First Comes Love. Then Comes Sterilization. by Suzy Weiss

First Comes Love. Then Comes Sterilization. by Suzy Weiss

Disclaimer (if you’re new to the blog): I am not “anti-family.”
If people, of their own informed volition, decide to have children, that is fine by me.
But I am opposed to the guilt tripping or shaming by some adults (who are usually religious or conservative) to pressure other adults (and it’s usually women who are the targets of pro-natalism propaganda) into having children.

I found some of the reasons the young, childfree or anti-natalist people cited in this article below for not having children to be strange or idiotic, but it’s not my place – or yours – to dictate to them if they have children or not.

(Link): First Comes Love. Then Comes Sterilization. by Suzy Weiss

Inside America’s Baby Bust. Meet the young women who never want to have kids.

October 2021

… Americans are making fewer babies than we’ve made since we started keeping track in the 1930s. And some women, like Diamond, are not just putting off pregnancy but eliminating the possibility of it altogether.

Last year, the number of deaths exceeded that of births in 25 states — up from five the year before. The marriage rate is also at an all-time low, at 6.5 marriages per 1,000 people.

Millennials are the first generation where a majority are unmarried (about 56%). They are also more likely to live with their own parents, according to Pew, than previous generations were in their twenties and thirties. 

They also aren’t having sex. The number of young men (ages 18 to 30) who admit they have had no sex in the past year tripled between 2008 and 2018.

Cities like New York, where young, secular Americans flock to to build their lives, are increasingly childless. In San Francisco, there are more dogs than children.

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“Lesbian” Dating App Frames “Trans Exclusion” A “Hurdle,” Attempts to Cater to Male Users by A. Slatz

“Lesbian” Dating App Frames “Trans Exclusion” A “Hurdle,” Attempts to Cater to Male Users by A. Slatz

I’ve never been happy with the LGB left harassing Christian bakers over not wanting to bake cakes for homosexual weddings, which they did for many years, but, I also really, really do not support progressives harassing lesbian woman (or any woman of whatever sexuality) into dating people they do not want to date, but that is what they’ve been doing the last few years.

Men who say they are “transwomen” want to force biological women who are lesbian into dating transwomen… even including transwomen (men) who’ve not had “bottom surgery.”

That is, these are men who still have penises who are running around on social media and dating apps screaming that they are women and lesbians, and they demand the women lesbians date them and/or have sex with them.

That is wrong.

It is disgusting, and anyone supporting this and writing off any critics as being “TERFs,” bigots or transphobes is way off base, because what they’re doing is framing misogyny and sexism as being acceptable.

I’m a hetero, celibate, conservative woman, I’ve never been a “radical feminist,” but the homosexuals and radical feminists are correct to object to women being asked to prioritize the needs and feelings of biological men who are “transwomen.”

These businesses, such as these “lesbian dating apps” are in the wrong to include biological males in their platforms.

 (Link): “Lesbian” Dating App Frames “Trans Exclusion” A “Hurdle,” Attempts to Cater to Male Users

By Anna Slatz
April 1, 2022

A lesbian dating app is under fire after it appeared to frame female homosexuality as a “hurdle” that needed to be “overcome” by trans-identified males.

On March 31, lesbian activist and TikToker Shay Woulahan posted screenshots originally circulated by HER, a dating app intended to cater to the lesbian community. The app offers searchable profiles in a similar fashion to Tinder and Bumble.

“@HERSocialApp is celebrating Trans Day of Visibility by framing lesbians sexual boundaries as “hurdles” that need to be overcome,” Shay wrote on her Twitter, posting a screenshot showing the results of a survey conducted by HER which apparently had sought user feedback on “trans-specific hurdles” experienced on dating apps.

Of the options, “trans-exlusionary preferences” took the lead with 35.2% of responses.

…She later posted a second screenshot showing HER announcing it was taking steps to accommodate transgender users, with two new features in particular targeting “transphobia” on the app. One was called “Improved TERF control” which promised “severe penalties for transphobic language and behavior on the app.”

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Man Charged with Child Sexual Assault Targeted Single Moms on Dating Apps to Get Close to Their Kids: Police

Man Charged with Child Sexual Assault Targeted Single Moms on Dating Apps to Get Close to Their Kids: Police

If you’re a single adult with children, be careful who you date – this guy was targeting single women with children, so he could gain access to their children to molest or rape their children.

I remember when dating sites began getting more acceptable (now, people have moved on to apps), Christians would regularly advise their lovelorn single adult friends to “just try a dating site, that’s how my cousin Pam met her spouse Hank!” – er, no.

Your cousin’s luck not with standing, there are a lot of kooks, crazies, abusers, and selfish asshats on dating apps and sites of all ages (contrary to some 20 something lady’s post I recently saw, it’s not just today’s 20-something men who are selfish, rude, and sexist – this is true of men of all ages, and it was true of 20 something men on dating apps around the early to mid 2000s, back when I was using such sites).

So, to the married couples out there, please stop telling your single, lonely friends who want a spouse (or steady squeeze of some kind) in your perky, overly-optimistic voice, “Just try a dating site; it worked for my mailman Frank!”

The article says that this pervert is married!
I apologize for being so repetitive on this blog, but as so many social and religious conservatives continue to promote marriage, parenthood and The Nuclear Family to such an unhealthy degree, I have to remind them: marriage and parenthood do not make people more godly, mature, loving or ethical, nor will any of that “fix” sin in a culture.

This also goes against all the Christian guidance I read about dating and marriage in the 1980s and 1990s, which portrayed marriage as some kind of lofty achievement that one will only be granted by God if and when one reaches some level of spirituality, or maturity, or whatever.

The fact that so many jerky, abusive, loser, wacko Christian and Non-Christian people manage to get married goes to disprove those earlier Christian teachings that God will with-hold a spouse from you until you achieve perfection, when obviously less-then-perfect people manage to get married on a regular basis.

Now, I will say – the healthier you become (psychologically speaking), you will likely attract more healthy people in your life. If you continue on through life being a huge people pleasing, codependent doormat, you will likely attract narcissists, abusers, weirdos, the emotionally needy, and exploiters.

There are perverts like this guy on these dating sites and apps:

(Link): Accused sex predator targeted single mothers in Texas via dating apps, sheriff says 

March 30, 2022

The Montgomery County Sheriff’s Office is asking for potential victims who may have interacted with a suspect in an aggravated sexual assault of a child to come forward.

Epifanio Adolfo Jimenez has been arrested in connection to the case.

During the investigation, deputies learned Jimenez was targeting women with children through dating apps using the alias “Harley.”

The suspect allegedly asked to spend time with the women and their children.

(Link): Authorities seeking victims of man who targeted women with children through dating apps

According to the investigation, Jimenez is accused of targeting women with children through dating apps and then asking to spend time with their children under the alias “Harley.”

(Link): Man used dating apps to target single moms to get to their children, police say

(Link): Man Charged with Child Sexual Assault Targeted Single Moms on Dating Apps to Get Close to Their Kids: Police

Authorities say that 42-year-old Epifanio Adolfo Jimenez went by the name “Harley” on dating sites and specifically looked for women with children

By Steve Helling
March 31, 2022

A Texas man has been charged with sexual assault of a child — and authorities allege he has been targeting single moms through dating apps, then asking to spend time with their children.

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I Bought Your Drinks, So You Owe Me Sex – Why Do Some Men Believe Dating is a Transaction? by Sophie Gallagher

I Bought Your Drinks, So You Owe Me Sex – Why Do Some Men Believe Dating is a Transaction? by S. Gallagher

(Link): I Bought Your Drinks, So You Owe Me Sex – Why Do Some Men Believe Dating is a Transaction? by Sophie Gallagher

June 18, 2019

“If she doesn’t want to sleep with me after I’ve paid a lot for a first date, I’ll weigh up the likelihood of that being the case next time. If she’s simply ungrateful or disrespectful, I need to cut my losses and find another prospect.” These are the words of Ali, 29, who believes paying for a date entitles him to sex.

If a woman is not interested in a man sexually, then he says she shouldn’t accept dinner, drinks, or even a coffee from him. “Physically I’m not the kind of person who easily gets dates, and it’s been a while since I paid directly for sex, so flashing a credit card is about the only way I can get that kind of company,” he tells me.

The night before we speak he had taken a woman for dinner, and “100% felt” he deserved her time and attention after picking up the tab. “In the business world no one likes a corporate luncher,” he tells me over email. “I hope I never meet a girl who agrees to meet because they want some freebies.”

Many men would reject Ali’s transactional approach to dating, finding it embarrassing and disrespectful. But others recognise that for some men, payment for dinner and expectations of sex are linked.

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How I Navigated the Minefield of Online Dating in Later Life – and How You Can Too by Alice Grebot

How I Navigated the Minefield of Online Dating in Later Life – and How You Can Too by Alice Grebot

(Link): How I Navigated the Minefield of Online Dating in Later Life – and How You Can Too by Alice Grebot

Excerpts:

Feb 27, 2022

D*ck pics, scammers and GHOSTERS… would you brave online dating?

It’s the most popular way to find love in 2022 – but as these three women discovered, online dating in later life is a minefield!

‘I had to Google what ghosting is’

…After a few months of being single, I began hankering for some adult company, and online dating felt like the easiest way to meet somebody. I’d met my ex at work and I had a little experience of it from years ago, but the idea of speed dating or singles’ clubs didn’t appeal, and no one seemed to go out ‘on the pull’ any more.

I downloaded Bumble, Hinge and Tinder, but soon deleted the latter, as it seemed to be full of men looking for something casual, while I wanted a relationship.

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Progression Bias: Your Dating Standards are Likely Lower Than You Think

Progression Bias: Your Dating Standards are Likely Lower Than You Think

(Link): Progression bias: Your dating standards are likely lower than you think

Excerpts:

January 13, 2022

We seem to have a “progression bias” that nudges us toward pro-relationship decisions and away from breaking up.

…One fundamental assumption underlying the idea that it’s harder to start a relationship holds that people are generally picky when dating.

Whether it is having checklists or deal-breakers, people tend to conceptualize dating as a trial period for assessing their partner for a more serious long-term relationship. And it is, to some extent.

But a recent review suggests we might not be as selective as we think. Published in the journal (Link): Personality and Social Psychology Review, the paper offers evidence that people are more likely to make pro-relationship decisions at nearly every step of a relationship — from agreeing to a first date to maintaining a marriage — even at points where we might think our selectiveness would nudge us toward breaking up. 

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Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

(Link): Can’t Find “The One”? Blame Easy Dating Apps

Dating apps have made it easier than ever to find a partner. Paradoxically, the ease of finding matches means some remain perpetually single.

January 8, 2022
by Scotty Hendricks

Dating can be drudgery. The trouble of finding someone to date, going to a restaurant for a quasi-job interview, having to scrutinize everything they say for red flags like you’re trying to root out a communist agent, and then having to decide if the whole experience was enjoyable enough to do it again might make a person want to stay single forever.

Dating apps were supposed to make this easier by simplifying the first part: finding the potential mate.

With the swipe of a finger, you can search through eligible bachelors and bachelorettes all over the globe.

However, a forthcoming study in the American Economic Journal: Microeconomics suggests that the ease of using dating apps can, and does, cause some people to think that “the one” is merely one more swipe away — so they never actually go on a date.

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Men with ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ Are Ruining Sex and Dating for Women

Men with ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ Are Ruining Sex and Dating for Women

The following reminds me of an article I linked to months ago, about how single men in conservative religious communities, such as Mormonism and Judaism, know they out-number single women, so they act like entitled, overly demanding jerks towards single women.

(Link):  How ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ is ruining dating for university women: Deficit of male students means men develop inflated egos and become ‘Casanovas’ who ‘cheat’ – despite a ‘lack of social and sexual skills’

(Link): Men with ‘Golden Penis Syndrome’ Are Ruining Sex and Dating for Women

By Andrew Court
Nov 2, 2021

Beware of the college grad cad!

Men with college degrees have become so cocky that they’re ruining romance for their female counterparts, one “leading expert” alleges.

Just 40.5% of college students in the United States are male, according to the National Student Clearinghouse, meaning they’re in short supply and high demand when dating on campus.

A lack of competition has led these men to develop (Link):  “golden penis syndrome” — an arrogance that stems from the assumption that a steady supply of females will be sexually interested in them.

“Golden penis syndrome” has led these smug males to engage in dastardly dating practices, such as cheating and ghosting, because they’re confident that another woman will always be waiting around the corner.

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Enraged New Yorkers Tear Down Sexually Explicit ‘OK Cupid’ Subway Ads

Enraged New Yorkers Tear Down Sexually Explicit ‘OK Cupid’ Subway Ads

(Link): Fed-up straphanger tears down ‘gross’ dating-app ads in viral video

More like “Ok Stupid.”

A fed-up New Yorker tore down lurid subway advertisements for the dating app OK Cupid.

“All of this is gross. For kids to be looking at this, is that OK??” she said in viral videos posted to Twitter on Wednesday.

The woman walked up and down the D train car, ripping the ads down — while ranting about COVID-19 and communism — as silent, masked straphangers looked on.

It’s not clear just when the video was recorded. The colorful ads began to appear on subway trains over the summer.

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‘Roaching’ is the Newest Gross Trend to Infest the Dating World 

‘Roaching’ is the Newest Gross Trend to Infest the Dating World 

(Link): ‘Roaching’ is the Newest Gross Trend to Infest the Dating World 

Aug 27, 2021
By Hannah Frishberg

Like the nasty namesake insect, the act of “roaching” gets its strength from numbers.

The latest memeified dating discourse is here, defining a phenomenon of courtship that is so unfortunately common as to be unavoidable — much like the infamous cockroach itself.

So-called “roaching” refers to the act of hiding the fact that you’re seeing multiple people from a new romantic partner.

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That’s Right! Even if a Trans Person Has Had “Bottom” Surgery, Nobody is Under Obligation to Date Him or Her (Re: Trans Cartoon)

That’s Right! Even if a Trans Person Has Had “Bottom” Surgery, Nobody is Under Obligation to Date Him or Her (Re: Trans Cartoon)

It’s just adorable and so naive how the leftists who push things like transgenderism think they can shame, insult, or guilt trip people into dating people who they don’t want to date.

Someone posted a cartoon on Twitter arguing that if someone refuses to date a Trans person who has had “bottom surgery,” that he or she is guilty of “transphobia” and is a bigot.

You can view that Tweet on Twitter (Link): here.
You can also view that cartoon further below, where I will embed a screen capture of it. 

I am a celibate, cis, never-married woman over the age of 45 and have no interest in dating cis men who are obese, bald, blonde, or red-headed, so I refuse to date cis men who are obese, bald, blonde, or red-headed.

I also refuse to follow, any further, the Christian advice I was raised with, which says I  can date only Christian men – I chucked that teaching out the window years ago. (It’s usually called “equally yoked” teaching.)

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Men, This Woke Lady Wants You to know You’re “Fatphobic” If You Refuse To Go Out With Her – by NTB Staff

 Men, This Woke Lady Wants You to know You’re “Fatphobic” If You Refuse To Go Out With Her – by NTB Staff

I’m a thin lady who doesn’t want to date overweight men. So I don’t blame thin men who don’t want to date overweight ladies.

But god knows that secular culture and gender complementarians keep brainwashing women that we ladies should not look at a man’s earning potential, they assume we ladies have no libido (but many of us do), and they also assume we don’t notice what men look like – so they tell us to judge a man by his inner, spiritual qualities (see this post for more of what I mean about that). Oh barf! 

Contrary to what the liberal lady in the video below says, “Preference” can also include physical appearance.

I’m a thin person who is not attracted to large (i.e., obese) men, bald men, or blond men. (I also don’t like arrogant, stupid, selfish, or crass men – those being non-physical traits, of course.)

So… when I’m looking for a guy to date, I lean towards guys who are not overweight, bald, blonde, arrogant, etc.

And that is my right as an adult. I don’t allow other people to shame me, pressure me, or guilt trip me out of my boundaries and choices.

(Christians tried that on me for years! They shamed and guilt tripped me out of my choices or from having boundaries, but used the Christian faith, Christian gender complementarianism, or the Bible as rationales.)

Slapping labels on this won’t deter me, either. For example, if you want to call me a -phobe or -ist because I don’t want to date fat guys (fatphobic) or won’t date arrogant guys (arrogantist), I don’t care. That is not going to shame me into changing my dating preferences.

I work to keep my weight down. I run five times a week, and I also go on a lot of walks, bike rides, and I keep my caloric intake to 1200 calories per day, six days a week.

I don’t let my weight get out of control… and then get angry when most men would not be attracted to me.

(My one caveat here, in regards to this topic: the hypocrites.
I frequently see young and dumpy, or old and dumpy, men who have a case of the Uglies (or some are too skinny, some are too fat or just way ugly),
and yet, they always feel entitled to thin, tiny waisted, very pretty women who look like they fell out of a “Victoria’s Secret” catalog
– or you see balding, fat men with big beer guts who are 55 years old who feel entitled to 21 year old women who look like fashion models.)

I used to be fairly lenient and forgiving about dating someone with differing political views to my own (I wasn’t super picky on my dating profile filling out the “who do you want to be matched with” section under “politics”)….

But after seeing this woman’s incredibly obnoxious TikTok video/post, where she says single people not wanting to date the obese is “fatphobic” and “marginalization” – I now realize I would never, ever want to date a far left / SJW / identity politics / BLM supporter type of person(*). Never.

*(I am assuming this is where her politics reside. I’d be very surprised to learn that she claims to be a conservative or a Republican).

Her political views and grand sense of entitlement are ten times more odious than her physical appearance.

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