The Media Should Stop Ignoring When Sexual Misconduct Perpetrators Are Married

The Media Should Stop Ignoring When Sexual Misconduct Perpetrators Are Married

Yes, and conservative Christians should stop ignoring that some adulterers and sexual perverts are MARRIED, and they are cheating on their spouses, in some cases, with OTHER MARRIED PEOPLE.

Why do I feel Christians should stop ignoring this?

Because most Christians continue to stigmatize single adults – especially single women – because they feel that single adults present a threat to married people. They believe that all single women want to strike up affairs with married men, that all unmarried individuals are horn-dogs who have sex with 54 different people per week.

(Link): The Media Should Stop Ignoring When Sexual Misconduct Perpetrators Are Married

Excerpts:

by Timothy P. Carney
June 14, 2018

There’s a new detailed account of how New York Times reporter Glenn Thrush repeatedly would fondle or kiss journalistic colleagues after hours, or take home inebriated women. But you have to read about 3,000 words to learn one detail: He’s married.

Even then, that fact is mentioned only once, in passing, in a quote. And the lack of care for that fact is the norm. A separate Vanity Fairstory on Thrush this week is 1,300 words and it never mentions his marital status.

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Woman Chops Off Her Ex-Husband’s Penis With a Kitchen Knife After He Turned Up At Her Home and “Demanded Sex”

Woman Chops Off Her Ex-Husband’s Penis With a Kitchen Knife After He Turned Up At Her Home and “Demanded Sex”

(Link):  Woman Chops Off Her Ex-Husband’s Penis With a Kitchen Knife After He Turned Up At Her Home and “Demanded Sex”

Lira Plaksina said her ex-husband arrived at her home drunk and demanding sex

The 47-year-old told a court he had attacker her at the house in Tatarstan, Russia

But judge found she severed the man’s penis as he was lying asleep on the sofa

Brit Arrested For Kicking His Thai Wife to death After She Spurned His Advances

Brit Arrested For Kicking His Thai Wife to death After She Spurned His Advances

Obviously, the murder is horrific – but I also note that the husband is 51 years old, the wife was 29. Here is what I’ve said before about such  (Link): May December relationships?

Any way, if you’re a single woman like me who had wanted to marry, but still find yourself single, such news stories show that being married in and of itself is not a great thing if your husband is an abusive loser, like this guy in this article.

Let this also go to show (yet again) that marriage does not make people more godly, mature, or responsible, as so many Marriage-Idolating, Anti-Singles Christians and conservative think tanks like to argue.

(Link): Brit Arrested For Kicking His Thai Wife to death After She Spurned His Advances

April 2018

A British man has been arrested in Thailand for allegedly kicking his wife to death after she refused to have sex with him.

Kevin Smitham, 51, had been staying with wife Kanda Smitham, 29, and their parents in Ubon Ratchathani, Thailand, during the Songkran new year holiday.

But he is said to have flown into a drunken jealous rage — accusing his wife of cheating on him when she refused to have sex on Sunday evening.

Married Youth Pastor Arrested for Child Sodomy – How About that Equally Yoked Rule?

Married Youth Pastor Arrested for Child Sodomy – How About that Equally Yoked Rule?

This guy’s Twitter bio reads (link to his Twitter):

Acton Bowen
@actonbowen
Believer • Husband • Son • Brother • Uncle • Friend • Speaker • Pastor • Author • Mentor • Visionary • Traveler •@JuceTV_Network Co-Host • UGA Fan

[Location]: Alabama
[Bowen’s site]: actonbowen.com

// end bio //

Yes, note that he’s a self-professing (Christian) believer, but he’s also a “husband” and a pastor. What was I (Link): just saying in a post earlier this evening about the Christian Equally Yoked rule in regards to marriage?

What’s also interesting is that Bowen’s Twitter bio says he’s a “co-host” of JUCE TV, which is a Christian network owned by the Crouch’s TBN, which is Christian programming aimed at teens.

You may want to read the comments (Link): here, that people left below one of Bowen’s tweets.

(Link): Alabama evangelist Acton Bowen jailed in Hoover on child sex charges involving young boy

by Carol Robinson

Acton Bowen was arrested in Hoover on April 10, 2018. Hoover Police
A well-known Alabama evangelist, public speaker and author was arrested in Hoover Tuesday on child sex charges.

Paul Edward Acton Bowen, a 37-year-old Gadsden native who now lives in Etowah County’s Southside community, was taken into custody by Hoover police about 12:35 p.m.

The founder of Acton Bowen Outreach Ministries is charged with second-degree sodomy, enticing a child to enter a vehicle or house for immoral purposes, and second-degree sex abuse.

Father, Son of Texas Baptist Church Both Arrested for Raping Teens, Sexual Assault of Children – So Much for Marriage Making People More Mature and Godly

Father, Son of Texas Baptist Church Both Arrested for Raping Teens, Sexual Assault of Children – So Much for Marriage Making People More Mature and Godly

But I thought that the nuclear family was supposed to erase all sin, including rape and child abuse, and that Male Headship under Complementarianism and Parenthood and Marriage made people more godly, loving, and ethical, as some Christians teach?

Here we have an another example where none of that is true (my Twitter friend ymmarta passed this along to me):

(Link): Father, Son of Texas Baptist Church Both Arrested for Raping Teens, Sexual Assault of Children

And why should any single Christian woman who desires marriage bother sticking to the “Equally Yoked” rule when so many Christian men – even ones who work in and for churches!! – are perverts? It makes no sense.

And why do so many Christians keep telling singles who desire marriage that they won’t get a spouse until they become more spiritual, more mature, more holy, or more “whatever?” If God permitted these teen-raping perverts to have a spouse, why not a law-abiding single adult?

After Threatening Suicide, Pastor Ronnie Gorton (Married to a Woman and a Father) Indicted on 47 Charges of Sexually Assaulting Boys

After Threatening Suicide, Pastor Ronnie Gorton (Married to a Woman and a Father) Indicted on 47 Charges of Sexually Assaulting Boys – Ditch the Equally Yoked Teaching, Christian Single Women!

I believe the article, which is linked to much farther below in this post, says that this child- raping pastor is married to a woman, and he and the woman have two or three of their own children.

Once more, contrary to what many to most conservative Christians and conservative think tanks teach, marriage does not make people more godly, loving, or mature. Being married to a woman did not stop this guy in this article from sexually assaulting boys.

Once more, the “equally yoked” teaching as applied to dating and marriage is detrimental and irrelevant: if you are a single Christian woman, you need to get past this mindset of “I can only date or marry another Christian” because many Christian men will abuse you, or they turn out to be perverts.

Volleyball Coach Raped Six Girls ‘Hundreds’ of Times While Wife Bullied Victims, Lawsuit Claims

Volleyball Coach Raped Six Girls ‘Hundreds’ of Times While Wife Bullied Victims, Lawsuit Claims

The “most powerful coach in youth volleyball” assaulted some victims multiple times while his wife threatened victims through their volleyball club, the suit claims. 

I first saw this headline by way of Amy Smith’s (Watchkeep’s) Twitter feed.

As I told Amy below her Tweet about this article:

Not only is this guy a deviant sicko, but he’s a MARRIED deviant sicko whose wife enabled this & victimized the victims? And Christian guys like #AlMohler & #BradfordWilcox keep saying marriage makes people more godly, ethical, responsible, etc

Marriage does not make anyone more godly, loving, ethical. You either have character and morals, or you do not.

Wearing a gold band on one’s finger, standing in front of a judge or preacher and reciting wedding vows, does not magically instill good character into a person.

(Link): Volleyball Coach Raped Six Girls ‘Hundreds’ of Times While Wife Bullied Victims, Lawsuit Claims

Excerpts:

The “most powerful coach in youth volleyball” assaulted some victims multiple times while his wife threatened victims through their volleyball club, the suit claims.

article by Olivia Messer

“Because I can.”

When one of Rick Butler’s young victims first asked why he was assaulting her, that was his answer, according to a new bombshell class-action lawsuit filed against the coach.

…Butler was for years considered “most powerful coach in youth volleyball,” according to the 72-page complaint, which alleges that he used his position to rape at least six underage girls “hundreds” of times.

Wife Chops Off Husband’s Penis and Testicles and Flushes Them Down Toilet

Wife Chops Off Husband’s Penis and Testicles and Flushes Them Down Toilet

(Link): Wife Chops Off Husband’s Penis and Testicles and Flushes Them Down Toilet

Feb 21, 2018

A woman in India allegedly chopped off her husband’s penis and testicles after accusing him of cheating on her.

Substitute teacher, 40, who had sex with teen boy student while her husband and children were upstairs is jailed again

Substitute teacher, 40, who had sex with teen boy student while her husband and children were upstairs is jailed again

As you can see, there’s nothing about marriage and parenthood that makes a person more mature, godly, loving, or ethical.

Christians and conservative think tanks often like to promote this garbage – that marriage and parenthood makes people better. Being married and having kids did not stop this 40 year old woman from having sexual involvement with multiple teen students.

(Link): Substitute teacher, 40, who had sex with teen boy student while her husband and children were upstairs is jailed again

Excerpts:

by M. Fish

A former Indiana substitute teacher, who admitted to having sex with a 17-year-old student at her home while her husband and children were upstairs, has been jailed again after she was accused of violating her probation for a second time.

Married Preacher and Father of Four Uses Depression as Excuse or Diversion For Extra-Marital Affair He’s Having

Married Preacher and Father of Four Uses Depression as Excuse or Diversion For Extra-Marital Affair He’s Having

This married guy, Greg Locke, works as a preacher. He has four kids with one wife. This article says he started having an affair with another woman and since he was found out, he’s been saying he has anxiety and depression.

I’ve not been able to ascertain if he’s saying the mental health conditions caused him to have the affair on his wife, or if he’s bringing it up now as a diversion, to get people to focus on the depression rather than the affair.

I used to have anxiety and depression too, and I can assure any reader of this blog post, that anxiety and depression does not cause one to sexually sin.

Sexual sin is a choice a person makes, it’s not something that inevitably happens to someone with anxiety or depression. It’s a choice, not an outcome of having depression or anxiety.

Let this story serve as a reminder that God does not demand perfection of a person before he sends them a spouse, and that married people are not more mature, godly, or ethical than single adults, which Christians and secular conservative think tanks often insist.

Do I have to even mention “equally yoked” at this point in time? You’re better off marrying a Non-Christian guy who isn’t going to cheat on you and blame it on anxiety and depression than marry a self professing Christian guy who will do that.

These Christian idiot husbands make pagans, Wiccans, Hindus, and New Agers look like better spouse material all the time.

(Link): Pastor Greg Locke Reportedly Separates From Wife, Reveals He Struggles With Depression, Anxiety

by L. Blair

Jan 2018

Popular and outspoken internet preacher and lead pastor of Global Vision Bible Church in Tennessee Greg Locke has allegedly separated from his wife over mental illness and is reportedly courting another woman.

A (Link): Pulpit & Pen report said Locke, who shot to internet fame after he (Link): posted a video on Facebook on April 22, 2016, criticizing Target for its new policies on gender-neutral bathrooms, “literally put his wife, (Link): Melissa, on a bus and sent her away.”

The couple have four children, including two who were adopted.

A Married, Pro- Family Values, Conservative Judge and Southern Baptist, Paul Pressler, Allegedly Raped, Molested Teen Boy for Years

The following content appears on the page:

Pressler is a leader in the “conservative resurgence” in the Southern Baptist Convention, which seeks to push back against perceived liberal influence in the Baptist church.

A-ha.

I’m not a liberal (I’m a conservative), but do I ever get disgusted by this sort of thing, where someone who is right wing, or who is a Baptist, or other type of Christian, who beats up on liberals for lacking “Family Values,” later turns out to be a huge, hypocritical pervert or sexist himself, angers and annoys me.

I had to go to the cached version of this web page, because the normal, live site is not pulling up the page:

(Link):  Former Texas state judge and lawmaker Paul Pressler has been hit with a lawsuit that alleges he molested a man over the course of 35 years.

Excerpts:

Pressler, a former justice on the 14th Court of Appeals, who served in the Texas House from 1957 to 1959, vehemently denied the allegations by Gareld Duane Rollins, who claims that Pressler began molesting him in 1979, when he was 14, through the year 2014.

Christian School Teacher, Father of 2 Charged With 140 Counts of Sexual Abuse

Christian School Teacher, Father of 2 Charged With 140 Counts of Sexual Abuse

A lot of Christian defense for marriage I’ve heard and seen over my life time consists of this notion that marriage (and parenthood) are necessary to make a person more mature, godly, responsible, and loving.

Adult singleness is assumed to be, or taught by, many social conservatives and Christians to be a  horrible suspended state of immaturity.

I’ve yet to see any of the Christians and conservatives who espouse these views  about singleness and marriage (such as Bradford Wilcox or Al Mohler) explain all these examples I have on my blog (like the one below) of married people and/or parents who engage in immoral acts.

Also note how irrelevant the Christian “Equally Yoked” rule becomes – all these supposed Christian men turn out to be child molesters and rapists.

(Link): Christian School Teacher, Father of 2 Charged With 140 Counts of Sexual Abuse

A fifth grade teacher and father of two who was recently fired from the Sioux Center Christian School in Iowa has been charged with 140 counts of sexual abuse involving multiple children, all under the age of 14.

The teacher, Curtis Van Dam, 35, was arrested last Wednesday, according to a KSFY report. His crimes allegedly occurred between 2013 and last month when he was exposed. Now, the entire Sioux Center community is reeling in shock.

(Link): Christian School Teacher, Father of 2 Charged With 140 Counts of Sexual Abuse

A quick glance at Curtis Van Dam’s Facebook page shows pictures of what appears to be a loving father of two—a family man who works hard teaching elementary school children at Sioux Center Christian School in Iowa.

A “God-fearing” man who now stands accused of raping or sexually assaulting multiple children dating back as far as 2013.

Woman Admitted She Helped Her Husband Rape Two Children

Woman Admitted She Helped Her Husband Rape Two Children

Contrary to my fellow conservatives, marriage (or parenthood) do not necessarily make people more godly, mature, ethical, responsible or loving. Yet another example listed below. A very disgusting example.

Also note: contra Christian teachings, if you are single, God is not waiting on you to become more godly, more perfect, more spiritual, more loving, or more “whatever,” before he’ll permit you to have a spouse. If this teaching were true, we’d not see perverts like the one in the story below getting married.

(Link): Woman Admitted She Helped Her Husband Rape Two Children

A woman in Pennsylvania admitted she helped her husband rape two children. According to People, 31-year-old Holly Greiner was sentenced for her crimes.

In 2015, Holly and her husband, 29-year-old Robert Phillip Greiner, were arrested after a 10-year-old boy told West Manheim Township police what happened.

The child said he and a 5-year-old girl were sexually abused by the Pennsylvania couple over a six-month period.

Married School Teacher Sentenced to Prison For Watching Live Stream of Six Year Old Boy Being Raped

Married School Teacher Sentenced to Prison For Watching Live Stream of Six Year Old Boy Being Raped

(The link to the news article about the pervert is way below my commentary)

I can see that being married did not make this school teacher ethical, moral, or more godly.

I happen to be a conservative. However.

If I see one more op/ed by a Christian pastor or from a conservative think tank whose authors – such as a (Link): Bradford Wilcox – make flimsy arguments on behalf of marriage on grounds such as, marriage supposedly makes people more loving, mature, or responsible, I will punch a hole in the wall.

There is no truth in the claim that marriage makes people better or more productive members of society, or that married persons are superior in any way to single adults.

The Bible itself, as seen in 1 Cor 7, highly esteems singleness. Jesus Christ and Paul were single. The Bible no where says marriage is necessary for godliness, maturity, sanctification, etc.

Over the last three weeks, I have seen many, many news items about married people or parents who were arrested for killing their children, abusing their spouses, or for selling their own kids into sex trafficking, and other terrible things.

More Than Half of Cheating Women Blame Their Infidelity on Husband’s Being “Stingy”

More Than Half of Cheating Women Blame Their Infidelity on Husband’s Being “Stingy”

This is from a UK paper, so I assume it’s about UK women, so I’m unsure how applicable this is to women outside of the UK

(Link): More Than Half of Cheating Women Blame Their Infidelity on Husband’s Being “Stingy”

Excerpts:

Does your husband think flowers are a waste of money or coincidentally ‘forget’ his wallet when you go out for a meal?

Chances are you’ve got a stingy spouse on your hands but you’re not alone because according to an extra-marital affairs website, 74 per cent of women think that their partners are too tight-fisted.

…The survey, which quizzed more than 5,000 women, found that a lack of presents, flowers, holidays and trips to fancy restaurants led them to feel as though their partner’s were ungenerous with 56 per cent saying they had had arguments about it.

Twisted Dad Allegedly Killed Son Who Found His ‘Disgusting’ Fetish Photos

Twisted Dad Allegedly Killed Son Who Found His ‘Disgusting’ Fetish Photos

Christians and conservative think tanks really need to stop promoting this idea that parenthood or marriage are necessary to make a person mature, loving, or godly, or that either one can “fix” culture.

I’m a conservative, but I realize it’s un-biblical and wrong for other conservatives to keep hyping parenthood and marriage as they do.

Here’s another example where parenthood and marriage did not make a person loving, godly, responsible, or mature:

(Link): Son Murdered for Taunting Diaper-Wearing Dad, Prosecutors Say

(Link): Father ‘killed his son, 13, after the boy found and mocked compromising photos of him eating feces from a diaper he was wearing and posing in women’s clothes with makeup on’

In 2015, the teenager’s skull was found just 1.5 miles away from his dad’s home

(Link): Twisted Dad Allegedly Killed Son Who Found His ‘Disgusting’ Fetish Photos

By Lia Eustachewich
July 26, 2017

A twisted Colorado father was driven to allegedly murder his son when the teen discovered “disgusting” photos of the deviant dad eating feces from a diaper while dressed in women’s clothes, according to reports.

Mark Redwine allegedly flew into a rage when his 13-year-old son, Dylan, and his older brother Cory unearthed the embarrassing snaps, ABC 7 in Denver reported.

Newly Married Couple Arrested for Kidnapping, Beating, and Raping Woman (Marriage Does Not Make People More Mature or Loving)

Newly Married Couple Arrested for Kidnapping, Beating, and Raping Woman (Marriage Does Not Make People More Mature or Loving)

There’s this view among a lot of conservative Christians and secular conservatives that marriage is a necessary component to make a person mature and repsponsible – and Christians like to argue marriage is necessary to “sanctify” a person (though the Bible does not teach this but esteems singleness).

They promote these views in part because they have a wrong view that marriage is necessary to “clean up” culture. They have no faith in the Gospel of Jesus Christ to transform people, so they rely on things such as marriage, traditional gender roles, natalism, or the nuclear family to “fix” society, though the New Testament doesn’t seem too concerned with anyone’s culture being fixed.

A culture being fixed would be a by-product of individuals within said culture accepting Christ as Savior and being transformed by the Holy Spirit.

It does not necessarily follow that a “fixed” culture – one made of people who accept Christ – would all be married. It would be theoretically possible for such a “fixed” society to be entirely comprised of born-again single adults.

As you can see here, being married did not make these two adults who kidnapped and raped a woman godly, mature, responsible, loving, or ethical:

(Link): Honeymooners Arrested for Kidnapping and Raping Woman

Excerpts:

by A Woods
July 2017

A callous couple on honeymoon in Florida kidnapped and raped a woman before strolling stark naked into two stores, according to a report.

The 27-year-old victim had just finished grocery shopping at a Publix store in Miami on July 9 …

….Horsley began choking the woman while Lowe punched her in the face, the station reported.

Woman Says She is Lonely in Marriage to Husband Who Ignores Her in Favor of His Job, Watching TV, etc.

Woman Says She is Lonely in Marriage to Husband Who Ignores Her in Favor of His Job, Watching TV, etc.

A woman named San wrote to Christian program “The 700 Club” to say she’s in a marriage where her husband is ignoring her in favor of TV shows and his job and so forth. Pat Robertson’s son Gordon answered her letter.

Here is her letter to The 700 Club:

I have been very lonely in my marriage.

My husband’s priorities fall in this order: work, television, and then his phone. I have brought it to his attention so many times. I find myself only relying on God and Him being my true friend but I am still lonely.

Yes, I have God to turn to and I talk to God all day, every day, but it would be nice to have a husband in my life who I can truly share my life with. What should I do?

[signed] San

I didn’t completely agree with the host’s answer.

Cops: Woman Arrested for Beating Husband With Cross

Cops: Woman Arrested for Beating Husband With Cross

Like the time the woman stabbed her husband with a ceramic squirrel.

Via The Smoking Gun:

(Link): Woman, 49, Arrested For Clobbering Hubby In The Head With A Glass Cross

A woman swinging a cross repeatedly struck her husband in the head with the religious item, according to cops who arrested the alleged assailant on a felony domestic battery charge.

Cops say Tina Abrams, 49, attacked her spouse early Friday morning after he returned to the couple’s St. Petersburg, Florida residence.

As her husband was washing up in the bathroom, Abrams announced that she was “through with this shit!” and (Link): “grabbed a glass cross from the living room.” Abrams then began to “repeatedly strike” the victim, who suffered abrasions to his right temple and the upper left side of his head.

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(Link): Woman Stabs Husband with Ceramic Squirrel For Not Buying Beer (another time I’m glad I’ve never married)

Man with HIV Charged with Murder After Girlfriend Dies of AIDS

Man with HIV Charged with Murder After Girlfriend Dies of AIDS

American culture inside and outside the church glorifies sex and ridicules celibates, but it looks to me there are sometimes advantages to being celibate, such as…

(Link): Man with HIV Charged with Murder After Girlfriend Dies of AIDS

by AP, June 7, 2017

A married man accused of not telling his longtime girlfriend that he was HIV-positive was charged with murder after the woman died of AIDS.