I’ve noticed that in a lot of dating advice for Christian singles, we basically get blamed a lot for our singleness.
There are so many negative, insulting assumptions made about unmarried Christians in the process.
If you’re an unmarried Christian woman who desires marriage (assuming you don’t get the condescending, idiotic commentary that desiring marriage is tantamount to “idolizing” marriage which we sometimes do get from some Christian quarters), you will get all sorts of other derogatory remarks.
Being Attractive, Thin, or Wealthy Does Not Mean You Are Guaranteed To Get Dates or a Spouse
Many Christian blogs and books for singles (even for ones as young as 15, but even for adults past 30), whether written by males or females, assume if you’re a single woman who’s not married yet, it’s because you’re ugly or a “fatty” – or both.
You will be told you need to lose weight, wear make-up, and grow your hair out long if you want to get dates, and later, a spouse.
The “Just Grow Your Hair Long!” Cliche’
Supposedly, all men every where love, love, love and adore long hair, as in super long, past- the- shoulders- hair, a la Cher from the 1970s.
Such hair is impractical and a pain in the ass to care for.
(I’ve also seen Non-Christian single women complain about the “grow your hair long if you want to catch a man” advice from secular advice givers, so it’s not just Christian women who get this one.)
The world’s greatest sex symbol, who still tops lists and polls for “most sexy,” or “most beautiful,” even more than 40 years after her death, frequently wore her hair very short, even boyish at times – I am referring to American movie actress Marilyn Monroe.
Marilyn usually wore her hair short, or super short, and only wore it long for one movie role (in “River of No Return”), and maybe three, if you count two of her earliest films where she had bit parts.
Marilyn was married three times, twice when her hair was very short.
So obviously, men are not put off by short hair, and advice-givers can drop that supposed requirement from the list of traits a woman must have if she wants marriage.
Christian Authors, Bloggers Rudely Assume: ‘If You Are Still Single, You Must Be Fat or Ugly or Weird’
One of the things I find offensive is that these blog writers and book writers, even the Christian ones, are assuming you are ugly or fat, even though they have no clue what you look like.
They seem to miss the point that you can be a completely attractive and thin person and still have a hard time meeting a mate.
This brings me to my next point… or two. (Please click the “read more” link below to read the rest of the post)