I’m In My 40s, Want To Marry, But Never Like A Guy More Than A Year (Letter to Advice Columnist)

I’m In My 40s, Want To Marry, But Never Like A Guy More Than A Year (Letter to Advice Columnist)

(Link):  I’m in my 40s, want to marry, but never like a guy more than a year. (Letter to Advice Columnist)

Prudie advises a letter writer who is fortysomething, wants to marry, but never likes a guy for more than a year.


[Dear Prudie]:

Q. Uncertain: I’m in my early 40s, never married, no kids, but always wanted both. I’m in a relationship of 10 months. The guy could not be sweeter or a person of better character.

He loves me and treats me well. I was so in love the first six months but he is increasingly getting on my nerves—he is a bit quirky and goofy. And I don’t always find it amusing; increasingly I find it irritating.

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Woman Car Jacked, Burglarized By Man She Met Via Dating App

Woman Car Jacked, Burglarized By Man She Met Via Dating App

(Link):  Police: Indianapolis woman carjacked after meeting man on dating app – June 2017

INDIANAPOLIS, Ind. – An Indianapolis woman says a man she met on a dating app carjacked her and then burglarized her home.

According to the incident report from the Indianapolis Metropolitan Police Department, the woman went on a date with the man after meeting him on “Plenty of Fish,” an online dating website.

I Wore a Wig to See If Men on Dating Sites Really Do Prefer Long Hair Over Short Hair by K. Dougher

I Wore a Wig to See If Men on Dating Sites Really Do Prefer Long Hair Over Short Hair by K. Dougher

Oh geeze, this is a Cliche’! As a woman I got this one all the time, even in Christian articles and books on dating and marriage (usually ones that were complementarian in nature, that were big promoters of traditional gender roles) – they all declare that all men prefer long hair on women, so, the authors all say, you should grow your hair long to get a boyfriend, or else, you will die single and alone.

Well, over most of my life, I’ve worn my hair short or medium. Long hair is a pain in the ass to take care of. Takes too long to shampoo, comb, style, blow-dry, so a big no thanks.

This lady’s experience went to show that men she came across on dating sites preferred her with SHORT hair.

She started this experiment assuming that she’d get more interest with her hair long, but that was not the case.

(Link): I Wore a Wig to See If Men on Dating Sites Really Do Prefer Long Hair Over Short Hair by K. Dougher

Excerpts:

…when I recently found myself single and on Tinder for the first time, I couldn’t help but wonder (in my best Carrie Bradshaw voice): Do men on dating sites prefer short hair or long hair?

…By the end of my little experiment, I had to conclude that not only was my hypothesis completely incorrect, I was also apparently carrying around an incorrect assumption about the way men view women with short hair.

This forced me to take a moment to unpack my reasons for this.

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The Hottest Body Part? For a Sapiosexual, It’s the Brain

The Hottest Body Part? For a Sapiosexual, It’s the Brain

(Link): The Hottest Body Part? For a Sapiosexual, It’s the Brain

In a society obsessed with physical appearance, sexual attraction for some people is based on intellect, and not necessarily on looks.

What Men Looked For in Women in the 1930s Versus What They Want Now by J. Brown

What Men Looked For in Women in the 1930s Versus What They Want Now by J. Brown

Please visit their page to see the whole article and their infographic:

(Link): What Men Looked For in Women in the 1930s Versus What They Want Now by J. Brown

Researchers examined preference trends from as far back as 1939 to see what women and men look for in a partner. And they found some big changes.

In 2008, mutual attraction and love was the number one trait men looked for in a partner. Also in the top ten were good looks, education and intelligence and sociability. In 1939, these traits ranked further down.


Related:

(Link):  The Reason Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others by D. Brennan

‘STD-Verified’ Dating App Called NeatClub – article by J. Burns

‘STD-Verified’ Dating App Called NeatClub – article by J. Burns

So sad we’re living in a day and age where this sort of thing is necessary. And yes, there are advantages to being celibate… like avoiding getting STIs.

You don’t need funding or a government program to avoid getting an STI – being celibate will do the trick, and it’s free.

(Link): ‘STD-Verified’ Dating App Is Startup Culture Via Nutshell: Frank, Unchecked, Inevitable

Again, the idea behind NeatClub isn’t totally surprising, and could easily be tempting for anyone who’s experienced the fear surrounding STIs and exposure to them.

By phone, founder Ashka Shah noted that medical experts have described the ongoing rise in STI cases in the United States as an epidemic–one that particularly affects gay and bisexual men, and which the CDC credits in large part to related funding cuts in recent years, Slate pointed out.

Despite this, sexually active folk aren’t showing up for testing like they should, and often for different reasons, according to Shah. “My research showed it was partially stigma and partially ignorance,” she said.

By inviting daters to get their status and any disclosure thereof settled at the start, Shah said, she hopes the app will help break down some of that stigma while helping to keep people safer.

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2017 Study Urges Caution in Dating Co-Workers

2017 Study Urges Caution in Dating Co-Workers

(Link):  The Surefire Way to Turn Your Worklife Into a Living Hell

Excerpts:

“We are spending more time at work,” said Elaine Swann, a lifestyle and etiquette expert. “Relationships are now becoming more acceptable — especially because our work environments have become a lot more casual than they were in yesteryear.”

This comes as we are spending more time than ever in the workplace — the average work week in 2015 was 38.7 hours, compared with 38.1 hours in 1980 — and more than half of American employees didn’t take all their vacation days in 2015.

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A New Experiment Regarding Dating Sites Found that Personality Always Trumps Attractiveness by Q. Fottrell

A 2017 Experiment Regarding Dating Sites Found that Personality Always Trumps Attractiveness

I can believe it, which is why although I’m picky about looks in guys, I will still give a less than stellar looking guy a chance if he has some other quality that off-sets “meh” looks, like he treats me really nice, or has a great sense of humor.

I’m afraid that 99% of American men have yet to figure this out, though – if you go through life judging women based mostly on their looks (you’re unwilling to date anything less than a stick figure Victoria Secret’s model who must be under the age of 30), as most men do, you’re either going to die a lonely, single man, or, you’re going to end up with a very pretty yet very snobbish, catty, or money grubbing bitch for a wife, and you’ll end up divorced eventually.

(Link): A new laboratory experiment found that personality always trumps attractiveness

Excerpts:

…The results [of the experiment]? After rating their conversation partners for attractiveness, social attractiveness, fun, humor and charisma, the dates with the best personalities had the biggest bump post-meeting in their overall attractiveness as potential partners.

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Florida Man Faked Stage 4 Cancer to Lure In The Ladies

Florida Man Faked Stage 4 Cancer to Lure In The Ladies

(Link): Florida Man Faked Stage 4 Cancer to Lure In The Ladies – May 2017

Several women are accusing a Florida man of faking stage 4 cancer and manipulating them to get food, money, and shelter, just weeks after his wedding to a long-lost love went viral.

Ken Boyer, 60, of Palm Bay, first gained notoriety when (Link): WKMG-TV covered his wedding to a Missouri woman named Michelle Kimbrel in May. Boyer claimed he “reconnected” with Kimbrel on Facebook a few weeks before they tied the knot.

When Boyer’s story went viral, women across Florida started contacting the station, claiming they recognized Boyer as a former fling.

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Texas Man Sues Date For Texting During “Guardians of the Galaxy” Movie

Texas Man Sues Date For Texting During “Guardians of the Galaxy” Movie

(Link): Texas Man Sues Date For Texting During “Guardians of the Galaxy” Movie by Faith Karimi, May 2017

A Texas man is demanding a refund from his date after she texted while they were at the movies in Austin.

Brandon Vezmar filed a petition at a small claims court seeking $17.31 in damages.
He claims he spent that much money to take his unidentified date to a 3-D showing of “Guardians of the Galaxy, Vol. 2” on May 6, he told the Austin American-Statesman.
“After the movie started, defendant activated her phone at least 10-20 times in 15 minutes to read and send text messages, in direct violation of the theater’s policy, ” his petition states.
Vezmar accuses his date of “adversely affecting the viewing experience” of moviegoers.
“While damages sought are modest, the principle is important as defendant’s behavior is a threat to civilized society,” his petition says.
Vezmar told the newspaper that he met the woman online, and that it was their first date.
“It was kind of a first date from hell,” he said, adding that texting at the movies is, “like, one of my biggest pet peeves.”

The Reason Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others by D. Brennan

The Reason Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others by D. Brennan

If you’re a single woman who’d like to be married, you definitely need to read the following page. It’s very long but well worth the read.

I will only copy some excerpts from the page, not the entire thing.

(Link): The Reason Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others

He’s not a dating expert, nor an advice columnist, psychologist or relationship therapist. His expertise lies in the field of market research and he applies his scientific skills to educate women with all they need to know about men.

In his book, “Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others,” author John Molloy says that women will discover the proven facts and figures that will help them find and marry Mr. Right. Here’s an excerpt:

Is he old enough to marry?

This survey uncovered some interesting facts. The first was that there is an age when a man is ready to marry-the Age of Commitment. The age varies from man to man, but there are patterns that are easily identified:

  • …Once men reach age 47 to 50 without marrying, the chances they will marry do not disappear, but they drop dramatically.

Signing off on the scene

When we conducted a focus group with 12 men who had just proposed to women, we learned that men were far more likely to marry when they got tired of the singles scene.

…They had not stopped dating. It’s just that they were no longer going to singles hangouts and trying to pick up women several times a week.

…There were two notable exceptions to the age guidelines: men who were balding or heavy. Losing hair or putting on weight often makes men look older, and when a man looks older in singles places, he is often treated by the women as if he doesn’t belong.

Bachelors for life?

It’s easy to spot a confirmed bachelor. He’s so used to living alone that he will list the pleasures of the solo life-coming and going as he pleases, not answering to anyone as reasons for not marrying. But there’s still hope.

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Pimps Are Targeting, Recruiting Women Through Online Dating Sites – Including Christian Women

Pimps Are Targeting, Recruiting Women Through Online Dating Sites – Including Christian Women

(Link): Pimps Are Targeting, Recruiting Women Through Online Dating Sites – Including Christian Women – by L Fletcher April 2017

Excerpt:

Forty million Americans use dating sites to find an evening out, a relationship, or even their life-long love.

They think they know who they’re conversing with. They’ve read a potential date’s bio, shared photos, and maybe they even checked out their Facebook page.

But what they see may be dangerously different than what they get.

“It happened very quickly,” Andrea Benson said. “He had groomed me within two months, and pimped me out.”

Benson is a college graduate, raised in a Christian home with a close family.

“I just really wanted to be loved. I wanted to get married and have a family. I went on an online dating website and met this guy and it was a fast and furious romance.”

But what she didn’t know was that “this guy”, who promised her everything, was a pimp.

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Your Credit Score May Impact Your Dating Life

Your Credit Score May Impact Your Dating Life

(Link):   A bad credit score could affect your dating prospects

(Link):  When You Should Ask A Date For Their Credit Score

(Link): Study: Bad credit score has impact on dating life

(Link):  Survey: Low credit scores might scare away potential mates

(Link):  More research stresses financial compatibility in relationships

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Maryland Pastor Pushes Equally Yoked Doctrine – Which Only Promotes Unwanted Protracted Singleness

Maryland Pastor Pushes Equally Yoked Doctrine – Which Only Promotes Unwanted Protracted Singleness

This is a nauseating page by a pastor in Maryland, named Sean Nolan, for the “Desiring God” web site. (You can see the link below.)

I will comment more about this guy’s essay BELOW it. So please scroll down for some of my commentary – most of which you can already guess if you’ve been to my blog before and have seen my previous posts about this “Equally Yoked” stuff.

(Link): Letter to a Friend Engaged to a Nonbeliever by Sean Nolan

Excerpts from the page:

Dear Kelly,

I was surprised by the recent news of your engagement. While I wish I could celebrate with you without reservation, I admit I have some. My greatest concern is that your fianceé does not know or love Christ. Because I love you and care about your future, I feel compelled to speak now rather than to hold my peace, knowing full well how you might receive my “peace.”

…As I have watched people walk down this road, I have noticed several common ways people justify marrying a nonbeliever. I want to address them…

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Thirteen Things Men Should Stop Doing. Immediately. (via Indp.)

Thirteen Things Men Should Stop Doing. Immediately. (via Indp.)

(Link): Thirteen Things Men Should Stop Doing. Immediately. (via Indp.)

Excerpts (to see the complete list, please visit their site):

It’s a truth universally acknowledged that relations between men and women aren’t always harmonious. 

While we’re moving away from the old “men are from Venus, girls are from Mars” trope, gender still divides us more than just biologically.

Inevitably, some men will do some things that will irritate some women, and vice versa.

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Actor Supposedly Too Self-Absorbed to Get or Keep a Girlfriend

Actor Supposedly Too Self-Absorbed to Get or Keep a Girlfriend

I’m not sure if this is true or not – it comes via a celebrity site.

While some women can be very self-absorbed, I think this is more of a male tendency, because it is culturally supported.

Most of us American women are taught while still in childhood that it is selfish for us to get our own needs met, that we should only cater to the needs of those around us, and we should be really nurturing and supportive to those around us. Boys do not usually get this same sort of conditioning.

So, these boys grow into men who are accustomed to females catering to them and listening to them chatter away about themselves endlessly.

Most women are not happy with this, by the way.

We women grow to resent and loathe giving men un-reciprocated emotional support more and more the older we get.

A lot of our culture and god knows gender complementarian Christian churches advocate this view that women exist merely to serve, cheer on, and encourage men.

So, a lot of you men just assume a woman should be there for you, listen to you talk about yourself and your problems for hours on end, and offer words of support.

My ex fiance’ was certainly like this – he was very self absorbed and dominated all of our phone and in-person conversations, and never asked about me or how I was doing.

My ex expressed NO interest in me or my life, but he would sure expect me to sit and listen to him gab about him and his hobbies, job, etc, all the time. It was so very annoying.

I grind my teeth just thinking about all the times I sat there for an hour or longer listening to him go on and on about himself in phone calls or over dinner dates.

If you are a man who is dating around and you’re puzzled as to why you cannot get a girlfriend, it may just be because you are too self-absorbed and don’t show an interest in the women you are with.

You may be spending too much time talking about yourself and you don” ask the woman you’re with about her thoughts or about her life.

This actor they are discussing (who a lot of women find very sexy) played “Superman” in a few movies:

(Link): HENRY CAVILL: TOO FULL OF HIMSELF TO GET A GIRLFRIEND!

Playing Superman has clearly gone to the Brit actor’s head, pals say.

May 3, 2017, by R. Sanchez

Playing Superman has gone to Henry Cavill ’s head: The Brit actor is so full of himself, sources say, he’s having trouble finding a girlfriend.

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Why We Should Stop Telling Teens The “Friend Zone” Exists by M. Mercado

Why We Should Stop Telling Teens The “Friend Zone” Exists by M. Mercado

The following comes from a site that appears to be somewhat left wing in nature. As you may recall, I am moderately right wing, so I am not in total agreement with all views and presuppositions on this page, but I’d say I agree with about 98% of the views on this page:

(Link): Why We Should Stop Telling Teens The “Friend Zone” Exists by M. Mercado

Excerpts:

…. The “friend zone” has fallen time and time again under the heading of (Link): “Things I’ve Had Mansplained To Me.” It’s just one of the many complicated ways we’re taught to view relationships between men and women: Men and women (Link): “can’t be friends.” Men and women (Link): “can’t eat dinner alone together.”

It’s worth noting that the phrase “men and women can’t be friends” is often shorthand for “men and women can’t be friends because one of them is going to want to ~*get freaky*~ with the other and that ruins everything.”

…The “friend zone” insinuates that (Link): sex and relationships are transactional. It implies that if you do a certain number of nice favors or just believe yourself to be good, kind person, you are owed something in return. But let’s be very clear about this: Nothing entitles you to sex. Nothing entitles you to a relationship.

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Obnoxious, Below- Average- Looking Dude Explains Why He Won’t Date “Hot Women” Any More

Obnoxious, Below- Average- Looking Dude Explains Why He Won’t Date “Hot Women” Any More

I almost forgot to post about this. I saw this story go through my Twitter feed a few days ago, and from there, a lot of people on other sites mocked this guy for his arrogant demeanor.

In all seriousness, the guy quoted is not that good-looking. In my opinion, he’s a little on the homely-looking side, but he seems to feel he’s a real hottie and that hot women find him hot.

I find it amusing that some of the people in this article (men and women) describe themselves as “nines or tens” but they look like “fives” to me (there are photos of some of the people interviewed on the page).

(Link): Obnoxious, Below- Average- Looking Dude Explains Why He Won’t Date “Hot Women” Any More

Excerpts:

When it came to dating in New York as a 30-something executive in private equity, Dan Rochkind had no problem snagging the city’s most beautiful women.

“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair. “I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.”

He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.

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Charlize Theron, Bella Thorne & More Celebs Who Totally Get the Dating Struggle

Charlize Theron, Bella Thorne & More Celebs Who Totally Get the Dating Struggle

As I said a couple of years ago, even if you, by the world’s standards, are perfect and great dating material – you’re wealthy, famous, successful, and sexy – you are still not guaranteed an easy or great dating life or marriage.

Look at all the celebrities who meet all the criteria that Christian and secular dating advisors tell us we should gain before we are worthy to date, yet who can’t get a date, or they go through one break up after another.

(Link): Charlize Theron, Bella Thorne & More Celebs Who Totally Get the Dating Struggle

Excerpts:

BRITNEY SPEARS (pop singer)

The next time you’re sitting there, trying to find a way to get out of a really awkward, terrible date without being obvious about it, just think to yourself: Britney Spears has to deal with this, too. “I had a really bad date. I mean, it was really bad,” she recently told Marie Claire. “I’ve been single for ages and had a date with a guy I liked. I was getting anxious, worrying he wouldn’t like me.”

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Dating, Marriage, Male Entitlement, and ‘My 600 LB Life’ TV Show

Dating, Marriage, Male Entitlement, and ‘My 600 LB Life’ TV Show

This is going to be one of those posts that meanders all over the place.

I’m not really sure where to start.

I’ve been watching a cable TV show called “My 600 LB Life” for over a year now. Aspects of content I see on this show remind me of some of the subjects I blog about on here.

I’m not sure exactly why I watch this show, but I find it riveting, and sometimes horrifying. It’s a reality program. Each show features a real-life person who is 600 or more pounds over-weight.

I do not watch the show to make fun of or laugh at the obese people.

I watch, I suppose, because I am interested in their life stories and what drove them to cope with life’s problems by over-eating to the point they become morbidly obese.

I also tune in to learn medical information about what happens to a body once it gets up to 600 pounds.

I learned from this show that not only does the body get a lot of fat on it (obviously), and the heart has a harder time pumping, but obese people can and do develop all sorts of secondary issues, such as painful bumps, scales, and swelling on their legs (which are referred to as, or the result of, things such as (Link): Cellulitis and (Link): Lymphedema).

The majority of the time, I feel empathy for the obese people on this show.

I am wishing them all the best and hoping they lose the weight and recover and get over whatever childhood horror and pain led them to over-eat (most cases of this show consist of someone who turned to food as comfort after they were neglected, molested, or abused in childhood).

There have been a few cases on this show, such as Steve Assanti, Chuck, and James K., where I have little to no empathy at all, because the person is whiny, ungrateful, abusive, rude, or incredibly self-absorbed.

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