“Financial Infidelity” Is When A Person Hides or Withholds Money-Related Issues and Decisions from Their Partner

“Financial Infidelity” Is When A Person Hides or Withholds Money-Related Issues and Decisions from Their Partner

Abuse comes in different types, not just in the physical form – abuse can be emotional, verbal, relational, sexual, or financial.

(Link): “Financial infidelity” is when a person hides or withholds money-related issues and decisions from their partner.

While many discuss sexual infidelity as a serious breach of trust, money-related cheating can sink relationships too.

by Arman Khan.
April 18, 2022

Vinod, a 38-year-old writer, believes that for some, love is a luxury and the price you’ve to pay for it could often be crushing. He said he learnt this the hard way when, nearly a decade before gay sex was decriminalised in India, his first boyfriend cheated him off money just because Vinod could not easily break off their relationship for the fear of crushing loneliness.

“He didn’t earn much and used to borrow money from me, which at first I thought was OK,” Vinod told VICE. “At first, he would tell me that he needed the money for commuting, food, buying clothes, paying bills, etc. But with time,  it became a habit for him to borrow without even batting an eyelid. I think somewhere down the line I got him used to it as well, which I shouldn’t have.”

Vinod would keep a note of how much money he was lending but when he started noticing how his boyfriend’s wallet would never emerge from his pocket, he started asking him where the money he lent him actually went.

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Police: Woman raped, stabbed by man she met on dating website / Separate news story: Man used dating sites to find rape victims

Police: Woman raped, stabbed by man she met on dating website (other related stories, links)

(Link): 5 Online Dating Safety Tips To Help You Avoid Creepers

    • …These range from the harmless but obnoxious (like the ones you’ll find shamed on a number of tumblrs dedicated to that purpose) to the legitimately dangerous, like the story of Sharon Siemens, who was murdered by a man she had contact with through a dating site. (Link):

Australian Women’s Weekly reported

    on the incident:

“Single mum Sharon met her murderer on an online dating site, not realising he was a career criminal with more than 100 convictions to his name…”

…Keep Your Contact Info Private- [Don’t list your real name, phone number, mailing address, primary e-mail address]

Meet In A Public Place-

Make Sure People Know Where You Are

Trust Your Gut-

(Link): Michael Miller, accused of sexually assaulting woman he met on dating website, appears in court

    • Affidavit: 2 others accuse Miller of sex assault
    Jul 14, 2014

JEFFERSON COUNTY, Colo. – A man who is suspected of sexually assaulting women he met on Internet dating sites and other websites was advised of a felony charge against him in Jefferson County court on Monday.

Michael David Miller, 28, of Aurora, faces one count of sexual assault in connection with an alleged attack on a Golden woman in May.

However, Jefferson County sheriff’s officials say Miller has made admissions indicating that other victims may exist who have not yet come forward. Officials are asking women who believe they have been victimized by Miller to call sheriff’s Investigator Michalene Parreco at 303-271-5623.

According to an arrest affidavit, sheriff’s investigators have identified two other women who previously accused Miller of sexually assaulting them after they met him online.

(Link): Police: Woman raped, stabbed by man she met on dating website

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Thirty Year Old Man Likes To Date and Have Sex with 80, 90 Year Old Women

Thirty Year Old Man Likes To Date and Have Sex with 80, 90 Year Old Women

I have never approved of May-December relationships, regardless of the gender situation.

I am grossed out by relationships that have more than a five year age gap (ten at the most). I wrote about that before in (Link): this post.

(Link): Thirty Year Old Man Likes To Date and Have Sex with 80, 90 Year Old Women

-‘Some guys prefer blondes, some brunettes – I like old ladies’: ‘Extreme toyboy’, 31, takes 91-year-old girlfriend home to meet his mother

-Kyle had first sexual experience with a 50-year-old aged 18

-Claims he has always been attracted to older women

-Currently dating five women aged over 60, including Marjorie, 91

-Says they have an active and satisfying sex life

-Often takes girlfriends home to meet him mother, 51

As a society, we’ve become used to May to September relationships – just look at Madonna and her latest backing dancer; Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones and their 25-year age gap. No one bats an eyelid any more.

But one ‘exteme toy boy’ does raise a few eyebrows when he steps out with his lover – because baby-faced Kyle Jones, 31, is in a relationship with a 91-year-old great-grandmother.

Kyle, from Augusta, Georgia, dates numerous pensioners at the same time and even takes them home to meet his 50-year-old mother. For the last five years he has been in a ‘casual’ relationship with 91-year-old Marjorie McCool.

And despite the 60-year age gap, the pair have an active sex life and can’t keep their hands off each other.

Kyle said: ‘Everyone’s brain is wired differently, some guys prefer blondes, some brunettes, some like other guys – I like old ladies.’

The call centre worker was just 18 when he first acted on his attraction for older women and began a sexual relationship with a 50-year-old.

Now Kyle uses dating websites to find women as well as chatting them up in his daily life.

He said: ‘Most of the time, the average age I go for is between 60 and 80.

‘Whenever I’m trying to speak to an older woman, the first reaction I get is ‘you’re way too young’.

‘I find persistence is good so I tell them it’ll be fun.’

Although officially single, Kyle regularly sees up to five women at a time and takes them on dates – and even home to meet his mother.

In 2009 he met great-grandmother Marge – short for Marjorie – in the bookstore where she was working and asked for her number.

Marge, who had been single for 37 years since splitting with the father of her six children, agreed to go on a date.

She said: ‘In the beginning I got jealous of his other women but he keeps coming back to me and tells me I’m the best.

‘The physical side of our relationship is wonderful. I amaze myself, he amazes me. There’s nothing better.

…. And while many of the women he dates can’t believe such a young man would find them attractive, Kyle is adamant he does.

He said: ‘Often, the things women are so self-conscious about is what I’m into. I like the neck lines and wrinkles.

‘Women worry about their boobs sagging but I think the natural hang looks great. I’m really not a fan of plastic surgery.

…Kyle’s preference for the elderly has drawn criticism from those who see him as opportunistic.

He said: ‘The most common criticism I hear is ‘you’re after money’ or ‘you’re after inheritance’.

‘Or people think these women must be buying me things.

‘But it’s not true at all – I do this because I like it and they like it too. I’ve dated women from various ends of the financial spectrum, but it’s never about what they have.’

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Related posts:

(Link): Creepy, wrong, immature and pathetic: older men chasing after much younger women

(Link):  Study:  Big Gaps in Age Can Turn A Marriage Sour in Just Six Years

(Link): Woman Burned To Death For Refusing Marriage Proposal To A Man Over Half Her Age

(Link):  Wife’s Shock As Husband, 26, Is Caught Cheating With a 72-Year-Old Lover at Premier Inn

(Link): What Is The #HusbandNotDad (hash tag)? Down The Rabbit Hole Of An Unlikely Hashtag by P. Frank

(Link):  Dear Abby: I Gave Up Dating, and 30 Years Later, I’m Lonely – letter from self-professing 70 year old guy who is overweight, says he prefers younger women and does not want to date women his own age

(Link):  ‘I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years’ – A.K.A., ‘Where do 50-year-old men get the strange impression that they could date a 23-year-old?’ by Mona Chalabi

(Link): What It’s Really Like to Be a Guy Who Only Dates Much Older Women by L. Moore 

(Link): Men Become ‘Invisible’ And Lose Sex Appeal At 39 – Article from Daily Caller

(Link):  How Dating In Your 40s Is Nothing Like Dating In Your 20s – via NY Post – A Secular Editorial Grasps what Married Christian Relationship Advice Givers Do Not

(Link): Ageism Vs. Age Preferences and Creepy Older Men (critique of post at another blog) 

(Link): The Bigger the Age Gap The Shorter The Marriage  / Divorce Rates Predicted By Age Differences

(Link): Avoid Dating Divorced Guys Who Are Dating on the Rebound – and Icky May December Relationships

(Link): Obnoxious, Condescending, Sexist, Pervy Esquire Editorial by 50-Something Year Old Man: “In Praise of 42 Year Old Women” – Condescendingly Reassures 40 Something Women He’d Sex Them Up

(Link): Follow Up – Reactions by Other Writers to Sexist, Condescending 50 Something Men Who Think They Are Final Arbiters of If Women Are Attractive Past Age of 40 (Re: Esquire Editorial by Junod)

(Link): Follow Up Part 2 – Reactions by Other Writers to Sexist, Condescending 50 Something Men Who Think They Are Final Arbiters of If Women Are Attractive Past Age of 40 (Re: Esquire Editorial by Junod)

(Link): Online Dating: Women Want Younger Men (article)

Men: Women Don’t Really Care About The Kind of Car You Drive -ie, Are Not Won Over by Expensive Sports Cars

Men: Women Don’t Really Care About The Kind of Car You Drive -ie, Are Not Won Over by Expensive Sports Cars

I wonder if this myth about women supposedly preferring expensive cars in a man got started by men, because usually, men are more interested in cars than women are, so men naturally assume if other men are impressed by a BMW or Porsche, women must be too.

(Link): Baby, You Can Drive Any Car – As Long as it’s Practical

    New Study Reveals Women Think a Guy’s Car Says Something About his Character, from Economic Status to Self-Image

    NEW YORK, April 15, 2014 /PRNewswire/ — Most men might think that hot women like hot cars, but according to the results of a new survey conducted on behalf of leading international dating website AnastasiaDate by Harris Poll, a majority of women associate fancy cars with negative character traits:
    56 percent say that they view men who drive exotic / fast cars as being show-offs or arrogant; 17 percent perceive them as being insecure.

    Furthermore, only one-fifth of women (21 percent) say that they have found a man more attractive after seeing the type of car that he drives.

    The results of the survey – which was conducted online in March 2014 and polled over 2,100 American men and women on the connection between attraction, “date-ability” and choice of car – lead to the conclusion that women prefer a man who drives a sensible car, because it reflects his level of stability.

    And a third (32 percent) of women believe that the type of car a guy drives determines what kind of family man he will be – a guy who drives a sedan, for example, may be preferred over one who sports a Ferrari.

(Link): Forget a Porsche, drive a Prius if you want to attract the ladies

    by Leonard Greene
    April 22, 2014

    Forget the Porsche — guys who really want to attract women should be driving a Prius.

    Sexy models draped over sports cars at the New York Auto Show aside, most women prefer a man who drives something more practical, according to a new survey.

    A Harris poll commissioned by dating site AnastasiaDate found that a majority of women associate fancy cars with negative character traits: 56 percent view men who drive exotic or fast cars as being show-offs or arrogant, and 17 percent perceive them as being insecure.

    Almost half of women say that a guy’s car reflects his economic status. Forty-six percent say that it reflects a guy’s image of himself. Eleven percent believe that the car reflects the guy’s feelings about having a family.

    Only about one-fifth of women say that they have found a man more attractive after seeing the type of car that he drives.
    And 37 percent of women think men who buy expensive cars are compensating for a lack of “something.”

    Men have their own opinions about what a woman’s ride says about her.

    Nearly 40 percent of men think a woman in a fast or exotic car is a show off. Six percent see those women as emotional.

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Related posts:

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Can You Spot A Gold Digger? (article) – And a word about MALE gold diggers

Can You Spot A Gold Digger? (article)

I have to preface the link below – which is about female gold diggers – by pointing out that I’ve not known or seen many female gold diggers, but I’ve known a lot of male gold diggers, including my ex fiance’.

Many of my female friends and family members have ended up dating or marrying men who are un-employed or under-employed.

Not only do the women in question pay all the bills (while the male sweetie pie spends all day haunting forums on the internet, chatting up friends), but while they are home all day, some of these guys either go out to bars, or, sit on their computer all day.

Meaning, the woman comes home from the job and no laundry has been done while she was gone during the day, and there is still a pile of dirty dishes in the sink.

All of this to say I get really tired of MEN online who bitch and gripe about female gold diggers. They depict all women as being money grubbers, all because their ex wife or ex GF used them for their wallet.

I am sorry if you are a male and that has happened to you, but please, there are a hella lot of MALE gold diggers out there too.

Times have changed. We are no longer living in 1954, where a woman had to depend on a man for a pay check.

These days, a lot of women have no choice but to work, and as I said, I’ve seen so many men sponge off women I know, and these male jerks and users will not even do household chores to help, such as cook meals, go grocery shopping, dust the furniture, etc.

Whoever wrote this page about female gold diggers needs to write one for women on “How to spot male gold diggers” because it’s a big problem.

(Link): Can You Spot A Gold Digger?

    by D Lewak

    …“She just wanted someone to provide for her so she wouldn’t have to work,” he says on reflection. “She was good on paper — attractive, had her career — but she had her own goals.

    “I was so depressed with it all,” he adds.

    Gold diggers are such a problem in NYC, one woman has set up an agency that proclaims it will weed them out.

    Upper East Side matchmaker Janis Spindel founded Club J-Love in 1993 — and since then claims to have 1,008 marriages under her belt. Her specialty? Helping men like K.G. avoid heartbreak — and the loss of hard-earned money — by sussing out a woman’s true motives.

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