Online Dating Soared by 35 Percent After Trump Was Elected – Also: Dating Site For Trump Supporters

Online Dating Soared by 35 Percent After Trump Was Elected – Also: Dating Site For Trump Supporters

(Link):   Make Dating Great Again: Trump Singles matchmaking site is for President-elect  [Trump] supporters only 

According to this article (next one below), most Democrats would be unwilling to date Republicans.

How stupid. You should be able to look past the person’s political views, unless they are obnoxious about them and insult you over yours or something like that.

(I’m a right winger but would feel perfectly fine dating a left wing guy, so long as he’s not a rude jackass towards me over our political differences.

And, by the way, as a right wing woman, I’d like to say, right wing men should NOT be sending insulting messages to left wing women on dating sites over their political views, as this site says some men are – that is so very rude).

(Link): Online Dating Soared by 35 Percent After Trump Was Elected – Also: Dating Site For Trump Supporters by N. Spector

Excerpts:

If you’re single and actively dating, this year’s Valentine’s Day may have been your crummiest yet. And not for the usual reasons like lack of chemistry or the person being nothing like their profile promised — but because of whom they voted for, and what political positions they support.

Earlier this month, the dating service Coffee Meets Bagel surveyed 1,320 users and found that the majority of singles say politics are impacting their quest for love.

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I’m a Christian Married to an Atheist — Here’s How We Make It Work by S. Allen

I’m a Christian Married to an Atheist — Here’s How We Make It Work by S. Allen

I have a (Link): bazillion examples on this blog of Christian men who are arrested or found out for things like wife beating, child molesting, or other horrible things.

As I’ve said many times before, I’m done with the ‘Equally Yoked’ teaching, because I don’t see the sense in it.

Why should any single, Christian woman hold out for a single, Christian man, when, number one, females outnumber males in Christianity, so your chances of getting one are slim to none, and secondly, men professing to believe in Jesus does not make them marriage material.

I’m sorry to be so repetitive, but, I’d rather marry a decent, kind, loving NON-CHRISTIAN man, than marry a wife-beating, drug addicted, child- porn- watching man who professes Christ, reads a Bible, and-or who attends a church regularly.

I think in this particular case, the man started out atheist while they were dating, became a Christian after they married, but reverted back to atheism later – but their marriage is surviving.

Some of the people who left comments below her post on this other site (XO Jane) are criticizing her piece.

(Link): I’m a Christian Married to an Atheist — Here’s How We Make It Work

Excerpts:

by S. Allen

I grew up in a Christian household, but not a fundamentalist one. My parents were strict, but I didn’t have a problem with it.

[The author states that during her college years, she hit a faith crisis – was still a Christian but having doubts about the faith.
She signed up for the dating site “Plenty of Fish” which is how she met her atheist boyfriend Dave.
She then came completely back to her faith, felt guilty about having an “unequally yoked” relationship, but stuck with Dave. They married.
Dave became a Christian but then reverted back to atheism. The author, Sarah, and Dave later had two sons together.]

…We have been married 11 years and we have an inter-faith-ish marriage. How do we do it without having a holy war in our house on the regular? Well, sometimes there are arguments about our faith or lack thereof. But mostly we have a pretty peaceful life.

It comes down to communication, respect, and love — just like any relationship.

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Homosexual Satanist Kills Cop He Met Via Grindr Dating App, Eats Part of Body, Acid Burns the Remainder

Homosexual Satanist Kills Cop He Met Via Grindr Dating App, Eats Part of Body, Acid Burns the Remainder

This is so gross.

(Link): ‘GRINDR MURDER’ City worker Stefano Brizzi accused of Grindr murder admits episode of Breaking Bad inspired him to dissolve PC’s body in acid

Nov 2016

Stefano Brizzi, 50, is said to have murdered PC Gordon Semple, 59, after organising a ‘chemsex’ hook-up on gay dating app Grindr

BY FELIX ALLE

A SATANIST accused of strangling and dismembering a policeman today admitted he was inspired to dissolve the victim’s body in acid by a scene from TV show Breaking Bad.

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Taking the Fear and Desperation Out of Online Dating – via The Atlantic

Taking the Fear and Desperation Out of Online Dating – via The Atlantic

(Link): Taking the Fear and Desperation Out of Online Dating by J. Beck

Excerpts:

“In the last decade, [dating sites] marketed to the desperate, to people who were lonely and hopeless,” she [Whitney Wolfe, the founder of the dating app Bumble] said on Wednesday at the Washington Ideas Forum, an event produced by The Aspen Institute and The Atlantic. “Therefore when someone used it they felt this sense of shame or embarrassment.”

… Wolfe said she hoped her app could erase some of those fears for heterosexual women who are online dating; the gimmick of Bumble that separates it from Tinder, Hinge, and the scads of others is that the woman has to send the first message.

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Nine Ugly Lessons About Sex From Big Data (Survey About Dating Site Users Habits Etc)

Nine Ugly Lessons About Sex From Big Data (Survey About Dating Site Users Habits Etc)

About men being ageist douche bags (as this article mentions): that is why I told single women on an older post on here to go ahead and lie about their ages on dating sites.

If most men are refusing to contact women over the age of 29 on dating sites, then go ahead and state your age as 27 or what have you, even if you’re actually age 40 or 54. If the guy meets you in person and isn’t attracted to you, meh, not much lost.

But if most men won’t even consider you at all on these sites unless you are age 20 – 25 (or 20 – 35), then magically make yourself age 33 or 22 by selecting those ages on your dating profile, if you are able.

I used to be on dating sites – men, some advice: women do NOT enjoy receiving “copy and paste” messages. We can tell, about 99% of the time, if you are sending us a copy and paste message. And it’s a huge turn-off.

(Link):  9 Ugly Lessons About Sex From Big Data

Excerpts:

Here are 9 revelations about sex and dating, courtesy of Rudder, Dataclysm, and, of course, big data.

1. Straight men think women have an expiration date.

Although women tend to seek men around their age, men of all ages are by far looking for women in their early 20s, according to OkCupid data. While men often set their age filters for women into the 30s and beyond, rarely do they contact a woman over 29.

2. Straight women are far less likely to express sexual desire than are other demographics.

On OkCupid, 6.1% of straight men are explicitly looking for casual sex. For gay men, it’s 6.9%, and for lesbians, 6.9%. For straight women, it’s only 0.8%.

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Florida Man Murdered By Woman (and her friends) Whom He Met On a Dating Site

Florida Man Murdered By Woman (and her friends) Whom He Met On a Dating Site

This sort of thing seems to usually happen to women – but here is a man who was killed from meeting a date on a dating site.

(Link):  Single dad killed in ‘honey trap set-up’ after meeting teen date on Plenty of Fish site

Aug 24, 2016

Adam Hilarie took Hailey Bustos bowling on a date before the 18-year-old allegedly returned the next night with three accomplices and a gun

A young father was killed in a suspected honey trap set-up after meeting a teenage girl through an online dating site.

Adam Hilarie, 27, was shot in the head during a robbery at his Florida home on Friday night.

The previous night, the single dad had taken 18-year-old Hailey Bustos bowling on a date after meeting her on the Plenty of Fish website.

The pair went back to Hilarie’s home in the town of Auburndale after the date on Thursday before he drove her home.

Police believe Bustos then met with three other men to arrange the robbery.

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This is What Online Dating is Like When You’re Not Gorgeous or Ugly, but Average by P. Braithwaite

This is what Online Dating is Like When You’re Not Gorgeous or Ugly, but Average by P. Braithwaite

(Link): This is what Online Dating is Like When You’re Not Gorgeous or Ugly, but Average by P. Braithwaite

Excerpts:

No one feels particularly special on a dating app. That’s what I want to tell her. My best friend, who looks like the racially ambiguous lovechild of Brad Pitt and Pocahontas, waves her phone at me in righteous indignation. She is not alone.

Several of my “classically attractive” friends are pissed. Society tells them they’re beautiful and they’re mad at Tinder and OkCupid for not providing better prospects.

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Love-Sick Teenager Who Won’t Take No For an Answer is Finally Shut Down by his Ex-Girlfriend’s FATHER in an Epic Text Exchange – Men of All Ages Need To Learn to Handle Rejection and to Respect Other People’s Boundaries in Dating

Love-Sick Teenager Who Won’t Take No For an Answer is Finally Shut Down by his Ex-Girlfriend’s FATHER in an Epic Text Exchange – Men of All Ages Need To Learn to Handle Rejection and to Respect Other People’s Boundaries in Dating

If there are any MEN reading this – especially men over the age of 21 – you need to realize that some of you are just as bad in your online behavior, especially on dating sites and apps, as this 15 year old kid is.

See how obnoxiously persistent this teen kid is, how he keeps dragging this exchange on and on with the teen girl’s father? This is how 90% of you men over the age of 21 behave towards grown women online, especially on dating sites.

You men refuse to take “no” from women for an answer, or to choose to view a woman turning you down as the ultimate insult.

You men take rejection by women far too personally, and send negative, nasty, insulting comments to some women, all for merely politely turning you down on a site, for refusing to give you their number, or going on a date with you.

Women you don’t know (single women) don’t owe you squat in life – women don’t owe you a smile, flirtation, chit chat, their phone numbers, sex, emotional support, or dates.

You will be turned down as you go through life by various women you flirt with or ask on dates – it’s a reality. Get over it. Learn to let go, accept defeat graciously, and stop taking it so damn personally.

Learn to respect other people’s boundaries. If a woman or girl tells you “no” or “not interested,” just let it go. Don’t send the girl or woman nasty, insulting messages if or when she turns you down. Just move along.

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‘It’s Not Me, It’s You’: A Loser’s Guide to Dealing with Rejection by The Guyliner

‘It’s Not Me, It’s You’: A Loser’s Guide to Dealing with Rejection by The Guyliner

(Link): ‘It’s not me, it’s you’: a loser’s guide to dealing with rejection by The Guyliner

Excerpts:

Advances in technology, and the urge to express ourselves as loudly as possible, mean rejection has never been so easy to dole out. Swiping left on Tinder, blocking on Twitter, marching to the polling booth: a firm no is never far away, but the bitter sting never fails to shock.

We’ve witnessed an unusually high level of public rejection over the last few turbulent weeks, from politicians discovering their posses were lacking compadres and feeling their ambition turn to ash in their mouths, to the much-maligned EU, sadly opening its Dear John letter from 52% of the UK, all calls going straight to voicemail.

Rejection can teach you a lot about yourself and those around you. “No” may never be music to your ears, but you can learn to take it with dignity. Or, at the very least, store up ample fuel for your revenge.

….On a dating app

“Why don’t they love me?” I’d cry when I was single, throwing myself on to a fainting couch whenever someone I’d contacted didn’t reciprocate.

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A ‘Romantic Way to Escape Persecution’: Online Matchmaking

A ‘Romantic Way to Escape Persecution’: Online Matchmaking

(Link): A ‘Romantic Way to Escape Persecution’: Online Matchmaking

Excerpt:

  • Persecution watchdog group hopes romantic connections between Western and Pakistani Christians could lead to asylum. Other persecution groups aren’t so sure.
  • An advocacy group for Pakistani Christians is now getting into the matchmaking business.

  • The British Pakistani Christian Association (BPCA) (Link): launched an online dating site in May to connect Pakistani Christians living all over the world.

  • Named for a common term for a South Asian wedding,  (Link): Shaadi4Christians serves as a tool for single Christians—and their parents, who still often arrange marriages for their children—scattered in the South Asian diaspora.

  • The BCPA views marriage as a way to escape persecution.

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Christian Mingle Dating Site Ordered To Accept Homosexual Singles

Christian Mingle Ordered To Accept Homosexual Singles

This is the same site that has hetero-sexual Christian rapists on it (see this link for more on that).

(Link): Christian Mingle Ordered To Accept Homosexual Singles

  • Dating website ChristianMingle has (Link): settled a lawsuit and now will accept same-sex searches. Previously, the site only allowed women to search for men and men to search for women.
  • A class-action suit was filed in 2013 by two gay men against Sparks Networks Inc., the owner of ChristianMingle and several other dating sites. The suit alleged that the sites were in violation of California’s anti-discrimination law

(Link):  Christian Mingle Can’t Block LGBT Singles From Using the Dating Site

(Link):  LGBT singles can now find love on Christian Mingle, after site settles discrimination lawsuit

Excerpts:

  • The site that sparked the lawsuit, Christian Mingle, boasts 15 million registered members. But the switch might not change much for LGBT Christians, Justin Lee, the executive director of the Gay Christian Network told the Daily News.

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Celibate Christian Woman Asks Christian Host Why God Will Not Send Her a Husband

Celibate Christian Woman Asks Christian Host Why God Will Not Send Her a Husband

A couple of days ago, I saw this episode of The 700 Club.

A celibate Christian woman wrote Pat Robertson this question –

And her question is one all Christians avoid: they just scream at a 20 year old today to MARRY NOW NOW NOW!

They have no advice and no encouragement to give any adult over 35 who wants to be married but still finds him or herself single.

The usual Christian response is just to shame this lady for supposedly not having done enough to marry when younger, in spite of not knowing her background, or what she did to try to marry – Christians just arrogantly ASSUME if you are not married past a certain age, it is all your fault, and there were no mitigating circumstances.

So here’s her question to Pat, host of The 700 Club:

  • Dear Pat,
  • The Bible says that it’s better to marry than to burn with lust, but what about someone like me who can’t find someone to marry?

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Necrophiliac Gets Prison For Killing Teacher on First Date Whom He Met Using Dating Site

Necrophiliac Gets Prison For Killing Teacher on First Date Whom He Met Using Dating Site

(Link): Necrophiliac Gets Prison For Killing Teacher on First Date Whom He Met Using Dating Site

  • June 3, 2016
  • Psycho killer Carl Langdell was jailed Friday for a minimum of 26 years after confessing to murdering a young teacher he met on an online dating site.
  • Sick fantastist Langdell lured innocent Katie Locke to a meeting via the website Plenty of Fish.
  • The killer told Katie, 23, he was a lawyer — setting up a fake LinkedIn account — before throttling the teacher and dumping her body near a dumpster.
  • He had taken photos of her dead body and sexually assaulted her.
  • On Friday, a judge handed Langdell a life sentence and told him that having sex with Locke’s dead body “increased the depravity of the murder.”

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Is Dating Worth It? by A. Schwartz (Re “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” book by Weigel)

Is Dating Worth It? by A. Schwartz (Re “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” book by Weigel)

(Link): Is Dating Worth It? by A. Schwartz

  • (Re “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” book by Weigel)

Excerpts:

  • ….Weigel, who is in her early thirties, is a Ph.D. candidate in comparative literature, film, and media at Yale; “Labor of Love,” a perceptive and wide-ranging investigation into the history of dating in America, is her first book, sprouted from the seed of unpleasant personal experience. At twenty-six, she was involved with an older man who was torn between her and an ex he hadn’t lost interest in. Maybe he wouldn’t choose either of them; he told Weigel that he found the whole premise of long-term romance “ideologically suspect.”
  • She realized that she had no idea what she herself wanted from romance. Her Irish Catholic mother and the self-help industry told her that the goal should be marriage, and soon. She asked her sort-of boyfriend for his opinion. He thought that everyone should want to pursue happiness. Weigel had a revelation: she was always turning to a man to tell her what she was after, and the institution of dating was to blame. It trained women “in how to be if we wanted to be wanted.”
  • Hence “Labor of Love,” an exploration of that training, in which Weigel reaches two main conclusions. The first is that though dating is passed off as a leisure activity, it really is a lot of work, particularly for women.
  • It requires physical effort—all that primping, exercising, shopping, and grooming—as well as sizable investments of time, money, and emotion. In our consumer society, love is perpetually for sale; dating is what it takes to close the deal.

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Personal Info of 70,000 Dating Site Users Leaked to Public Without Their Consent, Including Intimate Sexual Details

Personal Info of 70,000 Dating Site Users Leaked to Public Without Their Consent, Including Intimate Sexual Details

One of the side benefits of being a celibate is that you don’t have any private, potentially embarrassing sexual details to be made public because they don’t exist.

The researchers who dumped this data sound like real a**holes.

(Link): Scientists release personal data for 70,000 OkCupid profiles

(Link):  70,000 OkCupid Profiles Leaked, Intimate Details And All

  • by Emma Woollacott ,  CONTRIBUTOR
  • May 2016
  • The (very) personal data of 70,000 members of the dating site OKCupid has been released – not by hackers, but by university researchers.
  • The information includes everything from sexual turn-ons to drug use. And while it doesn’t identify individuals by name, it does include usernames – which may well be enough to make it possible to work out users’ real identities.
  • Danish researchers Emil Kirkegaard and Julius Bjerrekær, associated with Aarhus University, collected the data by scraping the site – arguably, perfectly legitimately.
  • Logged-in members of OKCupid can see a certain amount of information on other site users, and it would in theory be possible to trawl through the lot to put together the dataset.
  • …The researchers even say that the only reason they haven’t published users’ photos is that it would have taken up too much hard drive space.

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Why “Netflix And Chill” Replaced Dinner and A Movie – Dating in 2016 by M. Weigel

Why “Netflix And Chill” Replaced Dinner and A Movie – Dating in 2016

(Link):  Sexual Freelancing in the Gig Economy

Excerpts:

Single Woman Seeking Manwich by S. Moses

Single Woman Seeking Manwich by S. Moses

(Link): Single Woman Seeking Manwich by S. Moses

  • I almost gave up on dating when a sandwich rejected me. I got a message on OkCupid that said, “What’s shaking bacon?” and the only profile pictures were of actual sandwiches. Delicious-looking sandwiches, but sandwiches nonetheless.
  • Since I was feeling hungry and lonely, I decided to reply. A lot of bready puns ensued — the bacon, egg and cheese sandwich told me he “kneaded” me, and I told him I hoped I could rise to the occasion.
  • He told me I was on a roll and assured me that my jokes weren’t stale.
  • He then said I was bacon him crazy and asked me to be his bay-gal.

  • I wrote, “I’d loaf to be your bagel!!”

  • Then I never heard from him again. Maybe I was too eager and shouldn’t have used two exclamation points. The sad thing (yes, sadder than corresponding with a sandwich) is that I was actually disappointed.

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The Worst Things a Man Can Say in His Online Dating Profile by S. Farris

The Worst Things a Man Can Say in His Online Dating Profile by S. Farris

I would also add to the list on the page I am linking to:

Hetero Men who are seeking women on dating sites and apps: do not send women unsolicited penis photos; do not have anything mentioning sex on your profile, and do not mention (or joke about) sex in any of your “must have” lists on dating sites or any part of your profile.

I don’t care if you are totally into sex and think sex is mucho importante in a relationship, any mention of sex (even if you think it’s funny to put vulgar jokes on your profile) is a turn-off (and / or creepy) to most women.

You wait until you have been dating a person for awhile to bring sex up, and even then, you should be TASTEFUL about it, not crass or perverted or weird.

(Link): The Worst Things a Man Can Say in His Online Dating Profile

Excerpts:

  • They show up for dates looking nothing like their pictures. They tell long, rambling stories about their “psycho exes” or spend the entirety of the evening talking about their material possessions.
  • Men who date online never fail to surprise the women they meet, but they seem to be blissfully ignorant of the fact that they’re scaring people off.
  • With men now (Link): drastically outnumbering women on many dating apps, can guys afford to offend the few female users they might attract?
  •  

    Working with April Masini, a New York City-based relationship expert and psychotherapist, we analyzed responses from women who are currently active on the online dating scene.

  • Masini regularly offers dating advice to people of both genders through her website (Link): AskApril.com. She reviewed the lines women hate to see most on online dating profiles and gave her advice on how men can better phrase them.
  • 1. “No drama.”
  • By the time people join online dating sites, they’ve often had a wealth of experiences that include breakups, job transitions, and possibly even parenthood.

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Online Dating Fatigue is a Real Thing and It’s Happening to Everyone by M. Vanderberg

Online Dating Fatigue is a Real Thing and It’s Happening to Everyone by Madison Vanderberg

(Link): Online Dating Fatigue is a Real Thing and It’s Happening to Everyone

Excerpts:

  • … These women were deleting their dating apps because they were tired.
  • They had reached online dating fatigue
  • Curious to find out if anyone else had hit a wall in their online search for love, I polled a selection of singles who were actively dating and learned that all of them had deleted their dating apps recently, and most commonly, have deleted and reactivated their apps over and over again. The reason for deleting their dating apps all seemed to boil down to either time consuming, frustrating, or boring.
  • …“Honestly, I get really fed up with all the same bullshit and aggressively persistent men. I’m not obligated to talk to someone.” – Olivia, late-twenties.
  • “The constant swiping and messaging and checking my app was becoming a chore. A boring chore that took out all the supposed ‘fun’ in dating. And when I did go on a date, they were so underwhelming, it just felt like, What’s the point of this?” – Jess, late-twenties*
  • …According to a 2016 study by the (Link): Pew Research Center, 1/3 of singles on a dating app have not actually gone on any dates from the app. And among Americans who were married or in a committed relationship in the last five years, 88% of them met their partner offline.

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