Celibate Christian Woman Asks Christian Host Why God Will Not Send Her a Husband

Celibate Christian Woman Asks Christian Host Why God Will Not Send Her a Husband

A couple of days ago, I saw this episode of The 700 Club.

A celibate Christian woman wrote Pat Robertson this question –

And her question is one all Christians avoid: they just scream at a 20 year old today to MARRY NOW NOW NOW!

They have no advice and no encouragement to give any adult over 35 who wants to be married but still finds him or herself single.

The usual Christian response is just to shame this lady for supposedly not having done enough to marry when younger, in spite of not knowing her background, or what she did to try to marry – Christians just arrogantly ASSUME if you are not married past a certain age, it is all your fault, and there were no mitigating circumstances.

So here’s her question to Pat, host of The 700 Club:

  • Dear Pat,
  • The Bible says that it’s better to marry than to burn with lust, but what about someone like me who can’t find someone to marry?

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My Online Dating Experiment by C. Lloyd (Christian Author)

My Online Dating Experiment by C. Lloyd (Christian Author)

You see how the author of the following piece says men are too picky and discriminatory about age on dating sites? That’s why, if you are a woman, you should subtract ten to fifteen years off your true age when you put your age on a dating site.

However, I will not date men who are more than five, six years my junior, so should any super young guys contact me on dating sites, I don’t contact them back. I’ve written about all that in prior posts, so I won’t get into that here.

The lady who wrote this says her female friends (who also did this online dating experience at the same time she did) noticed that the Christian men on Christian dating sites were unattractive.

I’ve noticed that too.

About any time I see Christian men on dating sites or in singles classes at local churches, they tend to look dorky, dweeby, or are obese.

Physical appearance of a man is important to single women, even Christian ones, but you wouldn’t know that fact thanks to all the gender stereotyping garbage that Christian gender complementarians push in their blogs, articles, and sermons, which keep telling Christian men that women are “emotionally wired” and that women don’t care about sex or looks, and that men are supposedly “visually wired” and care about looks.

(Link): My Online Dating Experiment by C. Lloyd

Excerpts:

  • A few months ago, we asked Carrie Lloyd to delve into the world of online dating. She reveals what it takes for a single Christian woman to hook up via cyberspace.
  • ————–
  • … A dedication to online dating, just for you; for this article. Having chatted to the Premier Christianity team, I agreed to experiment in trying to find love in the cyber world, with all its personality filters: lawn game champion, marathoner, political junkie, health nut, zombie survivalist, tree-hugger, vegan, die-hard carnivore, non-believer in cologne (or deodorant), and finally, but importantly for me, just how much are you a Christian – really?
  • Taking the plunge
  • So, at 35, and still yet to find the right man to marry, would the online dating world be full of desperate souls seeking marriage so their lives could begin?

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In the end, people may really just want to date themselves (article) Opposites Do NOT Attract

In the end, people may really just want to date themselves

(Link): In the end, people may really just want to date themselves

    By EMMA PIERSON

    Opposites attract. That’s how the cliché goes, and people really believe they are attracted to those different from them: 86 percent say they want a partner who “complements them” rather than one who “resembles them.”

    There’s only one problem with this idea: It’s false. I studied 1 million matches made by the online dating website eHarmony’s algorithm, which aims to pair people who will be attracted to one another and compatible over the long term; if the people agree, they can message each other to set up a meeting in real life. eHarmony’s data on its users contains 102 traits for each person — everything from how passionate and ambitious they claim to be to how much they say they drink, smoke and earn.

    The data reveals a clear pattern: People are interested in people like themselves.

    Women on eHarmony favor men who are similar not just in obvious ways — age, attractiveness, education, income — but also in less apparent ones, such as creativity. Even when eHarmony includes a quirky data point — like how many pictures are included in a user’s profile — women are more likely to message men similar to themselves.

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Creepizoids Weirdos and Perverts on Dating Sites

Creepizoids Weirdos and Perverts on Dating Sites

I saw this on (Link): Single Steve’s blog – he had an unfortunate experience with eHarmony.

Well, who hasn’t, other than that one anecdotal story you always hear from your married friends who tell you,
“Oh cheer up, I’m sure you’ll meet a great guy! My friend Bertha met her husband Ralph on eHarmony! Have you thought of eHarmony!?”

Here’s the comment on Single Steve’s blog, by Amanda:

    Amanda January 26, 2011 at 4:49 pm

I met the urinator on eHarmony.

They should have that as one of their levels of compatibility. Do you enjoy being peed on?

They should also have the question Do you enjoy people with no personality? During 99% I would have rather been at work.

That’s right, when you join dating sites, you do meet weirdos like “the urinator.”

I met a few on dating sites. (Other types of weirdos that is, not specifically urinators.)

You married people out there need to remember that dating sites are not a magical solution to getting dates or a spouse. There are weirdos and perverts on Yahoo! Personals, Plenty of Fish, eHarmony, Match, and rapists on Christian Mingle.

Some of the men who say they are Christian on those sites behave like no such thing.

I’ve had “Christian” men contact me on dating sites who ask for sex up front, or list sexual preferences up front, make crude jokes, or else have vulgar comments or sexual jokes on their profiles.

Clue time: if you would not state your sexual preferences the first time you meet a woman – say you walk up to her at a bar, or it’s a blind date you were set up with – you would NOT mention sex on a first date. Why the hell would you think it’s proper or appropriate to do this on a dating site profile, or the first 2 or 3 exchanges on a dating site? It is not.

Related posts this blog:

(Link): Stop Telling Your Single Friends to Try Dating Sites – Please.

(Link): Beware of Rapists on Dating Sites

(Link): More 40-Something Single Women Falling Prey to Dishonest or Violent Men in Dating (says report)

(Link): Men Posting Profiles on Dating Sites Could Use Some Tips (from Dear Abby column)

(Link): Police urge caution when using dating websites / Murderers on Dating Sites

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July 4th Holiday Brings On Even More Dating Site Commercials

July 4th Holiday Brings On Even More Dating Site Commercials

See my previous post:
(Link): Too Many eHarmony Commercials

If I thought there were too many eHarmony dating site commericals before, they’ve gotten even more common place shortly before and even after the July 4th holiday this year. I’ve seen a slight rise in Match.com commercials, but a huge increase in eHarmony spots.

eHarmony seems to run more commercials around holidays.

As I said on my last post:

I hate eHarmony and am tired of their stupid commercials.

Neil Warren Clark and eHarmony can go suck on a rock.

Here’s one of the latest eHarmony commercials (2013) TV stations have been airing frequently (showing founder Clark on a speed date):

Too Many eHarmony Commercials

Too Many eHarmony Commercials

I’m one of those people who keeps the television set on while I’m working or playing on the computer, so I hear a lot of TV commercials. I have basic cable and watch a lot of AMC, History channel, and other channels.

For the last 2 to 3 months, it seems like eHarmony commercials have been on more and more often. Not a day goes by I don’t see ol’ Neil Warren Clark peddling “eHarmony.” (I also see match.com commercials quite a bit. And I don’t like those either, but they don’t seem as annoying as eHarmony spots.)

I tried eHarmony some time ago, and it didn’t work for me.

I hate eHarmony and am tired of their stupid commercials.

Neil Warren Clark and eHarmony can go suck on a rock.

I might consider posting a link to an actual recent eHarmony commercial, but here’s a parody video or two:

eHarmony spoof commercial:

Spoof by MAD TV