Church Used Adult Married Man Who Raped Teen as a Worship Team Member in their Church

Churches Used Adult Married Man Who Raped Teen as a Worship Team Member in their Church

Several spiritual abuse blogs covered this story, as well as a handful of mainstream media outlets. (Links to the story are farther below).

From what I’ve read, this adult married man raped a young lady. He was, I think, in his mid-30s at the time of the rape, and his victim was around 13 years old. (Some of these articles are saying he had more than one young victim.)

At the time this story broke, I believe he was working in a library.

One of the spiritual abuse blogs dug up the information that this guy’s current wife is his THIRD WIFE, and they have children (however, I am unclear if these kids are his biological kids with this third wife, or if they are her kids from a prior marriage).

This church in Tennessee was allowing this sicko to act as a bass player on stage during various church services.

Many conservative Christians like to teach this falsehood that being married and being a parent are vital to making a person mature, godly, ethical, and loving, which is so much BUNK and nonsense, considering we have stories such as this one, where a man has been married THREE times in his life but raped kids before.

How did being thrice married prevent this creep from sexually assaulting girls? It did not. Marriage is not some kind of special salve or condition that makes a person behave in a moral fashion.

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Texas Pastor and Pastor’s Wife Sexually Abused Their Kids

Texas Pastor and Pastor’s Wife Sexually Abused Their Kids

Well, looky there! Married people are not more mature or godly than singles.

(Link):  Widow of Area Pastor Receives Five Life Sentences in Child Sex Case

There is always a steady supply of news items of married Christian couples who are arrested for fondling kids, abusing them, or neglecting them – I don’t have the time or energy to make blog posts about them every time I find them.

So to all the conservative Christians out there who keep making marriage out as a necessary rite of passage, one that instantly makes a person more mature, godly, loving, or responsible, knock it off.

Also be aware that this is more evidence that the rule of Christians only marrying other Christians (the equally yoked rule) is a WASTE OF TIME.

Self-professing Christians are no more trust-worthy or godly than your average Non-Christian.

So, if you are a single, Christian woman, please don’t feel limited to only dating Christian men.

BTW, this perverted woman is age 49, but she looks a lot older than that (there is a photo of her on the news page). I’m in my 40s too  (though I am younger than 49), but I don’t look like a fat, old haggard hag like this lady. I jog, stay in shape, wear make-up, look nice, etc.

Let this also be a lesson to you that the Christian teaching that says you must become more godly, more perfect, or “clean yourself up” before God will reward you with a spouse is false.

Obviously, neither of these perverts in this story were perfect or godly: they were sexually abusing children. You don’t have to be sinless, morally perfect, or great to merit a spouse.

(Link):  5 life sentences for Burnet woman in family sex abuse case

Oct 21, 2016

by  Philip Jankowski

…However, testimony during trial showed that Hopkins abused one of her daughters from the time she was at least 7 years old until she was 21, according to the district attorney’s office for the 33rd and 424th state judicial districts.

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Married Church Staffer Arrested for Secretly Filming Upskirt Videos of Girls, Women in Church Bathroom and While They Kneeled During Services – Equally Yoked is BUNK

Married Church Staffer Arrested for Secretly Filming Upskirt Videos of Girls, Women in Church Bathroom and While They Kneeled During Services – Equally Yoked is BUNK 

Way farther below in this post is a link to a news story about a married church staff guy who was a pervert. (I think I first saw this news story via @watchkeep’s Twitter account.)

My Christian parents brought me up to think if I wanted to marry, that the best place for me to meet potential spouses would be at a church. I suppose the assumption with that is that the type of men who attend church regularly are going to be “safer” or better moral choices than the type of dude you might meet at a bar.

However, in the last few years of running this blog, I have seen (Link): so many news stories of church-going Christian men who get arrested for abuse or perversion, I now have my doubts about that.

Secondly, single women out-number single men in churches. I know that every church I’ve been to in person, I’ve been one of the few singles there. The only men in attendance and 80 years old, which would be fine if I were 80 too, but I’m not, and May December relationships (Link): make me want to barf.

Below  is a news report of a church staffer who was caught secretly filming “upskirt” videos of girls and women in church bathrooms and during church services. That is bad enough as-is, but the report says that the church discouraged the women from contacting the police over this.

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Women: Stop Asking Pat Robertson For Romantic Relationship Advice

Women: Stop Asking Pat Robertson For Romantic Relationship Advice – Whether You Are Divorced or Single 


Aug 16, 2016 edit: Just a few days after I made this post imploring women to stop asking Robertson for romantic relationship advice, Robertson did this:

(Link):  Christian TV Show Pat Robertson Says Wives Who Want Emotional Support from a Husband Are Immature and Should Not Expect Emotional Support

Then Robertson turned around and did this – November 2016 edit:

(Link): Pat Robertson’s Incredibly Insensitive Advice to Gail the Unmarried Woman 

Yep. This is why I beg you, women of the world: stop going to Pat Robertson with dating, singleness, divorce, or marriage questions! You are not going to get valuable advice or empathy for your problems, but a lot of victim-blaming and shaming.


So, yesterday (August 2, 2016), on the TV show “The 700 Club,” Christian host Pat Robertson fielded a question from some woman who wrote in saying she had been divorced four times (I placed two videos of that segment in this post, towards the end).

If I understand the woman’s letter correctly, she says she accepted Christ as her savior, or turned to God, after her fourth divorce.

She said her first four husbands were abusive. She wants to know, now that she has rededicated her life to God, will God send her a loving husband?

Look, I knew before Pat ever opened his mouth how he would answer this woman. And I cringed in anticipation. And I was right about his reply.

I’ve watched The 700 Club every single day since the year 2005, and off and on prior to that. My mother used to watch his show when I was a kid, so I was exposed to it back then. I suppose I still watch it out of habit.

I have seen so many episodes of this show, I already can tell you how Robertson is going to answer before he opens his mouth, and I am correct about 90% of the time (regarding relationship questions he receives).

More often than not, if you are a woman and you write Pat Robertson for relationship advice, especially if you have been divorced, he will most likely blame you. He will tell you that you have a “failed relationship picker” and you should stay single.  He figures that since you have failed at marriage once or twice before, there is little sense in trying again, because you will only fail again.

Robertson will shame and blame you for having married abusers, duds, and losers.

Robertson is also not kind to single women over 40 who have never married but who would like to marry.

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Woman Burned To Death For Refusing Marriage Proposal

Woman Burned To Death For Refusing Marriage Proposal

And there are some whiny, cry-baby men who think THEY have single life harder – news flash, (Link): you don’t have it worse, men: men usually are not murdered by jealous women over turning down dates or proposals.

While I’d say that the root of this case involves a lot of misogyny and patriarchy, I think perhaps a small factor is an over-emphasis upon marriage.

Perhaps if cultures like this one were taught that being single and/or celibate are perfectly fine lifestyles to live, we wouldn’t see people feel so pressured to marry, and they would realize they can control their sexual urges. Therefore, women would not be killed for turning down dates, requests for sex, or marriage proposals.

You don’t have to be married, or have sex, to enjoy life or be happy and content. (I am not knocking a desire to be married, you realize, only saying if it does not happen for you, you will survive – and realize you can enjoy life without marriage or sex.)

Dollars to doughnuts that everyone in this news story was Muslim.

If so, I’d like to say again I see striking parallels between Islamic attitudes and behaviors towards women as I do from some gender complementarian or Quiverfull Christian groups, as well as sexist men and MRA (Men’s Rights Activists) groups – they all treat women like second-class citizens to be controlled by men and are considered to have value only in- so- far as they breed like rabbits and/or provide men with sex.

(Link): Pakistani woman dies after being set on fire for rejecting marriage proposal

  • By Azadeh Ansari and Sophia Saifi, CNN
  • Updated 11:47 AM ET, Thu June 2, 2016
  • Islamabad, Pakistan (CNN)- An 18-year-old Pakistani schoolteacher died Wednesday from injuries after her body was set on fire for refusing a marriage proposal, police said.
  • The perpetrators beat Maria Abbasi, then drenched her in petrol and set her body ablaze before leaving her for dead, her family members told CNN.
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    Mommy Blogger Confesses in Blog Post that Mommy Blogging is a Bunch of Fake, Happy-Clappy B.S. – Kind of Like Most Christian Adult Singleness Blogs

    Mommy Blogger Confesses in Blog Post that Mommy Blogging is a Bunch of Fake, Happy-Clappy B.S. – Kind of Like Most Christian Adult Singleness Blogs

    I first got wind of this story via SCCL Facebook group ((Link): Conversation about this topic at SCCL FB Group).

    A link to a news article about the Mommy Blogger is much farther below. I wanted to say a few things before getting to the article.

    The (ex?) mommy blogger in question, Josi Denise, says in one of her blog posts that a lot of mommy blogging is fake and too happy-clappy.

    Denise’s critique of Mommy Blogging is reminiscent of my views on blogs or magazine articles by Christians pertaining to adult singleness, which you can read here:

    I find that a lot of Christian-written material for adult singles is too sickeningly sweet.

    There is an absence in most Christian-penned material for singles that honestly, really gets into and grapples with, how hard, painful, or disappointing it can be to be single into your 30s and older, when you had really expected or had hoped to marry.

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    Christian Charity Head Admits Using Donations for Sex Habit

    Christian Charity Head Admits Using Donations for Sex Habit

    This article says that this guy is married (or was at one point; I have no idea if he’s still married to his wife or not).

    Christians often think that married people are more sexually pure and moral than adult singles – they will often refuse to allow adult singles to serve in leadership positions in churches, one reason being, they assume that the single will “hit on” or start affairs with other people.

    But if you will notice, the majority of news stories about Christians who are involved in affairs or looking at child porn and what have you, are MARRIED persons, NOT singles.

    Which is not to say there are not self-professing Christian singles who aren’t sexually sinning, because there sure as heck are, but I’m so tired of this Christian stereotype that married people are as pure as the freshly driven snow, while we singles are supposedly a bunch of over-sexed horn dogs.

    I myself am over the age of 40, and I am celibate. I am more sexually up-right than a lot of Christian married people. So Christians who harbor these stereotypes about singles being Jezebel harlots and married people being sexually pure can kiss my butt.

    By the way, does the “be equally yoked” rule Christians apply to marriage REALLY MATTER when the “Christian” husband ends up cheating on his wife by using pornography or prostitutes or he has a mistress?

    Does this example REALLY up-hold the Christian teaching that God expects a person to be mature or godly before he will permit him or her to have a spouse? No, it does not.

    If God expected people to be totally moral, ethical, mature, and godly before allowing them to have a spouse, the idiot in this news story would still be single – but he’s not. He has a wife (or did. I am not clear if the wife is still with him or not).

    (Link): Director of Cedar Rapids nonprofit skimmed donations to support ‘sex addiction’

    (Link): Christian charity head admits using donations for sex habit 

    (Link): Christian Charity Head Admits Using Donations for Sex Habit

    • by R. Roley
    • May 2016
    • The president of a Christian charity in Iowa admitted that he embezzled nearly a half-million dollars in donations and used the money to pay for a sex addiction, federal prosecutors said Tuesday.
    • Jon S. Petersen, of Cedar Rapids, pleaded guilty Monday to one count of filing a false tax return. He was released from custody pending a sentencing hearing, which hasn’t been scheduled.
    • Petersen, 55, is the longtime president of World Ambassadors, Ltd., a nonprofit he founded with his wife in 1993 to provide a Christian outreach to international students on college campuses.

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    Married Man Paid Prostitute with Charity Money and Tipped Her With a Pet Monkey

    Married Man Paid Prostitute with Charity Money and Tipped Her With a Pet Monkey

    Christians: stop making marriage out to be the norm. It’s not. More people are staying single these days.

    Furthermore, Christians of the world, especially American ones: The state of being married is NOT superior to being single. Marriage does not magically transform people into responsible, loving, ethical, caring adults.

    Here we have a news story of a married man who cheated on his wife with a hooker and used money meant for charity to pay the hooker. Marriage clearly did not make this guy more mature or moral.

    Let this story also be a reminder that you do not, as Christians claim, have to be perfect or godly to deserve, earn, or merit a spouse. If God permits idiots like this guy to get a spouse, there is no damn good reason for God to keep one from you (assuming you are not a deviant wacko).

    (Link):  Police: Pet store owner [Married Man] tipped prostitute with primate, stolen Girl Scout money

    • EUGENE, OR. — Police in Eugene, Oregon said a pet store owner used a bush baby and stolen Girl Scout money to tip for a prostitute.
    • McClain’s wife posted a statement on Facebook saying the store was working to get Nathan McClain’s name off of the business and banking accounts.

    (Link):   Man paid prostitute with charity money and a primate, police say

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    Christian Author of a “Dude’s Guide to Marriage” Book Fired From Church Pastor Job for Inappropriate Behavior With Two Women

    Christian Author of a “Dude’s Guide to Marriage” Book Fired From Church Pastor Job for Inappropriate Behavior With Two Women

    I hope I am understanding this story correctly. This guy who was fired – the church who fired him (I think it was a church) – is being rather vague about it.

    They did say in one of their released statements that this married pastor is not guilty of adultery, but that he did something inappropriate with two women.

    Knowing what I know about conservative, evangelical Christianity and some of these Reformed guys, they will nit pick over how they describe sexual sin: this guy may not have strictly performed penis in the vagina sex on these other women, but I bet you anything he probably performed some other sexual sin.

    Maybe this dude-bro pastor sent these women dirty text messages, unsolicited penis photos, they performed oral sex on him (or vice versa), or something else.

    Christians who cover up sexual sins by pastors, or who try to diminish them, tend to be like former American president Bill Clinton when confronted on his dalliance with Lewinisky: they finely parse their language about it. They won’t come right out and say “this married pastor got a blow job from a hooker,” or what not, so they use euphemisms.

    What kills me about this guy is that he’s apparently a gender complementarian preacher who has written books with titles such as “A Dude’s Guide to Marriage,” and some other book with a title like “How to Be a Manly Man.”

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    Avoid Dating Divorced Guys Who Are Dating on the Rebound – and Icky May December Relationships

    Avoid Dating Divorced Guys Who Are Dating on the Rebound – and Icky May December Relationships

    The letter is much farther below. I wanted to comment on it first.

    Here is the set up:

    A friend of a divorced guy wrote to Hax, an advice columnist.

     I’m not sure if this friend is a man or woman; let’s just assume it’s a man for my post.

    My interest in this letter is not in the advice aspect: friend is upset because divorced guy keeps asking him for advice but then gets offended and explodes in anger when Friend gives him advice.

    My interest in this letter pertains to two or three other facets:

    The letter writing friend says his divorced friend is age mid-40s, while the wife who dumped him was in her early 30s.

    I am (Link): not a  believer in “May December” relationships, for starters.

    A mid- 40s guy should be dating women who are age early- to- late 40s, not an early- 30s woman.

    And what in the hey is the age early- 30s woman doing even considering dating some dude who is 14, 15 years her senior?

    This is something I have pondered since thinking about dating again: the rebound issue. There is no way I’d date a guy who was divorced (or widowed) for only two years, or less.

    If you date a guy who just divorced (or his wife died) two weeks ago, or six months ago, he is not ready for a serious relationship – he’s not even ready for a healthy, casual, fun one.

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    A Response To J D Hall’s Vomit-tastic Post about Village Church’s Handling of Certain Members, Covenants, and Marriages

    A Response To J D Hall’s Vomit-tastic Post about Village Church’s Handling of Certain Members, Covenants, and Marriages 

    Before we get to the post by J D Hall:

    Background:

    • The Village Church (TVC) of Texas has placed Karen, who was once a member of theirs, under church discipline because she did not, according to them, abide by the church covenant she signed.
    • Instead of conferring with the church on what to do, Karen, on her own, sought an annulment from the state of Texas, once she discovered her then-spouse, Jordan, was a pedophile.
    • Karen said she spent about 50 days conferring with other Christians (not from the TVC), and in prayer, mulling over what to do, before seeking the annulment.
    • This action of hers has ticked off TVC leadership, because Karen did not get their permission to get the annulment.
    • Matt Chandler is the lead preacher of TVC.

    You can read additional reporting of this situation here (additional material is at the bottom of this post):

    Here is the page I am responding to:

    (Link, off site): A Rational Response to the Criticism of Village Church  by  J D Hall, Pulpit and Pen blog

    The covenant that Hall is so rigorously defending – TVC’s membership covenant – here does not even mention annulments.

    As Karen explains (off site Link, Source):

    • …it is worth noting here that although The Village Church claims [in their e-mail] that “We see an annulment as a subcategory of what Scripture defines as a divorce in Mark 10:9” …, this cannot be found anywhere in their Membership Covenant or Bylaws.
    • In signing their Membership Covenant shortly after my 24th birthday, I had agreed to nothing in regards to the possibility of annulment should I come to realize that my marriage had been a complete sham from the beginning.
    • There is a vast difference between a divorce and a marriage that is voided on the grounds of fraud, and I had no way of knowing that the leadership of The Village Church would respond to it in this fashion.

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    Hypocrisy Among Christians and how it leads some to question or leave the Christian faith

    Hypocrisy Among Christians and how it leads some to question or leave the Christian faith

    I have a few other topics or news stories I wanted to blog about today and the other day, but I find myself getting sidetracked to discuss these other issues. Maybe I’ll blog about the rest tomorrow or next weekend.

    This topic is (for me anyhow) rather complex. I don’t want to spend a lot of time explaining it, but it’s one I’ve seen crop up recently on other sites or in my personal life, and this will probably be another one of my long posts. Even though I have other things I wanted to do today, like bake a batch of cookies.

    Whether Christians like it or not, some Christians, including lifelong Christians such as myself, are either considering leaving the faith, or have done so already, and all because the hypocrisy they see in self professing Christians.

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    Pervert Who Regularly Has Sex With Horses is Married to Human Woman

    Pervert Who Regularly Has Sex With Horses is Married to Human Woman

    Evangelicals and other types of Christians frequently like to teach or assume that being married makes a person impervious to sexual sin (they assume singles are harlots), and that being married makes a person more mature and responsible.

    Apparently, the pervert featured in this story is married to a woman, and he also had sexual contact with men at one time. He said his sexual orientation changed – he used to consider himself homosexual but says he is now “90% hetero.”

    My feelings about people who have sex with animals: Anyone who has sex with animals should be hanged. Ditto for people who fondle or rape children, or who sexually assault adults.

    I’d also like to mention this story points to another flaw in Christian teachings about marriage.

    Often times, Christians will present marriage as though it’s only conferred by God on to people who achieve some sort of standard in life – which may be holiness, selfless-ness, maturity, whatever.

    Some Christians will teach if you want marriage but are still single, you must be “making marriage into an idol,” and until you want God more than you want marriage, God will with-hold marriage from you.

    None of these teachings are biblical. But other than that, they do not fit reality. I constantly see people who do not deserve to be married who are married. I have posted time and again on this blog news stories of married people who murder their spouses, who view child pornography, whatever.

    You cannot possibly expect me to believe that God only rewards the holy and upright with marriage when I see news items like the one below about perverts who are married despite being absolute deviants.

    (Link):  Horse Genitals Taste of Hay and More Curious Delights from a Horsef*cker WARNING: page has very graphic content (no photos, only text of sexual acts described in graphic detail)

    That page is on Gawker, which in turn references this page (which I assume also has graphic content)

    (Link): What It’s Like to Date A Horse – GRAPHIC SEXUAL CONTENT (TEXT NO PHOTOS) From “Science of Us” site.

    I feel a more adequate headline for that page would be: “What it’s like to Rape an animal and how I am disgracing myself by performing an evil, unnatural sex act”

    You’ll notice that this sicko’s narrative is very similar to that of homosexuals and child molestors – he claims he was always attracted to horses sexually; he feels he was “born that way.”

    I’ve often read in online news stories and seen on TV shows that many homosexuals claim they always knew they were homosexual, and believe they were “born that way,” and I’ve read interviews with child molesters online who say they’ve always felt attracted to children and feel they were born that way.

    Excerpts from Science of Us site (I’ve omitted some of the more tawdry quotes from the interview):

    • Here, a 42-year-old man from Canada describes his life as a zoophile attracted to female horses.
    • So the  [horse] book aroused you? Did you masturbate over the images of horses?
      Oh, yes. And later I’d go to pre-internet online dial-up forums and that’s where I came across bestiality porn. And I didn’t realize it was abnormal at that time, but the comments attached to those pictures were all going on about how disgusting it was. I was 13. So that would be when I was first aware that I was different.
    • ..When was your first kiss?
      My first kiss was from a man named Mark. He was aware of my sexual preference and interested himself in dogs after a fashion. That was about two months after I lost my virginity, so I was about 22. In all honesty, I’ve never liked kissing men; rough beards do not turn me on.
    • So you had your first kiss after you lost your virginity? Did you lose your virginity to a horse or a human?
      A horse.

    As to this next bit – these doctors and vets, who are aiding this sicko to rape horses, and who are okay with this – should be hanged. I’m completely serious. Anyone who condones this, covers for people who do this, who are involved in any way, should be hanged, or shot in the face.

    Continuing:

    • Are there health and safety concerns? How did you know how to do it [sexually assault an animal] safely — did you educate yourself first?
      There are a lot of things to think about. I’ve had the luck and the privilege to know two veterinarians and a doctor who were open to the idea, so I talked to them and I investigated zoonosis — the transference of diseases from animals to people.

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    Baby Making Fixation at Christianity Today Magazine Online – Shaming Women For Not Procreating, or For Delaying Motherhood, or For Limiting the Number of Children

    Baby Making Fixation at Christianity Today Magazine Online – Shaming Women For Not Procreating, or For Delaying Motherhood, or For Limiting the Number of Children

    I am not going to provide links as is my custom, because I find this so obnoxious. (The URL to the excerpted piece is below).

    Within about a week long time frame, CT (Christianity Today magazine) published two very “pro motherhood” type articles on their site.

    I am not an opponent of motherhood. If a woman chooses to have babies, that is A-OK with me.

    What I find appalling is how Christians either rain guilt down upon, or else shame, women for

    1. choosing not to have children at all, or
    2. for choosing to use birth control to delay when to have kids, or
    3. using birth control to limit the number of children they have, or
    4. to assume all childless women are childless by choice

    On occasion, some Christian males, such as Al Mohler and Rev. Mark Driscoll, have screamed at young men to run out and get married immediately, but it seems to me that about 98% of the time, Christians and social conservatives are yelling at WOMEN to hurry up, get married, and crank out kids.

    I do not think either gender should be pressured to marry at all or soon in life, but I am tired of the sexist double standard.

    Women get more shamed and pressured to marry, marry young, and have children, and have children young, more often than men do.

    I come across these “marry and make babies young” editorials by Christians and sometimes conservatives, aimed at women far more often than I see them directed at men.

    Christians often teach adult singles that if they want a mate, they must achieve perfection, because God will not gift them with a spouse so long as they are flawed.

    But then these same Christians, or others, like the lady below, assume if a woman wants a husband, all she has to do is “choose” one. I see. So if I want to get married, I can just “choose” a man, and get married?

    But how does that view square with the Christians who tell me the reason I am unmarried is that God is “sanctifying me” and “cleaning me up” before he will send me a spouse?

    How is it that I am told on the one hand by some Christians that God is requiring me to fix myself before he’ll send me a spouse, but at the same time, these other Christians are saying I can have a husband if I just “choose” to have one? Which is it?

    Here are the editorials I am talking about – these were published under the women’s section of Christianity Today online, and are chock full of sexism, assumptions, and guilt trips:

    Have Babies, Just Not Yet – published on Christianity Today, Aug 18 2014, by Courtney Reissig 

    (url:

    christianitytoday.com/women/2014/august/have-babies-just-not-yet.html?paging=off)

    And,

    “How Natural Family Planning Shaped My View of Sex” – published on Christianity Today, Aug 25 2014 

    Note: I have revised this post to remove most of the direct quotes and have instead summarized most of the author’s points; what follows, and under FAIR USE, are excerpts, and NOT the full articles / editorials.

    Even before this revision, I did NOT reproduce the entire editorial, contra the claims of the Christianity Today employee who contacted me over this via Twitter.

    Excerpts from (and I have some remarks below these excerpts, farther down the page):

    Have Babies, Just Not Yet – published on Christianity Today, Aug 18 2014, by Courtney Reissig

    There are a number of reasons for the delay of childbearing on the part of women, who increasingly find themselves pursuing higher degrees, working full-time, and taking on leadership positions.

    [snip many comments by author about how women are, she feels, choosing to pursue a career, or obtain a college education, over having children]

    [snip further comments where the author cites studies that the average age of a woman having her first child is age 30, and she notes that she thinks that Christians believe that any woman who has a child around age 20 is wasting her choices and opportunities] Continue reading “Baby Making Fixation at Christianity Today Magazine Online – Shaming Women For Not Procreating, or For Delaying Motherhood, or For Limiting the Number of Children”

    Necrophiliac Charged With Banging Three Dead Women, Admits to Doing 100+ Corpses – Are We Allowed to Necrophiliac-Shame?

    Necrophiliac Charged With Banging 100 Corpses – Are We Allowed to Necrophilia-Shame?

    Some guy was caught having sex with corpses, and admitting to having sex with like 100 dead bodies at some morgue on night shift. This happened over a period of months, not that he boinked all 100 dead people the same night.

    (Link): Morgue Employee Admits To Having Sex With Up To 100 Corpses While Working Night Shifts

    I still believe it’s okay to have sexual standards and judge things like this as being wrong, but all the weepy, touchy feely folks, or the outraged progressive Christians, traitor conservative Christians, and secular feminists who rant against “sexual purity culture,” or anyone choosing to stay a virgin until marriage (see previous post for just such an example of that) might tell us that to shame a man for having sex with a corpse is a form of “Necrophilia shaming,” and so we shouldn’t say a peep about it.

    One article says this guy is MARRIED. So much for the evangelical, fundamentalist, Reformed, and Baptist position that marriage makes a person
    1. more godly
    2. mature
    3. immune from sexual immorality or perversion

    Some Christians teach that God will not send you a spouse unless you clean yourself up first and become good, or God has to clean you up… that is you have to be godly to merit a spouse. Say what you will about a lot of Christian singles over the age of 30, but I doubt any or most are having sex with corpses. Yet, this guy who gets a stiffy in his pants for stiffies has a living wife at home. Looks to me like a person doesn’t have to be perfect or godly to get a spouse.

    (Link): Morgue attendant had sex with up to 100 dead women

      By ZOE SZATHMARY FOR MAILONLINE
      PUBLISHED: 01:25 EST, 17 August 2014
      UPDATED: 08:23 EST, 17 August 2014

      Kenneth Douglas worked as an employee for Ohio’s Hamilton County

      He admitted to having sex with the bodies of April Hicks, Karen Range and Charlene Appling

      Speaking about Appling, Douglas said ‘I do remember going in the freezer, pulling her in one of the rooms in the back’

      Douglas attributed his behavior to drug and alcohol abuse in a deposition

      The county employee’s DNA was connected to Range in 2008, and later Appling and Hicks
      Hamilton County is facing a lawsuit from their families

      An Ohio morgue employee revealed he may have had sex with ‘a hundred’ corpses and continued to do so even after his wife had tipped off authorities.

      Speaking about the incidents in deposition audio obtained by WCPO, Hamilton County employee Kenneth Douglas said ‘I would get on top of them and pull my pants down.’

      When talking about the body of victim Charlene Appling, Douglas said ‘I do remember going in the freezer, pulling her in one of the rooms in the back’ before he told an investigator he ‘had sex with her.’

      When asked about the number of corpses he had sex with, Douglas answered ‘It could have been a hundred’ in the deposition audio.

      Douglas attributed his behavior to drug and alcohol abuse in the deposition.

      ‘If I wasn’t drinking, or hadn’t had anything to drink when I went to work, it wouldn’t happen. I would do crack and go in and I would drink and go in,’ he said.

      His wife was featured in a deposition video obtained by WCPO, in which she said she tried to contact someone about her husband’s behavior – but she was dismissed.

      At the time, she also said her husband ‘gets undressed and he reeks of [expletive].’

      WCPO said Douglas admitted to having sex with the bodies of April Hicks, Karen Range and Charlene Appling. Both Appling and Range were murder victims.

      ‘[In 2008] DNA connected him to semen found in Range,’ the affiliate station said. ‘[…] In 2008, Douglas pleaded guilty in the Range case and was sentenced to three years in prison. In 2012, he pleaded guilty again in the Appling and Hicks cases. Their families sued that year.’

    (Link): Court: Families can sue county after morgue worker had sex with corpses

    (Link): Pervert morgue assistant admits to having sex with up to 100 bodies

      A man in Ohio has admitted in court to having sex with up to 100 corpses while he worked at a morgue.

      The shocking admission by Kenneth Douglas has send shockwaves around the community in the town of Hamilton.

      Depraved Douglas told a court he was usually high or drunk and would “just get on top of them and pull my pants down”.

    Married Father and Baptist Preacher J D Hall – Another Example of How Marriage and Parenthood Does Not Make a Person More Godly or Mature

    Married Father and Baptist Preacher J D Hall – Another Example of How Marriage and Parenthood Does Not Make a Person More Godly or Mature

    (There is an update at the bottom of this post).

    This involves a lot of back story I don’t want to get into because this blog post would be ten pages long.

    I am blogging this primarily for adult singles who have felt marginalized or hurt by Christian denominations or churches that treat adult singles as though they have cooties.

    I have a somewhat different motivation for blogging about this than other blogs do. There were a few other blogs who addressed the child abuse aspect of the story, that we have an adult (Hall) badgering a teen kid (Braxton Caner) on the internet.

    J D Hall is a Calvinist preacher with a blog called “Pulpit and Pen,” a Twitter account, and a group of fan boys who follow him around online who actually refer to themselves as “Pulpiteers.”

    At one time, Hall’s groupies were using the #pulpiteer (or “pulpiteers”) hash to follow each other around Twitter. I’m not sure if they still use the “Pulpiteer” label or not. I will continue to refer to them as such.

    This group, and a few other people, have a long standing hatred of another guy named Ergun Caner.

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    Married Couple Pays Surrogate to Have Baby, They Keep The Healthy Daughter But Refuse the Down Syndrome One – Also: Cops: the Dad is a Convicted Pedo

    Married Couple Pays Surrogate to Have Baby, They Keep The Healthy Daughter But Refuse the Down Syndrome One – Also: Cops: the Dad is a Convicted Pedo

    And many conservative Christians routinely say or assume that marriage makes a person godly, mature, more loving, and immune from sexual sin, and that you have to be perfect and godly to even merit a spouse to start with (God doesn’t send imperfect people spouses, they say).

    Hmm. Then how would Christians explain this selfish married couple who
    1. won’t accept the Down’s Syndrome twin from the surrogate
    and
    2. the father is a convicted kid-diddler (pedophile)?

    How is it that God rewards child molesters with spouses, but not law abiding, non-perverted singles?

    (Link): Australian father accused of abandoning baby boy born to Thai surrogate mother because he had Down Syndrome ‘was jailed for sexual assault on a child under 13’

    (Link): Australia investigates ‘paedophile’ father in Thai baby scandal

    Married 40-something Couple Keep Young Relatives Living in Filth So They Can Play Video Game All Day For Three Years

    Married 40-something Couple Keep Young Relatives Living in Filth So They Can Play Video Game All Day

    Ah yes, how marriage “matures” a person and makes them more godly, responsible, and loving. Why, we single, childfree/childless individuals are just do dang seflish! (rolleyes)

    The couple mentioned in the story below are married, according to the latter half of the report.

    (Link): ‘World Of Warcraft’ Gamers Kept Girls Locked Up In Filthy Mobile Home For Three Years

      An unemployed couple kept two young female relatives locked inside their filthy mobile home while they reportedly played World of Warcraft all day, according to California law enforcement authorities.

      The online video game playing duo pleaded guilty to a series of charges on Tuesday, the Orange County, California, District Attorney’s office announced.

      After a concerned neighbor contacted the cops on May 20, 2013, an Anaheim PD officer visited the home on a welfare check “and found the two victims with dirt crusted on their feet, matted hair, damaged teeth beyond repair, and malnourished.”

      The little girls were apparently locked in the unsanitary mobile home 24-7 and prevented from going outside or even attending school during the May 2010 to May 2013 time frame.

      The Orange County DA’s press release indicates that “Lester Louis Huffmire and his wife Petra Huffmire, both 41 from Anaheim, pleaded guilty… to two felony counts of child abuse, two misdemeanor counts of false imprisonment, one misdemeanor count of contributing to delinquency of a minor, and sentencing enhancements for great bodily injury…

      The couple apparently prioritized video games over hygiene. “Between May 21, 2010, and May 20, 2013, the defendants kept the mobile park home unsanitary and uninhabitable, including kitchen appliances covered in mold and cobwebs, stacks of trash, debris, mold, and feces throughout the home, a pile of used condoms under a stuffed teddy bear, and inoperable toilets.”

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    (Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

    Father Charged with Death of Two Daughters, Home Also Covered in Crap (Literally)

    Father Charged with Death of Two Daughters, Home Also Covered in Crap (Literally)

    LOL, Sure, parenthood and marriage makes people more godly and mature! Sure it does!

    I show more care and concern for my elderly pet cat than this doofwad did for his two daughters.

    (Link): Father charged after dresser deaths of toddlers

      July 2014

      ALIQUIPPA, Pa. (AP) — The father of two toddlers who died after a dresser fell on them was charged with involuntary manslaughter because he heard a crash coming from another room and didn’t immediately check to see if his daughters were OK, a prosecutor said Thursday.

      David Beatty, 28, of Aliquippa, was charged with two counts, one for 2-year-old Brooklyn’s death and one for 3-year-old Ryeley’s. Brooklyn died shortly after the dresser fell on her on July 4, while Ryeley died two days later in a Pittsburgh hospital.

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    Article: Wife who’s aborted two babies – because she’s too selfish to share her husband

    Article: Wife who’s aborted two babies – because she’s too selfish to share her husband

    Evangelical and conservative Christian propaganda: motherhood instantly transforms women into self-less, giving, loving, godly SAINTS who can do not wrong. Another example of how this is not so (below).

    There are photos of them (the married couple discussed in the article) both on the page. They are both very physically unattractive people. I sometimes wonder how people who resemble trolls manage to get partners – in this case, they’re both about equal on the unattractive scale, so I guess that might explain things.

    As for myself: I was open to the idea of having kids, had I married by the time I was 35, but I do find other people’s kids annoying.

    I don’t think women who knew from a young age that they never wanted to have children are selfish or horrible.

    However, in regards to this particular story – and as I am pro-life – this woman in some aspects does sound very selfish to me. It’s all about her and her husband.

    Apparently being a biological mother (she was pregnant twice) and being married did not, contrary to common evangelical, Baptist, Reformed, and fundamentalist clap trap, did not make her more giving, loving, or godly.

    (Link): Wife who’s aborted two babies – because she’s too selfish to share her husband

      The wife who’s aborted two babies – because she’s too selfish to share her husband: It’s a shocking confession. But Rowena is utterly unrepentant – and even insists more women should follow her example

      By ROWENA SHRIMPTON
      PUBLISHED: 16:48 EST, 23 July 2014 | UPDATED: 01:50 EST, 24 July 2014

      -Rowena met Roger when she was a teen and knew he was the man for her
      -They married when they were 21
      -Both agreed they never wanted to have children
      -So when she fell pregnant on two occasions, she had abortions
      -She says she would hate to share her husband’s affection
      -She also believes remaining childless is why their marriage has lasted
      -Believes mothers often have failed marriages as they put children first

      …For the second time in my life I was faced with the question of what I wanted more: a baby or my husband’s undivided love. And again, the decision was simple. Ever since I met Roger, I’d known I didn’t want to share him with anyone else, not even our child.

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