Man Who Tricked Tinder Dates Out of $50,000 With Bogus Sob Stories Jailed

Man Who Tricked Tinder Dates Out of $50,000 With Bogus Sob Stories Jailed

(Link): Man Who Tricked Tinder Dates Out of of $50,000 With Bogus Sob Stories Jailed

I love the sub-heading for this:

They swiped right and he swiped their cash

LOL. Here’s the rest of the article (excerpts from it):

by Chelsea Ritschel

Think your Tinder matches have been bad? They’ve got nothing on Brandon Kiehm, the notorious ‘Tinder Swindler’ who’s now behind bars.

The sentence comes after Kiehm pleaded guilty to conning three women he matched with on the dating app into handing over £50,000 ($37,000)

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The Unlikely Thing You Need to Mention In Your Dating Profile That Will Guarantee You More Matches

The Unlikely Thing You Need to Mention In Your Dating Profile That Will Guarantee You More Matches

(Link): The Unlikely Thing You Need to Mention In Your Dating Profile That Will Guarantee You More Matches

Excerpts:

Dating apps like Tinder, Grindr and Bumble are no longer new, which means people have to be creative if they want to stand out.

And according to a recent study conducted by Zoosk we should all be changing our dating app bio to something food-related in order to receive more responses.

The company found that food preferences have an impact on how we interact with each other romantically.

‘Overall, any mention of food in an online dating profile is going to result in an increase in inbound messages,’ the study stated.

…One of the most important things to take away from the survey was that talking about food in your profile makes you more attractive.

‘Some foods, such as guacamole, potatoes and chocolate are particularly successful at increasing the amount of messages (users with these foods in their profile have over 100 percent more incoming messages than the average),’ they said.

Study Says: More Women Than Men Content Being Single

Study Says: More Women Than Men Content Being Single

(Link): Study Says: More Women Than Men Content Being Single

(Link): More women are content while single than men, study says

(Link): Women Are More Likely To Have a Close Network of Friends They Can Turn to For Support

Nov 12, 2017

Women are happier being single than men are, because being in a relationship is harder work for women, new research suggests.

According to a study by data analysts Mintel, 61 per cent of single women are happy being single, versus 49 per cent of single men.

The survey also found that 75 per cent of single women have not actively looked for a relationship in the last year, compared to 65 per cent of single men.

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Christian School Teacher, Father of 2 Charged With 140 Counts of Sexual Abuse

Christian School Teacher, Father of 2 Charged With 140 Counts of Sexual Abuse

A lot of Christian defense for marriage I’ve heard and seen over my life time consists of this notion that marriage (and parenthood) are necessary to make a person more mature, godly, responsible, and loving.

Adult singleness is assumed to be, or taught by, many social conservatives and Christians to be a  horrible suspended state of immaturity.

I’ve yet to see any of the Christians and conservatives who espouse these views  about singleness and marriage (such as Bradford Wilcox or Al Mohler) explain all these examples I have on my blog (like the one below) of married people and/or parents who engage in immoral acts.

Also note how irrelevant the Christian “Equally Yoked” rule becomes – all these supposed Christian men turn out to be child molesters and rapists.

(Link): Christian School Teacher, Father of 2 Charged With 140 Counts of Sexual Abuse

A fifth grade teacher and father of two who was recently fired from the Sioux Center Christian School in Iowa has been charged with 140 counts of sexual abuse involving multiple children, all under the age of 14.

The teacher, Curtis Van Dam, 35, was arrested last Wednesday, according to a KSFY report. His crimes allegedly occurred between 2013 and last month when he was exposed. Now, the entire Sioux Center community is reeling in shock.

(Link): Christian School Teacher, Father of 2 Charged With 140 Counts of Sexual Abuse

A quick glance at Curtis Van Dam’s Facebook page shows pictures of what appears to be a loving father of two—a family man who works hard teaching elementary school children at Sioux Center Christian School in Iowa.

A “God-fearing” man who now stands accused of raping or sexually assaulting multiple children dating back as far as 2013.

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Roy Moore Allegations Prompt Reflections on Fundamentalist Culture in Which Some Christian Men Date Teens By J. Zauzmer 

Roy Moore Allegations Prompt Reflections on Fundamentalist Culture in Which Some Christian Men Date Teens By J. Zauzmer 

This article unfortunately (Link): quotes Brad Wilcox. The only positive thing I can say about Wilcox’s contribution to this article: at least he was not defending teen girls dating or marrying 30 year old men.

(Link): Roy Moore Allegations Prompt Reflections on Fundamentalist Culture in Which Some Christian Men Date Teens

Excerpts:

….That courtship of underage girls is especially common in conservative religious communities.

“We should probably talk about how there is a segment of evangelicalism and home-school culture where the only thing Roy Moore did wrong was initiating sexual contact outside of marriage. 14 year old girls courting adult men isn’t entirely uncommon,” Kathryn Brightbill, who works for the Coalition for Responsible Home Education, tweeted Friday, prompting a flurry of responses from other people who also had watched teenagers date much older Christian men.

…The culture of courting that Easter and Brightbill described is one limited mostly to fundamentalist religious communities, including certain Christian groups and those of other religions, such as some Orthodox Jewish or Mormon communities.

For most evangelical Christians, relationships between older men and teenage girls are viewed as wholly inappropriate.

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Dating And Sex: Men Who Find Talking to Women Difficult May Soon Have a Hormone Treatment

Dating And Sex: Men Who Find Talking to Women Difficult May Soon Have a Hormone Treatment

This doesn’t sound like something women would like – the article says this drug or hormone or whatever it is –  causes males to be even more persistent towards females, and that it does so in part by lowering their anxiety or inhibitions.

Oh no. The world is already filled with over-confident, dweeby, too-persistent men who don’t take hints from women we are NOT interested in them romantically or sexually and want them to stop hitting on us or trying to flirt with us out in public, at school, or at jobs.

(Link): Dating And Sex: Men Who find Talking to Women Difficult May Soon Have a Hormone Treatment

Researchers have identified a hormone that can embolden men sexually and make them less anxious about pursuing women.

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Texas Church Shooter, Who Was An Anti-Theist Atheist, Tried to Bribe Underage Girls to Date Him

Texas Church Shooter, Who Was An Anti-Theist Atheist, Tried to Bribe Underage Girls to Date Him

I think other articles said this guy is an ex-Christian who became an atheist, who wrote anti-theist rhetoric online. Yeah, I googled and found this:

(Link): Devin Patrick Kelley: An anti-Christian, atheist ‘outcast’

Devin Patrick Kelley, the 26-year-old who stormed First Baptist Church in Texas and shot and killed 26 and wounded scores more, was described by former school classmates as an “outcast” and atheist who used social media to mock Christianity.

(Link): Texas Gunman Devin Kelley Was Atheist Who Taught Vacation Bible School

(Link): Texas Church Shooter Tried to Bribe Underage Girls to Date Him

Excerpts:

By Max Jaeger

Texas church shooter  Devin Patrick Kelley was so pathetic, he tried to bribe and threatened ex-girlfriends to take him back — and he stooped so low as to date a 13-year-old when he was 18, according to former flings.

“He was very sick in the head,” Katy Landry, a former girlfriend of Devin Patrick Kelley, told NBC News. “Years after dating me he would try to bribe me to hang out with him. He ended up assaulting me.”

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Dear Abby: As Boyfriend Loses Hair, I Lose Interest

Dear Abby: As Boyfriend Loses Hair, I Lose Interest

Secular culture would have you believe that men care about looks in women, while women supposedly only care about money or emotional support from a man, and to that I say: FALSE.

Christians, specifically, Christian gender complementarians, ratchet this up to really emphasize the point.

I’ve heard or seen so many male Christian complementarians (and occasionally, a few women complementarians) hype up this supposed idea that God created men to be “visual,” so they will shame and badger women to stay skinny, diet, exercise, and wear make-up all the time.

The truth is, women are every bit as “visual” as men are. Most hetero women dig a hot, sexy man every bit as much as some hetero men appreciate a hot, sexy woman.

However, complementarians will seldom lecture or advise men to lose weight, go to the gym and work out, or get a toupee if they’re balding.

I think the differences is that most women are willing to cut men slack where as the reverse is not true.

I mean, a woman may prefer a hot, studly looking man, but, if you’re tubby, bald, or sort of ugly she might still be willing to date you if you bring “something else to the table” – such as a lot of money, a steady income, a great sense of humor, intelligence, dependability, or what have you.

I think most women are more wiling to take trade-offs in the “looks” and sex appeal department than most men are.

Other than that, most of both sexes prefer people who are easy on the eyes, but this sexist, irritating stereotype that only men care about looks and only women care about romance (or emotions) persists.

Here is an example of a woman who is turned off by her male partner’s baldness:

(Link): Dear Abby: As Boyfriend Loses Hair, I Lose Interest

DEAR ABBY:
My physical attraction to my boyfriend has significantly diminished due to his baldness.

I know this may seem shallow, but I have lost all interest in intimate contact with him.

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Secret Psychopath Test Could Keep Dating Apps Safe

Secret Psychopath Test Could Keep Dating Apps Safe

(Link): Secret Psychopath Test Could Keep Dating Apps Safe

BY DANA DOVEY ON 10/21/17 AT 7:28 AM

Excerpts:

He lives next door, is an excellent liar, and is only pretending to care how your parents are doing.

No, not your ex, but rather a real-life psychopath. Most don’t realize that psychopaths are rarely tucked away in high security prisons, but often live right down the street.

Thankfully, Dr. Pascal Wallisch has our back, and the psychologist is hoping to protect us, the 99 percent of the population that can physically feel empathy and regret, from those who can’t.

The term psychopath is used so often in media and everyday speech that the true meaning sometimes gets lost. Beyond the Hollywood glamor, psychopathy is a psychological diagnosis affecting a small but very prominent proportion of the global population.

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First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of Society

First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of Society

(Link): First Evidence That Online Dating Is Changing the Nature of Society

Excerpts:

Dating websites have changed the way couples meet. Now evidence is emerging that this change is influencing levels of interracial marriage and even the stability of marriage itself.

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What the Sh-t Happened to Dating? By S. Biddall

What the Sh-t Happened to Dating? By S. Biddall

When I tried online dating for the first time around 2002 or 2003, it was pretty bad back then – many men were impatient and rude.

If you didn’t answer their private “hello” messages or flirts or whatever instantly, they would start calling you a bitch and so forth very quickly. This is not a recent phenomenon.

(Link): What the Sh-t Happened to Dating? By S. Biddall

Excerpts:

I can’t be certain, but I think dating is broken.

After a messy breakup, I found myself single for the first time in 2.5 years. I’m no stranger to dating apps (I met my last 3 partners on there, for realsies) so having a swipe through Tinder seemed only natural. I’d always been an advocate of dating apps.

Every time someone would complain about being single I’d reply – probably quite smugly – that they need to get on Tinder.

And every time I was met with an eye roll and a diatribe about how ‘awful’ they were and how many ‘weirdos’ were on there.

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Is There Such A Thing As Being Single For Too Long? by M. Del Russo

Is There Such A Thing As Being Single For Too Long? by M. Del Russo

(Link): Is There Such A Thing As Being Single For Too Long? by M. Del Russo

Excerpts:

I was recently on a first date when the guy I was with asked when my last serious relationship was.

It’s a fairly typical first date question, so I answered truthfully: My most recent boyfriend and I ended things a little over three years ago. “Wow, that’s a long time,” he replied. I was seriously taken aback.

…Is there such a thing as being single for too long?

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‘I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years’ – A.K.A., ‘Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’ by Mona Chalabi

‘I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years’ – A.K.A., ‘Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’ by Mona Chalabi

The Tweet from the NT Times had this as a heading: ‘Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’

As you should already be aware, I (Link): do not support people of either biological sex dating people much older or younger than themselves. I’m a big believer that May-December relationships are gross and disgusting, and people should date with a five year limit (five yrs older or younger than their own age).

Basically, this appears to be a half-way decent editorial, though the author jokingly disparages celibacy in it, unfortunately.

(Link): ‘I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years’ – AKA, ‘ Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’

Excerpts-

…Most men who date women don’t fantasize about what they would do if they had these bonus years, they simply get them. In two-thirds of heterosexual couples, the man is at least a year older than his partner. The average age difference is (Link): 2.3 years according to the Census Bureau.

…The fact that women end the childless part of our lives earlier than our male partners is just salt in the wound. And looking even farther down the line, the bigger the age difference, the more likely that it will be women who take care of their male partners in old age.

…This arrogance [by men regarding cavalier attitudes about marrying] has, as I see it, two main causes — one, a belief that their spermatozoa are good for a very long time, indeed, and two, a belief that they could get a younger woman if they wanted to.

Let me examine the evidence for each of those male beliefs; fertility first.

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You Taste Food Differently When You’re in a Relationship

You Taste Food Differently When You’re in a Relationship

(Link): You Taste Food Differently When You’re in a Relationship

People change and adapt when they’re in a relationship—and not usually in ways that make them more unique. Studies suggest that over time, romantic partners can become more similar in subtle ways. Younger couples tend to have similar levels of health the longer they’ve been together, and couples may even develop similar facial features—by employing the same facial muscles out of unintentional mimicry—over time.

The same phenomenon may also happen on the plate. A new study published in the journal Appetite suggests that couples may develop more similar food tastes the longer they’re together.

….The longer a couple had been together, the more likely they were to share the same preferences for smell and taste. Interestingly, how happy they were in their relationship did not affect this trend.

Formerly Jailed Pedophile Looking for Dates with Women on Dating Site

Formerly Jailed Pedophile Looking for Dates with Women on Dating Site

Disgusting. This is from a UK site. There are several photos of this person on the page linked to below:

(Link): LONELY HEART PAEDO Hulking perv who was caged for sex attacks on schoolgirls is looking for love on Plenty of Fish

August 2017

Kelvyn Jackson tells potential dates he ‘doesn’t want kids’ and describes himself as a ‘teddy bear’

He was caged in 2011 for eight years but has now set up a profile on the popular online dating site after being released from prison.

Jackson calls himself a “teddy bear” and a “coffee snob” and even tells potential dates he is “medically retired” – but fails to mention he is on the Sex Offenders’ Register.

The bald paedo has also uploaded a string of images – including a pouting selfie showing off his beard.

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Hax Column: 30-Something Guy Refuses to Marry Anyone Who’s Already Been Married

You have to like these guys who sound like awful people but who are very demanding and picky about who they want to date and marry.

Like the guy described in this letter.

DEAR CAROLYN (Hax):

My brother has been dating a woman for about a year, and my entire immediate family does not like her. Even my super easygoing husband thinks she is terrible. I am serious. She is manipulative, passive-aggressive, immature, and has a self-righteous streak that goes for miles.

My mom is just crushed that this girl will likely marry my brother. I think if he thinks she is so great then let him make this HUGE mistake.

He is 34 and complains that there are so few women out there who have never married and have no kids (requirements for him), so I think he is feeling a bit desperate.

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Why You Shouldn’t Date the Guy Who Acts the Most Interested by J. Birch

Why You Shouldn’t Date the Guy Who Acts the Most Interested by J. Birch

(Link): Why You Shouldn’t Date the Guy Who Acts the Most Interested by J. Birch

Excerpts:

…. Despite lingering doubts, she ended up in a marriage by her mid-20s — with a husband whose enthusiasm was not, in fact, all it had seemed to be. It waned over time.

He did not defend her in front of his family members, they fought constantly, he did not consider her feelings. By her late 20s, she was divorced, with a whole slew of different (and correct) thoughts about “how things should be” the next time around.

Addison isn’t alone in her previous beliefs about dating and relationships. Somewhere along the way, women were told, “You deserve to be pursued!” and, yeah, we just went with it.

Through my research (and even among friends), I’ve met plenty of women who’ve literally gone their entire lives letting men sort themselves by early, most-evident interest.

Their “single girl” dating ritual is simple: Strongest pursuer wins. (Side note: This is a heteronormative exploration of dating rituals and for that reason a heteronormative article on said rituals.)

With a (Link): culture of ghosting, bread-crumbing, zombie-ing, and just flat-out constant shuffling, I get that things seem inherently fragile out there, and lots of people want to insulate against rejection.

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The Rhetoric of Singleness Blog – Links, Comments, Thoughts

The Rhetoric of Singleness Blog

Warning: I discovered through further reading that the author of the blog is a complementarian. I disagree with complementarianism; more on that below.

Had I known from the start she is a complementarian, I may not have started composing this post. I am leery of pointing anyone to a complementarian resource, but here we are.


As of today, I see only a small number of posts on the The Rhetoric of Singleness blog, dating from April 2017, and this blog appears to be from a Christian perspective – but then, her blog does not display a list or pull down menu of all her posts.

Even though the blog looks to be on hiatus, I’ll link to it on the off chance the blogger resumes writing again.

The person behind this blog says she’s single, in her 30s, and has yet to marry but would like to.

(Link): The Rhetoric of Singleness Blog – main page

Some of the only posts I am seeing on this blog include:

(Link): Pursuing Marriage

In that “Pursuing Marriage” post, she says she is a believer in gender complementarianism.

For example, here’s part of what she writes:

So, what options does that leave me, a woman with a complementary view of gender roles, of pursuing marriage? I know for some women who see no options left to them there is a strong temptation to bitterness, resentment, and to denigrate our single brothers who are called by God to the leadership role in the pursuit of marriage.

// end excerpt

Oh no. I (Link): used to be a complementarian myself but ditched it by my mid 30s.

I heard all the same stuff from conservative Christians growing up, as this other blogger likely did, such as, how (Link): men are supposed to be the heads in marriages, God supposedly created women pretty much to exist (Link): only to wait on menand so on.

(And I remained a conservative, even after I realized that complementarianism is false and actually quite sexist – it doesn’t just teach that men and women “complement” one another but that there should be a male hierarchy, of men ruling over women.

Contrary to what complementarians would have you believe, abandoning gender complementarianism will not turn you into a left wing, abortion-supporting, man-hating feminist. I am still right wing, even after leaving complementarianism.)

I am no longer a complementarian, but can pin point complementarianism, among a few other things, as being (Link): one reason as to why I am in my 40s and never got married.

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Woman Who Paid $150K for Dating Service Sues After Meeting ‘Married Men And Criminals’

Woman Who Paid $150K for Dating Service Sues After Meeting ‘Married Men And Criminals’

This does sound like a very crummy dating service.

(Link): Ex-QVC honcho shopped for love, then sued her matchmaker

(Link):  Woman Who Paid $150K for Dating Service Sues After Meeting ‘Married Men And Criminals’

by McAteer

August 2017

A retired corporate executive claims a high-end matchmaking service set her up with a string of highly unsuitable men, according to a lawsuit.

Darlene Daggett, former president for US commerce for the home shopping channel QVC, says she paid $150,000 for the service but was set up with married or mentally unstable men. Some were even convicted criminals, reports philly.com.

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Dangerous Dating Trend Called Love Bombing

Dangerous Dating Trend Called Love Bombing

(Link): Dangerous Dating Trend Called Love Bombing

Excerpts:

by Greg Evans

Malicious dating methods are not uncommon and it appears that ‘love bombing’ is the latest trend on the scene. 

Previously we’ve had the likes of ghosting, benching and DTR where individuals manipulate anothers emotions for their own benefit.

Love bombing is a tactic that involves the immediate seduction of a new partner by showing them with affection.

According to the (Link): New York Post, this often occurs in whirlwind relationships, in which the overwhelming sensation of romance can push aside concerns and doubt.

This onslaught of periods of attention, known as ‘bombs’, leaves little room for the other person to question their partners intentions.

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