Sex and the Suburbs: How to Know If Your Neighbor is a Swinger

Sex and the Suburbs: How to Know If Your Neighbor is a Swinger

This is one of the dumbest articles I’ve ever read.

Who’s to say that a plastic flamingo is always a sign that someone is a swinger? Maybe a plastic flamingo is just a plastic flamingo.

flamingoYardThe article also claims that other items are signs that someone is a swinger, including pineapple imagery and garden gnomes. So stupid.

The article also claims that a woman wearing an anklet or toe ring may be a swinger – what a bunch of horseshit! I’m a celibate woman who has worn anklets or toe rings in summer at times (when I’m in sandals).

Just because someone is wearing a toe ring, black ring, anklet, has a plastic flamingo or a garden gnome or two in their yard, or a pineapple image on their property (upside down or no), doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a “swinger,” give me a break!

(Link): Sex and the suburbs: How to know if your neighbor is a swinger

June 8, 2022
By Andrew Court

Do you have naughty neighbors?

Swinging is reported to be on the rise, with as many as 15 million Americans habitually swapping partners to spice up their sex lives.

And research has revealed swingers in the US are “mostly white, middle-aged and middle income,” meaning there’s no shortage of stimulated suburbanites secretly getting down and dirty behind the white picket fence.

While most keep their bedroom behavior a secret, swingers use certain signs to indicate their interest in unorthodox sexual practices.

So, if you’re a nosy neighbor wondering whether the people on your streets are freaks in the sheets, these are some innocuous objects to watch out for.

According to the Sun, flamingos symbolize swinging, with partner swappers placing plastic replicas of the bird in their front yards to let others know they’re up for a good time.

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Pastor Who Resigned Over Adultery Accused of Taking Virginity of Purity Ring Wearing Teen Girl on His Office Floor

Pastor Who Resigned Over Adultery Accused of Taking Virginity of Purity Ring Wearing Teen Girl on His Office Floor

This news story is 50 levels of gross and terrible.

If you’ve visited this blog before, you should know the drill:

Being married and/or a parent, contrary to what many churches and socially conservative think tanks teach, is NOT a guarantee of making a person loving, ethical, godly, or responsible.

(Not that marriage or parenthood are horrible or wrong, but neither life station necessarily produces upstanding, loving, ethical citizens, either.)

Self professing Christian men fail so often, and sexually exploit so often, that churches need to start re-evaluating their “male headship” and “complementarian” teachings, because obviously, men are not fit to lead, and, the “Equally Yoked” rule is a waste of time (and quite possibly a misapplication of a Bible verse).

If you’re a single Christian woman who was raised (as I was) to believe in “Equally Yoked” (Christians should only marry other Christians), and that church would be a good, safe place to meet “Mr. Right,” this goes to show that you’d be better off chucking those teachings to the curb.

The professing Christian man you meet at your corner church is not necessarily going to be any more stand-up than the non-Christian Joe Blow you meet on Tinder or Match.

This pastor, or his church, mischaracterized statutory rape as being “adultery.” Churches really need to get on the ball about this – stop depicting statutory rape as being “adultery.” This was not a case of “adultery.” (Edit: The articles say that the woman’s age at the time – 16 – is legal. But the nature of it, the age gap – it looks like he exploited her.)

I think the pastor in this story was or has been married for years – this goes to show that the standard Christian advice to singles I used to see all the time that says you, the single, have to obtain some level of perfection or spirituality before God will permit you to have a spouse is false.

If God allows deviants like this pastor to get married, rest assured, He is probably not with-holding one from you because you don’t read the Bible often enough, or whatever.

(Link):  ‘I was just 16 when you took my virginity on your office floor!’ Astonishing moment Indiana woman, 43, stands up in church to accuse married pastor of grooming her as a teen – forcing him to ADMIT IT in front of stunned congregation

May 24, 2022
by Jennifer Smith

A 65-year-old Indiana pastor has stepped down from his role in the church after admitting he had an affair with a 16-year-old girl in front of his entire congregation. 

Pastor John Lowe II stepped down from the New Life Christian Church after being confronted on stage by Bobi Gephart, a 43-year-old woman who came forward with a microphone to tell their church in Warsaw, Indiana, how he’d groomed her as a teen, starting when she was 16 – the legal age of consent in the state.

…He begged for the church’s forgiveness, then received a standing ovation. 

Bobi then stormed towards the stage with her husband, Nate, to say it ‘was not just adultery’ because she was so young at the time. 

(Link): Pastor Who Resigned Over Adultery Accused of Taking Virginity of Purity Ring Wearing Teen Girl on His Office Floor.

By Leonardo Blair, Senior Features Reporter

May 23, 2022

A Warsaw, Indiana, pastor who drew a standing ovation from his congregation after telling them he was stepping down because he committed adultery with one person at least two decades ago drew their wrath minutes later after a woman tearfully alleged she was only 16 when the pastor took her virginity on his office floor while she sported a purity ring.

Pastor John Lowe II told his congregation at New Life Christian Church and World Outreach on Sunday that he needed to make the confession because it was the “biblical” thing to do, according to a (Link): Facebook Live broadcast shared by Maisey Cook.

[The pastor – Lowe – stood before his church during a service and confessed he had committed adultery years prior.]

…  He [Lowe] painted himself as a hypocrite who applied discipline to others for sexual failure while hiding his own.

He asked the church for their forgiveness and announced that he would step aside and face discipline from the church.

…Soon after he stepped down from the pulpit, a woman and her husband went to the pulpit to address the congregation. The woman said that what Lowe did was not just adultery but a crime because she was only 16 when he took her virginity in his office 27 years ago.

While the age of consent in Indiana is 16, a person who is at least the age of 18 in a position of supervision or trust that engages in any sexual activity with a child over the age of 16 but under the age of 18 commits child seduction, according to state law. …

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Man Paid to Have His Wife Killed Over Lack of Sex: Lawyers – Husband Also Had Hitman Kill the Man’s Pet Pug Dogs, Beat Dogs to Death With a Hammer

Man Paid to Have His Wife Killed Over Lack of Sex: Lawyers – Husband Also Had Hitman Kill the Man’s Pet Pug Dogs, Beat Dogs to Death With a Hammer

Basically, a lot of complementarian Christian men feel the same way this man, Edward Heck, does: they feel entitled to sex from their wives.

The erroneous biblical interpretations that lead men (and some women) to support “gender complementarianism” lead to these types of views about marriage, sex, and women.

I can see Christian persons like Lori Alexander (of “The Transformed Wife”), Mark Driscoll, John MacArthur, John Piper, Owen Strachan, Denny Burk, Douglas Wilson, and many members of “CBMW” defending this man’s actions and blaming the (murdered) wife.

(We also have problems with unmarried men, of whatever religious beliefs, who feel entitled to sex from any woman, and they go on murderous rampages when women refuse to date or to have sex with them).

The hired hit man not only killed the man’s wife, but one article also says that he “brutally murdered” the husband’s (who hired the hit man) pet dogs by beating them to death with a hammer – one article says that killing the dogs was also part of the plan by the husband – so the husband approved of the dogs being killed by the hit man.

I despise animal abusers, and yes, he and the husband should pay for killing the wife (obviously), but that both men also killed dogs means their death by the state should be very, very extra painful – perhaps shoving them alive, awake, into a wood chipper could be one possible solution to that.

This news story also goes to contradict the dating advice articles I used to see by Christians years ago that conveyed the notion that a single adult has to achieve some level of perfection or godliness or else God won’t send the person a spouse. If dirt bags like this loser can get married, anyone can – obviously if there is a deity, He is not expecting moral perfection or some other quality to be achieved before He permits people to marry.

Also note that contrary to Christian and secular conservative pro-marriage groups and persons – such as Al Mohler, Brad Wilcox, and Focus On the Family – that marriage does not make people more godly, loving, responsible, ethical, or loving.

Aaaannnnd… married sex is not a guarantee for great or frequent sex, as so many Christian sexual purity material insists. I am not against sexual purity, but I do think a lot of Christians have “over-promised” in this area.

(Link): Pa. man admits hiring hit man to kill his sleeping wife, is sentenced to life in prison

(Link): Man Paid to Have His Wife Killed Over Lack of Sex: Lawyers

May 2, 2022
By Genevieve Gluck

A Pennsylvania husband who hired a hitman through a porn site to kill his wife, allegedly because she wasn’t sexually available enough, is now claiming “diminished mental capacity” at his trial for her murder.

Edward Heck, 56, paid Kenneth Wayne Smith $10,000 to kill his wife, Sonja Rowe-Heck, in August of 2018.

Smith and Heck met on Motherless, a site which hosts extreme fetish pornography and snuff videos. Smith had posted in the comment section to a video that he had a fetish for killing, and Heck replied, “How about my wife?”

(Link): According to local news, the two men had been conversing on social media for about 18 months before the planned murder.

Text messages reviewed by authorities included those in which Heck said he fantasized about someone raping and strangling his wife. In messages to Smith, Heck stated that he hated his wife, called her offensive names, and complained about the fact the two did not share a bedroom.

On the day of the murder, Heck brought Smith to his home and helped him hide in the cellar. While there, Smith brutally murdered Heck’s two dogs. At about 1:50 a.m. on August 16, Heck texted Smith saying, “the time has come.”

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Pastor’s Wife Pleads Guilty to Asking Their Threesome Lover to Murder Her Pastor Husband

Pastor’s Wife Pleads Guilty to Asking Their Threesome Lover to Murder Her Pastor Husband

Is this death by complementarianism? It sounds like it may be death by complementarianism, or at least, that is what the wife seems to be indicating.

Does being married make a person more godly, loving, responsible, or ethical? No, no it does not, Jim Daily, Al Mohler, Brad Wilcox and other hyper marriage pushers, it does not.

Does one have to be perfect, godly, and really great before God will allow that person to have a spouse? No – that’s simply not the case, contrary to what all the Christian dating advice books and Christian magazine articles from the 1980s and 1990s said.

God can forsee you being a murderer, and He is still delighted to send a spouse into your life (or permit this) – even a spouse you will end up murdering after your perverted, threesome romps in Motel 6!

Also, sadly, contrary to what my parents taught me as I was growing up, church may NOT be the best place for a single woman to meet eligible men to date and marry, since
1.) most churches lack single men and
2.) the ones who do attend end up being perverts, like the abusive “swinger” in the news report in this post.

The guy murdered in this news story worked as a preacher, and his wife claims he forced her into threesomes and that he was verbally abusive.

(Link): Oklahoma Pastor’s Midnight Execution Unravels Secret Threesome Love Affair

Last Sunday, David Evans warned his parishioners that the devil was trying to “kill them.” But police say there was something sinister much closer to home.

March 2021
by Pilar Melendez

Hours before Oklahoma pastor David Charles Evans was fatally shot in his bed on Monday morning, the 50-year-old warned his parishioners that the devil would seek to “destroy and kill them” for witnessing God’s power.

“Sometimes, I just stop and think. If the devil is not attacking you with everything he’s got in trying to destroy and kill you, maybe [it’s] because you’re not the reason anybody is believing in Jesus. And as a pastor and just as a Christian, what a waste,” he said in a sermon at the Harmony Free Will Baptist Church last Sunday, delivered shortly after he returned from a mission trip to Mexico.

… But police say something sinister was closer to home for Evans. The following day, his wife had her lover shoot Evans in the head, even after an affair that, at one point, involved the pastor, police allege.

… Authorities say that Kristie Evans asked Square to kill her husband in a sinister plot the two hatched while the pastor was away in Mexico. According to an affidavit, obtained by The Daily Beast, the mother-of-three later told police her husband “was verbally abusive and controlling of her” and “called her names like ‘slut, fat, ugly, and whore.’”

…“Kristie and David first met Kahlil months ago at a Super 8 Motel,” the affidavit states. The trio had sex at the Super 8 Motel on more than one occasion.

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I’m a Dominatrix and Most of My Clients Are Married – Women Would Be Horrified if They Knew What Their Husbands Are Doing by K. Bond

I’m a Dominatrix and Most of My Clients Are Married – Women Would Be Horrified if They Knew What Their Husbands Are Doing by K. Bond

This entire article made me want to barf.  🤮

This woman says that some of her clients are married men who have children… and they like having her shove objects up their (their = the married men who are also fathers) buttholes. They are gross perverts.

I see stuff like this and think, “You know, being single really isn’t so bad.”

Also: being married doesn’t, contrary to hyper-marriage-promoters such as Al Mohler and Brad Wilcox – make people more godly, ethical, or mature. Marriage actually seems to have the reverse effect on some people.

As I’ve said on previous posts, Christians need to emphasize that chastity (sexual purity) is for married people also, not just for singles.

When, on those rare occasions, preachers bother to address sexual purity, it’s usually from the perspective of they assume single adults are boinking around.

Preachers who give sermons mentioning sexual purity, or Christian authors who mention sexual purity in their books or blog posts, never, ever stop to consider that a lot of married people are doing perverted things like hiring Dominatrixes (Dominatrices? Have no idea how to spell that) to do things like shove objects up their anuses.

(Link): I’m a Dominatrix and Most of My Clients Are Married – Women Would Be Horrified if They Knew What Their Husbands Are Doing

April 7, 2022
by K. Bond

Sandy Star has a busy day at work ahead, but unlike many of us, she won’t be sat in an office, heading to meetings and doing a tea round.

Instead, the 47-year-old will be getting her rope, feathers and vibrators ready as a number of curious men swing by to experience a steamy session with a dominatrix.

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Oh, Dear, Another (Male) Mega-Church Pastor In Trouble, Possibly for Adultery – Brian Houston of Hillsong Church – So Much for Equally Yoked and Male Headship Teachings!

Oh, Dear, Another (Male) Mega-Church Pastor In Trouble, Possibly for Adultery – Brian Houston of Hillsong Church – So Much for Equally Yoked and Male Headship Teachings!

Update below, March 22, 2022 – Houston has since resigned.


If not adultery, this may possibly be a case of Clergy Sexual Abuse, if there was sexual activity between this guy and the lady.

This would also go to show (once again) that marriage does not make people more upstanding, loving, moral, or godly than remaining single. Also: one does not have to achieve a level of godliness before God will permit a person to marry (this was commonly taught in the dating advice books I read by Christians while growing up).

If so many grown, married men, even ones who identify as Christian, can do idiot things like claim to be quasi-stoned and stumble into another woman’s hotel room, this goes to show that married people are not more responsible than single adults.

Also goes to show that the “equally yoked” rule is a waste of time for single Christian women: you can be a Christian woman who marries a Christian man, but the Christian man in question doesn’t even bother to follow the most basic of Christian ethics.

Complementarian Christians keep teaching that men are, for some reason, supposedly more suitable for leadership roles in life in church, and news stories like this one reveal that no, they are not. Many men are complete failures at leadership.

(Link): Hillsong bombshell as boss claims founder Brian Houston committed ‘indiscretions’ towards TWO women – including an ‘inappropriate’ text and a late night hotel encounter

Embattled former Hillsong pastor Brian Houston allegedly committed ‘indiscretions’ towards two women, the current head of the global church has revealed in a meeting with staff.

Pastor Phil Dooley, who took over leadership of the church from Houston in January, told staff about the apparent incidents during a video conference on Friday morning, the ABC reported.

The claims, revealed during a Zoom meeting with some 800 staff, come just months after Mr Houston stepped down as leader of the mega-church while he fights criminal charges that he covered up his father’s child sex abuse.

(Link): Hillsong Church founder Brian Houston breached code of conduct with inappropriate behaviour towards two women, leaked letter says

Hillsong Church says founder Brian Houston breached its code of conduct, with the organisation apologising “unreservedly” to two women who complained about his inappropriate behaviour.

(Link): Hillsong board blames anxiety drug, alcohol for landing Brian Houston in a woman’s hotel room

Excerpts:

by Roxanne Stone

The board of the global megachurch released a statement revealing its cofounder had sent inappropriate text messages to a staff member and spent time in a woman’s hotel room.

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Disney Employees (and one married man, father to eight children) Among 108 Arrested in Florida Human Trafficking Sting: Police

Disney Employees (and one married man, father to eight children) Among 108 Arrested in Florida Human Trafficking Sting: Police

I haven’t read any of the articles about this sting yet, I’ve only seen the headlines. I wouldn’t be surprised if there were some married guys involved and a pastor or two.

Yes, as I read along, at least one of the articles says one guy was a married father.

Looks like perverts and pedophiles love to obtain victims in Florida. No wonder the left is in a tizzy over DeSantis’ bill that stops the grooming of children from K – third grade by leftists (what progressives mistakenly refer to as “the don’t say gay” bill).

Lessons one can take away from this news story:

Marriage and Fatherhood do not make a man more godly, loving, responsible, or ethical (note to Al Mohler and other conservatives who keep promoting that un-Biblical and over-reaching, unfounded view about marriage and parenthood).

It is not absolutely necessary to “improve yourself” or have to “earn” a spouse from God by “fixing” yourself or achieving some state of godliness or perfection before God will grant you or send you a spouse, if you’re a single adult who’d like to marry (note to all the Christians who’ve ever said as such in their sermons about marriage or in dating advice books and blog posts).

(Link): 108 People, Including Several Disney Employees, Arrested in Human Trafficking Operation

March 18, 2022

One-hundred and eight people were recently arrested in a six-day undercover human trafficking operation in Florida. Among those arrested were several Disney employees and a retired judge. Four child predators were also arrested in the operation.

…Four of the men were specifically targeting children, including Xavier Jackson, 27. Jackson had previously worked as a lifeguard at Walt Disney World’s Polynesian Resort.

…Other arrests in the operation included a married father of eight who left his child at a soccer game to meet a prostitute, a 66-year-old former judge, and a woman who threatened another woman if that woman did not prostitute herself.

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Inside Disgraced, Disheveled Ex-Hillsong Pastor Carl Lentz’s Downgraded House

Inside Disgraced, Disheveled Ex-Hillsong Pastor Carl Lentz’s Downgraded House

(Link): Inside Disgraced, Disheveled Ex-Hillsong Pastor Carl Lentz’s Downgraded House

March 9, 2022
By Hannah Frishberg

Ex-Hillsong megachurch pastor Carl Lentz is looking worse for the wear — as is his home.

Photos emerged this week of both Justin Bieber’s former spiritual advisor and his new house, both appearing to have fallen quite far from grace since the father of three was fired from the church for infidelity in late 2020.

The photos also come just weeks before Discovery Plus is set to release “Hillsong: A Megachurch Exposed,” a three-part docuseries on the controversial congregation.

The formerly chiseled Christian leader was pictured with long, unkempt curly hair and without his trademark glasses while at an airport ahead of check-in for a Friday morning flight, according to photos first published by The Sun.

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These Chains That Have No Name: Interview with Trans Widows Voices – Pro- Trans- Groups Use DARVO and other Narcissistic Manipulative Tactics on Trans Widows

These Chains That Have No Name: Interview with Trans Widows Voices – Pro- Trans- Groups Use DARVO and other Narcissistic Manipulative Tactics on Trans Widows

Can you imagine, you’re a woman married to a man, and after so many years of marriage, your husband informs you one day that he wants to identify as a woman? Lord. There are times I am glad I never married. Seeing stuff like this is one of those times.

(Link): These Chains That Have No Name: Interview with Trans Widows Voices

Excerpts:

March 2021
By Donovan Cleckley

Trans Widows Voices is a website that works to support the former partners of males who have socially and medically transitioned, and to amplify the voices of women, those who are most forgotten in the narratives of men’s heroic journeys to conquer ‘womanhood’ as theirs.

Under the “Our Voices” heading of the site, we see a selection of stories from women. Despite charges that these women make their male partners into monsters, these narratives show us new dimensions in the subjection of women.

Most relationships in these cases involve married heterosexual males, many of whom have fathered children, ‘coming out’ as ‘women’ after many years of crossdressing behind closed doors. “It is their wives who suffer,” Andrea Dworkin wrote in a review of Amy Bloom’s book Normal in 2003.

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I Gave My Husband a Threesome – and Then I Left Him For A Woman by Asia Grace

I Gave My Husband a Threesome – and Then I Left Him For A Woman by Asia Grace

LOL! This story below.

Certainly goes against several Christian (particularly complementarian Christian) narratives… like, married people are more mature, ethical, and sexually moral than single adults… like if you abstain from sex until you marry, you’ll have a great marriage with frequent, great sex. That women don’t like or want sex, or men do. LOL!

The story below says that this woman who left her husband (biological male) for a biological woman was in a “Bible study group.” LOL! Married adults are NOT more sexually moral or ethical than single adults, Christians!

(Link): I Gave My Husband a Threesome – and Then I Left Him For A Woman by Asia Grace

February 7, 2022

In 2020, Theresa Rose celebrated her husband’s birthday by engaging in a threesome with another woman. But her husband’s taste for sexual adventure backfired: Just a few weeks later, she left him and filed for divorce.

“Experiencing that intimate interaction with a woman for the first time, the physical and emotional depth was [so intense], I was like, ‘Oh my God, this is what’s been missing,’ ” Rose, 36, told The Post. (She requested to be referred to as “Rose,” which is her middle name, in order to protect her identity.)

She’s among a growing number of women leaving their husbands for other women.

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Oregon GOP Gubernatorial Candidate Admits He and Wife Belonged to Swingers Group

Oregon GOP Gubernatorial Candidate Admits He and Wife Belonged to Swingers Group

So gross. Makes a mockery out of marriage.

Also goes to show that marriage doesn’t make people more sexually ethical. Many conservative and Christian marriage pushers often insist that single adults are more sexually reckless than married people, which is not so.

A person can marry and engage in sexual sin within their marriage.

(Link): Oregon GOP Gubernatorial Candidate Admits He and Wife Belonged to Swingers Group

By Yaron Steinbuch
Feb 8, 2022

A top candidate in the Republican primary for Oregon governor has admitted that he and his wife had explored a swinging lifestyle before deciding that swapping partners wasn’t for them, according to a report.

Stan Pulliam, 40, told the Willamette Week that he and his wife of 12 years, MacKensey, had “explored relationships, mutual relationships with other couples, for a brief period of time before ultimately deciding that it wasn’t for us.”

Pulliam, the mayor of his hometown of Sandy, fessed up to the outlet after a 2016 screenshot from a page titled “Swinger Facebook Group PDX” made its rounds across the state’s political circles.

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New York Times: Respect Your Daughter’s Choice To Be A Married Man’s Mistress by T. Justice

New York Times: Respect Your Daughter’s Choice To Be A Married Man’s Mistress by T. Justice

(Link): New York Times: Respect Your Daughter’s Choice To Be A Married Man’s Mistress

January 18, 2022

Poetic Justice is an advice column that offers counter-advice to submissions at other publications whose contributors have failed the reader.

The New York Times last week admonished a woman who was uncomfortable about the prospect of allowing her daughter in a relationship with a married man to bring him on a Greek vacation.

[The letter reads]…

My 30-year-old daughter is in a polyamorous relationship with a married man.

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