‘How to Murder Your Husband’ Romance Novelist on Trial For Real-Life Murder of Her Husband Testifies About Money Troubles, Ghost Guns

‘How to Murder Your Husband’ Novelist on Trial For Real-Life Murder Testifies About Money Troubles, Ghost Guns

(Link): Oregon Romance Novelist Allegedly Killed Husband for $1M Insurance Policy: Prosecutors

April 2020

Nancy Crampton-Brophy is accused of murdering her husband, Dan Brophy

The Oregon romance novelist who is accused of killing her chef husband allegedly would have pocketed over $1.5 million in insurance money from his death, prosecutors allege.

(Link): Romance novelist who wrote ‘How to Murder Your Husband’ essay goes on trial for allegedly killing husband, prosecutors say wife thought she planned ‘the perfect murder’

April 2022
by Paul Sacca

An Oregon woman who wrote steamy romance novels is accused of murdering her husband. The trial began this week for Nancy Crampton Brophy – who once penned an essay about the pros and cons of murdering a spouse.

… Around 7:30 a.m. on June 2, 2018, chef Daniel Brophy was gunned down in the kitchen of the Oregon Culinary Institute, where he had taught cooking since 2006.

The cooking school had no security cameras, but prosecutors determined that Brophy was the only person inside the culinary institute at the time of the shooting. Around 8 a.m., Brophy’s body was discovered by his culinary students.

The Wrong Husband book cover
Screen cap from Brophy’s site of one of Brophy’s romance novels

…Traffic cameras show Crampton Brophy’s Toyota minivan approaching and departing from city streets near the institute close to the time of the shooting, prosecutors said.

A search of the couple’s computers revealed a bookmarked article titled “10 Ways to Cover Up a Murder” on a joint iTunes account, according to prosecutors.

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Man Dies of Heart Attack While Burying Girlfriend He Killed

Man Dies of Heart Attack While Burying Girlfriend He Killed

Poetic justice for the slime ball who murdered his girlfriend.

(Link): Man Dies Of Heart Attack While Burying Girlfriend He Strangled, Police Say

Joseph Anthony McKinnon appeared to have been nearly done filling the grave in his backyard when he collapsed, said deputies in Trenton, North Carolina. 

(Link): US Man Dies While Burying Woman He Strangled

May 11, 2022

An American man died of a “cardiac event” in his backyard in South Carolina while burying a woman he strangled, local authorities said.

Officials responded to reports of an unresponsive man in the town of Trenton and found 60-year-old Joseph McKinnon dead, Edgefield County Sheriff Jody Rowland and County Coroner David Burnett said in a statement carried by local media.

(Link): Man dies of heart attack while burying girlfriend he killed

By Louis Casiano, Fox News
May 11, 2022

A South Carolina man accused of strangling his girlfriend died of a heart attack while burying her in their yard in a twist of what some might call poetic justice, according to reports. 

Joseph McKinnon, 60, killed Patricia Dent, 65, inside a Trenton home Saturday, the Edgefield County Sheriff’s Office said. Deputies responded to the residence over reports of “an unresponsive male lying in his yard,” Sheriff Jody Rowland said in a news release. 

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British Couple Whose French B&B Dream Ended in Tragedy When Husband ‘Strangled His Wife in Murder-Suicide’ After They Ran Out of Money

British Couple Whose French B&B Dream Ended in Tragedy When Husband ‘Strangled His Wife in Murder-Suicide’ After They Ran Out of Money

The mind boggles – you run out of funds, so you off your spouse and yourself??? What???

Better to be single than married to a guy who thinks it’s acceptable to strangle you to death when your finances go down the drain.

(Link): British Couple Whose French B&B Dream Ended in Tragedy When Husband ‘Strangled His Wife in Murder-Suicide’ After They Ran Out of Money

by Nick Fagge
April 26, 2022

These are the first pictures of a British couple whose dream of opening a bed and breakfast in the foothills of the Pyrenees Mountains ended in tragedy when they ran out of money.

French investigators believe John Boyes, 64, strangled his wife Kathryn, 65, to death before hanging himself at their picturesque countryside home near Toulouse in the south of France which they had planned to open as a bed and breakfast.

The couple were found dead inside the property in Boudrac, a village with a population of around 130 people, on Sunday after concerned friends who had not heard from them in several days went to investigate.

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The Weird, Sexist World of Gary Thomas and His Weird Sex and Marital Advice Books to Christians

The Weird, Sexist World of Gary Thomas and His Weird Sex and Marital Advice Books to Christians

Several months ago, a lot of people on Twitter and Facebook – mainly married or divorced Christian women – were really angry with Christian author Gary Thomas, I think mainly for some new book he released last year about marriage that contained some really gross, sexist, or disturbing marital and sex advice.

To be honest, I was busy with other things in fall of 2021 when this stuff went down. I should’ve blogged about it then but didn’t have the time.

I wasn’t able to totally follow the controversy, so I am not sure how to write up a summary, but from what I could tell, Gary Thomas wrote a bunch of strange, bizarre, sexist stuff about women, wives, sex, and marriage – some of it involving advising married women to tickle their spouse’s testicles with their make-up brushes – ???? 🤨😯🤮

From what I do recall, after people online began posting screen shots of Thomas’ weird marital advice book around October of 2021, a lot of women then began taking Thomas to task for the book’s objectional contents by contacting him at his Twitter or Facebook accounts and letting him know how troubling his book is.

Along with screen shots or quotes from Gary Thomas’ new marriage book, some of the women may have also included screen shots of his previous, troubling work.

Below you will find a smorgasbord of material about Gary Thomas’ weird or sexist marital and sex advice, most of which will probably be from his recent marriage advice book, but some may be from other sources he’s written (I’m unsure about that).

I began putting this post together prior to reading the Sheila Wray Gregoire review of said book (which I have excerpted below), and wowza, this book is cringe. So cringe. It’s awkward.

I’m not even done reading the entire Gregoire review yet. I’ve only read down the first several sentences (where she summarizes from the book), and my eye brows are already raised in shock, when my facial expression is not registering horror.

Cringey Christian Advice (Link): @cringeyxtian on Twitter was once source of Gary Thomas material you may want to visit.

Apparently, Thomas is rather fixated on women’s breasts or breast size, as he discussed this topic in his marital advice books.

I’ve not read his books, does he tell any male readers of his book that huge penis size matters to a lot of women? Because according to studies, it does:

(Link): Article: Scientists: Why penis size does matter [to women]

Also pertinent:

(Link):  Bride Discovers New Husband Has Micropenis On Honeymoon After He Refused to Have Sex Before Marriage

The more cringey, sexist, awful martial and sex advice I see from Christian writers such as Doug Wilson, John MacArthur, Mark Driscoll, Gary Thomas, and guys like them, and the more exposes I see about churches who harass their abused, married women members to stay married to child abusers and stay married to pedophiles, the more I am happy I remained single and celibate into middle-age. It looks like I dodged a bullet. Marriage is not worth this misery.

This is a review about Gary Thomas’ marital advice book:

(Link): The Fragile Male Ego That Can’t Function Without Constant Sexual Validation by S. Ashley

By that same author, but hosted on Medium:

(Link): “But Have You Tried Sleeping Naked?”

by Shannon Ashley
Oct 2021

Writers like Gary Thomas keep banking on men’s sexual satisfaction to save evangelical marriages.

…For decades, most mainstream Christian self-help books have taught sex in a way that harms the end goal of healthy marriages. Instead, authors have relied on faulty principles and pseudoscience like pink and blue brains or good Christian men cheat when their frigid, dowdy wives drive them to it.

…To make matters worse, Gary convolutes the messages he’s plagiarized. Although he uses ideas and phrasing from The Great Sex Rescue, he also undercuts them by utilizing the same old faulty Christian teachings in question

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‘Jealous Tinder Date’ Allegedly Killed Victim After Putting Tracking Device on Her Bike

‘Jealous Tinder Date’ Allegedly Killed Victim After Putting Tracking Device on Her Bike

(Link): Massachusetts woman, 21, is stabbed to death by stalker who attached GPS tracker to her BIKE while she studied in the Netherlands: Suspect ‘met victim on Tinder but grew jealous when she reconciled with ex’

March 10, 2022

A Massachusetts woman who was studying in the Netherlands was fatally stabbed by a stalker she met on Tinder who grew jealous and tracked her bike when she reconciled with her ex-boyfriend, it is claimed.

Mieke Oort, 21, of Winchester, was allegedly attacked by the suspect – named only as Thomas R, 27, of Leek – inside her apartment above a tattoo shop in Leeuwarden on Sunday morning.

…Oort met Thomas R on Tinder and he reportedly became violent and started stalking Oort after she got back together with Michael. Thomas harassed the young woman via WhatsApp, drove up and down her street, and even put a GPS tracking device on her bike, van der Waal told local news sources.

(Link): ‘Jealous Tinder Date’ Allegedly Killed Victim After Putting Tracking Device on Her Bike

March 9, 2022
By Yaron Steinbuch

A 21-year-old Massachusetts woman was fatally stabbed by a Tinder date-turned-stalker in the Netherlands — after he placed a GPS device on her bike when she rekindled her romance with an ex-boyfriend.

Mieke Oort, who was studying at the NHL Stenden University of Applied Sciences, was killed Sunday morning in her apartment in Leeuwarden, a city about 85 miles north of Amsterdam, WCVB reported.

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How Ukrainian Women Will Suffer by Julie Bindel

How Ukrainian Women Will Suffer by Julie Bindel

(Link): How Ukrainian Women Will Suffer by Julie Bindel

Excerpts:

It’s not just Russian men waiting to exploit them

by Julie Bindel
March 8, 2022

Suddenly, images of Ukrainian women are all over the internet. Most of them are mothers, fleeing Russian convoys, carrying their children across borders.

Many of them are leaving husbands and brothers behind to fight.

But these heart-wrenching photographs, published by the mainstream media, are only part of the story. Ukrainian women will suffer in myriad ways before this war is over.

Pornhub has a new category: “Ukrainian girls and war rape videos”; it is dominated by Russian soldiers documenting disgustingly brutal crimes.

Domestic violence and street harassment have already spiked.

Female refugees are falling victim to pimps and traffickers; official channels — the police, hospitals, legal systems — won’t help them.

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Man Slept With Wife’s Dead Body For Days After Killing Her

Man Slept With Wife’s Dead Body For Days After Killing Her

Not so sure that excessively pro-marriage guys or groups such as Al Mohler or Brad Wilcox or Focus On the Family are correct that marriage makes people more mature, loving, ethical, and godly. Marriage didn’t do anything to improve this guy…

And hey, this is a May-December relationship. The killer guy is 47, the wife he killed was age 64.

(Link): Man jailed for murdering wife and sleeping with her body in bed for a week

Police acted on a tip off and found Jeff Charles Sherwood, 47, with his wife Susan Klepsch’s body in their bed at their home in Michigan, US, as he initially claimed they made a suicide pact

A man who was accused of killing his wife and sleeping with her corpse for a week has been been found guilty of her murder.

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These Chains That Have No Name: Interview with Trans Widows Voices – Pro- Trans- Groups Use DARVO and other Narcissistic Manipulative Tactics on Trans Widows

These Chains That Have No Name: Interview with Trans Widows Voices – Pro- Trans- Groups Use DARVO and other Narcissistic Manipulative Tactics on Trans Widows

Can you imagine, you’re a woman married to a man, and after so many years of marriage, your husband informs you one day that he wants to identify as a woman? Lord. There are times I am glad I never married. Seeing stuff like this is one of those times.

(Link): These Chains That Have No Name: Interview with Trans Widows Voices

Excerpts:

March 2021
By Donovan Cleckley

Trans Widows Voices is a website that works to support the former partners of males who have socially and medically transitioned, and to amplify the voices of women, those who are most forgotten in the narratives of men’s heroic journeys to conquer ‘womanhood’ as theirs.

Under the “Our Voices” heading of the site, we see a selection of stories from women. Despite charges that these women make their male partners into monsters, these narratives show us new dimensions in the subjection of women.

Most relationships in these cases involve married heterosexual males, many of whom have fathered children, ‘coming out’ as ‘women’ after many years of crossdressing behind closed doors. “It is their wives who suffer,” Andrea Dworkin wrote in a review of Amy Bloom’s book Normal in 2003.

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Pastor Sentenced to 23 Years in Prison for Brutal Murder of Estranged Wife

Pastor Sentenced to 23 Years in Prison for Brutal Murder of Estranged Wife

So, does the conservative Christian and conservative secular pro-marriage, pro-Nuclear Family propaganda I heard growing up – that marriage makes people more mature and godly, and society better – ring true, in light of all the news stories I am forever seeing of married people who beat and murder one another, or who are involved in skeezy, disgusting, swinging or polyamorous relationships? (No, no it does not.)

A lot of Christian dating advice I recall being exposed to in the 1980s and 1990s assured me that so long as I remained chaste, godly, and faithful, that in due time, God would send me “Mr. Right.”

Well, I lived a godly, chaste, and faithful life, but I remain someone who never did get married into my 50s.
The flip side of this was the Christian material that suggested that if you were NOT married by age 25 or 30 or so, it must be that God is not allowing you to meet your Mr. Right (or your Miss Right, if you’re a guy) because you’re obviously failing in some way – you’re living in sin, or whatever.

Then you see these news stories about married people (some of whom are professing Christians) who produce child porn, or who rape kids, or who murder their spouses, and you realize, if God did not withhold a spouse from those scuzz buckets, there’s obviously not some heavenly litmus test you have to meet to “merit” a spouse from God.

(Link): Pastor sentenced to 23 years in prison for brutal murder of estranged wife

By Anugrah Kumar, Christian Post Contributor

A New York pastor who ran over his estranged wife with her car and then repeatedly attacked her with a machete in front of her grandchildren has been sentenced to 23 years in prison.

The pastor, 65-year-old Victor Mateo, who led Christian Congregation The Redemptor, Inc. in the Bronx, “not only took the life of a Bronx grandmother but also inflicted a possible lifetime of trauma to her grandchildren who were witnesses to this horrific crime,” Bronx District Attorney Darcel Clark said as Judge Margaret Clancy of Bronx Supreme Court sentenced him to 23 years in prison and five years of post-release supervision, according to the prosecutors.

Last November, Mateo pleaded guilty before the court to one count of first-degree manslaughter for killing his estranged wife, Noelia, 58, who was found unconscious with multiple lacerations to her body on Oct. 3, 2019.

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What Should Christian Singles Know about Online Dating? by S. Bricker

What Should Christian Singles Know about Online Dating? by S. Bricker

As far as Christian dating advice goes, this (article below) isn’t all bad, but it’s pretty pedestrian stuff. If you’re an adult who’s been on the internet for a few years, there’s nothing ground-breaking here.

You really should already know all of the information it contains.

I have more to say about parts of this dating advice article further below:

(Link): What Should Christian Singles Know about Online Dating? by S. Bricker

Excerpts:

According to Pew Research, 12% of married couples in America found their spouse through online dating. While this percentage is not large, online dating has grown in recent years.

People can now easily browse and find compatible relationship matches with only a few clicks or swipes.

Many single Christians find the prospect of online dating appealing as a quick and effective way of finding potential marriage partners, especially when other avenues of finding a compatible match have been exhausted.

Despite the effortless quality of online dating websites and apps, Christian singles need to know that there is more to online dating than what people commonly assume.

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Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs Abusers for The Audacious Life podcast

Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs Abusers for The Audacious Life podcast

The first half to two thirds of this video of what the speakers describe, how they describe the typical views of abusive men, is reminiscent of some Christian Gender Complementarians and their views, and what some complementarian adherents believe.

Especially if you are a Christian single woman who’s wanting to marry AND in particular you were raised by Christian parents or in a church that taught traditional gender roles (perhaps under the phrase or label of “gender complementarianism“) please pay special attention to the video below.

Under “gender complementarian” teachings (and just mainstream, evangelical or Baptist and Christian dating advice), Christian women have been taught to accept all sorts of toxic teachings and to accept on-going mistreatment from a spouse (and from other people in their lives).

Chances are good that if you’re a single Christian woman who was brought up to believe in gender complementarian teachings that you were heavily encouraged to adopt people pleasing or codependent behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes, which will make you attractive to abusers and people with personality disorders (many of whom can be abusive).

Additionally, if you do marry an abusive person (whether he is emotionally, sexually, verbally, or physically abusive) the majority of Christian churches and denominations teach women that divorce is not an option, not even in cases of abuse.

You (if you’re an abused wife asking a Christian for advice or help in regards to your marriage) will usually be told just to “submit more,” give your spouse more sex, and to pray about it – but none of those methods will change your spouse or cause him to stop abusing you.

There is nothing you can say or do that will get your husband to stop abusing you – (Link): nor is it your responsibility to try to fix or change your spouse in the first place.

You have to go into a marriage to a self professing Christian man knowing before-hand  that if your spouse turns abusive, that you must eventually divorce the guy, and you most likely won’t get any help or encouragement in that area from your church, church group, church friends, or pastor.

Most churches and pastors will shame, pressure, and guilt trip an abused wife to stay in the abusive marriage at all costs, because they value the institution of marriage above the safety and mental health of the abused wife.

If you’re a Christian woman in an abusive marriage, your church, church friends, and your preacher will never, ever give you permission to divorce – but you don’t need their permission or approval – you just need your own. It’s your life, not theirs.

(Link – to video on You Tube): Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs Abusers for The Audacious Life podcast

Excerpts, video description (from text below the video on the You Tube page):

I’m happy to interview Lundy Bancroft, author, and expert on male abuse behaviors and tactics.

Lundy has 30 years experience working in the field of abuse. His book “Why Does He Do That” is a one of the first I read and it helped tremendously.

Lundy is a lifelong advocate for the safety of women and children and it shines through in his books. You may be wondering whether you’re in a relationship with a Narcissist or an Abuser or someone who’s both.

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Tracy Smith’s – @mythreesonsb – Public Squabbling Involves Misrepresenting Anyone Who Knows Julie Anne (of SSB Blog) Online

Tracy Smith’s – @mythreesonsb – Public Squabbling Involves Misrepresenting Anyone Who Knows Julie Anne (of SSB Blog) Online

Okay, so Julie Anne, of SSB Blog publicly let people know she and her husband divorced months ago. She wrote a few blog posts about it, if I recall correctly.

I don’t remember all the ins and outs of it.

A few weeks ago, I saw a tweet by a guy debating about domestic violence in regards to emotional abuse, and some lady I never heard of before was saying some pretty unfounded, very ignorant comments about emotional / verbal abuse, so I left her two politely-worded tweets in response, where I explained to her what emotional abuse is.

(This lady I replied to at that time, Tracy Smith, seemed to be saying that some married women, or women in any abusive relationships, lie or exaggerate about the issue.)

I just found out that this Tracy Smith person blocked me on Twitter at some point in the last few weeks, even though I previously had no idea who she is, and I only sent her two civil tweets (and those tweets were sent before I knew she was in some kind of feud in Julie Anne, or even who she is).blockedTracySmith2021

I was verbally abused by family members growing up, so I’m educated on the topic – not just by way of first hand experience, but I’ve done a lot of reading about the topic the last few years.

I at first assumed that Tracy Smith was another Lori Alexander (“The Transformed Wife” blogger), one of those “wife and mommy bloggers,” who just sits around defending Christian patriarchy on social media.

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