger Millennial women screaming and yelling on social media about how “proud” they are that they had an abortion.

Some of them are acting like abortion getting limitations strips them of all birth control – were these sexually active young women not already on the pill, or making their boyfriends use condoms? Abortion should never be used as a form of birth control.

Maybe the best things is to abstain and not have ANY sex with another person, unless and until you marry.

I’ve seen a lot of women in the past 30 years write in to advice columnists broken hearted because they wanted a meaningful, lasting, committed relationship but although they were having sex with men, they weren’t getting the marriage proposals they expected to get, as liberal feminists assured them that having free sex anywhere, at any time, with anyone was “empowering.”

But for a lot of women, all that casual sex, or whatever type of sex prior to marriage (outside of a loving, committed relationship), wasn’t fulfilling or empowering.

I just find it so hypocritical that after years and years of seeing so many people, whether secular feminists, or progressive Christians, mock the concept of sexual abstinence and celibacy (or staying a virgin until marriage)
– and yes, I’ve even seen conservative Baptist and evangelical Christians give up on defending purity until marriage –
to suddenly see all these women advocate for celibacy!

Where were all these bitches for the years I’ve been on this blog advocating for celibacy or virginity-until-marriage to at least be respected as a viable life choice for women (and men) instead of something to mock and ridicule?

A lot of you women out there now having conniption fits and screaming about having a Sex Strike should have given sexual abstinence an honest consideration YEARS AGO, prior to the overturn of Roe V Wade.

By the way, I am specifically talking about consensual sex.
Too many feminists have the dishonest tendency to conflate the topics of consensual sex with rape and then condemn any and all discussion of female (or male) sexual restraint as being cruel or victim-blaming.

Links About Pro Choice Women Going on Sex Strikes

(Link): Sex Strike! Abstinence trends on Twitter in wake of Roe v. Wade ruling

June 25, 2022
By Emily Crane and  Irie Sentner

Big Apple abortion protesters were in support of a sex strike Saturday — as “abstinence” started trending on Twitter in the wake of the Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe v. Wade.

“If you’re a man who won’t get a vasectomy, even though it’s reversible, and you’re not out in the streets fighting for my rights, you do not deserve to have sex with me,” Brianna Campbell, a 24-year-old EMT, told The Post.

Caroline Healey, a 22-year-old event coordinator, also questioned why sex was more important than women’s rights.

“I think it’s absolutely valid for us to be withholding the Holy Grail that men seem to think is important,” she told The Post at an abortion protest in Manhattan’s Union Square.

…“If this world thinks that they can oppress women forever, then we close our legs.”

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AITA For Making My Boyfriend Call Me Grandma in Bed?

AITA For Making My Boyfriend Call Me Grandma in Bed?

There’s this advice section on Reddit called AITA (Am I The Asshole), where people write in about disputes they’re having with co-workers, friends, family, or whomever, and they want to know if they’re wrong or if the person they’re having the dispute with is wrong.

The sometimes get questions about dating and marriage.

This woman is NOT the asshole. Her idiot boyfriend is. Well, he’s not just an asshole, but he’s a weirdo sicko. grandmaRockingChair

(Link): AITA For Making My Boyfriend Call Me Grandma in Bed?

If that link doesn’t work, there is a screen cap of it in a tweet embedded below, and here’s another link or two with copies of the inquiry:

(Link): ‘Call Me Grandma In Bed’: The Most Outrageous Stories On Reddit’s Am I The Asshole?

The Bedroom Equaliser

””I’m just going to get right to it — My (25f) boyfriend (28m) likes to be called “daddy” in bed while we’re being intimate.

I’ve obliged this request but it’s starting to creep me out and I’ve decided I don’t want to do it anymore.

He is not happy with this and insists it has nothing to do with the connotation of the word, he just simply enjoys hearing me say it.

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Former Football Player Acquitted in Beating Death of Tinder Date Who Lied About His Biological Sex 

Former Football Player Acquitted in Beating Death of Tinder Date Who Lied About His Biological Sex 

I follow a lot of radical feminist, anti-trans-agenda accounts on social media, in addition to following conservative outlets who cover trans news stories, but I find that the rad fems (as they sometimes call themselves) interact with actual transwomen online more often. They will share screen caps of the tweets by lunatic Transwomen.

One common argument I see the Transwomen bring up is that nobody should care about genitals, or “genital preference,” and that it shouldn’t matter to someone who he or she is having sexual relations with (or dating) if the person  has a penis or not.

I’ve seen some of them argue online that it is perfectly fine to NOT tell a potential date up-front that they are a transwoman with a penis. They don’t think it should matter… but it does matter, to a lot of people.

Not only is it a form of deception – I’ve read of several transmen who have been charged with various crimes for lying to biological women they’ve had sex with by refraining to tell them they’re not a real man and using a prosthetic penis during sex acts – but sometimes, the person the Trans-Fraud is trying to date or have sex with finds out the trans person’s TRUE biological sex, they get very upset about it and murder the lying trans person.

May I suggest that if you don’t want to end up with – literally – all the bones in your face broken, your teeth kicked out, and lying dead in a pool of your own blood, that you don’t lie about something like your biological sex to people you’re romantically or sexually interested in.

A lot of people may fudge about their height, income, or age on dating sites and maybe real life, but I don’t think anyone should pass themselves off as being a woman if they’re actually a man, or vice versa.

I hope the guy really enjoyed the deceptive sex he got – the one who lied about his biological sex and pretended to be a woman to get the sex with the other man – because he paid for it with his life. Talk about making sex into an idol.

Here’s an example of a guy who paid with his life for lying to a man about his true sex and got beaten to death as a result:

(Link): Virginia Tech linebacker accused of beating man to death over Tinder catfishing

June 10, 2021
By Joshua Rhett Miller

A freshman Virginia Tech linebacker charged with murder told police he fatally beat a man — breaking every bone in his face — for catfishing him on Tinder, prosecutors said.

Ismemen David Etute, 18, told cops he went to the Blacksburg apartment of 40-year-old Jerry Smith in April for oral sex after matching up with someone named “Angie” on Tinder, the Roanoke Times reported.

Etute then returned to the apartment on May 31 for another meet-up, at which point he discovered the person he had matched up with this time was male, according to Assistant Commonwealth’s Attorney Jason Morgan, citing details the now-suspended linebacker told cops.

Etute told investigators he punched Smith five times in the face and “stomped” on him, but didn’t call police despite hearing “bubbling and gurgling” from the victim as he left the apartment. Cops found the badly beaten man’s body one day later, the newspaper reported.

… An autopsy revealed Smith, a restaurant worker, died from blunt force trauma to the head. All of the bones in his face were broken and his teeth were also missing, the Roanoke Times reported.

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The Bedevilments of Sex: Louise Perry’s “The Case against the Sexual Revolution” by Ralph Leonard

The Bedevilments of Sex: Louise Perry’s “The Case against the Sexual Revolution” by Ralph Leonard

According to the review below – a review of Perry’s book ‘The Case Against the Sexual Revolution,’ she, Perry, to bolster her view, appeals to the concept of ‘evolutionary psychology,’ a discipline or worldview I do not agree with.

(In my understanding of it, evolutionary psychology ends up attributing socially conditioned behaviors to hardwired, in-born traits, and is, and has been used, to practice sexism against women, or to try to explain or justify sexist outcomes against women by men.)

I don’t support the history of, and on-going existence of, sexual double standards, where, for example, women get punished for sexual behaviors that men have routinely engaged in.

However, I also don’t support third wave feminist views or sexual excess, where some portions of society advocate for sexual hedonism.

Sexual hedonism, the “there should be no boundaries on sex” type of attitudes promoted by progressives, comes with its own set of problems which hurt people (especially women and children).

(Link):  The Bedevilments of Sex: Louise Perry’s “The Case against the Sexual Revolution” by Ralph Leonard

Excerpts:

June 3, 2022

[The author begins by explaining what by now should be a familiar refrain: the sexual liberation which was supposed to put women’s sexual behavior and choices on an even playing ground to that of men, has in the decades sense, apparently, resulted not in women’s sexual liberation, but in making a lot of women unhappy and straining relationships between men and women and in introducing a whole new set of problems.
The author says this is some of what the new book “The Case Against the Sexual Revolution” by Louise Perry has set out to tackle.]

… she [Perry] questions the notion that the sexual revolution has been a gain or a liberation for women. Quite the opposite. “Women have been conned,” she declares.

The sexual revolution, Perry emphatically argues, didn’t liberate them. Instead, it liberated the libidos of high-status playboys and lechers such as Hugh Hefner and Harvey Weinstein at the expense of women.

… This isn’t your usual traditional religious moralism.

Perry’s thinking is quite secular. It appeals to science (specifically, evolutionary psychology).

But, like religious moralism, which is based on the idea of man as a fallen being, Perry’s use of evolutionary psychology reveals the supposed limitations of our evolved nature.  …

Perry advertises her book as an attempt to reckon with the immense change the sexual revolution has created throughout society and culture. She proclaims that she does not endorse either “the accounts typically offered by liberals, addicted to a narrative of progress, or conservatives addicted to a narrative of decline.”

Instead, she makes the following arguments.

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“Three Rules to Avoid Cheating and Betrayal, From My Work as a Sexologist” by Dr. Robert Weiss

“Three Rules to Avoid Cheating and Betrayal, From My Work as a Sexologist”

 (Link): “Three rules to avoid cheating and betrayal, from my work as a sexologist”

August 16, 2020

by Dr. Robert Weiss
[who says he is a “licensed California therapist specializing in sex and intimacy”]

…As a sexologist, it is not my job to tell a couple that they must be monogamous. That is their choice to make. Or not. If they choose monogamy, my job is to help them negotiate their relationship boundaries and to help them find resolution if/when those boundaries are broken….

Having worked nearly half my life with families damaged by infidelity, I want to share three simple rules to help couples successfully negotiate monogamy, to avoid the pain associated when one partner cheats and to assist those struggling to overcome sexual betrayal.

1. Accept that cheating occurs when one spouse deliberately lies about or keeps meaningful secrets from the other. …

…Using my definition, cheating is less about specific sexual behaviors and more about lies and secrets used to cover up those behaviors.

And, as just about every betrayed partner I’ve ever worked with has told me, “It’s not the sex that causes the most pain. It’s that I no longer know who my partner is or trust anything that he/she says. How can we have an intimate connection when there’s no trust?”

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