Romeo, The World’s Loneliest Frog, May Be Getting a Girlfriend

Romeo, The World’s Loneliest Frog, May Be Getting a Girlfriend

(Link):  Romeo, The World’s Loneliest Frog, May Be Getting a Girlfriend

Excerpts:

by Lynn Franco
Jan 2019

He’s spent 10 years alone. Now Romeo, the world’s loneliest frog, may have finally found a Juliet that can save his species

Scientists have found a potential mate for Romeo, the Sehuencas water frog who’s been alone and single for the last 10 years. Housed in a museum in Bolivia, Romeo was considered possibly the last living water frog of his kind.

The big-eyed amphibian won hearts worldwide last year after conservationists created a playful Match .com profile for him.

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What Is The Right Age To Lose Your Virginity? – via BBC

What Is The Right Age To Lose Your Virginity? – via BBC

(Link): What Is The Right Age To Lose Your Virginity? – via BBC

Excerpts:

Having sex too soon is the biggest regret of young people losing their virginity, a survey of British sexual behaviour suggests.

More than a third of women and a quarter of men in their teens and early 20s admitted it had not been “the right time” when they first had sex.

People must be 16 or over to legally consent to sex.

The latest National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles poll says many people may not be ready at that age.

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Falling In Love Literally Changes Women’s Bodies, Scientists Say

Falling In Love Literally Changes Women’s Bodies, Scientists Say

(Link): Falling In Love Literally Changes Women’s Bodies, Scientists Say

Excerpts:

By Anthony Izaguirre
January 2019

…Scientists have found that falling head over heels for someone causes women in particular to produce a specific kind of protein.

“New romantic love is accompanied not only by psychological changes, but physiological changes as well,” UCLA researchers wrote, according to The Sunday Times.

The scientists took blood samples from 47 young, newly enamored women and found that their bodies were producing interferon, a protein typically deployed to fight viruses.

I’m a Virgin, So Why Am I Being Slut-Shamed? by Ashley Iaconetti

I’m a Virgin, So Why Am I Being Slut-Shamed? by Ashley Iaconetti

(Link): I’m a Virgin, So Why Am I Being Slut-Shamed? by Ashley Iaconetti

Excerpts:

“Bachelor” contestant Ashley Iaconetti on why a girl can act sexy without, you know, having sex.

Apparently I can’t be a virgin because I have my belly-button pierced. Or because I live in New Jersey. Or because I kissed Chris Soules “like that” during my appearance on The Bachelor. During my time on the show, social media was flooded with absurd judgements and arguments as to why I couldn’t possibly be a virgin.

It’s been odd and frustrating to see people debate the status of my hymen (!) on Twitter — seriously, people, that’s what you’re using your time tweeting about? And many people don’t just doubt my claim, but flat-out declare I’m a liar.

….I believe a girl can be sexy without having sex.

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Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

So, Lester Winningham murdered Deborah Houchin – I believe this was around the year 2005.

Houchin was in her 50s, she was divorced. After being single for several years after the divorce, she wanted to remarry, her friends said.

So, she joined a dating site or two – I think one news source says she tried “Match .com”.

Houchin went on dates with a lot of men who ended up being creepy or weirdos, until she met Winningham, who seemed to be a great match – he seemed normal and kind. I guess he didn’t give off any red flags, not immediately.

Well, as it turned out, Winningham murdered Houchin.

Prior to that, he proposed marriage, but one of her friends suggested before she accepted, that she get him to sign a pre-nup, because she was financially well-off.

When Houchin brought up wanting a pre-nup with Winningham, he became infuriated, very hostile, and it frightened Houchin; she told one of her friends that he acted like a totally different man.

The police detectives later found out in their research on Winningham that he was broke, and in a lot of debt. He had only wanted to marry Houchin for her money.

Houchin had met Winningham on a dating site.

The kicker to this is that the murderer, Winningham, worked as a marriage counselor!

Sort of reminds me of the blog post I did a few years ago about a husband who had written a marital advice book (on how to have a great marriage) who (Link): shot his wife in her head and killed her.

Here are a few links about this horrible news story:

(Link): Marriage counselor convicted of killing ex-fiance

A marriage counselor was convicted today of fatally shooting his ex-fiance.

 Lester Winningham, 59, faces up to life in prison in the murder conviction. Jurors were expected to begin deliberating his punishment later today.

Winningham, a licensed psychologist, is accused of shooting Deborah Houchin three times in her Arlington home before dumping her body behind a mechanic’s shop in 2005. During three days of testimony, the jury was told how the couple fought often in the months before her death.

(Link): Marriage Counselor Sentenced To Life For Killing Ex-Fiancee Who He Had Met On Dating Site

A marriage counselor was sentenced to life in prison Friday for fatally shooting his ex-fiancee.

Earlier in the day, jurors convicted Lester Winningham, 59, of murder.

Authorities say the licensed psychologist shot Deborah Houchin three times in her Arlington home before dumping her body behind a mechanic’s shop in 2005.

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ABC Won’t Let Us Forget That the New Bachelor Is A Virgin. Is That A Problem? by L. Bonos

ABC Won’t Let Us Forget That the New Bachelor Is A Virgin. Is That A Problem? by L. Bonos / Lily News

(Link): ABC Won’t Let Us Forget That the New Bachelor Is A Virgin. Is That A Problem?

Excerpts:

Past contestants say the show sometimes talks around sex in a way that feels exploitative

By The Lily News, Jan 6, 2019

Adapted from a story by The Washington Post’s Lisa Bonos.

Last night, this season of ABC’s “The Bachelor” premiered. Its lead is Colton Underwood: a 26-year-old former professional football player who, when he appeared on “The Bachelorette” this past summer, delivered an announcement that surprised many. He’s a virgin — and now, as he steps into the spotlight, ABC will not let us forget it for a moment.

Conversations with past Bachelor Nation virgins reveal the reality show and its spin offs often use wholesome things — such as virginity and the search for a husband and wife — as ways to talk about the more titillating aspects of dating, in ways that can feel exploitative.

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Woman Breaks Into Police Station to See Officer She Wanted to Date

Woman Breaks Into Police Station to See Officer She Wanted to Date

Wow. That police officer must have been quite the cutie.

I figure he’s either very creeped out or very flattered by this.

(Link): Woman breaks into police station looking for cop she’d been sexually harassing since he arrested her

…West Wyoming Police Chief Curtis Nocera says Keister had been under investigation for harassing an officer who arrested her last year. He says she sent sexually harassing messages on social media and would call 911 just to talk to him.

(Link): Police: Woman breaks into Pa. police station, wanted to date cop 

(Link): Caught on Camera: Woman Breaks into Borough Building After Allegedly Harassing Police Officer

(Link): Woman Breaks Into Police Station to See Officer She Wanted to date

Police say the woman sent sexually harassing messages on social media to an officer who arrested her last year and would call 911 just to talk to him.

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Church Is a Family, Not an Event by K. Kandiah

Church Is a Family, Not an Event by K. Kandiah

This editorial by Kandiah makes many of the same points I have been making on this blog the last several years.

Church is not just about spreading the Gospel (as so many Christians incorrectly assume), but God designed the church to also serve as a community, another family, where widowed, single, and divorced adults could get their needs for companionship met.

But most churches today do not want to engage in that role; all the church-goers want to go home to their homes in the suburbs with their biological families and just hang out with their families.

Many church-going Christians don’t care to invite over the divorcee’ or the widower or the never married woman and include any of those people in their lives.

(Link): Church Is a Family, Not an Event by K. Kandiah

Excerpts:

The Bible refers to fellow Christians as “brothers and sisters,” but how often do we treat them as family?

More Than an Event
I have met many pastors and church members who can tell similar stories. As I visit many churches that are embracing people in desperate need of family, my eyes are continually being opened not only to what family truly can be but to what church as family truly can be.

This shift in perception of what church is, and what church is for, has huge implications, not just for our own personal spiritual development but for our understanding of mission, evangelism, worship, justice, hospitality, and discipleship.

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Pat Robertson’s Too-Vague Response About Unanswered Prayer and Non-Helpful Advice About Anxiety

Pat Robertson’s Too-Vague Response About Unanswered Prayer and Non-Helpful Advice About Anxiety

The episode in question:
(Link): The 700 Club – January 8, 2019

(There is a video of the program embedded on that page hosted on CBN’s / 700 Club’s site. Also, thanks to commentator Stevo below, check (Link): this page on 700 Club’s site for the video)

The portions of that video I am addressing come during the part of the show where the lady co-host reads viewer questions to Pat Robertson, and Robertson replies to them.

I do not remember at what point the question segment airs, whether it’s at the 30 minute mark or later. Unfortunately, they’ve not uploaded the same episode to their You Tube channel (not yet, perhaps they will tomorrow).

I have to rely on memory here because I’ve not re-watched the episode.

Questions were posed to Robertson about unanswered prayer and about anxiety.

And I don’t believe that Robertson did an adequate job of replying to any of the questions.

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‘I Almost Drove My Car Off A Bridge Because Of The Strain of Having a Family’

‘I Almost Drove My Car Off A Bridge Because Of The Strain of Having a Family’

I’m not exactly anti-marriage or anti-family, but.

However. I am tired of how other conservatives or how 99% of Christians “hype” marriage, children, and “the family” to the point they act as though everyone should get married and have a kid, and if you do not, they suggest or state point blank, that you have failed culture and society, and you’re a big Loser. Christians especially behave as though getting married and having a kid is a commandment from God (it is not).

Being married and being a mother did not bring happiness to this lady.

And notice how this lady says that she and her husband didn’t have sex for a year.

I bring that up, because one teaching I heard or saw a lot in Christian sermons or books when I was a kid growing up is that if one remains a virgin until marriage, that God will reward you and your spouse with regular, “mind blowing” sex. The reality is, a person can remain chaste but then end up having lousy sex in marriage, or none at all.

(Link): BABY BLUES – We rowed [argued] and hadn’t had sex for a year due to the strain of starting a family… I almost drove my car off a bridge

January 2019

Aimee and Davin Bradley, both 35, were at each other’s throats for the first three years of their daughter’s life

By Hayley Richardson

HAVING a baby can feel like the icing on the cake for some couples but for others the strain of starting a family can push them to breaking point.

Aimee and Davin Bradley, both 35, were at each other’s throats for the first three years of their daughter Autumn’s life and didn’t have sex for a year.

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Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

I really do want conservative think tanks, pro-family groups, conservative television host Tucker Carlson, and complementarian or conservative Christians to explain to me how marriage or “the family” makes society better, or how marriage is necessary to make a person mature, godly, or a “true” adult,  when I keep seeing so many news stories of married people who kill each other, or news items about husbands who are caught using child porn, beating their wives, or visiting prostitutes.

Marriage did not do anything to make this woman behave in a godly, mature, kind-hearted nature towards her husband.

I am someone who is over the age of 45, I’ve never been married, and I deeply resent conservative talk show hosts or “pro-family” Christian groups who keep acting as though everyone needs to be married, and if they are not, they are ruining society or are incapable of being godly and mature.

The Bible teaches that being single is fine with God – see 1 Corinthians chapter 7. No where does the Bible teach that marriage is mandatory for any reason – not to “save” culture or to make people more “godly.”

This article says that the wife may have dementia or mental health problems – well, did marriage keep this woman from developing mental health issues? No, it did not.

Christians and conservatives need to stop holding marriage or “the family” up as some kind of magical fix-alls.

(Link): Woman, Age 86, Beats Her 89 Year Old Husband To Death With A Cane

An elderly Florida woman beat her husband to death with a cane on Saturday, police said.

Ramona Maxine Lund, 86, from Pace, is charged with 89-year-old Francis Lund’s murder,the Orlando Sentinel reported. She is the oldest person in the county to be charged with murder, Santa Rosa County Sheriff Bob Johnson said at a press conference Monday.

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A Grindr Harassment Suit Could Change the Legal Landscape For Tech – and Free Speech

A Grindr Harassment Suit Could Change the Legal Landscape For Tech – and Free Speech

(Link): A Grindr Harassment Suit Could Change the Legal Landscape For Tech – and Free Speech

Excerpts

Months of harassment led Matthew Herrick to file a lawsuit against the dating app — and he’s using laws meant to protect consumers from dangerous products to do so.

By David Ingram

[A guy named Matthew Herrick was harassed by his ex boyfriend on the Grinder app for many months]

He also filed a lawsuit against Grindr in 2017. The alleged harassment continued for months, even after Herrick obtained a temporary restraining order against Grindr that required the company to disable the impersonating profiles.

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Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death (1987) – Equally Yoked Is Pointless

Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death (1987) – Equally Yoked Is Pointless

Some Christians insist that single Christian women can and should marry only Christian men.

But why on earth should any Christian woman bother dating or marrying Christian men, when some of them do things like murder other people? See the news coverage below.

(Link): Trial Begins for Preacher Accused in Decapitation of Handyman – 1988

NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP) _ A minister went on trial Monday on charges of beheading a handyman and burning down his church in an alleged attempt to assume a new identity and disappear with $50,000 in church money.

Jury selection is expected to take most of the week in the first-degree murder and arson trial of the Rev. John David Terry, who faces the death penalty if convicted.

Terry may take the witness stand to break his yearlong silence in the decapitation of James C. Matheny.

The slaying and fire on June 15, 1987, at Emmanuel Church of Christ Pentecostal Oneness stunned Terry’s parishioners. Some have stuck by him since Matheny’s body was found rolled up in a scorched carpet.

(Link): Preacher John David Terry Murdered and Beheaded Friend to Fake Own Death

This week “Grave Secrets” examines the case of Rev. John David Terry, a pastor who took a very dark path indeed.

Nashville, June 16, 1987, and the 44-year-old pastor is found dead after a fire at the church where he preached but the investigation soon reveals something is amiss.

 Terry’s path to crime partly stemmed from his feeling of having failed in life, a feeling he claimed became stronger after his mother died in 1983.

He then hatched a plan to fake his own death and befriended 32-year-old down on his luck father of one James C. Matheny.

He wanted to fake a robbery that would result in his heroic death and claimed that his plan was to include Matheny in the plot.

However, the detectives believe that he lured Matheny to the church and then shot him in the back of the head.

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Woman Allegedly Texted Man 159,000 Times After 1 Date: ‘I’d Make Sushi Out of Your Kidneys’

Woman Allegedly Texted Man 159,000 Times After 1 Date: ‘I’d Make Sushi Out of Your Kidneys’

(Link): Phoenix Woman Jacqueline Ades Accused Of Sending 159,000 Text Messages To Man After Failed First Date. The woman reportedly met the unnamed man on a dating site for millionaires

(Link): Woman Allegedly Texted Man 159,000 Times After 1 Date: ‘I’d Make Sushi Out of Your Kidneys’

Excerpts:

by KAREN MIZOGUCHI
January 04, 2019 05:48 PM

A woman in Arizona allegedly sent a man she met on a dating site more than 159,000 text messages over a 10-month period after just one date.

Jacqueline Claire Ades, who was accused of stalking the man by breaking into his home, was arrested in May by Paradise Valley police.

At the time, authorities alleged she had sent 65,000 texts after their only date. But police documents made public on Friday show that Ades, 31, allegedly sent many more messages.

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Woman Killed by Man She Began Dating After Her Husband Died of Cancer

Woman Killed by Man She Began Dating After Her Husband Died of Cancer

(Link): Woman slain with 2 children, mother was recently widowed

Excerpts:

A suburban St. Louis woman who was killed along with her two children and her mother had started dating her alleged killer after her husband died of cancer

Dec 2018

The man accused of killing a suburban St. Louis woman, her children and her mother began dating the woman as she rebuilt her life following her husband’s death from cancer.

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Nine Questions To Ask On A First Date, According To Divorce Lawyers by B. Wong

Nine Questions To Ask On A First Date, According To Divorce Lawyers by B. Wong

(Link): Nine Questions To Ask On A First Date, According To Divorce Lawyers by B. Wong

Excerpts:

Avoid a bad end by asking the right questions at the start.

Few people have a keener eye for relationship red flags thandivorce attorneys. They’ve seen firsthand how quickly personality quirks can turn into major annoyances and the problems that can lead to calling it quits.

That also makes them surprisingly good at giving dating advice.

Below, family law attorneys from across the country share nine pointed questions to ask on a first date if you want to avoid getting into a relationship with someone you’ll eventually divorce.

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The CEO Behind Tinder, OkCupid on the Future of Online Dating by C. Cutter

The CEO Behind Tinder, OkCupid on the Future of Online Dating – by C. Cutter, from WSJ

(Link): The CEO Behind Tinder, OkCupid on the Future of Online Dating

Excerpts:

Match Group chief Mandy Ginsberg talks about her first year on the job, the Facebook threat and tackling loneliness through technology

A decade ago, when Mandy Ginsberg asked couples how they met, some would give a fictitious answer: “Oh, we met through friends.”

When she then revealed she worked at an online dating company, their answers shifted: “Oh, we actually met through Match,” they told her.

In her nearly 13 years at Match Group Inc., MTCH 7.98% where she became chief executive in January, Ms. Ginsberg has watched the stigma of online dating fade almost entirely.

Today, many people even proudly pursue a multiapp dating strategy.

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Love Couldn’t Save Me From Loneliness By M. Puniewska

Love Couldn’t Save Me From Loneliness By M. Puniewska

Yes, it is possible to be in a relationship – dating or married to a man – yet feel all alone. Some men cannot or will not fulfill a woman’s emotional needs, or, some men prefer watching football to spending time with their wives, which leaves their wives feeling all alone.

This certainly happened to me. I was in a serious relationship with a man, we were engaged for the last few years of the relationship, and he was selfish, self-absorbed, didn’t care to meet my emotional (or other) needs, so I recall sitting in the same room with him yet still feeling as though I was all alone.

I also agree with the view of this author that there is a “loneliness shaming” that goes on in American society; if you admit to being or feeling lonely, you will be shamed for it, as though it’s unacceptable to admit to being lonely.

(Link): Love Couldn’t Save Me From Loneliness By M. Puniewska

[The author explains to a friend of hers over lunch that she has been feeling lonely]

…After listening carefully and making lots of affirming nods, she acknowledged how loneliness could be hard. However, she ultimately settled on something else. “But you have your boyfriend,” she said, matter-of-factly but not maliciously. “That’s something, right?”

Yes, it was something, and it was something that was going really well. But I didn’t feel like this was about him.

This was about those other empty holes in my life, left by friends I had lost touch with or family who didn’t call. I didn’t think he could fill them — and I wouldn’t expect him to.

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Bride Kicks Couple out of her Kid-Free Wedding for Bringing Their Children but People are Defending Her

Bride Kicks Couple out of her Kid-Free Wedding for Bringing Their Children but People are Defending Her

(Links): Bride Kicks Couple out of her Kid-Free Wedding for Bringing Their Children but People are Defending Her

Dec 2018

A bride on Reddit detailed how she asked a couple at her wedding to leave after they brought their infant and toddler

She had explicitly stated on the wedding invitation that the event was kid-free

Other kids at the ceremony, like the flower girl, were picked up before the reception

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The Five Years That Changed Dating by A. Fetters

The Five Years That Changed Dating by A. Fetters

(Link): The Five Years That Changed Dating by A. Fetters

Excerpts:

Dec 2018

When Tinder became available to all smartphone users in 2013, it ushered in a new era in the history of romance.

….But in 2018, seven of the 53 couples profiled in the Vows column met on dating apps.

And in the Times’ more populous Wedding Announcements section, 93 out of some 1,000 couples profiled this year met on dating apps—Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, Happn, and other specialized dating apps designed for smaller communities, like JSwipe for Jewish singles and MuzMatch for Muslims.

The year before, 71 couples whose weddings were announced by the Times met on dating apps.

Matt Lundquist, a couples therapist based in Manhattan, says he’s started taking on a less excited or expectant tone when he asks young couples and recently formed couples how they met. “Because a few of them will say to me, ‘Uhhh, we met on Tinder’—like, ‘Where else do you think we would have met?’” Plus, he adds, it’s never a good start to therapy when a patient thinks the therapist is behind the times or uncool.

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