Jaded, Bitter, Entitled Sam The Single Man Claims that All Women Who Say “They Aren’t That Kind of Girl” Are Liars

Jaded, Bitter, Entitled Sam The Single Man Claims that All Women Who Say “They Aren’t That Kind of Girl” Are Liars

The guy who wrote this letter to ‘Ask Amy’ sounds like a bitter, cynical, entitled sexist ass-hat.

I for one “am not that kind of girl.” Women such as me do in fact exist. If you date me, and I turn down sex on the basis of, “I’m not that kind of girl,” I am speaking the truth.

I am over the age of 40 and still a virgin. Even though now my views on sex have relaxed, and I’d be willing to have sex prior to marriage, but not on a first date, or even a second date, but only within the context of a steady, committed relationship.

So yes, to you assh*le who wrote this letter to Ask Amy, “Sam,” some women are in fact “not that kind of girl” and do not have sex with a man they’ve just met.

I think you don’t want a steady relationship but a one-night stand, in which case, stop using dating sites like eHarmony, Yahoo Personals, or Match and stick with “Booty Call .com” or “Tindr,” which are designed specifically for casual sex, you idiot.

DEAR AMY:

When two people first meet and the guy wants to have sex, why is it that many women say, “I am not that kind of girl, and I need to get to know you better“?

That is actually a big lie that women tell. After all, if the guy who wanted to have sex with them was George Clooney, it’s unthinkable that they would say, “I’m not that kind of girl.”

Every woman is “that kind of girl” with a select few men under the right circumstances.

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Love-Sick Teenager Who Won’t Take No For an Answer is Finally Shut Down by his Ex-Girlfriend’s FATHER in an Epic Text Exchange – Men of All Ages Need To Learn to Handle Rejection and to Respect Other People’s Boundaries in Dating

Love-Sick Teenager Who Won’t Take No For an Answer is Finally Shut Down by his Ex-Girlfriend’s FATHER in an Epic Text Exchange – Men of All Ages Need To Learn to Handle Rejection and to Respect Other People’s Boundaries in Dating

If there are any MEN reading this – especially men over the age of 21 – you need to realize that some of you are just as bad in your online behavior, especially on dating sites and apps, as this 15 year old kid is.

See how obnoxiously persistent this teen kid is, how he keeps dragging this exchange on and on with the teen girl’s father? This is how 90% of you men over the age of 21 behave towards grown women online, especially on dating sites.

You men refuse to take “no” from women for an answer, or to choose to view a woman turning you down as the ultimate insult.

You men take rejection by women far too personally, and send negative, nasty, insulting comments to some women, all for merely politely turning you down on a site, for refusing to give you their number, or going on a date with you.

Women you don’t know (single women) don’t owe you squat in life – women don’t owe you a smile, flirtation, chit chat, their phone numbers, sex, emotional support, or dates.

You will be turned down as you go through life by various women you flirt with or ask on dates – it’s a reality. Get over it. Learn to let go, accept defeat graciously, and stop taking it so damn personally.

Learn to respect other people’s boundaries. If a woman or girl tells you “no” or “not interested,” just let it go. Don’t send the girl or woman nasty, insulting messages if or when she turns you down. Just move along.

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“My boyfriend was intimidated by my sexual history. So I dumped him.” by T. Hornung

“My boyfriend was intimidated by my sexual history. So I dumped him.” by T. Hornung

I’m not going to take the usual, secular, left wing feminist standard here (for one thing, I’m right wing and don’t always agree with secular feminists), where I’m supposed to say a woman’s sexual history is not a boyfriend’s business, or the boyfriend should not be upset by his girlfriend’s sexual past, and say, “Rah rah, women’s sexual freedom.”

I am forever amazed that “sex positive” feminists, whether they are men or women, assume that their previous sexual choices should not, or will not, have any consequences upon them or the people around them.

Some of us are more “serious” about sex than other people – sex actually means something to us, so yes, we find it troubling, and I suppose this is doubly so, if we are virgins over 35 years of age, and have to grapple with the fact that our current partner has had sex with other people in the past.

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Nine Signs He’s Not The Marrying Type, According To Marriage Counselors

Nine Signs He’s Not The Marrying Type, According To Marriage Counselors

I’m not going to copy the entire page here; you’re just getting excerpts.

Number five on this list describes my ex fiance exactly (see this (Link): prior post). I’d also say point 7 applies to my ex. My ex kept putting his mother (and some of his other family members) before me.

(Link): Nine Signs He’s Not The Marrying Type, According To Marriage Counselors

Excerpts

Read on for nine signs he’s just (Link): not the marrying type, according to marriage counselors. (Note that this applies to women too!)

1. He acts younger than he is.

“If he still acts like he’s in a fraternity ― staying out all night, drinking too much ― then he’s not ready for marriage. Getting married requires giving up the self-focus and ‘it’s all about me’ behavior. This doesn’t mean marriage doesn’t allow for some ‘me time,’ because it does, but it’s down on the priority list way below being responsible and considerate of your spouse.” ― Kurt Smith, counselor and director of Guy Stuff Counseling & Coaching

5. He always makes it about him.

“Any healthy relationship needs a give-and-take dance. That said, it would only make sense for there to be balanced conversations. However, if your man leads most of the conversations back to himself and shows no interested in you, then chances are that he will mimic the same behavior throughout a marriage.” ― Carin Goldstein, marriage and family therapist

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Women, Stop Listening to Sexist Relationship ‘Experts’ by D. L. D’Oyley

Women, Stop Listening to Sexist Relationship ‘Experts’ by D. L. D’Oyley

If you are not already aware, Steve Harvey, whom this author discusses, is a Christian. He is sometimes a guest speaker on Christian network TBN.

(Link): Women, Stop Listening to Sexist Relationship ‘Experts’ (page 1) (Link to Page 2) by D. L. D’Oyley

Excerpts:

  • Feb 2016
  • She Matters: If they’re men who hold shoddy views about sex and women, it follows that their advice to women will also be shoddy.
  • …It’s a common theme among men, including many so-called relationship experts. And that’s a huge problem.
  • It should be obvious why that’s an issue, but in case it isn’t: You have men who hold screwed-up views about sex and women telling women how to be better women to land a man.
  • If the perspective with which they view women is shoddy, then it follows that their advice to women will also be shoddy.

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Woman Burned To Death For Refusing Marriage Proposal

Woman Burned To Death For Refusing Marriage Proposal

And there are some whiny, cry-baby men who think THEY have single life harder – news flash, (Link): you don’t have it worse, men: men usually are not murdered by jealous women over turning down dates or proposals.

While I’d say that the root of this case involves a lot of misogyny and patriarchy, I think perhaps a small factor is an over-emphasis upon marriage.

Perhaps if cultures like this one were taught that being single and/or celibate are perfectly fine lifestyles to live, we wouldn’t see people feel so pressured to marry, and they would realize they can control their sexual urges. Therefore, women would not be killed for turning down dates, requests for sex, or marriage proposals.

You don’t have to be married, or have sex, to enjoy life or be happy and content. (I am not knocking a desire to be married, you realize, only saying if it does not happen for you, you will survive – and realize you can enjoy life without marriage or sex.)

Dollars to doughnuts that everyone in this news story was Muslim.

If so, I’d like to say again I see striking parallels between Islamic attitudes and behaviors towards women as I do from some gender complementarian or Quiverfull Christian groups, as well as sexist men and MRA (Men’s Rights Activists) groups – they all treat women like second-class citizens to be controlled by men and are considered to have value only in- so- far as they breed like rabbits and/or provide men with sex.

(Link): Pakistani woman dies after being set on fire for rejecting marriage proposal

  • By Azadeh Ansari and Sophia Saifi, CNN
  • Updated 11:47 AM ET, Thu June 2, 2016
  • Islamabad, Pakistan (CNN)- An 18-year-old Pakistani schoolteacher died Wednesday from injuries after her body was set on fire for refusing a marriage proposal, police said.
  • The perpetrators beat Maria Abbasi, then drenched her in petrol and set her body ablaze before leaving her for dead, her family members told CNN.
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    The Worst Things a Man Can Say in His Online Dating Profile by S. Farris

    The Worst Things a Man Can Say in His Online Dating Profile by S. Farris

    I would also add to the list on the page I am linking to:

    Hetero Men who are seeking women on dating sites and apps: do not send women unsolicited penis photos; do not have anything mentioning sex on your profile, and do not mention (or joke about) sex in any of your “must have” lists on dating sites or any part of your profile.

    I don’t care if you are totally into sex and think sex is mucho importante in a relationship, any mention of sex (even if you think it’s funny to put vulgar jokes on your profile) is a turn-off (and / or creepy) to most women.

    You wait until you have been dating a person for awhile to bring sex up, and even then, you should be TASTEFUL about it, not crass or perverted or weird.

    (Link): The Worst Things a Man Can Say in His Online Dating Profile

    Excerpts:

    • They show up for dates looking nothing like their pictures. They tell long, rambling stories about their “psycho exes” or spend the entirety of the evening talking about their material possessions.
    • Men who date online never fail to surprise the women they meet, but they seem to be blissfully ignorant of the fact that they’re scaring people off.
    • With men now (Link): drastically outnumbering women on many dating apps, can guys afford to offend the few female users they might attract?
    •  

      Working with April Masini, a New York City-based relationship expert and psychotherapist, we analyzed responses from women who are currently active on the online dating scene.

    • Masini regularly offers dating advice to people of both genders through her website (Link): AskApril.com. She reviewed the lines women hate to see most on online dating profiles and gave her advice on how men can better phrase them.
    • 1. “No drama.”
    • By the time people join online dating sites, they’ve often had a wealth of experiences that include breakups, job transitions, and possibly even parenthood.

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    Men Aren’t Entitled to Sex: Crybaby Guy Throws Racist Fit at Woman Who Politely Refuses to Hook up by R K Bussel

    Men Aren’t Entitled to Sex: Crybaby Guy Throws Racist Fit at Woman Who Politely Refuses to Hook up by R K Bussel

    It sure does seem that a lot of guys think they are owed sex.

    A lot of Christian men not only feel that they are entitled sex (once married), but both before and after marriage, they feel entitled to everything from women: they expect to have their egos stroked all the time, for instance.

    Do you Christian men who arrogantly expect women to uplift you and tell you how great you are, ever consider encouraging women in your lives, whether they are single or married?

    Women sometimes need or want some external validation, yet whiny men (including Christian ones) seldom consider giving any to women. They rudely assume God put women here only to meet men’s needs. Nope: it goes both ways.

    Women have needs too. Women have days or phases in their lives when they get tired, discouraged, worn down and could use a kind word or a helping hand.

    (Link):  Men Aren’t Etitled to Sex: Crybaby Guy Throws Racist fit at woman who Politely Refuses to Hook up by R K Bussel

    Excerpts:

    • Even if he buys her dinner, even if she asks him out, even if she flirts—there’s no excuse for this behavior
    • …That he turned on a dime to insult her should tell us that he only saw her as an object he wanted available for his pleasure, whether to stroke his ego or stroke other body parts. The moment she rejects him, even though she doesn’t say a single negative thing toward him, he interprets that as pretty much the worst thing a woman could do to him. Her not wanting sex automatically means, in his mind, she’s basically an evil bitch who’s wasted his time.
    • Another obvious statement: her not wanting to have sex with him doesn’t automatically mean she didn’t like him, or didn’t have a good date. Maybe she did, maybe she didn’t, but by treating sex as the one and only arbiter of success, he turned what could have been a fun night into a nightmare.

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    Avoid Dating Divorced Guys Who Are Dating on the Rebound – and Icky May December Relationships

    Avoid Dating Divorced Guys Who Are Dating on the Rebound – and Icky May December Relationships

    The letter is much farther below. I wanted to comment on it first.

    Here is the set up:

    A friend of a divorced guy wrote to Hax, an advice columnist.

     I’m not sure if this friend is a man or woman; let’s just assume it’s a man for my post.

    My interest in this letter is not in the advice aspect: friend is upset because divorced guy keeps asking him for advice but then gets offended and explodes in anger when Friend gives him advice.

    My interest in this letter pertains to two or three other facets:

    The letter writing friend says his divorced friend is age mid-40s, while the wife who dumped him was in her early 30s.

    I am (Link): not a  believer in “May December” relationships, for starters.

    A mid- 40s guy should be dating women who are age early- to- late 40s, not an early- 30s woman.

    And what in the hey is the age early- 30s woman doing even considering dating some dude who is 14, 15 years her senior?

    This is something I have pondered since thinking about dating again: the rebound issue. There is no way I’d date a guy who was divorced (or widowed) for only two years, or less.

    If you date a guy who just divorced (or his wife died) two weeks ago, or six months ago, he is not ready for a serious relationship – he’s not even ready for a healthy, casual, fun one.

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    How Sorry Do We Feel for the Lonesome Single Bachelors of New York? by T. Moore (never married men in their 40s talk about being tired of being single)

    How Sorry Do We Feel for the Lonesome Single Bachelors of New York? by T. Moore (never married men in their 40s talk about being tired of being single)

    I am not surprised to see some of these 40 something men, who have never married, pine for a 20 something women – some claiming it’s so they can “start families.”

    Hey, sexist, ageist entitled never-married male buffoons: women in their 30s and 40s menstruate and can have babies too, if that’s your thing. See the links below on this page under “Related Posts” for more on that.

    But I’d also have to point out that many 20 something women have no desire to marry men over five to ten years their senior. Most women are grossed out by dudes who are ten or more years their senior “hitting on them.”

    I’m in my 40s and have no desire to marry or date a 60 something or 70 something dude, yet sometimes, these jokers contact me on dating sites, in spite of the fact my age cap cuts off after about 6 or 7 years my age.

    (Link): How Sorry Do We Feel for the Lonesome Single Bachelors of New York? by T. Moore (never married men in their 40s talk about being tired of being single)

    Excerpts:

    • It’s not a trick question: There’s a piece in the New York Times about aging single men in their 30s and 40s who are finally ready to settle down, but bummed that it takes actual effort and stuff.
    • What shall we do here? A round of sympathy drinks? Or a heartless, sarcastic boo-hoo?
    • First, let’s get to know the men (Link): in the piece:
    • Scott Slattery, 35-year-old communications and marketing consultant

      Slattery wants to be a dad but realizes old age is encroaching. “I still want to take care of [my kids] through their entire lives, so I don’t want to be old.”

    • There are more: Paul Gollash, the 40-year-old who realized in his late thirties that he was “fed up with being single” and so he suddenly had to hit up all the sorts of places he’d never have gone before to do the dreaded mingling, like cocktail parties and work events.

    • Or Alan Yang, the co-creator of the Aziz Ansari Netflix show Master of None who admitted that it wasn’t until his sister had a baby that it struck him that he might want a family of his own.

    • Or there’s 44-year-old Paul Morris, who doesn’t want kids, but doesn’t want to be single forever, either. He was out at a bar at 9 p.m. on a Sunday night—trying to be “out there,” and wondering if this was what 44 really looks like.

    • ….So, truth be told, it’s easy to mock these guys—careerists out working hard, having fun, seemingly oblivious to the notion that time ticks along for everyone.
    • It’s, yes, amusing to see men grappling mid-life with an insight that was tucked into an invisible pamphlet issued at birth to every woman I know. It read: Better lock something down before it’s too late and your looks are all dried up. Women have spent decades fighting this cultural notion of a female expiration date, only to find out that men have one too?

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    Our sex-obsessed culture is turning men into pigs By Naomi Schaefer Riley

    Our sex-obsessed culture is turning men into pigs By Naomi Schaefer Riley

    I do not know what Ms. Riley’s religious views are, or if she is a theist or not. But a lot of what she writes here can apply to Christian culture.

    A preface: I know that not all men are sex-obsessed pigs (so if you’re wanting to sign up for this blog and leave a post about it, don’t bother), but I do think a huge percentage of men are these days.

    I also think a large percentage of American men have been sex obsessed pigs for decades, due to a combination of factors, including, but not limited to, society telling men that the more women they have sex with, the more masculine they are. So, men grow up thinking it’s an expectation, proof of, or demonstration, of manliness if they boink around with the ladies.

    Churches and Christian culture also buy into this mentality, with their own spin on it – that only “real” men are married and having lots of sex (and apparently, according to Rev Mark Driscoll, lots of kinky sex, not just vanilla sex).

    Maybe if secular culture and Christians stopped upholding sexual experiences / marriages as rites of passage into adulthood, that would take pressure off people from fornication, from marrying too young, or from marrying the wrong person.

    By the way, women are extremely visually oriented… one of the pigs mentioned in this article (who is around 51, 52 years old) was judging his 55 year old female lover as having a “wrinkled” body – most 50 something men are not prizes, either, in the physical attractiveness department. I don’t think idiots like him realize women are judging him for his looks, too.

    (Link): Our sex-obsessed culture is turning men into pigs By Naomi Schaefer Riley

    Excerpt:

      These men and their attitudes about women and sex are not as unusual as we’d like to think. Their actions are the crude but inevitable consequence of the way we have come to view sex now — as something public and ordinary, something to be measured regularly and something that is ultimately only about individuals and their peculiar preferences. If men and women are in relationships just to have a good time, then why shouldn’t they “tell each other how they really feel.”

      Of course, these are the kind of attitudes that breed not gentlemen but something else entirely. Oink Oink.

    ———————-
    Related:

    (Link): Pouty Husband Sends Wife Spreadsheet Detailing Sex-Life Dissatisfaction

    (Link): Bitter, Frustrated 22 Year Old Male Virgin and Member of Men’s Rights / PUA Groups Kills Several Women Because He Couldn’t Get Dates – what an entitled sexist doof

    (Link): When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men – and how the stereotype flipped

    (Link): Follow Up Part 2 – Reactions by Other Writers to Sexist, Condescending 50 Something Men Who Think They Are Final Arbiters of If Women Are Attractive Past Age of 40 (Re: Esquire Editorial by Junod)

    (Link): Women Judging Male Physical Appearance – Body Fat Percentages

    (Link): Christian Gender and Sex Stereotypes Act as Obstacles to Christian Singles Who Want to Get Married (Not All Men Are Obsessed with Sex)

    (Link): Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality : All Unmarried Women Are Supposedly Hyper Sexed Harlots – But All Married Ones are Supposedly Frigid or Totally Uninterested in Sex

    (Link): How Christians Have Failed on Teaching Maturity and Morality Vis A Vis Marriage / Parenthood – Used as Markers of Maturity Or Assumed to be Sanctifiers – Also: More Hypocrisy – Christians Teach You Need A Spouse to Be Purified, But Also Teach God Won’t Send You a Spouse Until You Become Purified

    (Link): Preacher Mark Driscoll Was Not A Virgin When He Got Married – He Admitted So In Book and Blog

    (Link): Hypocrisy of Left Wingers and Atheists and the #NotAll Hash Tag or Rhetoric

    Police: Woman raped, stabbed by man she met on dating website / Separate news story: Man used dating sites to find rape victims

    Police: Woman raped, stabbed by man she met on dating website (other related stories, links)

    (Link): 5 Online Dating Safety Tips To Help You Avoid Creepers

      …These range from the harmless but obnoxious (like the ones you’ll find shamed on a number of tumblrs dedicated to that purpose) to the legitimately dangerous, like the story of Sharon Siemens, who was murdered by a man she had contact with through a dating site. (Link):

    Australian Women’s Weekly reported

      on the incident:

    “Single mum Sharon met her murderer on an online dating site, not realising he was a career criminal with more than 100 convictions to his name…”

    …Keep Your Contact Info Private- [Don’t list your real name, phone number, mailing address, primary e-mail address]

    Meet In A Public Place-

    Make Sure People Know Where You Are

    Trust Your Gut-

    (Link): Michael Miller, accused of sexually assaulting woman he met on dating website, appears in court

      Affidavit: 2 others accuse Miller of sex assault
      Jul 14, 2014

    JEFFERSON COUNTY, Colo. – A man who is suspected of sexually assaulting women he met on Internet dating sites and other websites was advised of a felony charge against him in Jefferson County court on Monday.

    Michael David Miller, 28, of Aurora, faces one count of sexual assault in connection with an alleged attack on a Golden woman in May.

    However, Jefferson County sheriff’s officials say Miller has made admissions indicating that other victims may exist who have not yet come forward. Officials are asking women who believe they have been victimized by Miller to call sheriff’s Investigator Michalene Parreco at 303-271-5623.

    According to an arrest affidavit, sheriff’s investigators have identified two other women who previously accused Miller of sexually assaulting them after they met him online.

    (Link): Police: Woman raped, stabbed by man she met on dating website

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    ‘When Women Refuse’ Proves Violence Doesn’t Usually Come With a Misogynistic Manifesto

    ‘When Women Refuse’ Proves Violence Doesn’t Usually Come With a Misogynistic Manifesto

    (Link): ‘When Women Refuse’ Proves Violence Doesn’t Usually Come With a Misogynistic Manifesto

        Male violence against women who refuse sexual advances isn’t merely the domain of a college student suffering from mental health issues. It’s an epidemic that’s a troubling part of the fabric of America. That’s the message sent by (Link):

    When Women Refuse

      , a Tumblr blog created on Monday in response to Friday night’s horrific mass shooting in Isla Vista, Calif., near the campus of the University of California, Santa Barbara.

    The blog’s creator, feminist activist, author, and Lux Digital cofounder Deanna Zandt, told Think Progress that she was inspired to start the site because “we still don’t view gender based violence as a large cultural issue—we tend to think of these as isolated incidents.”

    In the aftermath of the shooting, media detailed the mental health challenges of the shooter, 22-year-old Elliot Rodger, who targeted women who had spurned his advances. Rodger killed six people before turning a gun on himself. Snippets of Rodger’s 137-page manifesto to friends and relatives have been published, and then there are the chilling videos he posted on YouTube.

    “I don’t know why you girls aren’t attracted to me, but I will punish you all for it,” Rodger declared in one video just hours before he embarked on his shooting spree.

    In an effort to distance themselves from Rodger’s deadly misogyny, men took to social media with the hashtag #NotAllMen to post tweets like, “Dividing men into the ‘good guys’ and the ‘bad guys’ is short-sighted.” Zandt told Think Progress that she noticed that several guys in her social networks also shared the belief that Rodger’s actions were an exception. Then, after seeing writer Kate Harding sharing news stories on her Facebook page of men who’d used violence after being rejected, Zandt decided to launch the Tumblr to show Rodger’s actions weren’t an isolated incident.

    Anyone can submit a story of a woman who’s been the victim of violence because she rejected sexual advances. Scrolling through the When Women Refuse submissions shows that Rodger’s actions aren’t unique. There’s the story of a 16-year-old stabbed to death after refusing to be a guy’s prom date, and the tragic (and all-too-common) tale of a woman whose controlling ex couldn’t get over her and stabbed her, her mother, and her new boyfriend.

    ((read the rest))
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    Related posts:

    (Link): Bitter, Frustrated 22 Year Old Male Virgin and Member of Men’s Rights / PUA Groups Kills Several Women Because He Couldn’t Get Dates – what an entitled sexist doof

    (Link): Nice Guys: Scourge of the Single Woman

    (Link): ‘It’s Not Me, It’s You’: A Loser’s Guide to Dealing with Rejection by The Guyliner

    (Link):  Nice Guys Aren’t So Nice After All: Men in the “Friend Zone” Often Have A Hidden Agenda, Say Psychologists (Daily Mail article)

    (Link):  Dudes, Stop Putting Women in the Girlfriendzone

    (Link): Testosterone-Deficient Gamma Male Whines About the ‘Friend Zone’ (post from The Other McCain) – AKA, Ugly, Fat, Weird, Awkward, or Poor Nice Guys Who Unrealistically Expect to Attract Rich, Pretty, Thin, Socially Normal Women

    (Link): Guy So Depressed Over Being Single He Cut Off His Own Penis (article)

    (Link): When Adult Virginity and Adult Celibacy Are Viewed As Inconvenient or As Impediments

    Pervy Preacher from Seattle who teaches men “to objectify women, by his over emphasis of sexualization of women and subservience” (Re Driscoll)

    Pervy Preacher from Seattle who teaches men “to objectify women, by his over emphasis of sexualization of women and subservience” (Re Driscoll)

    I have blogged on this cretin before. Driscoll is sexist, and anti-singles, both anti male singles and anti female singles.

    Driscoll, oddly, out of one side of his mouth, will condemn pornography in some of his sermons or books, but then tell his male church members on other occasions, whether in sermons or in books, that their wives are nothing more than sex blow up dolls, there to do their every sexual bidding, even indulging in sex acts most women do not want or enjoy, such as anal sex, or performing a blow job on their husband.

    (That’s right men, most women do not like giving blow jobs, which is one of your seemingly biggest fantasies. Over the span of my entire life, all women I’ve met in person, or have read their musings online, only one or two have said they enjoy performing oral sex on a man. Most women get no pleasure out of it, it grosses them out, and many say it makes them feel like a five dollar crack whore.

    I also notice that when writing about marital sex, or sermonizing on it, many conservative male preachers never, ever advise the husbands to perform oral sex on their wives, or perform whatever other sex act… it’s always very selfishly framed in how the woman can meet the man’s sexual needs.)

    Mark Driscoll is a married father, and he is a sexual pervert… and yet, Christians insist on portraying or thinking of all older (as in over age 30) never-married, childless men as being homosexuals, over sexed Don Juans, or some other type of sexual deviant.

    That Driscoll is on record (in his book on marriage, if I am not mistaken, or was it a sermon?) as saying he and his wife’s marriage was sexless for a few years (or unsatisfactory sexually in some other manner) also does not speak well of the conservative Christian propaganda that married sex is super great, so, if you just wait until you’re married to have sex, there will be fire works in the bedroom all the time.

    A long excerpt from
    (Link): Inside Mars Hill’s massive meltdown

      by By Stacey Solie
      July 2014

      SEX

      It was also around the mid-2000s that members noticed Driscoll’s growing preoccupation with sex.

      Driscoll also started to preach more about male privilege and sexual entitlement. This had a damaging impact on many marriages, said Rob Thain Smith, who, with Merle, was acting as an informal marriage counselor to many young couples.

      “He created enormous abuse of wives,” Smith said. “He helped young men objectify women, by his over emphasis of sexualization of women and subservience.”

      “The way Driscoll talked, you thought that he was getting it every night. All these men are seeing his hot wife, and are thinking he’s got it made.”

      In Real Marriage, Driscoll bitterly describes a largely sexless marriage, and seems to imply that he’s been acting out all these years because he was sexually frustrated at home.

      Continue reading “Pervy Preacher from Seattle who teaches men “to objectify women, by his over emphasis of sexualization of women and subservience” (Re Driscoll)”

    Men Posting Profiles on Dating Sites Could Use Some Tips (from Dear Abby column)

    Men Posting Profiles on Dating Sites Could Use Some Tips (from Dear Abby column)

    I totally agree with this. I would expect immature 18 or 20 something males to post immature, vulgar or moronic commentary or photos on their dating site profiles, but back in the day when I tried dating sites (in my mid 30s and a bit in my late 30s), I was astounded by the number of males, ages 30 up to 75, who say lewd things on their profiles.

    This includes men who identify as CHRISTIAN. That’s right, men who claimed to be Christian would tell me up front or very early in the onlilne dating game what their preferred sexual positions were, or make inappropriate sex related jokes on their profile pages. None of that is attractive to women, especially not to Christian women.

    To add to her points on the list below, I’d add:

    Men:
    -do not send unsolicited penis photos to a woman;
    -do send or post anything of a sexual nature on your profile, unless you are specifically on a sex oriented site such as “Adult Friend Finder” or whatever that Whore Hook-up site is (and when I say whore, I’m including men who are looking for casual sex);
    -do not make lewd jokes or use filthy language on your profile page
    -do not state what your sexual preferences are on your profile or bring this topic up when sending messages back and forth with a woman.
    -do not state you are 45 years old when it’s damn obvious from your profile photo you’re more like 75 years old

    (Link): MEN POSTING PROFILES ON DATING SITES COULD USE A FEW TIPS

    DEAR ABBY:

      May I sit in your chair and give some advice today?

    It’s aimed at men who place ads on dating sites and then wonder why they can’t meet “quality” women.

    I’m an educated, decent-looking, middle-aged widow who has dated quite a lot through such ads and local social groups.

    Yes, it can be a jungle out there, but the Internet is a wonderful tool for bringing people together.

    I live in a small town, and the pool of eligible men is smaller here than in metropolitan areas. That said, there are few profiles that attract my attention and that of my divorced/widowed friends.

    Gentlemen, some pointers:

    1. Smile! A dour expression is unpleasant.

    2. We may want to see you with your shirt off after we get to know you, but it’s not the most appealing or refined pose for a first look.

    3. Be realistic. If you are Joe Average, we Jane Averages would enjoy meeting you. Are you really going to hold out for a model who is a decade or so younger than you?

    4. Be kind to the English language.
    You don’t have to be a genius, but it would be nice to know you can competently communicate in writing.

    5. Consider a shave.
    Some women like men with facial hair; the majority of the ones I know do not. About 75 percent of men over 50 have a mustache, beard or both. What are you hiding under there?

    6. If you’re married and miserable, for goodness sake, go for marriage counseling or get a divorce. But please don’t deceive women who want to meet a nice guy to share life with.

    In case you think I’m being too harsh, we gals welcome any suggestions from men who scroll through those female profiles looking for love.
    — SURFING IN PETERSBURG, ILL.

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    Related posts:

    (Link): Stop Telling Your Single Friends to Try Dating Sites – Please.

    (Link): Beware of Rapists on Christian Dating Sites

    (Link): Women Do Care About Male Looks but Don’t Go For Penis Photos

    (Link): Various articles about online dating – Online dating leads to marriage / why men fail at online dating – other articles

    (Link): Online Dating Fatigue is a Real Thing and It’s Happening to Everyone by Madison Vanderberg

    (Link): Police urge caution when using dating websites / Murderers on Dating Sites

    (Link): Woman Meets Man on Dating Site, He Steals Her Dog and TV on First Date

    (Link): Is it a date? Or hanging out? [2014] Survey reflects confusion (article)

    (Link): Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work

    (Link): Internet dating firms entice lonely hearts with faked profiles based on real people (article)

    (Link): Blogs by Single Women Who Discuss the Weirdos, Perverts and Losers Who Contact Them on Dating Sites

    (Link): Creepizoids Weirdos and Perverts on Dating Sites

    (Link): Weird Dating Sites, Toilet Dating, Dating Sites and Privacy

    (Link): Online Dating: Women Want Younger Men (article)

    (Link): Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work (article)

    (Link): Facebook Uses Photo of Dead Girl (by suicide) in Dating Site Ad

    (Link): Online Dating Vs Meeting in Real Life (copy)

    Woman’s Ex Boyfriend Gets Hospital Employees to Release her Sexually Transmitted Diseases Medical History on Facebook

    Woman’s Ex Boyfriend Gets Hospital Employees to Release her Sexually Transmitted Diseases Medical History on Facebook

    In this blog’s series of “Thank goodness I’m celibate” and/or “Thank goodness I am single” posts, I present the following:

    (Link): Woman says medical staff posted her STD diagnosis on Facebook

      June 2014
      By Charlene Sakoda

      An unnamed Cincinnati woman has filed a lawsuit against the University of Cincinnati (UC) Medical Center alleging that their employees posted her private medical records, including her positive diagnosis for a sexually transmitted disease, on Facebook.

      Mike Allen, the woman’s attorney, spoke to WLWT News 5, “She was absolutely devastated.

      That is the most private of private medical information that was posted on Facebook and went out to a group on Facebook that had a huge dissemination.”

      A screenshot of the woman’s medical record with her personal information and syphilis diagnosis, was posted to a Facebook group called “Team No Hoes,” which has over 2,300 members. The court documents indicate that comments followed the post calling the woman a “’hoe’ and a ‘slut.’”

      The lawsuit names UC employee Ryan Rawls, another unnamed UC employee (believed to be a nurse), and the victim’s ex-boyfriend, Raphael Bradley. The station tried to get a comment from the named defendants but there was no answer at either home.

      Allen said that the woman’s ex-boyfriend convinced the UC employees to release the medical records, which was in violation of sate and federal laws. “To have that kind of information in the public domain when it is clearly legally to be protected, that’s a problem and that’s a problem that UC’s responsible for,” the attorney said.

      Continue reading “Woman’s Ex Boyfriend Gets Hospital Employees to Release her Sexually Transmitted Diseases Medical History on Facebook”

    Women Hating Sites / Men’s Rights Sites Such as Moronic “Save The Males”

    Women Hating Sites / Men’s Rights Sites Such as Moronic “Save The Males”

    In a previous post, a reader asked me to check out and comment on the site “Save the Males.”

    Here is in part how she described that site and some of the views on the site:

      [Writers on the Save the Males site are] …. always talking down to women about how their position is at home with a husband and baby and specially the last article telling women to snatch a husband while in college.

      This women is pushing the one sided idea that if a women wants to get married all she needs to do is snap her fingers and the guy will instantly agree to tie the knot, when the truth is far from this.

      I will say it again most college guys will laugh at your face say if are thinking about marriage. They are focused on their career and or partying and see women as casual hooks or someone to avoid.

    Here was my response to the reader that I was going to leave as a reply but decided to put into a post of its own:

    Nothing has changed. I was a college student in the 1990s, and it was the same in the 1990s as it is now with the 20 something males.

    By the way, you are not going to be in your 20s forever. You will turn 30, then eventually 40, and you will grow to deeply resent how the culture and churches fawn all over 20 somethings and cater to their every concern while ignoring yours.

    If you are a single woman past age 35, you rarely will get any articles, editorials, or advice about being single.

    Most preachers (and many secular authors) tailor all their singleness sermons, blogs, and books, and articles to a 20 something audience. People are very ageist in this regard.

    If you think being single is bad now, just wait until you reach age 35, 40, and older and are still single – it gets 100 times worse, in several regards. (In some ways, it gets a little better, but that is another topic for another time.)

    Also, it’s not just men in their 20s who are like what you were describing in your comments.

    A lot of older men, men ages 30, 40, and up, are also reluctant to marry.

    Continue reading “Women Hating Sites / Men’s Rights Sites Such as Moronic “Save The Males””

    Bachelor Juan Pablo: Every Awful Boyfriend You Ever Dated (by L Stampler)

    Bachelor Juan Pablo: Every Awful Boyfriend You Ever Dated

    (Link): Bachelor Juan Pablo: Every Awful Boyfriend You Ever Dated

    Excerpts:

      by L Stampler

      You two don’t speak the same language. No, not English. HUMAN COMPASSION.

      Someone almost got punched in the face at my Bachelor finale watch party last night. Unsurprisingly, it was the only man in attendance, who made it his mission to defend Juan Pablo’s bad action after bad action.

      It’s no secret that Juan Pablo secured the title as most reviled Bachelor in Bachelor history — even host Chris Harrison quipped, “not gonna lie, I’m okay moving on.” But it wasn’t just frustration at JP’s b.s. (and the eight bottles of wine the 10 of us consumed) that caused our group’s disproportionate outrage.

      In fact, what made watching Juan Pablo a cringeworthy experience — and made defending him so indefensible — was the fact that the Latin lothario was actually an amalgamation of all the worst men we ever dated. A putrid collage of character flaws, if you will.

      His eyes would go blank whenever you said anything of substance
      Sometimes followed by the conversation-propelling “I love it.” Huh?

      He said things like “It’s OK” and “It’s fine” at the WORST possible moments
      When someone brushes off a serious issue with something like “it’s not a big deal,” it becomes a big deal. Juan Pablo isn’t an 18-year-old who lacks social graces. At 32, he should know how to console a woman.

      He couldn’t stand being in the wrong
      When Clare tried to explain that she wanted an emotional as well as physical relationship, Juan Pablo immediately took the defensive by stating it was her fault he wanted to hook up with her because she at one point made and broke a no-kissing rule, “so don’t blame it on me.” (She wasn’t… she was just trying to have a conversation.) Juan Pablo is a victim of the “but I’m a good guy” complex.

      He was incapable of saying “I’m Sorry”
      Men, take note: Even if you think an action, in the words of Juan Pablo, “ees okay,” if it clearly hurt your girlfriend, just say sorry. Because, you are sorry she feels bad, right?

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    Related post, this blog:

    (Link): Article: Our Born-Again Virgin Bachelor – Secondary or Spiritual Virginity

    (Link): Christian Reality TV Show Star Talks About Waiting Until Marriage to Have Sex

    (Link): Celebrity Deems Herself A Born Again Virgin And Vows to Stay Celibate “For A Year” – Oh Puh-leaze

    (Link): Illustrated Blog About Lonely Bachelor Meals – Blog by Some Single Guy